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What if the reason you don't feel sexy has nothing to do with your body?

In this powerful conversation with body image coach Sarah Simpson, also known as "Sarah in Yellow", we unpack why so many women postpone confidence, love, pleasure, photoshoots, dating, and even great sex until they finally lose the weight. Sarah shares her journey from obsessive dieting and eating disorders to discovering that true confidence comes from building a life that excites you—not shrinking yourself to fit someone else's standards.

If you've ever thought, "I'll be happy when...", this episode is for you.

🎧 Listen now and discover why feeling sexy starts long before your body changes.

In this episode, Sarah and I explore:

• Why so many women tie their worth and attractiveness to a number on the scale
• What happened when Sarah finally achieved her "dream body" and still felt unhappy
• The childhood experiences that quietly shape body image for decades
• Why your belly is probably not the real problem
• The hidden connection between body confidence, self-worth, and sexuality
• How body image affects dating, intimacy, and feeling desirable
• Why women become obsessed with fixing their bodies
• The surprising reason confidence feels easier for some women than others
• How to stop making happiness conditional on your appearance
• Why exciting experiences and a fulfilling life make your appearance matter less
• The role of nervous system safety in confidence and self-love
• How retreats, travel, and new experiences can accelerate healing
• The concept of becoming "the coolest person you know"
• Why fear is not a good enough reason to stay stuck
• The real secret to feeling sexy in the body you have today

Connect with Sarah:

→ Instagram: www.instagram.com/sarahinyellow/
→ Website: www.sarahinyellow.com

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What can a professional dominatrix teach us about power, pleasure, surrender, and feminine embodiment? A lot more than you might think.

In this fascinating episode of Get Sexy With Shari, I sit down with professional dominatrix, embodiment coach, relationship coach, and fellow VITA™ coach Brittany Swanson to explore the often misunderstood world of domination and submission.

What started as a conversation about BDSM quickly evolved into a much deeper discussion about feminine power, communication, self-responsibility, pleasure, and the many archetypes available to us as women.

Together we explore why so many successful women crave surrender, why powerful men often seek submission, and how both dominance and surrender can become pathways toward deeper intimacy and self-discovery.

We also dive into sensual domination—a style of dominance centered around presence, anticipation, embodiment, breath, and connection rather than force or control.

In this episode, we discuss:

• How Brittany became a professional dominatrix
• What domination actually is (and what it isn't)
• The biggest misconceptions about BDSM
• Why so many women long to surrender
• Why successful men are often drawn to submission
• The role of communication in creating safety and pleasure
• How to discover what you actually want in the bedroom
• Why your pleasure is your responsibility
• Sensual domination versus humiliation-based domination
• The power of anticipation, presence, and embodiment
• The Queen archetype and how to embody feminine authority
• Practical ways to explore your dominant side as a woman

Connect with Brittaney:

→ Instagram: @alwaysbembodied

Let’s Stay Connected
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→ Website: www.sharivandecraen.com

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In this episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I’m joined by Erotic Blueprints™ coach and sex, love & relationship mentor Sarah Ward to bust one of the biggest myths about desire:
👉 If you’re not in the mood, it doesn’t mean you’re broken. It might just mean you’re speaking a different erotic language.

We unpack the 5 Erotic Blueprints™ — a revolutionary framework created by Jaiya - that helps you understand your turn-ons, overcome shame, and stop expecting yourself (or your partner) to fit into a one-size-fits-all sexual script.

What We Dive Into:

• Why your sex drive might feel “off” — and why that’s totally normal
• The 5 Erotic Blueprints™: Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky & Shapeshifter
• How partners with different blueprints can stop clashing and start connecting
• What it really means when you shut down, feel too much, or feel not enough in bed
• How to feed your own desire so you’re not waiting for someone else to turn you on

Whether you’re single, in partnership, or somewhere in between — this episode will leave you feeling seen, turned on, and empowered to explore your pleasure in a way that actually works for you.

🔗 Resources & Links

Take the free Erotic Blueprints™ quiz: https://go.theblueprintbreakthrough.net/t?orid=1043477&opid=4
Follow Sarah Ward on Instagram: www.instagram.com/sarahward.co/

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And don’t forget to subscribe — next week’s guest is going to blow your mind in all the right ways.

xoxo Shari

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In this raw and radically honest episode, I sit down with conscious dating and empowerment coach Alexa Lynn to explore how to date with intention, embodiment, and confidence—even in a world that constantly rushes us into the next thing.

Together, we unravel what it means to pause after a breakup, stop being the CEO of the story factory, and let your authentic woman drive the car instead of the people-pleasing “nice girl.” We also explore the powerful R-B-D-S-M framework for clear, sexy, and safe communication before becoming intimate.

And yes—there’s a pre-date pleasure ritual to help you shift from “Will they like me?” to “I am the prize.” You’ll want to try this one.

🔥 In This Episode, We Cover:

• Why healing after a breakup is a sacred responsibility to yourself and your next partner
  
  
• How to stop repeating old patterns and start dating from a place of truth
  
  
• Alexa’s signature R-B-D-S-M tool to have intentional, magnetic conversations about intimacy
  
  
• The difference between a “nice girl” and an authentic woman
  
  
• A sensual embodiment practice to ground into your worth before a date
  
  
  

Connect with Alexa Lynn
🔗 Website: www.notanicegirl.com
 📸 Instagram: @alexalynncoaching

💌 Let’s Connect:

• Follow me on Instagram: @sharivandecraen
• Want to work with me or explore my courses? Head to www.sharivandecraen.com

⭐ If You Loved This Episode…

Please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and share it with a friend who needs this. Your support helps the podcast grow and keeps these powerful conversations going.

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In this intimate episode of Get Sexy with Shari, I sit down with one of my Tantric Teachers and Communication Queen Arja Hendrikx to talk about one of the most important (and most avoided) skills in intimacy: speaking up in the bedroom.

We dive into why so many women stay silent during sex, how to express what you want without killing the mood, and why real pleasure starts with honest, embodied communication. You’ll walk away with practical tools, mindset shifts, and maybe even the permission you’ve been waiting for.

Whether you're in a long-term relationship or newly dating, this episode will help you feel more confident, connected, and deeply met in your intimate experiences.

🔥 In This Episode, We Talk About:

• Why so many women fake pleasure—and how to stop
• How to communicate before, during, and after sex
• Speaking up without being “too much” or “too needy”
• Using body language when words feel hard
• How your desires can be sexy, playful, and clear
• Turning communication into connection (and foreplay!)

Connect with Arja:
Connect with Arja on Instagram for her latest offerings and courses: @arja_hendrikx or via ww.instagram.com/templeofradiance/

Let’s Connect:

• Follow me on Instagram: @sharivandecraen
• Want to work with me or explore my courses? Head to www.sharivandecraen.com

If You Loved This Episode…
Please subscribe, leave a 5-star review, and share it with a friend who needs this. Your support helps the podcast grow and keeps these powerful conversations going.

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Welcome back to Get Sexy with Shari — the podcast that turns you on to the life, love, and sex you actually crave.

In today’s juicy episode, I sit down with erotic ecstasy and sex & relationship expert Leen S to talk about long-term love, polarity, emotional safety, and what it really means to stay sexy and connected — even when your partner isn’t “doing the work.”

Whether you’re in a relationship that feels off… or you’ve been told you’re “too much”… or you’re just tired of doing all the emotional labor — this episode is your permission slip to drop the pressure and come back home to your body.

We explore:

• What to do when your partner isn’t growing with you (without nagging or shrinking)
• How to inspire change in your relationship through embodiment, not force
• Why polarity (Alpha & Omega energy) is the missing link in long-term attraction
• The power of slow, sacred sex — and how to unlock your cervix for cosmic pleasure
• What it means to become your own best mother, father, and lover
  
  

PS: stay tuned until the end where Leen guides you through a gorgeous embodiment practice to feel your Alpha and Omega energies inside of you.

Connect with Leen:
🌹 Instagram: /www.instagram.com/leen.s.coaching/
🌹 Join her program “Unstoppable Lovers”: a 4 months deep and sexy journey for couples: https://leen-s.com/unstoppable-lovers/

🌹 Catch her free free masterclass for couples “Deeper” : https://leen-s.com/deeper/ 

🌹Sensational Love Night - a tantric date night for couples: https://leen-s.com/sensational-love-night/

Want more? Here’s how to dive deeper with me:
 Feel alive and turned-on by embracing and awakening your sensual side through “Sensual Reclamation for just 21 euros: https://www.sharivandecraen.com/sensual-reclamation 

Let’s stay sexy together.
Leave a review, share the love, and tag me on IG @shari.vandecraen when you listen — I LOVE hearing your takeaways.

xoxo

Shari 💋

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In this powerful first episode, I pull back the curtain on my own sensual awakening—how I went from shame, disconnection, and performative sex… to full-body pleasure, body confidence, and unapologetic turn-on.

I share the real, raw moments that changed everything:

• The day I realized I’d lived 27 years in my body without knowing what that actually meant
• Why I used to fake orgasms (and how I stopped performing)
• How slowing down through self-pleasure became a doorway to reclaiming my feminine power
• What it really means to become a sensual woman—one who leads with embodiment instead of approval-seeking
• And why you’re not broken—you’ve just been taught to disconnect from your body

If you’ve ever thought “something’s wrong with me” or “I should just try harder”… this episode will hit you straight in the soul.

