Family Disappeared – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode of the Family Disappeared podcast, host Laurence Joss leads a heartfelt discussion with a panel of parents and grandparents about their experiences with parental alienation and recovery. The conversation explores the transformative power of the 12-step program, the concept of alienation as a family disease, and the importance of community support in the healing process. Panelists share personal stories of growth, the challenges of navigating relationships, and the significance of self-reflection in recovery. The episode emphasizes the need for patience and understanding in the journey of healing and the impact of individual change on family dynamics.

Key Takeaways

• The 12-step process can help change unmanageable situations.
• Community support is crucial in the recovery journey.
• Alienation affects the entire family system, not just individuals.
• Personal growth leads to changes in family dynamics.
• Recovery is about how we show up in relationships.
• Patience is essential in the healing process.
• The 12 steps provide a framework for addressing dysfunction.
• Isolation can hinder recovery; connection is key.
• Understanding alienation as a family disease helps in healing.
• Self-reflection is vital for personal transformation.

Chapters

00:00 - Reflections on Change and Recovery
02:58 - The Power of Community in Recovery
05:49 - Understanding the 12-Step Framework
08:42 - Personal Experiences with Parental Alienation
11:55 - The Concept of Family Disease
14:48 - Navigating Relationships and Alienation
17:38 - The Role of Consistency in Recovery
20:49 - The Journey of Healing and Growth
23:47 - Final Thoughts and Community Support

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

This conversation delves into the complexities of parental alienation, exploring personal experiences, emotional struggles, and the importance of community support. The panel discusses the challenges faced in navigating relationships, the role of institutions, and the impact of recovery tools in managing crises. Through shared stories and insights, the discussion highlights the need for patience, understanding, and resilience in the face of familial estrangement.

Key Takeaways

• Parental alienation is a complex issue that is often misunderstood.
• Personal experiences of alienation can vary greatly among individuals.
• Community support plays a crucial role in recovery from parental alienation.
• Emotional regulation is key in navigating relationships with estranged family members.
• Institutions often lack understanding of parental alienation, complicating recovery efforts.
• Recovery tools, such as patience and surrender, can help manage crises.
• It's important to take time before responding to emotionally charged situations.
• The journey of recovery is ongoing and requires continuous effort and support.
• Coping mechanisms evolve over time as individuals gain more experience in recovery.
• Building resilience is essential for dealing with the challenges of parental alienation.

Chapters

00:00 - Understanding Parental Alienation
02:39 - Personal Experiences and Introductions
05:42 - Check-In: Current Emotional States
08:54 - Navigating Relationships and Recovery
11:48 - The Role of Institutions in Parental Alienation
14:54 - Complexities of Parental Alienation
17:56 - The Impact of Recovery Tools
20:40 - Coping Mechanisms in Crisis
24:06 - Community Support and Resilience
26:47 - Reflections on Recovery and Growth

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email - familydisappeared@gmail.com
Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

This conversation explores the themes of self-love, gratitude, and recovery from alienation. The speakers share their personal journeys, emphasizing the importance of connecting with oneself and the transformative power of gratitude. They discuss how alienation has led to unexpected connections and deeper empathy in relationships, as well as the challenges and growth that come from navigating these experiences. The conversation highlights the significance of community support and the ongoing process of healing and personal development.

Key Takeaways

• Learning to love oneself is crucial for recovery.
• Gratitude can shift perspectives and enhance life experiences.
• Alienation can lead to unexpected and valuable connections.
• Empathy for others can transform relationships.
• Past experiences shape our current perspectives on relationships.
• Self-connection is essential for healthy relationships with others.
• Recovery is a long process that requires patience and humility.
• Community support is vital in the journey of healing.
• Recognizing the importance of small wins in recovery is key.
• Gratitude can be found in the most challenging situations.

Chapters

00:00 - The Journey of Self-Love
02:05 - Understanding Gratitude in Recovery
04:00 - Alienation and Unexpected Connections
09:20 - Transforming Relationships Through Empathy
13:00 - Lessons from Past Relationships
20:22 - The Importance of Self-Connection
25:41 - Hope and Community in Recovery
29:38 - Gratitude for Future Opportunities

Related Gratitude Episodes:

• “Grateful and Grieving” – A panel of alienated parents share their stories Part 1
•  “Grateful and Grieving” – A panel of alienated parents share their stories Part 2 
• Letting Go, Holding On: The Paradox of Healing from Alienation & Estrangement

If you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:

Email-      familydisappeared@gmail.com

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss

(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)

Please donate to support PAA programs:

https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

Navigating the court system can be a daunting expedition. 

