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| Ep 62: Reclaiming Your Power: How Reconnecting to Yourself is an Act of Rebellion ✨ | 25 août 2026 | 00:11:05 | |
Welcome to the third week of our short series on reconnection. In our first week, we explored practical exercises to ground yourself, and last week, we talked about how reconnecting to your wants, needs, and desires is really an act of reclaiming your power. This week, I’m talking about how reconnecting to your body and your truth is an act of rebellion, particularly for those of us who come from the African diaspora, live in Black or brown bodies, or function as worker bees in a capitalist system. Historically, systems of capitalism and colonialism were designed to separate us from our bodies, turn us into labor, and make us operate as machines. When you pause, listen to your physical data, and choose what actually honors your spirit instead of sacrificing yourself to keep the peace, you break that cycle. Reclaiming your sovereignty doesn't require a grand, loud protest. It happens in the quiet, daily moments where you allow yourself to be fully human. (00:00) - Reconnecting to Yourself: Why It Matters (01:07) - How Capitalism, Racism, and Colonialism Disconnect Us From Our Bodies (02:10) - Reconnecting With Your Body as an Act of Rebellion (03:12) - How Rest Helps You Reclaim Autonomy and Personal Power (04:15) - You Don’t Have to Earn Rest: Small Ways to Listen to Your Body (05:36) - Reclaiming Your Desires, Needs, and Boundaries (06:18) - Honoring Your Ancestors Through Rest and Self-Connection (06:56) - Why Capitalism Doesn’t Create Equal Autonomy (07:35) - Do You Need to Quit Your Job to Reclaim Your Life? (08:11) - Small Acts of Rebellion for Black and Brown Bodies (09:32) - Everyday Boundaries: Saying No, Resting, and Choosing Yourself (10:05) - Being Fully Human Is an Act of Rebellion (10:39) - How to Practice Reconnection This Week Key Takeaways
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| Ep 61: Why Reconnecting to Yourself is Your Ultimate Superpower | 18 août 2026 | 00:11:05 | |
Welcome back to the second week of our conversations around reconnecting. In the wellness and healing spaces, we hear buzzwords like "reconnect," "go deep," or "tap in" tossed around all the time, without always understanding what they actually mean or how they fit into the bigger picture. Last week, we talked about reconnecting through play, nostalgic traditions/foods, and writing a letter from your future self to your present self. This week, I’m diving into why reconnecting to yourself matters so deeply. Reconnecting to yourself gives you the superpower you have been looking for in everything else. When you connect to your intuition, your body, your wants, your needs, and your desires, you start making decisions that align with how you actually want to feel today, tomorrow, and five years from now. (00:00) - Reconnecting and personal power (01:05) - Intuition, needs, and intentional decisions (02:24) - Burnout and giving away power (03:29) - Conscious choices and responsibility (06:25) - Survival mode and disconnection (08:37) - Desires as a decision-making filter (10:33) - Small choices and agency (11:41) - Personal needs and relationships (13:55 - Self-reflection and future desires Key Takeaways
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| Ep 60: Reconnect With Yourself: 3 Simple Ways to Come Back to What Feels Good | 11 août 2026 | 00:18:54 | |
This month, I’m thinking about reconnecting. I’m spending August back in the United States with my family, and being home has me reflecting on all the ways we can reconnect, not just with others but also with ourselves. It’s easy to get caught up in doing everything, meeting expectations, showing up where we’re supposed to be, and building the life we thought we wanted. Then we realize that some of it doesn’t feel good anymore. In this episode, I’m starting with something simple: remembering. I also discuss the link between play, the chakra system, human development, and intuition. I explain how trying out what feels good can help you rebuild trust in yourself. It doesn't have to be big or dramatic; it just has to help you reconnect. (00:00) - How to Reconnect With Yourself (02:29) - Why Childhood Joy Helps You Feel More Grounded (03:46) - How Play Supports Emotional Well-Being (06:24) - Reconnecting With Your Intuition Through Play (10:20) - Comfort Food, Culture, and Feeling at Home (12:00) - Creating Rituals That Help You Reconnect (14:09) - Write a Letter From Your Future Self (16:55) - Three Simple Practices to Reconnect With Yourself Key Takeaways
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| Ep 59: Stop Hacking Your Healing: Let Things Take the Time They Take | 04 août 2026 | 00:12:20 | |
I used to love a good life hack. I used to work out more, track my steps, measure my sleep, optimize my schedule, and do the mindset work. I was focused on finding the right strategy to help me reach my goals faster. But lately, I’ve realized something: trying to hack the process can actually slow it down. I’m working out less now, and my workouts aren’t as intense. I’m making more room in my schedule. When my smartwatch broke on vacation, I didn't rush to replace it. Instead, I found peace in not constantly measuring my sleep, my steps, or my connection to my phone. I’m also learning to listen to what my nervous system is really telling me instead of trying to hack my brain or coach myself out of my feelings. Maybe the fastest way forward isn’t about finding another shortcut. Maybe it’s about facing what’s actually in front of you. In this episode, I discuss the power of doing less, why I believe we’re moving away from optimization culture, and what can happen when we stop rushing processes that need time. (00:00) - How “hacks” used to run life (01:27) - Old workout culture: maxing out every day (01:56) - Why fewer workouts are helping more (02:25) - More isn’t always better for the nervous system (04:47) - The power of less in commitments and schedules (05:16) - How the smartwatch became obsessive (06:13) - Realizing she doesn’t miss the smartwatch (07:12) - Listening to the nervous system instead of hacking it (08:06) - Mindset coaching and trying to hack the brain (09:04) - Faster progress by addressing the real need (09:33) - Why shortcuts loop you back around (10:04) - The quickest path is facing obstacles directly (11:00) - The biscuit analogy for sustainable change (11:30) - You can’t rush nervous system healing Key Takeaways
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| Ep 58: What Nervous System Regulation Actually Means | 28 juil. 2026 | 00:27:34 | |
