Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One – Details, episodes & analysis

#172 A recent cultural projection suggests that by 2030, nearly half of women, ages 25-44, in the U.S. could be single and without children. For women who hope to marry someday, that's discouraging news.

But cultural projections don't determine your future--God does.

In this final episode of Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, Kim and her husband Sean discuss four practical steps single women can take to live faithfully, pursue God wholeheartedly, and move forward with hope regardless of what the projections say.

Resources mentioned:

Episodes #54, #120, #146, & #164

"Something's Missing" by John Mayer

Alpha Program: https://alphausa.org/

The Bible Recap: https://www.thebiblerecap.com/

A Praying Life by Paul Miller

Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book

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Email: kim@kimvollendorf.com

#171 In this powerful and honest conversation, Kim’s dear friend Niki shares the story behind those words. Raised in a culture that promised women they could “have it all,” Niki pursued success, independence, and a career-first life—believing everything else would fall into place later.

But life didn’t unfold the way she expected.

With vulnerability and wisdom, Niki reflects on what she wishes she had known, how her faith drifted in her early years, and the moment everything began to change. Her story is both a gentle warning and a beautiful reminder: it’s never too late for God to redeem, restore, and lead us into something better.

This episode is for every woman who wants to follow God—but feels the tension of all the voices telling her what her life should look like.

Related Episodes:

• #53 Jena on Contentment
• #71 Why Waiting Was Worth It
• #118 Discipleship and the Single Girl
• #167 Your Single Season is Doing More Than You Realize
• #170 When Singleness Feels Unsteady: The Anchor You Need

The full video episode is available on Spotify--enjoy!

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

Thanks for listening!

#162 One of the most powerful choices you can make while you’re single is to invest in who you’re becoming. There are some things you can't change about yourself—but with God’s help, you can grow your character. And here’s the truth: you can fake character on a date, but you can’t fake it in marriage.

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, we’re bringing back a favorite episode all about cultivating gratitude—a habit that shapes your heart, your relationships, and your future marriage. The entire podcast crew (including Leah!) is here to share real-life stories, practical tips, and biblical insights on how to grow a genuinely thankful heart.

If you’ve been feeling spiritually stagnant, easily frustrated, or just craving a reset heading into the holidays, this episode will help you shift your mindset and your mood.

Listen in and start becoming the woman your future husband will thank God for.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Char's Roommate's Gratitude Journal
• Revive Our Hearts website
• 30-day Gratitude Challenge
• Choosing Gratitude by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth

For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠.

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For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠

Thanks for listening!

#93: Welcome back to Part 2 of Kim's discussion with her husband, Sean, about men and Biblical leadership. They had so much to talk about that their initial recording went pretty long. Instead of editing parts out, we decided to divide it into two episodes.

Last week, Kim and Sean talked about what the Bible means when it says that the husband is to lead a family, and they started talking about what that looks like practically. If you haven't heard Part 1 yet, go back and give a listen to Episode #92.

This week we are discussing questions like, "How can a single girl tell if a guy will be a good leader or not?" and "Is there anything a young woman can do to help a guy in her life step up and lead well?"

The episode is the finale for Season 5. Thanks so much for joining us. We're taking our break for the summer, and we'll see you again in August for Season 6!

#92: One of the most common complaints we hear from young women is, “Why don’t guys take more initiative in relationships?” 

In fact, the most listened-to episode on our podcast, hands-down, is our first episode, “Where Are All of the Good Guys?” 

Whether it is simply asking a girl out or providing communication and clarity in a relationship, many guys won’t step up and take the lead. Why is that?

In today’s episode, we’re talking about men and Biblical leadership. Kim and her husband have an honest conversation about what it is like for a husband to lead in his marriage and family. You don't want to miss this rare opportunity to get a peek inside the heart and mind of a godly man.

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#91: Are you someone who likes change?

It seems like people fall into one of two camps. They either love it and seek it out, or they hate it and avoid it.

I think we’d all agree that change is inevitable. Sometimes we’re the one that initiates the change, and other times we are the recipient of the change happening around us.

In today’s episode, we’re talking with Bonnie about dealing with change, and she's giving us some practical tips on how to deal with change well. 

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#90: Are you struggling with a desire to be in a relationship?

It’s difficult to know how to process all the emotions and feelings surrounding our unmet desires and longings. It’s hard to know where God is when you are right in the middle of them.

You are not alone. We know. We’ve been there. We get you. 

Sam is the perfect guest for this episode, and she is going to walk us through how to deal with our unmet longings and desires.

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#89: Last week, we had a spicy episode on submission! And one of the biggest questions we’ve received is, “What does submission in marriage as a strong woman look like?”

“What if I’m not quiet and I have strong opinions?”

“What if the guy I marry is more laid-back than I am?”

To our strong female personalities out there, we hear you! And we hope to answer your question in this episode. This week, we’re talking with Rob and Bekah. Bekah has a "Commander" personality, and Rob is more laid-back. How has that worked for them in their ten years of marriage? Listen in and find out.

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#88: Does God want husbands to boss their wives around to make sandwiches for them?

Is that what submission means?

Why does God care about submission in marriage?

What does submission look like?

How do women submit to their husbands in marriage?

If submission is so important in marriage, are we supposed to be submissive while single?

What if a wife has a stronger personality than the man she marries? How does submission work then?

What if a wife disagrees with a decision her husband makes, or what if he isn't making a decision when she thinks he needs to?

If you have ever asked any of these questions, we hope you'll listen in to our discussion. We won't be able to cover everything in one episode, but Kim presents a helpful framework that lays the groundwork for what submission is and isn't.

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#87: Are you thriving in your singleness? Or just surviving? Maybe it depends on the day. Well, we are passionate about helping you thrive in your single years, so we brought on our friend Sam! She is living a purposeful and fun life as a single woman, and we think she’ll inspire you. Join us as Sam shares the lessons she’s learned and her biggest tips for surviving and thriving in your single years!  

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