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What's in it for him when it comes to relationship work?

In this episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, Amanda is joined by her husband, Dr. Mark Testa, for an honest conversation about why many men feel hesitant, resistant, or uninterested in "working on the relationship",  and why it may be one of the most impactful choices they can make.

Together, they explore:

• Why relationship work often feels like "her thing"

• How avoidance and distraction quietly erode intimacy

• What men actually gain from intentional connection

• Why your relationship affects emotional environment you live in every day

• How simple, practical practices can restore closeness and ease

This episode reframes intimacy as leadership, self-respect, and creating a life that feels good to live inside.

Whether your relationship feels solid, strained, or somewhere in between, this conversation offers a grounded, no nonsense perspective on connection, partnership, and being on the same team again.

🎧 Listen in and discover why tending your relationship benefits everything else in your life.

Want to experience how this works? Join them for a FREE Guided Date Night,  Renew Your Relationship on 1/29 HERE to get a taste.

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought:

We're fine… but I don't feel in love the way I used to.

In this episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, Amanda Testa shares why so many loving, committed couples slowly drift apart, and what actually brings desire, closeness, and joy back online.

This episode is for you if:

• You miss feeling butterflies, tingles, or desire

• You love your partner but feel bored, distant, or disconnected

• You've tried books, podcasts, or therapy — and still feel stuck

• You want a relationship that feels nourishing, alive, and fun again

• Why the real relationship problem isn't communication or sex — it's desire

• How couples drift apart without meaning to

• The "wait and see" trap that keeps intimacy temporary

• Why insight alone doesn't create lasting connection

• How nervous-system patterns silently drive conflict and shutdown

• The difference between rupture and repair (and why repair matters most)

• Why making connection fun is not optional — it's essential

• How to create a shared relationship vision for 2026

• Simple reflection questions to help you grow, goal-set, and reconnect together

Amanda also shares a powerful, practical ritual you can do at home to:

• Remember what you already love about each other

• Reignite warmth and appreciation

• Create momentum toward the relationship you actually want

Amanda is hosting a free Relationship Renewal Ritual — a guided, private, at-home experience to help you reconnect, reset patterns, and start 2026 feeling closer.

January 29th | 6:00 PM MT
 Replay available
 100% private & anonymous

👉 Save your spot:
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Because when your relationship feels good, everything feels easier.

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I'm beyond thrilled to welcome back to the pod, the brilliant Dr. Emily Nagoski, author of the groundbreaking books "Come As You Are" and her newest release "Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections."

In this intimate and enlightening episode, Emily breaks down what it really takes to maintain a vibrant sexual connection in long-term relationships – and it might not be what you think! We dive deep into:

• The 7 emotional "rooms" that influence our sexual experiences
• Why pleasure matters more than desire
• How to navigate body changes and transitions while maintaining intimacy
• The surprising truth about what makes sex "magnificent" (hint: it's not what most people assume!)

Emily also shares her own experiences, including how writing her books impacted her personal relationships and what she learned about rekindling intimate connections during challenging times. Her practical wisdom about navigating perimenopause, body image, and relationship transitions is both validating and empowering.

For anyone struggling to find their way to pleasure in these challenging times (and let's be honest - when isn't it "these times"?), this episode offers hope, practical tools, and permission to prioritize pleasure as essential nourishment for our relationships and wellbeing.

Whether you're in a long-term partnership or simply want to better understand your own sexual wellbeing, this conversation offers invaluable insights about creating lasting intimate connections that can weather life's many changes.

Ready to transform your intimate life? Listen to the full episode above, and don't forget to check out Emily's new book "Come Together" for even more wisdom about creating the sexual connection you desire.

Links Mentioned:

• Find more from Dr. Emily Nagoski at EmilyNagoski.com and sign up for her newsletter!

• Books: Come As You Are, Burnout, and Come Together

💖 Bring Your Desire back with my Sensuall Self-Discovery Journal—a sacred space where you can embark on a journey of self-exploration, self-love, and embracing your sensuality. In this journal, we will delve deep into the beautiful tapestry of your desires, senses, and the unique expression of your sensual self. Get It HERE!

Have you ever noticed how often, performing the smallest, routine tasks—rituals, if you will—can have a ripple effect that results in a big transformation?

Keeping a journal, drinking tea, lighting a candle, taking daily walks, and taking the stairs instead of the elevator are just a few examples of simple, routine steps that might deliver a major impact physically or mentally over time.

If you know me and have been listening to the pod you know how much I preach about the power of rituals! I love the power of simple plus doable for lasting results.

Today on the pod I'm talking with Tâmara Castelo, a specialist in Chinese Traditional medicine, and the CEO of Tâmara Castelo Clinic (in Lisbon and Porto), TMC Health, TMC Holistic and TMC Jewellery. 

At her clinic, Tâmara treats sleep disorders, thyroid disorders, intestine diseases, anxiety, migraines, and hormonal problems, and takes a holistic approach to healing.

In this episode she's sharing about her new book, The Power of Rituals walks readers through how to determine their biotype and, based on that, create a personal plan with easy, repetitive tasks designed to rebalance sleep, manage stress, reduce anxiety, and end toxic thoughts.

Listen in for some simple, easy rituals to help you live your best life. 

Are you tired of constant fighting in your relationship? Imagine a life where conflicts are resolved with understanding and connection instead of anger and disconnection.

It is possible to have a thriving relationship without fighting, and to create lasting intimacy.  

This week I'm talking with expert Love Educator and Relationship Coach Railey Molinario about her pillars of Relationship Intelligence, and how this works to help you create the relationship you desire, and to keep things hot after the honeymoon period ends. 

Reigniting a bond with an old friend after a long time apart can be a truly special and nostalgic experience.

Did you know that you can have a similar experience with your own body? That's right! Just like an old friend, your body has been there for you through thick and thin, and is always ready to welcome you back with open arms.

In this episode, I'm going to take you on a journey of self-discovery and self-care. You'll learn how to reconnect with your body and treat it with the love and respect it deserves. From simple breathing exercises to mindfulness practices, I'll share easy and effective ways to help you get back in touch with your physical self. So, come along and join me on this exciting adventure as we befriend our bodies, and rediscover the joys of self-connection. 

In my experience, I've found empowerment and focusing on health are key to finding more joy and pleasure.  And, it's very real that this culture in which we live in, there is a high probability that when you move to explore what feels good, the imprints of past trauma or violation, even culturally and collectively will show up. It's important to recognize the pervasiveness of trauma in the world and seek to be responsive to this reality.

In this episode I'm sharing why trauma informed care is so important, especially when working with sexuality, what you can do to advocate for yourself in situations so you can feel more comfortable, and what you can do to invite in more compassion, curiosity, and care in your own pleasure explorations. 

You know those awful, terrible, sucker-punch moments in life? The ones that knock you down, burn you up, or make you cringe so hard you wish it was all a bad dream?

Probably–because we all do. These epic, messy, oh-no-oh-crap moments of chaos are just part of life–yet, as Dr. Neeta Bhushan shows us, they're also beautiful opportunities for change.

In this week's episode I'm talking with Dr. Neeta about how to embrace the suck–and in doing so, break through to lasting, audacious resilience.

You'll learn why it's so hard to get back up when stuff goes down, how four core components of your life shape your individual Bounce Factor, and how to navigate the five stages of the Fly Forward framework through Falling, Igniting, Rising, Magnifying, and on to Thriving. 

Listen in and share with a friend who you know will love this episode. 

In our busy lives, it can be so easy to forget to center our own pleasure. The Pleasure Foundation is here to offer that community where you matter, your pleasure matters, and less is more.

The Pleasure Foundation is a space dedicated to cultivating your sexual aliveness, sensuality, and nervous system regulation.

You'll enjoy monthly Pleasure Rituals guided by me and my guests, as well as community support, live events, and much more.   Listen in to to our final minisode #6 to hear more about the keys to create more pleasure in your life, and get all the deets and an invitation to join my new membership.

Missed the earlier Minisodes?
Catch them here:
Minisode #1: 80s Parties and Reviving Your Desire

Minisode #2: What to Do When Pleasure Feels Impossible

Minisode #3: Pleasure 101

Minisode #4: What does it mean to "practice pleasure"

Minisode #5: Say Goodbye to sexual shame

Minisode 5 of 6 here, on how to say goodbye to sexual shame. Listen in as I jam on why our sexual shame holds us back in so many ways - and how working to move past it can invite freedom and expansion in all areas of your life.

I truly believe if there was less shame around sex, there would be less shadow around sex.  This is why its paramount to talk about it, to de-stigmatize it, and to find your way to what feels good. 

Missed the earlier Minisodes 1-4?
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