Explore every episode of the podcast Do Less Parenting
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| Bonus 4: Anxiety and Behavior, How to Understand What Your Child Is Really Showing You with Kristen McNeely | 21 Apr 2026 | 00:35:54 | |
Anxiety and Behavior, How to Understand What Your Child Is Really Showing You with Kristen McNeely Robyn and Kristen talk about the connection between anxiety and behavior, and how parents can respond in ways that support both emotional and behavioral needs. In this episode, I’m joined again by Kristen McNeely, and I’m so glad she’s back because this is a conversation so many parents need. Kristen brings both a therapy background and a behavior background, which makes this discussion especially helpful when we’re trying to understand what’s really going on with our kids. We talk about something that comes up all the time for parents. When a child is struggling, it can be hard to tell what’s anxiety and what’s behavior. And more importantly, how do we respond in a way that actually helps? Kristen shares how these two things are often deeply connected, especially for kids who are anxious or who may also have ADHD. Throughout the episode, we explore how looking at behavior alone can miss the bigger picture, and how focusing only on emotions can leave parents without clear tools. This conversation helps bring those two pieces together so parents can feel more confident in how they respond in real time. If you’ve ever felt stuck trying to figure out how to handle your child’s reactions, this episode will help you step back and see things more clearly. You’ll walk away with a better understanding of what your child’s behavior might be communicating and how to support them in a way that feels both grounded and effective. Shared Resources:
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| Bonus 3: Let Them Be Bored: Why Doing Less Helps Kids Play, Create, and Grow with Lizzie Assa | 14 Apr 2026 | 00:45:42 | |
Let Them Be Bored: Why Doing Less Helps Kids Play, Create, and Grow with Lizzie Assa Robyn talks with Lizzie Assa about boredom, play, and how stepping back helps kids build creativity, independence, and confidence. In this episode, I’m joined by Lizzie Assa, founder of The Workspace for Children and author of But I’m Bored, for a conversation that gets right to the heart of doing less parenting. Lizzie shares her perspective as a mom of three and someone who deeply believes in the power of play and giving kids more space to figure things out on their own. We talk about boredom, something so many parents feel pressure to fix. When kids say “I’m bored,” it can feel like we’re supposed to jump in with ideas, solutions, or entertainment. But Lizzie explains why boredom is actually an opportunity. It’s often the starting point for creativity, problem-solving, and independence. Throughout the episode, we explore how stepping back, talking less, and resisting the urge to constantly engage allows kids to take more ownership of their time and their ideas. Lizzie shares how this approach has played out in her own home and why doing less doesn’t mean being disengaged. It means being intentional about when we step in and when we allow space. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the cycle of entertaining your kids or solving boredom for them, this episode will feel like a breath of fresh air. It’s a reminder that your child doesn’t need more from you in those moments. They need more room to discover what they’re capable of on their own. Shared Resources:
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| 14: Connection Over Control, Parenting with Curiosity with Guest Bridget KerMorris | 18 Nov 2025 | 00:44:13 | |
Letting Go of Control, How to Foster Trust and Independence Robyn sits down with therapist Bridget KerMorris to talk about parenting through the middle school years with connection, curiosity, and communication. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman is joined by fellow therapist Bridget KerMorris, a Stanford-trained lawyer and a mom of seven, for a thoughtful conversation about parenting during the middle school years—a season full of change, emotion, and opportunity for growth. Bridget shares her parenting framework that centers on curiosity rather than control, inviting parents to stay connected while allowing children the space to learn and repair. Together, Robyn and Bridget discuss the realities of friendships, technology, and family communication in today’s world. They explore how parents can shift from monitoring to understanding, and how teaching empathy, repair, and self-awareness helps kids build the relationship skills they need for life. Bridget also reflects on her own transition from law to mental health work, emphasizing how self-care and emotional regulation shape the way parents show up. By the end of this episode, you’ll feel encouraged to approach parenting with less pressure and more connection. You’ll learn how curiosity builds trust, how repair strengthens relationships, and how focusing on your own well-being creates space for your child’s independence to grow. Shared Resources:
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| 13: Parenting through Bedtime Anxiety, Boundary Setting and the Need for Sleep! | 11 Nov 2025 | 00:38:17 | |
Parenting through Bedtime Anxiety, Boundary Setting and the Need for Sleep! Robyn and guest therapist Ellanee Wilson, Certified Pediatric Sleep Coach, Credentialed Educator, and mom of three talk about how parents navigate sleep struggles by focusing on what is really going on! Hint: it’s not only about sleep schedules! In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman is joined by therapist Ellanee Wilson for an honest conversation about parenting and sleep. Together, they explore how sleep is connected to separation, boundary setting, and overall development. Robyn and Ellanee discuss why when parents get stuck in trying to get their kid to sleep we lose sight of the fact that parents can actually do so much of the important work without making their kids do anything. They offer practical ways to set boundaries, remain supportive, and ultimately create an environment where both parents and kids feel relief. By the end of this episode, parents will feel encouraged to approach sleep with support instead of frustration. You’ll learn how to create new plans that work for the whole family. Shared Resources:
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| 12: Building Resilience Together, Supporting Parents Through Their Own Anxiety | 04 Nov 2025 | 00:38:57 | |
Building Resilience Together, Supporting Parents Through Their Own Anxiety Robyn talks with fellow therapist Joanna Hardis, LISW-S about how parents can work through their own anxiety to better support their children’s growth and independence. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman is joined by fellow therapist Joanna Hardis for an honest conversation about what it really means to support anxious kids when you’re an anxious parent yourself. Together, they explore the emotional tug-of-war that happens when parents want to help but feel overwhelmed by their own worries. Robyn and Joanna discuss how a parent’s anxiety can shape family dynamics, impact communication, and even influence a child’s ability to cope. They share how self-awareness, small shifts in behavior, and compassionate boundaries can make an enormous difference at home. Their discussion reminds parents that taking care of themselves isn’t selfish—it’s foundational to helping their children feel safe and capable. By the end of this episode, parents will feel encouraged to view their own anxiety as part of the process, not a flaw to hide. You’ll learn practical ways to model regulation, connect through honesty, and build resilience together as a family. Shared Resources:
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| 11: When School Becomes Scary, Understanding School Avoidance and What Helps | 28 Oct 2025 | 00:35:47 | |
When School Becomes Scary, Understanding School Avoidance and What Helps Robyn talks with fellow therapist Kristen McNeely about school avoidance, unpacking what’s really happening beneath the surface and how parents can help kids return to school with confidence. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman is joined by fellow therapist Kristen McNeely for a meaningful conversation about school avoidance. Together, they explore why some kids start to resist school, how anxiety plays a major role, and what parents can do to help. Rather than seeing school refusal as defiance, Robyn and Kristen explain how avoidance is a form of distress that needs understanding, not punishment. They discuss the early signs of school avoidance, the difference between a tough morning and a pattern of anxiety, and the common mistakes parents make when trying to fix it. Robyn and Kristen share language parents can use to support their child’s feelings while still encouraging attendance. They also highlight how collaboration with schools can create a consistent, compassionate plan for getting kids back into class. By the end of this episode, parents will feel more equipped to approach school avoidance with empathy and structure. You’ll learn how to balance validation with clear expectations, helping your child feel capable of facing school again—one small step at a time. Shared Resources:
