Welcome to Bi Men Unfiltered, a podcast for today's curious and bisexual man, hosted by two older, wiser bi men who were once curious themselves. In this first episode, Sam and Grayson introduce the show, explain why it exists, and lay out the format: part information, part real experience, and unapologetically NSFW. They break down the word "bisexual" using Robyn Ochs' definition, get into the stigma bi men still face, and each share where they are today — Grayson, married 20+ years and ethically non-monogamous; Sam, recently divorced and solo poly. They close with the best parts of being bi, what they're each attracted to, connection versus anonymous hookups, and a first pass at their "fuck-it lists." Honest, funny, no shame, no stereotypes. Newly curious and still figuring things out? Start here.
Disclaimer: The hosts are not medical or mental-health professionals. Nothing here is medical, legal, or psychological advice. Speak with a qualified provider about testing, medications, and your own health.
Terms
- Bisexual (Robyn Ochs): "I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge that I have in myself the potential to be attracted—romantically and/or sexually—to people of more than one gender, not necessarily at the same time, in the same way, or to the same degree."
- Bi cycle — a shift in attraction between genders over a short period
- Heteroromantic — romantic attraction to the opposite gender
- Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) — having more than one partner at a time, with everyone's knowledge and agreement
- Solo poly — multiple relationships while keeping your independence, not built around one primary partner
- Cruising — anonymous, low-context encounters, often in public spaces
- Sapiosexual / demisexual — Sam uses these loosely for needing a mental connection before physical interest
- Fuck-it list — a sexual bucket list
Links & resources
Robyn Ochs
r/bisexualmen (and Discord)
r/bisexual
Grindr
Sniffies
Match
CDC — HIV prevention and PrEP
CDC — DoxyPEP guidance (2024)
Sex Positions Club
Next episode: Sam's Bi Journey — from the earliest questioning to where he is now.
Connect with us: Email podcast@bimenunfiltered.com with questions, topics, or your own story (write "OK for air" if we can read it on the show). Find us at @BiMenUnfiltered on Facebook, Instagram, Threads, and X, and at BiMenUnfiltered.com on Bluesky.
