Expat Insights – Details, episodes & analysis

Summary

In this conversation, Annegret and Martyna delve into the complexities of culture shock experienced by expats. They explore the various phases of culture shock, from the initial excitement of the honeymoon phase to the frustrations and doubts that often follow. Martyna shares her personal experiences of living in different countries, highlighting the importance of finding belonging and home in a new environment. They discuss the journey of self-discovery that comes with adapting to a new culture and the challenges of managing expectations from oneself and others. The conversation concludes with practical advice for new expats on how to navigate their experiences and create a sense of belonging.

Takeaways

Culture shock has four distinct phases: honeymoon, frustration, adaptation, and mastery.

The honeymoon phase is characterized by excitement and novelty.

Frustration often arises when the initial excitement fades and challenges become apparent.

Finding belonging in a new country is a significant aspect of the expat experience.

Self-discovery is a crucial part of living abroad and adapting to new cultures.

Expectations from oneself and others can complicate the expat experience.

Building connections through work and hobbies can alleviate feelings of loneliness.

Lowering expectations can help in forming deeper connections with others.

Creating a sense of belonging often requires active participation in the community.

Emotional experiences during culture shock can lead to personal growth.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Martyna

04:08 Understanding Culture Shock

08:12 The Honeymoon Phase of Expat Life

14:48 Navigating Challenges in a New City

17:58 Self-Discovery Through Expat Experiences

22:29 Identity and Authenticity Abroad

24:46 The Concept of Home

28:04 Belonging and Connection

31:48 Navigating Loneliness and Building Relationships

36:00 Expectations and Career Challenges

42:59 Coping with Culture Shock

45:10 Evolving Definitions of Belonging

49:00 Introduction to Expat Insights

49:29 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Martyna Brewczyk

https://prosperabroadcoaching.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/martynacoach/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Living abroad changes you—sometimes in exhilarating ways, other times in deeply challenging ones. I know, because I’ve been there.

I’m Annegret Bertsch, an Erickson Certified Coach, and I created Expat Insights to explore the real experiences of life abroad. In Season One, you’ll hear from experts around the globe as we dive into topics such as:

This podcast is here to give you practical insights, honest conversations, and the reassurance that you’re not alone.

So, if you’re an expat, a spouse, someone in global mobility, or simply curious about the expat experience—this is for you.

The first episode drops October 1st 2025, with new episodes released every other Wednesday.

Subscribe now and join me for Expat Insights—a space where your story matters.

If you’d like personal support navigating life abroad, connect with me at www.coaching-because.com.

Gaia shares her rich multicultural journey, insights on friendship formation, cultural differences, and maintaining meaningful relationships across borders. Discover practical tips for expats and intercultural friendships, and learn how shared experiences forge lifelong bonds.

Takeaways

- Friendship formation hours: 40-60 casual, 200+ close

- Cultural differences in greeting and social norms

- Strategies for introverts to meet new people abroad

- Impact of shared hardships on lifelong friendships

- Balancing social life and personal boundaries in expat life

Guest

Gaia Striano

https://www.linkedin.com/in/gaia-striano-59b87a1b7/

https://www.instagram.com/quierounpaninoconcheese/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/annegret-bertsch/

https://www.instagram.com/coaching_because/

Summary

In this conversation, Elizabeth Thomas shares her experiences as an accompanying spouse navigating the challenges of expatriation. She discusses the often-overlooked struggles of partners who relocate for their spouse's career, the complexities of job searching in a new country, and the importance of building confidence and a support network. Elizabeth emphasizes the need for a flexible plan, the value of expat skills, and the significance of reforming one's identity in a new environment. Her insights provide valuable guidance for anyone facing the challenges of living and working abroad.

Takeaways

Accompanying spouses often feel overlooked during expatriation.

The transition to a new country can be a blank canvas for many.

Job searching in a new country can be more challenging than expected.

Confidence can take a hit when facing new job market dynamics.

It's important to separate what you can control from what you cannot.

Finding a therapist / coach can help in navigating expat challenges.

Having a loose plan before moving can ease the transition.

Building a network is crucial in a new country.

Identities can be reformed rather than reclaimed in a new context.

Expat skills are valuable and should be articulated in job searches.

