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Ep. 610: Harlan Coben, #1 New York Times bestselling thriller author with over 100 million books in print and many hit TV adaptations, talks about his new book, Plot Twist, messy first drafts, how fiction is memoir, and the simple trick that leaves him with no excuses. Episode highlights Why bestselling novelist, Harlan Coben, wrote a memoir about the writing life, and how the process differed from his other books. [04:33] “Fiction is memoir, and memoir is fiction.” [06:27] Whether you want to pursue writing, sculpting, or painting, it’s never too late. [16:38] Why characters don’t have to be likeable, and how “incremental ambition” helps you keep going. [32:00] Listener questions (and Harlan Coben’s answers) about modern technology in plotting, working with Reese Witherspoon, and book cover art [22:12] Mentioned in this Episode Plot Twist: Life, Craft, and the Messy First Draft by Harlan Coben (Amazon, Bookshop)  Harlan Coben’s novels Evaporated: Gone with the Gods podcast, about Japan’s “johatsu” (people who deliberately vanish)  NYT profile of Harlan Coben Haruki Murakami and the baseball game where he decided to write a novel Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I've come to see a great paradox at the heart of the "Open Door" stage: I want my daughters to know they're essential to my happiness, and also that my happiness doesn't depend on them. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A round-up of ideas for creating new morning habits, how to help your family form better morning habits, and why rethinking your daily routines can add more happiness and energy to your life. Episode highlights Get early morning light to reset your body clock (01:11) Set a bedtime alarm (04:49) Stop the morning snooze battle (09:42) Build a rest ritual of 3-5 calming actions done before bed(22:38) Mentioned in this Episode: Chasing the Sun by Linda Geddes (Amazon, Bookshop) Better Than Before (Amazon, Bookshop) Alarmy alarm clock app Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A brilliant hack for getting more help with dinner, why a quest is more fun than a jaunt, and how we feel about desks. Episode highlights: Try This At Home: Cultivate a magpie mind [07:10] Happiness Hack—Rename a chore to make it more appealing[16:00] Know Yourself Better— How do you like to work? [26:00] Demerits and Gold Stars: A sisterly trip to Dollywood [30:00] Mentioned in this Episode: Download the Creativity Bingo here Plot Twist: Life, Craft, and the Messy First Draft by Harlan Coben (Amazon, Bookshop) The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai (Amazon, Bookshop) SongTeller: My Life in Lyrics by Dolly Parton (Amazon, Bookshop) Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I get such pleasure of thinking about iconic super-star Brad Pitt paying tribute to Chuck Palahniuk, and realizing what a gift he’d been given for his work. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For “Move Happier,” Gretchen talks with Marielle Segarra, host of NPR’s Life Kit, about ditching the all-or-nothing rule, making the most of everyday activities, and the importance of smell and lighting. Episode highlights: Reduce friction: set out your gear the night before [00:00] The five-minute rule: tell yourself you only have to move for five minutes, and momentum carries you [00:00] Strength training basics: bodyweight moves like air squats and wall push-ups, no equipment needed [00:00] Why strength work matters for bone density, brain function, and joint health [00:00] Mentioned in this Episode: NPR Life Kit: How to move more this year, featuring Michelle Segarra and Katy Bowman NPR Life Kit: It’s ok to run slow AF, featuring Martinus Evans NPR Life Kit: Get into strength training NPR Life Kit: How to stop procrastinating and start exercising Move 26 in ‘26 resources Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We discuss the happiness of a trip with old friends, a way to reframe the task of taking our pills, and a surprising fact about GLP-1s. Episode highlights Something Making Us Happier—Say “I’ve made this plan, come if you can,” & reframe prescriptions as “I’m lucky to live when my health issues can be fixed,” not “I have to take lots of pills”[00:00] I’ve Been Meaning to Ask You: Perfume sales and GLP-1s[00:00] Spotlight on a Tool—Find the full collection of Darker Secrets of Adulthood: Uncomfortable Truths for Our Complex Lives on Substack [00:00] Mentioned in this Episode NYT: “Rise of GLP-1s Leaves Food Industry Holding Party-Size Bag” [Insert Link] Secrets