Betrayal Recovery Radio: The Official Podcast of APSATS – Details, episodes & analysis

Healing a relationship that is impacting by addiction, adultery, and betrayal requires hope. Many couples find themselves feeling hopeless after discovery and struggle to imagining having hope again. Hope is an anchor that keeps us grounded in our values and reality. This empowering discussion will offer tools on how to cultivate hope and build strength amidst the recovery journey.

Andrea Rogers is a board certified life coach and a certified partner coach with APSATS. Andrea is the founder of Fully Alive Coaching, a practice that was birthed out of her own recovery journey from the impact of betrayal. In addition to coaching, Andrea is Brainspotting practitioner, podcast host of "Blow the Whistle", a writer, and a speaker.

She has dedicated her life to helping others "wake up" and experience all that life has to offer. Through her practice, Andrea helps people go on the journey from hurting, to healing, to wholeness. She works with men, women, and couples who desire to move from a life of fear and scarcity to courageous living and abundance.

Andrea has over twenty years of coaching experience and has spent the last ten years committed to helping those in the areas of problematic sexual behavior and betrayal trauma. When she is not coaching clients, Andrea is spending time with four of her favorite humans, also known as her children.

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This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

Cat Etherington is the Director of Recovery for Naked Truth Project, an international ministry opening eyes and freeing lives from the damaging impacts of pornography and other problematic sexual behaviors. Cat is a certified professional life coach and integrative therapist, working with individuals and couples impacted by problematic sexual behavior and betrayal. The first ever European practitioner to be certified by the Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS) Cat now serves on their Board of Directors and delivers their clinical training and has become a vocal and passionate advocate for the experience of betrayed partners. As a betrayed partner herself, Cat will share insights on the topic of shame and healing after betrayal. She will illuminate the ways in which the experience of trauma can make way for post traumatic growth and healing that lead to a solid sense of self and identity, sharing from her own personal story as well as her clinical and coaching experience. She will also suggest some specific tools that help to manage shame and lead towards fierce self compassion. Links: ⁠http://apsats.org⁠ ⁠http://drjakeporter.com⁠ ⁠http://drjakeporter.com/breakingbarriers

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This podcast is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional mental health counseling, therapy, or medical advice. All views and opinions expressed by the hosts, guests, or participants are their own and do not necessarily represent the official views, policies, or positions of APSATS. APSATS does not endorse any specific treatments, interventions, or advice discussed in the podcast. Listeners should seek their own professional guidance for personal health concerns.

In this podcast episode, we explore the Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader Training (BTRL), a customized program designed for professionals within religious and faith-based communities. Our interview with Aviva Kohl and Barbara Steffens uncovers the core of BTRL, focusing on the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model (MPTM). Attendees learn to provide response, assessment, and support to those experiencing betrayal trauma, incorporating faith into their approach. The four-day training, supplemented with mentorship groups, equips participants with the skills needed to serve their religious community, emphasizing empathy and understanding, and enabling various religious organizations, non-profits, and clinicians to address betrayal trauma within their specific faith setting.

Links:

https://www.apsats.org/BetrayalTraumaReligiousLeader

http://www.apsats.org

http://drjakeporter.com

The importance of sex in human relationships, especially with our spouse, is well known to us as a vital element in developing and maintaining a healthy marriage and relationship. Thus, the betrayal from a loved one, related sexual affairs, brings traumatic experiences for many. It would not surprise to say that the relationship between sexual compatibility and marital satisfaction is a universal experience for many couples. However, the impacts of culture in navigating sex in a relationship bring unique challenges in Asian-interracial relationship. US society has a long history of stereotypes toward Asian women. A mail-order bride is one of the good examples. The description of "exotic" and "submissive" Asian women intensifies non-Asian men's unrealistic expectations toward Asian women. The adult/sex industry's spreading influence that commercializes Asian women's sexuality adds to the modern era's complexity. On the contrary, in Eastern cultures, women's sexuality, especially the value of virginity, has been highly valued, not only to an individual but also to the family legacy. Therefore, Western culture's rapid influence that promoting autonomy and individual happiness brings unique challenges to many young Asian women when married after having a sexual relationship with others before their marriage. The terms of Narita Divorce in Japan and Honeymoon Divorce in Korea are good. Thus, Asian women married outside of their ethnic group in the US face multiple challenges to navigate without many resources.   Tonight, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Chun-Shin Taylor, an expert in partner betrayal, who wants to educate us on the nuances and the complexities of working with Asian-Interacial coupleships.

Helping couples heal is an APSATS misssion. Today, Carol the Coach interviews Clinton and Charity Munoz, who  knows how difficult it is to restore the relationship after sexual addiction recovery has been initiated. want to talk about how important individual help is to get first, what their roles are in the restoration process. They believe in the process of rebuilding intimacy and trust after infidelity. Once a couple is getting traction in the healing process, they want to help them understand how they can have a thriving marriage even after infidelity. In the beginning, there are a lot of questions in understanding the role the wife now plays to the husband, aka not an accountability partner, and understanding the role the husband now plays to the wife, aka make her feel safe again. Today, they will share the process of how couples can create a thriving mariage.

Listen as Carol interviews Liza Young on Toxicity. Liza is a therapist with over 15 years of experience in helping  people overcome life's most difficult situations. Liza has developed an online video course called Toxic Free Relationship. This course is designed to help you identify if your relationship is toxic, and what to do about it. She provides videos worksheets, and resources to help guide you to hope and healng.You can find out more about this course at www.lizayoungcounseling.com. You can hear her on her own podcast which is Therapy Extended with Liza Young.

Replay of Carol the Coach talking with Dr. Crystal Hollenbeck talking about helpping couples heal.

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Debby Flanagan who has more than 25 years of ministry experience helping women find healing from sexual and love addiction and trauma. As a survivor, she has a special connection with women who have experienced childhood sexual abuse. Debby works closely with women in recognizing areas of codependency and developing healthy boundaries.Debby is passionate about helping women discover their true identity in our Lord and the joy they experience when they find lifelong healing from shame and trauma.She works for Pure Desire and helps women access recovery tools that will reinforce their relationship with God.

Today, Carol the Coach interviews expert Sarah Morales who is  an expert and teaches courses on "gaslighting." Gaslighting can happen when an addict purposefully denies reality and projects that that there is something wrong with you for believing that there is something wrong wiith him. It can leave you feeling shaky and confused and it can make you doubt yourself. Listen as Sarah shares strategies for rebuking "gaslighting attempts."

Today, Carol the Coach will be interviewing Lyschel Burket who is a certified professional coach who would love to spend some time unpacking a common tool used by couples as they step into the space of healing and rebuilding. The tool is commonly used as a check in tool. Which means they use this tool as guardrails to their time in order to create connection, communication and safety with one another. Many call this tool FANOS - which stands for Feelings, Affirmations, Needs, Ownership and Sobriety/Self Care.  I believe this tool was originally offered by Debra & Mark Laaser with Faithful & True Ministries. It has also been sighted in Stephanie Carnes newest book Courageous Love, A Couples Guide to Conquering Betrayal.