💋 In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why your body isn’t the problem—the pressure is
• How to begin feeling sexy again, without needing to “fix” yourself
• The truth about performance vs. presence in intimacy
• How self-pleasure can reconnect you to your truth, your power, and your voice

🔗 Links & Resources

• Follow me on Instagram: @shari.vandecraen
• Visit my website: www.sharivandecraen.com
• Explore your Sensual self with just 21 euros: www.sharivandecraen.com/sensual-reclamation

🎧 Subscribe & Leave a Review

If this episode stirred something in you, please take a moment to subscribe, leave a review, and share with a friend who needs to hear this.
 This is how we unleash a generation of turned-on women together.

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Most women feel pressure when asked what they like in bed—because they don’t actually know. In this episode, I share eye-opening insights from 20 women about why communication in the bedroom feels so difficult. We’ll unpack where we really learn about sex (hint: it’s not what you think it is), how to start discovering your turn-ons.

And in true Get Sexy with Shari-style, we'll end with a gentle pleasure practice to find pleasure in non-genital areas of your body. You can only ask for pleasure when you truly know what it is that you want. So let's get to it.

JUICY SHOW NOTES

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“Healthy relationships are not conflict-free relationships. They are relationships that know how to repair.” 

What if the biggest relationship struggles you experience today… are rooted in patterns you learned before the age of 7?

In this deeply honest and eye-opening conversation, I sit down with internationally acclaimed relationship expert, bestselling author, TEDx speaker, and founder of Relearn Love, Eri Kardos, to explore the relationship skills most of us were never taught: emotional safety, conflict repair, conscious communication, nervous system awareness, intimacy, and how to stop repeating the same painful cycles in love. 

We dive into:

•  Why couples keep having the same fights
• The hidden patterns underneath conflict
• How childhood conditioning shapes adult relationships
• Emotional triggers, nervous system safety & repair
• Walking on eggshells in relationships
• Conscious communication tools that actually work
• Why your sex life reflects your communication patterns
• The “sandbox vs bench” analogy for navigating triggers
• The importance of proactive relationship check-ins
• How to create deeper intimacy without pressure
• The “Love Lab” practice to transform connection & pleasure

One of my favorite parts of this episode is when Eri explains that most couples are trying to solve the problem before creating emotional safety first and how learning to repair instead of react can completely change your relationship. 

We also talk about:

•  conscious marriage & yearly relationship renewals 
•  how triggers show up in friendships, family, leadership & business 
•  why healthy love is a learnable skill 
•  and how to stop making your partner “the enemy.” 

If you’ve ever:

•  struggled to express your truth 
•  feared conflict 
•  felt emotionally unsafe 
•  repeated the same relationship patterns 
•  walked on eggshells 
•  wanted deeper intimacy & connection 
•  or wondered why love can feel so hard...

…this episode is going to shift something in you.

Connect with Eri Kardos

• Website: https://www.relearnlove.com
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/relearnlove/ 
• Take Eri's free quiz: www.RelearnLove.com/quiz
• Message Eri Kardos via her Instagram to get 50% off a 1:1 session to decode your pattern and get clarity on how to break the pattern.

Let’s Stay Connected
→ Instagram: @shari.vandecraen
→ Website: www.sharivandecraen.com

⭐️ If You Loved This Episode…

Please take 60 seconds to leave a 5-star rating and review. It helps more and more people find this powerful work and reclaim their sensuality. Thank you for being here.

Follow me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/shari.vandecraen

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Visit my website for freebies and my latest courses: www.sharivandecraen.com

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“The way you make love to yourself is the way you make love to others.”

What if the way you’ve been experiencing pleasure… is only scratching the surface?

Masturbation May is your invitation to completely rewrite the way you relate to pleasure.

In this raw solo episode, I share how rushed, hidden self-pleasure patterns shape your entire sex life—and how to shift into slow, embodied, deeply fulfilling experiences that transform how you show up with lovers.

Here’s the reality about masturbation:

Most of us learned self-pleasure in secrecy: fast, quiet and goal-oriented. And without realizing it we bring those exact same patterns into our sex lives.

In this episode, I share my personal journey: from rushing, and disconnected self-pleasure to slow, embodied, deeply fulfilling experiences and how this shift completely transformed the way I show up as a lover.

This is your invitation to move beyond performance and into real pleasure.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

•  Why the way you touch yourself directly impacts your sex life 
•  How early self-pleasure patterns shape intimacy and connection 
•  The difference between functional “masturbation” and embodied self-pleasure 
•  How to shift from chasing orgasm to experiencing full-body pleasure 
•  The role of breath, sound, and movement in expanding sensation 
•  Why your entire body—not just your genitals—is a source of pleasure 
•  How understanding your “lover type” changes your experience of intimacy 
•  What it means to actively receive pleasure (instead of just “lying there”)

Go Deeper

• Discover your unique pleasure style via this quiz: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/69007dca95bebc00150dc3db
• Explore my offers via www.sharivandecraen.com

If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you. Send me a DM on Instagram @shari.vandecraen or share this episode with someone who needs to hear this.

And if you loved it: don’t forget to leave a review, love.

xoxo Your Pleasure Expert
Shari Van de Craen 💋

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