Explore every episode of the podcast It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People
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| Toxic Tidbit Time | 30 Aug 2024 | 00:08:23 | |
A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself. But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges. One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense. It is my hope to help you connect all of these pieces so the bigger picture of what you are actually dealing with in your relationships begins to emerge. Toxic tidbits are an addition to my well known podcast Its not normal, it’s toxic. Toxic tidbits may be my thoughts Questions from clients or listeners. Quotes that I find helpful Any little thing that crosses my path that I believe may be helpful for you on your path. For additional information on how Dr Heidi supports in freeing yourself from the toxic relationships in your life, go to : https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ You will find all the services she provides to help you move forward no matter where you are right now. | |||
| Toxic Tidbit Time | 25 Aug 2024 | 00:05:42 | |
A single puzzle piece does not make any sense if it is all by itself. But when you put that puzzle piece with other pieces things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense it is not until you have all the pieces connected that the bigger picture finally emerges. One behavior by a toxic person may not make sense to you, but when you put that behavior with others, things begin to fit together and start making a little more sense. It is my hope to help you connect all of these pieces so the bigger picture of what you are actually dealing with in your relationships begins to emerge. Toxic tidbits are an addition to my well known podcast Its not normal, it’s toxic. Toxic tidbits may be my thoughts Questions from clients or listeners. Quotes that I find helpful Any little thing that crosses my path that I believe may be helpful for you on your path. For additional information on how Dr Heidi supports in freeing yourself from the toxic relationships in your life, go to: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ You will find all the services she provides to help you move forward no matter where you are right now. | |||
| #229 -10 Reasons Toxic Relationships Are So Confusing | 11 Jun 2024 | 00:13:57 | |
Why are these relationships so confusing? Why is it so hard to make a decision? Why do I find myself questioning if I have tried hard enough? Do you find that you are asking yourself these same questions? Well, in truth there are a number of reasons as to why these relationships are so confusing, why we leave and go back, and why we question our decisions. In this episode I cover 10 reason why toxic relationships are so confusing. Take a listen and see if you can relate to the same thing within your relationship. Dr Heidi is dedicated to helping you understand the situation you are in so that some of the confusion can be cleared. To find out more about the services offered follow this link: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page Or go to https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ and take the Toxicity Profile Analysis (TPA) and see if your relationship may indeed be unhealthy for you. | |||
| #142: The Ups and Downs of Healing with Laura Bligh LMHC | 21 Sep 2021 | 00:37:49 | |
Being in the mental health profession as well as experiencing toxic relationships in her life, Laura talks about the constant steady push to healing. The emotional roller coaster of healing makes many feel defeated. Laura talks about her own journey of healing and how it has transformed both herself and her work. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #141: Spiritual Ties or Spiritual Lies? | 02 Sep 2021 | 00:41:22 | |
Get a different perspective on the religious and spiritual ties that may be keeping you in a relationship that is not healthy for you. Today's Guest Jerry Wicker, a certified lay minister, understands the importance of keeping the scripture in context when the toxic cycle and abuse is an issue within a relationship. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #140: Amanda- Her Personal Journey | 17 Aug 2021 | 00:40:22 | |
Listen as she tells us how both addiction and trauma bond played into her personal journey when she found herself in a toxic relationship. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #139: Time for a Break! | 10 Aug 2021 | 00:25:24 | |
After years of not allowing myself to take breaks, I have learned that I am much better for everyone, when I do. You will be too! 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #138: Chaos Creators | 21 Jul 2021 | 00:28:14 | |
Toxic people are addicted to chaos and drama, Why? When they stir up chaos the attention of others goes to them. When they can demand your attention, time, and energy for their chaotic situation you have no attention, time or energy to put into yourself. They feel power and control when those around them have chaos in their lives. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #137: Mid Year Recap of one of my most popular episodes! | 13 Jul 2021 | 00:35:56 | |
This episode has made a huge impact on many of my listeners! Hope you enjoy! 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #136: Hear from those who have found "Strength Within" | 25 Jun 2021 | 01:37:58 | |
Hearing from others who are going through the same thing can be an inspiration to us. Knowing we are not alone in this journey is essential in getting the support and encouragement you need as you travel this journey. Listen to others who are going through similar situations and how they have found their Strength Within. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #135: The Slow Drip of Isolation | 16 Jun 2021 | 00:29:53 | |
Isolation is something we don't always notice until it is too late. Toxic people intentionally isolate you from the people and things that support you the most and bring you fulfillment. Listen to find out why this is so detrimental to our wellbeing and we don't even realize it is happening. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #134: Meet Matthew Phifer | 03 Jun 2021 | 00:44:01 | |
Today I want to introduce you to Matthew Phifer, another toxic relationship specialist who has reached many through his social media talent. His experience and passion guides his dedication to those who struggle with abuse of many kinds. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #133: Stocked- a story of healing with Kate Lacroix | 25 May 2021 | 00:44:20 | |
Kate Lacroix lives in Boulder, Colorado with her two hilarious daughters runs STOCKED, a pantry-building service that teaches women how to save money on their grocery bill and invest the savings. As a proud dual Canadian-American, she is happy to be working on food and finance solvency issues and her work has taken her everywhere from the Rachael Ray Show to the halls of congress. You can reach her at kontently@gmail.com or @sheisstocked on instagram. Dr. Heidi listeners may sign up for the free or paid subscriber version of her newsletter here. https://stocked.substack.com/ 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #228 Have you Unplugged your Defense System? | 05 Jun 2024 | 00:26:23 | |
Always follow your intuition they say. Ok, what if we don't know how to recognize our intuition amongst the convoluted words of others. Your body has a built in defense system but overtime it seems to stop working for our good. What are some signs that you could be receiving from you defense system headquarters? Well, you may feel tense, have circular thoughts, a pit in your stomach, or the sense you should avoid something, some place, or some person All of these signs (different for different people) may indeed be your bodies natural defense system attempting to keep you safe. It would be easier to see if it came with a flashing light or an electric shock and then an arrow pointing to the right choice, but it doesn't. Your intuition always comes in neutral, and does not tell you what to do. WELL UNFORTUNATELY NEITHER THE FLASHING LIGHTS NOR THE ELECTRIC SHOCK HAPPENED IN MY SITUATION AND TADA... I MISSED IT. Trusting your intuition is something that is learned. There may be mistakes, wrong decision, and opposite directions before you learn how to follow the safe route it is showing you. Looking for guided support in your healing from unhealthy relationship? The services offered by Dr Heidi can be found in the link below. She has walked through the fire and now helps others do the same. https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page | |||
| #132: The Treadmill of Unrealistic Expectations | 18 May 2021 | 00:24:55 | |
We are superheroes! We can get anything done! No matter the ask, we got it! Why? We run ourselves ragged for the unrealistic expectations of the toxic personality without even a question. They say it we do it! That is how it has become. Why again? We respond to their needs to avoid conflict, criticism, disapproval and disappointment. Unrealistic Expectations are a form of emotional abuse when used on a continual level within a relationship. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #131: Guilt the invisible power source. | 02 May 2021 | 00:28:29 | |
Guilt is an emotion, guilt can NOT make you do or not do anything, yet guilt seems to have a power that we can’t control. You are actually in control of your own emotion of guilty. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #130: Self Sabotage? Or is it something else? | 20 Apr 2021 | 00:18:46 | |
Many struggle with the reality of self sabotage after leaving or within an unhealthy relationship. Is it really “self” sabotage or is it possibly “induced” sabotage? 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #129: What are you waiting for? | 07 Apr 2021 | 00:35:41 | |
Stuck in a toxic relationship? Ask yourself why? What is keeping you from making changes? Where do you start? Those and many others answered here! I’m here for you-Dr Heidi 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #128: Why Do I Feel So Lonely? | 30 Mar 2021 | 00:20:15 | |
How is it that we can feel so lonely when we are not alone? Toxic Relationships do not provide the things that bring us support, joy, and companionship and at the same time isolate us from the people and things that do. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #127: All they need is contact! | 17 Mar 2021 | 00:24:49 | |
We talk about NO Contact, but why is it so hard.... because all the toxic person needs is contact in order to remain feeling in control. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #126: Dealing with the Shame | 10 Mar 2021 | 00:34:49 | |
We have all felt it, the shame that goes with the toxic relationship experience. How to deal with it and leave it in the past! 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #125: Toxic Relationship Amnesia | 01 Mar 2021 | 00:24:39 | |
What is it that keeps us there? Lots of things, but one of them is because we develop toxic relationship amnesia. Meaning we forget the bad things in order to survive within it! 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #124: Back to back popular episodes! | 25 Feb 2021 | 00:58:42 | |
Why the silent treatment and why is no contact so important? 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #123: A Letter to You-From the Trucker from Down Under! | 29 Jan 2021 | 00:21:32 | |
This man has had quite the journey, he has changed his life by learning how his toxic past has affected him. He wrote this letter for all who are still struggling. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #227 What is my secret to everything?...Having a Plan! | 16 Apr 2024 | 00:30:54 | |
The Priority…Me!!! Retreat Is back, but this time available to any and all without travel or time off work. It Is scheduled Monday, May 13 through Friday, May 17, 2024. By using your PODCAST PATRON DISCOUNT CODE: ILISTEN15 you will receive 15% off when register. (Code excludes the hardship payment option) For more information and registration https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page Guest speakers include 3 of my latest podcast guest.. can you guess who? After years of doing the up and down, back and forth, taking care of myself, giving it up for others, then back to taking care of myself, I have learned and am thankful to tell you that what I discovered was this…. I ACTUALLY HAVE WAY MORE CONTROL THAN I THOUGHT IT DID. When things were not going well, I would look to others to support me through it, to fix it for me, and possibly take the blame for it. However, in the end it has always been a result of me slacking in the area of self care and prioritizing myself. The other thing that I learned the hard way was that is was MY responsibility no one else’s. (That part hurt for a while, I was tired, I didn’t want to carry it anymore…..but when you have no other option than to rely on yourself …. You will figure out a way to do it.) 3 DAYS PUTTING MY ATTENTION BACK ON MYSELF AND wallah! | |||
| #122: Does Co-Parenting Even Exist? | 22 Jan 2021 | 00:41:00 | |
Trying to raise children with a Toxic Former Partner? I don’t have all the answers but I can tell you what to expect and suggest a few things that may help! 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #121: Relationships are Work...UUGG | 14 Jan 2021 | 00:27:23 | |
We are told over and over the “relationships are work” but are you working towards the same goal? Because if you are not you are working in vain. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #120: Forward motion for 2021! | 06 Jan 2021 | 00:34:15 | |
Worried that you are going to spend yet another year in a place that is not healthy for you? Listen now for some tips on how to move forward to a happy healthy you before another year quickly disappears. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #119: 2020 Year End #1 Most Popular Podcast Replay: Emotional Abuse Fatigue | 28 Dec 2020 | 00:35:20 | |
Are you finding that your health is declining? Living in environments with chronic stress will cause the human body to adapt to keep itself going. Learn what the signs and symptoms are so that you can identify if your toxic situation could be affecting your health at a deeper level than you may realize. Dr Heidi has a full adrenal fatigue recovery program available and has walked many back to a healthy balance after living in emotionally unhealthy situations. Listen Now. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #118: 2020 Year End 2nd Most Popular Podcast Replay: Trauma Bonding Explained | 22 Dec 2020 | 00:24:19 | |
Listen now to the 2nd most popular podcast of 2020. Why is it so hard to leave, cut off, or distance ourselves from toxic environments? Why is it that the happy free feeling I thought I would have is not there? 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #117: 2020 Year End 3rd Most Popular Podcast Replay! Why can’t I just walk away? | 17 Dec 2020 | 00:30:52 | |
Why does it seem so hard to walk away from those we know are unhealthy for us. Logically it should be easy.... however it is anything but easy.
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| #116: Replay! Happy Holiday Season Strikes Again | 08 Dec 2020 | 00:31:15 | |
This is a replay of one of the most popular podcast episodes. The Holiday season brings with it some of the hardest days of the year to those involved with or dealing with people who carry toxic personalities. Listen again to prepare yourself for the upcoming weeks. If you know it is coming and know why it is happening it is not as hard to deal with when the erratic holiday behaviors present themselves. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #115: Accepting vs Settling | 01 Dec 2020 | 00:18:24 | |
What is the difference between being accepting in a relationship and settling in a relationship? A bit cloudy but there is definitely a difference. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #114: Why do I keep waiting for just “one more thing”? | 18 Nov 2020 | 00:21:27 | |
Why do we need so much validation that a relationship is not healthy for us? There are many reasons... Listen and see if you can relate. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #113: Stepping back into the dating world with Kimberly Seltzer | 10 Nov 2020 | 00:35:29 | |
Many of you have asked how to start back to dating again after the toxic teardown. Today on the show we have an expert to give us some forward steps you can take to get yourself back out there. Welcome to Kimberly Seltzer, another woman who has turned her past into her passion by helping others move forward with confidence in their dating lives. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #226 When it is Time to Declutter | 13 Apr 2024 | 00:54:20 | |
Professional home organizer Cass Henry tells of her recent experience with decluttering her life by “throwing out” a relationship that was taking up too much space. She is an inspiration to all she encounters. Though just recently free, she is encouraging others to follow her lead and let go of the things that are cluttering up your life. Find Cass at transformedspaces.ca If you are wanting more details on the mentioned Priority…Me!!! Online retreat you can find those details along with all the other services offered by Coaching with Dr Heidi here. https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page
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| #112: Why is it so hard to find Peace? | 06 Nov 2020 | 00:26:05 | |
It should be simple right? Why do we not feel the peace we expect waiting for us after leaving a toxic environment? 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #111: With Friends like These... | 27 Oct 2020 | 00:24:00 | |
Toxic relationships are not only found in intimate settings. Friendships are relationships too and many of them are not what you think they are. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #110: Are they in-laws or out-laws? | 20 Oct 2020 | 00:22:48 | |
Married into the bliss of a toxic family? Every family had different dynamics but maybe just maybe you can get some tips. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #109: Why didn’t I see it coming? | 13 Oct 2020 | 00:25:45 | |
How did I end up here? It seemed to be good in the beginning, or at least seemed like something that had the potential to get better. Now here I am wondering how I got here. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #108: You Asked! | 07 Sep 2020 | 00:45:16 | |
Answers to questions that have been submitted by listeners and support group members. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #107: I Dedicate this episode to...... | 01 Sep 2020 | 00:24:38 | |
To be the person that I needed when I was going through it is my mission. I dedicate this episode to the person in my life who did that for me. I Love You! 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #106: Toxic Identity Theft | 19 Aug 2020 | 00:20:05 | |
Toxic People are identity thieves. The less you are in tune with yourself the easier it is for them to remain in control 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #105: Trauma Bonding Explained | 11 Aug 2020 | 00:24:19 | |
Why is it so hard to move forward once we leave, cut off, or distance ourselves from toxic environments. Why is it that the happy free feeling I thought I would have is not there? 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi and added support? Join the membership Community for added support: We're INNIT Together: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community | |||
| #104: Life beyond Illness and Trauma | 06 Aug 2020 | 00:36:38 | |
Join me and my guest Lesley, Host of the Mighty Talks Podcast, as she talks about her recover from life trauma and a chronic illness. She talks about the strength she gained as she turned her healing into a mission to help others. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #103: Our Trucker from Down Under | 29 Jul 2020 | 00:31:23 | |
Join me and my guest who has not only disconnected from the toxic people in his life but also found the strength and motivation to change his whole perspective on how he lives his life. He is now in the driver’s seat! He is free! 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #225 Spiritual Abuse and the Crooked Little Girl | 02 Apr 2024 | 00:41:41 | |
After spending her first 40 years in the cultish Evangelical world, picking up many layers of cPTSD from family, religion and marriage. Charlotte is rebuilding her new life as a single mom of five kids (who has stopped homeschooling by the way.... tough decision) Single moms usually work, but in 2020 with complications from long covid she developed brain injuries along with some nervous system damage. She lost the entry level jobs she attempted to work and was unable to keep up with her long-time usual pace. This is a glimpse of her journey. Through an unhealthy marriage (arranged by the church) the leaving her evangelical upbringing (with its magical, mystical promises), She has learned God doesn’t pay your loans for you or stop abuse even if you make a covenant with Him. There is work to be done on your own part to break free of false hopes and lies in order to find your true self.
Today Charlotte carries her message through her very own podcast "Crooked Little Girl"
Take a listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crooked-little-girl/id1697643420
Charlotte has been a long time listener of this podcast, It's Not Normal It's Toxic, and has been a member of my online support group for many years.
(https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength
Her mission is to speak on the spiritual abuse she endured and warn others of falsities within religion where the teachings are... well abusive.
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| #102: Emotional Abuse Fatigue | 15 Jul 2020 | 00:33:55 | |
Are you having symptoms of emotional abuse fatigue/adrenal fatigue? Listen now to hear the symptoms that you may be having that are caused by living in the chronic stress of a toxic relationship. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #101: I cut them off!!! NOW WHAT? | 07 Jul 2020 | 00:22:08 | |
This is dedicated to a listener who has had to go no contact with her mother. She is struggling on how to deal with it moving forward as it is still causing her to struggle with her past. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||
| #100: The Words That Come Out of Their Mouths | 23 Jun 2020 | 00:34:30 | |
We are emotional beings, we want to believe what others say. Be aware that toxic people say and do whatever they need, to get what they need, when they need it. 🙋♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: | |||