BECOMING UNTRIGGERED – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode, we discuss how childhood trauma impacts relationship intimacy, with a focus on the challenges faced by couples after having kids. We delve into topics such as intimacy after giving birth, the influence of pornography on intimacy, and the effects of early sexual experiences on adult relationships. 

We offer practical advice for new parents on maintaining intimacy and overcoming relationship challenges with the help of inner child work and psychodynamic therapy. This episode serves as a guide for understanding how having kids changes your relationship and provides valuable relationship advice for new parents to ensure a healthy and fulfilling partnership.

00:00 Introduction to Becoming Untriggered

01:09 The Impact of Birth on Intimacy

02:42 Navigating Post-Birth Intimacy Challenges

11:37 The Role of Trauma in Intimate Relationships

22:39 Early Sexual Experiences and Their Effects

26:57 Healing Through Intimacy

29:21 The Role of Pornography in Relationships

33:56 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

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Resources mentioned:

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past 

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching 

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia:

https://www.laviniabrown.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 

📱 Connect with Andrew:

https://www.andrewlynn.net/

https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ 

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed 

In this episode, we delve into surviving early parenthood and the importance of not losing yourself in the process. We discuss how prioritising self-care and being 'selfish' in relationships can prevent resentment and burnout. We also explore the negative effects of people pleasing, the crucial role of inner child work, and how understanding and addressing unprocessed traumas from childhood can help you navigate the challenges of parenthood. Tune in for insights on balancing responsibilities, managing guilt, and supporting each other as co-parents.

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Resources mentioned:

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: ⁠https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past ⁠

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: ⁠https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching ⁠

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: ⁠https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session⁠

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📱 Connect with Lavinia:

⁠https://www.laviniabrown.com/⁠

⁠https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ ⁠

⁠https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/⁠

⁠https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert⁠

📱 Connect with Andrew:

⁠https://www.andrewlynn.net/⁠

⁠https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/⁠

⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer⁠

⁠https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed⁠

In this episode, we delve into the topic of stress in relationships and how to manage it effectively. We discuss the negative effects of stress and how it can manifest in daily life, often due to unprocessed trauma from childhood. By exploring inner child work and inner parenting, we provide practical tools to help you cope with stress, own it, and process it rather than projecting it onto your partner or children. Through our own personal experiences and examples from our clients, we illustrate how to recognise and deal with stress in a healthy way.

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Resources mentioned:

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia:

https://www.laviniabrown.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew:

https://www.andrewlynn.net/

https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

In this episode, we uncover why your kids fighting triggers you and give you practical tools on how to deal with your kids fighting. 

We explore the common challenges faced by parents when their children fight, including sibling rivalry, name-calling, bullying and physical fighting. We delve into how these situations can bring up unprocessed childhood traumas and offer practical tools to help you become the calm, respectful parent you desire to be. We also offer step-by-step guidance on how to process unprocessed emotions, dealing with repressed anger, and maintaining a regulated nervous system even when your children fight. 

Resources mentioned:

Book a 3hr Relationship Recovers session with Lavinia and Andrew - https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past 

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching 

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: ⁠https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session⁠

📱 Connect with Lavinia:

https://www.laviniabrown.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 

📱 Connect with Andrew:

https://www.andrewlynn.net/

https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ 

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we dive deep into the common issues that lead to divorce and discuss how childhood traumas and unprocessed emotions can manifest as conflict in relationships. We also share personal experiences, insights on attachment trauma, and practical tools for reparenting your inner child to foster healthier, more present relationships. Tune in to learn how to navigate conflict in relationship, take responsibility for your emotional needs, and support each other in overcoming unconscious wounds.

Resources mentioned: Book a 3hr Relationship Recovers session with Lavinia and Andrew - https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past 

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching 

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

📱 Connect with Lavinia:

https://www.laviniabrown.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 

📱 Connect with Andrew:

https://www.andrewlynn.net/

https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ 

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed 

Welcome to Becoming Untriggered, the podcast for people who want to be better parents and partners. In each episode, you'll hear stories, practical tools, and strategies related to topics like healing your inner child, emotional regulation, overcoming childhood coping mechanisms, and so much more.

Your hosts, Andrew Lynn and Lavinia Brown bring over 16 years of their own relationship experience and decades of working with both mothers and fathers. Together, they reveal how unconscious childhood trauma can manifest in adulthood, especially when life gets serious and committed relationships and children come on the scene.

Join in fortnightly for practical tools, actionable advice and conversations that empower you to show up as the conscious parent and connected partner you want to be. 

Connect with Andrew at andrewlynn.net and Lavinia at laviniabrown.com.

In this episode, we explore how childhood dynamics and parental influences shape adult relationships and parenting styles. The discussion delves into the effects of volatile and anxious mothers, as well as angry and absent fathers, on your attachment styles and relationship dynamics. Through psychodynamic coaching and inner child healing, we offer insights and healing techniques to address these deeply ingrained patterns and promote healthier family dynamics. Perfect for anyone on a healing journey who wants to understand how their parents can have an impact on their romantic relationships.

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Resources mentioned:

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past 

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching 

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia:

https://www.laviniabrown.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 

📱 Connect with Andrew:

https://www.andrewlynn.net/

https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ 

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed 

In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we discuss the back-to-school season and its impact on both children and parents. We explore how unprocessed childhood trauma can influence parents' reactions and provide practical tips for supporting both your child and inner child through this transition. The conversation explores understanding the inner child, the challenges of parenting, and how to create a supportive environment for both your kids and yourself during the back-to-school transition. Perfect for any parent dealing with back-to-school anxiety and looking for parenting tips.

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Resources mentioned:

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past 

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching 

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia:

https://www.laviniabrown.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ 

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 

📱 Connect with Andrew:

https://www.andrewlynn.net/

https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ 

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed

In this episode of Becoming Untriggered, we discuss the challenges of dealing with children's neediness. We explore the reasons behind why parents may find their children's neediness annoying, the childhood triggers linked to this, and how to overcome these feelings. This episode covers various ways children's neediness manifests, including clinginess, verbal demands, ungratefulness, and unhappiness, offering practical parenting tools and parenting advice to help parents process their emotions and create a more nurturing environment.

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Resources mentioned:

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past 

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching 

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia:

https://www.laviniabrown.com/

https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/ 

https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert/

https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert 

📱 Connect with Andrew:

https://www.andrewlynn.net/

https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads/ 

https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer 

https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed 

Parenting tweens and teens is no easy feat, especially when navigating their rites of passage. Navigating teenage rites of passage can bring up questions like: How do I prepare my child to handle peer pressure around alcohol, drugs, or sex? How can I teach values without sounding authoritarian? In this episode, we address these and more by sharing personal stories, practical strategies, and actionable tips. We reflect on the importance of clearing our own emotional baggage to show up as the best version of ourselves for our kids, and discuss how to differentiate between helpful guidance and unintentional control.

As a parent, you will leave with tools to foster open communication and guide their teens toward a responsible and empowered adulthood. Whether you're dealing with the challenges of social media influences, the allure of risky behavior, or the need to address modern issues like vaping and early relationships, this episode is a must-listen for parents. It’s packed with relatable insights and empowering advice to help you parent with intention, compassion, and confidence.

– Resources mentioned:

Lavinia’s Making Peace with Your Past signature holistic healing programme: https://www.laviniabrown.com/making-peace-with-your-past

Andrew’s 1-1 RESET Coaching Programme: https://www.andrewlynn.net/coaching

Book a Deep Dive Relationship Recovery Session: https://calendly.com/d/ck3y-gzt-kbc/3hr-deep-dive-relationship-recovery-session

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📱 Connect with Lavinia: https://www.laviniabrown.com https://www.instagram.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.facebook.com/the.innerchild.healing.expert https://www.youtube.com/@the.innerchild.healing.expert

📱 Connect with Andrew: https://www.andrewlynn.net/ https://www.instagram.com/life_coach_for_dads https://www.tiktok.com/@modern_day_healer https://www.youtube.com/@traumainformed