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| Is Being Gay Your Entire Identity? (The Hidden Cost of Over-Identification) | 12 Mar 2026 | 00:25:24 | |
What does it actually mean to identify as gay? For many of us, claiming the word “gay” was liberating. It gave us language, belonging, community, and pride. It helped us make sense of our experiences and find people who understood us. But is there a point where identification turns into over-identification? In this episode, we unpack some big questions:
We explore the benefits and the drawbacks of tying ourselves closely to any identity — and how over-identifying can sometimes shrink us rather than expand us. This conversation isn’t about minimizing being gay. It’s about integrating it. About moving from performance to embodiment. From label to lived experience. Today's Hosts:
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| Is Romance Dead in Gay Culture? | 05 Mar 2026 | 00:51:54 | |
In a world of swipes, situationships, and high-intensity connections, romance can start to feel obsolete — replaced by sexual energy, emotional guardedness, or the safety of detachment. And yet many of us still long for thoughtfulness, depth, being chosen and choosing in return. In this episode, we explore why that part of us often gets buried under performance, fear of rejection, and modern dating norms — and what it actually takes to lead with romance instead of intensity. We talk about:
This conversation is both a reality check and an ode to the intentional, courageous, thoughtful part of ourselves that still believes in romance. Today's Hosts:
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| Single and Ready to Mingle | 01 Jan 2026 | 00:51:03 | |
In this episode, Michael and Matt get personal about what we love about being single, how we knew we were ready to start dating again, and what we want to experience differently this time around. We talk about flirting on apps, dating in 2026, and all the messy, exciting parts of putting yourself back out there when you’re ready to mingle. Some of the topics we cover in this episode are: • Getting back into the dating world • When your nervous system tries to hijack your dating life • Red flags and green flags • What we’re actually looking for in a man now (and how that has changed) It’s cheeky, honest, and surprisingly insightful. If you’re single (or single-ish), you’ll feel right at home. Today's Hosts:
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| The Power of Self-Compassion | 11 Apr 2024 | 00:57:03 | |
In this episode, we explore the profound power of self-compassion on our emotional well-being. As we share our own experiences and favorite lessons on this topic, you will discover what self-compassion truly means and practical ways to integrate it into your daily life. Some of the topics we cover in this episode:
If you are looking for practical ways to process emotional pain, while acknowledging and overcoming barriers that hinder self-love and acceptance, this episode is for you. Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Healing Through The Subconscious Mind | 04 Apr 2024 | 01:05:29 | |
In this episode, Matt speaks with Intuitive Energy Healer, Scott Clover about the subconscious mind and healing. Scott shares his wisdom on how to evoke the childhood imagination for healing past victimhood so we can move forward into self-esteem. Scott explains how to speak to the body for healing and also shares tips and a few experiential exercises to use to prepare the subconscious mind for transformation. Come learn how to practice self-acceptance and forgiveness for yourself through self-compassion and subconscious healing techniques through an intuitive lens. The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:
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| Caring For Your Body | 28 Mar 2024 | 00:48:15 | |
In this episode, we are exploring the multifaceted aspects of caring for your body from the inside out. In gay culture, it’s easy to overemphasize aesthetics when it comes to any discussion of our bodies. But our bodies are more than just their external appearances. Today we are flipping the script and offering a refreshing perspective on self-care practices. Some of the topics we’ll be covering today are:
By adding in our own personal anecdotes, we hope to inspire you to cultivate a more loving and compassionate relationship with your body. Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| The Anxious Gay Mind | 21 Mar 2024 | 01:05:20 | |
In this episode, Michael and Pepper of The Gay Good are exploring the unique stressors that contribute to anxiety in the lives of gay men. They’re sharing personal experiences, coaching tools, coping mechanisms, and insights on how we can support each other through the challenges of anxiety. Some of the topics we cover in today’s episode:
Tune in for this candid conversation filled with insights and strategies for navigating anxiety as a gay man. Today’s Guest: Pepper Resources:
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| Body Shaming | 14 Mar 2024 | 01:08:41 | |
Join us as we have a candid and crucial conversation about body shaming within the gay community. We’re sharing personal experiences while shedding light on the layers of societal expectations and standards that often impact self-perception. We’ll look at the historical context of body image for gay men and its evolution over the years. From the quest for the "ideal" physique to the influence of media and apps, we’re sharing personal stories and providing insightful perspectives on the numerous factors that contribute to body image struggles among gay men. Some of the topics we’re exploring in this episode:
As always we’ll also be sharing ideas for solutions as we discuss the role of media representation, the importance of supportive communities, and the need for collective action to challenge harmful stereotypes. Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Mentoring the Next Generation of Gay Men | 07 Mar 2024 | 01:09:54 | |
In this episode, Matt speaks with leadership and culture consultant, speaker, coach, and best-selling author Joe Makston about mentoring the next generation of gay men. They both share their experiences with leadership/mentorship in their process of coming out. They also unpack how to best become mentors for the next generation so we can end the intense suffering our community endures. It’s through our own healing that we can lead others in their healing; this conversation shines light on how we can best do this as a community. The questions and concepts discussed in this episode are:
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| Unleash Your Inner Sexy | 29 Feb 2024 | 00:55:39 | |
Get ready to turn up the heat on this sexy episode of Gay Men Going Deeper as we explore the nuances of what makes you feel sexy from the inside out, and how that authentic allure is perceived by others. From owning your personal style to embracing your quirks, we're revealing the secrets to unlocking your inner sexiness. Some of the topics we’ll be covering:
This is not just about the mirror selfie and Instagram likes – we'll delve into the psychology behind feeling sexy and how it transcends physical appearance. Learn tips and tricks for boosting your self-esteem and exuding that magnetic energy that draws others in. Join us as we celebrate our inner sexiness and inspire you to shine confidently in your own skin. Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| When It’s Time To Say Goodbye | 22 Feb 2024 | 00:35:19 | |
How do you know when it’s time to say goodbye? Whether it’s a relationship or job or a living situation, the best goodbyes are the ones that come from a place of love, not destruction. In today’s episode, Michael and Star are opening up about their painful decision to close the chapter on their romantic relationship. Some of the topics they’ll cover in this episode are:
Goodbyes are a natural part of life and this episode encourages the idea that goodbyes can be good and peaceful. You can leave a situation full of gratitude and peace rather than resentment and destruction. Connect with Michael: Connect with Star: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Attraction to Straight Guys | 15 Feb 2024 | 00:57:06 | |
As gay guys, our relationship with straight men can be quite complicated. In this episode, we’re exploring the complex connection between gay-straight male bonds, from platonic friendship to secret attractions. We'll also discuss common misconceptions and challenges that can arise when navigating these dynamics. Some of the topics we’ll be covering are:
Whether you're a gay or straight, join us for this episode about exploring the nuances of gay-straight male connections. Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Narcissism in the Gay Community | 08 Feb 2024 | 01:09:05 | |
In this episode, Matt speaks with Ken Reid, an attachment and trauma informed counsellor, about narcissism in the gay community. They unpack the intricacies of this topic from both perspectives; understanding the narcissistic person, as well as those who attract these types of people into their lives. Come learn what causes narcissism, how to deal with narcissistic people, and what you can do to heal the parts of you that are attracting narcissistic people. The questions we will be unpacking in today's episode are:
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| When Attraction Fades | 25 Dec 2025 | 00:24:47 | |
Why does attraction fade… and what can we do about it? In this episode we get real about attraction in long-term relationships. The spark doesn’t always burn forever, and losing sexual interest doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. We talk about why attraction naturally shifts over time and how couples can ignite intimacy. We explore:
Join us for a real conversation on attraction, intimacy, and what keeps the spark alive over time. Today's Hosts:
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| Boy Crazy: Navigating Attraction and Crushes | 01 Feb 2024 | 00:54:56 | |
In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re exploring a more playful and flirtatious side of ourselves as we dive headfirst into the captivating realm of crushes and attraction. Being "boy crazy," may seem frivolous but, today we are unfolding the intricate layers of emotions and experiences that come with navigating attraction. As always, we are using our personal experiences to explore the unique dynamics of attraction, the thrill of infatuation, and the challenges that come with it. The questions we’re unpacking today are:
Join us for a candid conversation about the exciting, nerve-wracking, and sometimes surprising journeys of having a crush. Whether it's the electrifying feeling of butterflies or the vulnerability of unrequited love, this episode embraces the spectrum of emotions that make crushes a universal, yet uniquely personal, aspect of the human experience. Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Finding Connection in the Gay Community (Part 2) | 25 Jan 2024 | 00:46:21 | |
In Part 2 of Finding Connection in the Gay Community, we shift the focus towards solutions, strategies, and the transformative power of authentic connections. If Part 1 delved into the challenges, Part 2 is all about fostering meaningful connections and platonic intimacy with other men. In this episode, we provide tangible and actionable ways for our listeners to build and strengthen bonds within the gay community. Some of the topics we’re covering:
