Explore every episode of the podcast Family Disappeared
Dive into the complete episode list for Family Disappeared. Each episode is cataloged with detailed descriptions, making it easy to find and explore specific topics. Keep track of all episodes from your favorite podcast and never miss a moment of insightful content.
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Laurence Joss leads a heartfelt discussion with a panel of parents and grandparents about their experiences with parental alienation and recovery. The conversation explores the transformative power of the 12-step program, the concept of alienation as a family disease, and the importance of community support in the healing process. Panelists share personal stories of growth, the challenges of navigating relationships, and the significance of self-reflection in recovery. The episode emphasizes the need for patience and understanding in the journey of healing and the impact of individual change on family dynamics.
Key Takeaways
The 12-step process can help change unmanageable situations.
Community support is crucial in the recovery journey.
Alienation affects the entire family system, not just individuals.
Personal growth leads to changes in family dynamics.
Recovery is about how we show up in relationships.
Patience is essential in the healing process.
The 12 steps provide a framework for addressing dysfunction.
Isolation can hinder recovery; connection is key.
Understanding alienation as a family disease helps in healing.
Self-reflection is vital for personal transformation.
Chapters
00:00 - Reflections on Change and Recovery 02:58 - The Power of Community in Recovery 05:49 - Understanding the 12-Step Framework 08:42 - Personal Experiences with Parental Alienation 11:55 - The Concept of Family Disease 14:48 - Navigating Relationships and Alienation 17:38 - The Role of Consistency in Recovery 20:49 - The Journey of Healing and Growth 23:47 - Final Thoughts and Community Support
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Patience, Parental Alienation & The Power of Community Support - Episode 108
25 Aug 2025
00:54:11
This conversation delves into the complexities of parental alienation, exploring personal experiences, emotional struggles, and the importance of community support. The panel discusses the challenges faced in navigating relationships, the role of institutions, and the impact of recovery tools in managing crises. Through shared stories and insights, the discussion highlights the need for patience, understanding, and resilience in the face of familial estrangement.
Key Takeaways
Parental alienation is a complex issue that is often misunderstood.
Personal experiences of alienation can vary greatly among individuals.
Community support plays a crucial role in recovery from parental alienation.
Emotional regulation is key in navigating relationships with estranged family members.
Institutions often lack understanding of parental alienation, complicating recovery efforts.
Recovery tools, such as patience and surrender, can help manage crises.
It's important to take time before responding to emotionally charged situations.
The journey of recovery is ongoing and requires continuous effort and support.
Coping mechanisms evolve over time as individuals gain more experience in recovery.
Building resilience is essential for dealing with the challenges of parental alienation.
Chapters
00:00 - Understanding Parental Alienation 02:39 - Personal Experiences and Introductions 05:42 - Check-In: Current Emotional States 08:54 - Navigating Relationships and Recovery 11:48 - The Role of Institutions in Parental Alienation 14:54 - Complexities of Parental Alienation 17:56 - The Impact of Recovery Tools 20:40 - Coping Mechanisms in Crisis 24:06 - Community Support and Resilience 26:47 - Reflections on Recovery and Growth
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Letting Go, Holding On: The Paradox of Healing from Alienation & Estrangement Part 2 - Episode 99
23 Jun 2025
00:37:29
This conversation explores the themes of self-love, gratitude, and recovery from alienation. The speakers share their personal journeys, emphasizing the importance of connecting with oneself and the transformative power of gratitude. They discuss how alienation has led to unexpected connections and deeper empathy in relationships, as well as the challenges and growth that come from navigating these experiences. The conversation highlights the significance of community support and the ongoing process of healing and personal development.
Key Takeaways
Learning to love oneself is crucial for recovery.
Gratitude can shift perspectives and enhance life experiences.
Alienation can lead to unexpected and valuable connections.
Empathy for others can transform relationships.
Past experiences shape our current perspectives on relationships.
Self-connection is essential for healthy relationships with others.
Recovery is a long process that requires patience and humility.
Community support is vital in the journey of healing.
Recognizing the importance of small wins in recovery is key.
Gratitude can be found in the most challenging situations.
Chapters
00:00 - The Journey of Self-Love 02:05 - Understanding Gratitude in Recovery 04:00 - Alienation and Unexpected Connections 09:20 - Transforming Relationships Through Empathy 13:00 - Lessons from Past Relationships 20:22 - The Importance of Self-Connection 25:41 - Hope and Community in Recovery 29:38 - Gratitude for Future Opportunities
Avoid These 3 Mistakes in High-Conflict Divorce & Custody Battles While Navigating The Family Court System - Episode 10
02 Oct 2023
00:27:51
Navigating the court system can be a daunting expedition.
In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Lynn Steinberg, a seasoned author, advocate, and psychologist, who's also served as an expert witness. We discuss navigating the courtroom, self-representation challenges, and the importance of taking control of your legal journey. She shares practical advice on court preparation and choosing the right attorney. We also explore 'pro se' representation.
We shine a light on parental alienation, a misunderstood topic. Dr. Lynn offers insights into its impact on families and addresses gender-biased laws and coercive control.
We dive into Dr. Lynn's book, "You're Not Crazy," which analyzes the court system, offers tips for supporting loved ones, and emphasizes self-representation. Staying composed and focusing on facts are crucial in addressing hidden issues.
Buckle up for this episode!
Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.
What NOT TO DO If You Are an Alienated Parent, Part 2 - Episode 9
25 Sep 2023
00:33:13
“We try to be the best version of ourselves we can be, but it takes time, and it takes work.” ~ Lawrence Joss
Many people often make the mistake of thinking it is the job of other people to fill the voids and mend the broken pieces within us.
However, WE are the only ones who can do the inner work to better ourselves. While we need the right tools, and the guidance of the right community, it all comes down to the work we are willing to do within ourselves. It’s a process that takes time, but the results will be transformational.
This episode is the second part of ‘What NOT to Do if You Are an Alienated Parent’.
Renèe and Georgette delve into the patterns they repeated in order to get the attention of their kids, and how this tied into the thought process that, as parents, they are only loved and needed when they get a response. They share how things changed throughout their healing process, and how these changes resulted in better connections and relationships with their loved ones.
Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.
In This Episode:
Renèe and Georgette share how they go through the cycle of reaching out to their children to calm and regulate their nervous system.
How finding a community of people that understand where you are coming from can positively impact your healing process.
The tools we can immediately access to give us relief such as music, sports, and nature.
Renèe shares the conversations she had with her sons after things changed for her.
The impact of people noticing the changes and growth throughout, and after, our healing.
Finally feeling satisfaction and contentment with ourselves, and our relationships.
And more…
Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.
What NOT To Do If You Are an Alienated Parent Part 1 - Episode 8
18 Sep 2023
00:34:16
"You don't put up boundaries. You have boundaries. You put up walls." ~ Lawrence Joss
Host Lawrence Joss has invited a panel of parents who have 'been there before' to share the benefits of their hindsight. Today's episode unpacks some of the common mistakes parents make when trying to reconnect with their loved ones.
The beauty of this episode is that if you are dealing with family estrangement or alienation, just by listening in, you give yourself a shot at not making some of the same mistakes.
There is good advice for parenting in general, too – from not putting too much pressure on your kids in terms of them communicating with you, to not asking one child about how another child is doing (i.e., placing your focus on the child you are actually with). There's also wonderful insight into the rooms of PA-A, and the tools you can learn to deal with family estrangement.
Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.
In This Episode:
Renée shares on her alienation of over 25 years (with ‘first contact’ a few weeks ago).
Georgette shares the alienation from her 27-year-old child.
Understanding the various terms used to describe parental alienation.
Focusing on the child that you are with (not asking about those not there).
Putting too much pressure on your kids (and not allowing space for them to meet you halfway).
The spiritual experience of feeling safe in the rooms of PA-A.
Learning how to have boundaries.
The distinction between putting up boundaries versus walls.
And more…
Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.
Somatic interventions for parents with Dr. Mandy Part 2 - Episode 7
11 Sep 2023
00:31:03
Have you ever witnessed a child who is 'inundated', feels overwhelmed, and doesn't know how to respond to a situation?
Wherever we may find ourselves within the family system – as a child, parent, grandparent, or partner – feeling dysregulated or ‘triggered’ by our loved ones can cause us to say and do things we may later regret.
