Keywords

intimacy, divorce, motherhood, sexuality, body image, confidence, dating, therapy, self-exploration, empowerment

Summary

In this conversation, intimacy and sexuality are explored through the lens of divorce, motherhood, and personal empowerment. SkyeBlu Cutchie, a certified relationship intimacy and sex therapist, discusses the challenges women face in reclaiming their sexuality after divorce, the impact of motherhood on self-perception, and the importance of therapy in navigating these transitions. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-exploration, confidence-building, and redefining intimacy in modern relationships.

Takeaways

Intimacy encompasses emotional and physical connections, not just sexual.

Mothers often face societal pressures that de-sexualize them.

Body image issues can significantly impact women's confidence in intimacy.

Self-exploration is crucial for understanding personal desires and boundaries.

Therapy can provide essential support for women navigating intimacy after divorce.

Men also experience insecurities related to aging and performance in intimacy.

Redefining what sex means can enhance intimacy in relationships.

Women should prioritize their own needs and desires in relationships.

It's important to model positive body image for children.

Consent and comfort are paramount in any intimate relationship.

Titles

Navigating Intimacy After Divorce

Empowering Women Through Sexuality

Sound bites

"I think it's a really important topic."

"It's a journey around loving yourself."

"What does sex mean to you?"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Intimacy and Transition

02:43 The Impact of Motherhood on Sexuality

06:33 Body Image and Self-Perception

10:17 Building Confidence and Self-Love

16:34 Navigating Modern Dating Dynamics

21:08 Understanding Personal Desires and Boundaries

25:35 Navigating Differences in Relationships

27:16 Exploring Sexuality After Divorce

30:15 The Importance of Emotional Safety

31:52 The Role of Sex Therapy

34:48 Reclaiming Sexuality and Empowerment

35:47 Men's Experiences in Intimacy

38:42 Redefining Sex and Intimacy

42:00 Navigating Self-Judgment and Societal Expectations

Keywords

over-functioning, relationships, co-parenting, boundaries, emotional intelligence, self-care, empowerment, women, parenting, mental health

Summary

In this conversation, the hosts discuss the dynamics of over-functioning partners, particularly in the context of relationships and co-parenting. They explore the emotional toll of over-functioning, the importance of setting boundaries, and the need for self-care. The discussion also emphasizes the role of women in breaking the cycle of under-functioning partners and empowering the next generation to foster healthier relationships. The conversation concludes with practical strategies for change and healing, encouraging listeners to recognize their worth and seek supportive communities.

How to Find Ashley!

Her website is www.drashleysouthard.com 

IG and FB handles are @drashleysouthard

Takeaways

Over-functioning often leads to burnout and resentment.

Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships.

Women are often conditioned to take on more responsibilities in relationships.

Co-parenting dynamics can exacerbate over-functioning issues.

Recognizing one's own over-functioning is the first step to change.

Empowering the next generation involves teaching emotional intelligence.

Women are increasingly choosing to be single rather than settle for under-functioning partners.

Healthy relationships require reciprocity and mutual support.

Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Communities of support can help women navigate relationship challenges.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Over-Functioning Partners

05:58 Understanding Boundaries and People-Pleasing

06:33 The Impact of Conditioning on Relationships

06:43 Introduction to Over-Functioning Women

09:40 Understanding Over-Functioning Dynamics

12:50 Co-Parenting and Over-Functioning

15:50 Weaponized Incompetence in Relationships

18:44 The Gender Dynamics of Over-Functioning

21:43 Breaking the Cycle of Over-Functioning

24:43 Awareness and Change in Relationships

30:50 The Importance of Balance in Relationships

33:36 Learning to Receive and Ask for Help

36:43 Recognizing Over-Functioning and Under-Functioning Dynamics

38:42 Raising Emotionally Intelligent Children

43:40 Breaking the Cycle for Future Generations

46:46 Empowerment and Community Among Women

49:54 Navigating the Challenges of Modern Parenting

52:50 The Complexities of Co-Parenting

55:47 Understanding Under-Functioning Partners

59:05 The Burden of Expectations in Co-Parenting

01:01:55 The Financial Dynamics of Divorce

01:07:51 Learning and Evolving Through Experience

01:09:42 Introduction to Co-Parenting Dynamics

01:09:46 Navigating Legal Aspects of Co-Parenting

In this epresso shot we discuss schedule changes, vacations, and how to manage summer break while co-parenting!