Everyone is talking about nervous system regulation, but what does that actually mean? In this episode, I wanted to take the mystery out of one of the biggest wellness buzzwords and explain it in a way that's practical, not overly scientific, and not something that only therapists or coaches can understand. Your nervous system isn't working against you. It's doing exactly what it was designed to do: keep you safe. The challenge is that your brain doesn't always know the difference between what's dangerous and what's simply unfamiliar. That means the very things you want most: a new career, healthier relationships, starting a business, traveling, resting, even choosing yourself, can feel unsafe simply because they're new. I share why your body responds this way, how your childhood experiences shape your nervous system's capacity, and why pushing through discomfort often isn't the answer. Throughout the episode, I also walk through personal examples from my own life, including struggling with sleep, regulating my nervous system with an episode of Law & Order, navigating the demands of hosting co-working, and completely rethinking how I launch my business so it actually feels peaceful instead of overwhelming. At the heart of it all is one simple practice: Learning how to listen to your body. Because maybe nervous system regulation isn't really about regulating anything at all. Maybe it's simply about paying attention. (00:00) Nervous System Regulation (01:06) How Your Nervous System Keeps You Safe (04:32) Fear of Travel & Feeling Safe (05:52) How to Regulate in the Moment (09:18) What Does Dysregulated Mean? (10:23) Sleep, Stress & Nervous System Recovery (14:20) There’s No “Right” Way to Regulate (17:40) Overwhelm, Capacity & Asking for Support (19:53) Body Listening & Emotional Awareness (20:59) Business Anxiety & Nervous System Capacity (23:07) Authentic Marketing Without Pressure (26:49) Growing Your Capacity Without Burnout In this episode, I discuss:
Resources: Find me on Threads: @ashawilkersonesq If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Leave a review, share it with someone who needs it, or send me a message on Threads. | |||
| Ep 57: You Don't Need the Whole Plan | 21 juil. 2026 | 00:15:22 | |
For a long time, I believed I needed to know exactly how everything would unfold before I could make a big decision. As an attorney, professor, and lifelong planner, I was used to having a roadmap. But when I left my tenured position, my apartment, and the life I had built in California to move to Portugal, I didn't have one. I only knew the next right step. In this episode, I'm sharing why that decision became one of the most important lessons of my life. Recording from Porto before speaking at the Our Rich Journey FIRE Conference, I reflect on what it means to trust yourself before you have all the answers, why nervous system regulation matters more than the perfect plan, and how peace became the foundation for every decision I make. I also share why I'm choosing to sell a property that once represented freedom, and how I realized that what once aligned with my values no longer supported the life I'm building today. If you're standing between the life you've built and the life that's calling you, I hope this conversation reminds you that you don't need to know the entire staircase. You only need enough courage to take the next right step. 00:00 - Embracing Life Transitions 02:35 - The Journey to Portugal and New Beginnings 05:24 - Finding Peace in Financial Independence 08:40 - Aligning Actions with Inner Peace 11:26 - Reevaluating Life Choices for Peace 14:19 - Taking the Next Right Step Key Takeaways • You don't need the entire plan before you begin. • Peace is not something you earn after reaching your goals—it can become the strategy that guides your decisions today. • A regulated nervous system helps you recognize what is truly aligned for you. • Your values may change, and your decisions can change with them. • Every aligned step reveals possibilities you couldn't have seen before. Come home to yourself. | |||
| Ep 56: Permission to Make a Different Decision | 14 juil. 2026 | 00:18:24 | |
For a long time, I believed that keeping my word meant never changing my mind. But over the years, I realized something important. Sometimes we make decisions with the information we have at the time. Then life changes, or we change. We gather new experiences, new wisdom, and new data, and the decision that once felt aligned may no longer fit. In this episode, I'm sharing why I finally changed the name of this podcast from Because I've Healed to Because I'm Healing, and why that small change represents something much bigger. We talk about people-pleasing, keeping promises, making choices out of obligation rather than alignment, and why giving yourself permission to make a different decision isn't being unreliable. It's honoring who you are now. If you've been holding onto a career, relationship, responsibility, identity, or role simply because you've always done it, this episode is your reminder that you're allowed to choose again. Sometimes healing isn't staying committed to an old decision. Sometimes healing is trusting yourself enough to make a new one. (00:00) - Embracing Change: The Need for Permission (10:00) - The Power of Decision-Making and Self-Permission (18:03) - Redefining Roles and Responsibilities in Life Key Takeaways
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| Ep 55: Fight. Flight. Freeze. Fawn. What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You | 07 juil. 2026 | 00:31:35 | |
Have you ever found yourself completely staring at a blank screen, unable to reply to emails or cross items off your to-do list, and immediately labeled it as laziness or procrastination? I’m pulling back the curtain on a deeply personal reveal. Recently, I found myself sliding from a state of high anxiety and overfunctioning straight into a deep freeze mode, and I didn't even notice the shift until I started explaining the nervous system to someone else. In this episode, I talk about what it actually means when our bodies hit a wall. As Black women and high-achievers, we are conditioned to stay in prolonged states of survival because our environments rarely feel safe enough to prioritize deep peace or rest. I break down the four primary nervous system responses: Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn, and how they show up disguised as productivity, perpetual busyness, avoidance, and people-pleasing. You aren't broken, and you aren't lazy. Your body is simply doing exactly what it learned to do to protect you. Let’s talk about how to meet ourselves with radical self-compassion and move through it in real time. (00:00) - The Journey of Healing and Growth (02:49) - Understanding the Nervous System's Response (05:45) - Navigating Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Modes (09:03) - Personal Experience with Overwhelm (11:45) - Recognizing and Addressing Overwhelm (15:12) - Seeking Support and Making Changes (18:06) - The Importance of Self-Compassion (21:08) - Finding the Right Support (24:03) - Communicating Needs and Setting Boundaries (26:55) - Creating Opportunities for Rest and Growth Key Takeaways • Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn are survival responses, not personality flaws. • High achievers often stay in survival mode so long that it begins to feel normal. • Freeze mode isn't laziness. Sometimes it's your nervous system hitting a wall. • Your body is always communicating with you. • Healing isn't about forcing yourself through overwhelm. It's about learning what your body needs next. • Sometimes the most healing thing you can do is ask for different support. • You don't have to be completely healed before you can continue growing. | |||
| Ep 54: How to Journal When You Don't Know What to Write | 30 juin 2026 | 00:23:23 | |
If you are a high-achieving woman who has spent years in survival mode, journaling can feel incredibly intimidating. We’re often told to "just write your feelings down," but when you’ve been disconnected from your body just to get through the day, you look at a blank page and completely freeze. You might worry you're doing it wrong, or your brain instantly tries to edit every sentence before your pen even hits the paper. In this episode, I want to demystify the practice of journaling and examine it through neurological and somatic lenses. Writing by hand isn't just about recording facts; it’s a physical act that slows down your racing thoughts and creates a powerful mind-body loop. I'm breaking down three simple, unconventional journaling exercises designed to bypass your inner critic, release low-grade stress, and help you start exactly where you are. 00:00 - Introduction to Journaling Challenges 02:12 - The Neuroscience of Handwriting 06:00 - Journaling Exercises: Writing From Feelings 15:39 - Unsent Letters: Emotional Release 22:17 - The Drain: Clearing Emotional Clutter Key Takeaways ✨ Journaling is not a writing skill. It's a self-connection skill. ✨ Handwriting slows your brain down enough to process what you're experiencing rather than simply react to it. ✨ The emotion underneath the goal matters more than the goal itself. ✨ You don't need to know how something will happen before you allow yourself to feel what you want. ✨ If you're disconnected from your emotions, start with what is easiest to access. Even irritation, frustration, or complaints. ✨ Sometimes emotional clarity comes after writing, not before. ✨ There is no "right way" to journal. ✨ Recognizing your emotions, staying connected to them, and articulating them are all learnable skills. ✨ The goal isn't to write perfectly. ✨ The goal is to hear yourself. Connect With Me
Enjoyed This Episode? Share it with a friend who keeps saying they should journal but never knows where to start. And if you try one of these exercises this week, I'd love to hear how it goes. Come home to yourself. 🌿 | |||
| Ep 53: The Difference Between an Emotion and a Feeling | 23 juin 2026 | 00:19:23 | |
Last week, I shared what to do when you're in the middle of a difficult emotional experience. This week, I want to go deeper into something that often gets misunderstood: the difference between emotions and feelings. Most of us use those words interchangeably, but they're not actually the same thing. In this episode, I break down how emotions are automatic physiological responses that happen in the body before we have time to think, while feelings are the stories and interpretations we create around those emotional experiences. I share examples from my own life, including my years as an attorney, and how childhood experiences still show up in my dating life today. We'll explore why understanding this distinction can be so powerful on your healing journey, how trauma influences the way we interpret emotional data, and why learning to separate the emotion from the story can create more freedom, self-awareness, and choice in your life. If you've ever wondered why certain situations trigger such strong reactions or why you sometimes feel stuck in patterns that don't seem logical, this episode is for you. (00:00) - Understanding Emotions and Feelings (09:55) - The Role of Emotions in Healing (16:14) - Practical Applications and Resources Takeaways ✨ Emotions and feelings are not the same thing. Emotions are automatic physiological responses that occur in the body before conscious thought. Feelings are the interpretations and meanings we assign to those emotional experiences. ✨ You cannot stop yourself from having emotions. Emotions are part of being human. They serve as information and help us navigate the world by signaling what feels safe, unsafe, desirable, or threatening. ✨ The body reacts before the mind understands. Fear, joy, sadness, anger, and excitement often arise in the body before we've had a chance to consciously process what's happening. ✨ Feelings are shaped by your history. Your past experiences, beliefs, culture, nervous system patterns, and personal stories all influence how you interpret emotional experiences. ✨ Healing requires separating the emotion from the story. A physiological response may be based on past experiences that are no longer relevant to your current reality. Learning to distinguish between the two creates space for new choices and healthier responses. ✨ Triggers are part of being human. You cannot move through life without being triggered. What matters is not whether the trigger happens, but how you interpret and respond to the information it provides. ✨ Emotions can be stored in the body. Practices such as breathwork, bodywork, energy work, and tapping can help release stored emotional responses and create greater emotional freedom. ✨ You may not control your emotions, but you can develop agency around your feelings. With awareness and practice, you can choose how you interpret emotional experiences and how you respond to them. Resources Mentioned 📚 Psychology Today The Important Difference Between Emotions and Feelings (February 2022) Referenced for its distinction between emotions as "raw data" and feelings as the stories we create around them. 📚 BetterHelp Are Emotions and Feelings The Same Thing? Referenced for research discussing how emotions occur unconsciously in response to stimuli and feelings arise once the brain interprets those changes. 📚 Karla McLaren Is It a Feeling or Is It an Emotion? Revisited Somatic educator and researcher whose work defines emotions as physiological experiences that provide information and feelings as conscious awareness of those experiences. Connect with me over on Threads @AshaWilkersonEsq and let me know how this episode landed in your body. Come home to yourself. | |||
| Ep 52: When "Tough Times Don't Last" Isn't Enough | 16 juin 2026 | 00:17:13 | |
A few weeks ago, I came across a post on Threads that stopped me in my tracks. A woman wrote, "Somewhere deep within it hurts. Really wish I could get the words out, but it's so heavy to pen down." What struck me wasn't just what she said. It was who she appeared to be from the outside: successful, accomplished, building a business, encouraging others. And yet beneath all of that, something felt heavy. It reminded me how many of us are walking around carrying emotions we don't know what to do with. In this episode, I'm sharing a practical framework for navigating those moments when life feels overwhelming. Not with platitudes or toxic positivity, but with real steps you can take when you're in the trenches. We'll explore why feeling deeply doesn't mean you're broken, how to identify what your body and nervous system need, and how to use your emotions as information instead of getting lost in the stories they create. If you've ever felt stuck, heavy, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move through difficult emotions, this conversation is for you. (00:00) - Navigating Vulnerability on Social Media (02:52) - Understanding and Normalizing Emotions (05:45) - Identifying Needs and Seeking Support (09:00) - Decoding Emotions: Information vs. Story (12:02) - Practical Steps for Emotional Awareness (14:55) - Bridging Knowledge and Practice in Emotional Health Takeaways ✨ You are not broken because you feel deeply. Heavy emotions are not a sign that something is wrong with you. They are part of being human and provide valuable information about what is happening beneath the surface. ✨ Before you move on, ask yourself what you need. Instead of rushing to "fix" the feeling, pause and identify what would help you feel supported. Sometimes it's a hug, a conversation, rest, movement, nature, or simply being witnessed. ✨ Co-regulation is not a weakness. Humans are relational beings. Reaching out for support, connection, or comfort is often exactly what your nervous system needs to return to safety. ✨ Emotions carry information. Once your nervous system has settled, get curious. Ask yourself what the sensation in your body is trying to communicate rather than immediately reacting to it. ✨ Separate the emotion from the story. The emotion is the raw experience in your body. The story is the meaning your mind creates around it. Learning the difference can help you respond more intentionally. ✨ You can't always control what you feel, but you can choose how you respond. When you understand what an emotion is trying to tell you, you gain the power to decide what happens next. Connect with me on Threads: @ashawilkersonesq | |||
| Ep 51: Why You Can't Take Everybody's Advice (Even When It Comes from Love) | 09 juin 2026 | 00:19:24 | |
When you’re in a major season of transition, it’s completely natural to feel restless, unsure, and a little bit blind to your next move. But when we look outward for constant validation, we accidentally open the door for other people to build a ceiling over our lives. Key Takeaways
Ubuntu Design https://ubuntudesign.life/#/ 00:00 - Navigating Advice in Times of Transition 05:12 - Understanding Your Own Guidance 10:51 - The Limitations of Well-Meaning Advice 15:10 - Protecting Your Unique Vision In this episode, I get radically honest about my own four-year transition out of California and full-time legal work. I break down why the people who love you most will often give you advice designed to keep you safe rather than help you grow, how to filter through outside noise, and how to build the muscle required to trust the unique blueprint of your own vision. | |||
| Ep 50: Tuning In: How to Trust the Subtle Voice of Your Intuition | 02 juin 2026 | 00:21:28 | |
Have you ever had a random thought cross your mind, brushed it off, and then later found out it was completely accurate? You look back and think, Dang it, I should have clocked that. This week at the studio, we are talking about learning how to trust yourself and the decisions you make based on your intuition or your inner knowing. For a long time, I didn't think I was intuitive at all because my style didn't look like my mom's. But the truth is, we are all born with this capability. Because everything is made of energy, your intuition is simply your ability to perceive information beyond your five physical senses in this 3D world. In this episode, I break down what the "Claire" senses actually look like in real life, from hearing the voice of wisdom to tasting unexpected memories. I share personal stories of how this plays out in my own life here in Portugal (including a countercultural nudge involving the local police), and I give you three practical, everyday steps to stop gaslighting yourself, dial in your inner knowing, and test the universe for yourself. (00:00) - Unlocking Intuition: A Personal Journey (06:05) - Understanding Intuition: The Claire Senses (11:43) - Trusting Your Intuition: Practical Steps (17:55) - Asking for Signs: Engaging with the Universe Key Takeaways
Book Mentioned in this episode: Signs: The Secret Language of the Universe by Laura Lynne Jackson
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| Ep 49: Your Comfort Zone is a Big Fat Lie! | 26 mai 2026 | 00:18:20 | |
People call it a comfort zone all the time. But what if the thing you’re struggling to leave isn’t actually comfortable? In this episode, Asha unpacks the difference between what is comfortable and what is simply familiar, and why confusing the two can keep you stuck in jobs, relationships, routines, and identities that no longer fit who you are becoming. Because the truth is, most people are not staying because they feel good; they’re staying because they know what to expect. This conversation moves through nervous systems, survival instincts, language, and the stories we tell ourselves about change. Asha shares personal reflections about chronic back pain, leaving a tenured teaching career in the U.S., moving to Portugal, and what it means to stop choosing discomfort simply because it’s predictable. If you’ve been circling a decision for months, if something in your life feels heavy, restrictive, or misaligned, if you keep calling it a “comfort zone” even though it doesn’t actually feel good, this episode might help you tell the truth about what’s really happening. And once you tell the truth, the next step becomes easier to see. 00:00 - Understanding Comfort vs Familiarity 09:58 - Embracing Change and the Unfamiliar 16:56 - Identifying Your Hesitations
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RESET: A six-week experience for high-achieving Black women who are ready to stop performing and come home to themselves. Inside RESET, we explore nervous system regulation, ancestral connection, identity shifts, rest, and the space between the life you built and the life you actually want. If enrollment is currently closed, future cohorts and retreats will still be announced. In this episode:Questions to sit with after listening: | |||
| Ep 48: Burnout Recovery for Black Women: Where to Actually Start | 19 mai 2026 | 00:17:52 | |
Burned Out and Stuck: Where Black Women Start Over You've done everything right. And somehow you're standing at the top of the ladder, wondering why you don't want to climb anymore, or worse, not even knowing what you'd want instead. That freeze isn't a character flaw. It's not a sign that something's broken in you. It's a signal that your sacral chakra, the part of you that learned what you liked and what lit you up, went quiet a long time ago, somewhere between the degrees and the promotions and the people you were making proud. In this episode, I talk about what it actually means to reignite it, and why clarity doesn't come from thinking harder. It comes from moving. I also walk through RESET, my six-week program for high-achieving Black women who are stuck in the "in between" and don't quite know where to start. We work through listening to your body, releasing what you inherited that was never yours to carry, and mapping the desires you've been told are too much. It's not about blowing your life up. It's about creating enough space to finally hear yourself. Chapters: (00:00) Navigating Uncertainty: Where to Start?(05:41) Where to Start When You Don't Know What Change to Make(06:34) How the HELD Retreat Supports Your Process(07:23) RESET Gets You UnStuck in 6 Weeks(12:32) How RESET Moves You Forward(13:52) Which RESET Option Is Right for You?(15:36) Asha's Move from Burnout to Lisbon Resources:
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| Ep 47: You're Not Broken: These Are Your Growing Pains | 12 mai 2026 | 00:20:40 | |
That restlessness, that emptiness you can't quite name, it's not a sign that something went wrong. It's a sign that something is ready to grow. In this episode:
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| Ep 46: You Already Hear Your Intuition, You're Just Not Listening | 28 avr. 2026 | 00:13:34 | |
You Hear Your Intuition. You're Just Not Listening. It's not that your intuition went quiet. It's that you stopped recognizing it as yours. In this episode:
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Links mentioned: → RESET - Asha's 6-week program + 2-day retreat option for women ready to hear and act on their intuition If this touched something in you, Love Notes was made for you. It's a weekly email for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something's missing; self-trust, nervous system, and coming home to the freedom that's always been yours. | |||
| Ep 45: Here’s Why You've Done Everything Right and Still Feel Empty | 28 avr. 2026 | 00:21:11 | |
You've Done Everything Right and Still Feel Empty You've got the credentials, the career, the life that looks excellent on paper, and still, privately, something feels off. This episode is about why thinking harder won't fix that. In this episode:
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| Ep 44: Your Joy Is the Transmission | 21 avr. 2026 | 00:07:58 | |
You've probably been treating enjoyment like a reward you have to earn. What if your joy was the work? In this episode:
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If this landed somewhere in you, Love Notes was made for you. It's a weekly email for high-achieving Black women who've done everything right and still feel like something is missing: self-trust, nervous system, coming home to the freedom that's always been yours. | |||
| Ep 43: Stop Sending Energy to People Who Don't Deserve It | 14 avr. 2026 | 00:14:47 | |
Stop Sending Energy to People Who Don't Deserve It You don't have to forgive anyone to get your power back. This episode is about something better: neutralizing the hold that people and experiences have on you so you can finally move forward. In this episode:
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| Ep 42: Brake Pedal Beliefs: Why High-Achieving Black Women Stay Stuck | 07 avr. 2026 | 00:22:29 | |
You're Moving, But Not as Fast As You Want Because One Foot Is Still on the Brake You can be working toward something with your foot fully on the gas pedal, journaling, and repeating your manifestations daily, and still feel like you're not moving nearly as fast for all the effort you're putting in. Or worse, you're giving it your all and still feel like you're standing still. The reason is that you have some brake-pedal beliefs that, no matter how hard you press the gas, you will always be in the slow lane. This is what they look like in real life. In this episode:
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| Ep 41: 3 Steps That Unlocked My Ancestral Connection | 24 avr. 2025 | 00:23:19 | |
What does it really take to connect with your ancestors? Whether you're just beginning your spiritual journey or seeking clarity on your life path, this story is for you. 💫 Through mindset shifts, energetic awakening, and guided ancestral meditations, I discovered a powerful truth: your ancestors are waiting for you. ✨ If you’ve felt disconnected or unsure of your next step — let this be your invitation. Links & Resources ✨ Learn More About Guided → ashawilkerson.com/guided ✨ Join the My Email List → ashawilkerson.com/email Let me know how these tips resonate with you—I’d love to hear your thoughts! And if you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, and share Because I’ve Healed. See you inside the community! 💛✨ | |||
| Ep 40: How to Raise Your Vibration & Activate Joy | 18 mars 2025 | 00:12:47 | |
Hey, y'all! Welcome back to Because I've Healed! Today, I’m coming to you straight from the streets of Lisbon—literally. No fancy setup, just me sharing from the heart about something a lot of folks have been asking me: How do I create more joy in my life? Over the past few weeks, I’ve had conversations with people navigating all kinds of challenges—relationship transitions, family struggles, and just feeling stuck. If you’ve ever felt like joy was out of reach or that your energy was low, this episode is for you. I’m sharing personal experiences, insights from my energy classes, and three powerful ways to shift your energy, raise your vibration, and bring more happiness into your life. Plus, I have something special for you at the end—a Joy Activation Challenge designed to help you integrate these practices into your daily life. Tune in and let’s tap into more joy together! Links & Resources ✨ Join the 5-Day Joy Activation Challenge → ashawilkerson.com/joy ✅ ✨ Join the My Email List → ashawilkerson.com/email Let me know how these tips resonate with you—I’d love to hear your thoughts! And if you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to rate, follow, and share Because I’ve Healed. See you inside the community! 💛✨ | |||
| Ep 39: Truth & Freedom: A Guided Meditation | 14 mars 2025 | 00:08:10 | |
What does it mean to fully embody your truth? In this episode, I guide you through a powerful meditation to connect with your ancestors and explore the essence of truth. Inspired by a recent ancestral writing class, this practice invites you to listen deeply, feel into your lineage, and uncover the wisdom waiting for you. Truth isn’t about accuracy—it’s about freedom, authenticity, and being seen without masks or filters. As you move through this meditation, you’ll be encouraged to notice where truth resonates in your body, what messages your ancestors have for you, and what it requires of you moving forward. Whether this is your first time connecting with your lineage or you’ve done this work before, I invite you to sit with these questions and embrace the experience fully. Links & Resources:📖 Journal your reflections or record a voice note to revisit later. 📩 I’d love to hear about your experience! Leave a comment on the podcast, and let me know what you think! Also, join my email list to stay connected for more workshops, meditations, and snippets for healing and ancestral connection. If this meditation resonated with you, please take a moment to rate, review, and share the podcast. Your support helps more people discover these transformative practices. Thank you for listening! 💛 | |||
| Ep 38: Calling In More Joy: 3 Steps to Create a Life You Love | 07 mars 2025 | 00:16:16 | |
Hey y’all! I’m coming to you from a little sound booth inside the airport lounge — because when the energy’s right, you just gotta roll with it! I’m on my way back to Lisbon after a month in the US, and I’m feeling surprisingly joyful. So, in this episode, I’m diving into what it really takes to call more joy into your life. I’m sharing three simple — but powerful — steps I’ve been using to create more space for joy, connect with what truly lights me up, and release the things that no longer align. Whether you’re feeling stuck, craving a shift, or just wondering how to bring more fun and fulfillment into your daily life, this one’s for you. Plus, I’m sharing some personal stories, from my salsa dancing days to the lessons my ancestors have passed down about living in freedom and joy. Trust me, you deserve to experience a life that feels good. Let’s talk about how to make that happen. Join my email list for the Joy Activation Challenge: ashawilkerson.com/email
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| Ep 37: How I Stopped Fighting My Inner Critic & Started Thriving | 27 févr. 2025 | 00:15:13 | |
In this episode, Asha takes a walk while reflecting on a major personal breakthrough: learning to embrace her inner critic instead of fighting it. She shares insights from an 8-week coaching experience with confidence coach Sylvia Brands (Wrangle Your Inner Critic program) and dives into how radical self-acceptance has been a game-changer in her personal growth journey. If you've ever struggled with self-doubt, high expectations, or feeling like you're "too much" or "not enough," this episode is for you. Asha challenges the idea that our inner critic is something to silence and instead explores how listening to and nurturing that voice can lead to greater self-trust, confidence, and alignment. Key Topics Covered: Notable Quotes: Resources & Mentions: Join the Conversation! | |||
| Ep 36: Supercharged by Ancestral Support: Finding Joy Beyond Healing | 23 févr. 2025 | 00:14:10 | |
In this heartfelt and reflective episode of Because I’ve Healed, Asha takes us on a walk—literally and spiritually—through her journey of ancestral connection and intuitive growth. Fresh from leading a retreat for founders in the Bay Area, she shares the powerful realization that her healed ancestors are propelling her forward with unstoppable energy. Asha challenges the common belief that ancestral work is only about healing past trauma. Instead, she invites us to tap into the joy, support, and momentum that our ancestors can provide. She shares how this connection has freed her from guilt, helped her embrace a life of ease, and allowed her to fully step into the dreams she once only imagined. In This Episode, Asha Discusses: Let’s Continue the Conversation: 🔔 Subscribe, share, and leave a review if this episode resonated with you. Joy is your birthright—go claim it! 💫 📧 Don't forget to join the email list so you can get weekly updates and tips to deepen your intuitive and ancestral connection. | |||
| Ep 35: Your Intuition Isn't a Gift, It's Science! | 11 févr. 2025 | 00:21:16 | |
Have you ever thought of intuition as a mystical gift that only a select few possess? The truth is, intuition is not a special ability reserved for the chosen ones—it's a natural part of being human. In this episode, I break down the science behind intuition and energy perception, showing you how your body is wired to pick up on the energy around you. We’ll explore Albert Einstein’s famous equation,E=MC², and how it supports the idea that everything—including you—is made of energy. I’ll also share my personal journey with intuition—how I learned to trust my inner knowing and how you can do the same. This episode is for you if you've ever questioned whether your intuition is real or struggled with self-doubt. I’ll also introduce my12-week group program designed to help you reconnect with your intuition through ancestral healing. By the end of this episode, you'll understand: If you’re at a crossroads in life and looking for clarity, this is your invitation to tap into your natural intuition and move forward with confidence.
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| Ep 34: What Is Intuition & How to Trust Your Inner Voice | 05 févr. 2025 | 00:17:54 | |
Have you ever felt a gut feeling, heard a voice of guidance, or just known something deep in your soul—without knowing how you knew? That’s your intuition speaking to you! In this episode of Because I’ve Healed, I break down what intuition really is, how it shows up for you, and how you can start trusting it. There’s a powerful movement happening, especially among Black and Brown folks, to reconnect with our ancestral wisdom, to trust our inner guidance, and to move away from systems that have conditioned us to doubt ourselves. But how do you actually recognize your intuition? And how do you know if it’s real or just your mind playing tricks on you? In This Episode, We’ll Cover: Ready to Develop Your Intuition & Connect With Your Ancestors? 🚀 Doors open in March! Join my email list to get first dibs on early bird pricing & exclusive bonuses! Click here to sign up 📩 Let’s Stay Connected! 🔁 Loved This Episode? | |||
| Ep 33: A Body Scan Meditation | 29 janv. 2025 | 00:10:08 | |
This meditation session guides listeners through a body scan, focusing on the chakras to promote self-awareness and relaxation. Use this meditation to practice noticing how your body feels. There's not judgment in this process, just awareness. Once you take inventory of what you're feeling, you can decide how best to continue your day. Maybe you need a bit of rest, or maybe it's time to create magic! You'll know immediately after you're done! Takeaways
Resources To learn more about the Intuitive Connection Through Ancestral Healing group program! Join Asha's email list. Follow Asha on Instagram @AshaWilkersonEsq | |||
| Ep 32: Intuition Gave Me Everything I Asked For | 21 janv. 2025 | 00:18:30 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses her journey of self-discovery and healing, emphasizing the importance of connecting with one's intuition and ancestral wisdom. She reflects on her achievements, the challenges of leaving a secure career, and the significance of recognizing the life one has created. Asha invites listeners to join her group program focused on intuitive connection and ancestral healing, encouraging them to explore their own paths to freedom and fulfillment. Takeaways
Resources To learn more about the Intuitive Connection Through Ancestral Healing group program! Join Asha's email list. Follow Asha on Instagram @AshaWilkersonEsq | |||
| Ep 31: [Webinar Replay] The Science of Intuition | 29 déc. 2024 | 01:14:35 | |
Catch the webinar replay! Are you curious about energy healing but hesitant to dive in? Maybe you’re skeptical, unsure how it works, or worried it conflicts with your faith. Or perhaps you’ve been seeking a way to connect more deeply with your intuition and ancestors but don’t know where to start. This webinar is for you. Join us for Energy Healing Explained for the Skeptics, the Saints, and the Seekers, where you’ll discover how energy healing can help you step into your power as an Intuitive Woman—a woman who:
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Whether you’re skeptical, curious, or ready for transformation, this webinar offers the clarity and tools to help you begin your journey. Resources
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| Ep 30: A New Group Program - Build Your Intuitive Connection | 26 déc. 2024 | 00:22:11 | |
In this episode, Asha introduces a new group program focused on reconnecting with intuition through ancestral healing. She discusses the importance of intuitive connection, the impact of technology on our ancestral practices, and the significance of trusting one's intuition. Asha outlines the structure of the 12-week program, emphasizing community engagement, personal growth, and the integration of energy practices. She also addresses pricing and accessibility, inviting listeners to join her on this transformative journey. Takeaways
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| Ep 29: Energy Healing 101 - join the webinar | 17 déc. 2024 | 00:12:01 | |
In this episode, Asha introduces her new webinar titled, "Energy Healing Explained for the Skeptics, the Saints, and the Seekers.'" She shares her personal journey into energy healing and ancestral connection, emphasizing the importance of understanding the science behind spiritual practices. Asha invites listeners to join her webinar, where she will explore the connections between energy healing, intuition, and personal empowerment, aiming to help participants become more intuitive and confident in their spiritual practices. Takeaways
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| Ep 28: Inner Peace Comes from Within...But How? | 26 nov. 2024 | 00:09:42 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the journey of healing and self-discovery, emphasizing the importance of finding inner peace and trusting oneself. She reflects on lessons learned from her mother about true happiness coming from within and shares her personal experiences of navigating life decisions while leaning into intuition. Asha encourages listeners to shed external expectations and opinions to embrace their authentic selves, ultimately leading to profound peace and fulfillment. Takeaways
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| Ep 27: To My Tired, Fed Up Black Women | 12 nov. 2024 | 00:15:38 | |
Summary In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the struggles faced by black women in achieving success and the exhaustion that comes from societal expectations. She shares her personal journey from being a successful attorney to becoming a healing-focused life coach, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with one's intuition and the power of healing. Asha offers her coaching services to help others navigate their own healing journeys and encourages listeners to embrace their strength and individuality. Takeaways
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| Ep 26: 3 Things I Learn From the Ancestral Healing Container | 05 nov. 2024 | 00:19:27 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson shares insights from her first ancestral healing group experience. She discusses the lessons learned about the messages from ancestors, the importance of community and witnessing, and the balance between looking back at trauma and looking forward to envision a brighter future. Asha emphasizes the power of healing and personal growth, inviting listeners to consider one-on-one sessions for deeper connection and transformation. Takeaways
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| Ep 25: Stop Waiting for Guarantees: Trust Yourself to Create The Life You Want | 29 oct. 2024 | 00:22:37 | |
In this episode of 'Because I've Healed,' Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of breaking free from limiting beliefs and embracing discomfort as a catalyst for personal growth. She emphasizes the need for self-comparison, encouraging listeners to evaluate their current situations against their potential for happiness and fulfillment. Asha shares personal anecdotes and insights on the journey of self-discovery, urging listeners to reconnect with themselves and trust their intuition in making life decisions. The episode serves as a powerful reminder that healing and self-empowerment are essential for creating a life aligned with one's true desires. Key Points
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| Ep 24: My Biggest Regret in Life (it's not what you think!) | 22 oct. 2024 | 00:28:14 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of trusting one's intuition and shares personal experiences that highlight the journey of reconnecting with inner guidance. She emphasizes the need for self-trust, especially for women of color, and offers practical steps to strengthen the relationship with one's intuition. Asha invites listeners to explore their own intuitive abilities and the significance of listening to their inner voice in decision-making. Key Points
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| Ep 23: What Happens When Your Safety Rules Become Your Cage? | 15 oct. 2024 | 00:37:28 | |
Asha Wilkerson discusses the journey of healing and self-discovery, particularly for Black women. She reflects on the impact of childhood expectations and societal rules that often confine individuals, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with oneself and one's ancestry. Asha shares practical steps for self-discovery, including journaling and questioning societal norms, and highlights her personal transformation through intuitive practices. Takeaways
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| Ep 22: What Is Shadow Work Anyway? | 10 sept. 2024 | 00:18:09 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the concept of the shadow side and the importance of shadow work. She defines the shadow as the part of us that reacts instead of responds and explains that our shadows develop in childhood when we are told certain parts of ourselves are bad or unlovable. Asha emphasizes that shadows are not inherently bad but need attention and acceptance. She provides three steps for doing shadow work: identifying your shadows, accepting them compassionately, and tending to them. Key Points
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| Ep 21: Do You Love Yourself Enough to Give Yourself Everything You Have Ever Wanted? | 03 sept. 2024 | 00:25:09 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson explores the question of whether we love ourselves enough to give ourselves everything we've ever wanted. She discusses the discomfort many of us feel when asked what we want and the societal conditioning that prioritizes meeting our needs over pursuing our wants. Asha emphasizes the importance of valuing ourselves and believing that we deserve what we want. She encourages listeners to journal and explore their desires while addressing any doubts or beliefs holding them back. Takeaways
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| Ep 20: How I'm Healing Perfectionism with Ancestral Healing | 27 août 2024 | 00:29:02 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson shares her personal journey of healing and overcoming generational trauma. She discusses the fear of failure and the pressure to be perfect that she inherited from her family history as a Black woman in America. Asha explores the impact of these beliefs on her business and personal life and how she is working to heal and let go of these expectations. She also introduces her four-week Ancestral Healing Deep Dive program and explains how it can help others heal from their own family lineage. Learn more about the 4-week Ancestral Healing Container. Takeaways
Resources To learn more about starting your healing journey, head to ashawilkerson.com! Interested in working with Asha? Click here to get on her calendar for a discovery call. Join Asha's email list here. Follow Asha on Instagram @AshaWilkersonEsq Join the WhatsApp group for the African Diaspora | |||
| Ep 19: Unlocking Ancestral Wisdom: A Path to Joy, Healing, and Empowerment | 20 août 2024 | 00:23:11 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson introduces a new group container for ancestral healing. She explains that ancestral healing is about identifying and releasing the rules, admonitions, and trauma passed down from generation to generation. It is also about tapping into the joy, love, and positive emotions that our ancestors want for us. Asha addresses common questions about ancestral healing, such as what it is, how to engage in it if you don't know your ancestors, and whether it is all about trauma. She also shares personal stories and examples to illustrate the importance of ancestral healing. Asha then provides details about the four-week ancestral healing container she is offering, which includes breathwork sessions, support via a WhatsApp group, journal prompts, and individual tarot readings. She encourages listeners to join the container and emphasizes the significance of experiencing joy and living a life that makes us happy. Key Points
Chapters (00:00) Introduction to the Ancestral Healing Container (02:35) What Is Ancestral Healing? (07:31) You Don't Need to Know Exactly Who Your Ancestors Were (14:08) Ancestral Healing Isn't All About Trauma (17:55) The 4-Week Ancestral Healing Deep Dive Resources
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| Ep 18: Retreats Aren't for the Healed! | 14 août 2024 | 00:13:40 | |
Retreats are not just for privileged white women or those who are already healed. They are for people in the process of healing. Retreats help individuals learn new skills and perspectives, provide safe spaces to share experiences, and allow for rest and self-care. They offer opportunities for personal growth and community building. Retreats are not about being fixed, but about developing new skills and practicing them in daily life. It is important to prioritize self-care and mental health, especially for black and brown women who are often expected to prioritize the needs of others. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking personal growth, looking to expand their perspectives, or in need of a restorative retreat experience. Discover how retreats can be transformative spaces for healing, regardless of where you are in your journey. Resources
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| Ep 17: How to Create Space In Your Life to Consider All the Options | 06 août 2024 | 00:17:57 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of creating space in your life to consider your options and make changes. She shares three tips: listening to your body, scripting your desired reality, and adding time for Reiki and breathwork. By creating this space, you can make small changes that align with your dreams and start living a life that is more fulfilling. Asha also shares her personal journey of creating space and how it has transformed her life. Takeaways
Chapters (00:00) Create Space to Live Your Dream Life Now (03:26) Listen to Your Body for Guidance (06:33) Script Your Desired Reality (08:52) Add Time for Reiki and Breath Work Resources
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| Ep 16: Tarot Forecast for the Week of August 4, 2024 | 04 août 2024 | 00:24:35 | |
Summary In this episode, Asha Wilkerson does a tarot card pull to provide guidance and direction for the week ahead. She pulls cards such as the Nine of Coins, Seven of Coins, Three of Knives, Two of Knives, Ace of Wands reversed, and Three of Coins reversed. The cards represent abundance, manifestation, emotional healing, decision-making, collaboration, and alignment. Asha encourages listeners to trust their intuition, process emotional pain, make aligned decisions, and create a life that works for them. Takeaways
Chapters (00:00) Introduction and Tarot Card Reading (02:23) Chapter 1: Nine of Coins (05:05) Chapter 2: Seven of Coins (06:42) Chapter 3: The Three of Knives (09:26) Chapter 4: Two of Knives (11:33) Chapter 5: Ace of Wands (13:27) Chapter 6: Three of Coins (15:23) Chapter 7: Reading Recap (21:17) Chapter 8: Invitation to Follow Up for More Information (22:01) Chapter 9: Learn How I Can Help You Through One-On-One Coaching Resources
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| Ep 15 From Stuck to Thriving: Recognizing When It's Time to Move | 11 juin 2024 | 00:28:31 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of recognizing when it's time to make a change in your environment. She highlights three situations that indicate a need for change: toxic relationships and environments, feeling stagnant or lacking opportunities, and feeling culturally or socially misaligned. Asha emphasizes the impact of toxic environments on one's energy and mental health and the benefits of changing your environment, such as increased motivation, creativity, and expanded perspectives. She encourages listeners to prioritize their wants and needs, build a supportive network, and consider her coaching program for guidance in making a change. Takeaways
Chapters (00:00) Recognizing When It's Time to Make a Change (03:09) Toxic Relationships and Environments (09:41) Feeling Stagnant or Lacking Opportunities (13:02) Cultural and Social Misalignment (27:16) Prioritizing Your Happiness (28:02) Introduction and Conclusion Resources
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| Ep 14 Have You Asked Yourself What You Really Want Lately? | 23 avr. 2024 | 00:19:43 | |
In this episode, Asha Wilkerson discusses the importance of knowing what you want and how it can lead to personal growth and success. She shares two client success stories where tapping into their desires helped them overcome challenges in their relationships and career choices. Asha emphasizes the need to expand our vision and believe our dreams are attainable. She invites listeners to book a coaching call with her to explore their innermost desires and create a plan to achieve their dream life. Takeaways
Chapters (00:00) The Power of Knowing What You Want (05:09) Expanding Your Vision for a Dream Life (09:57) Asking Yourself What You Want Learn more about Asha's Ghana retreat here. Resources
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| Ep 13 Webinar Replay - How to Make Big Moves for the Life of Your Dreams | 14 avr. 2024 | 00:49:06 | |
In this workshop recording, Asha Wilkerson discusses how to make big moves for the life of your dreams. She emphasizes the importance of knowing your desires and taking action to achieve them. Asha also highlights the signs that indicate something is not right in your current situation and the need for change. She leads a guided visualization exercise to help participants envision their dream lives and encourages them to take steps towards it. Asha offers a six-week one-on-one coaching program to support individuals in living their ideal lives. Takeaways
Chapters (00:00) Introduction and Workshop Overview (07:05) Recognizing Signs and Symptoms (13:11) The Importance of Emotional Awareness (15:28) Dream Life Meditation and Visualization (41:23) Supporting Your Journey with Coaching To learn more about starting your healing journey with me, head to ashawilkerson.com! Resources
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