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Do you have a teen who wants to do things their own way? You’re not alone! In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about what to do when your teen becomes more independent and starts making choices you don’t always agree with.

You’ll learn:

• How to set healthy rules and boundaries
• Why it’s okay for your teen to have different values than you
• Ways to stay calm and loving, even during tough times
• How to connect with your teen, even if they push back

Ben shares real stories, fun moments, and simple tips to help you build a strong relationship with your teen—even when they want to do things their own way.

Listen now and discover the secrets to thriving with your independent teen!

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Help! My teen made a big mistake! What now?

In this episode, I’m answering a heartfelt question from a parent who feels stuck after their teen made a big mess of things. If you’ve ever worried that your family is falling apart, this one’s for you.

We’ll talk about how to handle tough teen choices, what to do when parenting feels hopeless, and how YOU can lead your family toward growth and healing. Mistakes don’t have to be the end of the story—they can be the start of something better.

You’ve got this, and I’m here to help!

Connect with me:
📧 Email: ben@benpughcoaching.com
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Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

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It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

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2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

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Are you the parent you’ve always wanted to be? In this episode, Cortni and I talk about how to create a clear vision for better parenting. We share personal stories, lessons from our own childhoods, and tips to help you reconnect with your parenting goals.

Learn about the power of a 10-word vision statement—a simple tool that can guide your parenting, help you avoid common struggles, and strengthen your connection with your kids. Whether you want more structure, better communication, or just a fresh start, this episode will give you ideas to grow as a parent.

Tune in and take the first step toward becoming the parent you’ve always dreamed of being!

Next Episode Teaser: We'll walk you step-by-step through creating your own 10-word vision statement. Don’t miss it!

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

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2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

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1. Teens want connection.
   Contrary to the myth that teens don't want anything to do with you as their parents, it's important for you to trust that your teen actually desires a connection with you. 
2. Build Values-Based Connection. 
   Instead of trying to connect over things that you value, it is important to connect with your teen based on their values and interests. Understanding and engaging with what matters to them can strengthen your relationship with them.
3. Your Relationships Reflect You.
   The quality of your relationships with others, especially your teens, is a reflection of your relationship with yourself.  Focus on improving your self-connection to create a powerful connection with your teens. Being kinder and more respectful to yourself can positively impact your relationship with your teen.

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"

In this podcast episode, I interview Cliff Ravenscraft from MindsetAnswerman.com

We talk about:
1. Identity
2. Abundance
3. The Law of Attraction
and a few other random things.

Come Listen and Enjoy this Podcast Interview!

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Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"

Real Talk about the book Leadership and Self-Deception

What does it mean to be “in the box” towards someone?

Being “In the Box”= Seeing ourselves and others in a systematically distorted way. Others
are mere Objects

Being “Out of the Box” = Seeing ourselves and others more or less as we are, as People.

Self-deception is creating stories based on your own reality that doesn’t serve you!

Collusion

When we are in the box towards someone we generally want to get other people to join in with us and confirm that what we are thinking and feeling is justified.

In the book, Leadership and Self-Deception, there is a story about Kate. She is in the box towards her son for being late home from hanging out with friends. When she was in the box she needed to her son to be doing wrong.

When he shows up on time, but just barely, she still complains about how he is cutting it close.

Kate and her husband were colluding together against their son.

Being the Change

Cortni wanted her husband to read this book since they were in the box against each other. But he didn’t want to. . . until she decided to read it without him and started making changes, then he was finally interested himself.

Ben: Cortni what would you tell someone who thinks this won’t work for them?

Cortni: TRY! Just give it a try. With the membership, give it a shot even for a month. And you will feel so much support from the other moms and Ben. It’s worth it! Just give it a shot.

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Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

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What is Your Parenting Identity?

One of the things I’ve realized is that if you are struggling to make lasting changes in your life, it is probably because you don’t identify as someone who could make those changes.

Mindset Matters!

Often times, experts, whether in parenting, business, or weight loss focus on the tactics, but they often forget the mindset component.

Mindset is powerful.

How you think determines how you feel, and how you feel determines how you behave.

Managing Your Mind Helps You Parent.

If you want to better connect with your teen, you have to do your own inner work as a parent.

Most parents are reactive and never really take the time to intentionally parent in a way that is true to who they want to be as a parent.

By doing this, you have the power to BE The Change that you want to see.

When you create change on the inside, you will see things change on the outside.

Lasting Change = Doable Change

Most people try to create radical change that is not even who they really want to be.

Corinne mentions that you have to create change that is in line with how you want to live.

If you want to eat pizza and ice cream, you have to figure out how to be someone who eats pizza and ice cream responsibly.

It means figuring out, what can I do TODAY and doing just that.

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.

"Send Ben a text"

Feel Powerless in Your Parenting?

If you're like most parents, you've probably felt powerless from time to time. 

In fact, if you're a first time listener to this podcast, I'm guessing that you've recently found yourself feeling powerless. 

If you've listened to my podcast very long, you've probably heard me say that when you feel powerless as a parent, it's because you're focusing on things outside of your control. 

Today, we're going to talk about getting your personal power back

If you've been feeling powerless, it's time to take your personal power back. 

There are 3 exercises that I'm going to walk you through to help you take your power power back and start living in integrity. 

Exercise #1 Stop Focusing on Things Outside Of Your Control

Exercise #2 Your Word Is Powerful 

Exercise #3 Live In INTEGRITY

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Join The Firmly Founded Parent (FFP) Membership

If you want to seriously up-level your parenting, join the membership. 

If you're tired of arguing with your teen and trying to help them even though they don't want help, join the membership. 

If you like 1:1 support, join the membership.

If you want the support of a community of parents just like you, join the community. 

Start BEING The Parent Of Your Dreams TODAY!

Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide?

Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide.

It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!

1. Go to benpughcoaching.com/debrief
2. Download the debrief
3. Start with your own internal debrief.