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| 373: Hormonal Optimization, Metabolic Health, and Longevity for Better Sex with Jay Campbell | 16 mars 2026 | 00:37:22 | |
Sex therapist Jess Zimmerman interviews biohacker and author Jay Campbell about hormone optimization and metabolic health as foundations for wellbeing, longevity, libido, and sexual function. Campbell shares how discovering very low testosterone after a sports injury led him into researching therapeutic hormones, peptides, and lifestyle interventions, eventually writing bestselling books and a new book on GLP-1 peptides and proper microdosing with supportive lifestyle changes. They discuss endocrine disruption, common hormone deficiencies, and key labs and hormones to assess—especially free testosterone, estradiol, and progesterone—emphasizing women being underserved in testosterone therapy after the WHI. Campbell outlines symptoms like fatigue, low dopamine/brain fog, belly fat, and insulin resistance, and recommends insulin-controlled eating, resistance and cardio training, stress reduction through daily mind-stilling practices, and consistent routines to improve health and sexual wellbeing. 00:00 Show Intro 00:46 Meet Jay Campbell 01:48 Testosterone Wake Up Call 03:26 Biohacking To Author 05:43 Endocrine Disruptors 07:53 Metabolic Health Link 08:33 Key Hormones Explained 10:28 Women And HRT Myths 16:02 Microdosing GLP One 17:08 Midroll And Coaching 17:37 Symptoms And Sex Signs 19:29 Therapeutic Hormone Jumpstart 20:39 Libido and Sexual Function 23:14 Biohacker vs Clinical Goals 23:45 Diet and Insulin Control 25:37 Training for Longevity 28:23 Blue Zones and Leanness 29:04 Incline Walking for Fat Loss 30:24 Stress and Stilling Mind 34:39 Where to Find Jay 35:52 Podcast Wrap Up Want to work with Jessa? Visit https://www.intimacywithease.com Bio: Jay Campbell is a 5x international bestselling author, globally recognized authority on hormone optimization, metabolic health, and longevity. He’s passionate about educating individuals on how to optimize their hormones and metabolism for long-term vitality, energy, and performance. Jay’s work helps people break free from conventional “sick-care” systems and embrace health strategies that promote longevity, peak performance, and overall well-being. He is widely recognized for his cutting-edge insights into peptides, metabolic repair, and sustainable aging. biolongevitylabs.com JAYC code Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 372: [Soapbox] The three biggest apology mistakes | 12 mars 2026 | 00:07:21 | |
Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman shares a soapbox episode on three common apology mistakes that prevent real relationship repair. First, apologizing too quickly can skip the empathy your partner needs to feel understood, so she encourages “climbing into their movie” before taking accountability. Second, phrases like “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I’m sorry that happened to you” misuse “I’m sorry,” which she reserves for responsibility and remorse, and can sound judgmental; she suggests using clearer empathic language instead. Third, adding “but” after an apology turns it into an explanation or excuse that undermines repair, so an apology should fully own the specific behavior and its impact. 00:00 Show Intro 00:46 Soapbox Setup 01:22 Mistake One Too Fast 02:51 Mistake Two Misusing Sorry 04:31 Mistake Three Sorry But 05:25 Wrap Up Take Ownership 05:51 Outro And Credits Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 371: People pleasing is ruining your sex life with Darshana Avila | 09 mars 2026 | 00:38:25 | |
Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Darshana Avila (featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & Goop) about “erotic wholeness,” defined as integrating all parts of ourselves and relating to eroticism as life-force vitality that can fuel sexuality, creativity, and relationships. They explore how people-pleasing functions as a protective strategy—suppressing authenticity to maintain connection—and how it undermines both pleasure and intimacy. In long-term relationships, this often appears as partners (often women in heterosexual dynamics) not knowing what they like, feeling shame about needs such as taking longer to warm up, or fearing rejection for expressing desires. They discuss sexual scripts, shame, disappointment tolerance, consent (including Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent), and practical steps: identify people-pleasing, work with fear/scarcity, clarify authentic desires and boundaries, and build communication skills with professional and relational support. 00:00 Show Introduction 00:49 Meet Darshana Avila 01:51 Her Path to This Work 03:26 Erotic Wholeness Defined 06:18 Choiceful Self Leadership 07:32 People Pleasing Explained 09:08 How It Shows Up in Sex 12:41 Owning Desire Without Shame 15:16 Rewriting the Sex Script 18:19 Mid Episode Quiz Break 18:47 Mutuality Helps Both Partners 19:38 Mutual Desire Basics 20:24 People Pleasing Blocks Intimacy 21:26 Building Disappointment Tolerance 22:18 Shame Spirals and Meaning 23:03 Dont Yuck the Yum 23:38 Golden Shower Lesson 24:42 Responding with Gratitude 25:19 Finding the Venn Overlap 27:19 Consent and the No 28:36 No as a Pivot 29:36 First Steps to Change 33:08 Vulnerability as Litmus Test 35:47 Support and Where to Find Her 36:55 Podcast Wrap Up My quizzes can be found at https://www.desirediscrepancy.com Bio: Darshana Avila is a trauma-informed somatic educator, practitioner and international speaker who helps people reconnect with the most essential aspects of themselves — their truth, their desires, and their capacity for profound pleasure and power. Known for her grounded, candid, and relational approach, she bridges the worlds of embodiment, emotional intelligence, and personal agency with depth and accessibility. Darshana’s work has been featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & goop, The Guardian, The New Yorker, and numerous leading podcasts. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 370: [Soapbox] Choose a more empowering story | 05 mars 2026 | 00:09:42 | |
In this soapbox episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the power of staying positive by questioning the stories and interpretations our brains create. She explains how people often react to filtered, meaning-filled perceptions rather than reality, then reinforce negative narratives—especially in relationships—by focusing on blame, hopelessness, and how stuck things feel. Jess argues this mindset is inaccurate, disempowering, and self-sabotaging because it shapes how we show up with our partners and invites defensiveness, conflict, or withdrawal. She encourages listeners to develop skepticism about their interpretations, broaden perspective, and choose thoughts and emotions that feel better and create more possibility. By focusing on what’s on “your side of the court,” including how you feel, think, and act, you can change the relational dynamic and move toward the connection you want. 00:00 Welcome to Better Sex 00:44 Soapbox Episode Setup 01:55 Why Stories Trap Us 03:35 The Cost of Negative Narratives 05:19 Challenge Your Interpretation 07:18 Control Your Side 07:42 Invitation to Shift Mindset 08:12 Outro and Credits Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 369: Protecting Sexual Freedoms with Mandy Salley | 02 mars 2026 | 00:30:25 | |
Sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman interviews Mandy Salley of the Woodhull Foundation about sexual freedom as a human right rooted in bodily autonomy and the ability to say yes or no. Mandy shares how peer sex education in college, graduate training in social work and human sexuality, and years volunteering with Woodhull led to her advocacy work blending sexuality, policy, and activism. They discuss how shame-based sex education limits curiosity and knowledge, and how free speech and online censorship affect sexual health information. Mandy outlines Woodhull’s current policy work, including opposing a proposed South Carolina abortion ban, Colorado’s trans bathroom ban, and state age-verification laws that threaten privacy and data security. She also notes concerns about intersex medical interventions and gender-affirming care bans. The episode ends with practical ways to get involved locally and how to find Woodhull’s resources. 00:00 Show Intro 00:56 Meet Mandy Sally 01:52 Her Path to Woodhull 06:17 Sex Ed Gaps and Shame 09:50 Defining Sexual Freedom 11:06 Censorship and Algo Speak 13:12 Quick Quiz Break 13:39 US vs Global Perspectives 17:02 Woodhull Policy Priorities 18:20 Age Verification and Privacy 22:46 Intersex and Care Bans 23:51 How to Get Involved 26:42 Find Woodhull Resources 28:55 Closing and Credits Take my quizzes at https://www.desirediscrepancy.com Bio: Mandy Salley brings her passion for social justice and love for humanity to the Woodhull Freedom Foundation as its Chief Operations Officer (COO). Since 2014 when she first served as a volunteer coordinator, Mandy plays an integral role at Woodhull, now managing its day-to-day operations and community efforts – from its Human Rights Commissions to the monthly Censorship of Sexual Freedom Series. Mandy is also a licensed Social Worker and has experience in inpatient hospitals, geriatric day programs, and rape crises. She is based in Brooklyn, NY. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 368 [Soapbox] The transformative potential of a couples' intensive | 26 févr. 2026 | 00:10:43 | |
In this soapbox episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explains why some couples may benefit from a couples intensive instead of weekly or biweekly therapy. She describes limits of short, spaced-out sessions—often spent catching up or addressing the latest conflict—and how real emotional breakthroughs can require uninterrupted time for nervous systems to settle, vulnerability to emerge, and old patterns to loosen. Jessa outlines how intensives provide extended, immersive hours that allow couples to stay in the process long enough to repair ruptures and gain a clearer “balcony view” of their dynamics while practicing new behaviors with in-the-moment support. She also discusses the potential for ethically guided altered-state work—specifically mentioning MDMA and psilocybin training—to reduce fear-based defenses, increase empathy, and enable difficult conversations without typical shutdown or blame. Jessa shares who might consider an intensive (repeating conflicts, unresolved rupture, separation decisions, or a desire for deeper connection) and who should not (abuse, an unwilling partner, or severe mental health issues). She emphasizes intensives are a significant investment of time, money, and energy—often 6–10 hours—but can be transformative when regular therapy hasn’t created enough traction. 00:00 Show Intro 00:46 Why Consider Intensives 01:07 Limits of Weekly Therapy 02:22 How Intensives Work 03:24 Breaking Old Patterns 04:23 Insight Into Action 05:05 Altered State Options 05:50 MDMA and Psilocybin 06:21 What Changes in Session 07:32 Who Should Consider It 08:01 When Not Recommended 08:44 Cost and Commitment 09:13 Wrap Up and Credits Want to learn more? Visit https://www.heartweaveforcouples.com Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 367: Supple, Luscious, Fuller Breasts with Jillian Wisborg | 23 févr. 2026 | 00:30:42 | |
Jessa Zimmerman interviews Jillian Wisborg, founder of Booby Grow, about a natural breast growth and firming program combining herbal supplementation, breast/nipple massage, and nutrition changes. Jillian shares that she created the program after losing weight and losing breast volume, and wanted an alternative to implants due to cost, maintenance, and reported health issues. She explains her background studying herbal medicine, how she researched plant compounds and breast health, and how her formulation evolved through trials into a lifestyle-based approach when some participants needed adequate calories and fat intake for results. The conversation covers what breasts are made of, the role of healthy fats, circulation, and estrogen receptors, and why the program emphasizes daily massage and specific herbs. They discuss broader effects some users report (without official claims), cautions around pregnancy and cancer, and an explanation of different estrogen sources including xenoestrogens and phytoestrogens. 00:00 Welcome to the Better Sex Podcast (Show Intro) 00:44 Meet Jillian Wisborg & Booby Grow: Natural Breast Firming/Growth Overview 01:34 Jillian’s Origin Story: Weight Loss, Losing Breast Volume & Avoiding Implants 05:57 From Herbal Medicine to a Formula: Researching Plant Compounds & Early Trials 10:10 Breast Biology 101: Fat, Circulation, Massage & Estrogen Receptors 12:55 Beyond Breast Size: Other Reported Benefits + Who Shouldn’t Use It 14:44 Safety Talk: Estrogen, Xenoestrogens vs Phytoestrogens & Cancer Concerns 19:16 Is This for the Male Gaze? Choice, Body Autonomy & Postpartum Clients 21:46 Dragons’ Den/Shark Tank Experience: Pitching Booby Grow & Calls for Studies 25:31 How the Program Works: 4-Month Plan, Guarantee, Results & Maintenance 28:25 Where to Find Jillian + Final Wrap-Up Interested in resources to bridge desire discrepancy? Go to https://www.desirediscrepancy.com Bio: I’m Jillian Wisborg — a Herbalist, Registered Nutritionist, and Clinical Iridoloist who’s been rooted in the holistic health world since 2009. Jillian had her company Boobygrow recently featured on the show Dragon’s Den & is taking the world by storm to enrich the masses on education of herbalism for vitality. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 366: [Soapbox] Should i tell her about the viagra? | 19 févr. 2026 | 00:07:48 | |
In this soapbox episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman responds to a coaching-call question: whether to tell a partner when you’ve taken Viagra. She describes a client who has a prescription, experiences no negative side effects, and has been taking the medication without telling his wife to avoid creating pressure or expectations for sex. Jessa explains that Viagra helps maintain an erection rather than automatically causing one, so taking it without having sex isn’t inherently harmful, but guessing can lead to mismatches—sometimes he’s prepared and sometimes he isn’t—potentially leaving his wife confused or personalizing inconsistent erections. She suggests considering a daily medication like Cialis for more spontaneity and encourages an honest conversation that leads with the intention to avoid pressure, clarifies there are no adverse effects if sex doesn’t happen, and invites the partner into shared decision-making, including the option for the partner to initiate by suggesting he take a pill if she’s interested in sex. She closes by encouraging listeners to communicate in ways that reduce pressure while increasing collaboration and connection. 00:00 Welcome to Better Sex (Podcast Intro) 00:45 Soapbox Topic: Should You Tell Your Partner You Took Viagra? 01:35 The Real Issue: Guessing, Mixed Signals & Partner Anxiety 02:08 Quick Viagra Myth-Busting: What It Does (and Doesn’t) Do 03:31 Practical Options: Daily Cialis vs. Planning Ahead 03:55 How to Bring It Up Without Creating Pressure 05:01 Invite Your Partner In: Shared Decision-Making & Desire Signals 05:59 Wrap-Up: Communicate About ED Meds as a Team 06:18 Outro, Links, Reviews & Credits Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 365: Polyagony - Common Mistakes in Ethical Non-Monogamy with Candace Sjogren | 16 févr. 2026 | 00:32:35 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman speaks with Candace Sjogren about the intricacies and common mistakes involved in polyamory, as addressed in Sjogren’s book, 'Polyagony'. They discuss personal experiences, motivations behind polyamorous relationships, and essential strategies for maintaining healthy open relationships. The conversation touches on setting boundaries, ethical non-monogamy, agreements, and navigating the dynamics of multiple partners, including poly parenting. Sjogren emphasizes the importance of communication, consent, and the continuous evolution of relationship agreements. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:49 Guest Introduction: Candace Sjogren on Polyamory 01:25 Candace's Personal Journey with Polyamory 02:13 Challenges and Advocacy in Polyamorous Relationships 03:34 The Rise of Ethical Non-Monogamy 07:09 Defining Ethical Non-Monogamy 08:33 Common Mistakes in Open Relationships 12:42 Forming Agreements in Open Relationships 16:43 Exploring Hopes and Fears in Relationships 16:59 The Importance of Moving at the Slowest Pace 17:30 Maintaining Relationship Cadence 18:02 Invitation to Share Personal Stories 18:31 Dealing with Stagnation in Relationships 20:19 Understanding Consent Within and Outside the Couple 22:26 Navigating the Role of a Hinge in Polyamory 25:04 Challenges of Poly Parenting 28:31 Group Dynamics in Polyamory 30:12 Conclusion and Resources If you want to share your story on the show, email us at info@intimacywithease.com Bio: Candace Sjogren is a lawyer, entrepreneur, and transformational leader whose work spans finance, technology, and human development. Born in Cincinnati, Ohio, she graduated from the Salmon P. Chase College of Law and practiced law before founding and leading multiple mission-driven companies. She served as CEO of Bad Girl Ventures, a microfinance firm investing in female founders, and later founded Somolend, one of the first nationally available crowdfunding platforms. Through this work, Candace played a key role in shaping the JOBS Act, the legislation that made securities-based crowdfunding legal in the United States. Over the past fifteen years, Candace has served in senior executive and C-suite roles across venture-backed startups and global payments companies, including Chief Commercial Officer of Lynx, a healthcare payments company, and Senior Vice President of Embedded Finance at FIS, a global payments firm with more than 66,000 employees. She is also the former co-author of Typhoon Honey: The Only Way Out Is Through, a book on emotional intelligence and transformational growth. Today, Candace leads The Liberation Company, where she facilitates emotional intelligence, somatic healing, and identity-based workshops designed to support deep personal and collective transformation. She lives on Cape Cod, Massachusetts, with her husband Andrew, their son Ivar, and their two dogs, Pan and Cinder. Website: https://www.polyagony.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@candacesjogren7056 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/insidethemindofcandaceklein/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/candacesjogren/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candace.klein/ Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 364: [Soapbox] Avoid the Quota Trap | 12 févr. 2026 | 00:07:29 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the challenges of setting quotas for sexual frequency in relationships. She shares insights from a recent coaching call, emphasizing that focusing on frequency can often lead to feelings of obligation and resentment, particularly for lower desire partners. Instead, Jessa advises couples to create flexible, pressure-free spaces to nurture desire and intimacy naturally. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:46 Welcome and Episode Overview 01:02 Discussing Reasonable Amounts of Sex 02:11 The Problem with Setting Quotas 04:05 Creating Flexibility in Intimacy 05:09 Avoiding Obligation and Duty 05:37 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 05:59 Closing Remarks and Listener Engagement 06:47 Credits and Acknowledgements Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 363: Anal Sex for Beginners with Dr. Evan Goldstein | 09 févr. 2026 | 00:41:08 | |
In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist, Jessa Zimmerman, interviews Dr. Evan Goldstein, an expert in anal sexual wellness and author of 'Butt Seriously.' Dr. Goldstein discusses the fundamentals of anal sex for beginners, focusing on key aspects such as muscle relaxation, preparation, and safety. They delve into common myths around anal sex, the anatomical considerations, and the importance of using the right products for a pleasurable experience. The conversation also explores the performance of safe hygiene practices, effective communication with partners, and techniques to mitigate potential issues. Dr. Goldstein emphasizes the importance of proper education and preparation to enhance the anal sex experience, debunking societal taboos and misconceptions. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:48 Exciting Topic: Anal Sex for Beginners 01:32 Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein 02:50 The Birth of Bespoke Surgical 03:46 Common Anal Issues and Myths 06:40 Anal Play for All Genders 08:21 Understanding Anal Anatomy 14:01 The Future Method and Anal Dilating Kit 20:45 The Importance of Uniformity in Vaginal Dilators 21:33 Jessa's Quick Break: How to Get Help 22:01 Misconceptions About Anal Preparation 22:35 Solo Anal Play: Learning Your Body 23:20 Incorporating Dilators into Sex Play 24:17 Positions for Anal Success 26:56 Choosing the Right Lube for Anal Sex 29:06 Gut Health and Anal Play 31:48 Douching: Best Practices and Misconceptions 34:59 Post-Play Hygiene Tips 36:36 Final Thoughts and Resources Want to work with Jessa? https://www.intimacywithease.com Bio: Dr. Evan Goldstein is the leading anal health expert in the United States, founder of Future Method, and one of the few surgeons in the world whose practice, Bespoke Surgical, is dedicated to treating and restoring the human butt. He holds a perennial spot on the list of top doctors for the New York metro area and Crain’s New York Business listed him as one of their notable LGBTQ+ leaders and executives. He has been featured in national publications including GQ, Well+Good, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, New York Magazine, Forbes, Fast Company, Out, and Shape; is a popular podcast guest; and in demand as a speaker for both medical and sex-positive industries. His first book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between published in May 2024. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 362: [Soapbox] What “My Love Language Is Touch” Gets Wrong | 05 févr. 2026 | 00:06:07 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on the concept of love languages and their impact on intimate relationships. Zimmerman discusses the common misunderstanding that having 'touch' as a love language equates to a need for sex, and how this misconception can create pressure and resistance in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of exploring various kinds of touch and incorporating all love languages into a satisfying sexual relationship. Listeners are encouraged to visit the podcast's website for show notes and additional episodes, and to rate and review the show on iTunes. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:55 Exploring Love Languages and Touch 02:15 Misconceptions About Love Languages and Sex 02:49 Integrating Love Languages into Sex 03:38 Avoiding Entitlement and Pressure in Relationships 04:37 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 361: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved with Joan Price | 02 févr. 2026 | 00:38:40 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging 02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey 03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss 06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions 11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality 16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection 19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships 21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships 22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice 25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups 28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing 31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers 34:39 Promoting the Book and Final Thoughts Bio: Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/. In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guest Joan Price discusses her book 'Sex After Grief.' Joan shares her personal journey of rekindling her sexual life after the loss of her beloved Robert. She emphasizes the unique timeline every individual experiences in returning to sexual pleasure post-grief and addresses common challenges, such as the misconception of betraying a lost partner, societal judgments, and the importance of clear communication with new partners. Joan also highlights various strategies for rediscovering sexuality, including erotic massage and finding a 'pilot light lover.' She offers actionable advice and sample scripts for coping with external pressures and finding supportive communities. The episode aims to provide valuable insights and hope for those navigating their sexuality after loss. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:47 Welcoming Joan Price: Sex and Aging 02:05 Sex After Grief: Joan's Journey 03:32 Navigating Sexuality After Loss 06:38 Challenges and Misconceptions 11:21 Reconnecting with Sexuality 16:00 Online Dating and Finding Connection 19:25 Navigating Conversations About Future Relationships 21:01 Recognizing Readiness for New Relationships 22:58 Handling External Opinions and Advice 25:14 Addressing Sexuality in Grief Support Groups 28:43 The Role of Erotic Massage in Healing 31:15 Reconnecting with Past Lovers 34:39 Promoting the Book and Final Thoughts Bio: Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She has been called other things by the media: “senior sexpert,” “the woman leading a sex revolution for seniors,” and—her favorite—“wrinkly sex kitten.” Joan is the author of four books about sexuality, including the award-winning and newly updated Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex, recently chosen by the New York Times as one of the eight best books about sex. An internationally popular public speaker and sex educator, Joan, now 82, has been writing and speaking about senior sex since 2005. Find Joan’s books, tips, webinars, and blog—including her sex toy reviews from a senior perspective!—at https://joanprice.com/. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 360: [Soapbox] They put effort into every other problem | 29 janv. 2026 | 00:05:58 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores the common misunderstanding surrounding lower desire partners in relationships. She discusses how a lack of evident effort towards sexual intimacy problems is often misinterpreted as indifference. Jessa explains that it's more about a lack of hope and feeling stuck rather than a lack of care. The episode provides insightful reframing strategies for higher desire partners, emphasizing understanding and teamwork to address intimate relationship challenges. Listeners are encouraged to connect to the idea that change is possible and to approach these issues with optimism and shared goals. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 01:02 Understanding Lower Desire Partners 03:21 The Importance of Hope in Sexual Relationships 04:11 Encouragement and Resources 04:28 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 359: [Personal Story] Working through vaginismus with a surrogate partner | 26 janv. 2026 | 00:40:07 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Junvi Ola, who shares her personal story of overcoming vaginismus, a condition that prevented her from having intercourse until the age of 36. Junvi discusses her journey, which included working with a sex therapist, using dilators, and eventually hiring a surrogate partner. The episode provides insights and inspiration for those facing similar struggles, highlighting the bravery and determination required to break through such challenges. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 01:46 Junvi's Personal Story Begins 02:30 The Impact of Early Experiences 03:42 Struggles with Intimacy and Seeking Help 06:09 Discovering Vaginismus 07:46 Therapy and Overcoming Mental Barriers 14:28 Exploring Sex Surrogacy 19:37 Choosing a Therapist 19:53 The Triad Therapy Experience 20:42 Invitation to Share Your Story 21:11 Overcoming Fear and Dilator Use 22:16 First Steps with the Surrogate Partner 23:18 Sensate Touching and Emotional Challenges 24:22 The Turning Point 25:43 Achieving Penetration 28:25 Focusing on Pleasure and Education 32:03 Reflecting on the Journey 34:07 Normalizing Vaginismus and Surrogate Use 38:02 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 358: [Soapbox] We should be talking about sex | 22 janv. 2026 | 00:07:01 | |
In this soapbox episode of 'The Better Sex Podcast,' sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman emphasizes the importance of talking about sex more openly. Jessa explores the cultural taboo surrounding discussions about sex and how it leads to feelings of isolation and shame. Sharing her personal experiences and observations, she highlights the common struggles couples face and encourages listeners to initiate conversations about sex with their partners and friends. By normalizing these discussions, Jessa argues, people can alleviate feelings of inadequacy and seek the support they need. The episode ends with a challenge for listeners to talk about sex with at least one person in the coming week. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:58 The Taboo of Talking About Sex 01:10 Real-Life Conversations and Observations 02:50 Common Struggles in Sexual Relationships 04:18 Encouragement to Open Up 05:31 Conclusion and Call to Action Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 357: Brain Health and Trauma with Dr. Hector Rodriguez | 19 janv. 2026 | 00:26:53 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by psychiatrist Dr. Hector Rodriguez to discuss the effects of trauma on sexual desire, libido, pleasure, and satisfaction. Dr. Rodriguez shares insights on how trauma can impact intimate relationships and how the brain can be rewired to facilitate healing and enjoyment of sex. He dives into the role of dopamine and oxytocin, the difference in trauma's impact on individuals, and how simple actions like hugging and handholding can promote healing. The episode highlights the importance of understanding and caring for the brain to improve overall sexual wellness. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:52 Guest Introduction: Dr. Hector Rodriguez on Trauma and Sexual Health 01:40 Understanding Trauma and Its Impact on Intimacy 03:44 Brain Patterns and Trauma Responses 05:39 Trauma's Effect on Sexual Wellness 08:52 The Brain's Role in Desire and Intimacy 11:18 Self-Soothing and Healthy Sexual Practices 12:23 Quizzes for Better Intimacy 12:50 Trauma and Self-Soothing Behaviors 13:49 Integrating Dopamine and Life Management 14:59 Addressing Trauma and Brain Health 16:02 Hope and Brain Scan Validation 18:45 Emotional Intelligence and Forgiveness 19:52 Reconnecting Couples Through Simple Gestures 23:00 Understanding the Brain's Complexity 24:18 Resources and Final Thoughts Take any of my quizzes at https://www.intimacywithease.com Bio: Dr. Hector Rodriguez is a psychiatrist, brain expert, and speaker specializing in trauma, brain health, and sexual wellness. With a background in neuroscience, advanced brain imaging, and lifestyle psychiatry, he helps people reframe struggles with intimacy, libido, and confidence through both science and soul. Known for his unapologetic yet compassionate approach, Dr. Hector blends trauma-informed care with practical strategies for resilience, emotional intelligence, and thriving relationships. His core message is simple: you’re not broken — you’re wired to survive, and you can rewire to thrive. Doctor_hector Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 356: [Soapbox] The problem with trying to fix your partner's desire | 15 janv. 2026 | 00:07:08 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman discusses the common issue of differences in sexual desire among couples. She emphasizes the importance of open communication and partnership when addressing this issue, rather than resorting to quick fixes like CBD gummies or sex toys without mutual consent. Jessa explains why these well-intentioned solutions often backfire and are perceived as pressure or blame. Instead, she encourages couples to work together in improving their intimate relationship through shared responsibility and understanding. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:45 Today's Topic: Enhancing Desire in Relationships 01:15 Case Study: Alcohol and Connection 02:09 The Trap of Quick Fixes 02:47 The Importance of Communication 04:10 Working Together as a Team 05:29 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 355: Truly Connecting In This Digital Age with Dr. Jacquie Del Rosario | 12 janv. 2026 | 00:32:15 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Dr. Jacquie Del Rosario about the invasive impact of technology on relationships. They discuss how excessive screen time can weaken intimacy and emotional connections, and how couples can set boundaries to deepen their face-to-face interactions. Dr. Del Rosario shares insights on how technology has altered dating and wooing practices, the importance of intentional communication, and strategies for couples to reconnect. They also touch on the challenges of addressing a partner's technology use and the benefits of seeking professional help to maintain a healthy relationship. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:47 Impact of Technology on Relationships 04:04 Challenges of Modern Dating 07:44 Maintaining Connection in the Digital Age 13:16 Setting Boundaries for Better Intimacy 15:12 The Impact of Technology on Intimacy 15:38 Introduction to Jess and Her Services 16:06 Setting Boundaries with Technology 17:07 The Importance of Face-to-Face Communication 20:08 Using Conversation Cards to Reconnect 22:17 Leveraging Technology Positively 23:26 Addressing Technology Concerns with Your Partner 26:35 The Role of Professional Help in Relationships 29:00 Dr. Jacquie's Trauma Treatment Cohort 30:45 Conclusion and Contact Information Work with Jessa? Visit https://www.intimacywithease.com Bio: Dr. Jacquie’s meteoric rise into the relationship and marriage arena has deemed her America's Marriage Coach™. Her magnetic appeal and practical solutions to relatable issues captivates her audiences worldwide. Dr. Jacquie’s mantra derives from the idea that the foundation of any society starts within an individual’s home. For the past 20 years, Dr. Jacquie has evangelized couples everywhere with her philosophy of the seven pillars of compatibility. She has engineered a host of tools to cultivate healthy relationships and marriage. These tools include: Curricula, The Marriage University, Best Marriage Keys, and created the Compatibility Quiz. In addition to this curricula, Dr. Jacquie hosts conferences and intensive trainings that provide skill-based learning that induces a shift in trajectories. drjacquie.com @askdrjacquie Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 354: The Strategic Keys To Peak Sexual Performance with Mitch Hartwell | 05 janv. 2026 | 00:47:10 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, legendary adult film actor Mitch Hartwell shares his unique insights on male sexual performance. Drawing from his two-decade career in the adult film industry and his expertise in neurolinguistic programming, Mitch discusses the psychological and physical strategies men can utilize to improve their sexual experiences, focusing on control, mindset, and overcoming common issues like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. Mitch emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own anatomy, being strategic in the bedroom, and building self-confidence through incremental success. Listen in for expert advice, practical tips, and an in-depth conversation about navigating and enhancing intimate relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:50 Guest Introduction: Mitch Hartwell 01:56 Mitch's Journey and Expertise 05:27 Understanding Male Performance 11:06 The Three Levels of Sexual Satisfaction 20:58 Belief Systems and Performance 25:31 Recognizing and Utilizing Tools for Change 26:08 The Dangers of 'I Hope' Thinking 26:54 Strategies for Erectile Dysfunction 27:25 Understanding Sensations and Performance Pathways 30:54 Psychological vs. Physical Erections 38:39 Strategies for Premature Ejaculation 39:07 The Five Minute Marker 40:15 Position Strategies for Lasting Longer 43:19 Building Confidence and Avoiding the Doom Loop 44:18 Conclusion and How to Reach Out Desire discrepancy resources are at: https://www.desirediscrepancy.com Bio: Erik Everhard (Mitch Hartwell) is a best-selling author, elite men’s coach, and former top-ranked adult film star who helps men get harder, last longer, and satisfy women faster — by increasing their “SQ” (sexual intelligence). His methods combine tactical psychology, proven techniques, and strategic bedroom positioning — not theory. With over 5,000 real-world sexual encounters and a master-level certification in neuro-linguistic programming, Erik brings a rare, lived perspective that helps men eliminate limiting beliefs, master their performance, and lead with confidence in the bedroom. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 353: [Soapbox] We don't have to decide right now | 01 janv. 2026 | 00:07:15 | |
In this episode of Better Sex, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses a practical strategy for improving communication and collaboration in intimate relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding each other's perspectives and removing the pressure of making immediate decisions. By fostering empathy and seeking a win-win solution, couples can create a more harmonious decision-making process. The episode provides actionable steps on how partners can share their views and reach mutually beneficial outcomes. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:52 Communication Strategy for Couples 01:31 Understanding Each Other's Perspectives 02:33 Collaborative Decision Making 04:11 Seeking Win-Win Solutions 05:45 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 352: Act pregnant now to get pregnant later with Gabriela Rosa | 29 déc. 2025 | 00:40:02 | |
In this episode of Better Sex, host Jess Zimmerman, a sex therapist, speaks with Gabriela Rosa about overcoming difficult fertility challenges. Rosa shares her journey into the field of infertility, which started with a broad interest in nutrition and naturopathy, leading her to specialize in reproductive health. They discuss the impact of minor factors on fertility, the importance of acting pregnant now to get pregnant later, and the role of chronic stress. Rosa also explains her approach to working with patients, diagnosing issues, and collaborating with physicians globally. The episode emphasizes the importance of understanding and addressing underlying health issues and the benefits of proactive care for enhancing fertility. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:50 Guest Introduction: Gabriela Rosa on Fertility Challenges 02:07 Gabriela's Journey into Fertility and Reproductive Health 07:00 Understanding Infertility Trends and Misconceptions 11:01 Act Pregnant Now to Get Pregnant Later 17:21 Lesser-Known Causes of Infertility 21:11 Understanding Homeostasis and Fertility Challenges 22:25 Healthcare Systems and Fertility Treatments 26:05 The Role of Stress in Fertility 30:49 Working with a Fertility Specialist 34:37 Virtual Fertility Clinic Operations 37:17 Getting in Touch and Additional Resources Take my quizzes at: https://www.intimacywithease.com Bio: Gabriela Rosa is a fertility specialist, reproductive health educator, Harvard University-awarded scholar, and an accomplished business leader and entrepreneur. She created the world’s first entirely virtual and holistic fertility clinic. As the founder and CEO of The Rosa Institute, which serves patients across every continent except Antarctica, Gabriela leads a team of holistic specialists. Her treatment methodology is a recognized authority in the industry, identifying and addressing biochemical obstacles to help couples overcome infertility and recurrent miscarriage, even after previous reproductive challenges and failed treatments. Through various programs, Gabriela and her team have educated over 140,000 couples in more than 110 countries. She is also the host of the TalkSex with Gabriela Rosa™ podcast. https://rosa.institute/FertilityChallenge Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 351: [Soapbox] Don't apologize too fast | 25 déc. 2025 | 00:07:36 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the concept of not apologizing too quickly in intimate relationships. She explains why immediate apologies can often miss the mark and how important it is to first listen and empathize with your partner's feelings and experiences before apologizing. Jessa elaborates on why understanding the emotional impact on your partner and providing a space for them to express their hurt is crucial for a sincere apology. She also explores different motivations people have for quick apologies and provides strategies to avoid misunderstandings in the future. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:44 The Importance of Not Apologizing Too Quickly 01:52 Understanding Your Partner's Experience 04:43 The Right Way to Apologize 06:06 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 350: Coming out later in life with Emily Rich | 22 déc. 2025 | 00:36:04 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman is joined by Emily Rich, who shares her personal journey of questioning her sexuality and coming out later in life. Emily discusses the factors that disconnected her from her sexuality, her 'wake-up moment,' and the subsequent process of coming out to herself and others. The conversation explores the intersection of beliefs, upbringing, and self-discovery while highlighting the challenges and rewards of embracing one's true self. Emily also provides valuable resources and advice for those who may be on a similar path, emphasizing the importance of support and professional help. Tune in for an enlightening and supportive discussion that sheds light on the complexities of sexual identity. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:48 Emily Rich's Personal Story Begins 02:00 The Wake-Up Moment 03:52 Navigating Identity and Relationships 05:58 Childhood Influences and Survival Strategies 10:54 Therapy and Self-Discovery 13:23 Coming Out and Relationship Challenges 18:52 Impact on Family and Relationships 20:04 Recognizing and Accepting Yourself 20:09 Coming Out to Others 20:29 The Never-Ending Process of Coming Out 20:55 Support from Unexpected Places 22:10 Sexuality in a Heterosexual Marriage 22:36 Purity Culture and Its Impact 26:00 Realizing True Desire 28:38 Resources for Questioning Sexuality 32:45 Final Thoughts and Contact Information 34:34 Podcast Conclusion Share your personal story on the podcast by emailing us at info@intimacywithease.com Bio: Emily Rich is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and certified Medical Family Therapist based in Seattle, WA. For the last decade, she has supported individuals, couples, and families in healing from trauma, disordered eating, and relationship challenges. Emily is especially passionate about body-based, nervous system-informed approaches, in part because of the impact they’ve had on her own life. Through addressing trauma and reconnecting with her body, she came to understand and embrace her queer identity in adulthood. Today, her personal and professional paths continue to inform one another as she supports others in their own healing and self-discovery. Documentary: 1946 @emilyofftheclock Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 349: [Soapbox] The problem with sensate focus | 18 déc. 2025 | 00:08:37 | |