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| 10: When Kids Avoid, How to Support Without Rescuing | 21 Oct 2025 | 00:17:42 | |
When Kids Avoid, How to Support Without Rescuing Robyn explains why avoidance keeps anxiety strong and how parents can step in with support that encourages coping instead of escape. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman focuses on what happens when children avoid situations that make them anxious. She explains why avoidance feels like relief in the moment but actually makes anxiety stronger over time. Instead of helping kids feel safe, rescuing them from hard moments teaches them that they cannot handle discomfort. Robyn shares everyday examples of avoidance, from skipping school to avoiding activities or withdrawing from peers. She offers practical strategies parents can use to stay supportive without giving in to avoidance. This includes naming the feeling, validating the struggle, and encouraging small, manageable steps forward. By the end of this episode, you will know how to recognize avoidance, respond with connection, and help your child move toward independence. You will feel more prepared to step back from rescuing while still showing up as a steady, supportive presence. Shared Resources:
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| 9: Facing the What Ifs, Helping Kids Build Tolerance for Uncertainty | 14 Oct 2025 | 00:19:35 | |
Facing the What Ifs, Helping Kids Build Tolerance for Uncertainty Robyn explains how to respond when kids get stuck in “what if” questions and shows parents how to build resilience instead of feeding worry. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman talks about one of the most common ways anxiety shows up in children—the endless cycle of “what if” questions. She explains why answering every question with reassurance may calm things in the moment but ultimately gives anxiety more power. Instead of helping kids feel secure, it often keeps them dependent on parents for certainty. Robyn shares clear examples of how “what if” thinking takes hold and how parents can shift their responses. She offers practical language that validates feelings while gently redirecting kids back to problem-solving and coping skills. She also highlights the importance of helping children learn that uncertainty is safe and something they can handle. By the end of this episode, you will feel more confident responding to your child’s “what ifs” without getting stuck in the reassurance loop. You will understand how to guide your child toward resilience and independence by teaching them to face uncertainty with support instead of avoidance. Shared Resources:
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| 8: The Comparison Trap, Why Measuring Against Other Parents Increases Anxiety | 07 Oct 2025 | 00:20:54 | |
The Comparison Trap, Why Measuring Against Other Parents Increases Anxiety Robyn unpacks how comparing yourself to other parents fuels anxiety and keeps you from focusing on what your child truly needs. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman explores the harmful cycle of comparison in parenting. She explains how measuring yourself against other parents can increase anxiety, fuel guilt, and distract you from tuning into your own child’s needs. Instead of bringing clarity, comparison often leaves parents feeling inadequate and children feeling pressured. Robyn reflects on her own experiences and the stories she hears from parents in her practice. She highlights the subtle ways comparison sneaks into daily life—through social media, school expectations, and conversations with other parents. She also shares strategies to help parents notice when they are slipping into comparison and gently redirect their focus back to connection and support. By the end of this episode, you will understand why comparison is a trap that does not serve you or your child. You will feel encouraged to step away from measuring yourself against others and instead build confidence in your own parenting choices. Shared Resources:
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| 7: The Pressure to Be Perfect, How Parental Anxiety Fuels the Cycle | 30 Sep 2025 | 00:21:02 | |
The Pressure to Be Perfect, How Parental Anxiety Fuels the Cycle Robyn explores how a parent’s own anxiety and perfectionism can unintentionally increase anxiety in their child. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman takes a closer look at the role parental anxiety plays in children’s struggles. She explains how parents’ pressure to get it right, do it all, or prevent every mistake can unintentionally model fear and reinforce the very cycle they want to break. Instead of creating safety, perfectionism can pass along anxiety and leave children feeling less capable. Robyn shares her own reflections as both a parent and therapist, offering examples of how this cycle shows up in everyday family life. She gives practical strategies to help parents notice when their own anxiety is leading them to hover or over-correct. She also highlights simple steps parents can take to pause, regulate, and respond differently. By the end of this episode, you will see how lowering the pressure to be perfect can free both you and your child. You will feel encouraged to shift from control and over-accommodation to connection and support, creating more space for independence and resilience. Shared Resources:
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| 6: Breaking the Cycle, How to Step Back Without Abandoning Your Child | 23 Sep 2025 | 00:19:50 | |
Breaking the Cycle, How to Step Back Without Abandoning Your Child Robyn shares how parents can reduce accommodations while still staying connected and supportive. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman explores what it looks like to step back from over-accommodating without leaving your child feeling alone. She explains how anxiety often leads parents to jump in quickly, fix problems, or smooth the path, but these well-meaning efforts can keep kids from developing resilience. Robyn walks through practical ways to reduce accommodations while maintaining warmth and connection. She highlights the importance of small, intentional shifts—pausing before rescuing, reflecting feelings instead of removing challenges, and offering encouragement as children face discomfort. With relatable examples from daily life, she shows how to balance stepping back with staying present. By the end of this episode, you will feel more equipped to support your child’s independence without fear that you are abandoning them. You will see how doing less creates space for growth, while your consistent presence builds trust and safety. Shared Resources:
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| 5: When Reassurance Backfires, How to Help Your Child Face Uncertainty | 16 Sep 2025 | 00:21:48 | |
When Reassurance Backfires, How to Help Your Child Face Uncertainty Robyn explains why constant reassurance can actually fuel anxiety and offers practical ways to respond with support instead. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman talks about a common trap many parents fall into—reassuring their children again and again when worries show up. She explains why reassurance feels good in the moment but often strengthens anxiety over time. Instead of helping kids feel secure, it can keep them stuck and searching for certainty that no parent can truly provide. Robyn shares how to recognize when reassurance has turned into a pattern, and she gives simple examples of what to say and do instead. She walks through small language shifts that validate feelings, encourage coping, and gently point toward independence. By listening, you will learn how to respond in ways that both comfort your child and build their ability to manage uncertainty By the end of this episode, you will feel more confident stepping back from endless reassurance and more equipped to support your child’s growth. You will see how choosing support over certainty creates space for resilience and independence to develop.