In this espresso shot Ally and Jill discuss their experiences with sharing clothes, toys, sports equipment between houses. They also discuss things that have worked and not worked so well for them in keeping track of the stuff!

A story shared from one of our listeners reclaiming her voice!

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This very special episode covers an important and serious topic: coercive control, a form of domestic abuse. Our Coffee Date today is with advocates Larissa Crane, MSW, LICSW, MRT and Hilary Purtell. We will explore what coercive control is, how to recognize it, and what to do if you or someone you love is in a relationship with a coercive controller. Even if you have not experienced coercive control, this is a must-listen to know how to recognize it, either for your future self, or to know what to look for as you support friends and family going through a challenging relationship.

Main Points

• Today’s Quote: “The truth is, it takes a village to get through the tough stuff in life. It doesn’t have to be a big village, but we all need people to help hold us up when life, loss, and grief knock us down.” -Michelle Deville

• Defining coercive control

• What to do and not to do

• Navigating court with a coercive controller

• Shared Story: Forgiveness and Letting Go

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: Larissa Crane, MSW, LICSW, MRT

Coffee Date Bio: Larissa Crane is a psychotherapist and yoga teacher based in the Boston area who specializes in helping people overcome anxiety, depression, and eating disorders using a trauma-informed approach.  Her practice is dedicated to supporting "high conflict" litigants who are navigating the Massachusetts probate and family court. Larissa is highly skilled in conducting GAL (Guardian ad Litem) reports, parenting coordination services, and counseling for those who have experienced coercive control or narcissistic abuse. 

Coffee Date Guest: Hilary Purtell

Coffee Date Bio: Hilary Purtell is a professional actor, voice talent and on-camera host, and is co-director of the Jane Does Well Education and Advocacy Committee. Hilary holds a master's degree in Counseling Psychology, and writes articles about family law best practices and divorce in Massachusetts.

Coffee Date Links and Resources:

Article on janedoeswell.com:

National Domestic Violence Hotline: (800) 799-7233

National Resource Center on Domestic Violence: https://www.nrcdv.org/ 
Casa Myrna (Massachusetts): https://casamyrna.org/

Massachusetts Coercive Control Bill Information: malegislature.gov/bills/193/s1097

This Mother shares a letter she wrote to her sons about her choice to get divorced and the heartache and hope that she knows they will share through this experience.

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Ally and Jill invite their Moms on this special Mother’s Day episode.  We talk about how they managed our divorces and watching us go through such challenging times as their children.  We discussed how they felt, What was their biggest fears were, and how they feel now. 

Main Points

• Today’s Quote: “As you prepare for all possible outcomes, may you also remember to prepare for positive outcomes, too. May you prepare yourself for good memories, good lessons, and all the little places where sunlight will come shining through.” -MHN

• Shared Story: A letter to my sons

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Jill and Ally discuss this common milestone in a co-parenting experience.

In this story our listener shares their experience of stepping back and recognizing their kids growth and happiness after divorce.

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One of the most empowering experiences after a split can be arranging and decorating your living space to make it your own. Our Coffee Date today is with LInda Varone, RN, MA, CFS, a former nurse who turned her passion for working with people into an interior design and Feng Shui business. We will explore how even little things can bring positive energy into your living space as you work to make it your own, whether you stayed in the home you shared with your ex or you’re settling into a new place.