In this episode of Better Sex, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman critiques the traditional sensate focus technique frequently recommended in sex therapy. She outlines her concerns about its sequential, goal-oriented nature, the problematic idea of doing things to a passive partner, and the lack of emphasis on pleasure. Jessa shares her alternative approach, which focuses on pleasure and connection through exercises where the receiving partner is in control, and highlights the importance of mutual desire and advocacy in intimate relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:44 Critique of Sensate Focus 01:49 Problems with Sensate Focus 04:47 Alternative Approaches to Intimacy 07:07 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 348: Dealing With Rapid Ejaculation with Andre Lazarus | 15 déc. 2025 | 00:31:10 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman is joined by sexual wellness coach Andre Lazarus to discuss rapid ejaculation, formerly known as premature ejaculation. They explore how this condition impacts intimate relationships and offer strategies for managing and extending sexual pleasure. The conversation delves into Andre's background, causes of rapid ejaculation, psychological and physical techniques to address it, and ways partners can support each other. They emphasize the importance of practice, communication, and self-awareness for improving sexual experiences. Andre also highlights the role of solo sex in training and stresses that achieving a fulfilling sex life is possible with the right mindset and tools. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:55 Guest Introduction: Andre Lazarus 03:10 Defining Rapid Ejaculation 09:47 Causes and Psychological Aspects 11:54 Strategies and Techniques 17:01 Solo Practice and Partner Support 25:03 Confidence and Intimacy 28:35 Conclusion and Resources Find out how to work with Jessa: https;//www.intimacywithease.com Bio: Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection. He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national attention, and Andre’s presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect. Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity. While Andre has also taught workshops introducing kink and alternative practices, he situates them within a broader conversation: how people of all backgrounds can embrace intimacy as part of their wellbeing. His message consistently comes back to honesty, communication, and self-awareness as the foundations for connection. Today, Andre balances private coaching, workshops, and a men’s online course on sexual communication with growing media visibility, including the upcoming second season of Virgin Island. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 347: [Soapbox] Are we even watching the same thing? | 11 déc. 2025 | 00:08:23 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman addresses a fascinating question from a coaching call about whether couples receive the same information from the same course. She explains how different interpretations arise due to the brain's filtering and meaning-making processes. She emphasizes the importance of curiosity and communication in bridging these gaps in understanding, using this phenomenon as an opportunity to build empathy and rapport within relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:30 Fascinating Coaching Call Question 01:32 Understanding Different Perspectives 02:27 Neuroscience of Perception 04:03 Interpreting and Challenging Thoughts 05:57 Building Empathy and Rapport 06:19 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 346: Connection and Intimacy after Addiction and Trauma with Vanessa Carlisle | 08 déc. 2025 | 00:40:15 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman engages in a meaningful conversation with Vanessa Carlisle about reclaiming intimacy and pleasure after addiction and trauma. Vanessa discusses her personal and professional experience in navigating violence, trauma, and sex work. They explore the gaps in support for sexual recovery among trauma and addiction survivors, the cultural and systemic challenges in discussing sexuality, and the path to reconnecting with one's body and pleasure. Vanessa emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, sensory pleasure, and effective communication in intimate relationships. The episode also highlights the role of community and support networks in healing and thriving. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:49 Reclaiming Pleasure After Trauma 01:51 Personal and Professional Insights 03:51 Challenges in Recovery and Sexuality 05:53 Impact of Trauma on Sexual Behavior 07:05 Navigating Sobriety and Intimacy 09:09 Sex Work, Substance Use, and Trauma 13:18 Seeking Healing and Integration 18:16 Path to Self-Awareness and Connection 21:06 Taking It Slow: Understanding Your Pace 22:06 Communicating with Your Partner 24:52 Navigating Hookups and Relationships 27:52 The Importance of Self-Care 28:38 Exploring Themes in My Novel 30:27 Vision for a Connected World 36:31 Upcoming Events and Resources 38:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Take my quizzes at https://www.intimacywithease.com Bio: Vanessa Carlisle, PhD, MFA (they/them), is an author, coach, and educator in the fields of gender, sexuality, and trauma. Dr. Carlisle’s lived experience includes over twenty-five years in sex work and fifteen years of advocacy for the sex-working community. As a survivor of both intimate partner and institutional violence, Dr. Carlisle now crafts programs that combat stigma and improve conditions for their communities, including trauma-informed self-defense training, somatic coaching, and end-of-life care services. Along with many essays and articles, Dr. Carlisle authored the award-winning novel Take Me with You about a queer sex worker who must face her grief to be able to build the life she wants. Learn more about them at www.vanessacarlisle.com. vanessacarlisle.com Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 345: Loving the partner we have with Dr. Corey Allan | 01 déc. 2025 | 00:40:53 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes guest Cory Allen to discuss the concept of learning to love the spouse you have, rather than an idealized version of them. They delve into topics such as managing expectations, taking personal responsibility, and the challenges that arise in intimate relationships. Cory emphasizes that love has no strings attached and involves acceptance as well as personal growth. They also discuss the importance of owning one's choices, the stages of relationship evolution, and dealing with significant issues like financial deceit or addiction. This conversation includes practical advice for maintaining love and connection while navigating the complexities of marriage. 00:00 Welcome to Better Sex 00:48 Introducing Corey Allan 01:01 Loving the Spouse You Have 01:43 The Idealized Spouse 04:12 Phases of a Relationship 11:18 The Evolution of Marriage 14:52 Desire Discrepancy Resources 15:18 Sexual Expectations and Realities 17:03 Facing Relationship Challenges 21:26 Savoring Intimacy: Slowing Down for Connection 22:33 Navigating Sexual Differences in Marriage 23:22 Embracing Choices in Relationships 24:06 Personal Growth Through Challenges 25:08 Handling Minor Annoyances with Grace 30:15 Confronting Major Relationship Issues 32:03 The Courage to Love and Grow 37:02 The Evolution of Marriage 37:51 Where to Find More Resources Interested in all my desire discrepancy resources? https://www.desirediscrepancy.com Bio: Corey Allan (if you want to be formal it’s Dr. Corey Allan, but he's usually pretty casual) is a husband, father, author, speaker, as well as a Marriage and Family Therapist with a Ph.D. in Family Therapy. He and his wife Pam host a weekly podcast, Sexy Marriage Radio, where they help frame conversations and actions that help couples create a marriage fully alive. Corey has a practice online and is the founder of SMR, an online resource aimed at helping marriages not just survive, but thrive. Marriage is more about developing character and wisdom as a human than it is about the two people being happy. Love is a process, not just a feeling. It produces action. Added to this, life is choice (so is marriage). Therefore we work to help people: Grow deeper Spiritually Keep it simple Be passionate Live in community with others Enjoy the ride Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 344: [Soapbox] What if I have zero desire for sex? | 27 nov. 2025 | 00:09:46 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on helping partners with low or zero libido. Jessa discusses strategies to uncover obstacles that block desire, such as health issues, trauma, and mental health concerns, and provides methods to unlock potential desire. She highlights the concept of reactive desire and offers practical advice, encouraging solo exploration, use of fantasies, and finding alternative ways to share pleasure and connection with a partner, even one of you have zero desire for sex. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 01:00 Understanding Low Libido 01:31 Identifying Obstacles to Desire 02:01 Unlocking Reactive Desire 04:00 Exploring Solo Pleasure and Fantasy 05:25 Sharing Pleasure with Your Partner 06:37 Acceptance and New Norms 07:27 Final Thoughts and Encouragement 08:16 Closing Remarks Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 343: Sex after Prostate Cancer Treatment with Dr. Jennifer Valli | 24 nov. 2025 | 00:49:54 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman talks with Dr. Jennifer Valli about the impact of prostate cancer and its treatments on sexual health. Dr. Valli shares insights from her personal and professional experiences, emphasizing the lack of information patients often receive about sexual health post-treatment. They discuss the physical and psychological impacts of prostate treatments like prostatectomy and radiation, and the importance of early and consistent penile rehabilitation to maintain and possibly regain sexual function. The episode also delves into practical advice for men and their partners to adapt to changes in their sexual relationships, including tips on dealing with incontinence, changes in orgasm, and how to maintain connection and pleasure. Dr. Valli highlights the importance of communication and exploring new ways to experience intimacy. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:47 Guest Introduction: Dr. Jennifer Valli 01:00 Impact of Prostate Cancer Treatments on Sexual Health 02:24 Challenges Men Face Post-Treatment 05:31 Desire, Arousal, and Orgasm Post-Prostatectomy 08:49 Radiation vs. Prostatectomy: Differences in Impact 16:24 Penile Rehabilitation: Methods and Importance 17:53 Practical Tips for Penile Rehabilitation 23:20 Resources and Support for Men 24:46 Mid-Show Break: How to Get Help 25:16 The Long Road of Rehab 25:32 Awareness and Communication in Prostate Cancer Rehab 26:43 Importance of Early and Consistent Penile Rehab 27:53 Managing Incontinence and Sexual Function 30:28 Psychological Aspects of Sexual Dysfunction 37:54 Partner Support and Communication 47:15 Final Thoughts and Resources www.uandme.com Prelude pump Want to work with Jessa? https://www.intimacywithease.com Bio: Jennifer Valli, PhD, is a seasoned psychotherapist with 30 years of clinical experience in psychiatry. She is a licensed therapist in Tennessee and is nationally certified as a Sex Therapist through AASECT, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, a rigorous credentialing program in sex therapy. A portion of Dr. Valli’s AASECT training was completed with faculty from Johns Hopkins University in the area of paraphilias and fetishes. In 2014, she completed a comprehensive post-graduate program in sex therapy at the University of Michigan. She holds a PhD in Clinical Sexology and, as a lifelong learner, earned a second doctorate from the University of Southern California focused on Macro Social Change, Innovation, and Social Work. Dr. Valli is an Assistant Professor at the University of Tennessee Health Science Center and a proud member of both the Urology and OB-GYN departments. She has delivered national presentations on sex after cancer for the American Society of Breast Surgeons Foundation, SMSNA, and OUTCARE, an organization dedicated to improving the quality of care for medical providers working with LGBTQ+ patients. She is so grateful to be with us today. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 342: [Soapbox] The magic key of empathizing with the lower desire partner | 20 nov. 2025 | 00:11:17 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist and host Jessa Zimmerman explores the critical importance of focusing on the lower desire partner in relationships struggling with mismatched libidos and desire discrepancy. Drawing from real insights from a recent couples coaching call, Jessa reveals why higher desire partners need to shift their perspective and develop deeper empathy and understanding for their lower desire counterparts. This episode is essential listening for any couple dealing with libido differences, sexual desire issues, or intimacy challenges. What You'll Learn: ✅ How to support the low libido partner in your relationship ✅ Effective communication strategies for couples with desire discrepancy ✅ Ways to rebuild trust after sexual tension and conflict ✅ How to create a safe space for vulnerable conversations about sex ✅ Why empathy and patience are crucial for resolving mismatched desire ✅ How to listen to your partner's struggles and pain without rushing to fix everything ✅ Strategies for overcoming sexual tension in long-term relationships ✅ Steps toward achieving a more fulfilling sex life together Perfect for couples experiencing sexual frustration, relationship conflict, or anyone wanting to improve their sexual relationship and intimate connection. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 01:02 The Value of Focusing on the Lower Desire Partner 02:53 Breakthroughs in Communication 06:16 Steps to Reconnect and Understand 09:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement 09:47 Closing Remarks and Call to Action Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 341: Liberating the full orgasm reflex with Rob Kancler | 17 nov. 2025 | 01:25:23 | |
Welcome back to the Better Sex Podcast! In this powerful episode, host Jessa Zimmerman reunites with returning guest Rob Kancler for an in-depth conversation about transforming your intimate life through body-based practices. 🔥 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: ✨ Erotic Circuitry & Sexual Wellness Understanding your unique erotic circuitry and how to activate it Unlocking your full orgasmic potential through body awareness How to cultivate body intelligence for better sex 💨 Breathwork for Intimacy The transformative power of the "Yes Breath" technique Breathing exercises for sexual enhancement Physiological aspects of breathing and their impact on arousal ❤️ Emotional & Physical Connection Emotional self-regulation strategies for intimate relationships How to reconnect with your body for deeper intimacy The crucial role of emotions in sexual experiences and overall well-being This episode is packed with practical tips, actionable strategies, and expert guidance to help you enhance your intimate connections, improve relationship satisfaction, and optimize your personal sexual health. Perfect for anyone looking to: Improve their sex life naturally Strengthen intimate relationships Learn body-based practices for better intimacy Understand the mind-body connection in sexuality Develop emotional intelligence in relationships 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:45 Welcoming Back Rob Kancler 01:47 Exploring Erotic Circuitry 04:32 Understanding Breathwork and Somatics 10:07 The Importance of Emotional Intelligence 11:31 The Role of Cranial Nerves in Emotional and Physical Health 13:24 The Connection Between Emotions and Physical Health 21:33 The Impact of Suppressed Emotions 40:58 Practical Steps to Open Circuitry for Better Sex and Emotional Health 46:12 The Power of Breathing 46:58 Breathing Techniques for Mental Health 48:41 Practical Breathing Exercise 57:01 The Impact of Breathing on Sexual Health 01:00:09 The Role of Emotions in Physical Health 01:03:34 Integrating Breathwork into Daily Life 01:11:20 The Orgasm Reflex and Sexual Potential 01:19:02 Resources and Next Steps Find all the Better Sex special collections at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/collections Bio: Rob Kancler is an artist, athlete, entrepreneur, and modern mystic. He runs Men of Substance™, a sexual mastery program serving men worldwide. His revolutionary work gives all people access to the profound sexual experiences hidden in the most obscure spiritual traditions—radically expanding a conversation most people take for granted and revealing the blind spots about sex that everyone carries but no one sees. The truth is this quietly keeps men and women from the confidence, vitality, love, meaning, and deeper fulfillment available in every part of life. Check him out at robkancler.com, take the free assessment at bedroomcompass.com, or explore the foundational Men of Substance™ program at robkancler.com/blueprint. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 340: [Soapbox] Menopause is a destination.mp3 | 13 nov. 2025 | 00:05:40 | |
In this soapbox episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman addresses the common misconception that menopause is a temporary phase. She explains that menopause is a permanent change, where hormone production reverts to levels similar to those of a young child. Drawing on a conversation with Dr. Irwin Goldstein, she emphasizes the importance of adapting to or treating this change, often through hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Jessa encourages listeners to research, talk to their doctors, and consider the best approach for them and their partners. She also mentions prior episodes featuring experts on the topic of HRT. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:44 Soapbox Episode Introduction 01:00 Understanding Menopause: A Permanent Change 01:50 Insights from Dr. Irwin Goldstein 02:47 Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) Discussion 03:25 Adapting to Menopause 04:10 Conclusion and Further Resources 04:28 Listener Engagement and Support 04:58 Credits and Acknowledgements Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 339: Sexual Emergence - Surprising Twists in our understanding of ourselves with Jess Levith | 10 nov. 2025 | 00:32:40 | |
Jessa Zimmerman, host of Better Sex, welcomes back Jess Levith to discuss 'sexual emergence' – the fluid nature of sexuality and its changes over time. They delve into personal experiences and professional insights, covering the impact of life stages and contexts on sexual identity. Jess Levith explains how her unexpected crush led to a journey of self-discovery and the concept of sexual emergence. They also discuss the application of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and the 'sexaflex' model in understanding and navigating changes in sexuality. This episode aims to inspire listeners to explore and understand their sexual identity through different life contexts. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:46 Guest Introduction: Jess Levith on Sexual Emergence 02:11 Personal Journey and Realization 03:31 Understanding Sexual Emergence 05:30 Sexual Contextualism and Ecosystems 09:58 Exploring Sexual Fluidity 12:26 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) 17:22 Practical Applications of ACT in Sexuality 18:34 Introduction to Sex Therapy 18:48 Deconstructing Sexual Issues 19:37 Exploring Values and Spirituality 21:22 Present Time Awareness and Acceptance 23:05 Sexual Emergence and Midlife Challenges 25:48 Proactive Sexual Exploration 28:59 Writing and Resources 31:10 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Find my new quizzes: For the higher desire partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdpmistake For the lower desire partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldpmistake Bio: Jess Levith is a certified sex therapist through AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists) seeing therapy clients within the state of CA. She teaches at various colleges around the Bay Area and has specialized training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment Focused EMDR, Out of ControlSexual Behaviors (OCSB), and Modern Attachment Theory (interpersonal neurobiology). In the past few years she's taken a deeper dive into buddhist psychology, completing a certificate program at The Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy. Currently she's working on a book that takes a deep dive into ACT and sexual emergence later in life. @jesslevith_cst sexualcontextualism.com east-baytherapy.com Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 338: [Soapbox] The problem with "you're not meeting my needs" | 06 nov. 2025 | 00:08:21 | |
n this episode of The Betters Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on exploring the implications of framing sexual desires as needs within intimate relationships. Jessa discusses the potential problems that arise when individuals feel their sexual needs aren't being met by their partners, and stresses the importance of viewing desires from a mutual perspective. She encourages listeners to reflect on what they truly gain from sex and consider if those desires can be met through other means or in varied ways with their partners, emphasizing collaboration and shared experiences for a more fulfilling relationship. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 01:06 Exploring Sexual Desires as Needs 02:28 Understanding the Pressures on Sex 04:10 Shifting the Focus to Mutual Desires 06:51 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 337: From infidelity to full f&ck yes with Britton and Carolee Beckham | 03 nov. 2025 | 00:37:25 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guests Britton and Carolee share their transformative journey from a strict Mormon upbringing to a deeply connected and sexually fulfilling relationship. They discuss the challenges of infidelity, the lack of support within their church, and the pivotal role of trauma-informed healing practices, including psychedelics and yoga. The couple's story unfolds from dealing with church disciplinary actions to exploring substances like cannabis and mushrooms, leading to profound emotional and sexual healing. They also highlight their decision to leave the church, undertake an 18-month pilgrimage, and engage in extensive self-discovery and spiritual growth. Carlee and Briton's story provides valuable insights into overcoming deep-seated trauma and embracing a life of authenticity and connection. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:50 Meet Carolee Britton: A Journey of Transformation 02:05 Struggles Within the Church 03:58 The Healing Process and Discontent 07:48 Exploring New Paths 14:56 The Role of Psychedelics in Healing 16:46 Mushroom Experience and Church Realization 18:31 Carolee's Healing Journey with Mushrooms 20:40 Transforming Sexual Relationships 23:44 Sexual Reeducation and Moving to Bali 26:32 Raising Children with New Perspectives 28:48 Healing from Infidelity 33:35 Promoting Their Healing Journey Find Jessa's resources for navigating libido mismatch at https://www.desirediscrepancy.com Bio: Britton and Carolee, raised in the strict dogma of the Mormon church, and with infidelity threatening their marriage and family, found themselves at a cliff’s edge. Through a deep commitment to heal, these two left everything they knew to find themselves. Over a period of five years, they rebooted their relationship and traveled the world seeking their truth with four kids in tow. They have emerged on the other side as an embodied and awakened couple with a powerful message to share. @ mystic and witch Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 336: [Soapbox] What makes a healthy sexual relationship | 30 oct. 2025 | 00:14:58 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores what it means to have a healthy sexual relationship. She introduces the six principles of sexual health as identified by the World Health Organization: consent, non-exploitation, honesty, shared values, safety, and pleasure. Jessa delves into each principle, explaining its importance and providing insights on how couples can apply these concepts to strengthen their intimate relationships. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on these principles and consider areas where they can improve to enhance their sexual health and relationship satisfaction. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:48 Defining a Healthy Sexual Relationship 01:56 Principle 1: Consent 04:40 Principle 2: Non-Exploitation 07:01 Principle 3: Honesty 08:25 Principle 4: Shared Values 09:47 Principle 5: Safety 11:08 Principle 6: Pleasure 13:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts 13:28 Closing Remarks and Call to Action Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 335: Rewriting sexual scripts with Lauren Elise Rogers | 27 oct. 2025 | 00:32:05 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Lauren Elise Rogers, a certified holistic sexuality educator and intimacy coach. They discuss the journey from a sex-negative upbringing to crafting a fulfilling and values-aligned sex life. Lauren shares her personal story of overcoming restrictive beliefs rooted in a conservative religious background, through education, therapy, and self-discovery. They explore the concept of sexual scripts and the importance of integrating positive sexual beliefs and values into one's life. The discussion touches on the impact of societal and cultural narratives on sexuality, the role of media, and the significance of writing one's own sexual values mission statement. The episode aims to inspire listeners to rethink and reclaim their sexual identities. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:48 Guest Introduction: Lauren Elise Rogers 02:02 Lauren's Background and Upbringing 03:47 Marriage and Personal Struggles 05:01 Turning Point and Seeking Help 07:33 Rebuilding and New Beginnings 10:48 Professional Journey and Current Work 13:08 Exploring Sexual Scripts and Beliefs 16:20 Exploring Sexual Scripts and Improv 17:32 Revisiting Sexual Beliefs and Values 19:17 Crafting a Sexual Values Mission Statement 21:33 Integrating Sexuality into Everyday Life 25:00 The Role of Erotic Literature 29:14 Connecting and Resources 30:35 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Find my quizzes at https://www.desirediscrepancy.com Bio: Lauren Elise Rogers is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, celebrated for her warm and approachable style. Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain-to-purpose journey. Lauren brings an empathetic and non-judgmental approach, offering practical tools that empower her clients to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection. She is known for creating shame-free spaces, where she invites individuals and couples to navigate complex topics like long-term partnerships, consensual non-monogamy, life transitions, purity culture and LGBTQIA+ issues. www.sexedforyou.com/free consult podcast: The Partnership Podcast. Sex Ed for You @sex_ed_for_you Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 334: [Soapbox] What do you do about the lack of sex in your relationship | 23 oct. 2025 | 00:23:28 | |
In this episode of Better Sex, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, listeners are guided through the complexities behind the lack of sexual intimacy in relationships. Zimmerman discusses the factors that contribute to this issue, such as changes in brain chemistry, desire discrepancies, emotional connection, and life stressors. She provides insight into common feelings, like shame and inadequacy, and offers practical strategies for couples to improve their intimate lives. Emphasis is placed on the importance of addressing relationship problems, rediscovering emotional connection, adapting to changes, and open communication without blame. Professional help is recommended for persistent issues, with advice on seeking certified sex therapists. The episode aims to reassure couples that they are not alone and provide actionable steps to enhance their sexual and emotional bonds. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:57 Understanding the Lack of Sex in Relationships 01:41 Normalizing Sexual Struggles 03:12 Addressing Desire Discrepancies 04:13 Identifying Relationship Strengths 06:13 Common Reasons for Reduced Sexual Activity 13:06 Rebuilding Emotional and Physical Connection 19:43 Seeking Professional Help 21:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 333: Writing about sex to explore your sexuality with Tash Doherty | 20 oct. 2025 | 00:24:47 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes author Tash Doherty to discuss her work on a spicy coming-of-age novel and a sex writing journal. Doherty shares her goal of helping people explore their sexuality and desires through writing while confronting shame. The conversation delves into her personal experiences, creative process, and the impact of sharing intimate stories publicly. The episode also highlights an upcoming Kickstarter for Doherty's journal, aiming to guide individuals in their sexual exploration. Listeners are encouraged to visit her blog and join the project. Overall, the discussion offers insights into the power of writing to deepen one's understanding of sexuality and reduce shame. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:50 Guest Introduction: Tash Doherty 01:41 Tash's Journey in Writing 02:50 Exploring Personal Experiences in Writing 04:30 Challenges and Vulnerabilities in Writing 07:33 The Impact of Writing on Personal Growth 13:23 The Benefits of Sex Journaling 21:38 Kickstarter and Final Thoughts 23:17 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to share your personal story on the podcast? It can be done anonymously. Email us at info@intimacywithease.com Bio: Tash Doherty is a British-Irish-American writer and author. She is the creator of Misseducated, a blog, and podcast on a mission to help the world be shamelessly sexy. She started writing her first novel, These Perfectly Careless Things, when she was 14 years old and self-published the book in September 2023 (finally achieving her childhood dream). These Perfectly Careless Things is a spicy, coming-of-age Young Adult novel set in London. Tash has also gone viral on TikTok for over-sharing her birth control experience. Tash graduated from the Wharton School, University of Pennsylvania, where she studied Business Analytics and Management. In other lives, she worked in analytics at Postmates and Vox Media and still does corporate consulting to pay them pesky bills. She lives in Mexico City. misseducated.substack.com Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 332: [Soapbox] Why do women fake orgasm | 16 oct. 2025 | 00:09:16 | |
Why do women fake orgasm — and what does it really mean for the relationship? In this video, we dive deep into the real reasons women pretend to climax, from avoiding conflict and protecting their partner’s ego to feeling pressure to “perform.” You’ll learn what’s actually happening beneath the surface, why faking it can create emotional distance, and how couples can rebuild honesty, safety, and genuine pleasure in bed. If you’ve ever wondered: Why do women fake orgasm even when they love their partner? What does it say about desire, communication, or compatibility? How can couples start having real, connected sex again? This conversation will help you understand the dynamics at play — and how to shift from performance to true intimacy. Listen now to explore the psychology behind why women fake orgasm, and how both partners can move toward honesty, ease, and real satisfaction. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:56 Why Women Fake Orgasms 03:09 The Cost of Faking Orgasms 04:21 How to Address Faking Orgasms with Your Partner 04:55 A Real-Life Example 06:44 Encouragement for Open Communication 07:46 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 331: Should you take HRT? with Dr. Sarah Daccarett | 13 oct. 2025 | 00:39:33 | |
Should You Take HRT? | Hormone Replacement, Menopause & Perimenopause Explained Are you navigating perimenopause or menopause and wondering, “should I take HRT?” In this video, Dr. Sarah Daccarett and I break down hormone replacement therapy (HRT), how it works, risks, benefits, and who might be a good candidate. We also explore the hormonal shifts during perimenopause and menopause, and ways to manage symptoms naturally (or with medical support). Topics covered include: What HRT is and how it replaces lost estrogen and progesterone Typical symptoms of perimenopause and menopause (hot flashes, low libido, mood swings, vaginal dryness) Pros and cons of taking hormone replacement therapy Different HRT options: bioidentical vs. synthetic, delivery methods (pills, patches, creams) Underlying health factors to consider (heart health, cancer risk, bone density) Signs that HRT may be helpful — and when to avoid it Complementary strategies: diet, lifestyle, herbal supports, stress reduction How to talk to your doctor about HRT and make an informed decision If you're asking, “Is it safe? Will it help me feel like myself again?” — this is the conversation for you. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:51 Guest Introduction: Dr. Sarah Dakkar on Hormone Balance 01:32 Dr. Dakkar's Journey into Hormone Therapy 02:11 Understanding Hormone Imbalances 03:24 Challenges and Misconceptions in Hormone Therapy 05:14 Common Hormone Imbalances and Their Effects 12:21 Environmental and Lifestyle Factors 18:15 Sexual Health and Hormone Imbalances 20:37 The Role of Estrogen in Women's Health 21:56 Challenges Women Face with Medical Professionals 23:04 Effective Hormone Replacement Therapy 25:41 Understanding Individualized Treatment 29:41 Risks and Benefits of HRT 34:45 Product Information and Accessibility 37:03 Conclusion and Resources Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 330: [Soapbox] Can a sexless marriage be happy? | 09 oct. 2025 | 00:09:06 | |
Can a Sexless Marriage Be Happy? | Understanding Low Desire, Intimacy, and Relationship Satisfaction Can a marriage without sex still be a happy one? In this episode, we explore what it really means to be in a sexless marriage—from couples who are mutually content without sex to those where one partner feels lonely, rejected, or frustrated. We’ll look at the common reasons for a sexless marriage, including conflict, emotional distance, mismatched libidos, sexual dysfunction, trauma, menopause, and avoidance patterns that quietly erode connection over time. You’ll learn practical steps to rebuild intimacy, overcome sexual avoidance, and start creating a healthy, fulfilling sexual relationship again. And for those facing a partner who’s unwilling to address the issue, we’ll talk about what it means to choose happiness, fulfillment, and self-respect—whether or not the sexual dynamic ever changes. If you’ve ever wondered whether love can last without sex—or how to bring desire back when it’s faded—this conversation is for you. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:58 Can You Be Happy in a Sexless Marriage? 01:47 Understanding the Causes of a Sexless Marriage 02:27 Addressing Sexual Avoidance and Rebuilding Intimacy 05:26 When One Partner is Unwilling to Work on the Relationship 06:03 Making the Final Decision 07:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 329: Sex Attractant Pheromones with Dr. Winnifred Cutler | 06 oct. 2025 | 00:42:05 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Dr. Winnifred Cutler to discuss her extensive research on pheromones and their impact on human sexuality. Dr. Cutler, a passionate researcher, shares her journey from psychology graduate student to becoming a leading expert in the field of pheromones. The conversation covers the history of pheromones, the different types, and their effects on human attraction, fertility, and romantic behavior. Dr. Cutler also highlights her development of pheromone products and shares testimonials of their impactful use. Tune in to learn about pheromones' scientific basis and their potential to enhance intimate relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast 00:53 Guest Introduction: Dr. Winnifred Cutler 01:53 Dr. Cutler's Journey into Pheromone Research 03:33 Understanding Pheromones 04:54 Types of Pheromones 07:17 Sex Attractant Pheromones 10:57 Developing Pheromone Products 13:32 Testing and Results 18:59 Pheromones for Men 21:37 Chemical Compounds and Romantic Gestures 21:56 Tracking Sexual Behaviors 24:04 Testimonials and Effects of Pheromones 26:32 Natural Production of Pheromones 29:50 Pheromones and Same-Sex Attraction 30:58 Global Reach and Customer Insights 33:57 Impact of Pheromones in Academic Settings 38:48 Athena Institute and Women's Health 40:35 Conclusion and Podcast Information Jessa's desire discrepancy resources can be found at https://www.desirediscrepancy.com Bio: Dr. Winnifred Cutler, B.S. in Psychology cum laude from Ursinus College in 1973, earned her Ph.D. in Biology from the University of Pennsylvania in 1979 followed by postdoctoral work in behavioral endocrinology at Stanford University. In 1985 she co-founded the Women's Wellness Program at the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania. She has published over 50 scientific papers, is co-inventor on 5 patents and author of eight books on women's health translated into 7 languages - including the 2020 (3rd) edition of Love Cycles: The Science of Intimacy chronicling both her discovery of Human Pheromones and development of successful formulas as well as her book, Hormones and Your Health: The Smart Woman's Guide to Hormonal and Alternative Therapies for Menopause with essential information for women over age 35 to achieve their 'personal-best' health. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 328: [Soapbox] Change takes practice | 02 oct. 2025 | 00:07:25 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the crucial role of experiential practice in improving intimate relationships. She underscores the importance of embodying the knowledge gained through communication, challenging myths about sex, and understanding desire. Drawing on her Intimacy With Ease Method, Zimmerman highlights the need for hands-on experiences to truly transform one's sex life. Listeners are provided with valuable resources and are encouraged to actively practice the concepts discussed to achieve meaningful change in their intimate lives. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 01:02 The Importance of Experiential Practice 01:21 The Intimacy with Ease Method 02:55 Practical Exercises and Analogies 03:39 The Giver Receiver Exercise 04:39 The Role of Experiential Learning in Sex Therapy 05:35 Resources and Conclusion Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 327: The role of sex toys in women's sexual trauma recovery with Dr. Holly Wood | 29 sept. 2025 | 00:23:27 | |
Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 326: [Soapbox] How to bring up going to sex therapy | 25 sept. 2025 | 00:06:34 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman addresses the challenging topic of how to approach your partner about going to sex therapy. Drawing from her experience with clients, Jessa provides valuable insights on framing the conversation in a positive light. She emphasizes the importance of mutual cooperation and understanding, and the need to avoid blame or shame when discussing sexual concerns. Jessa offers practical advice on breaking down barriers and seeking professional help to improve intimacy and strengthen relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:51 Discussing Sex Therapy with Your Partner 02:24 Understanding Both Partners' Perspectives 03:43 Approaching the Conversation Positively 05:04 Conclusion and Additional Resources Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 325: Exploring Human Sexual Potential with Rob Kancler | 22 sept. 2025 | 00:59:24 | |
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman is joined by Rob Kancler to discuss the potential for human sexual experience and the steps needed to enhance intimate relationships. Rob shares insights on how individuals often start with the wrong paradigm about sex and offers practical strategies to think differently about sexual fulfillment, connect with partners, and achieve true intimacy. He delves into the importance of downregulating the nervous system, using body intelligence over cognition, and the integration of ancient sexual traditions. The episode also covers practical exercises like 'belly to belly' and other co-regulation techniques that couples can implement to improve their sex lives. Rob emphasizes that sexual mastery can lead to overall personal development, enhancing one's life and relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:50 Exploring Human Sexual Experience with Rob K. 01:20 Rob K.'s Journey and Passion 03:52 Defining Sexual Fulfillment 04:14 Theories on Sexuality and Orgasm 06:21 Masculine and Feminine Sexual Needs 09:39 The Role of Intuition in Sexuality 17:16 Body Intelligence vs. Cognition 26:12 Practical Exercises for Intimacy 30:37 Understanding Sexual Operating Systems 33:01 Unlocking Hidden Potential: Pelvic Work and Sexual Shame 33:56 The Need for Cultural Change in Sexual Health 35:04 Misconceptions About Sexual Exploration 38:18 The Path to Sexual Mastery: Programs and Processes 39:48 The Importance of Integrity and Responsibility in Relationships 42:02 Exploring Masculine Sexual Expression and Group Learning 43:31 Personal Journey and Overcoming Sexual Shame 44:13 The Three Levels of Sexual Mastery Programs 47:33 Final Thoughts and Contact Information 49:18 Practical Exercises for Couples 52:18 The Science of Connection and Entrainment Bio: Rob Kancler is an artist, athlete, entrepreneur, and modern mystic. He runs Men of Substance™, a sexual mastery program serving men worldwide. His revolutionary work gives all people access to the profound sexual experiences hidden in the most obscure spiritual traditions—radically expanding a conversation most people take for granted and revealing the blind spots about sex that everyone carries but no one sees. The truth is this quietly keeps men and women from the confidence, vitality, love, meaning, and deeper fulfillment available in every part of life. Check him out at robkancler.com, take the free assessment at bedroomcompass.com, or explore the foundational Men of Substance™ program at robkancler.com/blueprint. Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||
| 324: [Soapbox] Think of sex like tapas | 18 sept. 2025 | 00:07:07 | |
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the importance of moving away from a goal-oriented, all-or-nothing approach to sex. She explains how this mindset can be a barrier for partners with "reactive" desire, and offers alternative metaphors like viewing sex as a playground or a tapas bar, where the focus is on enjoyment and exploration rather than completion. Jessa emphasizes that this shift can help reduce the pressure and improve intimacy within relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Better Sex 00:49 The All-or-Nothing Approach to Sex 03:36 Changing the Perspective: Metaphors for Better Intimacy 05:37 Conclusion and Listener Engagement Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water. More info and resources: Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass | |||