Welcome to the wild, honest, and hilarious world of Beyond Monogamy—a podcast where longtime lifestyle couple Adam & Pris spill the tea (and sometimes the lube) on all things ethical non-monogamy.
From hotwife adventures and swinger fails to polyamorous growing pains and everything in between, no topic is too taboo and no story is off-limits. Whether you're a seasoned swinger, lifestyle-curious, or just here for the juicy stories—you're in the right bed… we mean, place.
Expect real talk, lots of laughs, and candid conversations about sex, relationships, parenting, judgment, and finding connection beyond traditional monogamy.
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QUICKIE: Spotted! When Your Vanilla Life Crashes the Lifestyle
Season 2 · Episode 28
Wednesday, October 29, 2025 • Duration 36:18
Spotted! When Your Vanilla Life Crashes the Lifestyle
Podcast: Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris
Sometimes you're vibing at a lifestyle club—lights low, bodies moving, drinks flowing—and boom… someone from your vanilla life walks in. Your coworker. A family friend. Someone from the PTA. 😳 Now what?
In today's Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris break down exactly what happens when you get SPOTTED in the wild… and how to turn that panic moment into a confident lifestyle win. From awkward introductions to "keep your eyes up" territory, this episode shares a real-life run-in that ended up being surprisingly great.
What You'll Learn
The #1 newbie fear: "What if I run into someone I know?!"—and how to handle it
Consent, discretion, and reading the room when worlds collide
When not to approach someone—and why
Why being open can feel freeing (and build real community)
Turning "oh no" into "we're good" without the drama
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Transforming Love: Jessica Fern & David Cooley on Shame, Attachment & Polywise Relationships
Season 2 · Episode 27
Sunday, October 26, 2025 • Duration 59:59
Jessica Fern & David Cooley on Attachment, Resentment & Rewriting the Rules of Non-Monogamy
Guests: Jessica Fern (author of Polysecure, Polywise, and Transforming the Shame Triangle) and David Cooley (restorative-justice facilitator, creator of Restorative Relationship Conversations).
Episode Summary
In this heart-to-heart, Adam & Pris sit down with Jessica Fern and David Cooley to go deeper than "What is polyamory?" They unpack attachment styles, why resentment is jealousy's sneaky cousin, and how the Shame Triangle (inner persecutor, inner victim, inner rescuer) quietly shapes conflict—and how to transform it with practical tools rooted in IFS and restorative practices.
The convo hits real-life dynamics: ditching the "50/50" myth, navigating capacity and time (especially with kids), and why relationships thrive when both partners bring 100%—just not in the same way every day. Adam & Pris get candid about their own poly chapter, burnout, and finding balance, while Jessica & David share how their post-divorce collaboration became one of their healthiest partnerships.
Keywords: Jessica Fern, David Cooley, Polysecure, Polywise, Transforming the Shame Triangle, attachment theory, IFS therapy, ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, jealousy vs resentment, relationship repair, capacity, family dynamics, Beyond Monogamy podcast, Full Swap Radio.
Attachment & IFS: How to spot when a part (not your core self) is driving reactivity—and how to respond with needs-based clarity.
Guest Links & Resources Favorite Moments "Resentment is a really important signal—like a dashboard light. There's a need underneath it asking to be seen." "Stop chasing 50/50. Bring your 100%—and expect your partner to bring theirs—in ways that ebb and flow with real capacity." "The Shame Triangle links that inner critic, the shame it creates, and the 'escapes' we use to avoid feeling it. Naming it is the first step to changing it."Timestamps Support the Show
QUICKIE: The Great Expectations
Season 2 · Episode 26
Wednesday, October 22, 2025 • Duration 38:48
The Great Expectations
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Episode Summary
In The Great Expectations, Adam & Pris get real about one of the trickiest parts of ethical non-monogamy: managing what you think is going to happen versus what actually happens. From club nights that don't go as planned to the pressure of "performing" in lifestyle settings, they unpack how expectations—ours, our partners', and everyone else's—shape attraction, confidence, and connection. This candid, funny, and raw conversation explores emotional intelligence, insecurity, chemistry, and the myth of having "no expectations." Spoiler: everyone has them, and that's human.
Whether you're new to swinging or deep into open relationship life, you'll leave with practical perspective: the fewer expectations you cling to, the more freedom (and fun) you'll find.
