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Have you ever felt so exhausted by your job that even weekends don’t seem to recharge you? Join us as we unravel the complexities of burnout, a global crisis impacting two-thirds of workers, with insights grounded in both personal experiences and scientific studies. Discover how burnout isn’t just confined to the workplace but can also arise from academic pressures and volunteer roles.
Explore the pivotal role of cortisol, the stress hormone, in this phenomenon. We dig into how cortisol's balance—or lack thereof—affects our physical and mental health. Drawing parallels with athletic training, we introduce the PIES model to categorize the effects of burnout and stress, emphasizing the necessity of early recognition and intervention. You'll hear about our personal anecdotes, offering a relatable perspective on the toll of chronic stress and the critical need for effective management strategies, including mindfulness and exercise.
Arm yourself with actionable strategies to combat burnout, from progressive muscle relaxation techniques to the benefits of spiritual practices. Learn about disconcerting statistics from a 2024 study on US physicians’ vacation habits, underscoring the urgent need for adequate rest. Finally, we present seven practical methods to alleviate burnout and encourage you to commit to at least one of these strategies for a healthier, more balanced life. Prioritize your well-being with these expert tips and personal stories that bring our discussion to life.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Could understanding the role of cortisol be the key to preventing burnout? Join us as we unpack the intricate relationship between this crucial hormone and burnout, guided by the World Health Organization's definition of the condition. We promise you'll gain insights into the three dimensions of burnout: energy depletion, increased mental distance or negativity towards one's job, and reduced professional efficacy. We discuss how burnout extends beyond traditional workplaces, affecting high-demand roles in academia and volunteer positions. Delve into the science of cortisol's role in stress response, metabolism, inflammation, blood sugar regulation, and the sleep-wake cycle, and explore the ongoing debate over whether burnout is linked to high or low cortisol levels.
In this episode, we also share personal stories and reflections about recognizing and addressing burnout. Hear firsthand about the overwhelming challenge of returning to work after a four-month sabbatical. The physical and emotional signs of burnout, such as the intense fatigue from back-to-back meetings and the crushing weight of expectations, are highlighted to emphasize the importance of listening to your body and setting boundaries. Whether you're navigating a high-demand job or managing a packed schedule, these insights and the role of cortisol will equip you with the knowledge to maintain your well-being and professional efficacy. Tune in to understand better the physiological underpinnings of burnout and its implications for your overall health.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Ever wondered how to measure the elusive power of emotional attraction? Struggling to balance the PIES and keep those sweet cravings in check? Join us for an intriguing and empowering Ask Me Anything episode where we spill the tea on everything from dopamine and serotonin to overcoming those pesky ideological differences with your spouse.
Ready to ignite your attraction potential? Join us on an exciting journey where we'll unlock the science of attraction and empower you to create a more fulfilling, vibrant you!
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
In this episode we talk with Dr. Rex Jung about the differences in creativity and intelligence and how you can work your brain to be more creative!
Today's Guest: Dr. Rex Jung Rex Jung is an adjunct professor of psychology at the University of New Mexico, a research scientist at the Mind Research Network, and a practicing clinical neuropsychologist in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He studies both brain disease and what the brain does well—a field of research known as "positive neuroscience."
His research is designed to relate behavioral measures, including intelligence, personality, and creativity, to brain function and structure in healthy, neurological, and psychiatric subjects. He has published research articles across a wide range of disciplines, including traumatic brain injury, lupus, schizophrenia, intelligence, and creativity.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
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Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Today's episode is all about how to live an alcohol free life and all of the benefits that come along with it!
Today's Guest: Karolina Rzadkowolska
Karolina Rzadkowolska is a certified alcohol-free life coach who helps intuitive women ditch alcohol and discover their greater purpose. She’s worked with thousands of clients through her online courses and coaching to change their drinking habit and unleash a new level of health, happiness, and potential to go after their biggest dreams. Her book Euphoric: Ditch Alcohol and Gain a Happier, More Confident You (HarperCollins) came out on bookshelves on January 4th. She’s the host of Euphoric the Podcast, founder of Euphoric AF, and her work has been featured in the Huffington Post, The Sunday Post, Popsugar, Real Simple, Elite Daily and multiple TV shows. Karolina’s passionate about helping you discover what really makes you happy outside of a beverage and designing a life you love. She would love to hear from you at www.euphoricaf.com.
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Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
What do you do when you say yes to God and then He stops speaking? In today's episode, Kimberly talks in depth about what it was like for her and her husband to go through the adoption process.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
What are the 6 components of Wisdom? Why is wisdom important for relationships? We answer all these and more on today's episode of It Starts With Attraction!
Today's Guest: Dilip Jeste, M.D.
Dilip V. Jeste, M.D. is Former Senior Associate Dean for Healthy Aging and Senior Care and Distinguished Professor of Psychiatry and Neurosciences at University of California San Diego. He obtained his medical education in Pune, and psychiatry training in Mumbai, India. In the US, he completed psychiatry residency at Cornell, and Neurology residency at George Washington University. He was a research fellow, and later, Chief of the Units on Movement Disorders and Dementias at the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) before joining UC San Diego where he retired in July 2022.
He started a Geriatric Psychiatry program from scratch at UC San Diego; it became one of the largest Geriatric Psychiatry Divisions in the world. Dr. Jeste has been Principal Investigator on a number of research and training grants. His main areas of research include schizophrenia, neuropsychiatric interventions, and successful aging. He has published 14 books, including his most recent book entitled “Wiser”, over 750+ articles in peer-reviewed journals, and 160+ invited book chapters.
He was listed in “The Best Doctors in America” and in the Institute of Scientific Information list of the “world's most cited authors” comprising fewer than 0.5% percent of all publishing researchers of the previous two decades. Dr. Jeste has received many awards including NIMH’s MERIT Award; Commendation for Dedicated Service from the Veterans Affairs; and awards from Society of Biological Psychiatry; APA; Institute of Living; American College of International Physicians; National Alliance on Mental Illness; National Alliance for Research in Schizophrenia and Affective Disorders; American College of Psychiatrists; International Psychogeriatric Association; Universities of Pennsylvania, Pittsburgh, Cincinnati, and Maryland, and Cornell. He has also received Honorary Fellowship, the highest honor it bestows, from UK’s Royal College of Psychiatrists; and Honorary Professorship from Universidad Peruana Cayetano Heredia, Lima, Peru.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Sleep, spirituality, nutrition, breath-work and movement; These are the five pillars of self-care, but which one is the most important? Find out on today's episode of It Starts With Attraction!
Today's Guest: Dr. Gregory Scott Brown
Dr. Gregory Scott Brown, M.D., is a board-certified psychiatrist, mental health writer, and author. He is an affiliate faculty member at the University of Texas Dell Medical School. He believes we can work together to fight mental health stigma by having open and honest conversations about mental health. Dr. Brown is an advocate for evidence-based integrative care that includes incorporating exercise, mindfulness, meditation, and nutrition with standard of care treatments for mental illness.
Dr. Brown is a diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology. He completed a fellowship in integrative medicine at the Academy of Integrative Health and Medicine, specialty training in general psychiatry at the University of Texas Dell Medical School, and received an M.D. from the McGovern Medical School in Houston. Dr. Brown is an alumnus of Rice University, where he received a bachelor's degree in anthropology, and Johns Hopkins University, where he completed a post-baccalaureate premedical program. Prior to his transition to medicine, Dr. Brown studied music at The Juilliard School in New York.
During his time in residency, Dr. Brown was awarded a SAMHSA Minority Fellowship by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) and he was later appointment to and currently serves on the APA's Council on Communications .
Dr. Brown believes in the therapeutic value of yoga, and he often writes and speaks about its benefits for mental health prevention and treatment. Dr. Brown resides in the Houston area with his wife and their rescue dog, Kai.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, we talk all about how important sexual mindfulness is, how to practice it, and how it can increase intimacy between you and your spouse.
Today's Guest: Dr. Chelom Leavitt Dr. Chelom Eastwood Leavitt grew up in Yakima, Washington with seven sisters and one brother. She attended BYU as an undergraduate in Economics and then went to J. Reuben Clark Law School. One the first day of law school Chelom met David Leavitt and they married after their first year of law school. Chelom practiced family and estate law for years and then returned to get her Master’s degree in Marriage, Family, and Human Development. In 2010 Chelom was invited to be a Fulbright Fellow in Ukraine and teach in Schevshenko University in Kyiv. She also ran a research study in Ukraine on how religious and secular traditions were associated with couple and parent-child relationship well-being.
Chelom Leavitt received her PhD from Penn State. She is an Assistant Professor at Brigham Young University. She studies healthy sexuality in committed relationships and focuses on how mindfulness during sex may be associated with positive outcomes for both men and women. Dr. Leavitt’s work on sexual mindfulness included an intervention to teach couples how to be mindful during sexual experiences. This research taps into how the sexual experience is full of meaning, emotions, as well as physical sensations.
Additionally, Dr. Leavitt’s examines how women experience and contribute to sex differently than men–and that’s great for both women and men! Dr. Leavitt’s recent publications include cross-cultural work on sexual mindfulness, women’s sexual response cycles, and a study examining the role of orgasm in sexual and relational satisfaction for men and women.
Chelom and David Leavitt have been married for 31 years and they have eight children ranging from 29 to 4 years old. Four of their eight children are married and these wonderful couples have brought Chelom and David four granddaughters.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
"You are not powerless against anxiety. And you are not alone."
This is what we talk about in today's episode of It Starts With Attraction with our guest Jon Seidl. For the last decade, Jonathon M. Seidl (Jon) has been telling stories. In fact he’s written over 6,000 of them, first after helping start a top-50 news site, then as the editor-in-chief of the popular non-profit I Am Second, and most recently as the head of a special digital media product for actor Kirk Cameron. He now runs his own digital media consulting and content creation firm called The Veritas Creative. Jon has seen how the power of storytelling can transform people, businesses, and culture, especially after sharing his own story of battling anxiety and OCD. His passion is to help people with mental health struggles, while also sharing what he’s learned telling stories for — and working with — some of media’s biggest names and organizations, including Glenn Beck, Kirk Cameron, and Chip and Joanna Gaines.