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| Bonus 2: Do Less Fighting Over Routines: Building Healthy Dental Habits That Stick with Emily Krausz | 07 Apr 2026 | 00:42:25 | |
Do Less Fighting Over Routines: Building Healthy Dental Habits That Stick with Emily Krausz Robyn talks with Emily Krausz of Pediatric Dental Mom about kids’ dental health, parenting habits, and how to balance structure without power struggles. In this episode, I’m joined by Emily Krausz, the voice behind Pediatric Dental Mom on Instagram, for a conversation that every parent can relate to—how do we take care of our kids’ health without turning it into a constant battle? Emily shares her unique perspective as a mom who has spent years immersed in pediatric dentistry through her family, and how that has shaped the way she approaches daily routines with her own kids. We talk about the mental load that comes with knowing “too much” as a parent. When you understand the long-term impact of things like brushing, snacking, and habits, it can feel like everything matters all the time. Emily shares how that awareness has led her to create clear, non-negotiable routines around dental care, while still navigating the realities of parenting young kids. Throughout the conversation, we explore how structure and consistency can actually reduce stress—for both parents and kids. Instead of constantly negotiating or reacting in the moment, having clear expectations around things like brushing teeth can take the pressure off. If you’ve ever found yourself in a nightly struggle over brushing, snacks, or routines, this episode offers a grounded way to think about it. It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being clear, consistent, and intentional in the areas that matter most. Shared Resources:
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| 4: Support vs Accommodation, How to Help Your Anxious Child Without Feeding the Anxiety | 09 Sep 2025 | 00:17:40 | |
Support vs Accommodation, How to Help Your Anxious Child Without Feeding the Anxiety Robyn breaks down the difference between support and accommodation, showing how small shifts in language and response reduce distress and build skills. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman explains why the words we use and the actions we take matter when a child is anxious. She defines accommodation as anything we do or avoid doing that lowers distress in the short term but keeps anxiety in charge over time. She then contrasts this with true support, which helps a child face hard moments, feel safe, and practice coping skills. Robyn shares everyday examples from home and school. She talks about what we say when a child refuses to do something, how we respond when worries spike before an activity, and the ways we can step back while still staying connected. She offers practical language shifts, such as moving from promising certainty to naming the feeling and pointing to the next brave step. By the end of this episode, you will understand how intentional “doing less” helps create more independence and less anxiety. You will also leave with a simple way to check your own patterns: ask yourself if you are easing distress right now or helping your child build confidence for the future. Shared Resources:
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| 3: Parenting While Anxious, What That Looks Like and How to Shift It | 02 Sep 2025 | 00:17:40 | |
Parenting While Anxious, What That Looks Like and How to Shift It
Robyn walks listeners through what it looks like when anxiety drives parenting decisions, from over-researching and second-guessing to racing to fix every problem. She offers language and examples that help parents recognize their own patterns and understand the ripple effect it can have on their children. This episode is both validating and eye-opening, especially for high-achieving, Type A parents who are trying their best but often feel stuck in cycles of worry and control. Robyn gently shows how doing less begins with noticing what anxiety is doing behind the scenes, and how small shifts in awareness can lead to more independence and confidence for both you and your child. Shared Resources:
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| 2: What Are We Actually Supposed to Do Less Of? | 02 Sep 2025 | 00:19:41 | |
What Are We Actually Supposed to Do Less Of?
With her signature blend of warmth, clarity, and clinical insight, Robyn outlines the behaviors and patterns that actually increase anxiety in kids and stress in parents. From over-accommodating to stepping in too quickly, she helps listeners recognize what’s getting in the way of their child’s independence and how they can begin to change that. This is a foundational episode for anyone who wants to support their child’s emotional growth while also honoring their own capacity and wellbeing. Shared Resources:
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| 1: The Power of Doing Less, Why Parenting Martyrdom Isn’t Helping Your Kids | 02 Sep 2025 | 00:20:33 | |
The Power of Doing Less, Why Parenting Martyrdom Isn’t Helping Your Kids Robyn kicks off Do Less Parenting with a powerful message, parenting doesn’t require self-sacrifice, it requires intention. In this very first episode of Do Less Parenting, therapist and mom Robyn Isman shares why this podcast has been years in the making. She opens up about her long-standing resistance to parenting martyrdom and introduces her philosophy that doing less, not more, is often the most supportive choice we can make for our children. Robyn reflects on her own parenting journey, the science behind over-accommodation, and the moments that inspired her to speak directly to overwhelmed parents who feel stuck. You’ll walk away with a better understanding of how pulling back in intentional ways actually helps your child build confidence and resilience, and why your own emotional well-being is a critical part of the equation. Whether you’re new to the concept of doing less or have been trying to find language for what you already feel deep down, this episode offers both validation and a starting point. Shared Resources:
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| Trailer | 22 Jul 2025 | 00:00:54 | |
Welcome to Do Less Parenting — the podcast for parents who are tired of trying to do everything right. Hosted by coach, SPACE practitioner, and mom of three, Robyn Isman, this show offers a refreshing take on modern parenting: one that validates your burnout, challenges over-accommodation, and reminds you that sometimes the best thing you can do for your child… is back off. With humor, honesty, and over a decade of experience, Robyn helps you untangle anxious dynamics, respond without overreacting, and build trust in your child’s ability to handle life — even when it’s messy. If you’ve ever googled “Is it okay if I don’t fix this?” — this podcast is for you. | |||
| Bonus 1: Navigating Neurodivergence: Parenting Strategies for Autism and Anxiety with Dr. Hannah Samaha | 31 Mar 2026 | 00:48:41 | |
Navigating Neurodivergence: Parenting Strategies for Autism and Anxiety with Dr. Hannah Samaha Robyn talks with psychologist Dr. Hannah Samaha about the overlap between anxiety, autism, and ADHD, and how parents can support neurodivergent kids while still encouraging growth and independence. In this episode, I’m joined by psychologist Dr. Hannah Samaha for a conversation that many parents have been asking about. One of the most common questions I receive is whether the SPACE model works for kids who also have autism or ADHD. Hannah brings an important perspective because she works right at the intersection of anxiety and neurodivergence. We talk about how conversations around autism and ADHD have become a major topic in parenting and clinical spaces. Some approaches focus heavily on accommodating children’s needs, while others emphasize helping kids stretch beyond their comfort zones. Hannah helps unpack what this tension actually looks like for families and how parents can think about support and growth at the same time. Throughout the episode, we explore how anxiety often shows up alongside neurodivergence and why understanding that overlap matters. Hannah shares insights from her work doing psychological testing and supporting kids with both anxiety and developmental differences. If you’re parenting a child who is neurodivergent, anxious, or both, this conversation offers a thoughtful way to approach the challenge. It’s not about choosing between accommodation and independence. It’s about finding a balance that helps your child feel understood while still building confidence and capability over time. Shared Resources:
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| 20: Closing Season One, Most Frequently Asked Questions | 30 Dec 2025 | 00:21:25 | |
Closing Season One, Most Frequently Asked Questions Robyn wraps up season one by reflecting on the top three questions people ask her regularly! In this final episode of the season, I wanted to take a moment to look back at what we’ve talked about and what so many of you are living every day. Throughout season one, we’ve explored how anxiety shows up in kids in all kinds of ways—hesitation around separation, clinginess, avoidance, or big emotional reactions during transitions. And as I share in this episode, your child doesn’t need a formal diagnosis for these experiences to matter. If it’s impacting your child, it’s worth paying attention to. I talk about how important it is for us as parents to stay steady and supportive in those moments instead of jumping in to fix everything. Doing less isn’t about being hands-off. It’s about giving our kids room to feel their feelings, try things on their own, and build the skills they need to handle hard moments. This approach is grounded in research, and I want you to feel confident that stepping back a little can actually help your child move forward. As we wrap up season one, I’m so grateful for the community that has formed around these conversations. Thank you for being here, for doing your own work, and for showing up for your kids in such intentional ways. I hope you carry these tools with you and trust that small changes really do lead to big growth. Shared Resources:
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| 19: Why Having a Strategy Helps Us When We Have No More Energy to Parent | 23 Dec 2025 | 00:26:27 | |
Why Having a Strategy Helps Us When We Have No More Energy to Parent Robyn explains how using these tools helps parents when we are depleted and our battery is drained. In this solo episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman talks about the power of stepping back so children can step forward. She reflects on how easily parents slip into doing too much—rescuing, fixing, smoothing things over—and how those patterns unintentionally reinforce anxiety. Robyn shares why giving kids more space is not about neglect. It is a research-supported approach that strengthens emotional regulation, problem solving, and independence. Robyn walks through the core ideas behind doing less, and how this framework has helped her in her own parenting, especially during times when grieving the loss of her own mom. Throughout the episode, Robyn reminds listeners that stepping back can feel counterintuitive at first, especially for anxious parents, but it ultimately brings relief and connection even when we have no energy. By the end of this episode, parents will feel encouraged to pause, breathe, and allow their children to experience more of their own lives. You’ll come away with a clearer understanding of how less interference leads to more confidence—and why this shift feels like permission rather than pressure. Shared Resources:
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| 18: Parenting with Understanding, How Self-Awareness and Connection Shape the Way We Respond with Meaghan Hampton | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:39:30 | |
Parenting with Understanding, How Self-Awareness and Connection Shape the Way We Respond with Meaghan Hampton Robyn talks with therapist Meaghan Hampton about child development, discipline, and how a parent’s own wounds and anxiety shape their parenting. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman is joined by Christian therapist Meaghan Hampton for a grounded conversation about what children truly need from their parents. Meaghan shares how understanding basic child development helps parents interpret behavior accurately rather than personally. She explains how discipline works best when it is rooted in connection and guidance, not control. Robyn and Meaghan talk about how parental anxiety, old wounds, and unprocessed experiences can show up in everyday parenting moments. They highlight how easy it is to misread a child’s behavior when a parent is overwhelmed, and how important it is to pause, reflect, and respond rather than react. Their discussion weaves in both clinical insight and spiritual grounding, emphasizing the value of integrating mental health tools with faith practices for families who want a holistic approach. The episode also touches on the importance of boundaries, emotional regulation, and modeling healthy communication. Meaghan encourages parents to heal their own unfinished stories so they can support their children with clarity, compassion, and confidence. By the end of this episode, parents will feel more equipped to view discipline as connection, understand behavior through a developmental lens, and approach their children—and themselves—with greater gentleness and curiosity. Shared Resources:
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| 17: Understanding Relational Aggression, Helping Kids Navigate Social Dynamics with Dr. Noelle Santorelli | 09 Dec 2025 | 00:46:52 | |
Understanding Relational Aggression, Helping Kids Navigate Social Dynamics with Dr. Noelle Santorelli Robyn talks with psychologist Dr. Noelle Santorelli about relational aggression, childhood social dynamics, and how parents can support kids through friendship challenges. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman sits down with psychologist Dr. Noelle Santorelli to explore the complex and often quiet ways relational aggression shows up in children’s friendships and family interactions. Dr. Santorelli explains how behaviors like exclusion, subtle put-downs, and shifting alliances can have a significant emotional impact on kids, even when the signs are not immediately obvious. Robyn and Dr. Santorelli discuss the importance of teaching children empathy, boundaries, and conflict resolution from an early age. They emphasize how parents can help by scaffolding social experiences rather than rushing to fix or curate every challenge. Their conversation highlights why understanding social capital—the influence and status kids hold among peers—matters when interpreting behaviors and guiding children through conflict. Throughout the episode, Dr. Santorelli encourages parents to balance support with autonomy. She reminds listeners that children develop confidence when parents stay grounded, avoid overreacting, and model healthy communication. By the end of this conversation, parents will feel more equipped to recognize relational aggression, respond calmly, and help children build the skills they need to navigate real-life friendships with empathy and resilience.
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| 16: Doing Less is the Path to Balance with Dr. Corinne Low | 02 Dec 2025 | 00:48:33 | |
Doing Less is the Path to Balance with Dr. Corinne Low Robyn talks with economist and mom Dr. Corinne Low about the pressures modern women face, the myth of doing it all, and the power of doing less. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman sits down with Dr. Corinne Low, economist and professor, for an eye-opening discussion about what she calls the squeeze—the overwhelming pressure many women feel to excel at work, manage a home, and parent perfectly. Dr. Low shares how her research on women’s time use connects with the emotional and practical realities of parenting, and why balance begins with permission to do less. Robyn and Dr. Low talk about how societal expectations and guilt often push moms toward martyrdom, leaving little space for rest or self-care. They explore how boundaries, intentional choices, and self-awareness can shift the way families function. Dr. Low also offers a powerful reminder that doing less isn’t about neglect—it’s about creating sustainability and well-being for both parent and child. By the end of this episode, you will feel validated in the struggle to balance it all and be encouraged to redefine success. You’ll learn how small, deliberate changes can create more harmony at home and why systemic support—not personal perfection—is what parents truly need. Shared Resources:
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| 15: Parenting an Anxious Child when you’re anxious too! Tools and Truths with Courtney Montgomery | 25 Nov 2025 | 00:36:34 | |
Parenting an Anxious Child when you’re anxious too! Tools and Truths with Courtney Montgomery Robyn sits down with author and mom Courtney Montgomery to talk about parenting an anxious child, managing guilt, and finding balance between support and independence. In this episode, therapist and mom Robyn Isman talks with Courtney Montgomery, author of Lily’s Special Toolbox, about the real and emotional work of parenting an anxious child. Courtney opens up about her own lifelong experience with anxiety—how it shaped her childhood, her parenting, and the way she helps her kids navigate big feelings. Together, Robyn and Courtney explore how anxiety can look different in every child and how it often shows up as frustration or anger rather than fear. They discuss the guilt parents feel when they try not to rescue, and the importance of validation and supportive language in helping kids build confidence. Courtney shares how she uses tools from her book to make coping accessible and how small shifts in words can create powerful changes in a child’s sense of safety. By the end of this conversation, parents will feel seen, supported, and equipped with practical ways to respond to their child’s anxiety with calm and confidence. You’ll also be reminded that your own self-compassion—and willingness to do less—can make the biggest difference of all. Shared Resources:
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| 10: Parenting Through Food Allergies and Anxiety with Vanessa Weisbrod | 04 Aug 2026 | 00:35:37 | |
Parenting Through Food Allergies and Anxiety with Vanessa Weisbrod Robyn talks with Vanessa Weisbrod about celiac disease, food allergy anxiety, and how parents can raise confident kids by replacing fear with facts and empowering children to advocate for themselves. In this episode, I’m joined by Vanessa Weisbrod, Chief Programs Officer at the Celiac Disease Foundation, for a conversation about the intersection of food allergies, chronic illness, and childhood anxiety. Vanessa not only brings more than two decades of professional experience supporting families affected by celiac disease, but she also shares her personal perspective as someone living with celiac disease herself and raising a son with the diagnosis. Early in our conversation, we talk about something that surprised me when we first met. Vanessa immediately recognized that our work overlaps because families navigating food allergies often experience many of the same fears and anxieties that I see in my practice. From worrying about birthday parties and school lunches to navigating restaurants and social events, parents are constantly balancing safety with helping their children build confidence and independence. One of the biggest themes throughout this episode is learning to separate facts from fears. Vanessa explains how gathering reliable information and making decisions based on data, rather than worst-case scenarios, can help reduce anxiety for both parents and children. We discuss why it's natural for parents to become overprotective after a diagnosis, but also why children benefit when they gradually learn to understand their condition and advocate for themselves in age-appropriate ways. We also talk about the importance of building independence over time. Rather than trying to eliminate every possible risk, Vanessa shares how families can prepare children to ask questions, communicate their needs, and confidently navigate situations involving food. We discuss practical strategies for helping kids feel included in social settings and why living with celiac disease does not have to prevent children from participating in school, sports, travel, or celebrations. One of my favorite takeaways from this conversation is Vanessa's reminder that a diagnosis does not have to define a child's life. With education, support, and thoughtful preparation, children can grow into capable, resilient adults who know how to care for themselves while still embracing new experiences. By the end of this episode, I hope parents feel less overwhelmed by the "what ifs" and more confident that it is possible to protect their children while also helping them build independence, resilience, and a full, joyful life. Shared Resources:
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| 9: School Avoidance, Anxiety, and Helping Kids Return to School with Kristen McNeely | 28 Jul 2026 | 00:27:40 | |
School Avoidance, Anxiety, and Helping Kids Return to School with Kristen McNeely Robyn and Kristen McNeely discuss school avoidance, why it happens, and how parents can support children in returning to school by addressing the root causes rather than simply focusing on attendance. In this episode, Kristen McNeely joins me for an in-depth conversation about one of her areas of expertise: school avoidance. While I often work with children whose anxiety shows up through school refusal, Kristen has spent years helping families navigate these incredibly complex situations. I wanted to approach this conversation not only as a clinician, but also as a parent asking the questions I know so many families have. We begin by talking about the urgency parents feel when a child stops attending school. When school avoidance begins, it can feel like the only goal is getting your child back into the classroom as quickly as possible. Kristen explains why slowing down long enough to understand what's driving the avoidance is often one of the most important first steps. Rather than treating every child the same, she encourages parents to look beneath the behavior and identify the unique "why" behind their child's struggle. Throughout the conversation, we discuss the many factors that can contribute to school avoidance, including anxiety, learning differences, sensory needs, social challenges, and school environment. Kristen explains why identifying the underlying cause allows families and schools to create much more effective intervention plans. We also compare the differences between public and private schools, discussing the resources and legal responsibilities that can influence the support families receive. One of the biggest themes in this episode is collaboration. Kristen shares why successful outcomes almost always involve parents, educators, and clinicians working together instead of trying to solve the problem independently. We also talk about balancing compassion with accountability, helping children feel supported while continuing to build the confidence and skills they need to return to school. We also share stories of families who have successfully worked through school avoidance, offering hope to parents who may feel overwhelmed or discouraged. While every child's path looks different, Kristen reminds us that progress is absolutely possible when families begin with understanding instead of fear or urgency. By the end of this episode, I hope parents feel less alone and more equipped to take the next step. School avoidance can feel overwhelming, but with the right support, thoughtful intervention, and collaboration, children can regain confidence and reconnect with learning. Shared Resources:
