Conversations with a Dom – Details, episodes & analysis

Chief and Moineau revisit their Sex Menus from March 2020, and chat through what's changed and what hasn't. This episode highlights why a Sex Menu is such a fantastic tool for open communication in relationships. They showcase how such candid discussions can significantly enhance intimacy and satisfaction, foster a deeper understanding between partners, encourage exploration, and ultimately improve your sex life. Whether you're deeply embedded in the BDSM community or just curious about enhancing communication and desire in your relationship, this episode provides a real-world example of how embracing change and being open about your sexual wants can lead to more fulfilling experiences.

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Chief and Moineau spill the beans on finding BDSM events and making kinky friends. It’s a no-holds-barred chat filled with personal anecdotes, laughter, and a heap of useful tips for anyone curious about or already exploring the world of BDSM.

They tackle everything from the ins and outs of FetLife to the unique charm of munches, all while keeping it real about the ups and downs of connecting in the community.

Whether you're navigating the scene in a buzzing city or a quiet town, this episode packs everything you need to broaden your kinky social circle and step up your BDSM game, served with a side of cheeky humour and warmth.

• [00:01:16] Finding BDSM Events: The hosts discuss starting with FetLife and the significance of attending munches to meet the community.
• [00:03:03] Challenges for Women on FetLife: Moineau shares her experiences with the platform, highlighting the importance of safety and privacy.
• [00:04:11] Utilizing FetLife for Events, Not Dating: Chief elaborates on how FetLife serves best for finding events rather than forming personal connections.
• [00:09:30] Word of Mouth: Emphasizing the value of personal recommendations in discovering events and making kinky friends.
• [00:10:06] Collaborative Events: The hosts discuss how event newsletters from groups like Fox Den can introduce attendees to broader networks.
• [00:14:00] Finding BDSM-friendly Events on Vanilla Platforms: Suggestions for locating events with a BDSM twist on sites like Eventbrite.
• [00:16:48] Gender Dynamics at Munches: An observation on the male-dominated attendance and strategies for women to find more inclusive spaces.
• [00:18:00] Alternative Social Gatherings: Exploring book clubs and erotic poetry readings as unconventional avenues to meet kinky individuals.
• [00:22:31] Sex-positive Charities as Networking Hubs: Highlighting the role of charities in connecting people with the BDSM community.
• [00:24:11] Different Types of BDSM Events: Distinguishing between social, educational, and play-focused events to align with personal interests.
• [00:26:53] The Challenge of Finding the Right Events: Acknowledging the effort required to find fitting BDSM events and the rewarding nature of successful conne

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The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).

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Could you imagine showing up to a Shakespearean play in full gimp attire? Talk about a culture shock! In this episode, we delve into the controversial world of public kink and discuss what makes public displays of kink both intriguing and potentially inappropriate.

We also share 5 ways you can engage in powerplay and D/s in public, including sharing a personal story of a hilarious mishap with a cat and a remote-controlled toy. We discuss navigating the thrilling yet risky world of public play, emphasizing the importance of understanding the potential risks. As always, we end with a friendly reminder about the legalities of public sex because as much as we love a good gimp suit, it's best saved for the right environment.

So join us for an episode that's as enlightening as it is entertaining, and remember - keep it kinky, but keep it considerate!

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Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).

The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).

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Have you ever wondered about the intriguing world of Pleasure Domination, or how to optimize pleasure and communication within relationships? Prepare to have your curiosity satisfied, as we have an enlightening conversation with Chief and Moineau, exploring the fascinating dynamics of a Pleasure Dom and the importance of prioritizing the well-being of the submissive partner, even when they seek pain. We delve into the nuances of creating a safe, consensual environment, and how this contrasts dramatically with the typical perception of a Dom who focuses primarily on pain.

Navigating relationships where one partner has a kink that the other doesn't may seem like a challenge, but don't fret. We offer insights on how the Pleasure Dom approach can bridge this gap. We venture into the territory of effective communication and language, discussing how to express your desires, avoid feeling resentment and ensure both partners feel valued. Get ready to discover how a Pleasure Dom's focus on giving pleasure can lead to a satisfying experience for both the Dom and their submissive partner.

