Sex in Space is a podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.If sex is a subject that interests you, if you feel… (like most of us do) your education might have more than a few gaps in it, if you’re not sure you’re fully equipped to talk to the next generation, or you just feel like exploring some new points of view, awesome, you’ve reached somewhere that might interest you. Join us as we meet some earthly guests who may well introduce you to some alien concepts. If you want to hear about how porn shapes our desires, when sex needs therapy, or what it’s like to be a sex worker, you’re in the right place.Sometimes challenging, sometimes confronting, always enlightening. Buckle up.Available everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found.Reach out to us at: hello@sexinspace.comFollow us on instagram at: @sexinspacedotcomStalk us on Facebook at: @sexinspacedotcomFor more info, check out our website at: www.sexinspace.com
#81 - Teri Hofford / Unf*cking how we see our bodies
Episode 81
Monday, October 14, 2024 • Duration 50:59
On today’s episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by the lovely Teri Hofford. Teri is a body image educator, bestselling author, photographer and TedX speaker who helps people unf*ck their beliefs around bodies and business so that they can move closer to their most authentic selves. We were very excited to have a conversation with her today about all things relating to body image – the meaning that we make out of our bodies and where those thoughts come from, how we can reframe negative thoughts about ourselves, what confidence can look like for different people, and why being curious is so important when it comes to shifting the way we think and feel about our bodies.
00:50 – What Teri does and how she got involved working in this space
03:06 – 5 reasons you look bad in photos
06:50 – Using photography to explore difficult subjects
08:44 – How to change your attitude towards your body
11:10 – Treat yourself like you’d treat a friend
13:07 – 3 steps to reframing negative body talk
16:17 – The impact of asexuality on body image
23:55 – Most common myths about body image + confidence
27:40 – Teri’s project celebrating bodies as they are
30:30 – Body Image Bootcamp: what it’s all about
33:34 – Being able to freely exist in your body
35:10 – Our bodies are a representation of what we feel about ourselves
40:14 – Teri’s message to her younger self
42:16 – Why we have to be intentional to reframe our thoughts about our bodies
45:02 – You’re not as special as you think you are
49:04 – Where to find Teri
50:05 - Conclusion
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#80 - Tina Horn / Understanding kink, fetish and pleasure
Episode 80
Wednesday, October 9, 2024 • Duration 37:37
On this week’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Tina Horn – a writer, educatrix, and media-maker. She is the author of Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink (Hachette), a book based on her long-running indie fetish podcast. Tina is the creator/writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series Safe Sex /SfSx, and the cult detective thriller Deprog; she was also the host/cowriter of the phone sex podcast Operator (Wondery). Her reporting on sexual subcultures has appeared in Rolling Stone, Playboy, Hazlitt, Glamour, Jezebel and elsewhere; she is the author of two other nonfiction books and has contributed to numerous anthologies including We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, which she also coedited. Tina has lectured on adult entertainment politics and queer BDSM identities at universities and community centres all over North America, and works as an on-set consultant for theatre, film, and television including the dominatrix scenes of Pose. She is a LAMBDA Literary Fellow, an AVN nominee, the recipient of two Feminist Porn Awards, and holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence.
05:20 – The influence of the internet on our sexual behaviours
07:06 – How would you define rough sex?
08:49 – Our relationship with obsession
14:00 – Connecting to others through sexuality
15:59 – How to bring your desires and fantasies to life
22:02 – Different kinds of foot fetishes
#72 - William Moore / Exploring Male Girth Enhancement - the science and the impacts
Episode 72
Wednesday, August 14, 2024 • Duration 32:40
In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health.
Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.
#71 - Verity Johnson / Club Burlesque: celebrating freedom, sexuality and desire
Episode 71
Tuesday, August 6, 2024 • Duration 21:07
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club.
Together they spoke about:
What burlesque is and what it celebrates
Why Verity started Club Burlesque
What you can expect if you go to a show
The kind of audiences you’ll find at Club Burlesque
How burlesque encourages audiences to reconsider societal attitudes towards sex
What it teaches us about desire
The relationship between burlesque, freedom and sexuality
And what you might get out of an experience at a burlesque show.
Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand.
04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque
06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque
07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex
09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire
11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality
#70 - Daniel Principe / Empowering boys to navigate masculinity and culture
Episode 70
Monday, July 29, 2024 • Duration 01:02:54
On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives.
In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:
What ideas are being communicated to young boys about masculinity
How to navigate peer pressure
Why it’s important to choose your friends well
What Daniel’s work looks like in practice
What young people really think about Andrew Tate
Why the sigma meme is so popular with young boys
The realities of young people’s porn use
How parents and caregivers can support their kids
And why soft skills are so important
Daniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence.
By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves.
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:
Why there was a need for a private research organisation to investigate sex in space
When we might expect to see regular people going to space
The short and long-term risks of sex in space
Has anyone had sex in space?
The first married couple in space
Why ASRI’s research focuses on more than just the act of sex
And how humans might evolve in off-Earth environments
ASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about?
02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research
06:23 – Old space vs new space
08:30 – When might regular people have access to space?
11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps
13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space
#68 - Dr. Evan Goldstein / Anal health and pleasure
Episode 68
Tuesday, July 16, 2024 • Duration 58:31
On today’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr Evan Goldstein, leading anal health expert in the U.S. Dr Goldstein is the founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a first of its kind health practice specialising in gay men’s sexual health and wellness, and has just published a new book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In-Between.
Together, Tim and Dr. Goldstein spoke about anal health and pleasure, hygiene practices – including why you should avoid using wet wipes and bidets- debunked common assumptions and misconceptions, and more.
Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.
#67 - Dr. Ian Kerner / Sex ed, desire and communication
Episode 67
Tuesday, July 9, 2024 • Duration 43:45
On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, licensed psychotherapist, lecturer, and New York Times bestselling author of books including She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, and most recently, So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives.
Together, Ian and Tim spoke about the importance of prioritizing pleasure in sexual relationships, the need for accurate sex ed and the impact that pornography has on sexual attitudes and behaviours. They also discussed the rise of sexual anxiety, the challenges that couples face in maintaining desire and the need for open communication.
Find his TED Talk, 'A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark' here: https://www.ted.com/talks/ian_kerner_a_sex_therapist_s_secret_to_rediscovering_your_spark?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare
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#66 - Madam Bella Cummins / Running a brothel the right way
Episode 66
Monday, July 1, 2024 • Duration 37:32
On today’s episode of the podcast, we were privileged to be joined by Madam Bella Cummins, the owner and operator of Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, in Wells, Nevada. Bella’s Hacienda Ranch is the only legal brothel run entirely by sex workers, and it attracts customers from all over the US and beyond.
At 74 years old, Cummins is the longest serving living female legal brothel owner in the US. In 1987, she acquired the struggling Hacienda Ranch Brothel and transformed it into the famed "Bella's Hacienda." Leveraging her understanding of business and financial expertise, Cummins successfully turned the establishment into one of the most prosperous adult entertainment destinations in the state.
During the COVID pandemic, when the legal brothels were shuttered by Nevada’s governor, Cummins creatively obtained an escort license for her business, allowing sex workers to sustain their income by providing non-sexual companionship services.
In an era when sex workers were often disparaged and marginalized, Cummins pioneered a revolutionary approach within the industry. As the only legal brothel entirely run by sex workers, Bella’s Hacienda eliminated exploitative elements, creating a female-led workplace culture centred around trust and teamwork. This environment allowed sex workers to find camaraderie, support, and personal growth, challenging stereotypes and fostering a more positive image of women in the adult entertainment sector.
Check out Bella's Hacienda Ranch here: https://bellas.us/
Timestamps:
00:00 – Intro
02:06 – Bella's background
03:49 – Bella's experience of sex ed
05:23 – How Bella was introduced to brothels
09:00 – Bella's vision and mission
11:10 – Where Bella’s attitude came from
13:40 – Thoughts on Madams in other houses
#65 - Shaun Hill / Sex, drugs and consent
Episode 65
Monday, June 24, 2024 • Duration 34:37
On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was able to sit down with Shaun Hill, the ReWired Project Lead, from the New Zealand Drug Foundation. ReWired is a non-judgemental support group for people who want to bring their party’n’play into focus.
Together, Shaun and Toshi had a conversation about chemsex, the ReWired project, sex, drug use and consent, communication and pleasure.
01:38 – How Shaun's perceptions around drug use changed over time
05:58 – What does chemsex and party’n’play mean?
07:53 – What is the ReWired project all about?
09:50 – How ReWired has changed over time
11:31 – The value of hearing people’s journeys
13:28 – Reflecting on the Four F's: friends, family, fucks and finances
16:16 – Sex should be about fun and pleasure
17:42 – Challenges working at ReWired
20:09 – How to navigate consent when drug use is involved
23:49 – How to navigate consent in spaces where it’s given non-verbally
28:43 – One thing Shaun wishes more people knew about consent
31:50 – Where to find more info about ReWired
32:36 – Conclusion
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26:50 – Embracing pleasure
29:13 – Places we can learn from
32:36 – Learning about sex from observation and conversations
34:08 – Why are people into that? The cultural investigation of kink.
35:30 – Conclusion
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06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity?
11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from
14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well
17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships
18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops
20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice
24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces
30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate
35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme
40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use
48:23 – Why soft skills are so important
51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help
56:44 – Daniel's message for young people
58:32 – Conclusion
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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.
17:20 – Why Bella’s offers adult male virgins a discount
24:29 – Advice to young women wanting to get into the industry
27:06 – Bella’s relationship advice
30:26 – Bella's plans for the future
32:48 – Why there is a need for brothels
34:30 – Bella's message to listeners
36:04 – Conclusion
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Check out our books, 'How to talk with your kids about porn' and 'The Organ Education Forgot', available at https://www.sexinspace.com/books to download or buy.
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