His book on anxiety, “Finding Rest,” released on September 28, 2021 and instantly became a #1 Amazon bestseller, toping the charts in several categories like anxieties and phobias, mood disorders, and obsessive compulsive disorder. In fact, it shot up to become the #17 new release on all of Amazon and became a top 100 bestseller on all of Amazon as well.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Being in a waiting season can be difficult. But what if it’s not your turn for breakthrough?
On today’s episode of It Starts With Attraction, Dr. Heather Thompson Day answers that question and explains the importance of knowing that even if your breakthrough doesn’t come soon, YOU are enough.
Dr. Heather Thompson Day is an interdenominational speaker, an ECPA bestseller, and has been a contributor for Religion News Service, Christianity Today, Newsweek and the Barna Group. She is also the host of Viral Jesus, a new podcast with Christianity Today that already has over 100k downloads.
Heather is an Associate Professor of Communication at Andrews University. She is passionate about supporting women, and runs an online community called I’m That Wife which has over 260k followers.
Heather’s writing has been featured on outlets like the Today Show, and the National Communication Association. She has been interviewed by BBC Radio Live and has been featured in an article by Forbes.
She resides in Michigan, with her husband, Seth Day, and their three children, London, Hudson, and Sawyer Day.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degre
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Why is spiritual attraction so important? Because it is the CORE of who we are. In this week's episode, Kimberly answers YOUR questions about all things spiritual attraction, and why working on yourself is so important.
PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and this week is the last week of the four week PIES webinar series.
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Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Eating disorders are more common than you might think, affecting millions of women and men. In this episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes and Jason Marcum dive deep into the different types of eating disorders – anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, and more. They explore the devastating consequences of these conditions and share heartbreaking personal stories that shed light on the struggles faced by those affected.
Discover the warning signs, risk factors, and available treatment options for eating disorders. Learn how social media, societal pressures, and even childhood experiences can contribute to the development of these complex conditions. Kimberly Beam Holmes and Jason Marcum provide valuable insights into how to support loved ones who might be struggling and emphasize the importance of early intervention.
Join us for this important conversation as we break the silence surrounding eating disorders and offer hope for recovery. If you or someone you know needs help, don't hesitate to reach out to the resources listed below. Remember, you are not alone.
Key Points: • Shocking statistics: Discover the alarming prevalence of eating disorders and the devastating impact they have on individuals and families. • Real stories: Hear personal experiences from Kimberly Beam Holmes that highlight the struggles and challenges faced by those with eating disorders. • Warning signs and risk factors: Learn to identify the signs and understand the factors that can contribute to the development of eating disorders. • Treatment and support: Explore available treatment options and resources for those struggling with eating disorders and their loved ones. • Breaking the silence: Join us in raising awareness about eating disorders and offering hope for recovery.
Resources and Options for Help: • National Association of Anorexia Nervosa - 1 (888) 375-7767 • National Eating Disorders Association - 1 (866) 662-1235 • Diabulimia Helpline - 1 (425) 985-3635 • Feast (Families Empowered and Supporting Treatment for Eating Disorders) Remember, It Starts With Attraction is committed to supporting your emotional, intellectual, spiritual, and physical well-being.
Don't miss this powerful episode and share it with anyone who might need it. Together, we can make a difference.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Have you ever heard us use the term "PIES?" PIES stands for physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction, and in this week's episode, Kimberly goes in depth on what physical attraction is all about and even answers some of your questions!
This episode is taken directly from a webinar series on the PIES, and for the next 4 weeks, Kimberly will be breaking down each area of attraction, as well as answering questions.
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Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Do your diets and lifestyle choices almost always fail? Between work, relationships, and parenting, it becomes more difficult to reach your healthy eating goals.
In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, Amanda Nighbert joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to share how to achieve long-term success and increase your physical attraction with the 80/20 approach.
Learn how to ditch the "all or nothing" mindset, maintain consistency, and feel better overall.
Join the LEAN Program and use code "PIES" at checkout for $10 off!
Visit Amanda's website for all the resources mentioned in this episode!
Today's Speaker: Amanda Nighbert, R.D.
Amanda Nighbert is a registered dietitian specializing in weight loss nutrition. Her passion and purpose is to empower others to break the all or nothing mindset and find sustainable change for long term weight loss success. She presented this powerful message on the Ted X stage March of 2021. With 20 years of knowledge and experience under her belt, she provides upper level nutrition education and support to everyone she works with. With her custom LEAN Program, range of coaching services, and multiple shop offerings, she has cultivated a brand that focuses on giving participants the leading tools and resources to help reach the best versions of themselves. Amanda’s goal is to provide the most current, cutting edge nutritional techniques that not only provide results but are also sustainable for life.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
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Episode 117 - Why Dieting Almost Always Fails with Amanda Nighbert
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly Beam Holmes has an authentic conversation with Katie Bulmer about how we do not have to have everything together in order to approach Jesus and ask for him to meet our needs.
Whether you are newly-married, parenting teens, or trying to become the best version of yourself, there are some key insights in this episode you do not want to miss.
Today's Speaker: Katie Bulmer
Katie, her husband and two daughters live in Chattanooga, TN. Katie is the host of the Truth for Your Twenties Podcast with the mission behind everything she does to be who she needed when she was younger. She is an author and keynote speaker to over 60 colleges nationwide, TikTok creator, and a big fan of guacamole.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
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Episode 116 - Dating Culture, Cultivating Community, And Approaching Jesus with Katie Bulmer
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Do you feel like your life is not what you want it to be?