Main Points

• Today’s Quote: “Under the anger, under the fear, under the broken-heartedness, there is a radiance that has never been lost, that is the truth of who you are.” Ganaji

• Decluttering

• Lighting

• Using the Ba-Gua 

• Shared Story: The unexpected best part

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: Linda Varone

Coffee Date Bio: Linda Varone, RN, MA, CFS, is an award-winning consultant and professional speaker awarded Boston magazine’s Best of Boston©. Heading her firm, Nurturing Spaces, for over twenty-five years, she consults and lectures nationwide on Interior Design, Interior Psychology, and Feng Shui. Linda is well known for making complex subjects accessible and entertaining. She has presented at the Boston Society of Architects – Women in Design, Harvard, MIT, the International Feng Shui Conference – San Diego, IKEA, and Cisco Systems. She has been quoted in the Boston Globe and Boston magazine. She has appeared on WCVB-TV’s Chronicle. Linda is writing a book on Interior Psychology based on her home consultations and background in psychology.

Coffee Date Links: https://www.lindavarone.com/ 

Ba-Gua:https://www.lindavarone.com/blog/ 

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Divorce and Co-parenting can be very lonely. In this espresso shot we talk about what loneliness is..How we have experienced it in our process and some things we have done to combat it.

Keywords:

The Sparrow Collective, divorce support, women's empowerment, community housing, financial literacy, holistic wellness, nonprofit funding, collaboration, women in crisis, supportive living

Summary

In this conversation, Susan Trippi of the Sparrow Collective discusses the challenges women face during and after divorce, including financial burdens and the need for supportive communities. The Sparrow Collective aims to provide a holistic living environment for women and children impacted by divorce, offering various support services, including legal, financial, and emotional assistance. The discussion also highlights the importance of community involvement and collaboration in creating impactful solutions for women in crisis.takeaways

• The Sparrow Collective is a response to the needs of women going through divorce.
• Women often bear the financial burden of divorce for years.
• Housing costs are a significant concern for women post-divorce.
• The collective aims to provide a supportive living community for women and children.
• Wraparound support services will be available to residents.
• Funding for the collective comes from state, federal, and private sources.
• The model of the collective can be replicated in other communities.
• Community involvement is crucial for the success of the collective.
• Women are increasingly seeking support and resources during divorce.
• Connection and community are vital for healing and empowerment.

• Empowering Women Through Divorce: The Sparrow Collective
• Building a Community for Women in Crisis
• The Financial Burden of Divorce: A Call to Action

• "This is a significant need for women and children."
• "We are the disruptors of the status quo."
• "It's a game changer for us."
• "Divorce is challenging in so many ways."
• "We are done with that. We're not available for that."
• "We are always open to collaborating on workshops."
• "We all have something within us that we can contribute."

In this story our listener shares their experience with the breakdown of a relationship struggling with addiction.

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Addiction in a relationship is complicated and challenging to navigate. It becomes even more complex when it is part of a divorce, custody negotiation, or during the co-parenting phase. Our Coffee Date today is with Laura Crossett, a certified drug and alcohol counselor and senior business development/outreach manager at Soberlink. We will explore how to navigate addiction as a part of your co-parenting journey, and how to help your kids through it.

Main Points

• Today’s Quote: “You can’t save people. You can only love them while they learn how to save themselves.” - Lori Deschene

• Coffee Date: Addiction and Co-Parenting with Laura Crossett

• What to do if you are in a relationship with an addict

• Available Resources including Soberlink

• How to help your kids

• Shared Story: 1,000 Reasons

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: Laura Crossett

Coffee Date Bio: Laura Crossett is the Business Development/Outreach Manager at Soberlink, engaging with professionals in Addiction Recovery and Family Law to promote effective alcohol monitoring systems. Laura is a Certified Alcohol & Drug Counselor Level II (CADC-II, ICADC) with CCAPP and has a BA from the University of Colorado at Boulder.  She holds memberships with the Behavioral Health Association of Providers (BHAP), The Women's Association of Addiction Treatment (WAAT), and Treatment Professionals in Alumni Services (TPAS), underscoring her commitment to the behavioral health community. In active recovery since 2007, Laura attributes her success in maintaining long-term sobriety to a monitoring program she completed after inpatient treatment. Her firsthand experience is a testament to how valuable sober monitoring programs can be in the substance use treatment continuum of care.