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| Bonus 5: Calm Parenting in Real Life, Supporting Anxious Kids Without Power Struggles with Kirk Martin and Kristen McNeely | 28 Apr 2026 | 00:52:56 | |
Calm Parenting in Real Life, Supporting Anxious Kids Without Power Struggles with Kirk Martin and Kristen McNeely Robyn talks with Kirk Martin and Kristen McNeely about anxiety, behavior, and how parents can stay calm and steady without getting pulled into power struggles. In this episode, I’m joined by Kristen McNeely and Kirk Martin for a conversation that brings together both the emotional and behavioral sides of parenting anxious kids. Kristen returns with her dual background in therapy and behavior, and Kirk brings his perspective from the Calm Parenting approach, which focuses on staying grounded and connected even in the middle of hard moments. We talk about what it actually looks like when kids are overwhelmed, reactive, or struggling with anxiety, and how easy it is for parents to get pulled into those moments. This conversation focuses on what it means to stay calm without shutting down, and how to respond in a way that helps your child feel safe while still holding boundaries. Throughout the episode, we explore how behavior and anxiety often overlap, especially for kids who are already more sensitive or reactive. We also talk about how parents can shift out of power struggles and into a more steady, confident role that supports long-term growth. If you’ve ever felt like your child’s reactions pull you into frustration or conflict, this episode will help you step back and see another way forward. You’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of how calm, consistent responses can change the tone of your home and help your child build confidence over time. Shared Resources:
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| 8: Building Resilience, Managing Anxiety, and Raising Well with Dr. Michael Milobsky and Kristen McNeely | 21 Jul 2026 | 00:40:43 | |
Building Resilience, Managing Anxiety, and Raising Well with Dr. Michael Milobsky and Kristen McNeely Robyn talks with pediatrician Dr. Michael Milobsky and Kristen McNeely about childhood anxiety, resilience, and how parents can better support their children's mental health by first understanding themselves. In this episode, I’m joined by pediatrician Dr. Michael Milobsky and returning guest Kristen McNeely for a conversation about the growing mental health challenges facing children today and the important role parents play in helping kids build resilience. As a pediatrician with nearly 30 years of experience who also specializes in adolescent mental health and addiction, Dr. Milobsky brings a unique perspective on the intersection of physical and emotional health. We begin by talking about what mental health really means. Dr. Milobsky shares a definition that immediately resonated with all of us: mental health isn't about feeling happy all the time. It's about understanding your emotions and having healthy ways to cope with them. That simple shift sets the tone for a conversation that encourages parents to move away from perfection and toward practical support. Throughout the episode, we explore why anxiety has become one of the most common concerns Dr. Milobsky sees in his practice and how it often shows up as physical symptoms, especially in younger children. We discuss the importance of taking a whole-child approach by looking at factors like sleep, nutrition, exercise, family dynamics, and even technology use before jumping to conclusions. Dr. Milobsky also shares why conditions like sleep disorders can sometimes masquerade as anxiety or ADHD, reinforcing the importance of thorough evaluations. One of my favorite parts of this conversation is our discussion about boredom, waiting, and resilience. Dr. Milobsky explains how today's constant access to entertainment has reduced opportunities for children to develop creativity, problem-solving, and emotional regulation. We talk about the neuroscience behind boredom, why children need safe opportunities to experience discomfort, and how allowing them to face manageable challenges helps build confidence over time. We also spend time talking about parents. Dr. Milobsky shares that one of the most important things parents can do for their children's mental health is examine their own emotional triggers and unhealed experiences. Our own anxiety often shapes how we respond to our children's discomfort, making it harder to give them the space they need to grow. It's a powerful reminder that supporting our kids often begins with doing our own work first. By the end of this conversation, I hope parents feel encouraged to embrace a little more discomfort, both for themselves and for their children. Resilience isn't built by removing every obstacle. It grows when children are supported through challenges by calm, connected adults who trust that they are capable of doing hard things. Shared Resources:
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| 7: Medication, ADHD, and Mental Health Support for Kids with Rachel Jones and Kristen McNeely | 14 Jul 2026 | 00:50:00 | |
Medication, ADHD, and Mental Health Support for Kids with Rachel Jones and Kristen McNeely Robyn talks with psychiatric nurse practitioner Rachel Jones and Kristen McNeely about ADHD, medication, mental health treatment, and how parents can make informed decisions about supporting their children. In this episode, I’m joined by Rachel Jones, psychiatric nurse practitioner, along with returning guest Kristen McNeely, for a thoughtful conversation about one of the most common and often emotional topics parents face: medication and mental health treatment for children. We talk about the questions, fears, and misconceptions that often come up when a child is struggling with anxiety, ADHD, or other mental health challenges. Rachel shares her approach to pediatric psychiatry and explains why thorough assessment is such an important part of the process. We discuss the role psychiatric nurse practitioners play in evaluating children, collaborating with therapists, and helping families understand both the risks and benefits of treatment options. One of the themes that comes up repeatedly is the importance of looking at the whole child rather than focusing on a diagnosis alone. We also spend time talking about medication. Many parents worry that medication will change their child’s personality or become a permanent solution. Rachel offers a different perspective, describing medication as a tool that can help children access the skills they are already working to build. We explore how treatment decisions should be individualized and why open communication between providers, parents, and children is essential throughout the process. Another important part of the conversation focuses on ADHD. Rachel discusses the challenges surrounding diagnosis, the importance of comprehensive evaluations, and how factors like sleep, anxiety, environment, and technology use can sometimes complicate the picture. We talk about why quick diagnoses can be problematic and why ongoing assessment matters just as much as the initial evaluation. By the end of this episode, I hope parents feel more informed and empowered to ask questions, seek comprehensive evaluations, and make decisions that align with their child’s unique needs. Mental health treatment is rarely one-size-fits-all, and this conversation offers a balanced, thoughtful look at how families can navigate these decisions with confidence. Shared Resources:
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| 6: Protecting Kids Through Prevention, What Every Parent Should Know About Child Sexual Abuse with Dr. Bronwen Carroll and Kristen McNeely | 07 Jul 2026 | 00:46:33 | |
Protecting Kids Through Prevention, What Every Parent Should Know About Child Sexual Abuse with Dr. Bronwen Carroll and Kristen McNeely Robyn talks with Dr. Bronwen Carroll, MD, and Kristen McNeely about childhood sexual abuse prevention, recognizing grooming behaviors, and creating the kind of open communication that helps keep children safe. In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Bronwen Carroll, pediatric emergency medicine physician and child sexual abuse prevention advocate, along with returning guest Kristen McNeely, for a conversation about a topic that many parents find difficult to discuss but cannot afford to ignore. We talk about childhood sexual abuse prevention, the misconceptions that often surround it, and what parents can do to create safer environments for their children. Dr. Bronwen Carroll shares how her advocacy work began and why she believes prevention needs to become a much larger part of the conversation. We discuss the reality that most children who experience abuse are harmed by someone they know, not by strangers. This challenges many of the messages parents grew up hearing and highlights the importance of understanding behaviors rather than relying on assumptions about who can be trusted. Throughout the episode, we explore grooming behaviors, secrecy, boundary violations, and the subtle ways predators often gain access to children. Dr. Bronwen Carroll explains why open communication is one of the most powerful tools parents have and how creating a safe, nonjudgmental environment can make it easier for children to share uncomfortable experiences. We also talk about the importance of teaching body safety, helping children understand boundaries, and giving them language to communicate when something does not feel right. One of the most important themes in this conversation is empowerment. Rather than approaching these topics from fear, Dr. Bronwen Carroll encourages parents to focus on awareness, preparation, and connection. We discuss how small, ongoing conversations can be far more effective than a single uncomfortable talk and why parents do not have to be perfect to make a meaningful difference. By the end of this episode, I hope parents feel more informed, more confident, and better equipped to have conversations that can help protect their children. These discussions may feel uncomfortable, but they are an important part of creating safer communities and supporting healthy, open communication within families. Shared Resources:
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| 5: Dyslexia, Reading Struggles, and Helping Kids Build Confidence with Anne Wahlgren | 30 Jun 2026 | 00:45:51 | |
Dyslexia, Reading Struggles, and Helping Kids Build Confidence with Anne Wahlgren Robyn talks with dyslexia advocate Anne Wahlgren about early signs of dyslexia, common reading misconceptions, and how parents can support struggling readers without damaging their confidence. In this episode, I’m joined by Anne Wahlgren, dyslexia advocate, educator, and parent coach, for a conversation that I think will be incredibly valuable for any parent who has concerns about their child’s reading development. Anne shares her journey from classroom teacher to becoming a passionate advocate for children with dyslexia and literacy challenges. Along the way, she has helped countless families better understand how children learn to read and how to support them when reading does not come easily. We talk about what dyslexia actually is and some of the common misconceptions that often leave parents confused. One of the biggest takeaways from this conversation is that reading to your child is wonderful, but it is not the same thing as teaching a child how to read. Anne explains why foundational literacy skills matter so much and how avoidance, frustration, or resistance around reading can sometimes signal a deeper issue that deserves attention. Throughout the episode, we explore practical ways parents can support reading development at home without turning reading into a battle. Anne shares why play-based learning can be so effective, how games can help children build skills and confidence, and why it is important to meet each child where they are instead of forcing a one-size-fits-all approach. We also discuss the importance of early intervention and why it is never too late to seek support if a child is struggling. One of my favorite parts of this conversation is how Anne reframes dyslexia. Rather than viewing it as a deficit, she encourages parents to recognize the unique strengths that often accompany dyslexia, including creativity, problem-solving, and big-picture thinking. The conversation offers a hopeful perspective while also providing practical tools families can use right away. By the end of this episode, I hope parents feel more informed, more empowered, and less afraid to trust their instincts if something about their child’s reading development feels off. Support exists, progress is possible, and every child deserves the opportunity to experience success and confidence as a learner. Shared Resources:
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| 4: The Mental Load Revolution, Raising Kids Who Notice and Contribute with Sam Kelly and Kristen McNeely | 23 Jun 2026 | 00:54:38 | |
The Mental Load Revolution, Raising Kids Who Notice and Contribute with Sam Kelly and Kristen McNeely Robyn talks with Sam Kelly and Kristen McNeely about sharing the mental load at home, teaching kids responsibility, and helping families move from constant reminders to meaningful contribution. In this episode, I’m joined by Sam Kelly, feminist coach for mothers and creator of the Notice and Do method, along with returning guest Kristen McNeely, for a conversation about one of the biggest challenges many parents face: carrying the mental load of the entire family. We talk about the invisible work of managing a household and why so many parents feel exhausted, overwhelmed, and stuck doing everything themselves. Sam introduces the idea that the mental load is not just a parenting issue or a motherhood issue. It is a family issue that needs family solutions. Instead of relying on constant reminders, nagging, or frustration, she shares how parents can teach children to notice what needs to be done and take action independently. The goal is not simply getting chores completed. It is helping kids develop responsibility, confidence, and a sense of belonging within the family. Throughout the conversation, we explore Sam’s Notice and Do method and how it helps children build skills over time. We talk about why responsibility is closely tied to autonomy, how structure supports learning, and why flexibility is often more effective than perfection. Sam also shares practical ways parents can begin implementing these ideas at home, even when their children are not used to taking initiative. We discuss common parenting experiences like rage cleaning, resentment, and feeling like no one else notices the work that needs to be done. Rather than focusing on blame, the conversation shifts toward teamwork and helping children understand the deeper purpose behind contributing to family life. Kristen also brings valuable insight into how responsibility, independence, and skill-building connect to emotional well-being and long-term confidence. By the end of this episode, I hope parents feel encouraged to take small steps toward sharing responsibility more intentionally. Building capable, confident kids does not happen overnight, but teaching children to notice and contribute can create meaningful change for the entire family. Shared Resources:
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| 3: Marriage After Kids, Staying Connected Through Parenting Stress with Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh and Kristen McNeely | 16 Jun 2026 | 00:40:55 | |
Marriage After Kids, Staying Connected Through Parenting Stress with Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh and Kristen McNeely Robyn talks with psychologist and marriage expert Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh and Kristen McNeely about communication, intimacy, parenting stress, and how couples can stay connected after having kids. In this episode, I’m joined by psychologist and marriage expert Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh along with returning guest Kristen McNeely for a conversation about something so many parents feel but do not always talk openly about—how much parenting can impact a marriage. We discuss the ways exhaustion, stress, and the constant demands of raising children can slowly erode connection between partners if those challenges are not acknowledged and addressed. Dr. Lindsay shares insights into the most common struggles couples face after becoming parents, including communication breakdowns, resentment, emotional disconnection, and misunderstandings around intimacy. Kristen also brings perspective from her work with families and emotional regulation, helping connect how parenting stress impacts both individual well-being and relationship dynamics. One of the biggest themes throughout the episode is the importance of validation, understanding your partner’s experience, and recognizing that parenting stress often affects everyone differently. We also explore the invisible mental load many parents carry and Dr. Lindsay introduces the “three H’s” of mental load: head, heart, and hands. The conversation highlights how emotional labor and unseen responsibilities can create tension and resentment when they are not openly discussed. Rather than focusing on blame, we talk about how couples can become more curious about each other’s experiences and communicate more clearly about what they need. Another important part of the discussion centers around redefining connection in busy family life. Dr. Lindsay shares practical reminders that intimacy does not always have to look big or dramatic. Small gestures, moments of appreciation, emotional check-ins, and intentional communication can all help couples feel more connected over time. By the end of the episode, I hope listeners feel reassured that relationship struggles after kids are common, understandable, and something couples can work through together with more communication, teamwork, and compassion. Shared Resources:
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| 2: Picky Eating, Food Pressure, and Raising Kids with a Healthy Relationship to Food with Nicole Cruz and Kristen McNeely | 09 Jun 2026 | 00:51:47 | |
Picky Eating, Food Pressure, and Raising Kids with a Healthy Relationship to Food with Nicole Cruz and Kristen McNeely Robyn talks with registered dietitian Nicole Cruz and Kristen McNeely about picky eating, food anxiety, and how parents can reduce pressure and create healthier relationships with food. In this episode, I’m joined by registered dietitian and parent nutrition coach Nicole Cruz, along with returning guest Kristen McNeely, for a conversation that I think so many parents need. We talk about food, picky eating, anxiety around meals, and the pressure families often feel when it comes to what their kids are eating. Nicole shares how many parents come into these conversations carrying their own complicated relationships with food, which can unintentionally shape the feeding environment at home. We discuss how food culture has changed over time, why control dynamics often show up around eating, and how pressure, restriction, or constant reactions to food choices can actually backfire. One of the biggest themes throughout this conversation is the importance of creating an eating environment that combines structure with autonomy, helping kids feel both supported and empowered. We also explore sensory issues, intuitive eating, and the importance of neutral language around food. Nicole explains why reducing shame and pressure allows children to build more curiosity and comfort around eating over time. We discuss how parents can encourage healthy habits without turning food into a battle, and why flexibility matters more than perfection. Another important part of the conversation focuses on reducing stress for parents themselves. We talk about how overwhelming feeding concerns can become, especially when couples have different perspectives about food or when children have more significant struggles like ARFID or severe picky eating. Nicole shares practical ways parents can step back from fear and approach food with more calm, consistency, and trust. By the end of this episode, I hope parents feel less pressure to “get food right” and more confidence in creating a supportive environment where kids can learn to trust their own bodies over time. Shared Resources:
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| 1: Screen Time, School, and Parenting in the Digital Age with Emily Cherkin and Kristen McNeely | 02 Jun 2026 | 00:57:56 | |
Screen Time, School, and Parenting in the Digital Age with Emily Cherkin and Kristen McNeely Robyn sits down with Emily Cherkin and Kristen McNeely to talk about parenting, education, and raising kids in a world shaped by technology. In this episode, I’m joined by Emily Cherkin, widely known as the Screen Time Consultant, along with returning guest Kristen McNeely, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, for a conversation about technology, parenting, and the growing role of screens in our kids’ lives. Emily shares how she went from being a classroom teacher to becoming an advocate for more intentional technology use, especially as EdTech became more deeply embedded in schools and everyday family life. We talk about the complicated relationship between parents, schools, and technology. From online grading portals and student privacy to digital literacy and the pressure parents feel to constantly monitor everything, this conversation explores how difficult it can be to navigate parenting in the digital age. We also discuss the impact technology can have on child development, anxiety, attention, and emotional well-being, especially for kids who are already more sensitive or vulnerable. One thing I really appreciated about this conversation is that it stayed rooted in curiosity rather than judgment. We talked honestly about the challenges families and educators face, while also recognizing that most people are trying to do their best in a rapidly changing world. Emily and Kristen both bring thoughtful perspectives about building trust between parents, schools, and kids, and helping children develop healthier relationships with technology over time. We also explore the importance of allowing kids to make mistakes, reducing pressure around achievement, and approaching parenting decisions with more intentionality and less fear. By the end of this episode, I hope parents walk away feeling less overwhelmed and more empowered to make thoughtful choices that align with their family’s values. Shared Resources:
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