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We often talk about growth like it’s a finish line, something to achieve or complete. But real growth never ends. You don’t arrive. You evolve. In this episode, Sope Agbelusi explores why the very version of you that brought success may be the same one holding you back. Through stories from marriage, neuroscience, and leadership, he reveals how to unlearn what no longer serves you and make space for who you’re becoming. From the transformation of Howard Schultz at Starbucks to the metaphor of the cocoon, this conversation challenges you to rethink success, identity, and the meaning of evolution. Because what got you here won’t get you there, and that’s not a warning. It’s an invitation. You’ll learn: Why growth is a lifelong process, not a destination How to evolve without abandoning your past success The neuroscience behind resistance to change Why unlearning is essential for authentic leadership Perfect for: Leaders, founders, and ambitious professionals who are ready to evolve, not just achieve. Quote from the episode: “Metamorphosis looks like dying before it looks like flying. Most people quit in the cocoon.”

Tolulope Oke's journey is a masterclass in courage, intentionality, and backing yourself when the world tells you to settle. From being the only Black woman at Cambridge's oldest college to becoming a Global Head of Inclusion at Amazon and now CEO of The Inclusive Experience Group, Tolu shares the raw truth about what it takes to lead while Black in corporate spaces that weren't built for you. This conversation unpacks the real cost of excellence, why imposter syndrome is a scam designed to keep women doubting themselves, and how she learned to negotiate like a white man while staying true to her purpose. Tonulope opens up about the cycles of burnout, the disillusionment with DEI work, and why she still chooses to do this work despite everything. 🎙 In this episode: Growing up as a quadruplet and finding identity outside of being "one of four" The moment at Cambridge when she was referred to as "that Black girl" - and what she did about it Why your 70% might be someone else's 100% - and the dangerous trap that creates Walking away from roles on principle and demanding 40-50% pay rises The hidden cost of leading while Black: from self-abandonment to mental health Why "grateful for crumbs" mentality stops you from getting your bread How chaos creates opportunity to set order in the DEI space 💡 Key insights: "Life is a game based on how many cards you have in your hand. Some people are born with more cards, others with a full deck." "Imposter syndrome is a scam to keep women doubting themselves." "What would a white man do? Do that, but proceed with caution." "You're learning a new job and the job is learning you - give yourself grace." Connect with Tonulope Okay The Inclusive Experience Group LinkedIn Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more stories that will inspire you to live authentically and courageously. REACH OUT & CONNECT: 🌐 Website - https://mindsetshift.co.uk/ 💻 LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/sopeagbelusi/ 🎬 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sopeagbelusi/ 📖 100 Day Devotional - https://100daydevotional.com/ ✉️ Email: hello@mindsetshift.co.uk

In this episode of Everyday Leadership I have the pleasure of chatting with Tope Chiedozie a creative curator, trainer and the voice behind The Sit Down UK. Together we trace his path from drawing in his bedroom and surviving a strict Nigerian upbringing to co-founding gospel-grime outfit Commission, touring the UK youth-event circuit and finally parking the music to create a live platform where artists swap highlight reels for raw honesty.

Tope shares:

• How church mentors drilled purpose into him and why he now perfumes venues, checks the chairs and insists every guest can inspire his audience.
• The unseen side of success—from sickle-cell battles to label headaches and why “breaking the illusion” matters more than clicks.
• Practical rituals for balancing confidence and humility, including his 30-minute pre-show walk and digital “praise folder”.
• Parenthood, imposter syndrome and the simple rule he now follows: let his daughter become who she already is.

If you’re searching for a fresh way to lead, tell stories or keep your ego in check, this conversation will give you plenty to chew on.

Listen in and learn how grounded purpose can power bold creativity and why the best leaders stay students of their own journey.

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In this episode, Sope introduces his guest Denise Myers, the Founder and CEO of Evenfields Careers and the Black Talent Awards. Denise has over 2 decades of experience as a specialist Recruiter. Partnering with various companies of varying scales and fields. She is passionate about people's development and placing them in the most suitable positions.

In this conversation, Denise shares her journey and experiences. She provides insights into recruiting, people growth, and finding the right people for organisations. Her passion for promoting black talent and diversity in the workplace is a significant aspect of the conversation.

Discussion Topics:

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  Denise shares her experience of starting her own recruitment agency and the fear she had about the business side of it. We discuss how she overcame that fear and what motivated her to take the risk.
• Overcoming disappointment and building resilience. She discusses how disappointments and let-downs, particularly for people of colour, have helped her to build resilience and work around barriers.
• Trust and accountability in entrepreneurship. Denise acknowledges that trust and accountability are essential elements when running a business, especially as an entrepreneur.

Key Takeaways:

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  Resilience and having inner strength is key to overcome challenges in entrepreneurship. .
• Faith can be a source of strength and encouragement. Having the belief that someone or something is guiding you through life can be a source of comfort and help you navigate through tough times.
• Creating the Black Talent Awards was a decision made to highlight and celebrate black talent and to provide a platform for those who may not have had the same opportunities.

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Introduction: In this episode, Sope introduces his guest, Chichi, a leadership coach and creator. They delve into the topic of decoupling one's identity from job titles and accolades, and instead focus on personal values and passions. Chichi shares her experiences from her teenage years, where she was a curious and entrepreneurial child who loved learning and had a goal of attending university as a first-generation immigrant. The conversation emphasises the significance of defining oneself beyond external validation and pursuing personal interests and values.

Guest Interview:

Chichi is an experienced executive coach and leadership consultant who helps individuals and organisations develop strong and effective leaders.With over 12 years of experience, she understands the unique challenges and obstacles that can stand in the way of reaching leadership goals. Her coaching approach is holistic, addressing both the professional and personal aspects of leadership.

She has worked with some of the biggest organisations and fast-growing startups, equipping her with the knowledge and expertise to support and guide leaders to be confident and effective.

Discussion Topics:

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  Chichi started her career at HSBC in commercial banking but she found that she loved helping people and solving problems, which eventually led her to marketing. She emphasises the importance of self-discovery and going out to do something to learn more about oneself. After working on the Apple Pay project, she decided to pursue marketing and start her own business after becoming pregnant and finding it difficult to commute to work.
• She spoke about how the skills she had learned while running her own business helped her transition to a coaching career. In addition, she discussed the challenges of burnout and struggling to keep up with the demands of running a business. She reflected on her decision to return to paid employment and the struggle of feeling like a failure. She also emphasised the importance of recognising seasons and chapters in life and being able to move on from things that no longer serve a purpose. Chichi believed that this realisation was crucial for her growth, and it helped her accept that it was time to move on to a new chapter in her life.

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  She talked about how the pandemic has given her more time and space to do things she enjoys, such as reading and writing. She reflects on her past experiences as a director and how titles and job roles can become too closely tied to one's identity. She advises people not to define themselves solely by their job titles, as titles are temporary and do not define who they are as a person. She also talks about the challenges she faced when stepping away from her director position and how they had to decouple their value from their title.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-discovery is crucial for personal and professional growth. Chichi's experience demonstrates the importance of exploring different paths and trying new things to learn more about oneself and find fulfilling work.

• It's important not to define oneself solely by job titles. Chichi's experience highlights the risks of tying one's identity too closely to one's job title, as titles are temporary and do not define who a person is as a whole.

• Recognising seasons and chapters in life is important for personal and professional development. Chichi's experience illustrates the importance of being able to move on from things that no longer serve a purpose, and to recognise when it's time to transition to a new chapter in one's life.

Conclusion: The importance of defining oneself beyond job titles and external validation, and instead focusing on personal values and passions is crucial. Chichi Eruchalu, a leadership coach and consultant, shares her experiences and highlights the significance of self-discovery, recognising seasons and chapters in life, and not tying one's identity too closely to job titles. The key takeaway is that personal and professional growth requires exploration and a focus on one's values and interests beyond job titles. Take time for self-discovery and recognise when it's time to transition to a new chapter in your life. Say goodbye to feeling invisible and hello to making a meaningful impact!

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"I recognise my worth, and I refuse to let others dictate my value. I have learned that I must defend myself and articulate when something is not right. As a black woman, I know that sometimes there may not be support or defense from others, so I must build my internal resources. I have learned to find spaces where I can articulate my voice, gain support, and bring that confidence into other environments. It's about recognising that my worth is not determined by my circumstances, but by the choices I make and the actions I take to create change within myself and in the world around me." - Ngozi Cadmus

Who is Ngozi Cadmus?

Introducing Ngozi, a powerhouse in the field of Mental Health & Leadership. As a renowned Psychotherapist, Business Coach, and CEO & Founder of Frontline Coaching and Frontline Therapist, Ngozi is making waves in tackling the stigma of mental health in the black community, improving access to therapy, and empowering black women in leadership.

Her companies provide cutting-edge, data-driven EDI and well-being solutions that shape business strategies, policies, and decision-making practices.

Ngozi's dedication to inclusivity is further evident in her affordable and accessible culturally sensitive online counselling services for Black and Asian Minority Ethnic Individuals and individuals from disadvantaged backgrounds. But Ngozi's impact doesn't stop there. She is also a trailblazer in coaching women of faith to become leaders in their respective industries, helping them build and scale up their coaching and wellness businesses.

Her groundbreaking doctoral research on the success factors of Black women leaders in British companies, using a critical realist and intersectional lens, is pushing the boundaries of knowledge. With testimonials lauding her impactful workshops, strong well-being culture, and unwavering support for black women in tech, Ngozi is a force to be reckoned with.

Get ready to be inspired by her unparalleled expertise and unwavering commitment to diversity, equity, and inclusion.

Ngozi's Journey to Self-discovery

Ngozi's journey of self-discovery has been nothing short of inspiring. She has come to realize her worth and has shed the need for validation from others. No longer caring about what others think of her, she has learned to stand up for herself and articulate her thoughts with unwavering confidence when faced with disrespect.

Through her experiences, Ngozi has also come to acknowledge the lack of support for black women in dealing with racial bullying and the challenges of communicating in different environments. She understands the struggle to find one's voice, whether it be in a work situation or in other areas of life. But she doesn't stop there.

Ngozi is a firm believer in finding spaces where one can express their voice and gain support, and then using the skills and resources from those spaces to articulate oneself in other environments. She recognizes the importance of agency and the need for both internal and external work in finding and using one's voice.

Ngozi's definition of leadership goes beyond the traditional notions of it. She sees leadership in three dimensions: self-leadership, organisational leadership, and people leadership. For her, self-leadership involves intrinsic qualities and emotional intelligence, while organisational leadership is about strategic direction and problem-solving skills. People leadership, on the other hand, is all about collaboration and fostering an inclusive environment for employees to thrive.

But what truly sets Ngozi apart is her unwavering commitment to serving others. She believes that a true leader is a servant, and she takes pride in making a difference in underserved communities, particularly in the field of mental health for black, Asian, and minority ethnic individuals.

As our conversation delves deeper, Ngozi emphasises the importance of being authentic and real, of overcoming fears and insecurities, and of inspiring others to do the same. Her unwavering passion and determination to make a positive impact in the world is truly awe-inspiring, and her journey is a testament to the power of recognising one's worth and finding one's voice.

Key Leadership learning moments (timestamps)

00;03;17;09 - Ngozi's Childhood

00;09;13;19 - Ngozi's Struggles as a Student

00;14;43;19 - Attending College in South London

00;17;49;21 - Something She Can't Tell Her Parents!

00;21;13;04 - The Protector of the Weak

00;23;53;06 - Her Underlying Resilience

00;26;37;17 - Finding Her Life's Purpose

00;28;27;11 - Dealing ADHD

00;31;44;10 - Dealing with Bullies - Story #1

00;33;07;27 - Dealing with Bullies - Story #2

00;37;40;02 - Defending Herself is the Priority

00;41;51;17 - Practical Tips to Find One's Voice

00;46;23;18 - Evidence Based Affirmations is the KEY

00;47;30;22 - Understanding Thyself

00;50;20;22 - How Ngozi Defines Leadership

00;54;03;12 - Her Life's Proudest Moments

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I believe that success is not only measured by the highs but also by how we navigate through the lows. Whenever something is hard, it often means it's the right thing to do. During my toughest times, my leadership superpower was my empathy, team connection skills, and willingness to step out of my comfort zone. I have learned that it's not just about doing, but also about being. And for those who may be facing additional challenges as minorities, my advice is to remain resilient, trust in your unique perspective, and always strive towards your dreams. - Shimona Mehta

In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the remarkable life and career of Shimona, an inspiring leader who has achieved great success through her authentic leadership. This two-part series takes a comprehensive look at Shimona's journey from her childhood to her current professional accomplishments, examining her experiences in various corporate jobs and the obstacles she faced in toxic work environments. We also explore the brave choices Shimona made to take control of her career and pave her own path to success.

Shimona shares her journey through the highs and lows of her career at Shopify. We learn about her hardest times building a sales team and the lessons she learned from those challenges. Shimona shares her experience transitioning to a new role in a hybrid virtual work environment and how she uses her leadership superpower to navigate that space. She offers valuable insights into hiring the right people and building team connections, as well as her own definition of leadership.

Shimona encourages us to get out of our comfort zones and to focus on both doing and being in achieving success. Finally, she shares tips for minorities in the workplace and reflects on life after Shopify. This episode is filled with valuable lessons and inspiring stories that will resonate with anyone looking to grow and thrive in their career.

Who is Shimona Mehta?

Shimona Mehta is the former Managing Director EMEA at Shopify. She has been recognised as one of the UK's most influential retail leaders, and her expertise in the industry has made her a sought-after speaker and thought leader.

She is a pioneer in tech where shes built Shopifys European presence nearly from scratch. Shopify is the top eCommerce platform that enables high-growth and high-volume brands, such as Gymshark, Emma Bridgewater, AllBirds and Heinz, as well as independent businesses.

Before Shopify, Shimona held senior roles at various software, FMCG and consumer research companies in Canada and Europe

Key Leadership learning moments (timestamps)

00:03:00:00 - The Highs and Lows of Shimona's Shopify Career

00:08:49:04 - If it is HARD, then it is RIGHT!

00:12:36:06 - Hardest Times in Building Her Sales Team

00:15:00:00 - Shimona's New Role!

00:18:48:13 - Lowest Points of Her Career

00:21:30:09 - Leadership in the Hybrid Virtual Work

00:26:38:18 - Key Interview Questions for Hiring People

00:31:35:08 - Her Leadership Superpower

00:34:15:17 - Her Greatest Leadership Lessons

00:36:55:00 - Building Team Connections

00:39:08:00 - Her Definition of Leadership

00:44:47:08 - Getting Out of Her Comfort Zones

00:46:11:16 - Her Life After Shopify!

00:49:35:00 - Doing vs. Being

00:50:42:00 - Shimona's Tips for the Minority

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"Every experience in my life, from my childhood to my corporate job, has taught me valuable lessons that have shaped my career path. Taking ownership of my career, weathering through toxic work environments, and making tough decisions have been critical to my success. Each step, from my transition from marketing to sales to my first leadership exposure, has led me to where I am today. " - Shimona Mehta.

Welcome to an inspiring episode where we take a deep dive into the life and career of Shimona, a remarkable leader who has risen to great heights through her authentic leadership. In this two-part episode, we explore Shimona's journey from her childhood to her current success as a professional, delving into her experiences in corporate jobs, her challenges with toxic work environments, and her courageous decisions to take ownership of her career.

Join us as we follow Shimona's ups and downs, including her transition from marketing to sales, her first exposure to leadership, and her bold choice to leave stability for the sake of learning and growth. We'll also uncover her prelude to working with Shopify and the exciting opportunities that lie ahead.

Through Shimona's story, you'll be inspired by her unwavering determination, resilience, and authenticity in her leadership approach. Discover how she has overcome challenges, navigated career transitions, and built global teams while staying true to her authentic self. This episode will provide valuable insights for aspiring leaders and leave you motivated and empowered to pursue your own path to success. Join us on this captivating journey with Shimona, and get ready to be inspired!

Who is Shimona Mehta?

Shimona Mehta is the former Managing Director EMEA at Shopify. She has been recognised as one of the UK's most influential retail leaders, and her expertise in the industry has made her a sought-after speaker and thought leader.

She is a pioneer in tech where shes built Shopifys European presence nearly from scratch. Shopify id the top eccomerce platform that enables high-growth and high-volume brands, such as Gymshark, Emma Bridgewater, AllBirds and Heinz, as well as independent businesses.

Before Shopify, Shimona held senior roles at various software, FMCG and consumer research companies in Canada and Europe

Key Leadership learning moments (timestamps)

00:06:30:12-Feeling Lost

00:09:13:12-Lessons in Her Corporate Job

00:13:07:20-Taking Ownership of Her Career

00:17:29:03-Slow Career Progression

00:19:12:09-Problems of a Fast-Learner

00:21:55:12-Shimona's Leap of Faith

00:28:21:14-Her First Leadership Exposure

00:33:22:18-Turning Point in Her Career as a Leader

00:43:15:08- Leaving Stability

00:51:19:15- Benefits Of A Cool and Fun Working Culture

00:54:50:22-She Can't Believe This Happened!

00:59:08:19-Prelude to Working with Shopify

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Parenting in a different culture is like being in a training ground, shaping us to become better versions of ourselves. It challenges us to let go of what we thought was acceptable and embrace new perspectives. It's a lesson we may sometimes wish to skip, but it's one that ultimately leads to growth and transformation. - Alice Evans

Sope is joined by his good friend, Alice Evans, a Brit living in Amsterdam, a parent of two teenagers, and an upcoming host of the podcast Pleasuring Myself. Alice has a rich and unique background, having worked as a team coach and a visiting fellow at Oxford University's Skoll Center for Social Innovation. But most importantly, she is someone who is trying to enjoy life. In this conversation, we dive deep into her past, exploring what made her who she is today. Alice shares her childhood experiences, including the loss of her mother at nine years old, and how they shaped her perception of uncertainty and complexity. We also learn about her teenage years, including her first clubbing experience at 13 and the moment when she could have gone down the wrong path but made a conscious decision not to. Throughout it all, Alice demonstrates her wit and humor, making this conversation both informative and entertaining. So sit back, relax, and join us as we delve into the life of Alice.

Who is Alice Evans?

Alice is a passionate and experienced systems coach with a deep commitment to social justice and climate change. With her extensive background in leading efforts to bring about systems change and equity, Alice is a skilled facilitator and coach to top teams. Her focus is on creating spaces for individuals, teams, and organisations to explore the visible and invisible forces that shape their behavior and impact. With her systems thinking, design thinking, and power and equity-informed processes, Alice can gently and compassionately guide individuals and teams toward the change they need. Whether working with executives or frontline staff, Alice's approach is non-judgmental and inclusive. When she's not working, you can find Alice swimming or paddleboarding with her children in the beautiful lakes and canals near her home in Amsterdam.

Alice Evans correlation of joy and pleasure

Alice believes that sometimes we overlook the small things that bring us joy and pleasure, and instead focus on big extraordinary events. On her upcoming podcast, Alice asks her guests to list 50 things that they enjoy doing every day, as a way of reframing how we view everyday things. She also shares a personal moment with her spouse where they simply looked out at the snow together and enjoyed each other's company, without doing anything else. She emphasizes the power of reflection and being present in the moment, and how it can bring a sense of calm and gratitude. Alice mentions the importance of connecting with our bodies and slowing down, as it can have transformative effects on our well-being.

Key Leadership learning moments (timestamps)

00:03:42:07 Going Back to a Younger Alice

00:08:17:02 Alices Dream as a Kid

00:10:02:11 Dealing with Arrogance

00:11:45:12 What Shaped Alices Way of Thinking

00:14:02:17 Alices Take on Equity and Equality

00:14:47:16 Lessons and Learnings

00:16:39:00 Everyone Has a Voice!

00:18:39:08 Helping Shape Other People

00:24:12:12 Living with Risk of Cancer

00:26:28:13 Alices Upcoming Podcast

00:30:22:18 The Smallest Things Matter!

00:36:32:15 Turning Point in Alices Career

00:38:55:04 Her Joy Barometer

00:41:03:06 Why Improv?

00:46:26:00 Improve Techniques Used in Leading Teams

00:48:44:21 Correlation of Joy and Pleasure

00:50:28:15 Alices Parenting Approach

00:53:25:16 Moving to the Netherlands!

00:55:58:04Definition of Leadership

00:58:08:09 Alices Ultimate Joy

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Leadership is not about managing others, its about leading, guiding and mentoring wholeheartedly. - Alex Holmes

Who is Alex Holmes?

Alex is an award-winning podcaster and journalist, a millennial man of Caribbean descent, born and raised in London. He spent most of his early twenties traveling, which helped him to approach life with curiosity and taught him valuable lessons. However, upon returning to the UK, Alex found himself lacking friends, having to move back in with his parents and starting a new career as a journalist. He experienced covert racism in his job and felt alienated, which affected his confidence and self-esteem. Feeling lonely and depressed, Alex went to therapy and learned to rewrite his narrative and become his own friend.

Alex worked as a journalist for five years before training as a health coach and then as a therapist to help others with their emotional well-being. He is an avid Harry Potter fan and uses its themes in his therapeutic work. His interest in psychology comes from his experience as a Black man in the UK navigating complex relationships. Alex started the Mindful Man Podcast and founded The Mindful Man to communicate his ideas about mental and physical health and emotional well-being. He invites others to join him on this journey and to meet him where they are.

Alex Holmes Journey to Self-Discovery

Alexs work aims to help men overcome the societal expectations and myths surrounding masculinity, which can hinder emotional connection. He is the author of "Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging, and Connection" and hosts the You Should Probably Read This podcast which suggests books to improve mental health.

His approach involves existential philosophy, which emphasizes personal agency, freedom, and authenticity. Bibliotherapy and mindfulness techniques are also used to help clients reconnect with their true selves, improve emotional intelligence, and achieve a sense of purpose.

Alexs work has been featured in various media outlets, including British GQ, The Metro, Happiful, The Guardian, and The Good Men Project.

Key Leadership learning moments (timestamps)

00:02:53:17 - Alex's Childhood

00:08:32:11 - Alex's Aha Moment

00:11:46:10- Alex Breaking the Status Quo!

00:14:55:15 - Definition of Masculinity

00:20:26:03 - Andrew Tate/Jordan Peterson

00:22:20:09 - Pain Points of Men

00:27:26:09- Men and relationship with Shame

00:32:02:08 - Expectations vs Realities of Men

00:39:16:23 - Navigating Being Black in Journalism

00:45:16:03 - Self-Doubt Brewed by Toxic Environment

00:49:54:16 - Pivotal Moment in Alex's Career

00:55:15:11 - Imperfection & Worthiness of Men

01:03:55:16 - Understanding Men's Internal Struggles

01:13:21:10 - Definition of Leadership

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Time to Talk book

Website

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