Coffee Date Links: www.soberlink.com 

Instagram: @soberlink.stories

Email: lcrossett@soberlink.com 
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We discuss our thoughts, feelings, and experiences with step parenting either as a step parent or our children having step parents on the other side.

A story shared anonymously by one of our listeners on the the hopeful and exciting opportunity that divorce can create...The journey back to or discovering the new you.

Recovering from your divorce or breakup is a process. It can take longer, especially if your divorce gets drawn-out. Eventually, we all get to a point of wanting to feel better, or examining our part in how things ended. For some, therapy is a lifeline in processing experiences. For others, coaching can help with moving ahead. Our Coffee Date today is with Lindsey Hall, a divorce and intimacy coach. We will explore how intimacy coaching can help people heal and give their lives the refresh they need after their relationship ends. And, how this work can have an impact on our kids.

Main Points

• Quote of the episode: Your home is an extension of your energy field. This is why practices like cleaning your home, rearranging furniture, organizing your closet, and getting rid of objects that are cluttering your space can have a profound impact on your mind, body, and spirit. - Maryam Hasnaa

• Coffee Date: Intimacy Coaching with Lindsey Hall

• Recovering from your relationship

• Therapy vs Coaching

• The Intimacy Pyramid

• Shared Story: The Fall Leading into The Rise

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: Lindsey Hall

Coffee Date Bio: Lindsey Hall is a single mom to two young girls. She split up with her ex-husband in January 2020 when she had a newborn and a toddler and the world was about to implode into pandemic. A small-town American girl, Lindsey has been living in England for the past 13+ years. Supporting women to: own their power and their pleasure, deepen in their intimacy with self and others live a *joyful* life they love, LIGHTS. HER. UP! 

Coffee Date Links: https://www.lindseyhallcoaches.com/

Instagram: @lindseyhallcoaches

A story shared anonymously by one of our listeners on the painful discovery of infidelity and trying to maintain perspective to navigate co-parenting after betrayal.

Mortgages, home buying and selling are often topics that come up with divorce. A home is typically your largest asset, so join us as we have coffee with mortgage expert George DiGregorio from Zenith Mortgage to pick his brain about mortgages, different kinds of loans, what's common with divorce, or where to start if you are looking to buy a house in the near or far future. George is a great resource with 27 years experience, and he helps us understand the process of home buying and selling. 

Main Points

• Quote of the episode: “If there’s even a slight chance at getting something that will make you happy, risk it. Life’s too short, and happiness is too rare.” A.R. Lucas

• Coffee Date: Everything Mortgages and Divorce

• Is a loan assumable?

• Can you use child support as income when buying a home?

• Where do you even start?

• Shared Story: Not having the best situation but seeing the best in your situation

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: George DiGregorio

Coffee Date Bio: George DiGregorio is a licensed mortgage loan officer at Zenith Mortgage Advisors. He has 27 years of experience in the mortgage lending business and has helped thousands of homeowners with their financing needs. A lifelong Milford, MA resident, George has earned a solid reputation in his community based on his commitment to customer service and knowledge of the industry.

Coffee Date Links: linkedin.com/in/george-digregorio-b507aa4

•                      zenithadvisors.com/home.html 

Ally and Jill talk about their experiences in dating after divorce and talk about the two big dating questions...

Are you ready to date?

Should you date?

Episode Summary: 

In this episode, Ally and Jill speak with attorney Jolee Vacchi of Foundations Family Law, and share insights on navigating the legal and emotional challenges of divorce. We discuss effective co-parenting strategies, legal considerations, coercive control and narcissistic abuse and navigating it in the court. Jolee offers valuable advice for parents navigating court for the first time or modification. 

Main Points

• Extended Espresso Shot: Contemplating Divorce

• Coercive control and narcissistic abuse

• Navigating the courts

• NEW SEGMENT: Open Mic: People share anonymous stories of pain, strength, resilience, rising, and thriving.