In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Lynn Steinberg, a seasoned author, advocate, and psychologist, who's also served as an expert witness. We discuss navigating the courtroom, self-representation challenges, and the importance of taking control of your legal journey. She shares practical advice on court preparation and choosing the right attorney. We also explore 'pro se' representation.

We shine a light on parental alienation, a misunderstood topic. Dr. Lynn offers insights into its impact on families and addresses gender-biased laws and coercive control.

We dive into Dr. Lynn's book, "You're Not Crazy," which analyzes the court system, offers tips for supporting loved ones, and emphasizes self-representation. Staying composed and focusing on facts are crucial in addressing hidden issues.

Buckle up for this episode!

Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.

• Sign up- The family hope project-virtual art gallery and advocacy platform 
• Sign up- Parental Alienation Anonymous support group meetings (PA-A.org) 
• Sign up- Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 
• Sign up- Meditation:The heart practices. Free meditation and discussion. 

FUNDRAISING
Please donate to support PAA programs:
https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

PLEASE SUBMIT YOUR ART WORK TO THE FAMILY HOPE PROJECT:
https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/questionnaire
Connect with Dr. Lynn Steinberg https://lynnsteinberg.com/

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This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

“We try to be the best version of ourselves we can be, but it takes time, and it takes work.” ~ Lawrence Joss

Many people often make the mistake of thinking it is the job of other people to fill the voids and mend the broken pieces within us.

However, WE are the only ones who can do the inner work to better ourselves. While we need the right tools, and the guidance of the right community, it all comes down to the work we are willing to do within ourselves. It’s a process that takes time, but the results will be transformational.

This episode is the second part of ‘What NOT to Do if You Are an Alienated Parent’. 

Renèe and Georgette delve into the patterns they repeated in order to get the attention of their kids, and how this tied into the thought process that, as parents, they are only loved and needed when they get a response. They share how things changed throughout their healing process,  and how these changes resulted in better connections and relationships with their loved ones. 

Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life. 

In This Episode:

• Renèe and Georgette share how they go through the cycle of reaching out to their children to calm and regulate their nervous system.
• How finding a community of people that understand where you are coming from can positively impact your healing process.
• The tools we can immediately access to give us relief such as music, sports, and nature.
• Renèe shares the conversations she had with her sons after things changed for her.
• The impact of people noticing the changes and growth throughout, and after, our healing.
• Finally feeling satisfaction and contentment with ourselves, and our relationships.

And more…

Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.

• Sign up- The family hope project-virtual art gallery and advocacy platform 
• Sign up- Parental Alienation Anonymous support group meetings (PA-A.org) 
• Sign up- Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 
• Sign up- Meditation:The heart practices. Free meditation and discussion. 

FUNDRAISING

• Please donate to support PAA programs:
  https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

PLEASE SUBMIT YOUR ART WORK TO THE FAMILY HOPE PROJECT:
https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/questionnaire

RESOURCES:

• G.R.A.C.E Training - https://www.upaya.org/program/g-r-a-c-e-training-in-cultivating-compassion-based-interactions-online-2022/?id=2451
• Byron Katie’s ‘The Work’ - The Work of Byron Katie
• NVC feelings and needs list  
• pdf's and printouts for NVC
• links

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

"You don't put up boundaries. You have boundaries. You put up walls." ~ Lawrence Joss

Host Lawrence Joss has invited a panel of parents who have 'been there before' to share the benefits of their hindsight.   Today's episode unpacks some of the common mistakes parents make when trying to reconnect with their loved ones.

The beauty of this episode is that if you are dealing with family estrangement or alienation, just by listening in, you give yourself a shot at not making some of the same mistakes. 

There is good advice for parenting in general, too – from not putting too much pressure on your kids in terms of them communicating with you, to not asking one child about how another child is doing (i.e., placing your focus on the child you are actually with). There's also wonderful insight into the rooms of PA-A, and the tools you can learn to deal with family estrangement. 

Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life. 

In This Episode:

• Renée shares on her alienation of over 25 years (with ‘first contact’ a few weeks ago).
• Georgette shares the alienation from her 27-year-old child.
• Understanding the various terms used to describe parental alienation.
• Focusing on the child that you are with (not asking about those not there).
• Putting too much pressure on your kids (and not allowing space for them to meet you halfway).
• The spiritual experience of feeling safe in the rooms of PA-A.
• Learning how to have boundaries.
• The distinction between putting up boundaries versus walls.

And more…

Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.

• Sign up- The family hope project-virtual art gallery and advocacy platform 
• Sign up- Parental Alienation Anonymous support group meetings (PA-A.org) 
• Sign up- Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 
• Sign up- Meditation:The heart practices. Free meditation and discussion. 

FUNDRAISING

• Please donate to support PAA programs:
  https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

PLEASE SUBMIT YOUR ART WORK TO THE FAMILY HOPE PROJECT:
https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/questionnaire

Resources

• G.R.A.C.E Training - https://www.upaya.org/program/g-r-a-c-e-training-in-cultivating-compassion-based-interactions-online-2022/?id=2451
• Byron Katie’s ‘The Work’ - The Work of Byron Katie
• NVC feelings and needs list  
• pdf's and printouts for NVC
• links for meditation

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

Have you ever witnessed a child who is 'inundated', feels overwhelmed, and doesn't know how to respond to a situation?

Wherever we may find ourselves within the family system – as a child, parent, grandparent, or partner – feeling dysregulated or ‘triggered’ by our loved ones can cause us to say and do things we may later regret. 

Dr. Mandy Cisler is an expert on mind/body integration: a somatic approach that provides us with the tools we need to calm down and think before we speak. She has pioneered the ‘Healing Framework’ as a somatic therapist, and this is Part Two of her heartfelt conversation with Lawrence Joss.

Be sure to listen to Part One if you have not already done so. Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life. 

In This Episode:

• Giving children the tools to regulate themselves emotionally. 
• What good modeling looks like to a child.
• Dr. Mandy's free training on nervous system regulation.
• What does inundation mean? 
• Understanding inundation anxiety in a child.
• What does splitting mean?
• Understanding The ‘Healing Framework’.
• Checking in with yourself.

And more…

Resources:

• Free Nervous System Regulation Training - https://www.drmandycisler.com/freetraining1

Connect with Dr. Mandy Cisler:

• Website 
• Instagram: @thehealingframework

Karen and Nick Woodall -https://www.karenwoodall.com/

Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.

• Sign up- The family hope project-virtual art gallery and advocacy platform 
• Sign up- Parental Alienation Anonymous support group meetings (PA-A.org) 
• Sign up- Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 
• Sign up- Meditation:The heart practices. Free meditation and discussion. 

FUNDRAISING

• Please donate to support PAA programs:
  https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

PLEASE SUBMIT YOUR ART WORK TO THE FAMILY HOPE PROJECT:
https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/questionnaire

Resources

• Free training sign-up: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/drmandyfreetraining
• G.R.A.C.E Training - https://www.upaya.org/program/g-r-a-c-e-training-in-cultivating-compassion-based-interactions-online-2022/?id=2451
• Byron Katie’s ‘The Work’ - The Work of Byron Katie

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

Have you ever experienced the feeling of dysregulation – and lashed out at a child or loved one because you were in a highly emotive state?

Dr. Mandy Cisler is a somatic therapist, coach, and founder of the ‘Healing Framework’.  She is an expert on a mind/body integration approach that supports you in regulating your nervous system. In this episode of “Family Disappeared”, she will share the tools of the somatic approach so that you can learn to check in with your body before reacting to a trying situation. 

Through learning about the invaluable work of Dr. Cisler, you will be able to identify behavioral patterns from your family of origin.  This, in turn, will allow you to discover how you can learn to listen to your body before speaking and reacting.  This will allow you to model and teach a new way of being to your children.

Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life. 

In This Episode:

• Learning to make better decisions with a somatic approach.
• Check-in with your body to identify how you are feeling.
• What effect will it have on a child if you show up in a highly emotional state?
• Understanding how we 'arrive' with some form of dysregulation.
• What are the key markers when looking for emotional dysregulation in a child? 
• When is it okay to reinforce a boundary with a child?
• Dr. Mandy showcases a simple breathing exercise.
• Understanding the concept of ‘mirroring’ as it relates to dysregulation.

And more…

Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.

• Sign up- The family hope project-virtual art gallery and advocacy platform 
• Sign up- Parental Alienation Anonymous support group meetings (PA-A.org) 
• Sign up- Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 
• Sign up- Meditation:The heart practices. Free meditation and discussion. 

FUNDRAISING

• Please donate to support PAA programs:
  https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

Resources
PLEASE SUBMIT YOUR ART WORK TO THE FAMILY HOPE PROJECT:
https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/questionnaire

• Free training sign-up: https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/drmandyfreetraining
• Dr. Mandy Instagram: @thehealingframework
• G.R.A.C.E Training - https://www.upaya.org/program/g-r-a-c-e-training-in-cultivating-compassion-based-interactions-online-2022/?id=2451
• Byron Katie’s ‘The Work’ - The Work of Byron Katie
• NVC feelings and needs list  
• PDFs and printouts for NVC

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

 "I feel really safe in the PA-A community. And that's allowed me to heal." ~ Alienated  Mom

"How can I create deep and meaningful, loving, reciprocal relationships in my life?" ~ Alienated Dad

'Alienated Mom' and 'Alienated Dad' are in conversation with Lawrence Joss in this, the second part, of a thoughtful interview that sheds light on the subject of family alienation from the personal perspective of two anonymous alienated parents. 

Finding one's voice in a fellowship; coming to terms with life itself; finding a Higher Power; and even creating a family of choice through fellowship are all sensitively articulated by Lawrence's two anonymous guests. There is also useful insight into the 12 Steps which are used for recovery by the Parental Alienation Anonymous program.

This podcast episode is about carrying this message to any alienated family member out there who might be suffering alone. You are not alone.

Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life. 

In This Episode:

• What does it feel like to be part of the PA-A community?
• Understanding the role of a sponsor.
• Creating a ‘Family of Choice’ through Fellowship.
• Understanding the PA-A 12-Step Process.
• What new skills have Alienated Mom and Dad learned through the program? 
• Is there an alienator inside of you?
• Learning to slow down and to reach out for help.

And more…

Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.

• Sign up- The family hope project-virtual art gallery and advocacy platform 
• Sign up- Parental Alienation Anonymous support group meetings (PA-A.org) 
• Sign up- Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 
• Sign up- Meditation:The heart practices. Free meditation and discussion. 

FUNDRAISING

•  Please donate to support PAA programs:
  https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS 

PLEASE SUBMIT YOUR ART WORK TO THE FAMILY HOPE PROJECT:
https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/questionnaire

Resources

• G.R.A.C.E Training - https://www.upaya.org/program/g-r-a-c-e-training-in-cultivating-compassion-based-interactions-online-2022/?id=2451
• Byron Katie’s ‘The Work’ - The Work of Byron Katie
• NVC feelings and needs list  
• PDFs and printouts for NVC
• links for meditation

Connect with Lawrence Joss:

Email-         familydisappeared@

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

What does it look like to recognize that you suffer from parental alienation?

What can you do about it? Where can you turn to for support?

 Meet 'Alienated Mom' and 'Alienated Dad,' whose identities are protected in this episode for the sake of anonymity.

The two are in conversation with Lawrence Joss, sharing parental alienation, and the joy of discovering Parental Alienation Anonymous. Finding support out there for coping with your family system, and practicing the tools of a recovery process that teaches you to look at yourself, has provided hope for 'Alienated Mom' and 'Alienated Dad.'

You are not alone.

In this episode, Lawrence shares part one of an emotive two-part interview with two alienated parents who are currently active members of Parental Alienation Anonymous.  The discussion speaks to recognizing those issues you have a measure of control over, and how that allows you to change your life, and all of your relationships, for the better. 

Please come along and learn how to start the journey of healing yourself to heal your life.

In This Episode:

• What was life like as an alienated parent before you found support?
• What can you expect from a parental alienation support group?
• Understanding how the disease of family alienation doesn't discriminate.
• What are the key differences between PA-A and other 12-step programs?
• Is there any stigma attached to the rooms of PA-A? 
• What does recovery look like and mean for alienated Mom and Dad today?
• What ‘showing up’ in your family system means.

And more…

Sign up now- free training, support & instant access to our community.

• Sign up- The family hope project-virtual art gallery and advocacy platform 
• Sign up- Parental Alienation Anonymous support group meetings (PA-A.org) 
• Sign up- Nonviolent Communication (NVC) 
• Sign up- Meditation:The heart practices. Free meditation and discussion. 

FUNDRAISING

• Please donate to support PAA programs:
  https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXS

PLEASE SUBMIT YOUR ART WORK TO THE FAMILY HOPE PROJECT:
https://pa-a.mykajabi.com/questionnaire

Resources

• G.R.A.C.E Training - https://www.upaya.org/program/g-r-a-c-e-training-in-cultivating-compassion-based-interactions-online-2022/?id=2451
• Byron Katie’s ‘The Work’ - The Work of Byron Katie
• NVC feelings and needs list  
• pdf's and printouts for NVC
• links for meditation

Connect with Lawrence Joss:

Email-         familydisappeared@gmai

This podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:
Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-host
Glaze Gonzales- Podcast Manager

Connect with Lawrence Joss:
Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/
Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com