Dr. Mandy Cisler is an expert on mind/body integration: a somatic approach that provides us with the tools we need to calm down and think before we speak. She has pioneered the ‘Healing Framework’ as a somatic therapist, and this is Part Two of her heartfelt conversation with Lawrence Joss.
Be sure to listen to Part One if you have not already done so. Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.
In This Episode:
Giving children the tools to regulate themselves emotionally.
What good modeling looks like to a child.
Dr. Mandy's free training on nervous system regulation.
Somatic interventions for parents with Dr. Mandy Part 1 - Episode 6
04 Sep 2023
00:33:07
Have you ever experienced the feeling of dysregulation – and lashed out at a child or loved one because you were in a highly emotive state?
Dr. Mandy Cisler is a somatic therapist, coach, and founder of the ‘Healing Framework’. She is an expert on a mind/body integration approach that supports you in regulating your nervous system. In this episode of “Family Disappeared”, she will share the tools of the somatic approach so that you can learn to check in with your body before reacting to a trying situation.
Through learning about the invaluable work of Dr. Cisler, you will be able to identify behavioral patterns from your family of origin. This, in turn, will allow you to discover how you can learn to listen to your body before speaking and reacting. This will allow you to model and teach a new way of being to your children.
Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.
In This Episode:
Learning to make better decisions with a somatic approach.
Check-in with your body to identify how you are feeling.
What effect will it have on a child if you show up in a highly emotional state?
Understanding how we 'arrive' with some form of dysregulation.
What are the key markers when looking for emotional dysregulation in a child?
When is it okay to reinforce a boundary with a child?
Dr. Mandy showcases a simple breathing exercise.
Understanding the concept of ‘mirroring’ as it relates to dysregulation.
And more…
Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.
Parent's panel on living with parental alienation, estrangement & erasure pt.2 - Episode 5
28 Aug 2023
00:39:43
"I feel really safe in the PA-A community. And that's allowed me to heal." ~ Alienated Mom
"How can I create deep and meaningful, loving, reciprocal relationships in my life?" ~ Alienated Dad
'Alienated Mom' and 'Alienated Dad' are in conversation with Lawrence Joss in this, the second part, of a thoughtful interview that sheds light on the subject of family alienation from the personal perspective of two anonymous alienated parents.
Finding one's voice in a fellowship; coming to terms with life itself; finding a Higher Power; and even creating a family of choice through fellowship are all sensitively articulated by Lawrence's two anonymous guests. There is also useful insight into the 12 Steps which are used for recovery by the Parental Alienation Anonymous program.
This podcast episode is about carrying this message to any alienated family member out there who might be suffering alone. You are not alone.
Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.
In This Episode:
What does it feel like to be part of the PA-A community?
Understanding the role of a sponsor.
Creating a ‘Family of Choice’ through Fellowship.
Understanding the PA-A 12-Step Process.
What new skills have Alienated Mom and Dad learned through the program?
Is there an alienator inside of you?
Learning to slow down and to reach out for help.
And more…
Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.
Parent's Panel on Living With Parental Alienation, Estrangement & Erasure Pt.1 - Episode 4
21 Aug 2023
00:30:20
What does it look like to recognize that you suffer from parental alienation?
What can you do about it? Where can you turn to for support?
Meet 'Alienated Mom' and 'Alienated Dad,' whose identities are protected in this episode for the sake of anonymity.
The two are in conversation with Lawrence Joss, sharing parental alienation, and the joy of discovering Parental Alienation Anonymous. Finding support out there for coping with your family system, and practicing the tools of a recovery process that teaches you to look at yourself, has provided hope for 'Alienated Mom' and 'Alienated Dad.'
You are not alone.
In this episode, Lawrence shares part one of an emotive two-part interview with two alienated parents who are currently active members of Parental Alienation Anonymous. The discussion speaks to recognizing those issues you have a measure of control over, and how that allows you to change your life, and all of your relationships, for the better.
Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.
In This Episode:
What was life like as an alienated parent before you found support?
What can you expect from a parental alienation support group?
Understanding how the disease of family alienation doesn't discriminate.
What are the key differences between PA-A and other 12-step programs?
Is there any stigma attached to the rooms of PA-A?
What does recovery look like and mean for alienated Mom and Dad today?
What ‘showing up’ in your family system means.
And more…
Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.
Tools For Dealing with Recovery from Family Alienation - Episode 3
14 Aug 2023
00:35:44
"And what tribal knowledge is, is that there's a lot of people that have gone through a lot of different things at different times in their lives, and they have information on how they got through stuff, or how they messed stuff up. And in a community, we get to share that together in a constructive way." ~ Lawrence Joss
Do you find yourself struggling to stay present with yourself and others? Are you getting really negative responses to your texts, emails, or in-person conversations? Do you feel that some days are just too hard, and you don't know how you will make it through to the end of the day?
In today's third episode, I will be sharing some of the incredibly useful tools that saved my life.
I still use them on a daily basis, and I believe that you will be able to take these tools and implement them into your life. Trust me – with these tools, you will make it through to the end of the day. If it's time for you to start dealing with where you NOW find yourself in your family system, then these tools will help you to interrupt your ruminating thoughts, embody what's happening, and act with composure, instead of dealing with conflict from a reactionary place.
Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.
In This Episode:
What is happening in your family system?
Understanding NVC - Nonviolent Communication.
Appreciating meditation as a way to stop those ruminating thoughts.
Breathwork and Somatic Therapy - getting into your body to resolve your trauma.
Using holotropic breathing to increase your resilience.
An introduction to G.R.A.C.E Training as developed by Roshi Joan Halifax.
Learning about Byron Katie and 'The Work'.
How can you resource yourself?
And more…
Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.
ALIENATION & ESTRANGEMENT, Understanding The Dynamics - Episode 2
14 Aug 2023
00:32:38
"Identifying and labeling some of the things that were happening in my life was incredibly important to me starting my journey of recovery." ~ Lawrence Joss
Are you disconnected from other family members? Are you struggling with the pain of estrangement from your loved ones, and looking for emotional support and guidance on where to turn?
In today's episode, we'll unpack some of the dynamics that might be happening in your life. This knowledge will provide you with a much greater understanding of your situation. Your anxiety will be reduced, and your confidence will increase.
You will no longer be alone as you embark on your recovery journey.
Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.
In This Episode:
Understanding the family system – what is the ‘tip of the iceberg’ in any conversation?
What does attunement mean? What does it look like?
Following the recommendations in regard to contacting your children.
What is self-agency as it applies to the family system?
Understanding what a 'high agent' looks like in the family dynamic.
Learning to regulate yourself through meditation and breathwork.
What is a ‘loyalty contract’?
What is triangulation in a conversation? Understanding the “ Drama Triangle”.
“The Secret Handshake” – explained.
Three Things you can start working on today to deal with the “soup sandwich”.
Healing from the Pain of Parental Alienation, Estrangement and Erasure - Episode 1
14 Aug 2023
00:21:41
"I wanted everyone to change. I just wanted them to do the right thing. I thought that if they just did the right thing, I'd be OK. That the pain, the desperation, the confusion... that all that stuff would just go away." ~ Lawrence Joss
Are you disconnected, alienated, estranged, or possibly erased from your children – or even your grandchildren? Are you disconnected from other family members? Are you a child that doesn't have access to your parents?
If so, then Family Disappeared may well be for you. I'm Lawrence Joss, and in today's first episode, I will be sharing some of my stories of family disconnection and alienation: what I did; how I reacted; what I could have done better; and the tools that I have learned to use to cope with, and heal from, the alienation process.
While family alienation can all be very confusing and feel overwhelming at times, the beautiful thing about this podcast is that you don't have to make the same mistakes that I did. You have an opportunity to interrupt the cycle and heal yourself, as well as the family system.
Please come along for the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.
In This Episode:
Learning that you are your own 'silver bullet' - cultivating the resources inside oneself.
How to cultivate an emotional and spiritual relationship with yourself.
Understanding 'family of origin' and our dysfunctional trans-generational coping mechanisms.
Educating yourself about parental alienation.
Lawrence’s story of family estrangement, and what he has learned.
The value of meditation - even when you are in a trauma response situation.
Lawrence's recommended breathing techniques.
What we can expect in future episodes of the show.
Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.
Letting Go, Holding On: The Paradox of Healing from Alienation & Estrangement Part 1 - Episode 98
16 Jun 2025
00:35:44
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, the panel discusses the complexities of gratitude in the context of parental alienation and emotional pain. They share personal stories of healing, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the importance of finding joy in small moments. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-care and the journey of letting go of emotional attachments while fostering resilience and community support.