Show Notes Topics Covered
The illusion of "no expectations" in the lifestyle
Why we still walk into clubs hoping for magic (and why it rarely plays out like a fantasy)
How unrealistic expectations can kill the vibe before the night even starts
Attraction vs. organic connection: letting chemistry lead
Emotional intelligence as a lifestyle superpower
Releasing insecurities and learning to care less (with age and experience)
"Podcaster expectations" vs. real-life anxiety and social energy
Expectations and performance pressure—why honest communication matters
Respect, boundaries, and the expectations partners set for each other
Featured Moments
Pris opens up about letting go and growing emotional maturity.
Adam talks about mental pressure, male performance, and speaking up instead of spiraling.
A funny play-by-play of how fantasy scripts fall apart in real life—and why that's okay.
A shared takeaway: try not to have expectations, but admit you always will—then choose flexibility over frustration.
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Stream this episode on all major podcast platforms and catch us on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM CST.
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This Kind of Girl: UK Writer Rosie Kay on Non-Monogamy, Bisexuality & Breaking Lifestyle Stereotypes
Season 2 · Episode 25
Sunday, October 19, 2025 • Duration 52:24
This Kind of Girl: UK Writer Rosie Kay on Non-Monogamy, Bisexuality & Breaking Lifestyle Stereotypes Ethical Non-Monogamy Bisexuality Confidence & Consent Lifestyle Culture Episode Summary
In this bold and beautifully honest episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we head across the pond to chat with UK writer, educator, and ethical non-monogamy coach Rosie Kay, the voice behind thiskindagirl.co.uk.
Rosie pulls back the curtain on what it really means to live ethically non-monogamous in today's world—far beyond the clichés of "swingers in suburbia." From discovering her bisexuality in her teens to finding freedom (and a few fears) in London's clubs, Rosie shares how she turned curiosity, courage, and COVID downtime into one of the UK's most refreshingly honest lifestyle blogs.
Together, we dive into bisexuality without shame, breaking stereotypes, emotional honesty and the art of giving consent even when you're not directly involved, plus the cultural contrasts between the UK and US lifestyle scenes. This one's for anyone navigating open relationships or the messy-beautiful reality of non-monogamy in 2025 and beyond.
Rosie's personal journey into non-monogamy & bisexuality
How This Kind of Girl started during COVID lockdown
UK vs. US lifestyle culture—what's changing and what's the same
The emotional side: jealousy, consent, self-awareness, and confidence
Breaking stereotypes: who actually participates in the lifestyle
Inclusivity, women's empowerment, and moving beyond shame
Best Quote "Once you realize that other women aren't your competition, you'll have a much better life—not just a better sex life." — Rosie Kay Follow Rosie
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Forbidden Fruit: How Austin's Oldest Adult Store Kept Sex Positive Since the '80s
Season 2 · Episode 24
Wednesday, October 15, 2025 • Duration 48:52
Beyond Monogamy • Austin, Texas Forbidden Fruit: Keeping Austin Sexy Since the '80s
An exclusive conversation with owner Lynn Raridon about education, community, and an Austin icon.
We sit down with Lynn Raridon, owner of Forbidden Fruit, Austin's beloved sex-positive boutique and education hub. From the early 1980s to today, Forbidden Fruit has blended sexual empowerment, community connection, and hands-on education—long before "sex positivity" was a hashtag.
From Punk Rock to Pleasure Revolution
Born out of Austin's punk scene and home party sales that brought products into living rooms, Forbidden Fruit evolved into a community institution. Lynn shares the legal hurdles of the late '80s and the clever pivots (like labeling vibrators as educational models) that kept the doors open and the mission alive.
More Than a Store—A Movement
Workshops & classes: BDSM Basics, Fellatio 101, and more, taught by experienced educators.
Local makers: artisan floggers, paddles, collars, lingerie, and kink gear.
Erotic art exhibits: rotating local art and cultural programming.
Trusted guidance: lube testing, body-safe materials, and matching toys to preferences.
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Latino Heat In The Lifestyle: Dulce & Angel's Journey from Event Planners to Swing Club Owners
Season 2 · Episode 23
Sunday, October 12, 2025 • Duration 53:02
In this electrifying episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we head west to Los Angeles to meet Dulce and Angel, the powerhouse couple behind Tentaciones Club — one of the hottest new lifestyle destinations in Southern California.
