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Welcome to the third week of our short series on reconnection. In our first week, we explored practical exercises to ground yourself, and last week, we talked about how reconnecting to your wants, needs, and desires is really an act of reclaiming your power.

This week, I’m talking about how reconnecting to your body and your truth is an act of rebellion, particularly for those of us who come from the African diaspora, live in Black or brown bodies, or function as worker bees in a capitalist system. Historically, systems of capitalism and colonialism were designed to separate us from our bodies, turn us into labor, and make us operate as machines.

When you pause, listen to your physical data, and choose what actually honors your spirit instead of sacrificing yourself to keep the peace, you break that cycle. Reclaiming your sovereignty doesn't require a grand, loud protest. It happens in the quiet, daily moments where you allow yourself to be fully human.

(00:00) - Reconnecting to Yourself: Why It Matters

(01:07) - How Capitalism, Racism, and Colonialism Disconnect Us From Our Bodies

(02:10) - Reconnecting With Your Body as an Act of Rebellion

(03:12) - How Rest Helps You Reclaim Autonomy and Personal Power

(04:15) - You Don’t Have to Earn Rest: Small Ways to Listen to Your Body

(05:36) - Reclaiming Your Desires, Needs, and Boundaries

(06:18) - Honoring Your Ancestors Through Rest and Self-Connection

(06:56) - Why Capitalism Doesn’t Create Equal Autonomy

(07:35) - Do You Need to Quit Your Job to Reclaim Your Life?

(08:11) - Small Acts of Rebellion for Black and Brown Bodies

(09:32) - Everyday Boundaries: Saying No, Resting, and Choosing Yourself

(10:05) - Being Fully Human Is an Act of Rebellion

(10:39) - How to Practice Reconnection This Week

Key Takeaways

• The Historical Disconnect: Systems of capitalism and colonialism were built to disconnect Black and brown people from their bodies and turn human beings into tools for output.
• Reconnection as Rebellion: Reclaiming your time, resting before you're completely exhausted, and listening to your body's needs counteracts systemic exploitation.
• The Power of Small Decisions: Rebellion isn't always grand; it shows up when you say no to things you don't want, ask for job accommodations, or simply refuse to eat the office pizza if you're lactose intolerant.
• Reclaiming Full Humanity: Reconnecting to yourself doesn't take anything away from anyone else; it simply returns you to your inherent sovereignty and power to be fully human.

Resources & Links

Previous Episodes Mentioned:

• Ep 60: Reconnect With Yourself: 3 Simple Ways to Come Back to What Feels Good
• Episode 61: Reconnecting as reclaiming your power

Connect with Asha:

• Threads: Connect and share your reflections @ashawilkersonesq
• Instagram: Follow @ashawilkersonesq
• Join the Weekly Love Notes: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/659871/112719372217222301/share

Offers & Sanctuary:

• RESET: Live Group Experience: https://www.ashasplacelisbon.com/reset
• HELD: 1:1 Lisbon Retreat: https://www.ashasplacelisbon.com/solo-retreat
• Asha’s Place Lisbon: Studio offerings and bodywork: https://www.ashasplacelisbon.com/experiences
  

Welcome back to the second week of our conversations around reconnecting. In the wellness and healing spaces, we hear buzzwords like "reconnect," "go deep," or "tap in" tossed around all the time, without always understanding what they actually mean or how they fit into the bigger picture.

Last week, we talked about reconnecting through play, nostalgic traditions/foods, and writing a letter from your future self to your present self. This week, I’m diving into why reconnecting to yourself matters so deeply. Reconnecting to yourself gives you the superpower you have been looking for in everything else. When you connect to your intuition, your body, your wants, your needs, and your desires, you start making decisions that align with how you actually want to feel today, tomorrow, and five years from now.

(00:00) - Reconnecting and personal power

(01:05) - Intuition, needs, and intentional decisions

(02:24) - Burnout and giving away power

(03:29) - Conscious choices and responsibility

(06:25) - Survival mode and disconnection

(08:37) - Desires as a decision-making filter

(10:33) - Small choices and agency

(11:41) - Personal needs and relationships

(13:55 - Self-reflection and future desires

Key Takeaways

• Beyond the Buzzwords: Words like "tap in" and "reconnect" often lose their meaning when we don't look at why they matter to our overall well-being.

• The True Superpower: Connecting to your intuition, body, wants, needs, and desires is the ultimate superpower you’ve been searching for outside yourself.

• Asking the Right Questions: Taking time to ask yourself What do I want in this moment? What feelings do I want to feel? (powerful, alive, hopeful, loved, adventurous, curious) creates immediate clarity.

• Future-Aligned Decision Making: When you know how you want to feel, you can start making decisions today that align with where you want to be in one, two, or five years.

Resources Mentioned

• Podcast Platforms: Leave a comment/review on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube.
• Threads: Connect directly with Asha on Threads at @ashawilkersonesq.
• Newsletter: Subscribe to Love Notes, Asha's weekly newsletter sharing insights, stories, and opportunities to connect, grow, and heal (link at the bottom of the show notes).

A few weeks ago, I came across a post on Threads that stopped me in my tracks.

A woman wrote, "Somewhere deep within it hurts. Really wish I could get the words out, but it's so heavy to pen down."

What struck me wasn't just what she said. It was who she appeared to be from the outside: successful, accomplished, building a business, encouraging others. And yet beneath all of that, something felt heavy.

It reminded me how many of us are walking around carrying emotions we don't know what to do with.

In this episode, I'm sharing a practical framework for navigating those moments when life feels overwhelming. Not with platitudes or toxic positivity, but with real steps you can take when you're in the trenches.

We'll explore why feeling deeply doesn't mean you're broken, how to identify what your body and nervous system need, and how to use your emotions as information instead of getting lost in the stories they create.

If you've ever felt stuck, heavy, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move through difficult emotions, this conversation is for you.

(00:00) - Navigating Vulnerability on Social Media

(02:52) - Understanding and Normalizing Emotions

(05:45) - Identifying Needs and Seeking Support

(09:00) - Decoding Emotions: Information vs. Story

(12:02) - Practical Steps for Emotional Awareness

(14:55) - Bridging Knowledge and Practice in Emotional Health

Takeaways

✨ You are not broken because you feel deeply.

Heavy emotions are not a sign that something is wrong with you. They are part of being human and provide valuable information about what is happening beneath the surface.

✨ Before you move on, ask yourself what you need.

Instead of rushing to "fix" the feeling, pause and identify what would help you feel supported. Sometimes it's a hug, a conversation, rest, movement, nature, or simply being witnessed.

✨ Co-regulation is not a weakness.

Humans are relational beings. Reaching out for support, connection, or comfort is often exactly what your nervous system needs to return to safety.

✨ Emotions carry information.

Once your nervous system has settled, get curious. Ask yourself what the sensation in your body is trying to communicate rather than immediately reacting to it.

✨ Separate the emotion from the story.

The emotion is the raw experience in your body. The story is the meaning your mind creates around it. Learning the difference can help you respond more intentionally.

✨ You can't always control what you feel, but you can choose how you respond.

When you understand what an emotion is trying to tell you, you gain the power to decide what happens next.

Connect with me on Threads: @ashawilkersonesq

When you’re in a major season of transition, it’s completely natural to feel restless, unsure, and a little bit blind to your next move. But when we look outward for constant validation, we accidentally open the door for other people to build a ceiling over our lives.

Key Takeaways

• External blueprints cannot solve internal transitions: Polling the audience when you are unsure only dilutes your path. You are the only one who has to live inside the life you are actively building.

• Limitations can be born out of love: The people closest to you project their own relationship with fear and safety onto your life. Their desire to protect you shouldn't become a ceiling that limits your expansion.

• Trust how advice lands in your body: If a piece of advice does not land all the way right in your spirit or your body, it will never work out the way it was intended to. Your physical alignment is your compass.

• Be fiercely choosy about who speaks into your life: You do not have to stop loving your family or friends, but you do have to recognize who has the capacity to hold your vision. Your future is worth pouring into, and it deserves protection.

Ubuntu Design

https://ubuntudesign.life/#/

00:00 - Navigating Advice in Times of Transition

05:12 - Understanding Your Own Guidance

10:51 - The Limitations of Well-Meaning Advice

15:10 - Protecting Your Unique Vision

In this episode, I get radically honest about my own four-year transition out of California and full-time legal work. I break down why the people who love you most will often give you advice designed to keep you safe rather than help you grow, how to filter through outside noise, and how to build the muscle required to trust the unique blueprint of your own vision.

Have you ever had a random thought cross your mind, brushed it off, and then later found out it was completely accurate?

You look back and think, Dang it, I should have clocked that. This week at the studio, we are talking about learning how to trust yourself and the decisions you make based on your intuition or your inner knowing. For a long time, I didn't think I was intuitive at all because my style didn't look like my mom's. But the truth is, we are all born with this capability.

Because everything is made of energy, your intuition is simply your ability to perceive information beyond your five physical senses in this 3D world.

In this episode, I break down what the "Claire" senses actually look like in real life, from hearing the voice of wisdom to tasting unexpected memories. I share personal stories of how this plays out in my own life here in Portugal (including a countercultural nudge involving the local police), and I give you three practical, everyday steps to stop gaslighting yourself, dial in your inner knowing, and test the universe for yourself.

(00:00) - Unlocking Intuition: A Personal Journey

(06:05) - Understanding Intuition: The Claire Senses

(11:43) - Trusting Your Intuition: Practical Steps

(17:55) - Asking for Signs: Engaging with the Universe

Key Takeaways

• The Physics of Intuition: Your intuition isn't magic; it’s science. Everything is made of energy, and energy impacts other energy. Intuition is simply perceiving that energy beyond the naked eye.

• The Everyday Nudge: Unless you are in danger, normal everyday intuition is rarely a loud, neon sign. It is incredibly subtle. Learning to trust it means paying attention to the quick, quiet thoughts that drop in.

• Three Steps to Trust Your Knowing: To sharpen your volume, start keeping a log of your inner hits, follow small grocery-store-level nudges, and challenge the universe by asking for a highly specific confirmation sign.

Book Mentioned in this episode:

Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe by Laura Lynne Jackson

• Join the RESET Journey: If you are a busy, burned-out, exhausted Black woman who is tired of feeling like you've done everything right on paper but something is still missing, it's time to come home to yourself. Take a look at our 6-week course or join us for our intimate, two-day RESET Retreat in Lisbon this July 3rd and 4th. [Click Here to Learn More & Enroll]
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People call it a comfort zone all the time.

But what if the thing you’re struggling to leave isn’t actually comfortable?

In this episode, Asha unpacks the difference between what is comfortable and what is simply familiar, and why confusing the two can keep you stuck in jobs, relationships, routines, and identities that no longer fit who you are becoming.

Because the truth is, most people are not staying because they feel good;

they’re staying because they know what to expect.

This conversation moves through nervous systems, survival instincts, language, and the stories we tell ourselves about change. Asha shares personal reflections about chronic back pain, leaving a tenured teaching career in the U.S., moving to Portugal, and what it means to stop choosing discomfort simply because it’s predictable.

If you’ve been circling a decision for months, if something in your life feels heavy, restrictive, or misaligned, if you keep calling it a “comfort zone” even though it doesn’t actually feel good, this episode might help you tell the truth about what’s really happening.

And once you tell the truth, the next step becomes easier to see.

00:00 - Understanding Comfort vs Familiarity

09:58 - Embracing Change and the Unfamiliar

16:56 - Identifying Your Hesitations

• Why your brain mistakes familiarity for safety
• The nervous system’s relationship to change and uncertainty
• How language shapes the choices you believe are available to you
• The hidden exhaustion of staying in lives that no longer fit
• Why unfamiliar doesn’t mean dangerous
• What helped Asha leave a life that looked successful on paper but no longer felt aligned

• Is this situation actually comfortable or just familiar?
• Am I staying because it feels good, or because I know what to expect?
• What might become possible if I stopped treating unfamiliarity like danger?

Resources:

• Join Love Notes, the email for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing: self-trust, nervous system, and coming home to the freedom that's always been yours.
• Learn more about RESET.
• Ask a question in the RESET WhatsApp group.

RESET: A six-week experience for high-achieving Black women who are ready to stop performing and come home to themselves.

Inside RESET, we explore nervous system regulation, ancestral connection, identity shifts, rest, and the space between the life you built and the life you actually want.

If enrollment is currently closed, future cohorts and retreats will still be announced.

In this episode:Questions to sit with after listening:

Burned Out and Stuck: Where Black Women Start Over

You've done everything right. And somehow you're standing at the top of the ladder, wondering why you don't want to climb anymore, or worse, not even knowing what you'd want instead.

That freeze isn't a character flaw. It's not a sign that something's broken in you. It's a signal that your sacral chakra, the part of you that learned what you liked and what lit you up, went quiet a long time ago, somewhere between the degrees and the promotions and the people you were making proud. In this episode, I talk about what it actually means to reignite it, and why clarity doesn't come from thinking harder. It comes from moving.

I also walk through RESET, my six-week program for high-achieving Black women who are stuck in the "in between" and don't quite know where to start. We work through listening to your body, releasing what you inherited that was never yours to carry, and mapping the desires you've been told are too much. It's not about blowing your life up. It's about creating enough space to finally hear yourself.

Chapters:

(00:00) Navigating Uncertainty: Where to Start?(05:41) Where to Start When You Don't Know What Change to Make(06:34) How the HELD Retreat Supports Your Process(07:23) RESET Gets You UnStuck in 6 Weeks(12:32) How RESET Moves You Forward(13:52) Which RESET Option Is Right for You?(15:36) Asha's Move from Burnout to Lisbon

Resources:

• Join Love Notes, the email for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing: self-trust, nervous system, and coming home to the freedom that's always been yours.
• Learn more about RESET.
• Ask a question in the RESET WhatsApp group.

That restlessness, that emptiness you can't quite name, it's not a sign that something went wrong. It's a sign that something is ready to grow.

In this episode:

• What actually happened inside the first round of RESET: the real moments, not the highlight reel
• Why your nervous system resists rest even when you've created the space for it (and the 20-minute practice that starts to change that)
• How following someone else's script creates the exact emptiness you're trying to escape
• Why I lead this container from inside the experience, not above it, and why that makes all the difference
• What lineage healing actually looks like in the small, ordinary moments of your day

Chapters:

• (00:00) Introduction to Reset: A Journey of Reconnection
• (02:05) RESET Is a Guide Back to Yourself
• (03:09) Understanding Discontent: The Emotional Compass
• (06:35) Nervous System Regulation: Creating Spaciousness
• (08:22) The Power of Small Changes: Building Towards Transformation
• (10:51) Transparency in Growth: Learning Together
• (17:03) Invitation to Join Reset: Embracing Freedom and Healing

Links mentioned:

→ Learn more about RESET (a 6-week group or a 2-day retreat) 

→ Join Love Notes

You Hear Your Intuition. You're Just Not Listening.

It's not that your intuition went quiet. It's that you stopped recognizing it as yours.

In this episode:

• Why intuition often shows up like background music: present the whole time, but easy to tune out.
• Two real-life moments where Asha heard her intuition and didn't realize it until later.
• Why going quiet isn't about 30-minute meditations, and where you're actually missing it.
• How to tell the difference between intuition and fear (hint: real intuition usually isn't emotional).
• The practice of trusting what you hear before you understand why.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction - recording live from the streets of Lisbon
• (03:36) What it actually costs you when you miss your intuition
• (06:45) How to start tuning in - step one: be open
• (08:30) Quieting the noise (it's smaller than you think)
• (10:15) Trust it, test it, step out on faith

Links mentioned:

→ RESET - Asha's 6-week program + 2-day retreat option for women ready to hear and act on their intuition

→ Join Love Notes

If this touched something in you, Love Notes was made for you. It's a weekly email for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing; self-trust, nervous system, and coming home to the freedom that's always been yours.

You've Done Everything Right and Still Feel Empty

You've got the credentials, the career, the life that looks excellent on paper, and still, privately, something feels off. This episode is about why thinking harder won't fix that.

In this episode:

• Why your patterns aren't stored in your mind; they're stored in your body, your breath, your posture
• What nervous system regulation actually means for high achievers (it's not bubble baths)
• The difference between understanding why you're stuck and actually being able to move
• Ancestral connection as a resource, and why your ancestors wanted you free, not impressive
• The "between shells" moment: what it means to be in transition and why it's supposed to feel uncomfortable

Timestamps:

• (03:15])Why thinking and talk therapy aren't enough
• (06:45) What nervous system regulation actually means
• (10:30) Ancestral healing and what's yours to carry forward
• (13:00) The hermit crab and the "between shells" identity shift
• (17:00) Three things to start noticing in your body today
• (20:15) RESET: formats, dates, and early bird details

Links mentioned:

• RESET: online, in-person Lisbon, and 2-day retreat formats

• Join Love Notes

You've probably been treating enjoyment like a reward you have to earn.

What if your joy was the work?

In this episode:

• What Asha's intuitive reader training revealed about the healer's actual responsibility: transmission, not transformation
• The professor story: why detaching from the outcome made her a better teacher (and what it freed her from)
• A DJ in Bairro Alto, a dance party of one, and the moment it all clicked
• Why centering your own joy isn't selfish; it's literally how the energy moves
• The question to carry with you this week: where is your enjoyment in the process?

Links mentioned:

• Follow Asha on Instagram → @ashawilkersonesq
• Join Love Notes

If this landed somewhere in you, Love Notes was made for you. It's a weekly email for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something is missing: self-trust, nervous system, coming home to the freedom that's always been yours.

Stop Sending Energy to People Who Don't Deserve It

You don't have to forgive anyone to get your power back. This episode is about something better: neutralizing the hold that people and experiences have on you so you can finally move forward.

In this episode:

• Why this isn't about forgiveness the way you learned it, and what it actually is
• How unresolved energy quietly pulls you away from your goals without you realizing it
• Asha's personal story of carrying self-judgment from a past business failure into her current work
• A real example from her coaching clients, and how holding onto someone else's words can shape your behavior without your permission
• A guided white light visualization to neutralize the energy you're still spending on things that no longer deserve it

Timestamps:

• (00:00) Introduction and the reframe on forgiveness
• (01:50) Asha's personal example — carrying old business wounds
• (04:14) Client stories: proving yourself to people who doubted you
• (05:30) The practice explained
• (07:30) Guided visualization begins
• (13:16) Closing the meditation + how to return to this practice

Links mentioned:

• Join Love Notes
• Connect with Asha on Instagram: @ashawilkersonesq
• Find Asha on Threads

This month, I’m thinking about reconnecting.

I’m spending August back in the United States with my family, and being home has me reflecting on all the ways we can reconnect, not just with others but also with ourselves.

It’s easy to get caught up in doing everything, meeting expectations, showing up where we’re supposed to be, and building the life we thought we wanted. Then we realize that some of it doesn’t feel good anymore.

In this episode, I’m starting with something simple: remembering.

I also discuss the link between play, the chakra system, human development, and intuition. I explain how trying out what feels good can help you rebuild trust in yourself.

It doesn't have to be big or dramatic; it just has to help you reconnect.

(00:00) - How to Reconnect With Yourself

(02:29) - Why Childhood Joy Helps You Feel More Grounded

(03:46) - How Play Supports Emotional Well-Being

(06:24) - Reconnecting With Your Intuition Through Play

(10:20) - Comfort Food, Culture, and Feeling at Home

(12:00) - Creating Rituals That Help You Reconnect

(14:09) - Write a Letter From Your Future Self

(16:55) - Three Simple Practices to Reconnect With Yourself

Key Takeaways

• Beware of the Overfunctioning Trap: It’s easy to perform and meet external expectations while privately feeling empty inside.
• Play as a Somatic Reset: Play brings you back into your body and breaks up the rigid routine of adult responsibilities.
• Grounding in Roots: Tapping into old traditions or foods creates a bridge back to simpler parts of yourself.
• Future Self Guidance: Writing a letter from your future self offers perspective, validation, and a gentle connection to the present.

Resources Mentioned

• Weekly Newsletter (Love Notes): Join Asha's email list for weekly reflections, community updates, and upcoming offers.
• Social Media: Connect with Asha on Threads at @ashawilkersonesq to share your reflections on these exercises.

You're Moving, But Not as Fast As You Want Because One Foot Is Still on the Brake

You can be working toward something with your foot fully on the gas pedal, journaling, and repeating your manifestations daily, and still feel like you're not moving nearly as fast for all the effort you're putting in. Or worse, you're giving it your all and still feel like you're standing still.

The reason is that you have some brake-pedal beliefs that, no matter how hard you press the gas, you will always be in the slow lane. This is what they look like in real life.

In this episode:

• What brake pedal beliefs actually are and why they're so hard to catch. You're still moving, so you don't notice them.
• The go-kart story that made it click: you cannot press the gas and the brake at the same time.
• Real examples from my own life: fear of visibility, holding back in dating, and nearly underselling her house because it felt easier.
• The inner child meditation I've been using to send love to the moments where the fear first started.
• How neutralizing the brake first makes your manifestation land at a completely different level in your body.

Timestamps:

• (00:00) I'm back, and why the podcast went quiet for a year
• (02:20) Opening Asha's Place Lisbon: how it happened in 30 days
• (06:50) The group call that sparked this episode: brake pedal beliefs
• (09:00) Real examples: visibility, dating, and the house in Oregon
• (12:30) The go-kart story
• (15:10) What to do once you notice the brake
• (17:00) The inner child meditation practice I'm using right now
• (21:00) How to put a halt to your own gas pedal beliefs

Links mentioned:

• Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Sedona Healing Arts / Yolesa Lawrince (intuitive reader training)
• Join the email list: Love Notes is for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing. We send multiple emails a week about self-trust, nervous system regulation, and coming home to the freedom that is always yours.

What does it really take to connect with your ancestors?
In this deeply personal episode of Because I’ve Healed, I share the three transformative steps that led me into ancestral connection, freedom, and alignment with my soul’s purpose.

Whether you're just beginning your spiritual journey or seeking clarity on your life path, this story is for you. 💫

Through mindset shifts, energetic awakening, and guided ancestral meditations, I discovered a powerful truth: your ancestors are waiting for you.
You’ll also hear about my group program, Guided, created to support Black women in reclaiming their power, healing lineage wounds, and stepping into their fully expressed selves.

✨ If you’ve felt disconnected or unsure of your next step — let this be your invitation.

Links & Resources

✨ Learn More About Guided → ⁠ashawilkerson.com/guided⁠

✨ Join the My Email List → ⁠ashawilkerson.com/email⁠

Let me know how these tips resonate with you—I’d love to hear your thoughts! And if you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, and share Because I’ve Healed. See you inside the community! 💛✨

Hey, y'all! Welcome back to Because I've Healed! Today, I’m coming to you straight from the streets of Lisbon—literally. No fancy setup, just me sharing from the heart about something a lot of folks have been asking me: How do I create more joy in my life?

Over the past few weeks, I’ve had conversations with people navigating all kinds of challenges—relationship transitions, family struggles, and just feeling stuck. If you’ve ever felt like joy was out of reach or that your energy was low, this episode is for you. I’m sharing personal experiences, insights from my energy classes, and three powerful ways to shift your energy, raise your vibration, and bring more happiness into your life. Plus, I have something special for you at the end—a Joy Activation Challenge designed to help you integrate these practices into your daily life.

Tune in and let’s tap into more joy together!

Links & Resources

✨ Join the 5-Day Joy Activation Challenge → ashawilkerson.com/joy

✅ ✨ Join the My Email List → ashawilkerson.com/email

Let me know how these tips resonate with you—I’d love to hear your thoughts! And if you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, and share Because I’ve Healed. See you inside the community! 💛✨

What does it mean to fully embody your truth? In this episode, I guide you through a powerful meditation to connect with your ancestors and explore the essence of truth. Inspired by a recent ancestral writing class, this practice invites you to listen deeply, feel into your lineage, and uncover the wisdom waiting for you. Truth isn’t about accuracy—it’s about freedom, authenticity, and being seen without masks or filters.

As you move through this meditation, you’ll be encouraged to notice where truth resonates in your body, what messages your ancestors have for you, and what it requires of you moving forward. Whether this is your first time connecting with your lineage or you’ve done this work before, I invite you to sit with these questions and embrace the experience fully.

Links & Resources:📖 Journal your reflections or record a voice note to revisit later.

📩 I’d love to hear about your experience! Leave a comment on the podcast, and let me know what you think!

Also, join my email list to stay connected for more workshops, meditations, and snippets for healing and ancestral connection.

If this meditation resonated with you, please take a moment to rate, review, and share the podcast. Your support helps more people discover these transformative practices. Thank you for listening! 💛

Hey y’all!

I’m coming to you from a little sound booth inside the airport lounge — because when the energy’s right, you just gotta roll with it!

I’m on my way back to Lisbon after a month in the US, and I’m feeling surprisingly joyful. So, in this episode, I’m diving into what it really takes to call more joy into your life.

I’m sharing three simple — but powerful — steps I’ve been using to create more space for joy, connect with what truly lights me up, and release the things that no longer align.

Whether you’re feeling stuck, craving a shift, or just wondering how to bring more fun and fulfillment into your daily life, this one’s for you.

Plus, I’m sharing some personal stories, from my salsa dancing days to the lessons my ancestors have passed down about living in freedom and joy.

Trust me, you deserve to experience a life that feels good. Let’s talk about how to make that happen.

Join my email list for the Joy Activation Challenge: ashawilkerson.com/email

Thanks so much for hanging out with me today! If this episode inspired you, don’t forget to rate, follow, and review Because I’ve Healed. And be sure to share it with someone who’s ready to call more joy into their life. See you next week — love y’all!

In this episode, Asha takes a walk while reflecting on a major personal breakthrough: learning to embrace her inner critic instead of fighting it. She shares insights from an 8-week coaching experience with confidence coach Sylvia Brands (Wrangle Your Inner Critic program) and dives into how radical self-acceptance has been a game-changer in her personal growth journey.

If you've ever struggled with self-doubt, high expectations, or feeling like you're "too much" or "not enough," this episode is for you.

Asha challenges the idea that our inner critic is something to silence and instead explores how listening to and nurturing that voice can lead to greater self-trust, confidence, and alignment.

Key Topics Covered:
🔹 Understanding the Inner Critic – Why we develop it and how it impacts our self-worth
🔹 High Standards vs. Self-Criticism – The fine line between ambition and self-sabotage
🔹 Radical Self-Acceptance – How embracing your sensitivity, fears, and wounds can empower you
🔹 Shifting Mindsets – Moving from "fixing yourself" to truly loving and trusting yourself
🔹 Business & Authenticity – Why Asha is stepping away from social media and choosing long-form content instead

Notable Quotes:
💬 "What if you didn’t treat those parts of yourself like a problem? What if you met them with the same compassion and love that you would have for a child?"
💬 "My sensitivity is my superpower. It makes me a better friend, a better guide, and a better healer."
💬 "You know who you are. The things you think are a problem probably aren't—they're areas where you need more love and acceptance."

Resources & Mentions:
✨ Wrangle Your Inner Critic coaching program by Sylvia Brands
✨ Human Design & Self-Discovery
✨ The power of intuitive decision-making

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In this heartfelt and reflective episode of Because I’ve Healed, Asha takes us on a walk—literally and spiritually—through her journey of ancestral connection and intuitive growth. Fresh from leading a retreat for founders in the Bay Area, she shares the powerful realization that her healed ancestors are propelling her forward with unstoppable energy.

Asha challenges the common belief that ancestral work is only about healing past trauma. Instead, she invites us to tap into the joy, support, and momentum that our ancestors can provide. She shares how this connection has freed her from guilt, helped her embrace a life of ease, and allowed her to fully step into the dreams she once only imagined.

In This Episode, Asha Discusses:
✨ How connecting with healed ancestors can supercharge your life
✨ Releasing guilt and embracing freedom as a first-generation professional
✨ Why ancestral support isn’t just about healing—it’s about thriving
✨ The power of intuition in shaping a joyful, fulfilling life
✨ A thought-provoking question: What kind of joy could you access if you knew your ancestors were fully behind you?

Let’s Continue the Conversation:
Asha wants to hear from you! Reflect on the question and send her a message on Instagram @ashawilkersonesq. How do you connect with your ancestors? What dreams could you manifest with their support?

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Have you ever thought of intuition as a mystical gift that only a select few possess? The truth is, intuition is not a special ability reserved for the chosen ones—it's a natural part of being human. In this episode, I break down the science behind intuition and energy perception, showing you how your body is wired to pick up on the energy around you.

We’ll explore Albert Einstein’s famous equation,E=MC², and how it supports the idea that everything—including you—is made of energy.

I’ll also share my personal journey with intuition—how I learned to trust my inner knowing and how you can do the same.

This episode is for you if you've ever questioned whether your intuition is real or struggled with self-doubt.

I’ll also introduce my12-week group program designed to help you reconnect with your intuition through ancestral healing.

By the end of this episode, you'll understand:
✔️ Why intuition isn’t a gift but an innate ability
✔️ How energy fields influence your emotions, decisions, and interactions
✔️ Ways to "turn up the dial" on your intuition so you can trust yourself more
✔️ How science supports the existence of intuition and energy healing
✔️ Practical steps to develop a deeper connection with your inner wisdom

If you’re at a crossroads in life and looking for clarity, this is your invitation to tap into your natural intuition and move forward with confidence.

• The science behind intuition and energy perception
• UnderstandingE=MC² and how energy and matter are interchangeable
• The role of yourbiofield in sensing energy around you
• How intuition works and why it’s not a mystical gift
• My personal journey in learning to trust my intuition
• How you can strengthen your intuitive abilities
• An introduction to my12-week group program on ancestral healing and intuition

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Have you ever felt a gut feeling, heard a voice of guidance, or just known something deep in your soul—without knowing how you knew? That’s your intuition speaking to you! In this episode of Because I’ve Healed, I break down what intuition really is, how it shows up for you, and how you can start trusting it.

There’s a powerful movement happening, especially among Black and Brown folks, to reconnect with our ancestral wisdom, to trust our inner guidance, and to move away from systems that have conditioned us to doubt ourselves. But how do you actually recognize your intuition? And how do you know if it’s real or just your mind playing tricks on you?

In This Episode, We’ll Cover:
✔️ What intuition actually is and how it works
✔️ The six main Clair senses and how they show up in your life
✔️ Why society teaches us to ignore our intuition—and how to reclaim it
✔️ How to tell the difference between intuition, fear, and overthinking
✔️ Practical steps to strengthen your intuitive gifts
✔️ How intuition connects to ancestral healing

Ready to Develop Your Intuition & Connect With Your Ancestors?
I’m opening the doors to my 12-week group healing program in April, where we’ll:
✨ Strengthen your intuition so you can receive clear messages
✨ Learn to trust yourself and your spiritual guidance
✨ Use breathwork, Reiki, and somatic healing to deepen your practice
✨ Build a supportive community of like-minded seekers

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This meditation session guides listeners through a body scan, focusing on the chakras to promote self-awareness and relaxation.

Use this meditation to practice noticing how your body feels. There's not judgment in this process, just awareness.

Once you take inventory of what you're feeling, you can decide how best to continue your day. Maybe you need a bit of rest, or maybe it's time to create magic!

You'll know immediately after you're done!

Takeaways

• This meditation is about getting in touch with your body.
• Deep breathing helps to relax your muscles.
• Focus on each chakra to notice sensations.
• The throat chakra is for self-expression.
• The solar plexus is where confidence resides.
• The sacral chakra relates to creativity and love.
• Grounding connects us to the earth.
• Energy cycling purifies and renews the body.
• Exhaling gratitude enhances the meditation experience.
• Regular practice helps in self-understanding.

Resources To learn more about the Intuitive ⁠⁠Connection Through Ancestral Healing⁠⁠ group program! ⁠⁠Join Asha's ⁠⁠email list⁠⁠.⁠⁠

Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq

I used to love a good life hack. 

I used to work out more, track my steps, measure my sleep, optimize my schedule, and do the mindset work. I was focused on finding the right strategy to help me reach my goals faster. 

But lately, I’ve realized something: trying to hack the process can actually slow it down. 

I’m working out less now, and my workouts aren’t as intense. I’m making more room in my schedule. When my smartwatch broke on vacation, I didn't rush to replace it. Instead, I found peace in not constantly measuring my sleep, my steps, or my connection to my phone. 

I’m also learning to listen to what my nervous system is really telling me instead of trying to hack my brain or coach myself out of my feelings. 

Maybe the fastest way forward isn’t about finding another shortcut. 

Maybe it’s about facing what’s actually in front of you. 

In this episode, I discuss the power of doing less, why I believe we’re moving away from optimization culture, and what can happen when we stop rushing processes that need time.

(00:00) - How “hacks” used to run life

(01:27) - Old workout culture: maxing out every day

(01:56) - Why fewer workouts are helping more

(02:25) - More isn’t always better for the nervous system

(04:47) - The power of less in commitments and schedules

(05:16) - How the smartwatch became obsessive

(06:13) - Realizing she doesn’t miss the smartwatch

(07:12) - Listening to the nervous system instead of hacking it

(08:06) - Mindset coaching and trying to hack the brain

(09:04) - Faster progress by addressing the real need

(09:33) - Why shortcuts loop you back around

(10:04) - The quickest path is facing obstacles directly

(11:00) - The biscuit analogy for sustainable change

(11:30) - You can’t rush nervous system healing

Key Takeaways

• More isn’t always better. Sometimes, your nervous system needs you to do less.
• Creating more space in your schedule can bring you more peace than adding another commitment.
• Tracking your health isn’t always the same as improving it.
• Constant mindset work can end up blocking the signals your body is sending you.
• The shortcut can turn into a long detour when you need to go back to what you skipped.
• Sustainable change occurs when you work through your process instead of trying to rush it.
• The time it takes is the time it takes, and you’re not wasting time by giving yourself what you truly need.

If you're enjoying the podcast, consider joining my email list where I share all the ways you can connect to community and go deeper with your healing via Love Notes, my weekly newsletter.

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses her journey of self-discovery and healing, emphasizing the importance of connecting with one's intuition and ancestral wisdom.

She reflects on her achievements, the challenges of leaving a secure career, and the significance of recognizing the life one has created.

Asha invites listeners to join her group program focused on intuitive connection and ancestral healing, encouraging them to explore their own paths to freedom and fulfillment.

Takeaways

• I felt like my life was boring, but it was not.
• I realized that I am living the life I prayed for.
• Connecting to intuition helps in making aligned decisions.
• Leaving a secure job was a journey of intentionality.
• My ancestors want me to be free, not restricted.
• Rest is often seen as laziness in our culture.
• Connecting with ancestors opens doors to wisdom.
• The journey of healing is also about understanding lineage.
• Intuition is key for women of color in decision-making.
• Ancestral healing can help heal generational patterns.

Resources To learn more about the Intuitive ⁠Connection Through Ancestral Healing⁠ group program! ⁠⁠Join Asha's ⁠email list⁠.⁠⁠

Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq

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Are you curious about energy healing but hesitant to dive in? Maybe you’re skeptical, unsure how it works, or worried it conflicts with your faith. Or perhaps you’ve been seeking a way to connect more deeply with your intuition and ancestors but don’t know where to start.

This webinar is for you.

Join us for Energy Healing Explained for the Skeptics, the Saints, and the Seekers, where you’ll discover how energy healing can help you step into your power as an Intuitive Woman—a woman who:

• Trusts her inner wisdom and intuition as a powerful guide.

• Feels deeply connected to her ancestors, higher self, and divine purpose.

• Walks confidently in alignment with her calling, free from fear or second-guessing.

Here’s what we’ll cover:

• The Science of Energy Healing: Learn how energy moves through the body and how it connects to emotions, intuition, and healing.

• Energy in Faith and Ritual: Discover the connections between energy healing and practices like prayer, laying on of hands, and ancestral reverence.

• How to Become More Intuitive: Explore how energy healing strengthens your connection to your intuition and helps you reclaim spiritual practices that empower you.

Whether you’re skeptical, curious, or ready for transformation, this webinar offers the clarity and tools to help you begin your journey.

Resources

• To learn more about the group program, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ashawilkerson.com/group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠a discovery call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhatsApp group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode, Asha introduces a new group program focused on reconnecting with intuition through ancestral healing.

She discusses the importance of intuitive connection, the impact of technology on our ancestral practices, and the significance of trusting one's intuition.

Asha outlines the structure of the 12-week program, emphasizing community engagement, personal growth, and the integration of energy practices.

She also addresses pricing and accessibility, inviting listeners to join her on this transformative journey.

Takeaways

• The new program focuses on intuitive connection through ancestral healing.
• Intuition is innate and encoded in our DNA.
• Technology has distanced us from our ancestral practices.
• Reconnecting with ancestors can enhance our intuitive abilities.
• Trusting intuition requires practice and testing.
• The program includes workshops, breathwork, and community support.
• Participants will receive journal prompts and reflection questions.
• Asha emphasizes the importance of co-creating with ancestors.
• The program aims to empower women to trust their intuition.

Resources

• To learn more about the group program, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ashawilkerson.com/group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠a discovery call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhatsApp group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode, Asha introduces her new webinar titled, "Energy Healing Explained for the Skeptics, the Saints, and the Seekers.'"

She shares her personal journey into energy healing and ancestral connection, emphasizing the importance of understanding the science behind spiritual practices.

Asha invites listeners to join her webinar, where she will explore the connections between energy healing, intuition, and personal empowerment, aiming to help participants become more intuitive and confident in their spiritual practices.

Takeaways

• Asha created a webinar to help people understand energy healing.
• Her journey into energy healing began with a curiosity about spirituality.
• All religions share common principles aimed at connecting to a higher power.
• Music influences our energy and mood significantly.
• The pandemic provided an opportunity to explore intuition and energy healing.
• Science and spirituality can coexist and support each other.
• Understanding the logic behind practices can make them feel safer to engage in.
• The webinar is designed for skeptics, the churched, and seekers.
• Participants will learn how to harness their intuition for empowered decisions.
• Asha aims to help women reconnect with their intuition and ancestors.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠a discovery call⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WhatsApp group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the journey of healing and self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of finding inner peace and trusting oneself.

She reflects on lessons learned from her mother about true happiness coming from within and shares her personal experiences of navigating life decisions while leaning into intuition.

Asha encourages listeners to shed external expectations and opinions to embrace their authentic selves, ultimately leading to profound peace and fulfillment.

Takeaways

• True peace and happiness come from within.
• Trusting yourself is essential for making the right decisions.
• The process of self-discovery is ongoing and transformative.
• Shed the expectations and opinions of others to find your path.
• Embrace your desires and trust that they are valid.
• It's not about the destination, but the journey of self-alignment.
• Learning to trust your intuition can lead to peace.
• Recognizing past advice can help in the present, but it's okay to let go.
• The way you show up in relationships matters more than the outcome.
• Finding inner peace opens up new possibilities in life.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for ⁠⁠⁠⁠a discovery call⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list ⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the ⁠⁠⁠⁠WhatsApp group⁠⁠⁠⁠ for the African Diaspora⁠

Summary

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the struggles faced by black women in achieving success and the exhaustion that comes from societal expectations.

She shares her personal journey from being a successful attorney to becoming a healing-focused life coach, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with one's intuition and the power of healing.

Asha offers her coaching services to help others navigate their own healing journeys and encourages listeners to embrace their strength and individuality.

Takeaways

• Many black women feel they have done everything right but still face barriers.
• Success is often defined by societal expectations rather than personal fulfillment.
• Burnout is a common experience among high-achieving women.
• Reconnecting with one's intuition is crucial for personal growth.
• The American dream may not align with individual desires.
• Healing is a journey that requires time and self-reflection.
• Coaching can provide guidance and support in the healing process.
• It's important to let go of external expectations and define success for oneself.
• Empowerment comes from recognizing one's own strength and worth.
• Creating a life you love is possible through healing and self-discovery.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠⁠⁠⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for ⁠⁠⁠a discovery call⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list ⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the ⁠⁠⁠WhatsApp group⁠⁠⁠ for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson shares insights from her first ancestral healing group experience.

She discusses the lessons learned about the messages from ancestors, the importance of community and witnessing, and the balance between looking back at trauma and looking forward to envision a brighter future.

Asha emphasizes the power of healing and personal growth, inviting listeners to consider one-on-one sessions for deeper connection and transformation.

Takeaways

• The messages from our ancestors often contain strength and empowerment, not just trauma.
• Witnessing others in their healing journey can provide validation and community support.
• Healing involves both releasing the past and envisioning the future.
• Engaging in community can help normalize personal struggles and foster connection.
• Ancestral healing can reveal gifts and desires from our ancestors for our future.
• Creating space for conversations with our ancestors to receive their messages is essential.
• Healing is a personal journey, but shared experiences with others also enrich it.
• The process of healing can lead to profound personal insights and transformations.
• One-on-one healing sessions can provide tailored support and guidance for individual needs.
• The journey of healing is ongoing and can lead to living a life without regrets.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠⁠⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠⁠⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for ⁠⁠a discovery call⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list ⁠⁠here⁠⁠.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the ⁠⁠WhatsApp group⁠⁠ for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode of 'Because I've Healed,' Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of breaking free from limiting beliefs and embracing discomfort as a catalyst for personal growth.

She emphasizes the need for self-comparison, encouraging listeners to evaluate their current situations against their potential for happiness and fulfillment.

Asha shares personal anecdotes and insights on the journey of self-discovery, urging listeners to reconnect with themselves and trust their intuition in making life decisions. The episode serves as a powerful reminder that healing and self-empowerment are essential for creating a life aligned with one's true desires.

Key Points

• You have the power to create a better life for yourself.
• Self-comparison should focus on your own potential, not others.
• Discomfort in your current situation is a sign to make a change.
• Trust your intuition when making life decisions.
• Healing is a journey that requires self-reflection and courage.
• You deserve to live a life that aligns with your true self.
• Embrace the uncertainty of change as a path to growth.
• Reconnecting with yourself is essential for personal fulfillment.
• Kids do not solve relationship problems; they can complicate them.
• The work of healing is challenging but ultimately rewarding.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for ⁠a discovery call⁠.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list ⁠here⁠.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the ⁠WhatsApp group⁠ for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of trusting one's intuition and shares personal experiences that highlight the journey of reconnecting with inner guidance.

She emphasizes the need for self-trust, especially for women of color, and offers practical steps to strengthen the relationship with one's intuition. Asha invites listeners to explore their own intuitive abilities and the significance of listening to their inner voice in decision-making.

Key Points

• Trusting your intuition is crucial for personal growth.
• Childhood experiences can disconnect us from our intuition.
• Intuition often feels like a gut feeling or inner knowing.
• Past experiences can shape our relationship with intuition.
• Reconnecting with intuition can lead to better decision-making.
• Astrology and psychic readings can help confirm intuitive feelings.
• Somatic practices like breathwork can enhance body awareness.
• Testing your intuition can build confidence in your inner voice.
• Self-trust is essential for navigating societal expectations.
• The journey of self-discovery is challenging but rewarding.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠

Asha Wilkerson discusses the journey of healing and self-discovery, particularly for Black women. She reflects on the impact of childhood expectations and societal rules that often confine individuals, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with oneself and one's ancestry.

Asha shares practical steps for self-discovery, including journaling and questioning societal norms, and highlights her personal transformation through intuitive practices.

Takeaways

• Healing begins with breaking free from societal expectations.
• Childhood rules can become cages in adulthood.
• Reconnecting with oneself is essential for true freedom.
• Journaling can unlock creativity and self-awareness.
• Questioning societal norms is a step towards self-discovery.
• Ancestral practices can guide personal healing.
• Intuitive readings can enhance self-trust and decision-making.
• Personal transformation is a gradual and internal process.
• Empowerment comes from understanding one's own needs.
• The journey of healing is worth the effort.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠
• Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠

Everyone is talking about nervous system regulation, but what does that actually mean?

In this episode, I wanted to take the mystery out of one of the biggest wellness buzzwords and explain it in a way that's practical, not overly scientific, and not something that only therapists or coaches can understand.

Your nervous system isn't working against you. It's doing exactly what it was designed to do: keep you safe.

The challenge is that your brain doesn't always know the difference between what's dangerous and what's simply unfamiliar. That means the very things you want most: a new career, healthier relationships, starting a business, traveling, resting, even choosing yourself, can feel unsafe simply because they're new.

I share why your body responds this way, how your childhood experiences shape your nervous system's capacity, and why pushing through discomfort often isn't the answer.

Throughout the episode, I also walk through personal examples from my own life, including struggling with sleep, regulating my nervous system with an episode of Law & Order, navigating the demands of hosting co-working, and completely rethinking how I launch my business so it actually feels peaceful instead of overwhelming.

At the heart of it all is one simple practice:

Learning how to listen to your body.

Because maybe nervous system regulation isn't really about regulating anything at all.

Maybe it's simply about paying attention.

(00:00) Nervous System Regulation

(01:06) How Your Nervous System Keeps You Safe

(04:32) Fear of Travel & Feeling Safe

(05:52) How to Regulate in the Moment

(09:18) What Does Dysregulated Mean?

(10:23) Sleep, Stress & Nervous System Recovery

(14:20) There’s No “Right” Way to Regulate

(17:40) Overwhelm, Capacity & Asking for Support

(19:53) Body Listening & Emotional Awareness

(20:59) Business Anxiety & Nervous System Capacity

(23:07) Authentic Marketing Without Pressure

(26:49) Growing Your Capacity Without Burnout

In this episode, I discuss:

• What your nervous system actually is
• Why unfamiliar experiences feel dangerous
• How childhood experiences shape your safety threshold
• The difference between being dysregulated and simply having emotions
• Why recovery, not perfection, is the sign of a healthy nervous system
• Practical questions to ask yourself when anxiety or discomfort shows up
• Why "pushing through" isn't always the healthiest response
• How I redesigned my business to work with my nervous system instead of against it
• Why listening to your body may be the greatest form of self-trust

Resources:

Find me on Threads: @ashawilkersonesq

If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Leave a review, share it with someone who needs it, or send me a message on Threads. 

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the concept of the shadow side and the importance of shadow work. She defines the shadow as the part of us that reacts instead of responds and explains that our shadows develop in childhood when we are told certain parts of ourselves are bad or unlovable.

Asha emphasizes that shadows are not inherently bad but need attention and acceptance. She provides three steps for doing shadow work: identifying your shadows, accepting them compassionately, and tending to them.

Key Points

• The shadow is the part of us that reacts instead of responds, and it develops in childhood when we are told certain parts of ourselves are bad or unlovable.
• Shadows are not inherently bad, but rather need attention and acceptance.
• Shadow work involves identifying your shadows, accepting them with compassion, and tending to them.
• By doing shadow work, you can become less reactive, stop people-pleasing, and learn to love and accept yourself.

Join the Group Healing Container!

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson explores the question of whether we love ourselves enough to give ourselves everything we've ever wanted. She discusses the discomfort many of us feel when asked what we want and the societal conditioning that prioritizes meeting our needs over pursuing our wants.

Asha emphasizes the importance of valuing ourselves and believing that we deserve what we want. She encourages listeners to journal and explore their desires while addressing any doubts or beliefs holding them back.

Takeaways

• We often prioritize meeting our needs over pursuing our wants and desires.
• It is important to value ourselves and believe that we deserve what we want.
• Healing involves dismantling old beliefs and creating new ones that support our desires.
• Journaling can help us explore our wants and uncover any doubts or limiting beliefs.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar and have your questions answered.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson shares her personal journey of healing and overcoming generational trauma.

She discusses the fear of failure and the pressure to be perfect that she inherited from her family history as a Black woman in America. Asha explores the impact of these beliefs on her business and personal life and how she is working to heal and let go of these expectations.

She also introduces her four-week Ancestral Healing Deep Dive program and explains how it can help others heal from their own family lineage.

Learn more about the 4-week Ancestral Healing Container.

Takeaways

• Generational trauma and beliefs can have a significant impact on our lives and hold us back from reaching our full potential.
• Identifying the origins of our fears and expectations can help us understand and heal from them.
• Healing is a continuous journey, and it's important to be kind and compassionate to ourselves along the way.
• Ancestral healing can provide a powerful framework for healing and releasing the burdens of the past.

Resources

To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!

Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠⁠

⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠

Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠

⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson introduces a new group container for ancestral healing. She explains that ancestral healing is about identifying and releasing the rules, admonitions, and trauma passed down from generation to generation. It is also about tapping into the joy, love, and positive emotions that our ancestors want for us.

Asha addresses common questions about ancestral healing, such as what it is, how to engage in it if you don't know your ancestors, and whether it is all about trauma. She also shares personal stories and examples to illustrate the importance of ancestral healing.

Asha then provides details about the four-week ancestral healing container she is offering, which includes breathwork sessions, support via a WhatsApp group, journal prompts, and individual tarot readings. She encourages listeners to join the container and emphasizes the significance of experiencing joy and living a life that makes us happy.

Key Points

• Ancestral healing involves identifying and releasing the rules, admonitions, and trauma passed down from generation to generation.
• It is important to tap into the joy, love, and positive emotions that our ancestors want for us.
• Ancestral healing is not just about trauma; it is also about experiencing joy and living a life that makes us happy.
• Engaging in ancestral healing is possible even if you don't know your specific ancestral lineage.
• Living ancestors, such as parents, can also be part of the ancestral healing process.
• Asha is offering a four-week ancestral healing container that includes breathwork sessions, support via a WhatsApp group, journal prompts, and individual tarot readings.

Chapters

(00:00) Introduction to the Ancestral Healing Container

(02:35) What Is Ancestral Healing?

(07:31) You Don't Need to Know Exactly Who Your Ancestors Were

(14:08) Ancestral Healing Isn't All About Trauma

(17:55) The 4-Week Ancestral Healing Deep Dive

Resources

• Join the Ancestral Healing Deep Dive!
• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠

Retreats are not just for privileged white women or those who are already healed. They are for people in the process of healing.

Retreats help individuals learn new skills and perspectives, provide safe spaces to share experiences, and allow for rest and self-care. They offer opportunities for personal growth and community building.

Retreats are not about being fixed, but about developing new skills and practicing them in daily life. It is important to prioritize self-care and mental health, especially for black and brown women who are often expected to prioritize the needs of others.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking personal growth, looking to expand their perspectives, or in need of a restorative retreat experience. Discover how retreats can be transformative spaces for healing, regardless of where you are in your journey.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ashawilkerson.com!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠
• ⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠
• Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of creating space in your life to consider your options and make changes.

She shares three tips: listening to your body, scripting your desired reality, and adding time for Reiki and breathwork. By creating this space, you can make small changes that align with your dreams and start living a life that is more fulfilling.

Asha also shares her personal journey of creating space and how it has transformed her life.

Takeaways

• Create space in your life to consider your options and make changes.
• Listen to your body and pay attention to the feedback it gives you.
• Script your desired reality in the present tense to give your brain something to work towards.
• Add time for Reiki and breathwork to your calendar to relax and allow your subconscious to work towards your goals.
• Sign up for personalized coaching to create space to consider the possibilities and to take action on your dreams.

Chapters

(00:00) Create Space to Live Your Dream Life Now

(03:26) Listen to Your Body for Guidance

(06:33) Script Your Desired Reality

(08:52) Add Time for Reiki and Breath Work

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ashawilkerson.com!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠
• ⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠
• Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora

Summary

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson does a tarot card pull to provide guidance and direction for the week ahead.

She pulls cards such as the Nine of Coins, Seven of Coins, Three of Knives, Two of Knives, Ace of Wands reversed, and Three of Coins reversed.

The cards represent abundance, manifestation, emotional healing, decision-making, collaboration, and alignment.

Asha encourages listeners to trust their intuition, process emotional pain, make aligned decisions, and create a life that works for them.

Takeaways

• Trust your intuition and create a life that works for you
• Process and let go of emotional pain to move forward
• Be patient and gather information before making decisions
• Collaborate with others and align your projects with your goals

Chapters

(00:00) Introduction and Tarot Card Reading

(02:23) Chapter 1: Nine of Coins

(05:05) Chapter 2: Seven of Coins

(06:42) Chapter 3: The Three of Knives

(09:26) Chapter 4: Two of Knives

(11:33) Chapter 5: Ace of Wands

(13:27) Chapter 6: Three of Coins

(15:23) Chapter 7: Reading Recap

(21:17) Chapter 8: Invitation to Follow Up for More Information

(22:01) Chapter 9: Learn How I Can Help You Through One-On-One Coaching

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ashawilkerson.com!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠ ⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠
• ⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of recognizing when it's time to make a change in your environment. She highlights three situations that indicate a need for change: toxic relationships and environments, feeling stagnant or lacking opportunities, and feeling culturally or socially misaligned.

Asha emphasizes the impact of toxic environments on one's energy and mental health and the benefits of changing your environment, such as increased motivation, creativity, and expanded perspectives.

She encourages listeners to prioritize their wants and needs, build a supportive network, and consider her coaching program for guidance in making a change.

Takeaways

• Recognize when toxic relationships and environments are draining your energy and hindering your growth.
• If you feel stagnant or lack opportunities for advancement or personal development, it may be time to make a change.
• Feeling culturally or socially misaligned can be a sign that you need to find an environment that aligns with your values and identity.
• Changing your environment can increase motivation and creativity, improve mental health, and expand horizons.
• Prioritize your wants and needs, and surround yourself with a supportive network.
• Consider Asha Wilkerson's coaching program for guidance in making a change and prioritizing yourself.

Chapters

(00:00) Recognizing When It's Time to Make a Change

(03:09) Toxic Relationships and Environments

(09:41) Feeling Stagnant or Lacking Opportunities

(13:02) Cultural and Social Misalignment

(27:16) Prioritizing Your Happiness

(28:02) Introduction and Conclusion

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠ ⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠⁠

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of knowing what you want and how it can lead to personal growth and success.

She shares two client success stories where tapping into their desires helped them overcome challenges in their relationships and career choices.

Asha emphasizes the need to expand our vision and believe our dreams are attainable. She invites listeners to book a coaching call with her to explore their innermost desires and create a plan to achieve their dream life.

Takeaways

• Knowing what you want is essential for personal growth and success.
• Tapping into your desires can help overcome challenges in relationships and career choices.
• Expanding your vision and believing in the attainability of your dreams is crucial.
• Booking a coaching call can help you explore your innermost desires and create a plan to achieve your dream life.

Chapters

(00:00) The Power of Knowing What You Want

(05:09) Expanding Your Vision for a Dream Life

(09:57) Asking Yourself What You Want

Learn more about Asha's Ghana retreat here.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠ ⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠⁠

In this workshop recording, Asha Wilkerson discusses how to make big moves for the life of your dreams. She emphasizes the importance of knowing your desires and taking action to achieve them.

Asha also highlights the signs that indicate something is not right in your current situation and the need for change. She leads a guided visualization exercise to help participants envision their dream lives and encourages them to take steps towards it.

Asha offers a six-week one-on-one coaching program to support individuals in living their ideal lives.

Takeaways

• Know your desires and take action to achieve them;
• Recognize the signs that indicate something is not right in your current situation;
• Envision your dream life and take steps toward it; and
• Consider joining Asha's six-week one-on-one coaching program for support.

Chapters

(00:00) Introduction and Workshop Overview

(07:05) Recognizing Signs and Symptoms

(13:11) The Importance of Emotional Awareness

(15:28) Dream Life Meditation and Visualization

(41:23) Supporting Your Journey with Coaching

To learn more about starting your healing journey with me, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠! 

Resources

• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠ ⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠⁠

For a long time, I believed I needed to know exactly how everything would unfold before I could make a big decision.

As an attorney, professor, and lifelong planner, I was used to having a roadmap. But when I left my tenured position, my apartment, and the life I had built in California to move to Portugal, I didn't have one.

I only knew the next right step.

In this episode, I'm sharing why that decision became one of the most important lessons of my life. Recording from Porto before speaking at the Our Rich Journey FIRE Conference, I reflect on what it means to trust yourself before you have all the answers, why nervous system regulation matters more than the perfect plan, and how peace became the foundation for every decision I make.

I also share why I'm choosing to sell a property that once represented freedom, and how I realized that what once aligned with my values no longer supported the life I'm building today.

If you're standing between the life you've built and the life that's calling you, I hope this conversation reminds you that you don't need to know the entire staircase.

You only need enough courage to take the next right step.

00:00 - Embracing Life Transitions

02:35 - The Journey to Portugal and New Beginnings

05:24 - Finding Peace in Financial Independence

08:40 - Aligning Actions with Inner Peace

11:26 - Reevaluating Life Choices for Peace

14:19 - Taking the Next Right Step

Key Takeaways

• You don't need the entire plan before you begin.

• Peace is not something you earn after reaching your goals—it can become the strategy that guides your decisions today.

• A regulated nervous system helps you recognize what is truly aligned for you.

• Your values may change, and your decisions can change with them.

• Every aligned step reveals possibilities you couldn't have seen before.

Come home to yourself.

Learn how to break free from analysis paralysis and start living your dream life. Hoast, Asha Wilkerson, shares her journey of overcoming fear and uncertainty to pursue her passions, offering actionable steps and empowering insights.

If you're ready to take the next step towards clarity and fulfillment, this podcast is your guide to unlocking your full potential and creating the life you desire.

Subscribe now and start taking meaningful action toward your dreams.

Book your trip to Ghana today!

Takeaways

• Analysis paralysis is a common experience where individuals feel stuck and unable to make decisions. The key is to focus on making the next move rather than worrying about making the right move.
• Taking action is essential for gaining clarity and making progress towards goals. Each step taken provides feedback and allows for course correction.
• Coaching can be beneficial for individuals who struggle with analysis paralysis and need accountability and support to take action.
• The Soulful Homecoming Retreat in Ghana is a healing retreat designed for black women and women of the African diaspora to reconnect with their roots.

Chapters

(00:00) Feeling Paralyzed by Decision Making

(01:21) Overcoming Analysis Paralysis

(03:25) Exploring New Opportunities

(03:55) Taking Action and Making Choices

(04:57) Gaining Teaching Experience

(08:05) Becoming a Full-Time Faculty Member

(08:54) Taking Action and Gaining Clarity

(09:54) The Importance of Taking Action

(10:42) Consider One-on-One Coaching

(11:41) Overcoming Fear and Trauma

(12:07) Building the Life of Your Dreams

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠ ⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠⁠

Ready to take your life to the next level?

Join us for "Next Level Living: How to Make Big Moves for the Life of Your Dreams" on March 29, 2024.

In this dynamic one-hour webinar, I will guide you through the transformative process of getting in touch with your deepest desires, crafting a concrete action plan, and executing those steps with confidence and clarity.

Are you tired of feeling stuck or settling for less than you deserve?

It's time to break free from limitations and step into your power. During this workshop, you'll learn practical strategies to identify what truly lights you up and map out a roadmap to turn your dreams into reality.

Whether you're dreaming of a career change, starting your own business, or simply craving more fulfillment in your life, this webinar is designed to empower you to make bold moves toward the life you've always envisioned.

Don't miss this opportunity to invest in yourself and embark on a journey towards Next Level Living. Secure your spot today and let's make big moves together!

Register: www.ashawilkerson.com/workshop

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠ ⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠⁠

In this episode, Asha Wilkerson shares her personal experience of making a major life transition and the challenges that come with it.

She emphasizes the importance of staying connected with one's desires and not getting caught up in external expectations.

Asha also highlights the need for a supportive outlet to voice frustrations and concerns, whether it's through journaling, talking to friends, or seeking therapy.

Lastly, she encourages joining a community of like-minded individuals on a similar path to provide support and guidance.

Takeaways

• Stay connected with your wants and desires to guide your decision-making process.
• Find a supportive outlet to voice frustrations and concerns.
• Join a community of like-minded individuals who can provide support and guidance.
• Take action on your dreams and be willing to step out of your comfort zone.

Chapters

(00:00) Introduction and Setting the Stage

(01:43) Leaving Home and Transitioning to Portugal

(06:39) Navigating Differences with the Older Generation

(09:51) Staying Connected with Your Desires

(10:44) Voicing Frustrations and Finding Support

(12:48) Joining a Community of Like-Minded People

(15:40) Invitation to the Black Women's Healing Retreat in Ghana

(19:12) Closing and Final Thoughts

Join the Workshop:

Next Level Living: How to Make Big Moves for the Life of Your Dreams

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠! 
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call. ⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here. ⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠@ashawilkersonesq.⁠⁠ 

In this podcast episode, Asha Wilkerson introduces the Soulful Homecoming Retreat in Ghana for Black women. She shares her personal journey of coming home and finding alignment in her life.

Asha discusses the healing journey she embarked on after the passing of her father and how it led her to explore spirituality and reconnect with her intuition.

She highlights the transformative experience of visiting Ghana and learning about African history and culture. Asha explains the purpose of the retreat, which is to support Black women in returning home to themselves and their continent of origin. She describes the activities and experiences participants can expect during the retreat and invites listeners to join her on this unique healing journey.

To sign up for the retreat, head to ashawilkerson.com/ghana.

Takeaways

• The Soulful Homecoming Retreat in Ghana is a space for Black women to come home to themselves and their continent of origin.
• Healing and transformation are essential in the journey of coming home and finding alignment in life.
• Visiting Ghana and reconnecting with African history and culture can have a profound impact on one's sense of identity and self-worth.
• The retreat offers activities such as yoga, reiki, coaching, and sound baths to facilitate healing and self-discovery.

Resources

• To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ⁠ashawilkerson.com⁠!
• Interested in working with Asha? ⁠⁠⁠Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call.⁠ ⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠⁠Join Asha's email list here.⁠⁠⁠
• Follow Asha on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠@AshaWilkersonEsq⁠⁠⁠
• ⁠⁠Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora⁠⁠