Key Takeaways
Gratitude can coexist with pain and emotional hurt.
Personal stories of alienation highlight the journey of healing.
Finding joy in small moments is essential for emotional well-being.
It's important to acknowledge the complexity of gratitude.
Self-care is crucial when navigating difficult family dynamics.
Letting go of emotional attachments can lead to personal growth.
Community support plays a vital role in healing.
Emotional responses to family dynamics can vary greatly.
Practicing gratitude can shift one's perspective on life.
The journey of healing is ongoing and requires patience.
Chapters
00:00 - Navigating Gratitude Amidst Pain 04:10 - Personal Stories of Alienation and Healing 10:51 - The Complexity of Gratitude 17:06 - Emotional Responses to Family Dynamics 24:20 - Finding Joy in Others' Happiness 30:48 - Letting Go of Emotional Attachments 33:14 - Reflections on Gratitude and Life Changes
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
Have you lost contact with your child? What about your parent, or grandparent, sibling, or any other family member? You might be experiencing estrangement, alienation, or erasure. All of these terms speak to the trauma and dysfunction that so many families face.
A family is a complex living and breathing system. Each member plays a role in the family dynamic. When families carry generational trauma and/or experience new trauma, challenges, or dysfunction, this can result in a break in the family system.
These reaction strategies are habitual and very often interwoven into every aspect of how our family interacts.
Hi! I´m Lawrence Joss and I’ve learned that I need to cultivate a spiritual, emotional, and physical relationship with myself in order to have healthy relationships with others and everything in my life. It is my mission to help you create and nurture that relationship with yourself first and provide you with tools that might help you heal and strengthen family relationships.
This podcast is an opportunity to explore our healing journey together through the complexities of our families.
Welcome to the FAMILY DISAPPEARED podcast.
For more information, visit my website: www.familydissappeared.com
This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team: Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager
“Healing from the Inside Out” - with Inner child Specialist Jen Peters Part 2 - Episode 97
09 Jun 2025
00:33:18
In this conversation, Jen Peters and Lawrence Joss explore the complexities of trauma, healing, and the importance of inner child work. They discuss how unresolved trauma affects relationships, the significance of reparenting oneself, and the role of forgiveness in the healing process. The conversation emphasizes the power of personal agency in healing and the impact of individual work on family dynamics. Jen shares practical steps for reconnecting with one's inner child and highlights the importance of community support in the healing journey.
Key Takeaways
Recognizing that others act out of their own unresolved trauma can provide insight into their behavior.
Healing is a personal journey that does not require closure from others.
Our partners often reflect our own inner child wounds, which can complicate relationships.
Understanding our attachment styles can help us navigate relationships more effectively.
Reparenting involves becoming the nurturing figure we needed in childhood.
Forgiveness is about recognizing that we did the best we could at the time.
We have the power to change our lives by addressing our core wounds.
Community support is essential for healing and personal growth.
Inner child work can lead to profound changes in family dynamics.
Healing is an ongoing process that requires patience and self-compassion.
Chapters
00:00 - Understanding Trauma and Healing 05:07 - The Role of Inner Child Work 09:57 - Attachment Styles and Relationships 14:47 - Reparenting and Forgiveness 19:54 - Success Stories in Healing 24:59 - Resources and Community Support
Here's the link to the free e-book PDF entitled "Coming Home":
Coming Home shares my personal story, including a 14-year narcissistic/codependent marriage, the breakdown of that relationship, and the profound healing journey that followed.
Beyond my story, Coming Home is a comprehensive guide to trauma healing. It offers step-by-step processes for addressing and healing the 12 primary inner child trauma themes, all using my signature method - the Jen Peters Multidimensional Healing System.
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
“Healing from the Inside Out” - with Inner Child Specialist Jen Peters Part 1 - Episode 96
02 Jun 2025
00:36:21
In this conversation, Jen Peters, an inner child expert, discusses the significance of inner child work in healing trauma and understanding adult behaviors. The dialogue explores how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, the empowerment found in healing, and the importance of recognizing and addressing deep-seated wounds. The conversation also touches on parental alienation, estrangement, and the role of parents in influencing their children's emotional well-being. Jen emphasizes the need for self-love and reparenting as essential components of the healing journey.
Key Takeaways
Most struggles in adulthood stem from childhood events.
Inner child work connects us with parts of ourselves needing support.
Healing is an empowerment process, not about blame.
Patterns in relationships often reflect childhood wounds.
Access points for inner child work include therapy and self-guided practices.
Multiple inner children can exist, each carrying different traumas.
Healing trauma can lead to emotional detachment from past events.
Womb trauma can have lasting effects on individuals.
Self-love is crucial for healing and empowerment.
Chapters
00:00 - Understanding Inner Child Work 02:55 - The Impact of Childhood on Adulthood 05:46 - Empowerment Through Inner Child Healing 09:04 - Patterns in Relationships and Responsibility 11:51 - Access Points for Inner Child Work 15:07 - Exploring Different Stages of Inner Child 17:56 - Healing Trauma and Emotional Responses 21:08 - The Role of Parents in Shaping Wounds 23:54 - Navigating Parental Alienation and Estrangement 27:00 - The Depth of Womb Trauma 30:08 - The Spiritual Aspect of Healing 33:00 - Reparenting and Self-Love
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
“Grateful and Grieving”- A panel of alienated parents share their stories Part 2 - Episode 95
26 May 2025
00:41:31
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, a panel of parents discusses their experiences with gratitude amidst the challenges of parental alienation. They explore how gratitude can transform pain into joy, the importance of community, and the role of vulnerability in healing. Through personal stories, they illustrate the journey from anger and resentment to a place of appreciation for life's experiences, emphasizing that gratitude can coexist with difficult emotions.
Key Takeaways
Gratitude can emerge from unexpected places.
Finding humor in pain can foster connection.
Shifting focus from personal suffering to joy in others' lives is transformative.
Gratitude is a practice that requires cultivation.
Alienation can lead to personal growth and deeper understanding.
Being present in life enhances relationships and gratitude.
Vulnerability is essential for authentic connections.
Pain and suffering can create capacity for gratitude.
Gratitude helps in coping with negative emotions.
Community support is vital in the journey of healing.
Chapters
00:00 - Introduction to Gratitude in Parenting 03:08 - Finding Humor and Connection in Pain 05:47 - Shifting Focus: From Pain to Gratitude 08:52 - The Journey of Gratitude: Personal Stories 12:09 - Transformative Power of Alienation 14:46 - Gratitude for Life's Experiences 18:05 - Navigating Relationships and Gratitude 20:56 - The Role of Vulnerability in Gratitude 23:57 - Coping with Anger and Bitterness through Gratitude 26:49 - Conclusion: Embracing Gratitude in Everyday Life
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
“Grateful and Grieving”- A panel of alienated parents share their stories Part 1 - Episode 94
19 May 2025
00:42:06
This conversation explores the transformative power of gratitude in the context of recovery from parental alienation. Panelists share their personal journeys, reflecting on how their understanding of gratitude has evolved from a self-centered perspective to one that embraces community support and emotional healing. They discuss the challenges of feeling gratitude during times of estrangement and the practices they have adopted to cultivate gratitude in their daily lives. The discussion highlights the importance of recognizing small moments of gratitude and how these can lead to deeper emotional connections and resilience.
Key Takeaways
Gratitude can be found even in difficult times.
Community support enhances the experience of gratitude.
Practicing gratitude requires intentionality and reflection.
Alienation can cloud the ability to feel gratitude.
Gratitude can transform from a transactional to a heartfelt experience.
Daily rituals can help cultivate a gratitude practice.
Gratitude can be a pathway to emotional healing.
Recognizing small moments of gratitude is essential.
Gratitude can help break cycles of intergenerational trauma.
Sharing gratitude with others fosters connection and joy.
Chapters
00:00 - The Journey of Gratitude in Recovery 07:12 - Understanding Gratitude Before and After Alienation 14:08 - The Transformation of Gratitude Through Community Support 21:06 - Practicing Gratitude: Daily Rituals and Reflections 30:49 - Gratitude for Children: Navigating Alienation and Estrangement
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
The BIFF Method: Defusing High-Conflict Communication - Episode 93
12 May 2025
00:34:22
In this conversation, Bill Eddy discusses the BIFF method for responding to hostile communications, the importance of self-restraint in high-conflict situations, and strategies for protecting oneself in court. He emphasizes the need to keep communication simple and repetitive, and the significance of telling one's own story in legal contexts. The discussion also touches on the impact of family systems on emotional responses and the role of AI in communication strategies.
Key Takeaways
BIFF responses help manage hostile communications effectively.
Self-restraint is crucial when dealing with high-conflict personalities.
Keeping communication simple and repetitive aids in clarity.
Understanding family systems can help in managing emotional responses.
Telling your own story is vital in legal situations.
Protecting oneself from false allegations is essential in court.
The BIFF method can be adapted for various communication scenarios.
AI tools can mimic BIFF responses, but may not be effective for learning.
Emotional stability is key in high-conflict situations.
Resources and support are available for those dealing with high-conflict personalities.
Chapters
00:00 - Introduction to BIFF Responses and AI 03:10 - Understanding Family Systems and Emotional Responses 05:52 - The BIFF Method Explained 09:04 - Self-Restraint in Communication 12:13 - Protecting Yourself in High-Conflict Situations 14:50 - Strategies for Court and High-Conflict Personalities 17:50 - The Importance of Storytelling in Court 20:47 - Final Thoughts and Resources
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
The Wall Between Us: How Alienation Is Built Brick by Brick P1-Episode 92
05 May 2025
00:34:21
In this conversation, Lauren Joss and Bill Eddy delve into the complexities of parental alienation, exploring how family dynamics, personality disorders, and emotional health impact relationships between parents and children. They discuss the importance of understanding these dynamics to foster healthier relationships and introduce innovative methods for conflict resolution and communication skills that can help families navigate high-conflict situations.
Key Takeaways
Children grow up in families that see people as all good or all bad.
Parental alienation is a gradual process, built brick by brick.
Emotional processes in families are often overlooked.
Alienating parents may not be aware of their impact on children.
Children absorb their parents' emotions, leading to conflict.
The dynamics of family systems can create isolation among siblings.
Teaching children flexible thinking and emotional management is crucial.
Innovative methods can help parents learn to communicate better.
Court systems are beginning to adopt new methods for conflict resolution.
Support systems are essential for individuals dealing with parental alienation.
Erased, Alienated But Not Disappeared! -Episode 91
28 Apr 2025
00:27:20
In this conversation, Lawrence Joss explores the complexities of parental alienation through personal anecdotes and analogies, particularly focusing on the metaphor of a jungle and a lemon tree. He emphasizes the importance of individual growth, setting boundaries, and the role of community in healing family dynamics. Joss shares his journey of understanding and addressing the trauma within his family system, advocating for self-work and service to others as pathways to reclaiming relationships and fostering love.
Key Takeaways
Parental alienation can suffocate love within families.
Individual change is crucial for systemic healing.
Boundaries are essential for healthy family dynamics.
Personal growth can lead to better parenting.
Community support is vital in overcoming challenges.
Understanding trauma helps in addressing family issues.
Service to others can provide personal fulfillment.
The journey of healing is ongoing and requires effort.
Emotional and spiritual work is necessary for change.
Love and connection can be reclaimed through consistent effort.
Chapters
00:00 - The Weeds of Parental Alienation
03:01 - Understanding the Jungle of Family Dynamics
06:13 - The Importance of Boundaries
08:53 - Personal Growth and Systemic Change
12:05 - The Lemon Tree Analogy
14:51 - Reclaiming Our Family Systems
18:11 - The Power of Community and Service
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
Parental Alienation Life: The Next Chapter - Episode 90
21 Apr 2025
00:25:42
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss shares his personal journey through parental alienation, emphasizing the importance of community support, understanding boundaries, and the impact of family dynamics. He discusses the concept of 'siloing' in relationships and how it affects children's perceptions of their parents. The conversation highlights the shift from a self-centered perspective to a community-focused approach, advocating for service as a means of healing and connection.
Key Takeaways
Parental alienation can be a painful and confusing experience.
Community support is crucial for emotional and spiritual healing.
Setting boundaries is essential for healthy relationships.
Children often adapt to survive in alienating environments.
Siloing can prevent siblings from forming healthy relationships.
Shifting focus from 'me' to 'we' can foster healing.
Service to others can provide purpose and fulfillment.
Understanding the dynamics of parental alienation is vital for recovery.
Emotional growth often takes time and life experience.
Love and connection can exist without expectations.
Chapters
00:00 - Introduction to Parental Alienation and Community Support
02:48 - Personal Journey Through Parental Alienation
06:04 - The Role of Community in Healing
08:55 - Understanding Boundaries and Agency
11:49 - The Impact of Siloing on Family Relationships
15:10 - Shifting Perspectives: From Me to We
18:06 - Finding Purpose Through Service
20:55 - Conclusion: Embracing Change and Connection
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
Parental Alienation, Pre-Alienation & Rebuilding Trust with Your Kids Part 2 - Episode 107
18 Aug 2025
00:37:46
In this episode, Lawrence Joss interviews Charles McCready, a compassion-based coach who shares insights on parental alienation and the healing journey for parents and children. The conversation covers the importance of understanding child alienation, the dynamics of trust and connection, and the role of grandparents. Charles introduces his nine-step program designed to help parents navigate their emotions and improve their relationships with their children. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-work, support networks, and the importance of living one's life while waiting for reconnection with children.
Key Takeaways
Advocate for parents to take their own healing journey.
Changing parenting styles can positively impact relationships.
Children often experience loyalty conflicts during alienation.
Understanding the alienating parent's control mechanisms is crucial.
The nine-step program focuses on both parents and children.
Building trust with adult children requires a different approach.
Grandparents should also engage in their own healing process.
Self-work is essential for effective parenting.
Living your life while waiting for reconnection is important.
Support networks can provide necessary resources for parents.
Chapters
00:00 - Healing Journeys and Parenting Dynamics 02:52 - Understanding Child Alienation and Its Effects 05:57 - The Nine-Step Program for Reconnection 08:56 - Building Trust and Connection with Adult Children 11:39 - The Role of Grandparents in Alienation 14:50 - Empowerment Through Self-Work and Support 17:48 - Living Your Life While Waiting for Reconnection 20:43 - Strategies for Reestablishing Contact 23:53 - The Importance of Support Networks 26:42 - Conclusion and Future Conversations
For more detailed information regarding Charlie McCready and the 9-step program, please click the link below:
Reclaiming Your Family: A Legal Journey Through Parental Alienation - Episode 89
14 Apr 2025
00:38:00
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss discusses the complexities of parental alienation and the legal system with insights from attorneys and mental health professionals. The conversation covers the challenges faced by parents navigating family law, the importance of self-representation, and the need for child-centered approaches in therapy. Listeners are encouraged to document their experiences, seek support, and take charge of their cases to improve outcomes for themselves and their children.
Key Takeaways
The legal system often exacerbates conflict between parents.
Self-representation can be a viable option if done correctly.
Documentation is key in family law cases.
Limited scope attorneys can provide targeted assistance.
Child-centered therapy focuses on the needs of the child.
Parents should actively seek to understand their children's perspectives.
Emotional support is crucial for parents in high-conflict situations.
The importance of building trust with children in therapy.
Parents need to show up emotionally for their children.
The system needs reform to better support families in crisis.
Chapters
00:00 - Introduction to the Family Disappeared Podcast
02:06 - The Challenges of Parental Alienation
04:01 - Navigating the Legal System: Insights from an Attorney
06:53 - Understanding Family Law vs. Traditional Law
09:52 - Self-Representation in Family Court
12:11 - The Role of Limited Scope Attorneys
14:10 - The Importance of Documentation and Support
22:51 - Child-Centered Approaches in Therapy
24:18 - Building Trust with Children in Therapy
26:35 - The Impact of Parental Actions on Children
32:45 - Attachment Issues in High-Conflict Divorces
35:33 - Conclusion and Resources for Support
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
The Power of Personal Agency: Transforming Adversity Into Opportunity - Episode 88
07 Apr 2025
00:41:06
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss revisits key insights from previous conversations with professionals in the field of therapy and psychology. The discussion covers themes of parental alienation, the importance of community support, and the power of personal agency in overcoming adversity. Lawrence emphasizes the significance of understanding neutral circumstances, the role of judgment in our lives, and the therapeutic potential of writing amends letters for reconciliation. The episode also explores concepts of reparenting, somatic awareness, and practical strategies for fostering gratitude and hope in challenging situations.
Key Takeaways
Circumstances are neutral, and our perception shapes our experience.
Judgment and evaluation are constant processes in our minds.
We have the power to create positive changes in our lives.
Understanding estrangement and alienation is crucial for healing.
Amends letters can facilitate reconciliation between estranged family members.
Reparenting helps heal childhood wounds and fosters self-agency.
Agency is essential for healthy relationships and personal empowerment.
Somatic awareness connects our body and mind for better emotional health.
Practicing gratitude can transform our perspective on difficult situations.
Creating hope is vital for overcoming challenges and fostering resilience.
Chapters
00:00 - Introduction to the Best of Series
02:53 - The Volcanic Analogy: Growth Through Adversity
04:14 - Understanding Neutral Circumstances
11:56 - The Power of Judgment and Evaluation
15:18 - Estrangement vs. Alienation: Definitions and Impacts
18:59 - The Importance of Men's Letters in Reconciliation
22:46 - Reparenting: Healing Childhood Wounds
25:35 - Agency and Self-Agency: Empowering Relationships
29:57 - Somatic Awareness: Connecting Body and Mind
The Best of Family Disappeared: Focusing on Personal Growth After Alienation part two - Episode 87
31 Mar 2025
00:36:53
This conversation explores the profound effects of parental alienation on individuals and families, highlighting personal growth, emotional healing, and the journey of reconnecting with estranged children. The speakers share their experiences, insights, and the importance of community support in navigating the challenges of alienation and recovery.
Key Takeaways
Parental alienation can lead to a feeling of survival rather than living.
Engaging in creative expression, like dance, can be healing.
It's essential to meet estranged children where they are emotionally.
Recovery involves accepting powerlessness over the situation.
Children also suffer from the effects of parental alienation.
Communication should be approached with compassion and understanding.
Recovery is a continuous journey, not a destination.
Building a supportive community is crucial for healing.
Trust in the child's ability to see through alienation.
Navigating relationships requires emotional intelligence and self-awareness.
Chapters
00:00 - Introduction to Parental Alienation and Personal Growth
04:33 - The Journey of Reuniting with Children
11:38 - Impact of Parental Alienation on Relationships
15:15 - Parenting Without Access: Challenges and Insights
20:37 - Navigating Emotions and Recovery
24:02 - Shifts in Relationships and Communication
30:01 - Lessons Learned and Moving Forward
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
The Best of Family Disappeared: Focusing on Personal Growth After Alienation - Episode 86
24 Mar 2025
00:36:21
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Lawrence Joss introduces a compilation of impactful moments from previous episodes, focusing on the theme of parental alienation and its profound effects on families. The conversation highlights personal stories of struggle, recovery, and the importance of community support. Various speakers share their experiences with parental alienation, the journey of healing, and the systemic issues within family courts. The episode emphasizes the need for authenticity, vulnerability, and personal growth in the face of adversity, while also calling for systemic change to better support families in crisis.
Key Takeaways
Parental alienation can affect anyone in a family.
Emotional and spiritual work is crucial for healing.
Support groups provide a sense of community and understanding.
Recovery involves focusing on oneself and personal growth.
Authenticity in parenting can lead to healthier relationships.
Systemic issues in family courts need to be addressed.
Parenting roles evolve through personal experiences and recovery.
Acceptance of what is can lead to peace and healing.
Resources for emotional and legal support are essential.
Sharing personal stories can help others feel less alone.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Best of Family Disappeared Podcast
01:36 The Impact of Parental Alienation
03:38 Personal Stories of Struggle and Recovery
09:59 Understanding Parental Alienation
12:40 The Journey of Recovery
15:42 Authenticity and Vulnerability in Parenting
19:12 Systemic Issues in Family Courts
20:16 Evolving Parenting Roles
22:49 Lessons from Recovery Steps
29:43 Resources for Support and Change
33:38 Conclusion and Call to Action
If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss
(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)
Dr. Bernet Talks About The Intricacies Of Parental Alienation Part 2 - Episode 85
17 Mar 2025
00:26:53
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss continues the conversation with Dr. William Bernet, focusing on the innovative resources and strategies being developed to address parental alienation. They discuss a new book aimed at educating judges and mental health professionals, the importance of the Parental Alienation Study Group (PASG), and the need for accurate information in the field. Dr. Bernet shares insights on the challenges faced by mental health professionals and advocates for awareness of misinformation surrounding parental alienation. The episode concludes with a hopeful story of reunification between a parent and child, emphasizing the potential for positive outcomes in challenging situations.
Key Takeaways
The new book on parental alienation will be concise and free. Its title will be "Parental Alienation Theory: official synopsis".
Innovative testing is being integrated into evaluations for parental alienation.
The PASG aims to educate and support professionals and families.
Misinformation about parental alienation is prevalent and harmful.
Mental health professionals need to seek out education on parental alienation.
Early intervention can lead to positive outcomes for families.
The importance of community support in dealing with parental alienation.
Adversarial collaboration can help resolve disagreements in the field.
The new book will be available in multiple languages.
Staying in touch with children can lead to reunification after alienation.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Parental Alienation and New Resources
03:03 Innovative Testing and Evaluation in Parental Alienation
10:20 The Launch of a Groundbreaking Book
15:16 Understanding the Parental Alienation Study Group (PASG)
18:11 Advice for Mental Health Professionals
22:58 Misinformation and Advocacy in Parental Alienation
Dr. Bernet Talks About The Intricacies Of Parental Alienation Part 1 - Episode 84
10 Mar 2025
00:29:02
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Lawrence Joss interviews Dr. Bill Bernet, a child psychiatrist and forensic psychiatrist with extensive experience in parental alienation. They discuss the historical context of parental alienation, the role of Richard Gardner in defining the term, and the challenges faced in the court system. Dr. Bernet shares insights on the polarization within the family law community and highlights collaborative efforts to bridge divides. The conversation also touches on innovative strategies for early intervention and the significance of the PARQ test in assessing parental alienation.
Key Takeaways
Parental alienation was not widely recognized in the early days.
Dr. Bill Bernet has been involved in parental alienation for decades.
Richard Gardner introduced the term parental alienation syndrome in 1985.
Many therapists still struggle to identify parental alienation.
Judges have varying levels of understanding about parental alienation.
Polarization exists between domestic violence advocates and parental alienation proponents.
Early intervention is crucial for addressing mild cases of parental alienation.
The PARQ test shows a 99% accuracy in identifying alienated children.
Collaboration between different advocacy groups is essential for progress.
The focus should always be on the well-being of the children involved.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Parental Alienation
02:57 Dr. Bill Bernet's Journey in Parental Alienation
Unfolding In Recovery After Parental Alienation: Building Connection With Self And Others - Episode 83
03 Mar 2025
00:33:24
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence and Anna explore the themes of recovery, personal growth, and the impact of family dynamics on relationships. They discuss the importance of community support, the challenges of powerlessness in relationships, and the journey towards self-discovery through meditation and emotional awareness. The conversation highlights the significance of letting go of titles and embracing a more authentic self, as well as the role of chaos in shaping one's identity. Through their personal experiences, they emphasize the transformative power of recovery and the importance of vulnerability in healing.
Key Takeaways
Recovery is about community, not just individual experiences.
Letting go of titles can lead to a more authentic self.
Personal growth often comes from painful experiences.
Building a relationship with oneself is crucial in recovery.
Meditation can help regulate the nervous system and promote peace.
The journey of recovery involves learning to feel emotions.
Support groups provide a space for vulnerability and growth.
Chaos can become addictive, making peace feel uncomfortable.
It's important to give oneself permission to ask for help.
The work done in recovery can positively impact future generations.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Recovery and Flexibility
01:58 Personal Experiences in Recovery
03:48 Understanding Powerlessness in Relationships
Degrees of Destruction: Mild, Moderate, and Severe Parental Alienation Part 2: Episode 82
24 Feb 2025
00:27:09
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss continues the conversation with Dr. Alan Blotcky, focusing on the complexities of parental alienation. They discuss the importance of succinct communication in court, the dynamics of alienation, the role of experts, financial challenges in legal proceedings, and the impact of social media on perceptions of parental alienation. Dr. Blotcky shares success stories from reunification therapy and emphasizes the need for a supportive team to navigate these challenging situations. The conversation concludes with a positive message about the potential for change and healing in the context of parental alienation.
Key Takeaways
Advocating for oneself is crucial in parental alienation cases.
Succinct communication in court can significantly impact outcomes.
Understanding the behaviors and their effects is more important than labels.
Success in reunification therapy is possible with the right approach.
Financial resources can limit access to expert testimony.
Many therapists lack an understanding of parental alienation.
Social media can spread misinformation about parental alienation.
Judges may resist new information and cling to old biases.
Building a supportive team is essential for navigating legal challenges.
Parental alienation can be addressed and improved with the right strategies.
Degrees of Destruction: Mild, Moderate, and Severe Parental Alienation Part 1: Episode 81
17 Feb 2025
00:24:47
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Lawrence Joss speaks with Dr. Alan Blotcky, a clinical and forensic psychologist specializing in parental alienation. They explore the complexities of parental alienation, including its definitions, behavioral strategies, and varying degrees of severity. Dr. Blotcky emphasizes the importance of effective legal representation and the need for both parents to engage in therapy for successful reunification. The conversation also addresses common misconceptions about parental alienation and the challenges faced in the court system.
Key Takeaways
Parental alienation can be mild, moderate, or severe.
Effective legal representation is crucial in parental alienation cases.
Judges often order reunification therapy without addressing the alienating parent's behavior.
Alienating parents may not realize the harm they cause to their children.
The treatment for parental alienation varies based on severity.
Coordination among all parties involved in a case is essential for success.
Misconceptions about parental alienation can hinder progress in cases.
More information in court does not always lead to better outcomes.
Therapists play a critical role in addressing parental alienation.
Support from the community is vital for those affected by parental alienation.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Parental Alienation
09:02 Understanding Parental Alienation
18:08 The Role of Attorneys in Parental Alienation Cases
"Where Did My Mom Go?": A Child's Terrifying Introduction To Parental Alienation Part 2 - Episode 80
10 Feb 2025
00:39:30
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss interviews Dana, a previously alienated child who has grown into an adult and author. Dana shares her journey of healing from childhood alienation, the complexities of reconnecting with her mother, and the challenges of navigating family dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the importance of community support, the lessons learned from regret, and the power of choice in moving forward. Dana's insights provide valuable guidance for others facing similar experiences, highlighting the need for education and self-empowerment in the healing process.
Key Takeaways
Being an alienated child is part of her experience, not her identity.
Reconnecting with estranged parents can be complex and requires readiness.
Navigating family dynamics is challenging for alienated children.
Community support is crucial for healing and understanding.
Education about psychological abuse can empower individuals.
It's important to express one's truth for personal healing.
Regret can be a powerful motivator for change and growth.
The power of choice is essential in moving forward after trauma.
Healing involves facing uncomfortable emotions and experiences.
Service to others can be a transformative part of the healing journey.
Parental Alienation, Pre-Alienation & Rebuilding Trust with Your Kids - Episode 106
11 Aug 2025
00:34:36
In this conversation, Lawrence Joss interviews Charles McCready, a parental alienation coach, who shares his personal experiences and insights on the complexities of parental alienation. They discuss the emotional challenges faced by parents, the concept of pre-alienation, and the importance of understanding the child's perspective. The conversation emphasizes the need for parents to focus on their own healing and emotional regulation to foster trust and connection with their children. Practical strategies for preparing for interactions with children and the long-term nature of healing from alienation are also highlighted.
Key Takeaways
Grief and vulnerability are interconnected in parental alienation.
Parental alienation can begin subtly and escalate over time.
Understanding pre-alienation helps in recognizing early signs.
Children often feel caught in loyalty conflicts during alienation.
Emotional regulation is crucial for parents dealing with alienation.
Parents must focus on their healing to support their children.
Trust is built through consistent, safe interactions with children.
Preparation for meetings with children can prevent emotional triggers.
Healing from alienation is a long-term process requiring dedication.
Self-awareness and understanding of triggers are key to recovery.
Chapters
00:00 - Understanding Grief and Vulnerability 00:41 - Introduction to Parental Alienation 02:04 - The Complexity of Parental Alienation 03:56 - Personal Experiences with Alienation 05:45 - The Concept of Pre-Alienation 08:52 - Cognitive Dissonance in Children 10:02 - The Dynamics of Healing and Safety 11:58 - Navigating Emotions as a Parent 17:47 - The Nine Emotions of Alienation 22:05 - Practical Strategies for Parents 27:04 - The Importance of Continuous Healing
For more detailed information regarding Charlie McCready and the 9-step program, please click the link below:
"Where Did My Mom Go?": A Child's Terrifying Introduction To Parental Alienation - Episode 79
03 Feb 2025
00:34:35
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Lawrence Joss interviews Dana Laquidara, an adult alienated child who shares her powerful story of parental alienation. Dana recounts her early experiences of being separated from her mother at a young age, the emotional turmoil it caused, and the long journey of healing and reconnection with her family. The conversation delves into the psychological impact of alienation on identity, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the importance of community and support in the healing process.
Key Takeaways
Dana shares her traumatic experience of being alienated from her mother at four years old.
The emotional impact of parental alienation can lead to repression of feelings in children.
Children often feel powerless and afraid to ask questions during alienation.
Dana's journey highlights the importance of community and resources for healing.
Reconnecting with a parent after alienation can be a complex emotional process.
The narrative controlled by the alienating parent can distort children's perceptions.
Dana's memoir, titled 'You Know Who', reflects her experiences and insights.
Healing involves acknowledging and processing repressed emotions.
The journey of healing can take many years and requires self-discovery.
Dana emphasizes the importance of understanding the child's perspective in alienation situations.
Trauma Bonding: The Hidden Heart of Parental Alienation Part 2 - Episode 78
27 Jan 2025
00:30:32
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss continues his conversation with Randi Fine, an expert on narcissistic personality disorders. They delve into the complexities of trauma bonding, the effects of parental alienation on children, and the importance of reunification therapy. Randi explains the role of 'flying monkeys' in narcissistic relationships and emphasizes the need for internal validation and resilience in the healing process. The discussion also highlights the critical role of legal support for parents fighting for their children in cases of parental alienation.
Key Takeaways
Trauma bonding can lead to unhealthy relationships.
Children affected by parental alienation need reunification therapy.
Narcissists often use 'flying monkeys' to manipulate others.
Internal validation is crucial for healing from narcissistic abuse.
Legal support is essential for parents in custody battles.
The effects of narcissistic abuse can be lifelong.
It's important to recognize reactive behaviors in abusive relationships.
Support from family and friends is vital for those in trauma bonds.
Healing is a continuous process that requires resilience.
Acknowledging one's own behavior is key to rebuilding relationships.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Trauma Bonding and Narcissism 04:23 The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children 10:42 Understanding the Role of Flying Monkeys 12:35 Reconnecting with Ex-Flying Monkeys 18:04 The Importance of Internal Validation 24:17 Fighting for Children in the Legal System
Trauma Bonding: The Hidden Heart of Parental Alienation Part 1 - Episode 77
20 Jan 2025
00:41:14
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss engages with Randi Fine, a narcissistic abuse expert, to delve into the complexities of trauma bonding and narcissistic relationships. They explore the nuances of narcissism, the signs of narcissistic behavior, and the psychological impact of trauma bonds. Randi explains how these unhealthy attachments form and the challenges they present, especially in the context of parental alienation. The conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing manipulative behaviors and the need for support in breaking free from these toxic cycles.
Key Takeaways
Trauma bonding is an unhealthy attachment formed in toxic relationships.
Narcissistic personality disorder is a serious condition, not just narcissistic tendencies.
Intermittent reinforcement keeps victims trapped in a cycle of hope and despair.
Children can exhibit narcissistic behaviors due to parental alienation, but it doesn't mean they have NPD.
The healing process from narcissistic abuse can take time and requires support.
Narcissists manipulate their victims through charm and neglect.
It's crucial to recognize red flags early in relationships with narcissists.
The cycle of abuse often includes love bombing followed by devaluation.
Breaking free from a trauma bond requires understanding and support.
Being nice to a narcissist often leads to more abuse, not less.
Anxious Parents, Anxious Kids: Perpetuating, a Cycle of Parental Alienation, Estrangement and Erasure Part 2- Episode 76
13 Jan 2025
00:31:52
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss continues his conversation with therapist Emily Moon, discussing the complexities of parenting, especially in the context of parental alienation. They explore the importance of community support, transitioning from a protective to a providing role, the significance of discipline and boundaries, and the value of quality relationships over quantity. Emily emphasizes self-care and personal growth for parents, while also providing actionable strategies for positive parenting.
Key Takeaways
Parenting mistakes can lead to harmful dynamics.
Establishing a supportive community is crucial.
Transitioning from protection to provision is essential.
Discipline should be consistent and respectful.
Quality relationships matter more than quantity.
Self-care is vital for effective parenting.
Children thrive in safe and consistent environments.
Fun and joy are important aspects of parenting.
Parents should avoid negative talk about the other parent.
It's okay to let children love both parents.
Episode Highlights 00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges 04:20 Building a Supportive Community 07:12 Transitioning from Protection to Provision 10:54 Discipline and Boundaries in Parenting 16:31 Quality Over Quantity in Relationships 21:16 Personal Growth and Self-Care 24:40 Positive Parenting Strategies
Anxious Parents, Anxious Kids: Perpetuating, a Cycle of Parental Alienation, Estrangement and Erasure Part 1 - Episode 75
06 Jan 2025
00:33:23
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Lawrence Joss speaks with therapist Emily Moon about the complexities of parenting during high-conflict divorce situations. They explore the emotional challenges faced by parents, the impact of parental alienation, and the importance of vulnerability and accountability in parenting. Emily shares her personal experiences with alienation and offers insights into common challenges parents face, including counter-parenting dynamics and the need for emotional regulation. The conversation emphasizes the importance of teaching children about right and wrong while acknowledging their feelings and developmental stages.
Key Takeaways
Parenting in high-conflict situations can be overwhelming.
Striving for perfection in parenting can lead to harm.
Alienating parents often prioritize conflict over children's well-being.
Hopelessness is a common feeling among targeted parents.
Children's emotional states are influenced by their parents' emotions.
Vulnerability fosters deeper connections with children.
Parents should acknowledge their imperfections to teach accountability.
Understanding child development is crucial in parenting discussions.
Counterparenting can severely impact children's emotional health.
Support systems are essential for parents navigating these challenges.
From Pain to Purpose: New Year Intentions for Overcoming Parental Alienation - Episode 74
30 Dec 2024
00:51:44
In this New Year's episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss reflects on the past year, discussing personal growth, community support, and the journey of reconnecting with children affected by parental alienation. Guests share their experiences of acceptance, forgiveness, and the importance of setting intentions for the new year, emphasizing the need for patience and self-compassion in the healing process. In this conversation, participants reflect on their intentions for the New Year, emphasizing the importance of setting personal goals, the healing power of writing, and the significance of building connections with family. They discuss the challenges of acceptance in relationships, the joy of community, and the value of service as a means of personal growth. The dialogue highlights the emotional complexities of family dynamics and the shared journey of recovery, culminating in a hopeful outlook for the future.
Key Takeaways
Community support is vital during challenging times.
Personal growth often comes from acceptance of difficult situations.
Reconnecting with children requires patience and understanding.
Forgiveness is a nuanced part of emotional recovery.
Setting intentions can help guide personal growth in the new year.
It's important to acknowledge both the joys and struggles of parenting.
Practicing self-compassion can lead to a richer life experience.
Engaging in lighthearted activities can balance serious recovery work.
Building a supportive community can foster healing and connection.
Recognizing the blessings in life can shift focus from loss to gratitude. Setting goals can create balance in life.
Writing can be a powerful tool for healing.
Journaling helps process emotions and experiences.
Creating connections is essential for emotional well-being.
Acceptance is key in navigating family relationships.
Service to others can provide a sense of purpose.
Embracing joy and community enhances recovery.
It's important to allow space for all emotions.
Modeling acceptance can positively influence children.
Finding joy in simple activities can uplift spirits.
Surviving Christmas As The Ghost Parent: Coping With Parental Alienation And Estrangement - Episode 73
23 Dec 2024
00:56:59
In this Christmas episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Lawrence Joss and guests discuss the challenges of parental alienation during the holidays. They share personal stories of estrangement, recovery, and the importance of community support. The conversation highlights the emotional complexities of missing loved ones while also finding joy in new traditions and connections.
The guests reflect on their journeys, the significance of planning for the holidays, and the cherished memories that bring warmth to their experiences. In this conversation, participants share their experiences and strategies for navigating the emotional complexities of the holiday season, particularly in the context of estrangement and alienation. They discuss the importance of having a plan, finding joy through service, creating new memories, and leaning into community support. The conversation emphasizes the significance of mental health and self-care during the holidays, encouraging listeners to embrace their feelings and seek connection with others.
Key Takeaways
Christmas can be a painful reminder of estrangement.
Recovery allows for a better connection with oneself.
Creating new traditions is essential for healing.
It's important to live for oneself, not just for the kids.
Hope for the future is a powerful motivator.
Community support is crucial during the holidays.
Finding joy in small moments can uplift spirits.
Planning for the holidays can provide structure and comfort.
Cherished memories can bring warmth amidst challenges.
Emotional well-being is key to navigating estrangement. The devastation of alienation can lead to a lack of motivation during the holidays.
Having a plan can provide emotional grounding and structure.
Engaging in service work can help shift focus from personal pain to joy in helping others.
Creating new holiday memories is essential for personal healing.
Mental health strategies, such as community support, are crucial during the holidays.
Leaning into relationships and connections can combat feelings of isolation.
It's important to acknowledge and communicate personal feelings and needs.
Finding joy in small traditions can help maintain a sense of normalcy.
Self-care practices are vital for emotional well-being during the holidays.
Embracing gratitude can lead to a more positive holiday experience.
How To Pick The Best Attorney With Legal Expert Rachel King Part 2 - Episode 72
16 Dec 2024
00:40:15
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Lawrence Joss continues his conversation with attorney Rachel King, who shares valuable insights on navigating the legal system, particularly in family law.
They discuss the importance of understanding the attorney-client relationship, managing legal fees, and clients' rights when facing attorney misconduct. Rachel also provides a sneak peek into her upcoming book, which aims to empower individuals going through divorce and family law issues. The episode concludes with a discussion on self-representation in court and the challenges it presents.
Key Takeaways
Understanding your agency in legal matters is crucial.
95% of family law cases settle, often without trial.
Effective communication with your attorney can prevent misunderstandings.
Reviewing invoices promptly can help manage legal fees.
Judges have discretion, making family law unpredictable.
Observing court proceedings can provide valuable insights.
Self-representation requires a solid understanding of the law.
Emotional detachment is key for effective legal representation.
Word choice in court can significantly impact outcomes.
Reporting attorney misconduct is a viable option.
Chapters 00:00 Navigating Legal Relationships
04:46 Understanding Attorney Fees and Billing Practices
10:59 Addressing Attorney Misconduct and Client Rights
15:42 Insights from Rachel King's Upcoming Book
31:10 Self-Representation in Family Law Cases
Rachel King - https://rachelkingattorney.com/ Rachel's book - "Getting Divorced - Now What?"
How To Pick The Best Attorney With Legal Expert Rachel King Part 1 - Episode 71
09 Dec 2024
00:36:24
Feeling overwhelmed during a court appearance can be a daunting experience, but attorney Rachel King is here to guide you through the legal maze with confidence. In our latest episode, Rachel draws from her expertise to share transformative strategies for selecting the right attorney and maintaining agency in your legal battles. Whether you're representing yourself or working with legal counsel, Rachel's insights will empower you to navigate the legal landscape with poise. Her upcoming book promises to be a vital resource for anyone looking to better understand the intricacies of legal representation.
We dive into the heart of family law litigation, highlighting the importance of selecting a trustworthy attorney who communicates openly and sets realistic expectations. Trusting your instincts is essential when choosing legal representation, especially in challenging situations like divorce or parental alienation cases. Rachel also sheds light on recognizing ineffective legal representation and understanding when an attorney may not be the right fit, ensuring you're never stuck with unrealistic promises or poor communication.
Effective client-attorney communication is the cornerstone of a successful legal journey. Rachel emphasizes the need for clear expectations and understanding between clients and their legal representatives, urging both parties to establish mutual guidelines from the outset. As we wrap up, we focus on the positive impact of community support and kindness, encouraging listeners to share this episode with anyone who might benefit from its empowering insights. Join us in spreading gratitude and continuing our exploration of the legal world with open hearts and minds.
Rachel King - https://rachelkingattorney.com/ Rachel's book - "Getting Divorced - Now What?"
Alienation, Estrangement, And The Path To Healing Explained By Expert Dr. Sue Cornbluth Part 2 - Episode 70
02 Dec 2024
00:41:12
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss continues his conversation with Dr. Sue, focusing on the themes of healing, responsibility, and the complexities of parent-child and grandparent-grandchild relationships. Dr. Sue emphasizes the importance of empathy, self-compassion, and understanding in navigating these relationships, while also addressing the challenges posed by narcissistic individuals. The discussion highlights the need for personal growth and the significance of setting boundaries to foster healthier connections.
Key Takeaways
Healing starts with taking responsibility for our actions.
It's crucial to meet children where they are emotionally.
Self-compassion is essential for personal growth.
Children should not bear the emotional burdens of their parents.
Empathy can bridge gaps in strained relationships.
Grandparents must resolve issues with parents first.
Time and patience are key in rebuilding relationships.
You can only change your own behavior, not others.
Good enough parenting is sufficient for healthy development.
Conflict resolution requires compassion and understanding.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Healing and Responsibility 02:55 Navigating Parent-Child Relationships 06:14 The Role of Grandparents in Reconnection 09:02 Empathy and Understanding in Relationships 11:49 Self-Compassion and Overcoming Shame 14:50 Boundaries and Emotional Needs 18:04 Managing Conflict with Narcissistic Individuals 20:53 The Importance of Personal Change 24:04 Final Thoughts and Resources
When Nonviolent Communication Becomes Weaponized in Parental Alienation & Family Estrangement - Ep 105
04 Aug 2025
00:28:38
In this episode, Lawrence Joss explores the transformative power of nonviolent communication, sharing personal anecdotes and practical examples. He emphasizes the importance of creating safe spaces for open dialogue, understanding feelings and needs, and building connections in relationships. Through various scenarios, he illustrates how effective communication can lead to healing and growth, both personally and within family dynamics. The conversation highlights the significance of vulnerability, empathy, and the ongoing journey of mastering communication skills.
Key Takeaways
Creating a safe space allows for open communication.
Nonviolent communication can transform relationships.
Understanding feelings is key to resolving conflicts.
Building bridges requires empathy and connection.
Vulnerability fosters deeper conversations.
Effective communication can lead to healing.
Recognizing needs is essential in dialogue.
Personal growth is a continuous journey.
Emotional work is necessary for transformation.
Nonviolent communication is a powerful tool for change.
Chapters
00:00 - Creating Safe Spaces for Communication 02:53 - The Power of Nonviolent Communication 05:45 - Navigating Difficult Conversations 09:03 - Understanding Feelings and Needs 11:50 - Building Bridges in Relationships 14:42 - Transforming Conflict into Connection 18:00 - The Role of Vulnerability in Communication 20:51 - The Journey of Personal Growth 24:00 - The Impact of Nonviolent Communication on Relationships
How To Navigate Thanksgiving This Holiday - Thanksgiving Special Episode
25 Nov 2024
00:24:14
What happens when the people you love decide not to spend the holidays with you? Join me, Lawrence Joss, as I navigate the emotional minefield of family dynamics during Thanksgiving. Through my personal journey, I explore the crucial steps of emotional and spiritual healing, finding solace and understanding in the face of family estrangement. Drawing from personal growth and the support of a 12-step program, I share the emotional labor required to accept and validate loved ones' choices. Whether you're experiencing alienation from your children or strained relationships with siblings, discover how community and support groups, like Parental Alienation Anonymous, can be a lifeline during the holiday season.
Our journey doesn’t stop at understanding; it moves toward action, creativity, and new traditions. I offer insights on managing limited interactions during holiday gatherings, emphasizing the importance of being present, flexible, and understanding, especially when time with loved ones is scarce. From creating collaborative artworks to redefining Thanksgiving traditions, this episode is a heartfelt guide for fostering positivity in challenging circumstances. Hear how embracing new Thanksgiving traditions can bring unexpected joy, and uncover practical advice on navigating reunions with young adult children. Connect with our podcast community, share your stories, and become part of a supportive network dedicated to healing and growth.
Alienation, Estrangement, And The Path To Healing Explained By Expert Dr. Sue Cornbluth Part 1 - Episode 69
18 Nov 2024
00:36:09
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss interviews Dr. Sue Cornbluth, a national parenting expert specializing in parental alienation and estrangement. The conversation delves into the complexities of family dynamics, emphasizing the importance of self-connection and accountability in healing relationships.
Dr. Sue shares her insights on the differences between alienation and estrangement, the necessity of self-compassion, and effective communication strategies for reconnecting with children and grandchildren. The episode highlights the long-term nature of healing and the need for parents to take responsibility for their actions while fostering healthier relationships.
Key Takeaways
Self-compassion is crucial for emotional healing.
Reconnecting with oneself is essential before reconnecting with children.
Alienation involves one parent brainwashing the child against the other.
Estrangement is when children distance themselves from their parents due to various factors.
Accountability means feeling the impact of one's actions on one's children.
Healing takes time and requires self-awareness and coping skills.
Effective communication is key to rebuilding trust with children.
Acceptance does not mean liking the situation but recognizing it.
Parents must meet children on their terms for reconnection.
No one is a perfect parent; mistakes are part of the journey.
What's My Part In The Family Disease of Parental Alienation Part 2 - Episode 68
11 Nov 2024
00:53:13
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, Lawrence Joss delves into the complexities of alienation and estrangement within family dynamics. The conversation explores how communication styles, conflict avoidance, and personal reflections on parenting contribute to these issues. Guests share their experiences and insights, emphasizing the importance of understanding and adapting communication to foster healthier relationships. The discussion highlights the challenges of navigating emotions, the impact of family origins on behavior, and the potential for growth and healing through self-awareness and accountability.
In this conversation, participants explore the complexities of parental alienation, the futility of seeking validation from professionals, and the transformative power of recovery. They share personal experiences of navigating the legal and mental health systems, the challenges of communication, and the journey toward self-acceptance and healing. The discussion emphasizes the importance of personal growth, compassion, and finding balance in life amidst struggles.
Key Takeaways
We contribute to alienation unknowingly.
Conflict avoidance can perpetuate dysfunction.
Meeting children where they are is crucial.
Disagreements can strengthen relationships.
Communication styles are learned behaviors.
No communication can be a damaging form of communication.
Defensive responses hinder connection.
Reflecting on past mistakes is essential for growth.
Understanding family dynamics is key to healing.
Taking ownership of our actions fosters accountability. Nobody wins in alienation; it's a losing game for all.
The desire to win can lead to destructive behaviors.
Seeking validation from professionals can drain energy.
Personal growth often requires letting go of the need to be right.
Recovery involves shifting focus from past trauma to present healing.
Finding balance is crucial for emotional well-being.
Self-care practices can significantly improve mental health.
Embracing change can lead to new opportunities for happiness.
Compassion for oneself is essential for healing.
Sharing experiences in the community fosters understanding and growth.
What's My Part In The Family Disease of Parental Alienation Part 1 - Episode 67
04 Nov 2024
00:44:57
In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Lawrence Joss and a panel of parents discuss the complex dynamics of parental alienation. They explore their roles in contributing to alienation, the emotional struggles they face, and the impact of their family of origin on their current relationships. Through personal stories and reflections, the panel emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, forgiveness, and healing in navigating the challenges of estrangement and rebuilding connections with their children.
Key Takeaways
Parental alienation is a complex issue that affects many families.
Self-reflection is crucial in understanding our role in alienation.
Emotional dysregulation can lead to unintentional alienating behaviors.
Forgiveness and compassion for ourselves are essential in the healing process.
Family of origin dynamics often influence our current relationships.
Codependency can hinder our ability to be present for our children.
It's important to allow children to have their own experiences with both parents.
Learning from mistakes can lead to personal growth and improved relationships.
Support groups provide valuable resources and community for healing.
The journey of healing is ongoing and requires patience and understanding.
Episode Highlights: 00:00 Introduction to Parental Alienation 02:53 Understanding Our Role in Alienation 06:12 Panel Introductions and Personal Stories 08:56 The Alienator Within Us 12:11 Reflections on Personal Contributions to Alienation 14:52 Family of Origin Influences 18:08 Coping Mechanisms and Their Impact 20:48 Learning from Mistakes 24:01 The Journey of Healing and Forgiveness 26:52 Conclusion and Call to Action