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The holidays hit different when you’re an ADHD woman trying to keep yourself regulated while your kids bounce between overstimulation, sugar crashes, and relative-induced chaos. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine break down real-world co-regulation strategies that actually work for ADHD moms and sensory-sensitive kids without shame, perfection pressure, or Pinterest-mom energy.

We talk about: 🎄 Why co-regulation isn’t codependence (and how to tell the difference) 🧠 Using curiosity instead of control when your kid melts down 🙅‍♀️ Consent hellos, body autonomy, and navigating pushy relatives 🔊 Sensory overload survival: sunglasses, Loops, headphones & coping candy 👜 The ADHD “Santa Survival Kit” for car rides, stores, and family gatherings 💬 Emotional honesty & why your kids can always read your stress 💗 How to stay connected when everyone’s overstimulated (including you)

This episode is for every ADHD mom who’s trying to make the holidays feel safe, manageable, and actually enjoyable without sacrificing your sanity or your kids’ nervous systems.

If you’ve ever whispered “I need a timeout too,” this one’s your episode.

00:00 – Cold Open: Holiday Chaos Meets ADHD Brains Mariah Carey, meltdowns, pine-scented overstimulation, and why December hits different for ADHD women.

01:02 – Co-Regulation vs. Codependence (And Why It Matters Today) Understanding emotional regulation during the holidays — without absorbing everyone else’s stress.

03:10 – Curiosity Over Control: The ADHD-Friendly Parenting Reset Ditching the pre-party “be on your best behavior” script and using curiosity to defuse meltdowns.

07:14 – Consent, Autonomy, and Holiday Boundaries for Kids How to model body autonomy, support kids’ comfort, and handle pushy relatives without guilt.

12:32 – Sensory Overload: Prevent, Support, Protect Holiday environments are sensory traps. Tools that work: sunglasses, scents, Loop earplugs, headphones, coping candy, and more.

17:30 – The Santa Survival Kit & Reset Rituals How to create a car-ready regulation kit to prevent overstimulation and why modeling resets builds trust.

22:07 – Survival Mode, Emotional Honesty & Staying Connected How kids read your stress, why transparency matters, and how to co-regulate through holiday overwhelm.

December hits ADHD women differently and no one talks about it. One minute you’re thriving on holiday dopamine and twinkle lights, and the next you’re in the bathroom with a six-pack of Reese’s trees wondering why your nervous system has abandoned you for the holidays.

In this episode, Jess and Jeannine break down the real ADHD holiday arc: overstimulation, disappearing routines, perfectionism pressure, emotional labor, family triggers, and the “why am I suddenly seven years old?” regression that shows up every year.

We also talk about DESR, unapologetically, hitting emotional capacity, and how to build a December that actually fits your brain without shame, without perfection, and without the meltdown hangover.

If you’ve ever cried in the Target parking lot during the holidays, you’re in the right place.

The early-December dopamine surge, over-decorating, organizing, and the festive identity ADHD women know too well.

Two days before Christmas: bathroom Reese’s trees, sugar crashes, and the emotional flip that hits out of nowhere.

Jess & Jeannine introduce the episode: emotional whiplash, Target-parking-lot tears, and the ADHD reality of holiday season.

Overstimulation, emotional overload, disappearing routines, and why December hits different for ADHD women.

Why holiday gatherings send ADHD women straight back into childhood dynamics, old labels, and old wounds.

The invisible work behind “perfect holidays,” unrealistic expectations, and why ADHD women hit emotional capacity fast.

Regulation basics, lowering standards, cutting the list in half, redefining traditions, and building a holiday that fits your capacity.

Wrapping-paper crises, 2 a.m. cleaning, Clydesdale commercials, Reese’s trees in the bathroom — and why your holiday chaos is valid.

A grounding reminder: nothing about your December makes you weak, and you're not the only one feeling angry on the inside.

October isn’t just busy it’s loud! Every awareness campaign seems to hit close to home for ADHD women. Why do they all circle back to us!

In this bonus episode, Jess and Jeannine look at October through the ADHD lens: from breast cancer awareness and dysautonomia to health literacy, physical therapy, and mental health. They talk about how our bodies, our brains, and a healthcare system built on executive function collide and how self-awareness can become a form of self-advocacy.

It’s honest, a little funny, and full of “oh that’s me” moments. Because if you’re an ADHD woman, October isn’t just about awareness — it’s about survival, curiosity, and learning to listen to your body

🩷 Breast Cancer Awareness Month Learn more about early detection, dense breast tissue, and screening guidelines: 👉 https://www.nationalbreastcancer.org

💙 The Dysautonomia Project Education and advocacy for people living with autonomic nervous system disorders (including POTS): 👉 https://www.dysautonomiaproject.org

🧘‍♀️ Physical Therapy Awareness Month Promoting movement, recovery, and access to neurodiversity-informed PT care: 👉 https://www.apta.org/ptmonth

📚 Health Literacy Month Building awareness around communication, understanding, and access in healthcare: 👉 https://healthliteracymonth.org

🧠 Mental Health Awareness / ADHD Resources Articles and screening tools for ADHD, depression, and anxiety: 👉 https://www.additudemag.com 👉 https://screening.mhanational.org

00:00 – October Through the ADHD Lens Jessica and Jeannine open with humor and hyperfocus, explaining how a simple follow-up turned into a deep dive into every awareness that October brings.

00:46 – Breast Cancer Awareness: Executive Function Meets Early Detection They discuss how ADHD impacts health maintenance, the realities of dense breast tissue, and the importance of MRI screenings and accountability buddies.

03:10 – Dysautonomia Awareness: The Overlap with ADHD The hosts unpack POTS, dysautonomia, and how misdiagnosis and medical gaslighting often mirror ADHD experiences. They highlight the Dysautonomia Project’s patient–clinician guide.

05:31 – Physical Therapy and the Neurodivergent Body They explore hypermobility, chronic pain, and the need for neurodiversity-informed PT care — reminding listeners that they’re not “just patients,” but customers deserving adaptable support.

06:57 – Health Literacy Month: When the System Runs on Executive Function Jessica and Jeannine connect ADHD with health communication gaps, emphasizing the need for neuroaffirming providers and resources that work for both sides of the exam room.

08:32 – Mental Health Awareness: Depression, Anxiety, and Missed ADHD They reflect on overlapping diagnoses, the importance of ADHD-informed therapy, and self-advocacy when working with clinicians. Links for Attitude Magazine and mental health screening tools are mentioned.

10:47 – Outro: The Body, the System, and What Comes Next Jessica and Jeannine close Part 1 with warmth and encouragement — a reminder to hydrate, rest, and schedule the appointments that have been waiting on the back burner.

Imposter syndrome hits differently for ADHD women especially those diagnosed later in life. In this episode, Jess and Jeannine unpack how perfectionism, people-pleasing, and impossible standards leave us questioning our worth. They talk about masking, burnout, and what it means to finally believe: you’re not the imposter the system is.

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00:00 – Welcome & Disclaimer: ADHD, Imposter Feelings, and Real Talk Jess and Jeannine open the episode, define imposter feelings, and remind listeners that this is a real-life ADHD conversation, not therapy.

00:36 – What Is Imposter Syndrome in Women with ADHD? They unpack how self-doubt, fear of being “found out,” and difficulty accepting success often show up for ADHD women.

03:02 – Perfectionism, Negativity Bias, and ADHD Self-Doubt A discussion on how ADHD brains fixate on mistakes and confuse perfectionism with worthiness.

06:21 – Late ADHD Diagnosis and the Cycle of Self-Doubt Reflecting on the emotional mix of relief and doubt that comes with a late ADHD diagnosis.

08:27 – People-Pleasing, Overachievement, and ADHD Burnout How overworking and people-pleasing become survival tools that eventually lead to burnout.

11:03 – Letting Go of Coping Strategies and Finding Your Voice What happens when ADHD women stop people-pleasing and start speaking their truth aloud.

13:03 – Masking, Comparison, and Internalized Denial in ADHD How masking traits and comparing struggles feed denial and reinforce imposter feelings.

16:31 – That’s Not Normal: Calling Out ADHD Imposter Thoughts A lighthearted segment where Jess and Jeannine call out common ADHD imposter beliefs.

17:24 – Leaning Into ADHD: Diagnosis, Community & Acceptance Using diagnosis as a tool for self-understanding and finding connection in the ADHD community.

21:09 – Rewriting the Narrative: Self-Compassion & ADHD Women Closing reflections on journaling, acceptance, and reclaiming self-compassion for ADHD women.

23:32 – Kick Today in the Nuts: The Angry on the Inside Outro Jess and Jeannine wrap up with laughter, honesty, and that signature AOI reminder — you’re not alone, and you’ve got this (nuts and all).

Awareness Month isn’t just hashtags and graphics. It’s about being seen in a world that still misunderstands what ADHD actually looks like, especially for women.

In this bonus episode, Jess and Jeannine get real about the emotional side of visibility: why “awareness” can feel equal parts empowering and terrifying, how perfectionism and masking show up even in advocacy, and what it really means to stand up and say, “Yes, this is ADHD.”

They talk about representation that finally reflects our lived experience, the fear of being misunderstood (again), and the hope that comes from community and connection. Whether you’re loud and proud or still quietly figuring it out, you belong here.

💡 Mentioned in this episode:

• ADHD Awareness Month 2025 Theme + Resources: https://www.adhdawarenessmonth.org

• Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) – ADHD Information: CDC Tool Kit (Partner Across a Lifetime)

• Find a Certified ADHD Coach (ACO Directory): ADHD Coaches Organization (ACO)

• ADDA – Attention Deficit Disorder Association: https://add.org

🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts — and remember: Visibility isn’t vanity. It’s survival.

#ADHD #ADHDAwarenessMonth #ADHDPodcast #WomenWithADHD #LateDiagnosedADHD #NeurodiverseWomen #ADHDCommunity #ADHDAwareness #ADHDResources #ADHDSupport

ADHD loves extremes. All or nothing, perfect or broken. In episode 7, Jess and Jeannine unpack the sneaky illusion of black-and-white thinking and how it shapes everything from work to relationships to self-worth.

They dig into why women with ADHD are especially vulnerable to this trap. The role of rejection sensitivity, executive function overload, and decades of masking that hard-wire perfectionism into identity.

With humor, honesty, and a little chaos, they call out the myth that “good enough” isn’t enough and remind listeners that the gray area isn’t boring, it’s freedom.

🎙️ Angry on the Inside is a podcast for late-diagnosed women with ADHD who are done pretending they’re fine.

For women with ADHD, anger doesn’t always come out as yelling. It often hides in plain sight. Rage leaks out through tears, silence, shutdowns, guilt, or even endless “rage cleaning.” In this episode of Angry on the Inside, Jess and Jeannine break down why so many late-diagnosed women were taught that anger is unsafe, how that message turns rage inward, and the toll it takes on our bodies and relationships.

They call out the lies behind “good girls don’t get mad,” unpack the shame cycle, and dig into the burnout, exhaustion, and physical symptoms that follow when anger gets buried instead of expressed. You’ll hear real talk about the ways ADHD rage shows up crying in fury, shutting down mid-argument, replaying fights for days in our minds, or feeling that buzzing intensity under your skin.

Most importantly, Jess and Jeannine share how to start reframing anger as information, finding outlets that actually release it, and modeling healthier expressions of rage for the next generation of ADHD women. This isn’t about silencing anger, it’s about finally letting it breathe.

Getting an ADHD diagnosis is life-changing ,but who actually deserves to know? In this episode, Jess and Jeannine dig into the messy, personal, and sometimes hilarious reality of deciding who to tell about your ADHD. From supportive spouses and curious kids to skeptical family members and workplace politics, they explore the first circles, the second waves, and the “you don’t look ADHD” crowd.

Expect raw honesty about shame, stigma, and self-advocacy.  Plus some soapbox moments and laughs along the way. Angry on the Inside is here to remind you: disclosure is your choice.

Getting an ADHD diagnosis as an adult doesn’t hand you a neat instruction manual. It drops you into a storm of relief, grief, and “Why the hell didn’t anyone catch this sooner?”

In this episode, Jess and Jeannine get real about what happens after the diagnosis: the messy emotions, the missing pages, and the process of rewriting your story on your terms.

Come with them into the emotional rollercoaster, the myths and misinformation, and why community, therapy, and self-compassion matter more than “fixing” yourself.

You can’t change what you can’t name and when it comes to ADHD, vocabulary isn’t optional. Women with late diagnoses have been slapped with labels like lazy, flaky, disorganized, or too much. None of those explain what’s actually happening in our brains.

In this episode, Jess and Jeannine dive into why words like time blindness and rejection sensitivity actually matter and how having the right vocabulary can shift the story from shame to self-understanding. We talk about family code words. How naming what’s happening in your ADHD brain can save relationships, sanity, and a whole lot of unnecessary guilt.

This isn’t about fancy labels for the sake of it.  It’s about finally having the language to explain what’s going on, to ourselves and to the people around us.

The truth is, vocabulary isn’t just semantics here. It’s survival.