Birds and Bees Don't Fck – Details, episodes & analysis

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Jimanekia Eborn is a trauma specialist, sexuality educator, survivor advocate, co-owner of Cintima, and founder of the nonprofit Tending the Garden, originally from Riverside, California where she actually DID received sex education multiple times growing up… but was any of it good? Absolutely not.

In this episode we talk about grief, trauma work, modern dating struggles, sex education failures, intimacy coordination, professional wrestling (yes, I mean that), mental health, and why community and safe spaces are essential for connection and pleasure.

Catch Jimanekia and I reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck

Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon:

• STORY 1: AITA for cancelling mother's day celebration that I arranged for my wife after hearing what she told my son?
• STORY 2: AIO if I end my relationship because my bf kisses and tells me he loves me before leaving for work in the morning?

Where to find Jimanekia:
Instagram: @jimanekia 
Cintima Training: https://cintima.co
Nonprofit: https://tendingthegarden.love

Where to find Arielle:
Insta: @ariellezadok // @birdsandbeesdontfck
TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck

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Episode Cheat Sheet & Index:

00:09 Intro
02:30 Imposter syndrome and starting the podcast
05:00 Jimanekia's work in professional wrestling mental health
08:30 Losing her father and navigating grief
10:20 The power of laughter during difficult moments
12:10 Community, connection, and safe spaces during the pandemic
15:15 Dating apps and the loss of real connection
17:45 Nervous systems, safety, and intimacy
20:00 Protecting your peace and sexual boundaries
21:40 Working in sex education and consent culture
23:00 Growing up in Riverside, California
23:50 Early sex education experiences
25:30 Sneaking HBO and learning from Real Sex and Loveline
29:00 Why representation in sex education matters
31:20 Finding community in the sex industry
33:30 Boundaries and accountability in sexuality spaces
36:00 How Jimanekia got into intimacy coordination training
40:30 Building Cintima and training intimacy coordinators
44:00 Working across trauma care, media, and sexuality education
47:00 Play parties, consent culture, and power dynamics
49:30 Weird and wonderful jobs in the sexuality industry
51:00 Learning about sex through books and curiosity
54:00 Balancing multiple careers in sexuality work
58:30 Why asking for help matters

Whitaker Cohen is the Founder and CEO of Amore Sui, originally from the East Coast where despite having a mom who worked for Planned Parenthood she still received plenty of medical sex education without any lessons on pleasure.

We talk about terrible sex education, orgasm myths, squirting, consent, power dynamics, and how Whitaker went from a few bad anal experiences to launching a company designing beginner friendly butt plugs specifically for women.

Catch Whitaker and I reading Reddit stories and join the afterparty over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck

Episode cheat sheet:

00:38 Meeting Whitaker Cohen
05:23 Growing up with Planned Parenthood sex education
09:55 Goal oriented sex vs pleasure
12:14 Squirting myths
16:59 What sex education actually teaches
19:23 The clitoris and missing research
24:07 The "blue balls" myth
28:38 Consent, fawning, and sexual assault
33:10 Power dynamics and sex
37:52 Discovering anal pleasure
40:03 Starting Amore Sui
44:28 Designing a beginner friendly butt plug
49:09 Why most butt plugs are badly designed
53:43 Launching a sex toy company
58:01 Reddit story teaser

Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon:

STORY 1: I found my fiancés sex tape with my stepmother. We're supposed to get married in two weeks.

STORY 2: AITA for locking up my stuff so my wife will not touch it

Where to find Whitaker:
Instagram: @loveamorsui
Get 10% off your oder: https://loveamorsui.com/ARIELLE15

Where to find Arielle:
Insta: @ariellezadok // @birdsandbeesdontfck
TikTok: @ThePleasureProducer // @birdsandbeesdontfck

Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck

Like my cuffs? Me too. Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:  https://lovecrave.com/arielle

Nathan Hammerle is a sexual wellness educator and novelty specialist from central Ohio where the older kids faked them out and gave all the younger kids anxiety about the sex ed videos they had to watch about puberty.

Some things we said...

"Sex is messy and weird and we're gonna fuck up and just like, keep going."

"Safety is the foundation of any successful kink scene."

"How can we get more creative in bed?"

"I loved doing...that's how I sort of transitioned from history teaching into sexual wellness."

"There's room for everyone, but there's a responsibility...that everybody does their homework in this space."

"Electro play is fun...it's not all about pain."

... plus so much more. Watch it on YouTube to get the full experience!

LA Couples Intimacy Workshop with Arielle on 5/15: https://www.ariellezadok.com/workshops/couplesintimacy

LA Sensual Movement Soundbath with Arielle & Sacred Sounds by Devon on 5/22: https://www.ariellezadok.com/workshops/soundbath

Where to find Nathan:

Intsta: @theshadesofnate

Where to find Arielle:

Insta: @ariellezadok & @birdsandbeesdontfck

Freebies, classes, OnlyFans and more: https://stan.store/ArielleZadok

K, love you, byeeeee

Raye Schiller is a comedian, screenwriter and professional yenta originally from Queens, NY where they were raised as an Orthodox Jew. Yes, that means we are two Jews from New York which is obviously why this is the sexy yenta episode!