Guest

Elizabeth Thomas

https://www.linkedin.com/in/egrantthomas/

https://www.ncda.org/aws/NCDA/pt/sd/news_article/613801/_PARENT/CC_layout_details/false

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/annegret-bertsch/

https://www.instagram.com/coaching_because/

Summary

In this episode, Annegret Bertsch and Chris Moyer discuss the experiences of Third Culture Kids (TCKs), exploring the unique challenges and opportunities they face. Chris shares his personal journey as a TCK, the importance of emotional support for children, and practical advice for parents navigating the complexities of raising TCKs. The conversation highlights the significance of being intentional with time, understanding emotional processing, and fostering resilience in children as they adapt to multiple cultures.

Takeaways

TCKs grow up in a culture different from their parents' passport country.

Emotional support is crucial for TCKs during transitions.

Parents should model emotional expression to help children process feelings.

Grief and goodbyes are significant challenges for TCKs.

Behavioral changes in children can indicate emotional struggles.

Establishing open communication helps children express their feelings.

Cultural adaptability can lead to a broader worldview for TCKs.

Intentional time spent with children fosters strong relationships.

The future of TCKs involves increased awareness and support for their needs.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Chris and His Background

02:49 The Concept of Third Culture Kids

04:53 Challenges and Opportunities of TCKs

07:02 Cultural Identity and Belonging

09:11 Parenting Third Culture Kids

11:32 Navigating Transitions and Goodbyes

13:59 The Emotional Landscape of TCKs

16:13 The Role of Fathers in Supporting TCKs

18:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

21:30 The Emotional Landscape of Men

23:58 Navigating Grief and Vulnerability with Children

25:04 Connecting with Kids: Different Approaches for Boys and Girls

28:56 Understanding Emotional Responses in Younger Children

32:00 The Importance of Play and Art in Emotional Expression

37:15 Creating a Foundation for Emotional Stability

44:41 The Future of Third Culture Kids and Family Support

52:16 Introduction to Exped Insights

52:43 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Guest

Chris Moyer

https://www.linkedin.com/in/chris-j-moyer/

Article: Neither Here Nor There, I Don't Belong Anywhere´

https://tckonnective.wordpress.com/2020/11/23/neither-here-nor-there-i-dont-belong-anywhere/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

www.coaching-because.com

Summary

In this episode of Expat Insights, host Annegret and guest Julie M. Marx explore the multifaceted experience of expat life in China, particularly focusing on the unique challenges and opportunities faced by expat spouses. They discuss the rapid pace of life in China, the importance of learning Mandarin, and the emotional complexities of living abroad, including feelings of guilt and homesickness. Julie shares her insights on building community, navigating professional restrictions, and the evolving nature of expat life, emphasizing the need for support and connection in a foreign environment.

Takeaways

Life in China moves at lightning speed, impacting expat experiences.

Expat spouses often feel isolated and need strong support networks.

Learning Mandarin opens doors and fosters connections.

Cultural misconceptions about China can hinder expat experiences.

Finding purpose and passion is crucial for expat spouses.

Professional opportunities for expats are often limited by work permits.

Community building is essential for emotional well-being.

Expat guilt and homesickness are common emotional challenges.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Expat Life in China

02:39 Cultural Insights and First Impressions

07:15 Understanding Change and Misconceptions

11:47 The Scale of Life in China

14:45 Language as a Gateway

19:41 Challenges for Expat Spouses

22:11 Navigating Work Restrictions

23:17 Conclusion and Advice for Expat Spouses

23:58 Navigating Business in China

26:56 Challenges and Opportunities for Non-Working Spouses

29:26 Building Community in China

34:04 Emotional Challenges of Expat Life

36:28 Reverse Culture Shock

42:59 The Future of Expat Life in China

45:12 China Expert Spouse: Support for Expats

47:25 Defining Home in an International Life

48:33 Introduction to Expat Insights

50:34 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Julie M. Marx

https://chinaexpatspouse.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-m-marx/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

This conversation explores the complexities of relationships for expats, highlighting the hidden stressors that arise from moving abroad, the impact of career changes, and the importance of communication and support systems. Wiebke Anton, a relationship coach, shares insights on how cultural differences and financial dynamics can complicate relationships, while also emphasizing the need for counseling and the normalization of seeking help. The discussion concludes with hopes for the future of expat couples, focusing on the importance of maintaining healthy relationships amidst the challenges of living abroad.

Takeaways

Expat life can lead to hidden stressors that impact relationships.

Career changes often create imbalances in expat couples.

Financial dynamics can complicate relationship roles abroad.

Cultural differences significantly affect relationship dynamics.

Communication is key to navigating challenges in expat life.

External influences can exacerbate relationship issues for expats.

Counseling should be normalized as a tool for relationship health.

Establishing routines can help couples manage stress.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Wiebke Anton and Her Journey

02:59 The Challenges of Expat Life and Relationships

06:31 Hidden Stressors in Expat Relationships

10:44 The Impact of Career Changes on Relationships

14:54 Coping with Financial Dynamics Abroad

18:53 The Role of External Influences on Expat Couples

23:06 Navigating Intimacy and Social Life Abroad

27:06 The Importance of Communication in Relationships

31:05 Repatriation and Its Challenges

35:10 Strategies for Strengthening Expat Relationships

39:23 The Future of Expat Relationships and Support Systems

55:35 Introduction to Expat Insights

55:56 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Podcast Guest

Wiebke Anton

https://www.help4love.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/wiebke-anton/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

Summary

In this episode, we explore the complexities of global mobility from both HR and expat perspectives. Christian Ter-Nedden shares insights on the importance of communication, project management, and understanding the human experience in relocation. He emphasizes the need for companies to prepare adequately for relocations, manage expectations, and ensure that both employees and their families are supported throughout the process. The conversation highlights common challenges faced by expats and the critical role of HR in facilitating smooth transitions.

Takeaways

Global mobility requires effective communication between HR and employees.

Understanding the human experience is crucial for successful relocations.

Preparation and planning can significantly reduce relocation stress.

Relocation policies should be transparent and realistic.

Expat families need support to navigate their new environments.

Researching the destination is essential for a smooth transition.

Managing expectations can prevent dissatisfaction during relocations.

The role of project management in relocation cannot be overstated.

Relocation is not just about logistics; it's about people.

Embracing change positively can enhance the expat experience.

Guest

Christian Ter-Nedden

https://www.linkedin.com/in/christianternedden/

Host

Annegret Bertsch

https://www.coaching-because.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/annegret-bertsch/

https://www.instagram.com/coaching_because/

Living abroad is more than a job assignment—it’s a life experience that reshapes identity, relationships, and family dynamics.

Expat Insights is a podcast for expats, partners, and global mobility professionals who want to understand what life abroad really looks like—beyond the glossy version and relocation checklists.

Hosted by Annegret Bertsch, Certified Solution Focused Coach and long-term expat, Season 2 dives deeper into the realities of international living. Episodes explore culture and leadership abroad, supporting children through school transitions and bullying, relationships and divorce in the expat context in the UAE, and the often-overlooked challenges—and surprises—of repatriation.

The podcast also bridges the gap between global mobility and HR, giving voice to the families behind every assignment.

With honest conversations, expert perspectives, and a touch of humor, Expat Insights offers practical insights, reassurance, and space for reflection—for anyone navigating life across borders.

Host

Annegret Bertsch

www.coaching-because.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/annegret-bertsch/

https://www.instagram.com/coaching_because/

Summary

In this conversation, Angela Vitiello shares her insights on raising children in multicultural families, drawing from her extensive experience as an expat. The discussion covers the complexities of navigating different cultures, the importance of curiosity and communication in relationships, and practical advice for building community and supporting children’s identity in a multicultural environment. Angela emphasizes the need for intentionality in parenting and the value of understanding and embracing diverse cultural backgrounds.

Takeaways

Multicultural families can have diverse roots and traditions.

Curiosity is essential for understanding in multicultural relationships.

Children are mirrors of their parents' experiences and values.

Intentionality is key in raising children with multiple cultural influences.

Building a community abroad can provide essential support.

Parents should encourage open dialogue about identity and belonging.

Assumptions can lead to misunderstandings in cross-cultural relationships.

It's important to celebrate and incorporate both cultures in family life.

Communication about values and boundaries strengthens couple dynamics.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Multicultural Families

05:02 Understanding Multicultural Families

11:30 Challenges in Multicultural Parenting

16:43 Balancing Cultural Influences in Children

20:19 Navigating In-Law Dynamics in Multicultural Families

25:27 The Path of Least Resistance

26:14 Navigating Third Culture Challenges

30:17 Building Community in a New Culture

33:53 Preparing for Multicultural Parenting

38:43 Identity and Belonging in Multicultural Families

43:01 Strengthening the Couple's Foundation

48:22 Curiosity as a Bridge to Understanding

50:54 Introduction to Expat Insights

51:26 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Guest

Angela Vitiello

www.expatparentingcollective.com

www.instagram.com/expatparentingcollective

www.linkedin.com/in/angela-vitiello-mba-ms-ed

www.instagram.com/itsangelavitiello

Host

Annegret Bertsch

www.coaching-because.com

https://www.linkedin.com/in/annegret-bertsch-cpc-34a8371a5/

https://www.instagram.com/coaching_because/