Mistakes Were Made – Details, episodes & analysis

Sarah & Alex talk with Dr. Nicole, host of the Modern Anarchy podcast about jealousy, religious trauma and the first EVER study on relationship anarchy. 

Oh, and the parallels between psychedelics and New Relationship Energy (NRE).

Mentioned in the episode: 

Upstream Podcast | Layla Martin | Talk: "Everything you Know About Addiction is Wrong" | New Relationship Energy [NRE] | Seek the Risk | Suicide rates by gender | People chasing ICE with their cars in Chicago 

Follow Dr. Nicole:

Modern Anarchy with Dr. Nicole

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It's an extra special live episode of Mistakes Were Made! Sarah and Alex are joined by Jessa Davis, Elizabeth Cunningham, and return guest Ramsey for a conversation all about relationship equality, representation, and how to talk to your family about polyamory. Tyson (remember him from episode 33: Solo Poly Showdown??) is our emcee.

Mentioned in the episode: 

SCFRE | https://www.open-love.org/ 

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How does death, loss and grief impact our relationships? After a year filled with loss, Sarah and Alex talk to a trauma-informed spiritual care provider about the taboos around death, and what happens to our desire when people around us die. 

Mentioned in the episode:

Close to the Knives: A Memoir of Disintegration by David Wojnarowicz | Without: Poems by Donald Hall | Wayward Lives, Beautiful Experiments: Intimate Histories of Riotous Black Girls, Troublesome Women, and Queer Radicals by Saidiya Hartman

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Is it you? Is it me? Are you moving to Antarctica?? In this episode we talk about how and how not to end a relationship.

Mentioned in the episode:

@karamintheworld on Instagram

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Are the same dynamics screwing up our relationships also hampering our social movements? Sarah and Alex talk to activist and law professor Dean Spade about the romance myth, capitalism and love in this f*cked up world.

Mentioned in the episode:

Love in a F*cked Up World | DeanSpade.net | The Death Panel | Movement Memos

Also by Dean Spade:

Mutual Aid | Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics, and the Limits of Law

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Encore episode

Romance: what does it mean?? Sarah, Alex and Jess talk about their favorite romantic movies on the hottest day of the year. And finally answer the question: what IS romance? Or, do they just come up with 5,000 new questions? Listen to the end to find out! This episode first aired in August 2024.

Mentioned in the episode:

Say Anything (Cameron Crowe, 1989) | The Graduate (Mike Nichols, 1967) | Wayne's World (Penelope Spheeris, 1992) | John Mahoney | Limerence on Wikipedia | In Your Eyes

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Last episode we started to talk about race in dating, and tbh…mistakes were made. So this episode we're doubling down! Ramsey shares his experience dating as a Black polyamorous man in Seattle, offers advice for white people dating other races, and asks us "taboo" questions about our own experiences.  

Mentioned in the episode:

• Pacific Northwest BIPOC Polyamory group

• TV Shows & Movies Recommended by Ramsey:

• Atlanta

• Insecure

• A Million Little Things

• Moonlight

• I Am MLK Jr.

• The Boondocks

• Kindred

• This is Us Season 1

• Match's 2023 Singles in America Study

• Facebook - Free Emotional Labor Club

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We had such an interesting side conversation with Reagan about her experience working with a dating coach that we had to make a bonus episode all about it.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Still True

• Reagan Jackson

• Anwar White, Dating and Relationship Coach

• Get Your Guy Podcast with Anwar White

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Sarah and Alex's skeptical monogamous friend Reagan Jackson is back to grill them about sex, jealousy, and whether they're just dating other versions of each other over and over.

Mentioned in the episode:

• Still True

• Reagan Jackson

• Sarah's interview in Psychology Today: Societal Implications of Consensual Non-Monogamy

• The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity and Love. bell hooks

• Queer and Questioning Men of Seattle Meetup Group

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Lissa joins the podcast to help us parse out the difference between polyamory and swinging. And Alex opens up about his not-so-hot sex party experience.

Mentioned in the episode:

• https://seattle-inclusive-matchmaking.square.site/  

• Reach out to Lissa: weekdaypineapple@gmail.com 

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