Some things we said...

"We're Jews. We have our own traumas."

"The gender thing was the reason I left. I couldn't exist in that world where I was a second class citizen."

"Relenting is not consenting. Just remember that. If you learn anything today, learn that relenting is not consenting."

"When you're in a subspace, you are, you're present, but you're like shut down, not shut. I don't want to use the language shut down, but you're so, you're like in a trance."

... plus so much more. Watch it on YouTube to get the full experience!

LA Couples Intimacy Workshop with Arielle on 5/15: https://www.ariellezadok.com/workshops/couplesintimacy

Where to find Raye:

• Intsta: @rayeschiller
• TikTok: @rayeschiller
•  https://www.rayeschiller.com/

Where to find Arielle:

• Insta: @ariellezadok
• Freebie!
• https://www.birdsandbeesdontfck.com/
• Be my Daddy

K, love you, byeeeee

Dr. Alix Agar is a Clinical Sexologist and one of LA's top Sex Therapists originally from Oakville Ontario where her mom was the cool mom to create safe spaces for her, and all her friends. A literal hero.

In this episode we talk about:

• 02:06 Early Experiences as a Dancer
• 03:34 Bonding Experiences through Travel
• 04:04 Exploring Power Dynamics and Relationships Working On a Cruise Ship
• 05:55 Open Communication and Supportive Parenting
• 09:16 The Role of Parents in Sex Education
• 13:24 The Power of Self-Disclosure in Therapy
• 21:32 Disarming Clients and Normalizing Experiences
• 23:00 Spoiler… Therapists Hav Biases!
• 26:23 Harm Reduction!!
• 31:23 Lack of Sex Education in Therapy Programs
• 39:39 Defining Boundaries and Scope of Practice
• 41:33 You Gotta Like Your Therapist!
• 44:15 Sex and Politics - They're unfortunately intertwined!
• 45:37 Religion's Impact on Sexuality
• 47:59 The Cruelty of Sex Education
• 51:36 The Importance of Embracing Childhood Curiosity
• 59:40 Find Your Community and Get Support

You can find Dr. Alix on Instagram at @dralixagar and her website https://dralixagar.com/

Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on YouTube!

LOS ANGELES: Join me on Wednesday May 15th for a Couples Intimacy Workshop at Zula Den where we'll be exploring arousal, gaining practical sexy communication tools and embaring on a journey of sensory exploration designed to ignite passion and deepen connection. Learn more at: https://www.ariellezadok.com/workshops/couplesintimacy

Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at @birdsandbeesdontfck & follow your host @ArielleZadok

K, love you, byeeeeee

Miss Spent Youth is a Los Angeles based burlesque performer, producer, teacher and pin up princess originally from North Carolina where the girls were afraid to swim on their periods!

In this episode we talk about burlesque, empowerment, creativity, body positivity, power dynamics, body confidence, sexuality, burlesque, sex education, circumcision, shame, open-mindedness, acceptance and SO much more!

You can find Miss Spent Youth on Instagram at @ms.spentyouth and her website, https://www.losangelesburlesque.com/

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Los Angeles! If you're a femme looking to build confidence, heal your relationship to your body and tap into your sensuality, join me THIS Sunday April 28th for an Immersive Sensual Empowerment & Pole Dance workshop in Downtown LA. Details & registration:

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/immersive-sensual-empowerment-pole-dance-workshop-beginner-friendly-registration-875746440177?aff=ebdsoporgprofile

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Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on YouTube!

Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at @birdsandbeesdontfck & follow your host @ArielleZadok

K, love you, byeeeeee

Amanda G. Savage is a comedian, host and creator of the show G. Savage Talks originally from the great soft pretzel state of Pennsylvania where she did an anti-abstinence only presentation and we Stan.

Also, happy 420 ya'll! This episode was unofficially sponsored by Bloom, their vapes are so tasty and smooth. If you're into it, I highly (!!) recommend this brand.

In this episode we talk about:

• The great G Savage
• Yelling at men on stage
• Boobs! Imagine having a different pair every day?!
• Respecting pussy gets you EVERYWHERE
• Decision fatigue in dating
• Growing up wanting to pee standing up (relatable)
• Prioritizing pleasure
• Society's perception of sexual expression
• Refractory periods… what are they?

You can find Amanda on Instagram at @amandagsavage on TikTok at @gsavagetalks and her website www.AmandaGSavage.com

LA you can see Amanda live on April 25th at Holy Water in WeHo for the G Savage Talks premier! Get tickets here!

Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on YouTube!

4/28 Immersive Sensual Empowerment & Pole Dance Workshop Registration: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/immersive-sensual-empowerment-pole-dance-workshop-beginner-friendly-registration-875746440177?aff=ebdsoporgprofile

Check out other upcoming Sensuality workshops at www.ariellezadok.com/workshops

Join the mailing list for weekly Sex(y) Education sent straight to your inbox! www.birdsandbeesdontfck.com

Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at @birdsandbeesdontfck & follow your host @ArielleZadok

If you're pickin' up what we're putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also buy me a coffee if you're a real sweetie (or a Daddy, whatever).