Tentaciones isn't just a swingers' club; it's a movement. Built with passion, culture, and a whole lot of reggaetón energy, this Latino-owned lifestyle club blends music, sensuality, and community into one unforgettable experience.
Angel and Dulce share how they transformed their 20-year relationship, event-planning expertise, and deep ties to LA's Latino community into a sex-positive safe space where connection and culture collide. From converting a banquet hall into an 18,000-square-foot play space to educating a new generation of Latinx swingers about consent and communication, their story is bold, raw, and beautifully authentic.
They talk about:
How COVID boredom and orgy porn sparked the idea that became Tentaciones Club.
The challenges of bringing Latino machismo culture into open, ethical non-monogamy.
Why music and environment are key to creating comfort and connection.
How they're balancing work, family, and sex-positive entrepreneurship.
And the importance of teaching respect, consent, and community inside the lifestyle.
This episode isn't just about a club — it's about representation, passion, and the power of owning your truth. Whether you're in the lifestyle or just lifestyle-curious, you'll leave inspired by their hustle, humor, and heart.
📍 About Tentaciones Club (Los Angeles, CA)
Located in the heart of Los Angeles, Tentaciones Club is a sensual, inclusive, and proudly Latino-centered lifestyle venue that brings together couples, singles, and open-minded adults for unforgettable nights of music, dance, and connection.
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QUICKIE: Sexual Assault in the Lifestyle: Why Consent Still Matters in Swinging and Non-Monogamy Spaces"
Season 2 · Episode 22
Wednesday, October 8, 2025 • Duration 31:45
In this powerful and necessary Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam and Pris set aside the usual flirty fun to tackle one of the most difficult but crucial conversations in the non-monogamous community — sexual assault in the lifestyle.
It's uncomfortable. It's raw. But it's happening more often than people want to admit. Adam and Pris share personal experiences, listener stories, and hard truths about how boundaries get crossed, why consent isn't a one-time agreement, and how alcohol, pressure, and silence enable abuse inside supposedly "safe" spaces.
From club scenes and takeovers to one-on-one dates, the duo breaks down the difference between flirting and coercion, and why "no" should never be negotiable. They discuss the unspoken struggles many face — especially women and closeted men — around finding their voice, saying no without guilt, and holding others accountable.
Pris opens up about being an advocate for women in the lifestyle, creating code words and safe-word systems for friends at clubs, and the importance of protecting each other — even if that means calling out bad behavior from someone you love. Adam sheds light on the machismo stigma that stops men from reporting when they've been touched without consent, reminding listeners that assault doesn't discriminate by gender.
Together, they stress that being sex-positive means being consent-positive. And that the strength of this community depends on speaking up, watching out for one another, and building spaces where everyone feels safe to explore — not just sexually, but emotionally too.
If you've ever felt unsafe, silenced, or unsure how to react when boundaries are crossed, this episode will remind you that you're not alone. Healing starts with awareness, and awareness begins with conversations like this one.
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Beyond Monogamy Meets The Swing Nation: Origin Story, Clout, and Community
Season 2 · Episode 21
Sunday, October 5, 2025 • Duration 57:53
Adam & Pris sit down with Dan & Lacy—aka The Swing Nation—for a candid, funny, and surprisingly tender conversation about what it really takes to build a lifestyle brand while staying real as a couple. They share how an overseas deployment, COVID, and a spicy OnlyFans idea snowballed into viral TikToks, a top-rated podcast, and a nationwide community. We get into boundaries, why "no sex required" is a perfectly valid club night, how to spot clout chasing, and the weirdness of being both hosts and humans at their own events. They open up about social anxiety, shadowbans, sponsors, and what's next: TV talks, NDAs, and a new music-festival-meets-hotel-takeover brand. If you've ever wondered how the sausage gets made in lifestyle media—this is it.
Show Notes
Guests: Dan & Lacy of The Swing Nation
Beacons hub: beacons.ai/theswingnation2
Events & community: SwingerSociety.net
What we cover
The accidental launch: Deployed Dan, "Southern Girl" OnlyFans, and a viral upside-down pineapple TikTok that outed them overnight—and why they chose to own it.
Why the podcast: Long-form answers to the same TikTok questions (jealousy, where to start, boundaries) and building a searchable library for newbies.
Rules that work for them: Usually same-room full swap, always protection, and group chats over side DMs—with realistic "gray areas" at events.
When one partner is more sought-after: How they check their egos, keep it respectful, and why "connection first" beats counting notches.
Clout vs. authentic interest: The awkward moments, being recognized, and why they often play with a trusted circle.
Community at scale: Discord in the tens of thousands, sell-out takeovers, and trying to be present hosts while the AC breaks and the DJ swaps sets.
You don't have to play. Dance, watch, vibe, talk, take —and be honest about where you're at.
QUICKIE: One Bad Swinging Experience: How to Bounce Back in the Lifestyle
Season 2 · Episode 20
Wednesday, October 1, 2025 • Duration 29:54
In this Beyond Monogamy Quickie, Adam & Pris get real about the impact of bad swinging experiences and why one flop doesn't have to end your lifestyle journey. From erectile dysfunction struggles to mismatched vibes and awkward first encounters, they break down the most common reasons people walk away after a negative night — and how to process, communicate, and bounce back stronger. Adam shares why he believes in second chances and growth, while Pris explains why her instinct is to shut it down after one bad vibe. Together, they show how balancing those approaches can save your confidence, protect your relationship, and help you find better connections. If you've ever thought, "One bad swinging night means this isn't for me," this episode proves you can reset, learn, and still create amazing experiences in the lifestyle.
🎙️ Show Notes
Episode Title: One Bad Swinging Experience: How to Bounce Back in the Lifestyle
Episode Summary: What happens when your first (or even tenth) swinging experience doesn't go as planned? Adam & Pris dive into how to handle those moments without letting them ruin your outlook on the lifestyle. From bad sex, awkward vibes, or ED issues, they share personal stories and practical strategies for reframing those nights into valuable lessons.
What You'll Hear in This Episode:
Why one bad swinger night can feel like a dealbreaker (especially for newbies)
Pris's "no second chances" rule vs. Adam's "everyone deserves another shot" mindset
The role of communication, forgiveness, and learning in navigating bad encounters
Red flags that truly are dealbreakers vs. just one-off bad vibes
How to reset expectations and give the lifestyle another try
Why some of the best nights happen right after the worst ones
Why This Episode Matters: So many couples quit the lifestyle after a negative experience. This conversation shows you how to move forward instead of letting one bad night define your entire journey.
Non-Monogamy & The Law: Jonathan Lane on Custody, Contracts & Protecting Non-Traditional Families
Season 2 · Episode 19
Sunday, September 28, 2025 • Duration 48:58
Family law gets real when you're living outside the box of traditional monogamy. In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Maryland/DC attorney Jonathan Lane, a polyamorous lawyer who specializes in ethical non-monogamy, custody battles, divorce, inheritance, and family protections.
Jonathan breaks down everything ENM and polyamorous families need to know about child custody risks, de facto parent status, divorce disputes, property ownership, wills, medical directives, employment discrimination, and how judges actually view non-traditional families in court.
Whether you're a swinger, poly, or exploring ENM, this is one of those conversations that could protect your kids, your partners, and your lifestyle. If you've ever worried about being "outed" in court, losing custody, or what happens if your throuple breaks up—this episode is packed with answers.
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In this week's episode, we're diving deep into the legal side of ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, and swinging with Jonathan Lane, a Maryland/DC attorney who is out as poly himself and dedicated to protecting non-traditional families in the courtroom.
What You'll Learn in This Episode:
⚖️ Custody & Courts — How judges view ENM parents, the "best interest of the child" standard, and why outcomes often depend on your county.
👩👩👧 De Facto Parent Status — What it means, how it protects non-bio/non-adoptive parents, and the strict criteria involved.
💔 Divorce & Breakups — Why written agreements, even texts, matter when disputes over cheating or swinging arise.
🏡 Property, Inheritance & Wills — How throuples/quads can own property together, protect assets, and secure inheritance rights.
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Jealousy vs. Resentment: Resentment is the "check-engine light" for unmet needs or long-standing imbalances—don't villainize it, learn from it.
The 50/50 Myth: Healthy partnerships aren't perfectly split; they're capacity-aware and transparent about changing needs over time.
Polyamory + Parenting: Why time/energy constraints shift when kids are young—and how integrating partners into the family system can help.
The Shame Triangle: Inner persecutor ➝ inner victim (shame) ➝ inner rescuer/escapers (over/under-functioning, numbing, projection) and how to break the cycle.
Collaboration After Divorce: Jessica & David describe dissolving romance, rebuilding trust, and co-creating work that actually deepens harmony.
JessicaFern.com — book info, events, workshops (New book Transforming the Shame Triangle releases on October 31; pre-release discount via site).
Polysecure, The Polysecure Workbook, Polywise — widely available wherever books are sold.
Upcoming signings mentioned: Asheville (Malaprops, Oct 28), Atlanta (Cherish Books, Nov 4), Bay Area events week of Dec 17 with a day-long workshop on Dec 22.
29:00 — Poly + parenting; integrating partners into family systems
44:00 — The Shame Triangle explained (persecutor, victim, rescuer/escapers)
54:00 — Why feedback can trigger shame—and how to receive it better
55:00 — Book release timing & event tour details
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Join Adam & Pris at the shop on Friday, Nov 8 during the neighborhood block party. Forbidden Fruit opens at 12 PM; we'll be inside with a live show, Q&A, a meet-and-greet, and merch—plus we'll pop on a few social lives throughout the afternoon.
With over 9,000 sq. ft. of play space (and another 9,000+ in expansion), Tentaciones delivers an experience that's equal parts sexy and safe — featuring vibrant Latino music, open dance floors, and intimate playrooms that celebrate freedom, consent, and community.
Their mission? To create a family-like atmosphere where the Latino lifestyle community can express themselves authentically, without judgment or taboo.
[00:00] Adam & Pris introduce Dulce & Angel of Tentaciones Club
[04:00] How a banquet hall turned into a lifestyle dream space
[07:00] The cultural challenges of normalizing swinging in Latino communities
[12:00] Building connection, family, and respect inside the club
[15:00] The power of music, dance, and vibe — reggaetón, bachata, and consent
[23:00] Fetishization, machismo, and educating new members
[30:00] How Dulce embraced her bisexuality and Angel learned true communication
[40:00] The business grind — running a club while raising kids and trading crypto
[45:00] Upcoming events: Las Santas y los Santos theme night
[50:00] Virtual walkthrough of the 18,000-square-foot club
[51:00] Final thoughts and connections
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Sexual Assault in the Lifestyle: Why Consent Still Matters
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Topics Covered:
What sexual assault can look like inside the lifestyle
The dangerous myth that "swingers always consent"
How alcohol and intoxication blur boundaries
Why men are often silent victims, too
How to create safe-word systems with friends at events
The psychology of freezing during unwanted touch
How to safely intervene if you see someone uncomfortable
Rebuilding safety and trust in your lifestyle community
Why being sex-positive requires being consent-positive
Key Takeaways:
Consent isn't implied — it's active, ongoing, and revocable.
Being in the lifestyle doesn't mean being "available."
Read the room. Respect boundaries. Call out bad behavior.
Clubs and hosts must create a culture of safety and accountability.
Every "no" matters — and so does every voice that speaks up.
CTA: 👉 Like, subscribe, share, and leave a review — your feedback helps keep important conversations like this alive.
First-timer advice:
baby steps
It's a social club (with optional sex): What keeps people coming back is kindness, connection, and being seen without judgment.
Creator realities: Shadowbans, banned accounts, and posting 3–5x/day across TikTok/IG/Facebook/X/Clapper/Reddit. Why they chose values-aligned sponsors over generic ad networks.
What's next: TV conversations under NDA, a new music-festival-meets-hotel-takeover brand, and a quick LA trip in October. Stay tuned.
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The Swing Nation hub: beacons.ai/theswingnation2
Swinger Society events/memberships: SwingerSociety.net
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🏥 Medical Directives & Power of Attorney — Why ENM partners should set these up before emergencies.
👩⚖️ Employment Discrimination — Why "at will" jobs can be risky, and where (Cambridge, Somerville, Berkeley, Oakland) ENM is starting to see protections.
🌎 Cultural Shifts — How awareness and acceptance of non-monogamy are growing nationwide, even if the laws are still catching up.
Jonathan also shares stories from real cases where polyamory and kink showed up in court, from custody battles to divorce disputes—and what lessons we can all take from them.