While we can't always change our circumstances, we CAN change the way we think about ourselves and the decisions we make moving forward.
In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, Amber Joy Daniel joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to discuss a four pillar framework to take the first steps to achieving your destiny.
Today's Speaker: Amber Joy Daniel
Amber Joy Daniel is a Destiny Strategist. She is passionate about people seizing their destiny rather than accepting the fate life has handed to them. In 2020, she started on a journey to serve professionals who wanted more but felt stuck. These were achievers with accolades to their names but knew they weren’t living up to their fullest potential. They excelled in one or two areas but struggled in their personal lives, not knowing how to get from where they were to where they knew they were meant to be. Working on internal congruence, my clients flourished. They become entrepreneurs or got promoted with raises. They got healed. They got married. They began to lead in ways they never dared to before. She continues to hone this craft and serve these people. The mission is 1 million Kingdom homes by 2035.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
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Episode 115 - Destiny, Kingdom Assignments, And First Steps with Amber Joy Daniel
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Becoming the best version of ourselves requires opening ourselves up to learn and understand different perspectives.
In today's episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes sits down with Windy Shotlow Hatchell to unpack diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging & how it should impact our day to day lives.
Tune in to gain insight about becoming a better listener, showing others they are valued, and cultivating a growth mindset.
Today's Speaker: Windy Shotlow Hatchell
Windy Shotlow-Hatchell is a personal and executive coach along with her husband who founded Over The Top Coaching. Windy’s coaching focuses on mental transition, overcoming limiting beliefs and on helping individuals break through barriers to achieve more. Through facilitating and training along with her husband she has helped individuals and organizations gain clarity on what’s often right before them. Her coaching allows others to see and achieve what’s on the inside of them. The company also focuses on leadership development through executive coaching; team building workshops and motivational speaking.
This CEFTP graduate has more than 15 years of experience working at Fortune 500 organizations in management and leadership roles. She’s responsible for providing customer white glove treatment to enhance their experience and is the liaison with key client contacts. She creates and designs training curriculum, proposals and marketing of events.
Her captivating personality and authentic style gets rave reviews from clients and workshop participants. Windy enjoys spending time with her husband and 4 children. She runs in the Oakland hills and likes playing tennis and reading inspirational books.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
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Episode 114 - Understanding Different Perspectives with Wind
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
If you're seeking fulfillment and contentment in your life, this episode is for you.
Tune in to learn how to set goals to move you forward towards your calling while enhancing your self-esteem and overall well-being.
Stop letting fear tell you you're not capable. Let motivation set you on the path to follow your purpose.
Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.
Get the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up.
Episode 113: Getting Motivated - Setting Goals and Purpose in Life with Kimberly Beam Holmes
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Do you have trouble connecting with your children? Like every day is a battle you can’t win?
In today’s episode of It Starts With Attraction, Kimberly speaks with Renaye Thornborrow to provide you with the best tips for developing connection and supporting your children through their own struggles.
Learn how to train your mindset and increase your children’s self-esteem, confidence, and happiness.
Today's Speaker: Renaye Thornborrow
Renaye Thornborrow is leading a worldwide movement to bring life coaching, personal development, and mindset skills to children through her certified WISDOM Coaches and parent resources. Renaye is the founder and CEO of Adventures in Wisdom and author of The Adventures in Wisdom Life Coaching Program for Kids Curriculum™ - a powerful curriculum that uses coaching stories and activities to help children develop mindset skills for resilience, self-esteem, confidence, self-leadership, achievement, happiness and so much more. Renaye is a personal development expert, member of the International Coaches Federation, and former 3-year board member for the Association of Coach Training Organizations (ACTO). Renaye is a retired corporate marketing executive and holds a Bachelor of Science from Texas A&M University and an MBA from the University of Texas. She and her husband of 30 years are the proud parents of 20-year-old twins – a son and a daughter.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
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Episode 112 - Powerful Ways To Connect With Your Children with Renaye Thornborrow
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Everywhere you look, you're bombarded by messages that tell you, "If you only have this, then you'll be lovable" to the point where you begin question why you even try.
If you've begun to resent physical attraction, this episode is for you.
Tune in for my tips about ditching the comparison game, shifting your physical attraction motives, increasing your self-esteem, and knowing that you ARE enough.
Today’s Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master’s degree in psychology for over 10 years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching the ways that attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reaches over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best that they can be.
Get the Attraction Assessment by visiting PIESUniversity.com, scroll down and wait for the pop-up.
Episode 111: The Spiritual Side Of Physical Attraction with Kimberly Beam Holmes
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
A huge part of becoming the most attractive you can be has to do with how you show up in your relationships.
When life's obstacles get in the way, it gets challenging to be your best self.
In this episode, Casey O'Roarty shares her tips for how to show up and be present for those who mean the most to you.
If you're ready to learn how to be joyfully courageous through whatever you're facing, tune into today's episode.
Today's Speaker: Casey O'Roarty
Casey O’Roarty, Med, is a facilitator of personal growth and development. Her work encourages parents to discover the purpose of their journey, while also providing them with tools and a shift of mindset that allows them to deepen their relationships with themselves and their families. As a Positive Discipline Trainer since 2007 and certified coach, Casey has led countless groups through workshops and classes that have left them feeling empowered and excited about parenting. She also offers an engaging podcast, Joyful Courage - which has been downloaded over a million times - live and online classes, and individual coaching at www.besproutable.com/teens. Her first book, Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of YOUR Parenting Journey launched on May 20th, 2019. Casey lives in the Pacific Northwest with her greatest teachers – her husband, and two teenage kids.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
Episode 110 - How to Live Joyfully Courageous with Casey O'Roarty
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Is your marriage stuck in neutral? Have happy times turned into boring exchanges? Feeling like roommates instead of lovers? You're not alone! Many couples fall into a routine where intimacy and communication fade.
But guess what? You CAN reclaim the passion you once shared!
Join Kimberly Beam Holmes, and Laura Heck your guides in this episode back to abundant love and deep connection in your marriage!
Take a deep dive in how to: • Recognize the signs your marriage has become boring • Maintain curiosity and interest in your marriage • Rebuild strong communication so you can truly connect ️ • Heal from affairs and restore relationships Don't wait! Listen now and start your journey to a happier, more fulfilling marriage! Reclaim the passion.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Kimberly Beam Holmes walks you through her morning routine and discusses why it’s essential to plan your day in this episode of It Starts With Attraction. Failing to plan for your day allows for interruptions that control your day. When your day starts more frantic and hectic, it's harder to get it back on track throughout the rest of the day. Beginning your day with fulfilling activities specific to your needs like reading, Bible time, or working out allows you to start the day on track and energized.
Having a morning routine is one less decision you have to make during the day because you already have it set. Read about Kimberly’s entire morning routine, along with some other routines from people at Marriage Helper, and then make a list to determine what best fulfills you in the mornings.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
David Mathews, the founder of Spark of Life, joins Kimberly Beam Holmes on this week’s episode of It Stars With Attraction. At Spark of Life, David helps people who have been through divorce deal with their grief. People have a sense of regret when they feel they could have done something different to save their marriage and tend to let self-doubt creep in. The other feeling they might have is resentment if they feel the situation was their spouse’s fault.
If you go to marriagehelper.com/livingforward, you can get information about a free class where we dive into how you can start living forward after divorce. You’ll also find information there about the divorce recovery workshop that Marriage Helper is partnering with Spark of Life to offer. The first step to living forward is to start small and focus on the good things. Find one good thing that has happened in the past 24 hours that you’re thankful for, and email or text a friend to show your appreciation. This one step can begin to change your outlook and even change how your mind is wired.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Zach Brittle is a couples therapist from Seattle and the author of The Relationship Alphabet and The Marriage Therapy Journal. He joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to discuss his work, his training at the Gottman Institute, and how game theory works in a relationship. Gottman believes that every relationship that is struggling is struggling because of betrayal. And while affairs might be the obvious betrayal, every time you lie to your spouse or don’t do something you promised, it’s also a betrayal.
They also discuss negative sentiment override, which happens when you no longer remember the positive parts of your relationship but always see the negative in everything. So how can you work to bring those feelings back to neutral before making them positive again? Find out these answers and more in this episode of It Starts With Attraction.
Consider sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a review, and until next week, stay strong.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Plenty of research talks about how a parent's interaction with their child will affect that child's future. It's called attachment theory, which boils down to the consistency and the quality of a parent's interaction with their child. The research shows there are four primary outcomes in attachment theory, but the only positive one is secure attachment. Secure attachment means that the child will believe that mom and dad will always be there when they need them.
There are seven characteristics of strong families, the most important being quantity of time, not quality. The question is, what is most important to you? Financial stability is vital for any family, but is there a way to balance your work and family life?
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Yasmine Williams Woods became a mother at the age of 14. After being a single mother for years, it was a difficult adjustment to blend her life with another’s when she got married. Now a mother of four, she is on a mission to help women lead lives that prove that love conquers all. She talks about the importance of intentionally making time for God in her busy life. It’s not always feasible to start your day by spending time reading scripture but prioritize beginning your day with Him and worshiping when you can.
How can we be doing more courageous acts of love for the people we have in our lives?
How are you making it intentional to spend time with Jesus?
What does it look like to live in total submission to God's way, His will, and His purpose for your life?
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
How can you stay calm when everything around you honestly just sucks?
Does it feel like all hell is breaking loose around you? In this episode, Kimberly Beam Holmes shares tips for how to stay calm during chaos.
Until next week, stay strong.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Sex is one of the ways we stay attracted to each other in a marriage.
Dr. Corey Allan found in a study that the higher your level of religious dogma, the less sexually satisfied you are because of the shame and guilt associated with it. This early discovery led him to be a voice that helps couples discuss and frame conversations around sex and marriage.
He believes if you can't talk about what you want to do or about sex with the person you wish to have it with, you're not ready to have it yet.
Dr. Allan joins Kimberly Beam Holmes to discuss how you can walk beside your child, helping them create their own informed decision about sex based on your family’s morality.
They talk about the effects of porn on a relationship, the introduction of sex robots, and how social media and tech have led to a digitized life to protect oneself from rejection in this week’s episode of It Starts With Attraction.
PIES Takeaways: Ask yourself "Would I want to have sex with me?" Great sex is about being your full self and staying yourself throughout. Communication is key!
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Did you know that I was once ADDICTED to Crossfit?
It's true. And I ran myself into the ground. I hurt myself physically, to the point that I still have lasting effects from that time in my life.
There are great, impactful, and life-changing ways to work on your PIES but they also have to be mindful, careful, and life-giving ways.
Today I'm offering some advice on some different ways you can work on your PIES without overdoing it or sacrificing the long-term goal of a lifetime of attractiveness for short-term gain.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Christa is the host of the Enneagram + Marriage podcast, and I am so happy to talk to her when I have the chance.
Christa gives us a brief rundown of each of the enneagram types and then we got into a discussion about how interactions play out with different groupings. It's SO fascinating to think about all the ways we interact with each other in these archetypal ways.
It's important to remember that, while they aren't the final word, we can use tools like the enneagram to have a better understanding of ourselves and our spouse.
PIES Takeaways: It's important to understand ourselves Every pairing has its strengths You are who you are today because someone has lifted you up and formed you
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Ben Higgins, of The Bachelorette and The Bachelor fame, joins us on our 100th episode of It Starts With Attraction!
Ben discusses why he joined the reality TV shows and how he was looking to shake up what he felt was a boring and uninteresting life. He talks about his battles with addiction, feeling lonely and unseen, and how difficult it is to stand for your values when questioned about why you believe them. Finally, Ben reminds us that we've all experienced pain and have a story worth sharing.
What can you do to surround yourself with a community of people who will support and encourage you to do what you should do with your life?
In what ways do you work on physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual attraction?
When you have a belief and value that is different from the world, society, and the people you're with, are you going to stand firm on it?
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Are you curious about what makes a marriage truly happy? In this video, we dive deep into the key factors that can predict marital happiness and overall life satisfaction. Our expert guest explores extensive research, revealing the surprising elements that contribute to a joyful and fulfilling marriage.
📊 Research Highlights:
• Various surveys, including Gallup, General Social Survey, and the American Family Survey. • How good marriage surpasses education, money, work, and even sexual frequency in predicting happiness.
💡 Key Predictors of Marital Happiness:
• Regular date nights and emotional engagement. • Strong sense of commitment and shared religious activities. • The protective nature of a spouse, particularly significant for women.
💔 Marriage Myths Debunked:
• The “Soulmate Myth” and its impact on marital expectations. • Understanding that marriage is about more than just intense romantic or emotional connections. • Appreciating the broader goods realized in marriage, such as financial security, family, and support.
📈 Challenges and Realism:
• Young adults’ high expectations and the fear of not having all their ducks in a row. • The importance of maturity and realistic views on marriage and parenthood. • The benefits of marrying in your 20s, including higher happiness rates and less emotional baggage.
Join us as we unravel the secrets to a happy marriage and debunk common myths that might be holding you back. Whether you’re married, engaged, or just curious about what makes a lasting and joyful union, this guide will provide valuable insights and practical advice.
🔔 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell for more insights on creating a happy and fulfilling marriage!
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
This week Kimberly chats with Laura Heck from Marriage Therapy Radio. Laura is a Gottman Certified therapist in Washington State.
Of course, they talk about communication but also self-care, the top issues Laura sees as a marriage and family therapist, how to work on yourself, conflict...all the things!
Laura sees a lot of couples living as "roommates" and having a lack of intimacy, and how to add more to your marriage. Intimacy fades with time because it's the assumption that you know your spouse already.
They also talk about the Gottman 5-1 ratio. For every 1 negative thing, there should be 5 positive things to counteract them. Having emotional intelligence and understanding when your spouse took what you may have said or done negatively, and correcting it, is vital to a healthy marriage.
Everyone has blind spots and Laura suggests asking the people closest to you that aren't your spouse to help you find them. And because you want to be your best self, be ready for the hard truths and tell them "thank you." when you're done.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
This week I sat down with my husband Rob to talk about spiritual attraction.
We get into how we met, what attracted us to each other, and how to have discourse with friends and family that may not agree with you 100%. We believe people who model what they say and it's up to us to make sure that we're living in line with our beliefs and values.
Don't weaponize your beliefs and values Don't judge others Lean into your curiosity Assess your own values Find people to hold you accountable
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
In today's episode of It Starts With Attraction, I'm just going to share some things from my life with you. What spiritual attraction means to me, how it has helped me, and continues to shape me into the person I'm becoming.
Spiritual attraction, at its core, is all about living in line with the beliefs and value system that you have. We find it attractive when there are people who have strong beliefs and values and stand up for them.
Spiritual attraction is important. I would say it's more important than physical attraction for a long-term relationship. And it's right up there with emotional attraction because it is the core of who we are — our spiritual attraction, beliefs, and values form our character, integrity, and purpose.
Until next week, stay strong.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
What does it mean to be on the same page spiritually as a couple? How can you work towards becoming and staying spiritually attracted to each other as you move through your marriage?
For couples who share a christian faith, how can you work together to stay spiritually connected to each other and God?
Even if you’re not a Christian, this episode is still valuable and has important truth that you can apply to your own life to see amazing change.
Join Kimberly and Dr. Kimberling as they discuss spiritual attraction and specific ways you can use it to strengthen your marriage to make it the best it can be.
Today’s Speaker: Dr. Kim Kimberling
Dr. Kim Kimberling is a Christian counselor that’s been working with couples for over 35 years. He holds a Ph.D. and a Doctor of Ministry in Christian Counseling. Dr. Kim is President and co-founder of Awesome Marriage. Awesome Marriage helps thousands of couples build an awesome marriage.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_university
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
What you’ll learn:
What a spiritually healthy marriage looks like
How prayer can impact your marriage
Ways to spiritually strengthen your relationship
How to focus on your spiritual attraction in a chaotic world
Episode 95 - 3 Ways to Grow Spiritually in Your Relationship with Dr. Kim Kimberling
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Grief is defined as the conflicting feelings caused by the change or end of a pattern of behavior.
The past 2 years have left a lot of us in a state of languishing. We're stuck in a middle place between grief and normalcy.
The pandemic in many ways remains a grief situation and we need to treat it as such. There are so many areas of grief that sometimes we don't label it grief. And we need to be aware of the myth of closure and ambiguous loss in times of change.
Join Kimberly and David Mathews as they talk about how to work out the grief we all share and climb out of the pits most of us have been in.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Although we wish every marriage could be saved, we know that it's not the reality for some people. Divorce is hard and no one should go through it alone.
Today's episode is with Julie Beckerman, a High Conflict Relationship Coach. She chats about how hard divorce can be difficult, especially with children involved. Julie provides insight on how we can communicate better with our spouse when conflict is high and emotions are strong when going through a divorce.
Please share this episode with anyone struggling with communication with their ex-spouse or, anyone that has kids going through a difficult divorce.
Today's Speaker: Julie Beckerman, High Conflict Relationship Coach
Divorce isn’t easy, and mine was certainly no exception. In 2014, after 10 years of marriage, with the decision to get divorced, I began the most difficult, scary, confusing, angering, and liberating journeys of my life:
I navigated the waters of co-parenting, being a stay-at-home-mom, changing friendships, lawyers and courtrooms, living in the same house with my ex, relationships with ex-in-laws, dating, my ex getting remarried, going back to work, moving to a new home, new school for my daughter, new job, starting a new career, a new life…
With the help of a solid support system, I began to see this as not just a challenge to get through, which it certainly was, but also an opportunity that had only just begun.
I’m a Certified Professional Coach from the Institute of Professional Excellence in Coaching, as well as a certified career counselor from New York University.
I have experience and training in Dialectic Behavior Therapy, Effective Communication, and Mindfulness techniques with a background working in business and Human Resources.
I have experience navigating the transitions of divorce and dealing with the loss of a loved one, addiction, and health & fitness.
Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_university
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
You’ll Learn
how to have a great co-parenting relationship
how to evoke emotions within your kids and your ex
to lean into curiosity with your kids
that you need to speak positively about your ex-spouse when speaking to your kids
Episode 93 - How To Coparent With Som
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Mindfulness is the ability to be fully present and aware of where you are and what you are doing. It's so easy to get distracted and overwhelmed with the chaos around us but practicing mindfulness may just be the hidden gem to happiness!
In this podcast, you will learn the research behind mindfulness and gain an understanding of how mindfulness can benefit you in four key areas- Mind, Brain, Body, and Behaviors.
Listen to today's episode to learn ways to apply mindfulness to your everyday life, start dealing with your emotions, be present, and disconnect from distractions.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
5 Ways to integrate mindfulness into your everyday life
How mindfulness affects your mind, body, brain, and behaviors
How mindfulness helps with PIES
Episode 92 - Learn How to Cultivate A Mindfulness Practice in Your Life with Kimberly Beam Holmes
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Gratitude is a state of being. It isn't more money, fame, or success. It's not a perfect body, the best Instagram pictures, or the most followers on any social platform. It's none of the things that we go crazy trying to achieve on a day-to-day basis.
What really can make us happier in our lives, is how grateful we are for what we have. To bring it a little closer to home, it's how grateful you are in your life with the things that you have that can ultimately make you happier. Gratitude is one of the best things that people can begin to focus on in order to become unshackled from toxic emotions.
In today's episode, we are going to talk about how to be grateful and express gratitude.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_university
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
You'll Learn
How being grateful can make you more attractive
Activities to help you create an attitude of gratitude
How to be joy-filled NOW, not later.
Episode 91 - How To Rewire Your Brain Using Gratitude, with Kimberly Beam Holmes
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Relationships are so important—especially the relationship we have with ourselves.
In this episode, Kimberly speaks with Veronica Grant, a Love and Life Coach specializing in helping people do deep work to create deep love in relationships. Veronica shares her story of struggling with self-image and feeling like her worth was within other people rather than herself. We can all relate to this episode, especially in the current social-media-obsessed culture we live in. Veronica shares tips on showing up in relationships and ensuring you don't go backward with finding validation within your partner, spouse, or friends.