Coffee Date Guest: Jolee Vacchi

Attorney Jolee E. Vacchi is a respected, experienced, and compassionate family law practitioner licensed in both Massachusetts and Rhode Island. Most recently, prior to establishing Foundations Family Law, she worked for several years at a mid-sized family law firm in the Worcester, MA area, rising to the title of Supervising Attorney.

While being an empowering and calming presence for her clients, Jolee also has the uncanny ability to transform into a zealous and compelling legal advocate when the occasion calls for it. Once dubbed “The Weapon” by an opposing party in a divorce case, one of her favorite sayings is: “Underestimate Me– That Will Be Fun.”

Jolee emphatically believes that the best outcomes for families in legal conflict most often result from negotiated settlements. She is a collaboratively-trained attorney and Certified Divorce and Family Law Mediator, and leverages her expertise and experience in alternative dispute resolution to obtain optimal results for her clients.

In addition to her interests in alternative dispute resolution and settlement negotiations, Jolee also enjoys working on high-conflict cases involving the potential removal/relocation of children out-of-state, coercive control and narcissistic abuse, and contested guardianships of a minor.

Find Jolee Here:

https://foundationsfamilylaw.com/ 

https://divorce-detox.com/ 

https://www.instagram.com/foundationsfamilylaw

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We discuss when you tell people and losing friends during your divorce.

• How to manage telling people.
• What to share and what not to share.
• How to manage losing friends.
• In-law relationships and how they can change.

Join us!

Summary

In this conversation, the hosts discuss the complexities of co-parenting, particularly when one or more children have ADHD. They explore the challenges faced by parents in maintaining consistent routines and communication, the importance of structure for children with ADHD, and various strategies to support these children effectively. The discussion also highlights the significance of positive reinforcement, the need for clear communication between co-parents, and practical tools to help manage ADHD behaviors. The episode concludes with resources for parents seeking additional support.

Takeaways

Co-parenting can be challenging, especially with ADHD involved.

Routine and structure are crucial for children with ADHD.

Communication between co-parents is essential for the child's well-being.

Using positive reinforcement can motivate children to complete tasks they dislike.

Transitions between homes can be difficult for ADHD kids.

Visual aids and checklists can help children manage their routines.

It's important to model calm behavior for children.

Parents should prioritize the child's needs over personal differences.

Using timers can help children focus on tasks for short periods.

Celebrating small achievements can boost a child's confidence.

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Keywords

co-parenting, ADHD, parenting strategies, family dynamics, peaceful parenting, communication, routines, transitions, positive reinforcement, parenting tools

In this espresso episode we talk about our experiences on the first over night without kids and how we coped.

Episode Summary: 

Not all co-parenting is the same. We talk with our guest, Julie Burton, about the differences in co-parenting younger children and teenagers. Topics include managing their schedules, how your co-parenting relationship changes as your kids' needs and social lives change, and some laughs about this new part of the journey.

Main Points

• Our insights from last week's grow work: New Year's resolutions/Intentions

• What is the differences in co-parenting with teenagers as opposed to younger children

• Teenagers - How to manage the loss of time with them as they grow.

Coffee Date Guest: Julie Burton

Julie Burton is a writer, influencer, mother of two teenage girls, and self proclaimed hater of bacon. Her wit and balance of compassion are unmatched when talking about co-parenting and really anything.

Julie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ksujulie/?hl=en

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This is a quick chat or "espresso shot" i where we discuss when the divorce isn't your choice and you're blindsided with the news.

This is a quick chat or espresso shot if you will where we discuss if you're contemplating divorce.

We are so excited to share the news of our coming mini-episodes, or "espresso shots" of Co-Parenting & Coffee! Jill and Ally will share their perspectives on specific elements of divorce and co-parenting, and encourage you to join us on our Instagram page and Facebook group to continue the discussion!

In this episode, we talk about the mess that infidelity creates in a family when it comes to co-parenting. Our guest is Tracy Schorn, the self-named “Chump Lady,” who shares her experience co-parenting, and she gives some insights to how to best navigate dealing with a cheater. How do you maintain your relationship with your kids? Do you tell your kids and how? How will your kids and you recover from this? 

