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Join me for an in-depth interview with Suzanne Venker as we explore her latest book 'How to Build a Better Life.' We discuss the pitfalls of modern dating, the essential role of motherhood, and why a fulfilling life often means going against the grain. Suzanne shares her insights on why women shouldn’t chase men, the importance of dating with purpose, and why careers might not be the ultimate path to happiness.We also tackle the controversial topic of casual sex and delve into the fundamental differences between men and women. This episode is packed with wisdom for anyone looking to redefine what it means to live a successful life! 🚀💫

In today's episode, I spoke with Nir Boms, a research fellow of the Moshe Dayan Center specializing in Middle Eastern policy and counter-terrorism.

We spoke about:

* The tragic events of October 7th

* The Abraham Accords & progress with Saudi Arabia

* Iran's role in instigating terrorism

* Deradicalization of Palestinians

* The Jewish legacy of hope and praying for peace

* A hopeful vision for a peaceful Middle East

In today's episode I spoke with Dr. Marianne Brandon, a clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and author. We spoke about Marianne's killer book Monogamy: The Untold Story.

In the book, Marianne takes us through the most common challenges of monogamy - but says they’re not inevitable! By understanding the usual ways in which sex drives in marriage get derailed - Marianne shows us how we can overcome these common pitfalls and keep the magic very much alive.

We talked about the differences between men and women's sex drives, what men and women need in their relationship, and what couples can do to find a good balance. We spoke about the damaging effects of birth control pills on women’s sex drive and how hormonal replacement therapy (HRT) can be a good solution for women who are particularly affected by perimenopausal symptoms.

We spoke about how women often get dissociated from their bodies and how this can affect their sex lives. Marianne mentioned that yoga and brief meditations can make a big difference, helping women who feel disconnected from their bodies to re-attune to their bodily sensations. We also spoke about how some women still carry a lot of shame around sex because of messages they internalized in their earlier years. Marianne told us how she works with such women to release shameful feelings around sex and pleasure - especially when in the context of a loving, committed relationship.

We spoke about the different forms of infidelity and the various, creative ways in which people cheat on each other. Marianne gave us the details on what she's seen - from gray areas like sexting, porn, and OnlyFans to more clear forms of cheating like hook-up apps for married people and full-blown affairs.

We spoke about the beauty of monogamy and why humans are built for pair-bonding and attachment, even though monogamous relationships have their challenges. We gave our thoughts on why polyamory eventually ends in disaster - even with the best of intentions - and why Marianne considers polyamory a last resort.

We finished by speaking about Marianne’s Psychology Today blog 'The Future of Intimacy', where she shares helpful, practical advice for couples in the modern world. We dove into some of her most popular articles, where she talks about how modern couples can maintain a vital sex life, what to do if you're interested in sex - just not with your partner, and how advancements in sex tech - like VR porn and sex robots - are going to revolutionize the sexual marketplace.

I hope you enjoy this episode. Be sure to leave a comment and share your thoughts! 💬

00:00 Why Do So Many Married Couples Stop Having Sex?

7:25 Making Love vs. Primal Power Dynamics

11:20 There's No Version of "Fifty Shades of Grey" for Men

15:26 Common Complaints: Why Women Stop Wanting Sex

21:22 Birth Control Pills Kill Your Sex Drive

26:17 What Can Husbands Do to Have More Sex

34:24 Women: Being Connected to Our Bodies & Letting Go of Shame

43:10 Polyamory, Cheating, & Infidelity Gray Areas

50:20 Who Struggles Most with Monogamy?

56:10 Keeping the *Spark* Alive: Never Stop Flirting & Dating

59:12 “Set Your House in Perfect Order Before You Criticize the World”

1:01:12 Polygamous Societies Are The Most Violent Throughout History

1:02:08 Men Are Numbing Themselves with Drugs & Porn

1:04:00 VR Porn & The Future of Sex Tech

1:12:48 Good News: Will VR Porn Replace Sex Workers?

In today's episode, I spoke with Randy Thornhill, about the biological basis of beauty, how diseases influence political views and values, and the evolutionary history of rape and sexual coercion.

We spoke about how hormonal health influences sexual attraction, how developmental health influences our facial symmetry, and how improving our health can have a direct effect on our beauty and attractiveness.

We also discussed Randy’s groundbreaking theory called the Parasite-Stress Theory - which has shown that authoritarian and liberal views are often driven by the extent to which we’re exposed to infectious diseases. The more infectious diseases there are in an area, the more suspicious of outsiders we become, and vice versa. These mechanisms are part of our 'behavioral immune system'. This theory has really important implications for understanding how we construct our values and how certain factors of our environment, that we’re mostly unaware of, can completely shape our perception.

We then went on to speak about another one of Randy’s important books - 'The Natural History of Rape'. This is obviously a difficult subject to cover, and we did our best to do it justice, and to lay out Randy’s findings on the evolutionary roots of sexual coercion and why it exists. Not a pretty truth, for sure, but it is an important truth nonetheless, and I hope you find it useful.

I am very interested in hearing your thoughts on the ideas raised here. Do they make sense? Do you agree? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.

Randy Thornhill is a professor of evolutionary biology at the University of New Mexico. His parasite-stress theory, or pathogen-stress theory, is a theory of human evolution proposing that parasites and diseases encountered by a species shape the development of the values and qualities of that species. This theory has revolutionized evolutionary psychology and has been highly replicated since its conception.

00:00 Evolutionary & Biological Basis of Beauty

2:10 Hormonal Health & The Effects of Estrogen & Testosterone

10:25 Developmental Health & Bilateral Symmetry

19:10 We Can Look More Beautiful by Being Healthier

25:17 Parasite-Stress Theory: How Diseases Influence Political Views

28:35 Xenophobia is a Behavioral Immune System Response

52:11 "The Natural History of Rape"

58:55 Age of Rape Victims

1:02:28 Is Rape About Power?

1:09:53 Rape is a Low-Cost Strategy

In today's episode, I spoke with Louise Hawkley about loneliness.

We spoke about the paradox of feeling lonely even when surrounded by people, why loneliness is so painful to us on a visceral level, and how we are hardwired for social connection.

Louise’s work has shown the significant consequences that loneliness can have on our mental health and our physical health. Loneliness can completely distort the way we see the world, and it can have serious physiological, hormonal, and genetic effects. We also discussed some of the drivers of loneliness in our modern world - such as social media and changing family dynamics - and finally, what we can do about it.

We shared practical ways to combat loneliness, overcome social anxiety, and cultivate more meaningful relationships. Tune in to learn more about loneliness and the ways in which we can build a more connected society.

Prof. Louise Hawkley is a principal research scientist at NORC of the University of Chicago, and her research focuses on loneliness, its impacts on physical and mental health, with a special emphasis on the aging population.

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00:00 Intro

01:02 What is loneliness?

04:33 Why is loneliness so painful?

06:00 Are we in a loneliness epidemic?

09:44 Mental health effects of chronic loneliness

14:45 Overcoming social anxiety

19:45 Loneliness causes diseases of inflammation

31:00 Cultivating relationships for life

34:28 Men and women suffer from different types of loneliness

39:14 Causes for the rise in loneliness - is social media to blame?

44:00 Authenticity is key for true belonging

In this episode, I spoke with Bryan Caplan, a professor of economics and an avid author on the culture wars.

Bryan wrote a book called “Don’t Be a Feminist: A Letter to My Daughter” and we discussed some of the issues with modern feminism today.

We spoke about his latest appearance on Louise Perry’s podcast Maiden Mother Matriarch and some of the disagreements that they had there. I did my best to defend Louise’s book 'The Case Against the Sexual Revolution' and her critique of the extremely liberal sexual culture we find ourselves in, because I think it’s an important message for young women and men who want to find a long-term relationship and find themselves disillusioned with the current status quo of dating.

We talked about Bryan's advice on dating today and how men and women can overcome their social anxiety when trying to find love. And lastly, we spoke about Bryan’s new book that will be coming out soon “You Will Not Stampede Me: Essays on Non-Conformism” and we got into a bit of a debate on nationalism.

I am very interested in hearing your opinions on the points we raised on feminism, modern dating, and nationalism, so do leave a comment and share your thoughts.

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00:00 Intro

01:22 Why You Shouldn't Be a Feminist

06:17 How Do We Define Fairness & Equality?

24:00 Are Gender Norms Harmful?

41:24 Louise Perry & The Case Against the Sexual Revolution

1:20:00 Is Nationalism Good or Bad?

In this episode featuring Gal Sheppes, we delved into the intricate world of managing emotions.

We discussed the difference between emotion generation and regulation, highlighting the importance of tailored interventions for each aspect.

We explored the flexibility of emotion regulation strategies, examining their continuum from disengagement to engagement across various contexts. Gal shared insights into the stages of emotion regulation, shedding light on their significance across different time frames.

We continued on to the intersection of emotion regulation with conditions like depression, anxiety, PTSD, and addiction.

Gal also provided insights on fostering healthy emotion regulation in children and navigating emotions during relational conflicts for healthier relationships. Tune in to learn more about how our emotions work and how we can manage them more consciously.

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Gal Sheppes is a professor of clinical psychology at Tel Aviv University, and his research focuses on the underlying mechanisms of emotion regulation and self-regulation among healthy and clinical populations.

Join me in a thought-provoking conversation with Prof. Roy Baumeister as we delve into the pages of his book "Is There Anything Good About Men: How Cultures Flourish by Exploiting Men".

In this episode, we explore the roots of male motivation, uncovering the profound impact of sexual competition on both men and women. Prof. Baumeister offers insights into the intricate relationship between men's sex drive and their drive for success, and how these drives have influenced the building and shaping of culture.

Our discussion challenges prevailing misconceptions, shedding light on the complex reasons behind the underrepresentation of women in leadership roles and the anti-male narrative that prompted Roy to write this book. We navigate potential pathways for the future of monogamy, acknowledging the innate differences between men and women (even if our proposed solutions slightly differ!).

Prof. Roy Baumeister is an esteemed figure in social psychology and professor at the University of Queensland. His influential research has focused on self-esteem, the need of belongingness, sexuality, sex differences, and willpower. Tune in to unravel the layers of male psychology, guided by the expertise of Prof. Roy Baumeister.

Unveiling the Secrets of Male Evolution: What Drives Deeper Voices in Men?

In our latest podcast episode, I had an engaging discussion with Dr. David Puts, an evolutionary anthropologist renowned for his insights into the evolution of men. We explore the intriguing question: Are lower male voices designed to allure women or intimidate rival men?

Dr. Puts shared surprising findings, revealing that male dominance competition has had a more profound impact on shaping masculine traits than previously believed, outweighing the influence of female selection. Our conversation explored the intricate role of hormones during prenatal development and their effect on shaping our personalities and sexual characteristics. We also busted some 'no sex differences' myths and challenged the notion that male and female brains are identical.

As a distinguished professor of anthropology at Penn State, Dr. Puts specializes in unraveling the complexities of human sexuality, examining how sex hormones shape our sexual psychology, behavior, and anatomy. Join us in uncovering the fascinating journey of how these traits were intricately shaped by the forces of sexual selection and competition.

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This episode was recorded 3 months before the tragic events of October 7th.

Join me for an eye-opening podcast episode with Prof. Eran Halperin, as we dive into the realm of emotions within intergroup conflicts. Eran's extensive research illuminates how emotions drive and shape conflict dynamics, exploring the profound impact of emotions such as hatred, anger, fear, hope, despair, guilt, and empathy in these contentious conflicts.

We discuss the power of emotions as engines of human behavior within social contexts, and their influence on decision-making processes both at the government level and among the public. Eran illustrates the unique nature of discrete intergroup emotions and their concrete implications for conflict resolution dynamics. We shed light on the potential for emotional change and its capacity to transform political processes, emphasizing the need for understanding and managing collective emotional climates.

Throughout our conversation, we unravel the complexities of emotions like hatred, anger, fear, hope, despair, guilt, and empathy, exploring their destructive and constructive roles in conflicts. From the chronic nature of fear to the contrasting effects of hope and despair, we examine how these emotions perpetuate conflicts and hinder reconciliation efforts.

Eran's insights offer a glimmer of hope, revealing that the majority of both Jews and Arabs in Israel oppose violence. As we conclude, we delve into potential pathways for meaningful change through emotion regulation, drawing from Eran's research to understand how altering the collective emotional climate could pave the way for reconciliation between conflicting groups.

Eran Halperin is a professor of social psychology at the Hebrew University of Jerusalem, with expertise in peace and conflict studies. His research focuses on the role of emotions in intergroup conflicts, offering valuable insights into the dynamics that influence decision-making processes and conflict resolution strategies.

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