Explore every episode of the podcast IMPACT: Parenting with Perspective
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| Secrets To Thriving With Independent Teens | 17 Apr 2025 | 00:29:20 | |
Do you have a teen who wants to do things their own way? You’re not alone! In this episode, Ben and Cortni talk about what to do when your teen becomes more independent and starts making choices you don’t always agree with. You’ll learn:
Ben shares real stories, fun moments, and simple tips to help you build a strong relationship with your teen—even when they want to do things their own way. Listen now and discover the secrets to thriving with your independent teen! Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Help! My Teen Made a Big Mistake | 10 Apr 2025 | 00:30:43 | |
Help! My teen made a big mistake! What now? In this episode, I’m answering a heartfelt question from a parent who feels stuck after their teen made a big mess of things. If you’ve ever worried that your family is falling apart, this one’s for you. We’ll talk about how to handle tough teen choices, what to do when parenting feels hopeless, and how YOU can lead your family toward growth and healing. Mistakes don’t have to be the end of the story—they can be the start of something better. You’ve got this, and I’m here to help! Connect with me: Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Creating a Vision for Better Parenting | 06 Feb 2025 | 00:11:35 | |
Are you the parent you’ve always wanted to be? In this episode, Cortni and I talk about how to create a clear vision for better parenting. We share personal stories, lessons from our own childhoods, and tips to help you reconnect with your parenting goals. Learn about the power of a 10-word vision statement—a simple tool that can guide your parenting, help you avoid common struggles, and strengthen your connection with your kids. Whether you want more structure, better communication, or just a fresh start, this episode will give you ideas to grow as a parent. Tune in and take the first step toward becoming the parent you’ve always dreamed of being! Next Episode Teaser: We'll walk you step-by-step through creating your own 10-word vision statement. Don’t miss it! Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Top 10 Parenting Secrets: #6 Connecting with Your Teen | 18 May 2023 | 00:17:39 | |
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| My Favorite Parenting Secrets: Self-Connection & Inner Wisdom | 11 May 2023 | 00:27:01 | |
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| Identity, Abundance and The Law of Attraction with Cliff Ravenscraft | 04 May 2023 | 00:59:43 | |
In this podcast episode, I interview Cliff Ravenscraft from MindsetAnswerman.com Want to be the mom of your dreams? Come join us in my parenting membership. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| IMPACT INTERVIEW: Melissa's Experience with Coaching and the Parent Membership | 27 Apr 2023 | 00:30:19 | |
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| Leadership and Self-Deception with Real-Life Mom Cortni | 20 Apr 2023 | 00:39:30 | |
Real Talk about the book Leadership and Self-Deception What does it mean to be “in the box” towards someone? Being “In the Box”= Seeing ourselves and others in a systematically distorted way. Others Being “Out of the Box” = Seeing ourselves and others more or less as we are, as People. Self-deception is creating stories based on your own reality that doesn’t serve you! Collusion When we are in the box towards someone we generally want to get other people to join in with us and confirm that what we are thinking and feeling is justified. In the book, Leadership and Self-Deception, there is a story about Kate. She is in the box towards her son for being late home from hanging out with friends. When she was in the box she needed to her son to be doing wrong. When he shows up on time, but just barely, she still complains about how he is cutting it close. Kate and her husband were colluding together against their son. Being the Change Cortni wanted her husband to read this book since they were in the box against each other. But he didn’t want to. . . until she decided to read it without him and started making changes, then he was finally interested himself. Ben: Cortni what would you tell someone who thinks this won’t work for them? Cortni: TRY! Just give it a try. With the membership, give it a shot even for a month. And you will feel so much support from the other moms and Ben. It’s worth it! Just give it a shot. Join The Firmly Founded Parent (FFP) Membership If you want to seriously up-level your parenting, join the membership. If you’re tired of arguing with your teen and trying to help them even though they don’t want help, join the membership. If you like 1:1 support, join the membership. If you want the support of a community of parents just like you, join the membership Start BEING The Parent Of Your Dreams TODAY! Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| IMPACT INTERVIEW: Creating the Identity You Want as a Mom with Corinne Crabtree | 13 Apr 2023 | 00:49:27 | |
