I wanted to share an update on my break-up recovery process, as I know many of you have found comfort in hearing about my experience, understanding you're not alone and finding ways to navigate the challenges through a secure approach.

In this episode I share:

-How I've been feeling after 8 months post break-up.

-How I've been navigating the 5 stages of grief and it's natural highs and lows.

-Entering the dating app world!

-Opening myself up to new experiences (and people).

-Navigating my fearful avoidant and anxious attachment tendencies as they surface while dating.

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⁠My Secure Self Group Coaching (3 month)⁠

⁠1-1 Attachment Coaching (10 weeks)⁠

Learn why you may attach quickly and intensely to people in the early stages of dating, as well as how to take more of a detached approach to lessen the anxiety and stress you experience when others aren't consistent or pull away.

MY SECURE SELF GROUP COACHING PROGRAM (3 MONTHS)

1:1 ATTACHMENT COACHING (10 WEEKS)

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Many of you know I was in a relationship for over six years. Though it was a beautiful relationship and healthy in many ways, some major core differences and incompatibilities made it challenging. In this episode, I share the struggle with navigating fear versus truth in our decisions and the importance of trusting yourself. ——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

In this episode, Lisa shares her long journey with Anxiety and Panic Disorder (since age 6), emphasizing that knowledge was really the key factor in her healing process. In our talk, we explore the nature to her anxiety and different methods she uses to thrive amongst it. Now, Lisa shares her story openly on different platforms, allowing others to find peace and empowerment within their own stuggles with anxiety...Such a powerful talk! You don't wanna miss. Lisa Poe info: www.adventuresandanxiety.com Instagram: @adventuresandanxiety To learn more about "Empowered Living” 8 week private coaching program, visit: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/

In Episode #6, I am personally sharing with you my experience of committing to a new relationship after a long cycle of toxic relationships. I also share with you tools and techniques that I used on myself and that I use with coaching clients to overcome unresolved emotions keeping us stuck in unhealthy patterns and to maintain peace & harmony in our current relationships. They're amazing and so effective! If you're interested in coaching with me one-on-one to overcome your own patterns of toxic relationships and finally experience healthy love, visit: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/

In this episode, meditation teacher and founder of @innerrebel.co shares her experience of the shame around unexpected pregnancy, the judgments she overcame from the traditional ideals that so many of us hold about what starting a family "should look like", and finding empowerment & fulfillment from fully embracing motherhood. Truly a rebel at heart, Lauren sought out to create her own meaning and a life she wanted, despite opposing views. And now, she is sharing her story publicly for the first time on my podcast (which is so awesome 👏🏽) and has been on a mission to help people think more deeply about their life so they can find their own personal freedom. Lauren Lee Info: Instagram: innerrebel.co App: Insight Timer (meditations) Resources Lauren suggests for parents: The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children https://g.co/kgs/iPfjJu Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide https://g.co/kgs/96qS6f https://www.handinhandparenting.org https://insig.ht/9zKtdzMT8Z

In Episode #5, Mental Health Therapist (and former colleague) Alia Elasmar shares her struggles with work/life balance, the implications of working in a toxic environment, the physical & emotional ramifications it had on her life and what she did/learned through the process in order to experience more fulfillment in her career and in her personal life.

In Episode #4, Writer and Mindset Coach, Melina Charis, shares her journey with overcoming perfectionism and how she managed her crippling anxiety. Melina goes in depth with her struggle with the inner critic, imposter syndrome, creating healthy boundaries with social media, finding her passion through trying new things, as well as using creativity and mindfulness as a catalyst to her growth and well-being. Melina’s info: www.melinacharis.com Instagram: @melinacharis

In Episode #3, Mental Health Therapist (and fellow colleague) Gabrielle Rose Gonzalez discusses her grieving process from recently broken friendships and how she turned her pain into peace and power through creative expressions. Gabrielle Instagram: @sugarforthepsyche ------ For more info on my digital Masterclass "From Pain To Peace, Power & Purpose" visit https://mailchi.mp/ab98d2338130/masterclass

In this week's episode, Life + Mindset Coach Julie Nelson shares her life long journey of battling anxiety & depression, as well as how she overcame the stigma of her experience with postpartum depression, sharing the tools she gained to create peace within these challenges, power in her breakdowns, and purpose as she now serves to empower other mom's to create more fulfillment and joy in their daily lives. Julie's website: www.julienelsoncoaching.com Julie's Instagram: @julienelsoncoaching ---------------------------- Want to join or learn more about Jessica's "From Pain to Peace, Power & Purpose" Digital Group Coaching Program? Visit this link --> https://mailchi.mp/1b05b45cd383/program

In this episode I chat with Jim about his spiritual and healing journey which has changed his life forever. What some may call a mental disorder, Jim & many others believe to be a spiritual awakening.

Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. We talk about: -How jealousy can manifest in your relationships. -How to change your relationship to jealousy. -Viewing jealousy as a symptom and solution to your underlying attachment wounds. -Steps to navigate jealousy in a healthy, secure way. ——— Find Shanenn: Website- www.topself.com Instagram- @topselfcoach ——— Find Jessica: Website- www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram- @thejessicadasilva

Today on the podcast, we have Rowan Garlow, a trauma recovery practitioner who utilizes Voice Dialogue, Somatic Experiencing, Inner Child, and Soul Retrieval for healing and integrating unresolved trauma. We talk about: -What is trauma recovery work? -What attachment trauma looks like specifically. -How trauma manifests in our behaviors. -Why your “over-reactions” are gateways to your healing. -How to heal attachment trauma. ——— Find Rowan: Website- www.rowangarlow.com Instagram- @rowangarlow ——— Find Jessica: Website- www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram- @thejessicadasilva

In this episode, I talk about why each attachment style tolerates difficult or painful relationships, why we aren’t stuck to these ways of experiencing love, and tips on how to move beyond our limitations. —— Find me here: 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram - @thejessicadasilva

Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.” We talk about: -The breakdown of each relationship style (aka attachment style). -Strengths and challenges of each attachment style. -How knowing the relationship styles help us in dating and relationships. -If incompatible attachment style dynamics can work out for the long haul. -Tips to make incompatible attachment styles within relationships work. (Ex, anxious and avoidant) -How to shift from insecure to secure attachment from a realistic standpoint. Find Anita: www.dranitakunhley.com Instagram: @the.empathetic.counselor ——— Find Jessica: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

Imani Tutt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Intuitive Coach talks about relationship compromise, why it’s normal, and healthy versus unhealthy compromising. ——- Find Imani here: https://imaniintouch.com Instagram: @imani.intouch ——- Find Jessica here: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder, a Seattle-based licensed clinical psychologist, shares her expertise on relationship anxiety and OCD, their major differences, how they manifest in our lives, and how to treat it to experience a fulfilling life. You can find Dr. Holly here: instagram: holly.phd webiste: www.hollyphd.com podcast: twinmindsunwind ——— You can learn more about attachment coaching and e-courses here: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

In this week's podcast episode, I address the fear many of us hold about why we attract toxic people and the real (transformative) questions we need to be asking ourselves instead. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

PODCAST In this week's podcast episode, I share how having alcoholic parents (one or both) can influence the development of anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment style, as well as steps you can take to shift these patterns and learned identity. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

Today on the podcast, we have Jason Berry. He is a podcaster, entrepreneur, and amateur Hyrax athlete. A few months ago, I was a guest speaker on his podcast @awakenoutofcontext, where we discussed attachment styles. I loved his vulnerability and personal insights so much that I invited him onto my podcast to talk more about his experience with having an anxious attachment style. In this episode, he shares: -A male's perspective on having an anxious attachment style. -Dating as an anxious attacher. -The anxious attachments' natural inclination and attraction to people with an avoidant attachment style. -His experience with shifting from anxious to avoidant attachment after heartbreak. -How alcohol exacerbated his insecurities as an anxious attachment style. -How he better navigates his insecurities as someone who aims to be more secure. Find Jason here: linktr.ee/awakenoutofjason Instagram: @awakenoutofjason Attachment Coaching with Jessica: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work. ————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2 My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on how to navigate these complexities with more clarity.

Today on the podcast we have a special guest. Alicia is a former attachment coaching client of mine sharing her experience with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing herself and her needs, healing from heartache and abandonment trauma, and understanding how her attachment style impacts so many significant areas of her life. ——————— $300 OFF Coupon Code: FLASHSALE https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course ——————— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Dismantle misconceptions about developing a secure attachment style and learn how to measure your progress accurately. ——— Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Learn about how each attachment style moves through the 5 relationship stages. This episode focuses highly on the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant). ——— Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Today on the podcast, we have Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and a dating and relationship coach. She helps women who struggle with anxiety attract & HOLD ONTO a healthy relationship. She is also passionate about debunking the myths many of us have been taught about what a healthy relationship looks like. In this episode, we dive deep into relationship anxiety, the realities of dating, and how to better differentiate what is our insecurity versus what is our truth. Kelsey Wonderlin: https://coaching.kelseywonderlin.com/ —— Jessica Da Silva: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Today we have a special guest, Alexa. She is a mother, a humanitarian, a leader, a former client of mine, and just a beautiful soul who was willing to come onto the podcast and share her story of navigating love with an anxious attachment style, how understanding attachment theory brought so much clarity to her marriage, the challenges that come with anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics, her grieving process with the recent separation of her marriage and the lessons she has learned through all of it. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

In this episode, I share what research says about whether we can actually change our attachment style. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

In this episode, I share some hard truths about how insecure attachments (anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant variations) experience relationships in hopes of cultivating more self-acceptance and realistic expectations for themselves and others. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

In this episode, I share my experience with relationship anxiety in hopes of normalizing the ebbs and flows that naturally occur in relationships, especially those with insecure attachments. ——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

If you have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style, it’s most likely you are self-conscious and therefore take things personally. This can be problematic as we can distort the reality of a situation and therefore engage in self-sabotaging behaviors. In this episode, I share how each insecure attachment style takes things personally, the implications, and how to stop. ——— My Secure Self Group Coaching Program: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-case-study

In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond. These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/

In this episode, I share how understanding attachment styles can help your relationships in a multitude of ways. This includes relationships with partner, friends, family, and colleagues. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/

In this episode, I share some major differences between coaching and therapy, in order to help you identify which approach is best for you. I also share why I transitioned from working as a Mental Health Therapist to an Attachment Coach. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/

What you'll learn… * The challenges of co-parenting and how to navigate it in a secure way * The importance of setting boundaries to reclaim your power * How to identify red flags in a relationship * Overcoming toxic relationships * Dating as a single mom ——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

What you'll learn… * Defining relationship self-sabotage. * How each attachment style (including secure attachments) may sabotage dating and relationships. * Why they behave in these unhealthy ways. * How to stop pushing those you love away. ——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

What you’ll learn in this episode: -Why we have difficulty communicating our needs. -The consequences of not communicating our needs directly. -How each attachment style communicates their needs. -Healthier ways of communicating your needs to create relationship satisfaction. ———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

What you’ll learn in this episode: -How each attachment style parents their children. -How to form secure bonds with your children. -Why you shouldn’t feel bad about your parenting style. -Why it’s important to break these generational patterns. ———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

In this episode, former client, Bouket, shares her experience navigating her fearful avoidant attachment style. We touch on relationship anxiety, intuition vs. fear, finding secure love, managing triggers, balancing the masculine/feminine, and so much more. ———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

In this episode, I share how common it is for our relationship needs to change, how that impacts our life, how to identify what those needs are, and how to navigate those insecurities in a healthy way. 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course

Why did I move away from my fiancé after getting engaged? In this episode, I share my personal experience with saving my relationship through saving myself. Also, how to know the difference between self-sacrifice versus self-neglect. ______ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course —— 10% discount code: MEETMYNEEDS

In this weeks podcast episode I talk about how anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure attachments experience single-hood and ways to navigate these often challenging phases with more ease. —— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

Today's guest is Chris Rackliffe. Chris is an author and Anxious Attachment Coach who shares his personal story, wisdom, and tips to guiding anxious attachers into more joy and fulfillment. Book: It’s Good To See Me Again Tiktok: @crackliffe Instagram: @crackliffe ------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

My Secure Self E-Course https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

In this episode, I talk about how the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant) cope with relationship anxiety. ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

In this episode, I talk about how (and why) anxious and fearful avoidant attachments identify as “caretaker”, “savior” and/or “fixer” in their relationships and how to shift these roles in order to promote more balanced relationships. ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com

In this episode, Relationship Anxiety Coach and founder of Anxious Love Coach, Natalie Kennedy, shares her personal experience with relationship anxiety, her process for managing this anxiety, the multidimensionality of attachment styles, as well as how she uses feminine and masculine polarity to create balanced relationships. ______________ Natalie Kennedy: Instagram @anxiouslovecoach Website: www.anxiouslovecoach.com ---------------- My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com