Main Points

• Our insights from last week's grow work: Taking time for yourself

• How to deal with a cheater

• Being the show-up parent

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: Tracy Schorn

Tracy Schorn is the award-winning blogger and cartoonist known as “Chump Lady.” She’s the author of “Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life – The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide” (Hachette, 2016), which has been an Amazon #1 seller in divorce. Her work has helped hundreds of thousands of people leave abusive relationships.

Tracy’s Link: https://www.chumplady.com/

Links mentioned in the episode:

https://www.womenslaw.org/

https://janedoeswell.org/

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Episode Summary: 

In this episode, we delve into establishing boundaries in the context of co-parenting with our guest Katie Davie from Co-Parenting Peacefully. Setting and respecting boundaries is fundamental in navigating the complexities of co-parenting. We explore why they are so hard to establish with your co-parent and what setting boundaries can look like when done successfully.  We talk about why we need them and how we feel when we set and maintain them.

Main Points

• Our insights from last week's grow work: Review from boundaries art therapy exercise

• Why are boundaries so important?

• Parallel parenting explained

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: Katie Davie

Katie Davie has two elementary school-aged kids, and has been coparenting them for seven years. She is thrilled that after a lot of years co-parenting through chaos, she and her ex are now co parenting peacefully (mostly, anyway). She owns a coaching and consulting business called Co-Parenting Peacefully, where she helps people learn to co-parent in a way that works for them while maintaining their integrity, no matter how their co-parent behaves. You can find her on Instagram, where DM’s are always welcome, and on Patreon.. 

Katie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coparentingpeacefully/

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Episode Summary: Just in time for the holidays, we welcome Scott Pinyard from the Modern Co-Parent. If you feel stressed, anxious, and angry, either during a divorce or while co-parenting, our guest Scott explains his approach to helping his clients heal and find peace.  His motto when it comes to healing is “the sooner the better.” If you’re in a good place, your relationship with your ex, and your attitude toward them will be better, regardless of the person you're co-parenting with. We laugh about how he has only ever worked with the “good half” of the divorced couple, about expectations around the holidays, how you can work to shift your thinking, allowing you room to enjoy your time away from and with your kids, and how framing your thinking can give you a whole new perspective on life.

Main Points

• Our insights from last weeks grow work: Letters to our kids

• What’s most important to me?

• Unique opportunities in co-parenting during the holidays…something people don’t talk enough about.

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: https://www.scottpinyard.com/

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Grow Work Link:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IFrlio1KMyA

Episode Summary:  Whether you're in a high conflict co-parenting situation or an amicable one, there are always important things to consider in your journey. In this episode, our coffee date guest is TikTok influencer and founder of The Ugly Truth of Divorce, Samantha Boss. She shares how she matched her passion and pain to start a wildly successful parenting plan business and helps people navigate divorce. Sam is authentic, unapologetic, and really wants her clients to learn from her mistakes to make their experience different and better. 

We chat about things we’ve done wrong, how being the bigger person isn't always the right thing, and how no can be the right answer.

Main Points

• Our insights from last weeks grow work: Support

• Why a more detailed parenting plan saves you in the long run

• Why it’s not always better to be the bigger person

• Should…Take it out of your vocabulary

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: https://www.samanthaboss.com/

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Join us for our very first episode of Co-Parenting and Coffee, a podcast for women who are co-parenting or going through a divorce. This week we had coffee with Christina Pavlina, co-founder and executive director of Jane Does Well, a non-profit that helps women going through a divorce.  

Christina shares her experience of co-parenting four children, who were each in very different developmental places when she and her ex-husband decided to divorce. This eventually brought her to discover the need for women to have support through the divorce process and how Jane Does Well came to be.  

We discuss how important our friends and families have been through a very hard time and how we all created such meaningful relationships through shared experiences with other women who have “been there.”

As we chat, we discover–by accident–the origins of mom guilt and have a good laugh.  

Main Points

• Introduction to Hosts Jill and Ally of Co-parenting & Coffee

• Having support through your divorce and co-parenting journey

• Jane Does Well is an organization where you can get that support

• An introduction to our grow work!

Coffee Date Info

Coffee Date Guest: Christina Pavlina

Coffee Date Bio: 

Coffee Date Links: https://www.janedoeswell.org/

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What is coercive control?

Ally and Jill explain what a GAL in Massachusetts is and their experiences with them.

Ally and Jill talk holidays!

keywordsco-parenting, divorce, family restructuring, Concilium process, support systems, women's empowerment, litigation abuse, family dynamics, domestic violence, conciliation, family law, co-parenting, attorney-client relationship, guardian ad litem, legal process, empowerment, judicial system, divorcesummaryThis conversation explores the complexities of co-parenting and divorce, emphasizing the importance of support systems, the Concilium process, and the empowerment of individuals, particularly women, during and after divorce. The speakers discuss the emotional and legal challenges faced by families restructuring after divorce and the need for a holistic approach that includes legal, financial, and mental health support. In this conversation, experts discuss the complexities of domestic violence cases, the importance of shifting control to the court, and the role of attorneys in empowering clients. They explore the long-term implications of co-parenting, the function of guardian ad litem, and the cost-effectiveness of the conciliation process. The discussion emphasizes the need for a holistic approach in family law, highlighting the significance of finding trained conciliant professionals.takeaways

• A family doesn't divorce; they restructure.
• Divorce is a legal process, but it's not just legal.
• Women often face financial disparities post-divorce.
• Divorce teaches valuable life lessons.
• Managing anxiety is crucial during divorce.
• Support systems are essential for navigating divorce.
• The Concilium process offers a new perspective on family restructuring.
• Empowerment is key for individuals going through divorce.
• Litigation abuse can be a significant issue in family law.
• Creating a new family structure requires collaboration and understanding. Control needs to shift to the court in domestic violence cases.
• Attorneys play a crucial role in empowering clients.
• Judges have the ultimate authority in attorney changes.
• Conciliation offers a new approach to family law.
• Long-term co-parenting considerations are essential.
• Guardian ad litem provides a voice for children.
• The conciliation process can be cost-effective.
• Finding the right attorney is vital for clients.
• A common language among professionals enhances collaboration.
• Holistic approaches in family law benefit all parties.

• Navigating Co-Parenting Challenges
• The Role of the Concilium Process

• "The control needs to shift."
• "It's a snapshot in time."
• "It's a common language."

co-parenting, divorce, financial planning, financial advisor, single parents, college costs, financial education, emergency funds, financial shame, support community

Summary

In this conversation, Jill and Ally discuss the complexities of co-parenting and financial challenges that arise during and after divorce. They emphasize the importance of community support, understanding financial implications, and the role of financial advisors in helping individuals navigate their new financial realities. The discussion also covers practical advice for single parents, managing expectations around college costs, and the significance of having an emergency fund. The speakers highlight the need for empathy and understanding in financial planning, especially for women who may feel overwhelmed by their circumstances.

Summary

Hilary Smiley shares her experience of parenting a transgender child and the challenges she faced. She emphasizes the importance of early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics. Hilary discusses the medical aspect of caring for a transgender child, including puberty blockers and hormone therapy. She also talks about the emotional journey of accepting and affirming her child's gender identity. Hilary encourages parents to forgive themselves for any mistakes and to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being. The conversation explores the challenges and experiences of co-parenting a transgender child. We discuss the importance of open communication, patience, and understanding in supporting their children's gender identity. We also address common misconceptions and offer advice for parents who may be struggling to accept their child's gender identity. The conversation emphasizes the need for therapy and professional support for both the child and the parents. Overall, we highlight the importance of affirming and empowering transgender children to live their authentic lives.

Keywords

transgender, parenting, gender identity, early intervention, gender clinic, medical care, puberty blockers, hormone therapy, acceptance, emotional journey, co-parenting, transgender child, open communication, acceptance, therapy, support

Takeaways

Early intervention and seeking help from gender clinics is crucial for transgender children.

Medical professionals play a vital role in guiding parents and children through the transition process.

Parents may experience a range of emotions and challenges, but it's important to prioritize their child's happiness and well-being.

Forgiving oneself for mistakes and being open to learning and growth is essential in supporting a transgender child. Open and honest communication is crucial when co-parenting a transgender child.

Parents should be patient and understanding as their child explores their gender identity.

Therapy and professional support are essential for both the child and the parents.

Acceptance and affirmation are key to helping transgender children thrive.

Parents should educate themselves and seek resources to better understand their child's experience.

We discuss all things co-parenting and back to school in this short espresso shot!

Keywords

personal growth, reinvention, support groups, transformation, life coaching, women's empowerment, self-repair, community support

Links

https://www.coachingwithkelsey.com/

https://marthabeck.com/the-way-of-integrity/

Summary

In this conversation, Ally and Jillian discuss transition into the theme of personal reinvention, emphasizing the joy of supporting others through their struggles and transformations. The discussion highlights the importance of community support and the fulfillment derived from witnessing others rebuild their lives. They also express anticipation for insights from an upcoming guest, a life coach, who will further explore these themes.

Takeaways

Reinvention is a key theme in personal growth.

Support groups provide a space for transformation.

Witnessing others' journeys is deeply fulfilling.

The act of supporting others can be a gift.

Self-repair is more valuable than erasing damage.

Community support is essential for personal growth.

Women often find strength in vulnerability.

The joy of watching transformation is profound.

Life coaching can offer valuable insights for growth.

Titles

Weathering Life's Storms: Resilience and Reinvention

The Art of Supporting Transformation

Sound bites

"This is our why."

"It's a gift for me."

"You give them the spark."

Chapters

03:07 Reinvention and Personal Growth

05:40 The Joy of Supporting Others

In this heartfelt conversation, Jillian shares her journey through divorce, the challenges of co-parenting, and her personal transformation over the past decade. She reflects on the pain of separation, the importance of support systems, and how she found strength in adversity. Jillian's story is one of resilience, empowerment, and the profound impact of community in navigating life's toughest moments.

Takeaways

Jillian's divorce journey began in 2015, marking a significant life change.

The emotional toll of divorce can lead to feelings of grief and loss.

Support groups can provide essential community and understanding during tough times.

Setting personal goals can help in reclaiming one's identity post-divorce.

Transformation often requires confronting painful emotions and experiences.

Co-parenting can be a complex journey filled with ups and downs.

Loss can trigger reflections on past relationships and personal growth.

Empowerment comes from recognizing one's strength and resilience.

Building a supportive network is crucial for healing and growth.

Jillian's story illustrates the power of vulnerability and sharing experiences.

Sound bites

"It's a long game."

"I miss her."

"I just love you."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Emotional Connection

01:20 Jillian's Journey Through Divorce

03:54 The Impact of Mental Health on Relationships

06:54 Navigating Grief and Loss

09:58 Finding Strength in Adversity

13:04 The Role of Support Systems

16:02 Personal Growth and Transformation

18:56 Co-Parenting Challenges and Triumphs

21:58 Reflections on Life Changes

24:57 The Importance of Community

28:02 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

32:25 Introduction to Co-Parenting Dynamics

32:28 Navigating Legal Aspects of Co-Parenting

Keywords

divorce, personal growth, co-parenting, mental health, resilience, support groups, transformation, family dynamics, self-discovery, empowerment

Ally and Jill discuss their recent retreat weekend with other single moms and what they took from it!

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Summary

In this episode of Co-Parenting and Coffee, Jillian interviews Ally about her journey through divorce, parenting, and self-discovery. They discuss the importance of sharing personal stories, the challenges of marriage, the struggles of infertility, and the impact of external factors on relationships. Ally reflects on her experiences with loss, the process of seeking help, and the dynamics of co-parenting post-divorce. The conversation emphasizes the significance of maintaining integrity and the opportunity for personal growth during difficult times.

Keywords

co-parenting, divorce, parenting, self-discovery, relationships, infertility, miscarriage, marriage counseling, personal growth, family dynamics