What is Your Parenting Identity? One of the things I’ve realized is that if you are struggling to make lasting changes in your life, it is probably because you don’t identify as someone who could make those changes. Mindset Matters! Often times, experts, whether in parenting, business, or weight loss focus on the tactics, but they often forget the mindset component. Mindset is powerful. How you think determines how you feel, and how you feel determines how you behave. Managing Your Mind Helps You Parent. If you want to better connect with your teen, you have to do your own inner work as a parent. Most parents are reactive and never really take the time to intentionally parent in a way that is true to who they want to be as a parent. By doing this, you have the power to BE The Change that you want to see. When you create change on the inside, you will see things change on the outside. Lasting Change = Doable Change Most people try to create radical change that is not even who they really want to be. Corinne mentions that you have to create change that is in line with how you want to live. If you want to eat pizza and ice cream, you have to figure out how to be someone who eats pizza and ice cream responsibly. It means figuring out, what can I do TODAY and doing just that. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Top 10 Parenting Secrets: #4 Integrity and Personal Power | 06 Apr 2023 | 00:28:57 | |
Feel Powerless in Your Parenting? If you're like most parents, you've probably felt powerless from time to time. In fact, if you're a first time listener to this podcast, I'm guessing that you've recently found yourself feeling powerless. If you've listened to my podcast very long, you've probably heard me say that when you feel powerless as a parent, it's because you're focusing on things outside of your control. Today, we're going to talk about getting your personal power back If you've been feeling powerless, it's time to take your personal power back. There are 3 exercises that I'm going to walk you through to help you take your power power back and start living in integrity. Exercise #1 Stop Focusing on Things Outside Of Your Control Exercise #2 Your Word Is Powerful Exercise #3 Live In INTEGRITY Access My BE the Change Workbook for FREE! Simply click the button below. BE The Change Workbook for FREE Join The Firmly Founded Parent (FFP) Membership If you want to seriously up-level your parenting, join the membership. If you're tired of arguing with your teen and trying to help them even though they don't want help, join the membership. If you like 1:1 support, join the membership. If you want the support of a community of parents just like you, join the community. Start BEING The Parent Of Your Dreams TODAY! Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| My Favorite Parenting Secrets: #3 Know Your Values | 30 Mar 2023 | 00:16:22 | |
My Favorite Things to Teach I want to walk you through my 10 favorite things to teach parents. In fact, these principles are not only my favorite things to teach, but they are the things that the parents who I work with consistently tell me have had the most impact on their lives. So, over the next several episodes, you'll get access to my top 10 favorite principles. And, I'm going to teach them in the order that I think would be most beneficial to you. Do You Know Your Values? Your Values Create Your Results Understanding Your Values Leads to Understanding Your Teen's Values Secrets to Values
Access My BE the Change Workbook for FREE! Simply click the button below. BE The Change Workbook for FREE Join The Firmly Founded Parent (FFP) Membership If you want to seriously up-level your parenting, join the membership. If you're tired of arguing with your teen and trying to help them even though they don't want help, join the membership. If you like 1:1 support, join the membership. If you want the support of a community of parents just like you, join the community. Start BEING The Parent Of Your Dreams TODAY! Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| IMPACT INTERVIEW: Building Powerful Relationships through Experiences with Jake Roehl | 23 Mar 2023 | 00:40:07 | |
If you create experiences you can create powerful transformations and powerful relationships. We underestimate the power of fun in our lives. When I took my kids surfing in Hawaii the instructor told us that when we got up to make sure that we looked ahead of us, like at a palm tree. If we looked down in the water, that is where we would end up. I love this, it fits so perfectly with my favorite saying, "You are where your attention is" We need to set our intentions and not just let our lives govern us. You're just a different person when you have these experiences There is a version of you that exists that you don't believe exists right now, when that version of you gets to come to the surface and play and you can go back to your [regular life] and you're like "yeah, I've ridden waves. I rode waves in Puerto Rico"Jake Roehl Want to join Jake and Whit on one of there amazing retreats? Click here to learn more Here is the link to a free tool they created called “The Map” : Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Top 10 Parenting Secrets: #2 The Identity Process | 16 Mar 2023 | 00:19:28 | |
My Favorite Things to Teach I want to walk you through my 10 favorite things to teach parents. In fact, these principles are not only my favorite things to teach, but they are the things that the parents who I work with consistently tell me have had the most impact on their lives. So, over the next several episodes, you'll get access to my top 10 favorite principles. And, I'm going to teach them in the order that I think would be most beneficial to you.
Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Let Go: Focus on What You Can Control | 30 Jan 2025 | 00:30:01 | |
Do you sometimes feel stressed about things you can't change as a parent? In this episode, Ben Pugh and Cortni talk about how to feel better by focusing on the things you can actually do something about. They share simple tips and real stories from other parents who learned to worry less. You'll hear about parents just like you who found ways to have better relationships with their teens. Ben and Cortni explain how letting go of things you can't control can make parenting feel much easier. In this episode, you'll learn: This episode will help you feel more relaxed as a parent and show you how to make positive changes in your family. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Top 10 Parenting Secrets: #1 Be the Change | 09 Mar 2023 | 00:22:14 | |
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| IMPACT INTERVIEW: Secrets of a Successful Mom with Camille Beckstrand | 02 Mar 2023 | 00:54:23 | |
Get your free Recipe for a Successful relationship with your teen Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| How to Create Good Sleep Routines | 23 Feb 2023 | 00:52:09 | |
In this episode I talk with Tyson Bradley about how to create good sleep routines for you and your teen. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| What Most Parenting Advice Gets Wrong | 16 Feb 2023 | 00:13:53 | |
This Is Coming From a Place of Love First of all, I don't hate other parenting coaches. In fact, I don't think I hate anyone. I know tons of parenting coaches that are freaking amazing. I just see the ads on Facebook and the emails in my inbox telling me things like,
So, I'm going to share some of the things that I think are holding parents back, and I'm also going to share a mindset shift that will help you change everything. #1 I'm NOT "THE Parenting Expert," YOU Are! #2 "Parent This Special Way, So Your Teen Will Do . . . "
#3 There's a Right and a Wrong Way To Parent Join The Firmly Founded Parent (FFP) Membership If you want to seriously up-level your parenting, join the membership. If you're tired of arguing with your teen and trying to help them even though they don't want help, join the membership. If you like 1:1 support, join the membership. If you want the support of a community of parents just like you, join the community. FREE Transformational Conversation about Relationships Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| The Fear of Not Being Good Enough | 09 Feb 2023 | 00:22:51 | |
Comparison Feels Like Not Being Good Enough? If you worry that you're not good enough, you're probably comparing yourself to someone or something else. You might be comparing yourself to other parents, to your friends, or maybe even to a mythical version of yourself that doesn't even exist. The problem with comparison is that it is never accurate and it is often the reason you feel like you're not good enough. Worry About What Others Think Another thing that might be making you feel like you're not good enough is worrying about what others think about you. You Are BETTER Than Good Enough The other day I was speaking with someone and she told me that she had heard someone say, "You are the perfect parent for your children, and your children are the perfect children for you." I think she is right on. You ARE the perfect parent for your teens, in all your imperfection. And, your teen is the perfect teen for you, in all their imperfection. Trust that you are actually better than good enough. You are perfectly matched for your teen, and when you trust this, you will start to see evidence of this all over. Whether You Are "Good Enough" or Not is Dependent on Your Stories Henry Ford is famous for saying, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right,” The same principle is true here. Whether you think you are "better than good enough" or you think you're not good enough – you’re right. So, you might as well shift your focus to find evidence that you are awesome! Your brain finds what you look for. If you think you're not good enough, your brain is going to show you all the things that you think are not good enough about you. If you think that you are better than good enough, your brain is going to show you all the things that you are doing that are amazing. You get to choose where you place your attention. Practice Believing that You are Better than Enough. You truly are better than simply being good enough. You are amazing. You are perfectly imperfect, or imperfectly perfect, either way, you are just the way you are supposed to be. Does that mean that you have no room for growth? Of course not. But it does mean that you can stop trying to grow and improve because you think you're not good enough. Practice appreciating things about yourself. Seriously, what makes you special and unique? What gifts do you have that no one else has? Practice seeing your value. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Criticizing Your Teen Feels Like an Attack to Your Teen | 02 Feb 2023 | 00:29:38 | |
Have You Ever Felt Attacked? Check are some tips to help you develop the habit of appreciation when it comes to your teen. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Define Your Inherent Identity | 26 Jan 2023 | 00:31:33 | |
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| Transformational Conversations: Habits and Goals Part 2 | 24 Jan 2023 | 01:10:32 | |
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| Transformational Conversations: Habits and Goals Part 1 | 24 Jan 2023 | 00:55:22 | |
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| Creating Abundance Part II with Rhonda Farr | 19 Jan 2023 | 00:31:02 | |
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| Shifting Perspectives for Better Parenting | 23 Jan 2025 | 00:21:50 | |
In this episode, we explore how shifting your perspective can transform your parenting experience. Using a real-life example from a high school basketball game, I dive into the difference between perception and perspective—and how both affect the way we see and interpret our teen’s behavior. Learn how emotional attachments, biases, and desired outcomes shape what we see and how we respond. I’ll share simple strategies to question your perception, model empathy, and strengthen your connection with your teen. Discover how seeing the world through a clearer lens can help you build rock-solid relationships and have a lasting impact on your teen’s life. Resources Mentioned:
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| IMPACT: Interview - Creating Abundance Part I with Rhonda Farr | 12 Jan 2023 | 00:36:02 | |
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| Habits vs. Goals | 05 Jan 2023 | 00:25:45 | |
What Makes Breaking Habits Hard for You? This is a powerful question to explore for yourself. What Makes Breaking Habits Hard is The Secret To Creating Habits Easily Your Habits Create Your Results Learn how to intentionally create your desired habits, and you can learn how to intentionally create the life of your dreams. Join Me for a Transformational Conversation I'm going to be hosting two live Transformational Conversations, and I want YOU to join me. If you have some New Year's goals, and their mostly on repeat from last year, you need to better understand your habits and what it takes to create new habits. Having a transformational conversation is more powerful than simply listening. Conversations engage the mind. They help you take new thoughts and belief to a deeper level. Come have a transformational conversation with me and other parents just like you, and lets create some new and powerful habits in your parenting in 2023. These transformational conversations will be live over zoom, face to face, on Thursday, January 12th at 10 am MST and Tuesday, January 24th, at 10 am MST. Click the button below to find out how to join the conversation. FREE Transformational Conversation about Habits Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Let Your Teen Manage Their Own Model | 29 Dec 2022 | 00:16:07 | |
Your Model vs Your Teen's Model The Self-Coaching Model is at play in your life, your teen's life, and everyone's life. Your model can even have the same circumstance as your teen's model. In fact, I've seen teens simply adopt their parent's models, and have identical models. So here's the most important thing to understand when it comes to the difference between your model and your teen's model. You can only control your own model. You CAN NOT control your teen's model. You are not responsible for how your teen thinks, feels, behaves, or the results that they create in their life. You are only responsible for your own model. So, stop trying to manage your teen's model and let them do that for themselves. "I don't want to disappoint my parents." Recently I spoke to a high school swim team. One of the things the girls told me was, "I'm constantly anxious because I don't want to disappoint my parents." Can you see how these teens were focused on someone else's model? Of course they're feeling anxious. They are focused on something outside of their control. Over Christmas, one of the things that I heard mothers tell me in their coaching sessions was, "I don't want my kids to be disappointed with Christmas." Again, they're feeling anxious because they are focused on something outside of their control., their teen's model. The problem is that our teens are learning to try to manage others' models for them because they see us doing that as parents when we try to manage their models. Let's stop that! Trust Your Teen Your teen is more than capable of managing their own model. You might ask, "what if they won't manage it?" That's okay. They are perfectly capable of owning their model. They are perfectly capable of owning the consequences of ignoring their model too. Show your teen that you trust them. Show them that they have the power to manage how they think and feel. Show them that you trust them and give them the autonomy to manage their model for themselves. Manage Your Own Model You can't manage your teen's model for them, but you can be a powerful example to them of managing your own model. In fact, in my experience, when parents manage their own models, things change in their homes. Often, simply managing your own model is enough to help your teen start managing their own. Human beings are herd animals, including your teen. If you lead by example, they are likely to follow. Create the Tradition of Parenting Growth in 2023! Join me in becoming the parent of your dreams. I'm re-launching the Firmly Founded Parent, and it's AMAZING! This is a gift that will impact not only you, but your whole entire family as well. As you grow and develop your parenting skills, things will change in your whole home. Make this year magical, by BEING the parent of your dreams. Check out the NEW and IMPROVED Firmly Founded Parent Community. If you want access to my new course, Parenting with Peace and Simplicity, now's the time. If you're ready to stop waiting for your teen to change, get access to 1:1 coaching with me in the membership so YOU can start to be th Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Creating Impactful Traditions | 22 Dec 2022 | 00:23:48 | |
What Are Traditions?
What are YOUR Traditions? Why Do You Keep Your Traditions? Create Impactful Traditions Powerful Traditions in My Life If You Want to Create an Impactful Tradition Do it! Commit to it. Feel free to share why you're doing it, of just keep it to yourself. Traditions are a powerful force in humanity. Harness that power and be intentional with your traditions. Create the Tradition of Parenting Growth in 2023! Join me in becoming the parent of your dreams. I'm re-launching the Firmly Founded Parent, and it's AMAZING! This is a gift that will impact not only you, but your whole entire family as well. As you grow and develop your parenting skills, things will change in your whole home. Make this year magical, by BEING the parent of your dreams. Check out the NEW and IMPROVED Firmly Founded Parent Community. If you want access to my new course, Parenting with Peace and Simplicity, now's the time. If you're ready to stop waiting for your teen to change, get access to 1:1 coaching with me in the membership so YOU can start to be the change. Connect with other parents who are also working to Be the change in their family. Start BEING the parent of your dreams! JOIN Firmly Founded Parent (FFP) in 2023 Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| The Best Gifts You Can Give Your Teen | 15 Dec 2022 | 00:20:30 | |
What's the Best Gift You Give Your Teen? This time of year, parents around the world are wondering what to give their teens. They want the perfect gift. One that their teen will like and actually use. Parents are looking for that gift that's stylish enough that their teen will like it, but timeless enough that it will last. The truth is, the perfect gift for your teen has more to do with you that you probably realize. So, here is a list of the top 5 things that I think are awesome gifts for any teen. My Top 5 Gifts for Teens List: #1 Belief and Trust In Your Teen
#2 Acceptance and Belonging
#3 Your Own Self-Work and Growth #4 Values Based Connection #5 Their Own Personal Coach First, get your own coach. And second, get your teen their own coach. Join me in becoming the parent of your dreams. I'm re-launching the Firmly Founded Parent, and it's going to be AMAZING! This is a gift that will impact not only you, but your whole entire family as well. As you grow and develop your parenting skills, things will change in your whole home. Make this year magical, by BEING the parent of your dreams. Check out the NEW and IMPROVED Firmly Founded Parent Community. If you want access to my new course, Parenting with Peace and Simplicity, now's the time. If you're ready to stop waiting for your teen to change, get access to 1:1 coaching with me in the membership so YOU can start to be the change. Connect with other parents who are also working to Be the change in their family. Start BEING the parent of your dreams! JOIN Firmly Founded Parent (FFP) in 2023 Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| How to Build Values Based Connections with Your Teen | 08 Dec 2022 | 00:25:09 | |
Your Teen WANTS You To Connect with Them This might come as a shock to you, but your teen WANTS you to connect with them. I know what you might be thinking, "Not MY teen. They want nothing to do with me." I know, it probably seems that way, but I promise you, your teen wants connection. Your teen wants to belong. They want to be praised and appreciated. The want the safety that comes with unconditional love, acceptance, and belonging. Wanting to belong is a fundamental human need and desire. When this need isn't met, teens will desperately search for it. Your teen might not be willing to admit it, but secretly they WANT connection with YOU! Your Teen Wants YOU To Connect with Them Now, here's the tricky part. Your teen wants YOU to connect with them. Stop waiting for them to open up and start connecting with you, they want you to initiate the connection. This is powerful knowledge. Knowing that Your teen WANTS connection, and knowing that they want YOU to connect with them gives you incredible power. Whether or not it's true is less important than simply believing and trusting that it is true. Think about it. The thought, "My teen wants nothing to do with me." How does that feel for you? It might feel "true," but it probably feels sad and disheartening. Now think about this instead, "My teen wants ME to connect with them?" How does that feel? For me, it's hopeful and empowering. It helps me know that what I'm doing as a dad, even though it's sometimes hard, is exactly what my teens secretly want. Build Values Based Connections with Your Teen One of the things that I am fighting against in the world is over-complication or parenting. We have a natural tendency to overly complicate things, especially parenting. So, here are some simple principles to help you build values based connections with your teens. When you join my membership in 2023, you'll get access to my full values trainings, which are AMAZING! But for now, I promise you this is enough to get you started.
Become The Parent of Your Dreams in 2023! Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| BONUS! Be The Change with Emily Wardrop | 03 Dec 2022 | 00:31:14 | |
This is an unplanned, unscripted, interview! Make sure you listen to this episode because I won't do it justice here in the show notes. Emily Wardrop is an awesome friend and amazing life coach for parents. I really enjoyed this conversation with her, and I'm sure you will too. On the Same Team On this podcast we talk about being on the same team rather than on the same page. This helps you as a parent to model the behavior and BEing that you want to see in your teen. Humans are Herd Animals We talked about mirroring the behavior that we see in our children. We talked about the power of modeling the behavior that we want to see instead of mirroring it. Be the Change You Want to See! We also talked about BEing the change that you want to see. Too many parents overly focus on their teens, and instead of BEing the change, they try to change their teens. Be the change that you want to see! How to work with Emily! You can find Drop the War Life Coach on FB, IG, and YouTube! Check out her amazing FREE trainings by clicking the links below! www.dropthewar.com/t1d I want to give you a FREE podcast-mini-series to help you grow as a parent. If you haven't yet listened to my FREE Podcast-MINI-Series, Parenting from the Inside-Out, do it before it's gone on Dec. 14th, 2022. benpughcoaching.com/privatepodcast Also, register to attend one or all of my FREE Parenting from the Inside-Out trainings. Learn More Here There will be live trainings held on the following dates and times:
Register Here for my FREE Parenting from the Inside-Out Training Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Are You Unhappy In Your Parenting? | 01 Dec 2022 | 00:31:02 | |
Your Stories Are Making You Unhappy One of the things I've noticed recently is that there are a lot of unhappy parents and teens out there. This is something that I've been coaching on regularly for the past several months. And, to be honest, this is something that I've been struggling with in my own life recently. Then recently I heard my coach say, . . . "Unhappiness comes from the gap between where your current lifeis (story) and where you think it should be (story). That gap in between is the 'unhappiness gap'.” ~ Jim Fortin The truth is, EVERYTHING is a story. Be The Hero Of Your Stories Another thing that causes unhappiness, and one that I am a master at, is positioning yourself as the victim in your story. I do this all the time. I blame the guy who cut me off, or my wife or business partner for a disagreement. The problem is, anytime you blame someone else, you position yourself as the victim in your story. If you or your teen are unhappy, check your stories. Are you blaming someone or something outside of your control? If the answer is "Yes," that's awesome news because YOU have the power to be the hero of your stories. Start Developing New Stories There's a trend in life coaching to really focus on what you are thinking. This isn't bad, and I love thought awareness, but I think there's also power in focusing on HOW you are thinking. Blaming is a way of thinking. Catastrophizing is a way of thinking. On the other hand, being accountable or taking responsibility are ways of thinking. As you change how you think, you will start practicing new stories. You can do this both on the individual level of WHAT you are thinking and on the bigger picture of HOW you are thinking. Want to Be Happier? Tell Better Stories. There was a time when my business was new, we weren't making much money, and we had to get help from our church to provide food for my family. I remember thinking things like:
As I did some self coaching, I started replacing my old stories with more helpful stories like:
Making sense of your past or current trials and struggles is kind of like connecting the dots between where you were and are and where you want to be. Making sense of your life is simply choosing the stories that you will tell and the interpretations you will make. Merry Christmas! I want to give YOU a FREE GIFT, my podcast-mini-series to help YOU grow as a parent. This mini-series will only be available for a limited time, until Wednesday December 14, 2022. This is a gift that will impact not only you, but your whole entire family as well. As you grow and develop your parenting skills, things will change in your whole home. Make this year's Christmas magical, by BEING the parent of your dreams. Check out m Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Ben's Birthday Interview with Arthur C. Woods | 25 Nov 2022 | 00:44:30 | |
This is an unplanned, unscripted, interview! Make sure you listen to this episode because I won't do it justice here in the show notes. Arthur C. Woods is an awesome friend and amazing life coach for teens. I really enjoyed this conversation with him. Stages of Growth! Discovery: Discovering who you are and who you want to be. Defining: Defining and deciding who you are and who you want to be. These are both important steps in growth. And, growth is often uncomfortable. In addition to being uncomfortable, growth is also a process that takes time and repeated effort over and over. The Importance of Identity Most people overly focus on DOing things rather than BEing. Rather than reading a book, be a reader. Rather than focusing on running a marathon, focus on BEing a marathon runner. Trust who you are! Lean to your strengths. Let your weaknesses be areas of growth. How to get your teen to work with Arthur! (1) Free Parent (of Teen) Training: Helping Your Teen Escape The Prison of Anxiety (December 08, Thursday @ 6:30 pm - Eastern Standard Time). Parents can register here: https://bit.ly/helpingyourteensescape (2) Free Facebook Group, Exclusively For Parents of Teenagers: www.facebook.com/groups/parentingteensintodaysworld (3) Connect with Arthur: www.facebook.com/arthurcwoods My Podcast-Mini-Series will be ending soon. Don't miss it! I want to give you a FREE podcast-mini-series to help you grow as a parent. This mini-series will only be available for a limited time, until December 14th, 2022. This is a gift that will impact not only you, but your whole entire family as well. Check out my FREE new podcast-mini-series Parenting From the Inside Out and learn how you can give your family the gift of your own personal growth. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Gratitude is a Superpower | 17 Nov 2022 | 00:26:31 | |
I'm Grateful for YOU! I wanted to take a minute and express my gratitude for you! I'm grateful for you and your efforts as a parent. I'm grateful for your time, for your attention, and for your desire to grow. Thank you for your support! The Power Of Gratitude Recently I've been doing a lot of coaching on emotions. Here's what I've learned. Gratitude as a Feeling Gratitude is a feeling, an emotion. It is created by our thoughts. It is created when we choose to appreciate our circumstances. Gratitude is when you intentionally choose to be grateful and appreciative for your circumstances. Gratitude is a powerful driving emotion. We know from the model that our feelings drive our actions. When I’m grateful I take actions like serving others, appreciating others, treating others (and myself) with kindness and patience. Gratitude drives actions that create results that I love in my life. Gratitude as a Way of BEing Gratitude can be more than a simple feeling. Gratitude can be a way of BEing. It’s a choice. I love BEing grateful. It is one of my favorite ways to BE as a dad. If you’re like most people, you’ve probably caught yourself being ungrateful. If you’re like most people, when you’re ungrateful, you probably parent with less kindness and compassion. It’s okay to catch yourself being ungrateful. It’s part of being human and being a parent. BUT, you also have the power to BE grateful! AND, I promise . . . Gratitude WILL change EVERYTHING! How to Develop the Superpower, GRATITUDE!
2. Practice BEing Grateful Daily.
3. See The Power of Gratitude In Your Life.
4. Keep a Gratitude Journal.
5. Share Your Gratitude with Others.
The Gift Of Growth I want to give you the gift of growth. I want to give you a FREE podcast-mini-series to help you grow as a parent. T Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Want Responsible Teens? It All Starts With You | 16 Jan 2025 | 00:19:47 | |
In this episode, Ben discusses the critical role parents play in teaching responsibility to their teenagers through personal example. He explores the contrast between victim and hero mindsets, explains why many parents struggle with expecting more responsibility from their teens than they demonstrate themselves, and provides practical strategies for creating a culture of accountability at home. Learn how to break free from the blame game and empower your teens by modeling the responsible behavior you want to see in them. Ben shares personal experiences, recommended books, and actionable steps to help parents become better examples of responsibility for their teenagers. 00:00 Introduction to Impact Parenting 00:49 The Power of Responsibility 03:00 Blame Game vs. Responsibility 04:10 Hero Mindset in Action 06:11 Modeling Responsibility for Teens 09:11 Practical Tips for Parents 14:26 Recommended Reads and Conclusion Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| The Gift of YOUR Growth | 10 Nov 2022 | 00:18:16 | |
Why Do Parents Stop Growing? Recently I was talking to a dad and he said something to the effect of, "Why do we quit growing as parents and adults?" He went on to say that as a parent, he feels like he's supposed to know everything and be perfect and that working on his own personal growth would make him look silly, like he doesn't know everything and he's not perfect. ☝️ This is why parents stop growing. ☝️ They think that they're supposed to know everything and be perfect, so they avoid imperfection and the unknown. There's a concept that I taught my little league football team this year. One day, while I was trying to coach up one of my players, he kept interrupting me telling me, "I know. I already know!" The problem was, when I watched him I could tell that he did not know what I wanted him to know. And, because he thought he already knew, he didn't have room to learn anything new. I call this the full cup problem. Imagine trying to pour water into a cup that's already full of water. What's going to happen? It's going to over-fill and run over the side. The cup has no room for anything more. This happens to us when we think we have no room for growth. Why Do People Avoid Growth? Recently I've been watching my kids as they've been growing in different areas of their lives. My 16 year old, even though he's on the football team and wants to be a good football player, he has been resistant to growth. He tells me things like, "I don't want to mess up", or "I don't want a coach to yell at me", or "I don't want to look dumb." My 13 teen year old on the other hand, has never played football before this year and he knew almost nothing. Because he knew nothing, he positioned himself as an empty cup and was very coachable, and he grew very quickly. Most people avoid growth for just a few reasons. #1 They don't want to look bad. #2 It can be hard and uncomfortable to grow. #3 They don't believe they can/need to grow. Growth is What Stands Between You and Your Dreams One of the things that I've found as I've coached tons of parents and teens is that growth is what's standing between you and your dreams. Want to become the parent of your dreams? Grow as a parent. Want a better relationship with your teen? Grow YOUR relationship with yourself and then your teen. Want to stop yelling, arguing, or simply avoiding all potential conflict with your teen? Grow yourself as a parent. The Gift Of Growth I want to give you the gift of growth. I want to give you a FREE podcast-mini-series to help you grow as a parent. This mini-series will only be available for a limited time, from Monday November 14, 2022 through This is a gift that will impact not only you, but your whole entire family as well. Check out my FREE new podcast-mini-series Parenting From the Inside Out and learn how you can give your family the gift of your own personal growth. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Increasing Your Emotional Awareness | 03 Nov 2022 | 00:19:54 | |
When we bring awareness to our emotions we can better understand them. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Slow Progress is Still Progress | 27 Oct 2022 | 00:19:37 | |
Slow Progress is Still Progress
Let's go back to the basics! Join my BE The Change Challenge on Facebook. Listen to my first 5 episodes and share your progress on Facebook. YES! I WANT TO JOIN THE CHALLENGE! Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Are You Craving Simplicity? | 20 Oct 2022 | 00:20:52 | |
Humans Overcomplicate Things If you're like most people, you're probably guilty of overcomplicating things. This is in our human nature. Your Subconscious Mind Loves Simplicity Your subconscious is craving simplicity. We think we want complicated, and all the bells and whistles, but what we really want is simplicity. Over-Complication Leads to Overwhelm Lately in my 1:1 coaching and in the Firmly Founded Family membership, I've been coaching a lot on OVERWHELM. It seems like everyone is overwhelmed these days, especially me. Moms and dads are overwhelmed because it's the holiday season, and their houses aren't clean enough or decorated well enough, and they need to do all this stuff, and help their kids do all this stuff, and they need to pay the bills and work, but then they're not home, and they just feel like they are failing at everything because they can't do everything, and they feel overwhelmed and stressed. Teens are overwhelmed because their grades aren't good enough, and they have so many things that they don't want to miss out on, and school, and church, and youth groups, and coaching calls, and sports, and, and, and, . . . And I'm overwhelmed because I have so many things I want to do. I want to have the best family membership, the best coaching content, the best courses, and I want to start an entrepreneurial alternative to high school for teens who hate school, and I want the most clients, and I want to coach football and win the most games and have the trickiest plays, plus I just want to hangout with my family all the time, all of which leaves me feeling overwhelmed and stressed. If you're like everyone I've ever coached on overwhelm, you probably don't like it. Overwhelm will hold you back. Overwhelm will suck all the joy and confidence from your life. Simplicity Leads to BEing If you want more peace, joy, and confidence in your life, start turning to simplicity. Seriously, it will change EVERYTHING. One of the things keeping you from BEing the parent of your dreams is overwhelm. Trying to be everything, and do everything, and have everything is keeping you from BEing who you want to be. Get Access to My Next Course at 50% OFF! (You just have to help me with some feedback). I'm implementing some new teachings in my next course, and I'm redoing tons of components with the goal of simplification. Help me hone in this trainings and make the course as simple, yet impactful, as possible, while saving a bunch of money. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| 10 Things Keeping You From Changing | 13 Oct 2022 | 00:24:20 | |
Why Don't People Change? Everyone wants to change! But, very few people actually create the change that they are looking for. Why is that? Why don't people change; or, why don't people create the change that they are looking for? Today we're going to explore 2 things. What keeps people from change, in general? . . . And, . . . What's keeping YOU from changing? What Keeps People From Changing? The Firmly Founded Family theme for October is: On Monday, we hosted a FREE training on Taming Your Emotional Monsters. We're doing a fun challenge for the month to help you and your family overcome your fears. By participating in this training (watching the replay) and doing things to overcome your fears, you and your family can win a $100 Amazon Gift Card. Register for this FREE training for the whole family by clicking the button below. Taming Your Emotional Monsters Replay Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Facing Your Fears | 06 Oct 2022 | 00:19:38 | |
FREE Taming Your Emotional Monsters Training SOON! We're hosting a free Family Home Evening style training on Monday, October 10th, @ 6:00 pm MDT. Is Fear Holding You Back? Tips for How To Face Your Fears
The Firmly Founded Family theme for October is: On Monday, October 10th, 2022, @ 6:00 pm MDT, we will be hosting a FREE training on Taming Your Emotional Monsters. We're also going be doing a fun challenge for the month to help you and your family overcome your fears. By participating in this training and doing things to overcome your fears, you and your family can win a $100 Amazon Gift Card. Register for this FREE training for the whole family by clicking the button below. FREE Taming Your Emotional Monsters Training Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Stop Over Thinking and Reprogram Your Mind | 29 Sep 2022 | 00:23:28 | |
Tips for How To Stop Over-Thinking and Reprogramming Your Mind
The Firmly Founded Family theme for October is: On Monday, October 10th, 2022, @ 6:00 pm MDT, we will be hosting a FREE training on Taming Your Emotional Monsters. We're also going be doing a fun challenge for the month to help you and your family overcome your fears. By participating in this training and doing things to overcome your fears, you and your family can win a $100 Amazon Gift Card. Register for this FREE training for the whole family by clicking the button below. FREE Taming Your Emotional Monsters Training Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Tips for Negotiating with Your Teen | 22 Sep 2022 | 00:24:20 | |
Negotiation is Important Sometimes I say things that go completely against the grain. This might be one of those things that might be different from what you've learned. But I'm going to say it. Negotiation with your teen IS IMPORTANT! After years of working with teens. one thing I've learned is that if you try to control too much of their life, they will take back control, sometimes very drastically. This is why negotiation is so important. Negotiation is respecting the fact that neither one of you controls the other and making an effort to agree on something that supports the values of both parties. If you are raising a teenager, I highly recommend that you start mastering the art of negotiating with your teenager. The Risks of Not Negotiating With Your Teen First off, I want to be 100% honest and say that there are some things that are NON-NEGOTIABLE with my teen. These are things that I'm not willing to budge on. It's okay to have non-negotiables. Take some time to get to know what those are for you, but everything shouldn't be a non-negotiable, or no one will ever want to negotiate with you. If you control too many things in your teen's life, you run the risk of them taking control via drastic measures like running away, blatantly breaking rules, self-harming, and even suicide. Negotiating Will Help You Build Stronger Relationships There are some serious benefits to negotiating with your teen. Here are a few of the benefits that I was able to think of:
I seriously believe that better negotiation has the power to improve relationships. I've seen it improve communication in my own home and how the systems within our home flow with my own children, and especially with our foster children. You might not be great at negotiating with your teen because you never saw the example of negotiation with your parents. Often when I teach this to parents, they tell me, "I wish my parents would have done this with me more. Common Mistakes When it comes to parent/teen negotiations, one of the most common problems that I see is simply an unwillingness to negotiate. I often hear parents say that their teen is the one who is unwilling to negotiate. As a parent myself, I understand that my teen just wants his way. I get it. So, I take it upon myself to find ways to negotiate whenever possible. This is an area where, if your teen is unwilling to negotiate, I'd invite you to be the change you want to see. Find a way for YOU to negotiate. Tips for How To Improve Your Negotiation
Join me and my family on a service trip to Mexico! If you're tired of getting your kids stuff for Christmas that doesn't last, come j Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Stop Doing and Start BEING! | 15 Sep 2022 | 00:19:16 | |
On today's episode I discuss how most parents are working from the "Doing" model and how we can "BE" the parents of our dreams if we live in the "BEING" model instead. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| A Child's Hope Foundation: Stacia Chavez | 08 Sep 2022 | 00:44:48 | |
Are you interested in joining a service trip to Mexico? Don't know where to start? Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Rewriting Your Story with Marci Owen | 09 Jan 2025 | 00:48:54 | |
In this episode, Ben talks with Marci Owen about how our minds get programmed and how we can change that programming. Here are the key points they discuss: Main Topics:
Key Stories and Examples:
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Resources Mentioned:
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| Relationships: Connection through Consequences (Nicole Rasmussen) | 01 Sep 2022 | 00:42:18 | |
Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| Relationships Matter with Nicole Rasmussen | 25 Aug 2022 | 00:33:32 | |
Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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| How to Be the Best Mom (Dad) Ever! | 18 Aug 2022 | 00:24:06 | |
On this episode I talk with Allison about the Best Mom Ever virtual summit she is hosting. Want a Simple Step by Step Parenting Debrief Guide? Go download the FREE Parenting Debrief Guide. It’s simple and quick. It will help you uplevel your parenting. And, it’s completely FREE!
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