of Adulthood (Gretchen’s Substack, including the Darker Secrets of Adulthood collection, Oct 21) [Insert Link] Secrets of Adulthood book [Insert Link] Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A listener shares a Know Yourself Better discovery, Elizabeth reports on what she learned from her Summer of Off-White Delight, and a recommendation for a new daily game. Episode highlights: Try This at Home— Figure out your Tendency  [02:10] Happier Highlights— Elizabeth’s verdict on her Summer of Off-White Delight  [15:34] Know Yourself Better: Listener describes her “new-pet regret” [21:30] Demerits and Gold Stars: Elizabeth’s Demerit: skipping posture exercises; Gretchen’s Gold Star: sticky notes [23:39] Mentioned in this Episode: ⁠Anthropeum, the daily Met art guessing game⁠ ⁠Try the Happier app monthly jump-start challenge⁠ (this month: 7 quick wins to clear the decks) Sister Light, Sister Dark by Jane Yolen (⁠Amazon⁠, ⁠Bookshop⁠)  ⁠Take the Four Tendencies quiz for free ⁠ Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft ⁠Learn more about Gretchen’s Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz.⁠ Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify. It helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aphorisms are short, sharp, and easy to remember, and here are four surprising examples of one of my own: "What seems important isn't always what is important." Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We revisit some of our favorite try-this-at-home tips for tapping into our five senses this fall. Some ideas might turn into new annual traditions; others might be fun for this year as a way to make the most of the season. Episode Highlights: Choose a signature color for little bursts of happiness [01:20] Celebrate a minor holiday with a fast, low-effort breakfast [06:38] Make a five senses portrait to notice what's familiar [11:10] Organize a tasting for whiskey, tea, chocolate, or vanilla ice cream [22:56] Collect gratitude leaves each Thanksgiving [24:07] Mentioned in this Episode: Better Than Before (Amazon, Bookshop) The Happiness Project (Amazon, Bookshop) Pantone color finder Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We discuss how we’re using whimsy to find the right date to celebrate our “How do we learn what everyone knows?” day, and listeners share their brilliant tips for elevating your home and how to stop working against yourself (or others). Episode highlights: Try this at home: Listeners propose imaginative dates for "What People Know" day [05:10] Four Tendencies Tips for Rebels: Personal policies, identity, and choosing instead of being told [15:55] Treat Your House like a Hotel—Add an outdoor shower or a backyard garden [01:35] Demerits and Gold Stars: Gretchen’s Demerit: stopped a health habit; Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Ferment statue in Kansas City [24:17] Mentioned in this Episode: Check out these new items in the Happiness Project Shop: Design Your Year (Deluxe Edition), Twelve-Day Countdown Calendar, Happiness Boost Tear-Away Deck Empire of Pain by Patrick Radden Keefe (Amazon, Bookshop)  In a Summer Season by Elizabeth Taylor (Amazon, Bookshop)  Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I've always loved Aesop's fables, but I've come to think the accepted morals don't always fit the stories. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Turn party-planning stress into fun with a theme, and why one person downplaying can lead the other to overreact. Episode highlights: Something Making Us Happier: Embrace a party theme. [00:40] I’ve Been Meaning to Tell You: Gretchen’s Perfume Party [10:42] I’ve Been Meaning to Ask You: Gretchen’s insight on a comment that Elizabeth’s son, Jack, made about communication [19:41] Mentioned in this episode: Move 26 in '26 bingo card in The Happier app PLOT TWIST by Harlan Coben (⁠Amazon⁠, ⁠Bookshop⁠) Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify — it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Here’s what we learned from our own Do-Spend September, and how to get a luxury-resort experience for a fraction of the cost. Plus: really, what can go in a microwave? Episode highlights: Try This at Home— Reflect on Do-Spend September  [03:10] Happiness Hack— Buy a hotel-pool day pass for a luxury "staycation" at a fraction of the cost of a room [11:24] Happiness Stumbling Block: Settling confusion on what can and can't go in the microwave [14:07] Demerits & Gold Stars: Elizabeth's demerit: not talking to friends on the phone enough; Gretchen's gold star: a surprise hoodie [21:33] Mentioned in this episode: Mercer Culinary bread knife Real Simple/Whirlpool guide to what you can microwave Empire of Pain by Patrick Radden Keefe (Amazon, Bookshop) Virginia Woolf by Mary Ann Caws (Amazon) Gretchen's free 7-Day Email Challenge, Boost Your Energy Through Movement PLOT TWIST by Harlan Coben Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify — it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Remembering the gracious words Dolly Parton used to decline a statue in her honor—and how that moment captured her humility, her love for Tennessee, and her commitment to doing good. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We revisit some of our most useful Four Tendencies conversations about Rebels, including listener advice for navigating school and ADHD, what actually motivates Rebels, and practical habit strategies shared by Rebels themselves. Mentioned in This Episode: The Four Tendencies in Action Workbook The Four Tendencies Quiz Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We discuss why we should make an effort to leave the house. Plus, a stumbling block related to “having a take,” and a simple hack for reconnecting with people. Episode highlights: Try This At Home—Why leaving the house, even briefly, has a big effect on happiness [06:42] Happiness Hack: a tip for reconnecting with people you haven't talked to in a while [15:30] Happiness Stumbling Block— We don't have to have an opinion on everything [21:00] Demerits and Gold Stars: Gretchen’s Demerit: Leaving her shoe in a cab—Gold Star to the cab company! Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Dinner at the Garland Hotel [23:56] Mentioned in this episode: Plot Twist: Life, Craft, and the Messy First Draft by Harlan Coben — upcoming book club pick  Kate Bowler's "Everything Happens" newsletter  Free 7-Day Email Challenge: Boost Your Energy Through Movement  Blacktail by Scott Hawkins (Amazon, Bookshop)  Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify — it helps other listeners find the show!Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Whether through science, personal observation, or humor, short statements of these human “laws” help us understand that world we live in. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What reality TV can teach us about miscommunication, plus a simple tool for dealing with shared work based on your tendency. Episode highlights: Something Making Us Happier: Elizabeth's first-ever September getaway to Nantucket, and Gretchen's trusty sweatshirt [00:33] I’ve Been Meaning to Tell You: A grammar rule Gretchen’s been pondering [08:33] Spotlight on a Tool: 13 strategies for handling shared work based on the Four Tendencies [17:09] A Lesson from Reality TV— How often are conflicts a simple miscommunication? [18:15] Mentioned in this Episode: 13 strategies for splitting chores by Tendency Take the free Four Tendencies quiz Audition by Katie Kitamura (Amazon, Bookshop) Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Clear clutter fast with a courtroom-inspired trick, and we discuss how Upholders might set boundaries for unwanted accountability partners.  Episode highlights: Try This at Home: A hack for decluttering by issuing an “order to show cause" [04:34] Idea for Do-Spend September— A listener’s Do-Spend September upgrade turns into a housewide "Upgrade Week" [01:57] Four Tendencies Tip: How Upholders might set boundaries with Obligers looking for accountability partners [12:11] Happiness Hack: A clever way to repurpose empty Altoid tins [09:54] Fun with the Five Senses: The nostalgia and whimsy of Jello [20:35] Demerits & Gold Stars: Elizabeth’s Demerit: fallen off on dog-walking duties; Gretchen’s Gold Star: reviewed many books and podcasts [24:26] Mentioned in this episode: Altoid Tin Organizer Insert Take the free Four Tendencies quiz Rest Jump-Start Challenge on the Happier app Dakota Born by Debbie Macomber (Amazon, Bookshop) Blaming by Elizabeth Taylor (Amazon, Bookshop) Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the World Cup illustrated, in the happy moments of scoring a goal or celebrating, we may find it hard to stay focused on our aims. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Not sticking to a habit that’s important to you? Dan Harris and Laurie Santos join Gretchen to share how to spot what's holding you back — and get moving again. Mentioned in This Episode: 10% Happier podcast  10% with Dan Harris app  The Happiness Lab podcast  Move 26 challenge & seasonal bingo card in the Happier app  The Move 26 in ‘26 Challenge Connect with us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft ⁠Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz⁠. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify — it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We revisit some of our most useful Four Tendencies listener questions, including how to help a Rebel stick to exercise, work with a Questioner boss, and keep Obliger people-pleasing from getting in the way of dating. Revisited Highlights: Episode 43: Listener Round-Up of the Four Tendencies Episode 120: Listener Questions about the Four Tendencies Episode 280: Questions from Listeners about the Four Tendencies Mentioned in This Episode: The Four Tendencies in Action Workbook  The Four Tendencies Quiz  Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We talk about how to avoid the mental trap of the “sunk-cost fallacy.” Plus, why it’s so hard to plan for emergencies and the biases that keep us from preparing for risk.  Episode highlights: Try This at Home: Avoid the sunk-cost fallacy—the mental trap that keeps us committed because of the time, money, or energy we’ve already spent [04:57] Happiness Hack: Create a personal reading syllabus with deadlines to help you read more [12:58] Happiness Stumbling Block: Six common biases that make it difficult to assess and prepare for rare but serious emergencies [16:03] Demerits and Gold Stars: Gretchen’s Demerit: Turning into a Knicks bore; Elizabeth’s Gold Star: To her friend Mindy for a new exercise experience [24:11] Mentioned in this episode: The Ostrich Paradox: Why We Underprepare for Disasters by Robert Meyer and Howard Kunreuther (Amazon, Bookshop) This Vast Enterprise: A New History of Lewis and Clark by Craig Fehrman (Amazon, Bookshop) Audition by Katie Kitamura (Amazon, Bookshop) Rolling utility cart Happier Labor Day resources Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Even after a person has died, we can continue to understand them in new ways. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We discuss how people know what to do in certain situations. Plus why you might–or might not–make friends at the gym.  Episode highlights: Something Making Us Happier: Elizabeth finds connection to our beloved father through reading history. Gretchen delights in discovering Jamie’s rock-skipping skills [00:48] I’ve Been Meaning to Ask You: How do people know what to do in certain situations? [07:29] Spotlight on a Tool: Check out my free 7-day email challenge designed to help you head into fall with more energy [13:03] I’ve Been Meaning to Ask You: Do you make friends at the gym? [14:40] Mentioned in this episode: This Vast Enterprise (Amazon, Bookshop) Check out Gretchen’s free 7-day movement challenge here Marcus Aurelius, Meditations (Amazon, Bookshop) Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why you might consider spending your vacation money on a home experience that you’ll enjoy for years, and why delegating tasks is more important–and harder–than it may seem. Episode highlights: Try This at Home: Why you might "spend out" on your space, instead of on vacation, to give yourself fun and comfort at home [02:35] Happiness Hack: A listener's three-system method for documenting daily life and family milestones [13:14] Happiness Stumbling Block: Why we avoid delegating and how to let go, especially during the empty-nest years [17:25] Demerits & Gold Stars: Elizabeth’s Demerit: still need to visit the Encino Mah Jong parlor; Gretchen’s Gold Star: Winsteads! The ice! The lacy burgers!  [25:57] Mentioned in this episode: Lake Effect by Cynthia D'Aprix Sweeney (Amazon, Bookshop) I, Robot by Isaac Asimov (Amazon, Bookshop) Check out Gretchen's free quizzes here Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

With a simple answer of “Zero-zero,” Jalen Brunson communicated the attitude of his team as they pushed toward the NBA Championship. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

September is the other January. We revisit seven of our favorite habit strategies to help you get back into your routines after summer and build habits that actually stick. Episode Highlights: Episode 360: Want to Change a Habit? Start with These 7 Strategies Mentioned in this Episode: Back-to-Routine resources The 21 Strategies for Habit Formation Better Than Before Checklist for Habit Change Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A counterpart to No-Spend February, "Do-Spend September" helps us spend what we have. We also share a five-senses hack for planning vacations that are much more fun. Episode highlights: Try This at Home: Observe a "Do-Spend September," the counterpart to No-Spend February [03:06] Fun with the Five Senses: We share a listener's Five Senses hack for turning a familiar long weekend into a fresh, memorable vacation [15:55] Happiness Hack: The joys of a dolly. [12:28] Demerits and Gold Stars: Gretchen’s Demerit: dust bunnies in the office; Elizabeth’s Gold Star: Marathon Month at Orange Theory [20:08] Mentioned in this episode: Design Your Summer tool & Summer Recap feature Adult Braces: Driving Myself Sane by Lindy West (Amazon, Bookshop) Virginia Woolf Diaries, Vol. 4 (Amazon) Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

An exchange between Knicks teammates Jalen Brunson and Josh Hart illustrates the fact that sometimes, we’re better off treating a painful subject with lighthearted humor rather than sympathetic silence. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's time to clear the decks for September. Here are 26 quick tasks to get you moving while you refresh your space for fall. Mentioned in This Episode: The Move 26 in ‘26 Challenge: https://gretchenrubin.com/move26in26/ Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When relaxing feels like wasting time, you can trick yourself into enjoying it anyway. Plus, 16 things to try for happier, calmer parenting.  Episode highlights: Something Making Us Happier: Gretchen shares Chuck's tip for an ultra-quiet desk fan, plus more things we didn’t know [00:00] I’ve Been Meaning to Ask You: We don’t personally like tattoos, but what would we get?[00:00] Spotlight on a Tool—Gretchen's article on 16 things to try instead of yelling, just in time for back-to-school [00:00] I’ve Been Meaning to Tell You: When rest feels like wasting time, you might have to trick yourself [00:00] Mentioned in this episode: Rowenta Ultra Quiet Desk Fan: https://amzn.to/3TEZgEZ "How to Be a Happier, Calmer Parent: 16 Things to Try Instead of Yelling": happiercast.com/parenting Burning the Days by James Salter Connect with us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify — it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listeners share the insights and suggestions that have resonated with them most over the past 600 episodes. Mentioned in this episode: Power Hour (Apple, Spotify)  Ta-Da Lists (Apple, Spotify)  Outer Order, Inner Calm (Amazon, Bookshop)  Reframing (Apple, Spotify) The Strategy of Pairing (Apple, Spotify) Half-Way Day (Apple, Spotify) Why Scheduling is Life (Apple, Spotify) My America Feeling (Apple, Spotify) Tackle One Big Hard Task (Apple, Spotify) The Right Thing to Say When Someone Makes a Bad Mistake (Apple, Spotify) The Four Tendencies  Gretchen’s Halloween Photo Display  Read 21 in 2021  Are You a Tree Person or a Book Person? (Apple, Spotify) Are you an Abstainor or a Moderator?  Pick a Yearly Theme (Apple, Spotify) Five Things Making Me Happy Newsletter  5 Senses Portrait (Apple, Spotify) The Gift of the Ped Egg (Apple, Spotify) 21 Strategies for Habit Formation  Know Yourself Better (Apple, Spotify) Establish Your Personal Policy (Apple, Spotify) Choose the Bigger Life (Apple, Spotify) Warm Hellos and Good-byes (Apple, Spotify) A Quest is More Fun than a Jaunt  Celebrate Doggust (Apple, Spotify) Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

NBA star Jalen Brunson gives a surprising answer to the question, “What play best embodies this entire title run?” Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We revisit one of our favorite happiness ideas: Treat Yourself Like a _____. Over the years, we've explored many variations on this theme, including treating yourself like a toddler, a dog, a teenager, and a professor. Sometimes it's easier to recognize what we need when we imagine we're taking care of someone else. Revisited Highlights: Episode 7: Treat Yourself Like a Toddler Episode 243: Treat Yourself Like a Dog Episode 438: Treat Yourself Like a Teenager Episode 467: Treat Yourself Like a Professor Get 20% off with code HAPPIER20: Know Yourself Better Journal  Embracing Change Journal  Building Connections Journal  Connect with Us Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why you should treat your home like a hotel, and a common blindspot that can lead to unnecessary conflict. Plus a relationship hack. Episode highlights: Try This at Home: treat your home like a hotel—declutter, fix small annoyances, and add small touches of luxury. [03:10] Happiness Hack: A listener shares a tip on making helpful introductions [11:14] Happiness Stumbling Block: Are you arguing that you are “right,” when you’re really talking about preferences?  [04:20] Demerits & Gold Stars: Gretchen's demerit: not taking away her old camera; Elizabeth's gold star: to her son Jack for his first solo flight [21:47] Mentioned in this episode: Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin The “Strategy of the Lightning Bolt”  Secrets of Adulthood by Gretchen Rubin  Good Time Girls by Lael Morgan (Amazon, Bookshop)  House of Suns by Alastair Reynolds (Amazon, Bookshop) Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Many players and teams struggle during clutch time—but not every player or team faces that challenge. Never assume that your problems are the same as other people’s.  Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gretchen shares a recent insight on feeling "anonymous" versus "present." We also discuss a lesson for Upholders and gift-worthy pop-up books. Episode Highlights Something Making Us Happier—Elizabeth's new Wordle streak milestone and Gretchen’s favorite pop-up books [00:36] I’ve Been Meaning to Tell You— Gretchen’s insight on feeling “anonymous” vs. “present.” And a lesson for Upholders [12:01] Spotlight on a Tool: Sign up for Gretchen’s Five Things newsletter! [12:44] Mentioned in This Episode Robert Sabuda pop-up books: Peter Pan (Amazon, Bookshop)  Alice's Adventures in Wonderland (Amazon)  The Wonderful Wizard of Oz (Amazon)  Winter's Tale (Amazon, Bookshop)  The Night Before Christmas (Amazon) The Twelve Days of Christmas (Amazon, Bookshop) America the Beautiful (Amazon, Bookshop)  Peter Dahmen Pop Up Sculptures  Sign up for Gretchen's free newsletter, Five Things Making Me Happy  Connect with Us Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Treat yourself like…a person of interest” and try a month-long “self-stakeout” to track your habits. We also share an easy way to convert Celsius to Fahrenheit in your head. Plus we discuss three broad categories of empty nesters.  Episode highlights: Try This At Home— Do a "self-stakeout": Imagine you're a detective and tail yourself for a month. What will you find? [06:43] Happiness Hack— An easy trick for converting Celsius to Fahrenheit [12:08] Know Yourself Better: We discuss three "empty nester" types: Relaxers, Rekindlers, and Reinventors [13:44] Demerits & Gold Stars: Elizabeth’s Demerit: not reading as much this summer as planned; Gretchen’s Gold Star: staying calm during a keyboard malfunction [20:23] Mentioned in this Episode: This American Ex-Wife: How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life by Lyz Lenz (Amazon, Bookshop)  The Diary of Virginia Woolf, Vol. 3 by Virginia Woolf (Amazon, Bookshop) Free bingo cards and other resources  Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

George Orwell’s observation about work performed by machines is very relevant to our discussions of AI. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We revisit listener-favorite hacks for cultivating summer fun. If you want to make the most of the weeks ahead, these practical ideas can help you add more fun, adventure, and whimsy to everyday life. Revisited Highlights: Episode 146: Introduce a note of whimsy Episode 178: Schedule a weekly playdate with yourself Episode 98: Give yourself a quest Episode 477: Embrace fun plans Mentioned in This Episode: Share your Summer Recap in the Happier App Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

August is “Dogust,” so we talk about celebrating the dogs in our lives. Plus, we answer a listener question about our reading habits. Episode Highlights: Try This at Home: Celebrate "Dogust" with five easy ways to celebrate your dog [06:10] Four Tendencies Tip: We share strategies for helping a parent Upholder who is struggling to maintain her habits [15:23] Happiness Hack: Why a backpacking pack might be a better travel alternative to your roller bag [12:48] Listener Question: How do we get so much reading done? [19:57] Demerits & Gold Stars: Gretchen’s demerit: stalling out on family timeline project; Elizabeth’s Gold Star: all the monoculture events this summer [25:00] Mentioned in This Episode: Dog cave bed  Patagonia Black Hole Convertible Carry-On Backpack  This American Ex-Wife: How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life by Lyz Lenz (Amazon, Bookshop)  Permanence by Sophie Mackintosh (Amazon, Bookshop) Secrets of Adulthood Substack  Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A classic children’s fable is very relevant to the work of adults. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A viral clip shows two NBA stars turning a painful mistake into a moment of friendship through humor. We also discuss a surprisingly divisive topic: coasters. Episode highlights: Something Making Us Happier: Running a mile in under 12 minutes, and weird soda flavors [00:41] I've Been Meaning to Tell You: How "joshing" and affectionate teasing helped two Knicks teammates reframe a painful playoff moment [03:57] Spotlight on a Tool: Sign up for my free newsletter for "Five Things to Try" [10:31] Are Coasters Still Useful? A listener argues coasters are outdated.  [11:21] Mentioned in this episode: Jalen Brunson Trolls Josh Hart Missing Dunk Before OG's Tip-In -  Bleacher Report  Sign up for Gretchen's free newsletter, "Five Things to Try This Month"  Subscribe to Lemonada Premium for ad-free listening  Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify — it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listeners share the "everyone knows that" facts they learned the hard way and we share an important warning about falls.  Episode highlights: Listener Follow-Up: Remember that even a small fall can lead to a big injury. [00:57] Lessons Learned the Hard Way—spare tires, elevator exit stars, gas tank arrows, and more [02:42] Try This at Home: We share listeners' examples of facts everyone else seemed to know--but they didn't. [15:05] Demerits & Gold Stars: Elizabeth’s demerit: late to fill out school health forms; Gretchen’s gold star: to Elizabeth’s family for making the long trip for the 4th of July  [27:35] Mentioned in this episode: Food & Wine: What the Color of Your Bread Tag Really Means  Gretchen's Reading Retreat guide: happiercast.com/readingretreat Who Needs Friends by Andrew McCarthy (Amazon, Bookshop)  Virginia Woolf's Diary, Vol. 3 (Amazon, Bookshop)  Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s very draining to deal with someone who complains and rejects any help that’s offered—but effective responses exist. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We revisit a favorite Try This at Home tip for getting more reading done, share listener hacks for building a happier reading life, and discuss how to discover books you'll love. Plus: recommendations for fascinating books about how things work. Revisited Highlights: Try This at Home: Read More (episode 121) Happiness Hacks: Listener Question: How to Find Good Books to Read (episode 428) Listener Recommendations: Books on How Things Work (episode 481) Mentioned in This Episode: Tips for Reading More from “Better Than Before” Gretchen’s Favorite Children’s and Young-Adult Books The New York Times Book Review Podcast Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take Gretchen's free Four Tendencies quiz → gretchenrubin.com/quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Gretchen and Elizabeth discuss why we should always RSVP, and how to stop a simple gathering from, over time, becoming too much work. Episode Highlights: Try This at Home: Always RSVP — Why responding promptly (even with a "no") makes us a better guest [05:49] Happiness Hack: Try a bag organizer insert — A simple way to keep a carry-on, tote, or structureless bag tidy and travel-ready. [14:22] Happiness Stumbling Block: Presentation Creep — How over-delivering can gradually turn a casual get-together into something burdensome.  [16:00] Listener Update: Hearing Aids — Listeners share how hearing aids changed their lives, plus a practical tip on using Apple AirPods Pro as a starter hearing test. [01:44] Demerits & Gold Stars — Gretchen’s demerit: not enough watercoloring; Elizabeth’s gold star: for the friend who created "Trail and Talk" [21:29] Mentioned in This Episode: Bag organizer insert: [https://amzn.to/4oc1oPO] Five-Senses Journal (20% off with code HAPPIER20): More Than Enough by Anna Quindlen (Amazon, Bookshop) The Things We Never Say by Elizabeth Strout (Amazon, Bookshop) Listen to our Bookclub interview with Elizabeth Strout here! Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Take the free Four Tendencies quiz Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify — it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A haunting story from ancient Rome remains relevant to our lives today. Connect with Us: Email: podcast@gretchenrubin.com Website: gretchenrubin.com Instagram: @gretchenrubin | @lizcraft Learn more about Gretchen's Four Tendencies personality framework and take the free quiz. Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or rate us on Spotify—it helps other listeners find the show! Find the transcript for this episode on the episode details page in the Apple Podcasts app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices