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Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha
Ken Claytor and Tabatha Claytor
Frequency: 1 episode/7d. Total Eps: 189
Hey, what’s up fam. We’re Ken and Tabatha, and we’re so glad you found our YouTube page. We always pray, “God, let the people who need this channel find this channel.” So, if you’re here, you’re an answer to prayer.
We have one major goal. We want to help you grow in love with God and grow in love with the people God has placed in your life. The way we do that is simple. We take what we’ve learned and we share it. We’ve been married for 26 years, and we always jokingly say it’s been the best 24 years of our lives. The first two years were pretty bad. We had all the classic problems: silent treatments, weaponized sex, a lack of communication skills, financial pressures, and more. But we learned tools and principles from God’s Word that helped us turn our marriage around. Now we’re happy to say we’re best friends.
That’s why people ask us all the time, “Do you have a special anointing for marriage?” And our answer is always the same. No, we just have tools. This channel is our way of paying those tools forward to you, because we really believe that with the right tools, there’s no marriage and no relationship that can’t get better.
This is primarily a marriage and relationships channel, but it’s not just that. It’s also a personal growth channel, because we believe when you get better, the marriage gets better. So, get ready to have some fun. We’re going to talk about our highs, our lows, and everything in between. Honestly, you’ll probably learn more from our mess-ups than you will from our mountaintop moments.
Enjoy the journey, and share this with somebody, because we believe sharing is caring, and caring is sharing.
New episodes every Thursday at 3PM EST.
Peace.
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Butterfly Love From Infatuation to Real Love
jeudi 6 novembre 2025 • Duration 32:30
Butterflies don’t build marriages—choices do. We open up about the rush of infatuation, the friction of the fight for power, and the quiet strength of mature love, weaving our 26-year story through the science, the pitfalls, and the simple practices that help couples grow. You’ll hear why dopamine and oxytocin make those early days feel like a dream, how cortisol and stress twist small annoyances into big battles, and what it takes to move from me-versus-you to us-versus-the-problem.
We break down the three stages of love with honesty and hope. From late-night balcony confessions to the seven-year itch, we name what changes, what hurts, and what actually heals. Along the way, we offer concrete tools you can use tonight: summarize-before-you-respond listening, ground rules for hard talks, the three-to-one affirmation rule, and a pause, pray, plan approach for high-stakes decisions. We also tackle comparison, stonewalling, and scorekeeping, and we share how weekly family meetings, shared values, and small, daily touches restore trust and affection.
If you’ve wondered where the spark went, or feared you’ve fallen out of love, this conversation reframes conflict as the classroom where love grows up. Mature love isn’t less passionate; it’s more secure, more generous, and far more sustainable. And yes, the butterflies can return in moments—when your habits make space for them. Want more? Our new book, Butterfly Love, tells the whole story and hands you the tools we use. Listen, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review so others can find the show. Then tell us: which stage are you in, and what tool will you try this week?
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
5 Dating Red Flags Every Christian Should Watch Out For
jeudi 30 octobre 2025 • Duration 34:03
Dating doesn’t have to feel like a guessing game. We break down five clear red flags every Christian should watch for and show how trusting God, not the crowd, changes who you choose and how you choose. From spiritual alignment to character under pressure, we pull back the curtain on the patterns that predict a healthy marriage—or a painful one.
We start with the heart of it all: if someone pulls you away from God, isolates you from church, or mocks spiritual disciplines, that’s not love. Then we zoom into teachability and accountability—because an uncorrectable person becomes unleadable when life gets hard. We tackle dishonesty and secrecy, the silent killers that cloud conversations and erode peace. You’ll hear why watching how a date treats servers, coworkers, and family reveals who they are when no one’s grading their performance. And we unpack the cost of a partner with no vision or direction, plus how mismatched goals, theology, and values create constant friction.
Along the way, we challenge the myth that romance equals readiness. Infatuation is effortless; mature love is built on aligned values, shared purpose, and honest dialogue. So we trade surface talk for deeper questions: money habits, family history, conflict style, faith convictions, and life vision. We also invite community into the process—mentors, pastors, and trusted friends who can spot the warning signs you might miss. To close, we share five practical discernment keys: pray before you play, ask trusted voices, observe not excuse, look for fruit, and follow the Holy Spirit’s peace.
If you’re single, this is a guide to date with clarity and courage. If you’re advising someone you love, it’s a toolkit for wise counsel. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs it, and tell us: which red flag or discernment key are you adding to your non-negotiables today?
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
Your Spouse Isn’t the Enemy: How to Fight for Your Marriage Together
jeudi 28 août 2025 • Duration 36:14
Have you ever felt like your marriage was under attack? You might be right—but the attacker isn't your spouse.
When Ken and Tabatha Claytor stood at the altar 26 years ago, they had no idea their marriage would nearly end within two years. What saved them wasn't marriage counseling or communication techniques (though those helped). It was recognizing the spiritual warfare targeting their relationship.
"Marriage is God's idea, and it's the one relationship that shows the world how much Jesus loves the church," Ken explains. "This is precisely why Satan attacks it so fiercely." From their own near-divorce experience to now helping countless couples, the Claytor's have identified six tactical weapons the enemy uses to destroy marriages: division through distraction, bitterness and unforgiveness, sexual temptation, spiritual disconnection, miscommunication, and generational patterns.
The turning point in their relationship came when they realized they weren't fighting each other—they were experiencing spiritual warfare. "It's not me against you," Tabatha emphasizes. "It's us against the devil." This perspective shift transformed their marriage from battlefield to partnership.
Through transparent sharing of their early struggles—Ken's anger and resentment, Tabitha's depression, their communication breakdown—the Claytor's offer practical wisdom for recognizing when you're fighting the wrong enemy. Their candid discussion reveals how spiritual immaturity creates vulnerability to attack and how spiritual weapons can protect your marriage covenant.
Whether you're newlyweds struggling through those challenging first years or long-married partners wondering why you keep having the same conflicts, this episode equips you with strategies to stand united against the true adversary of your marriage.
Ready to transform your relationship by fighting the right enemy? Listen now and discover how to wage spiritual warfare that strengthens rather than destroys your marriage.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
Learning to Forgive with Ken and Tabatha Claytor
jeudi 9 novembre 2023 • Duration 43:54
Struggling with forgiveness in your life? You're not alone. This week on 'Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha', we navigate the complex and often winding road to forgiveness. We share personal stories of hurt, betrayal, and the journey towards letting go. We explore how forgiveness is not just an act of love, but an essential step towards healing and personal well-being. Join us as we open our hearts and share how forgiveness has helped us become more like Jesus.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
3 Questions You Must Ask Before Marriage with Ken and Tabatha Claytor
jeudi 2 novembre 2023 • Duration 43:03
In this episode of Doing Life with Ken and Tabatha, we dissect the seemingly simple but quintessential questions that can save you from potential heartache - three questions you must ask before marriage. Sharing our personal journey of 24 years of marital bliss (and occasional chaos), we offer you pearls of wisdom on managing change, setting expectations right, and the art of loving when you're not quite 'liking.'
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
How to Be a Proverbs 31 Woman with Ken and Tabatha Claytor
jeudi 26 octobre 2023 • Duration 39:05
Get ready to journey with us as we unpack the virtues of the Proverbs 31 woman and illuminate the principles that transcend gender. Promising empowerment, our episode is a must-listen for anyone striving for growth in their spiritual journey, and a deeper understanding of the women in their lives. This is not just for the ladies, gents - this is your chance to glean deep insights into the driving forces of your mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
Making Holiness Cool Again | Reasons to Live Right with Ken and Tabatha Claytor
jeudi 19 octobre 2023 • Duration 40:07
In this episode, we address the seductive pull of worldly pleasures. The key here is a relationship with God . We caution against the allure of the world's 'coolness' and how it can compromise your holiness. Join us as we unpack these insights and more, encouraging you to truly value holiness as an essential part of your Christian journey.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
Ask Ken & Tabatha Part 4
jeudi 12 octobre 2023 • Duration 36:34
Ever felt unheard in your relationship? We, Ken and Tabatha, discuss how to initiate conversations about communication, with a focus on partners who are reluctant to open up. Our faith-based advice emphasizes the importance of prayer in navigating such delicate aspects of relationships, and we assure you, it's a game-changer!
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
5 Keys to Saving a Broken Marriage with Ken and Tabatha Claytor
jeudi 5 octobre 2023 • Duration 43:46
Ever found yourself questioning the strength of your relationship? A feeling all too familiar to us, Ken and Tabatha. We've traveled that rocky road and turned our marital agony into a pathway of hope for others. Our journey in marriage has been a tumultuous ride, filled with trials and tribulations. But, with God's grace, we transformed our relationship, and now we're here to share with you five key points that brought about a divine turnaround in our marriage.
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
How to Avoid Sexual Sins with Ken and Tabatha Claytor
jeudi 28 septembre 2023 • Duration 52:01
What if you had the blueprint to navigate the complexities of sexual sin and its consequences? Picture the liberating sense of breaking free from the chains of immorality. That's what we offer in this enlightening discussion. We pull back the curtain on how pop culture often promotes sexual sins and the ways in which these can shatter our relationship with God. Drawing inspiration from Paul's stern warnings to the Corinthian church, we underline the need to measure ourselves by the Bible's standards, not our own.
REGISTER FOR ALIVE CONFERENCE 23'
https://myalivechurch.org/conferece23
GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:
Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)
Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)
DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.
🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!
https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875
Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give
Connect with us:
- Website:
https://www.kenclaytor.com
https://www.tabathaclaytor.com
https://www.myalivechurch.org
- Socials:
Instagram -
https://www.instagram.com/kenclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/tabathaclaytor/
https://www.instagram.com/myalivechurch/
TikTok-
@Ken_Claytor
@Tabathaclaytor
@myalivechurch
Facebook-
https://www.facebook.com/PastorKenClaytor
https://www.facebook.com/pastortabathaclaytor
https://www.facebook.com/myalivechurch
- Ask us questions:
i...
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