If you lack confidence or struggle with self-worth, you are going to love this episode. Veronica dives in deeper to help you understand where certain feelings or thoughts are coming from and things you can do to uncover the emotions.
Today's Speaker: Veronica Grant, Love and Life Coach
Veronica is a Love + Life Coach, host of the popular Love Life Connection podcast, and author of the forthcoming book You Are Meant for Love. She helps successful women who feel like they have it all except love, find it.
Veronica's work has been featured in O the Oprah Magazine, Bustle, Your Tango, and countless podcasts, including Let It Out and Mind Body Musings.
As someone who struggled in love herself and was tired of unsolicited and usually patronizing dating advice (even if well-meaning), she created the resources she wished were available before she met her husband. Through her binge-worthy podcast, free challenges, and coaching, she's here to shake up how you find love, even in our swipe right, swipe left world.
A few of her guilty pleasures include: psychoanalyzing TV + real-life famous couples, hiking with her husband and pup, and sushi everything.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Are you looking to strengthen your marriage or learn more about the current state of marriage in America? Join Kimberly Beam Holmes and sociologist Dr. Brad Wilcox for an insightful discussion on It Starts With Attraction!
In this episode, they debunk common myths about marriage and explore the benefits of strong, stable unions. Dr. Wilcox dives into data on marriage trends, discussing the decline in divorce rates and the correlation between religion and family stability. They also address the challenges couples face today, including unemployment and unrealistic expectations. Kimberly Beam Holmes leaves the episode on a hopeful note, emphasizing that there is hope for a great marriage regardless of religion, social status, or background. She encourages couples to communicate openly and work together through tough times.
Key takeaways you will learn: • The importance of spending quality time together as a couple • How shared values and religious beliefs can contribute to marital happiness • Practical tips for communicating effectively during unemployment • Why marriage requires sacrifice and working together to meet each other's needs
Feeling discouraged about marriage? Kimberly Beam Holmes offers words of encouragement, reminding listeners that there is always hope, and a pathway to a fulfilling marriage.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
What is social media doing to our brains? It may be affecting your life more than you realize. In this episode, Kimberly talks with Chris Martin about social media, how it started, where it's going, and what you can expect about the Metaverse. Chris Martin is the author of Terms Of Service: The Real Cost of Social Media.
What problem does Instagram, Facebook, TikTok solve in our lives? Chris shares how social media is affecting our brains and everyday life. You'll learn why social media is taking us further apart instead of closer together and why you might have an unhealthy relationship with the social internet.
This episode is packed with a lot of information and one that you'll want to save and listen to again. So please share this episode with your family and friends and talk to your kids about it.
Today's Speaker: Chris Martin, Author of Terms of Service: The Cost of Social Media
Chris Martin is a content marketing editor at Moody Publishers and a social media, marketing, and communications consultant. He has led social media strategy at Lifeway Christian Resources and advised some of the foremost Christian leaders and authors on digital content strategy. He writes regularly at www.TermsOfService.social. Chris lives outside Nashville, TN, with his wife, Susie, their daughter, Magnolia, and their dog, Rizzo.
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_university
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
You'll Learn
Learn what role social media plays in your life
Learn how social media affects you in ways you may not realize
How to push back against the hold the internet has on your mind and your heart
Episode 89 - The Real Cost of Social Media with Chris Martin
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Kimberly is joined by a very special guest, her husband, Rob! This is the second time Rob has joined the podcast so if you missed the first episode, make sure you go back and listen to the episode about Introverts vs. Extroverts.
In this episode, they both discuss what intellectually attracted them to each other when they first met. You will hear Rob and Kimberly answer questions from the listeners about working on intellectual attraction with your spouse when you have no interest in the same hobbies or likes.
This is a fun episode with lots of laughs and great perspectives from both spouses on being more intellectually attractive.
Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_university
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
You'll Learn
how to become more intellectually attractive to your spouse
what you can do to have some common interests
what you can do to gain self-confidence
Episode 87 - Staying Attracted (Intellectually) To Each Other
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
We are continuing with our PIES series, and this month we are talking all about Intellectual Attraction.
In this episode, Kimberly shares what intellectual attraction is and provides ideas of what you can do to become more intellectually attractive.
You are going to learn: - how to become a fascinating person - how to focus your curiosity on bettering yourself - why you should continue to be curious about your spouse and genuinely interested in the things that they enjoy - what kind of things you can do to help you learn and grow as a person
Please don't forget to rate the podcast and leave a review. Also, please share this with your friends!
Today's Speaker: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 200,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.
Connect on Instagram: @kimberlybeamholmes @pies_university
Be sure to SUBSCRIBE to the podcast and leave a review!
You'll Learn
how to become a fascinating person
how to focus your curiosity on bettering yourself
why you should continue to be curious about your spouse and genuinely interested in the things that they enjoy
Episode 87 - Becoming More Intellectually Attractive
Your Host: Kimberly Beam Holmes, Expert in Self-Improvement and Relationships
Kimberly Beam Holmes has applied her master's degree in psychology for over ten years, acting as the CEO of Marriage Helper & CEO and Creator of PIES University, being a wife and mother herself, and researching how attraction affects relationships. Her videos, podcasts, and following reach over 500,000 people a month who are making changes and becoming the best they can be.