Whether you're navigating a new city, exploring your identity, or simply seeking camaraderie, this episode provides a roadmap for building a supportive community around you. Related episodes: Finding Connection in the Gay Community (Overcoming Loneliness): Part 1 Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Finding Connection in the Gay Community Part 1 | 18 Jan 2024 | 00:44:54 | |
Join us for an intimate exploration into the common challenges and pain points that gay men encounter in our quest for connection within the gay community. Loneliness is a universal experience, but in this episode, we delve into the unique challenges that we face in our community such as:
This episode feels like a heartfelt conversation, sharing personal stories that aim to dismantle the stigma surrounding the struggle for connection. We discuss the multifaceted nature of loneliness within the gay community and how things aren’t always what they seem on the surface. We aim to foster a deeper understanding of the pain of disconnection, and create a more empathetic dialogue around the challenges of finding connection within the gay community. This is Part 1 of a two-part series, setting the stage for a continued exploration into the transformative power of authentic connections among gay men. Related Episodes: Dealing with Loneliness Friendships with Gay Men Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Addiction and Recovery Part 2 | 11 Jan 2024 | 00:55:11 | |
In part 2 of this 2-part series, we are focusing on recovery from addiction, including the strategies that proved useful along our respective journeys, and the wisdom we’ve gained in the process. Throughout the episode, we stress the importance of community and offer practical advice for those navigating recovery, while still acknowledging the unique challenges that we encounter along the way. Some of the topics we cover:
Part 2 of this series aims to empower listeners with knowledge, empathy, and hope on their journey toward a healthier, more authentic self. Featured in this Episode: Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Addiction and Recovery Part 1 | 04 Jan 2024 | 01:03:40 | |
In part 1 of this 2-part series, we are exploring the complex and often unspoken realm of addiction and compulsive behaviour. In this episode, we are sharing our own experiences, including substance abuse and behavioral addictions. In doing so, we hope to break the stigma surrounding addiction within the gay community, and foster a sense of understanding and support. Some of the topics we’ll be covering in this episode are:
Join us as we provide valuable perspectives on the intersectionality of gay identity and addiction. Featured in this Episode: Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Coming Out to Family | 28 Dec 2023 | 01:02:09 | |
For many LGBTQ+ people, coming out to family is a pivotal moment and significant step toward self-acceptance and living authentically. However, regardless of your age, coming out to family members can be extra challenging due to cultural reasons, family dynamics, and a fear of not being accepted. Even once we have come out to our family members, we must navigate the delicate balance of how much access we give them into our gay lives, including our intimate relationships. In this episode, we’ll be exploring these questions and more:
Listen in as we recount moments of fear, courage, and vulnerability in our pursuit of authentic self-expression and acceptance. If you or someone you know is looking for support, see the resources below or contact us at info@gaymensbrotherhood.com. Resources Coming Out Guide (for parents): https://www.strongfamilyalliance.org/parent-guide-gay/download Coming Out to Your Parents (for LGBTQIA+): https://www.strongfamilyalliance.org/how-to-come-out-to-parents/ Trevor Project: Coming Out Handbook - https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/guide/the-coming-out-handbook/ Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Chosen Family | 21 Dec 2023 | 00:52:54 | |
In this extra special episode, Michael welcomes members of his own chosen family to explore the unique dynamics that make chosen families such an important part of the LGBTQ+ experience. While providing a candid look at their own family dynamics, they delve into various subjects including:
Join us for this particularly personal episode as Michael and his family share thoughtful insights, intimate revelations, and amusing anecdotes. Host: Guests: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Family Matters | 14 Dec 2023 | 00:59:22 | |
In this heartfelt episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we are sharing poignant stories of our family relationships. Join us as we explore the triumphs and tribulations of the intricate bonds that tie us to our biological family dynamics. Some of the questions we’ll be answering today are: 1. What do you find challenging about family? 2. How has your family shaped who you are? 3. What matters most to you when it comes to your family? Tune in to this illuminating episode that reminds us that despite its challenges, family does truly matter, and love has the capacity to transcend even the most profound differences. Don't miss this episode!️ Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Protecting Your Peace | 07 Dec 2023 | 00:59:46 | |
In this episode, Matt speaks with Nyle Biondi, a trans and queer psychotherapist, about protecting their peace. In a world that is divisive and full of violence, oppression and hatred, how can we protect our peace? This episode explores ways in which we might be giving away our power and how we can stop doing this and learn to protect our peace. Come spend an hour with Matt and Nyle and learn how to protect your own peace from things like family dynamics, media, oppressive societal views/beliefs/laws, hatred, etc. Your power and peace are in your hands more than you may think. The questions we will be unpacking in today's episode are:
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| Money Mindset | 30 Nov 2023 | 01:05:18 | |
In this enriching episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we are delving deep into the world of personal finance and exploring the often underestimated power of your money mindset. Everyone has a money mindset, which consists of your thoughts, beliefs, and attitudes about money. Whether you realize it or not, this mindset is creating your financial well-being. Our goal today is to inspire you to create a money mindset that helps you live the life you most want to live. Some of the questions we’ll be unpacking are:
Whether you're striving for financial independence, aiming to conquer debt, or simply seeking a healthier relationship with money, this episode will inspire and empower you to take charge of your financial future. Don't miss this episode!️ Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| What’s Really Sexy (and Nobody Talks About It) | 18 Dec 2025 | 00:40:35 | |
After unpacking our culture’s obsession with “perfect” bodies, this week we’re flipping the script. In this episode, we’re celebrating what’s actually hot: the things that don’t get enough love in the gay world. We’re talking dad bods, wrinkles, kindness, confidence, awkward charm, conversational skills, and all the real stuff that makes someone magnetic. Some of the things we’re talking about:
This is our love letter to all the guys out there who feel they aren’t sexy because they don’t fit the mold. It’s time to expand our definition of sexy and give some overdue appreciation where it’s due. Today's Hosts:
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| Making Friends: Introverts Edition | 23 Nov 2023 | 00:53:35 | |
Making friends can feel like a complex puzzle in the gay world - and when you're an introvert, the pieces fit differently. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio and friendship coach, Zayne Khan explore the distinctive hurdles faced by introverts in their quest for companionship. We’ll cover topics such as:
If you're an introvert searching for camaraderie, understanding, and connection, this episode is a must-listen. Making friends can be a beautiful, transformative experience, and we're here to help you every step of the way. Connect with Zayne: Connect with Michael: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Work-Life Balance | 16 Nov 2023 | 01:05:15 | |
In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we tackle a topic that's become increasingly important in our fast-paced, interconnected world: work-life balance. Throughout this episode, we explore the causes of the work-life balance struggle, including societal expectations and the constant connectivity enabled by technology. We’ll also share stories and practical advice on how we set boundaries, prioritize self-care, and reclaim our precious personal time as entrepreneurs. The questions we’ll be exploring today are: 1. How have you experienced burnout in your life? What unhealthy habits of yours contributed to this burnout? 2. What does balance mean to you? 3. What boundaries do you put in place to ensure work-life balance? Join us as we embark on a journey toward a more enjoyable life where your work and personal life can co-exist in harmony. Don't miss this episode!️ Today's Hosts: - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Get lifetime access to 2 courses, 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes. Chapters
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| Another “Failed” Relationship (Navigating Gay Dating) | 09 Nov 2023 | 00:57:27 | |
In this episode Matt speaks with Indie Author and Counselor, Jonathan Lee about dating as a gay man. Jonathan wrote his debut book 40 Single Gay where he over-shares his experience in the hostile gay dating world and what he learned about himself through the process. Matt and Jonathan unpack everything from hookup culture and non-monogamy, to intimacy and how to get our emotional needs met as gay men. Here are some of the concepts they explored in this episode:
If you find yourself lonely and frustrated with the gay dating scene and hook up apps, this episode may be just what you need. Don't miss this episode!️ Today's Hosts: Jonathan Lee: Instagram Matt Landsiedel: Instagram Website - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Get lifetime access to 2 courses, 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes Chapters
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| Discovering Your Purpose | 02 Nov 2023 | 00:54:30 | |
Every human being has a unique purpose: something you and only you can bring to this world. In today’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we are sharing our personal journeys towards our purpose. We’ll share how moments of clarity, inspiration, and even adversity provided invaluable insights into our true calling. Some of the questions we’ll be answering are:
Whether you're at a crossroads, seeking a change, or simply looking to infuse more meaning into your life, this episode is for you. Don't miss this enlightening conversation that will inspire you to take steps towards discovering your unique purpose so you can embark on a path that leads to a more fulfilling and purposeful future. Don't miss this episode!️ Today's Hosts: - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Get lifetime access to 2 courses, 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes. Chapters
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| Sharing NSFW Pics | 26 Oct 2023 | 01:00:08 | |
In this provocative episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio and Pepper pushing boundaries, sparking discussion, and providing helpful tips on sharing NSFW pics. Some of the topics we’ll be covering today are:
Join us for this entertaining episode where we celebrate sexuality and self-expression while also considering the very real risks and drawbacks of the world NSFW pics. Don't forget to share with your friends – this episode is not to be missed! ️ Connect with Pepper: Connect with Michael: Related episode: Being Kindr on Grindr Take the Attachment Style Quiz! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Our 2 courses + 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes Chapters
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| Healing a Traumatic Past (CPTSD) | 19 Oct 2023 | 00:56:26 | |
In this episode Matt speaks with Scott Blackwood about healing their traumatic pasts. They talk about the impacts of relational and attachment trauma on their lives and how this led to Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), shame, low self-esteem and social isolation. They talk about how the unresolved trauma impacted their relationship with themselves and others and the steps they are taking to overcome this. Here are some of the concepts they explored in this episode:
Most humans experience relational/attachment trauma over the course of their lives and it is important to be trauma informed so we know how to be sensitive and compassionate towards ourselves and others as we navigate our own trauma healing journeys. Our hope is this episode will normalize trauma, and release any shame or stigma around having unresolved trauma because it’s a lot more common than we think. Don't miss this episode!️ Today's Hosts: Scott Blackwood: Facebook Matt Landsiedel: Instagram Website - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Get lifetime access to 2 courses, 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes Chapters
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| Inner Child Work | 12 Oct 2023 | 01:14:20 | |
Today we are diving deep into the profound practice of inner child work, a transformative journey that has the power to heal wounds from our past and pave the way for a brighter future. Join us as we delve into various techniques and exercises that can help you connect with your inner child, nurture them, and ultimately begin the process of healing any unresolved childhood pain. Some of the questions we’ll be exploring are:
Tune in as we explore the depths of our inner selves, heal old wounds, and embrace the power of self-love and inner child healing. In this episode, we shared reflection questions that can help you connect with your inner child.
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| Bullying: Panel Discussion | 05 Oct 2023 | 01:19:26 | |
Bullying is defined as an ongoing and deliberate misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal, physical and/or social behaviour that intends to cause physical, social and/or psychological harm. Why this conversation is important: It is said that approximately ⅓ people will experience some form of bullying in their lifetime; in the home, in the community, in the classroom, in the workplace, online, and/or outside of these spaces. Our goal today is to have a discussion with men who have experienced bullying either in childhood or adulthood so that we can bring light to those experiences and help those who have also gone through it by destigmatizing it and offering support. In today’s conversation, we explore the following questions:
We remind you that this is a conversation in which individuals are sharing and answering these questions from their personal experiences. We invite you to explore this topic further if you wish to, and because of the sensitive nature of this topic, viewer discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is experiencing bullying, tell someone you know and trust, contact your local crisis line, and/or visit the links below for support:
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| Spiritual Abuse & Religious Trauma | 28 Sep 2023 | 01:10:10 | |
In today’s episode, Michael DiIorio invites special guest Jeremy Russo to explore how spiritual abuse can manifest within religious communities, causing harm to individuals' mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. We also touch upon religious trauma, discussing its lasting impact on survivors, and the journey towards healing and forgiveness. While this is a deeply sensitive topic, we believe it’s crucial to shed some light on the dark corners of this often-overlooked aspect of faith and spirituality. Resources discussed in this episode:
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| Guided Meditation: Balancing the Masculine & Feminine Energy within | 21 Sep 2023 | 00:54:32 | |
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel takes you on a guided meditative journey to discover the relationship between your masculine and feminine energies. The guided meditation is designed to help you restore balance between your masculine and feminine energy. When we use the terms masculine and feminine, we are not referring to the gender or sex of an individual, we are referring to the energetic duality that exists within all human beings. We all have a masculine or yang energy, and we all have a feminine or yin energy within us. If you are stuck and unable to heal or slow down in your life, then you may be suppressing your feminine energy. If you are not actively engaged in your life and feel unmotivated, then you may be suppressing your masculine energy. This guided meditation will help you reconnect to the divine masculine and feminine energy within you so you can become integrated and balanced as nature has intended for you. More of Matt's Guided Meditations: Take the Attachment Style Quiz! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Take our "Building Better Relationships" course | |||
| How to Thrive in the Culture of Body Perfection | 11 Dec 2025 | 00:44:22 | |
From the gym to social media, gay men are constantly surrounded by images of the “ideal” body. But what does all this perfection chasing actually cost us?
In this episode, we explore how body perfection culture impacts gay men on a deeper level: from belonging and self-worth to intimacy and identity.
We open up about our own journeys with body image— how we’ve moved from obsession to acceptance, where it still sneaks in today, and what we’ve learned along the way.
You’ll hear us unpack:
If you’ve ever felt like a “perfect” body will earn you love, attention, or belonging, this one’s for you. Today's Hosts:
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| Expressing Your Femininity | 14 Sep 2023 | 00:48:27 | |
Expressing your feminine energy does not diminish your masculinity or make you less of a man. Each person is a unique expression of masculine and feminine energies, and this expression is a natural and valid part of our identity. In today's episode, we are sharing our own experiences of discovering and expressing our feminine energy. We'll explore various aspects of embracing our inner femininity, from fashion and emotional expression to intuition and relationships. We're answering questions such as:
This is a must-listen episode that will inspire, inform, and celebrate the beauty of being true to yourself, regardless of societal expectations. Don't forget to check out last week's episode on Expressing Your Masculinity. Hosts - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Get lifetime access to 2 courses, 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes | |||
| Expressing Your Masculinity | 07 Sep 2023 | 00:56:37 | |
Gay culture has historically idolized traditional masculinity in the context of societal norms, which includes traits like physical strength, assertiveness, and stoicism. But we must remember that there isn't a single, fixed definition of masculinity. While some embrace traditional concepts of masculinity, others may lean towards more non-conforming presentations. Lately, there has been a growing acceptance of the fact that gender expression and sexual orientation are distinct aspects of identity. In this episode, we're exploring our personal expression of masculinity by answering questions such as:
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| Libido | 31 Aug 2023 | 00:50:46 | |
Libido, or sex drive, is our natural instinctual inclination for sexual activity. Libido varies person to person and fluctuates over time. It’s not uncommon for men to put a high value on their sex drive, especially if they associate it with their masculinity and self-esteem. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael welcomes Dr. Hector Rodriguez to answer your questions about libido. Some of the topics they’ll be covering are:
Join us for this informative episode that begins to de-mystify many of the question we have - but are too afraid to ask. Connect with Dr. Hector: Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Other episodes featuring Dr. Hector: Take the Attachment Style Quiz! - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our "Building Better Relationships" course Take our "Healing Your Shame" course Coaching Collection - Our 2 courses + 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes | |||
| Energetic Attraction | 24 Aug 2023 | 01:09:00 | |
Attraction is a fickle matter. Call it a vibe or energy or aura, it is indeed a powerful unseen force that influences our relationships. In the metaphysical sense, energetic attraction stems from the belief that everything in the universe is made up of energy, including human beings, and that this energy can interact and create connections between people. In this episode, we're going deeper into the concept of Energetic Attraction, by answering these questions:
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| Spiritual Awakening | 17 Aug 2023 | 01:18:50 | |
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio unpack the concept of the spiritual awakening. They both share their personal experiences with spiritual awakenings and how they navigated these really challenging periods in their lives. If you are struggling in life right now, you might be going through a spiritual awakening. The best way through one of these experiences is to learn about its meaning, making it easier to navigate. Here are the 4 questions we explored in this episode:
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| Manifesting Your Ideal Partner | 10 Aug 2023 | 01:13:31 | |
Attracting a romantic relationship is as much about energy as it is about the practical steps. Directing your thoughts and emotions towards finding love adds an energetic boost to any tangible action steps you’re taking. In this episode, we’re sharing our experiences with attracting love including:
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| Body Confidence | 03 Aug 2023 | 01:00:18 | |
Body confidence is the ability to feel good in your body, regardless of its size or shape. But there are many reasons why gay men in particular struggle in this area. Wanting to work on your body is perfectly natural, but having the right mindset is crucial to this process. How can you work on your body goals without it being harmful to your mental health? In today’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio invites Jarrod Bruce Lee to answer that very question, as well as discussing:
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| Aging | 27 Jul 2023 | 00:52:04 | |
Aging is an inevitable part of life, but we each have a unique relationship with it. Some of us embrace it with open arms and don't buy into the idea of a "gay death" at a certain age. Others struggle with aging and cling to our youth and relevance as each year passes. In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re talking about our own relationship to aging and what it means to “age well.” Some of the questions we’ll be unpacking are:
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| The Core Wound of Growing Up Gay | 20 Jul 2023 | 01:00:42 | |
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Theo Bill have a heartfelt conversation about the struggles and joys of being a gay man. They discuss the core wounds of growing up gay, the impact this has on the gay community, and what we can do to start to heal these wounds. We explore these topics in the episode:
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| Age Discrimination Panel | 13 Jul 2023 | 01:21:49 | |
It’s a sad reality that older gay men face stereotypes about their attractiveness, desirability, or relevance as they age. Age discrimination, or ageism, can result in feeling isolated, undervalued, and even invisible. In today’s episode, we are having a panel discussion about age discrimination with 3 of our community members. We’ll cover topics such as:
Listen to this episode to recognize and challenge ageism so that we can foster a more accepting and inclusive community. Today's Panelists: Today's Host: Michael DiIorio Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Building Better Relationships course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call | |||
| Radical Honesty: Letting Yourself Be Known | 04 Dec 2025 | 00:29:06 | |
In this episode, we dive into what radical honesty really means- not the brutally blunt “telling it like it is” version, but the deeper, more vulnerable kind that lets you actually be known. We explore why being honest is both terrifying and liberating, the subtle ways we still avoid it, and how honesty differs from harsh truth-telling. We share our own struggles with showing up honestly in dating, friendships, and community, and why the outcome isn’t always pretty… but is always worth it. If honesty is one of your personal values (or you want it to be) this episode will give you plenty to reflect on. And if you’re enjoying these more relaxed, conversational episodes, let us know. We’ve been loving creating them. Today's Hosts: Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes - CONNECT WITH US -
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| Friends with Benefits | 06 Jul 2023 | 00:53:16 | |
Friends with benefits (FWB) is a type of relationship where you can enjoy the sexual benefits of a relationship without the expectation of long-term commitment. Navigating the blurred lines between friendship and sexual intimacy is a complex and potentially risky endeavour. In this episode, Michael DiIorio and Pepper of The Gay Good discuss the nuances of having Friends With Benefits. They’ll discuss topics such as:
Join in for this revealing discussion that will give you greater clarity and understanding of this common relationship structure. Find us on Instagram:
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| Unconscious Bias | 29 Jun 2023 | 01:09:03 | |
Unconscious bias refers to the internal biases or attitudes that influence our interactions and behaviour towards others. We all have these deeply ingrained biases that unfortunately can hinder our efforts to build a more diverse and inclusive community. In today's episode, we are sharing our experience with Unconscious Bias in hopes that it will help contribute to embracing greater acceptance and belonging. Some of the questions we'll be unpacking:
By acknowledging unconscious bias and working to mitigate its impact, we can celebrate a more inclusive queer community that values the diverse experiences of all individuals. Your Hosts Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Building Better Relationships course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call | |||
| Creating Authentic Connection | 22 Jun 2023 | 01:06:16 | |
In this episode, Matt Landsiedel and Jamaal Wesley talk about authentic connection and the importance of having relationships in our lives where we can be completely ourselves. They share their own personal challenges with being authentic and how they have overcome these challenges. Come spend an hour learning how to bring your most authentic self into connection and reap the reward of being seen, understood and getting your needs met. The questions we explored in this episode are:
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