K, love you, byeeeeee

ShelBee is an aerial performer, instructor and sex worker originally from Taiwan and grew up in an Asian community in SoCal where she was taught using a tampon means you're losing your virginity!

In this episode we talk about:

• 03:19 ShelBee got me a gift!!
• 05:13 Cultivating Eroticism
• 08:58 The Impact of Positive Examples of Single Women
• 18:20 Asian Cultural Beliefs about Tampons
• 23:04 Older Siblings Are Our Saviors!
• 25:31 First Sexual Experiences
• 26:28 Understanding How to Please Women
• 29:18 Creating Mutually Beneficial Relationships
• 32:26 The Erasure of Female Anatomy In Medical History
• 35:11 Exploring and Discovering Sexual Preferences
• 39:22 The Impact of Shame and Internalized Shame
• 40:46 Coming Out and Overcoming Trauma
• 41:34 The Journey to Self-Acceptance
• 45:09 Entering the Sex Work Industry
• 47:05 Understanding Having a Sugar Daddy / Being A Sugar Baby
• 49:54 Dispelling Misconceptions about Sex Work
• 52:37 Unity and Support within the Sex Work Community

You can find ShelBee on Instagram at @shelbeestrong and if you're lucky, teaching or performing at a venue in Los Angeles!

Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on YouTube!

Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at www.birdsandbeesdontfck.com

If you're pickin' up what we're putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also buy me a coffee if you're a real sweetie.

Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at @birdsandbeesdontfck & follow your host @ArielleZadok

K, love you, byeeeeee

Dr. Nazanin Moali is a Clinical Psychologist, Sex Therapist and Host of the Sexology podcast originally from Iran where sex education was TRULY non-existent.

In this episode we talk about:

• 00:00 The Importance of Different Perspectives
• 03:09 The Role of Communication in Relationships
• 07:15 The Impact of Nonverbal Communication
• 10:06 Changing Attitudes Towards Therapy and Mental Health
• 12:04 The Influence of Trauma on Sexual Health
• 15:47 Lack of Comprehensive Sex Education
• 26:41 Transitioning to Sex Therapy
• 28:20 Healing from Eating Disorders and Rediscovering Pleasure
• 31:17 The Importance of Pleasure
• 36:31 Cultivating Pleasure in Different Areas of Life
• 41:21 Creating Sensual Spaces
• 44:57 The Menu of Options
• 50:12 The Importance of Communication and Planning in Sex
• 55:44 Cultivating Desire and Erotic Mind

You can find Dr. Nazanin on Instagram at @sexologypodcast, her website https://sexologypodcast.com/ and wherever you get your podcasts.

The Yes / No / Maybe list we talk about can be found at:  www.birdsandbeesdontfck.com

And the erotic menu can be found at https://oasis2care.com/subscribe/

Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on YouTube!

Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at @birdsandbeesdontfck & follow your host @ArielleZadok

And if you want to say "thanks babe" you can buy me a coffee! 

Christine Medrano is a comedian, actress and writer originally from Winnipeg Manitoba, Canada where she went to Catholic school and watched an abortion video at age 14, and that was pretty much it!

In this episode we talk about:

• 03:21 Christine was in a Sex Ed Video!
• 04:16 We have a pitch… the office, but it's an STI clinic!
• 06:29 Misconceptions about Anal Play and Sexuality
• 10:03 There wasn't any sex ed at her Catholic school, but there WAS an abortion video!
• 11:27 Lack of Knowledge about Tampons
• 13:08 The Importance of Openness and Humor in Sex Education
• 13:28 The TV Show 'Big Mouth'
• 14:27 Why you need to consider using Organic Tampons
• 19:14 Give us pain killers during IUD Insertion!
• 21:09 Arielle's alcohol allergy and birth control
• 23:23 The Neglect of Female Pleasure in Medicine
• 26:35 The Impact of Shame and Lack of Masturbation Education
• 29:47 Coercion and Manipulation in Sexual Experiences
• 35:27 The Importance of Sexual Compatibility
• 38:21 Openness and Communication in Relationships
• 47:06 Generational Differences in Views on Sex and Romance
• 52:09 The Evolution of Romance and Communication
• 57:37 Reflecting on Traumatic Events
• 58:06 The ending you were all hoping for.. Ruby the cat Brings us an Avocado

You can find Christine on Instagram at @chrissymeds and her website http://www.christinemedrano.com/

Like to watch? Check out the video version of this podcast on YouTube!

Download your FREE Yes / No / Maybe list, get merch or apply for coaching at www.birdsandbeesdontfck.com

If you're pickin' up what we're putting down please help me spread the word; Like, subscribe and tell your friends so other people know this exists! You can also buy me a coffee if you're a real sweetie.

Stay connected through Birds and Bees Don't Fck on Instagram at @birdsandbeesdontfck & follow your host @ArielleZadok

K, love you, byeeeeee