Lastly, we describe techniques that maximize pleasure. We touch on the need to be responsive to your partner's reactions during a scene and how to hone in on their kinks. 

While Pleasure Domination might seem like a niche topic, the conversation highlights the universal importance of understanding and satisfying your partner's needs, effective communication, and maintaining a consensual environment in any relationship. Tune in for a captivating exploration of Pleasure Domination and its potential to enrich your relationship dynamics.

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The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).

Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).

The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).

Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).

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Moineau discusses her experiences with anxiety and how it impacts her BDSM, sex and dating life.

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The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).

Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).

The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).

Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).

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Which wand vibrator is best? Chief pits two Le Wand massagers against his trusty Lovehoney mains powered magic wand vibrator to see which one triumphs. Moineau kindly volunteers her body for science.

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Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away!

The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).

Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).

The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).

Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).

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Chief and Moineau posed the question 'What does D/s mean to you?' to our Discord community members to see how they felt about it. The results we got back were inspiring, moving, deep, and generally wonderful. In this episode, we share what they wrote and reflect on our own thoughts about power play and being in a relationship revolving around dominance and submission.

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Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).

The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).

Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).

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In this intriguing episode of the BDSM podcast, Chief and Moineau dive into a fascinating 2014 research paper titled 'What exactly is an unusual sexual fantasy?'. Their lively discussion revolves around exploring their own kinky inclinations. They explore interesting topics, like the differences in fantasies between genders, and discover what percentage of men and women have fantasized about:

1. Having sex with multiple men
2. Engaging in intimate encounters in unconventional places
3. Swinging with both known and unknown couples
4. Exploring the act of urinating on a partner

The goal of this latest episode is to entertain and normalize the wide range of sexual fantasies. It reminds us that it's perfectly okay to fantasize about almost anything. So, kick back, enjoy, and let your imagination run wild!

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Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away!

The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).

Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).

The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).

Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).

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Discovering the BDSM world as a beginner submissive can be incredibly exciting, but it can also lead to repeated mistakes and take its emotional toll on you. In this episode of Conversations with a Dom, we discuss beginner subs' common mistakes and how to avoid them. Our conversation involves everything you need to know about BDSM, including creating a sex menu, understanding terminology, finding a dominant, and avoiding people who might take advantage of you. 

The discussion emphasizes the importance of taking time and sense-checking your journey to avoid sub-frenzy. We look at how communication, negotiations, and defining core desires are crucial in creating a successful dynamic. We discuss the importance of developing a support community and attending kinky events to connect with like-minded people and learn new skills. 

Join us as we celebrate progress and growth on the kinky journey while being kind to ourselves.

Topics Discussed

• Mistakes beginner submissives make repeatedly.
• How to avoid sub-frenzy and take things slow and steady.
• Developing communication skills and the importance of negotiations between the sub and Dominant.
• Identifying red flags and looking out for your safety.
• How to define core desires, create a sex menu and develop a supportive community.
• The importance of community and interacting with like-minded people.
• Society's changing views on normal sexual behaviour.
• The Art of Submission course designed for beginner submissives.

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Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away!

The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).

Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).

The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).

Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).

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Chief and Moineau discuss their trip to the Venus Star Resort for swingers in Gran Canaria, and their stroll along the Maspalomas nudist beach. Find out what goes on at a swingers day club, and what you can expect your first time. For photos, visit the accompanying Kinky Events article.

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Enjoyed the episode? Take your sex life to new heights and turn your fantasies into reality with my book and courses. Your dream dynamic is just a step away!

The BDSM Bundle: Get my two best selling digital courses, plus my ebook as a bonus (https://courses.kinkyevents.co.uk/bundles/bdsm-bundle).

Sensational Scenes. Learn how to heighten arousal, induce subspace, and have mind-blowing sexual experiences. Pick up a copy of my ebook today (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/book).

The Art of Submission. Become a confident submissive and make your kinky fantasies a reality with our online video course for subs (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/aos).

Sinful Shibari: Learn rope bondage for couples with our online video course (https://kinkyevents.co.uk/sinful-shibari).

Freebies: Free ebook, sex menu template, and email content ...