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Shappi Khorsandi explores late ADHD diagnosis and shares many lessons she’s learnt. This episode is painfully relatable, but also full of hope, humour and insight.

Shappi is a comedian, author, speaker and advocate for human rights.

00:00 Trailer 

02:48 When was your earliest memory of feeling different?

10:30 You were diagnosed at 47? Why did it take so long for you to receive a diagnosis?

14:28 What clicked into place when you heard the words "You have ADHD"?

26:44 You have a great analogy about Tarzan and ADHD, can you explain this for our audience?

33:05 Being diagnosed with ADHD and being a comedian - the creative comedy mind of which is constantly flipping from thought to thought (and I'm sure the two go hand in hand) - but how did this fluid nature of the way the brain works serve in holding down jobs & relationships?

47:52 Moving around a lot when you were younger, changing country, feeling "foreign", facing racism, having ADHD, being shy, that's a lot to deal with for someone who is likely to be emotionally sensitive? What do you think the most testing part of your life has been as far as RSD is concerned?

53:21 What did/do your parents think about ADHD and everything that it entails?

57:30 The ‘ADHD item’ segment 

01:03:26 Washing machine of woes 

01:09:01 A very personal question and one you don't have to answer of course, but what is the process of a relationship coming to an end and then the subsequent divorce like for the chaotic mind of someone with ADHD?

01:14:33 Do you think that everything you've been through - including your late diagnosis - has helped you build your career?

01:17:41 Where would you be in life without your sense of humour and what purpose does your sense of humour serve in softening the blow of everything we've spoken about already!

01:19:35 A wedding day story 

01:23:14 Being very much an outsider through Neurodivergent means and, back when you came to the UK, feeling like an outsider through race too, do you have an explanation in a nutshell that might best describe how ostracised a person would feel, and did feel, in that scenario?

01:27:04 Most impulsive thing 

01:31:37 Closing questions & signing the ‘thinks outside the box’ canvas 

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Alex chats with Matt Hancock, the former UK Health Secretary, on a range of important issues affecting the Neurodivergent community.

Topics:

00:00 Trailer

01:28 How much consideration was there for the neurodiverse community when considering putting the country into Lockdown

04:56 In the past few years you've come up against a lot of pressure, did that give you a new sense of empathy with regards to people who have felt misunderstood their whole life, i.e in this case, the neurodivergent community?

08:25 Washing machine of woes

10:22 You've been outspoken about Dyslexia, but do you think you stray into the realm of any other neurodivergent behaviours? 

13:47 How is it that a clearly very bright person such as yourself can miss being dyslexic until the age of 18 or 19?

15:26 What measures can be taken within the schooling system to make sure these Neurodivergent behaviours are recognised from an earlier age?

16:27 Advice to parents if the school doesn’t take neurodiversity seriously

20:41 How do you think not being diagnosed impacted your personal progression and development?

26:45 How can teachers identify the unique learning requirements of individual children

30:42 What plans would you enforce to reduce the NHS ADHD diagnosis waiting list?

35:31 What would you say to a child that feels ‘different’

38:25 How parents can help their child find their passion

39:35 When you were Health Secretary, did you think ADHD and other neurodivergent conditions were taken seriously by the powers that be and if not, why do you think that was?

41:36 Much like ADHD, I think people can often have a reductive view on what Dyslexia is. What do you think is involved in Dyslexia that people don't know about? 

46:00 I don't know what the exact statistics are, but around 0.5% of the population went to Oxbridge. You were at Oxford and openly say you have dyslexia. Even with that holding you back, what is it about the rest of your brain that got you into the most prestigious university in the world?

48:14 You must have seen neurodivergent people at Oxford with some incredible minds, diagnosed and presumably undiagnosed. Do you think excelling to an unusual degree, in one particular area, is actually dependent on neurodivergence? 

48:56 I remember reading an interview with an ex-CIA agent who said the CIA are predominantly made up of Neurodivergent people and I can only assume it's true of the MI5 because they have a propensity to connect ideas that a cognitively typical person wouldn't. If Neurodivergence is such a beneficial force if channelled correctly, why has screening taken so long to employ in schools?

53:45 Should people put ADHD on their CV

56:44 What can we all do to convince companies of the benefits of a neurodivergent workforce

60:25 Why have the neurodiverse community been missed for so long

01:04:06 ADHD item

01:05:06 What has the last 5 years taught you about humanity?

01:06:09 Closing advice for the neurodivergent community

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In this week's bitesize clip, Matt Gupwell shares his tried and tested solution to RSD: 'STOP'

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Alex chats to Dez Rock, a CEO of a major company, but also a woman who is coming to terms with her late diagnosis, and how so much FINALLY makes sense.

Topics:

00:00 Trailer

01:27 Being allergic to small talk

06:16 Dinner with neuro-beige people

08:13 Dinner with neuro-spicy people

11:59 What does someone have to do in order to enter your inner circle

15:34 Masking

18:23 Does status impact how your ADHD is perceived

21:46 Is it toxic to diagnose through Tiktok

23:05 What made sense after your diagnosis

24:47 Relationships

25:36 Neurodiversity in your family

26:16 How ADHD shows up in your marriage

29:09 How has ADHD helped you being a mother

30:31 Heart wrenching moments

33:53 How ADHD has served us as a species

37:57 Washing machine of woes

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Alex chats with Dr Mark Rackley, a leading psychologist who specialises in ADHD. Dr. Mark shares his techniques to manage overthinking, people pleasing, RSD, emotional dysregulation, perfectionism, intrusive thoughts, shame, anger and sleep.

Topics:

00:00 Trailer

01:26 If a new patient were to come into your surgery, where would you start?

04:14 ADHD shame can lead to not wanting to share inadequacies, what is the hidden cost of repressing emotion?

07:19 What is happening in our brains when we experience RSD?

09:11 Is there a difference between how men and women deal with feeling inadequate through the school years?

10:44 How can emotional dysregulation manifest itself in a person who is undiagnosed?

16:34 A girl with undiagnosed ADHD, what might her struggles be in pre-pubescence, vs adolescence and then young adulthood?

19:46 And a boy with undiagnosed ADHD, what might his struggles be in pre-pubescence, vs adolescence and then young adulthood?

21:06 Do you think it's beneficial to have an ADHD diagnosis if someone is exhibiting characteristics of ADHD? 

23:18 What reaction would you commonly see for someone who has had a diagnosis later in life?

25:47 Do you think there's an evolutionary reason that we as ADHDers overthink?

27:22 Is there a benefit to overthinking which no longer exists and otherthinking is a hangover of human nature?

30:47 3 tips to help a busy ADHD mind fall asleep

35:48 How to manage your intrusive thoughts

39:57 Washing machine of woes

43:09 The link between ADHD and perfectionism

46:32 How to assert boundaries and stop people pleasing

51:17 What are 3 major traits someone with ADHD has trouble controlling that negatively affect their lives?

52:01 How do you think feeling inadequate at school can affect people in their later life?

52:53 We spoke previously and you mentioned how some schools are really well versed in ADHD and others aren't. Where are the schools who are not so good at dealing with ADHD going wrong?

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Alex welcomes back Rich & Rox, two-time Sunday Times best selling authors, creators of the body doubling app called Dubbi and founders of the globally recognised brand, ADHD Love!

Topics:

00:00 Trailer

02:16 What have you been up to and what have you learned about yourselves in the past 7 months!

06:48 Have you had any huge ADHD realisations since we last had you on? Either Rox about your own ADHD, or Rich as a close observer of ADHD?

09:45 So, no ADHD diagnosis for you yet Rich?

13:44 Rich, are there still things you just have trouble understanding about ADHD no matter how often they're explained? 

15:34 Rox, be honest, when was the last time you used ADHD to get out of an argument?

28:02 Rich, which one of Rox’s ADHD traits is most likely to cause an argument in your relationship?

31:51 What does a good day look like in your household?

34:36 What does a bad day look like?

35:39 Sobriety and how that’s impacted Rox’s music career

39:48 How do you manage RSD when navigating the music industry?

44:11 I've always wanted to ask a musician, what do you think the association between ADHD and music is?

46:58 Has taking to the stage again dug up anything within you, either insecurities or passion for performing?

50:08 So Rich, when was the last time you had a moment of "Thank god Rox is NOT neurotypical" and you found yourself really cherishing Rox's eccentricities?

52:09 Do you consider that ADHD could be trauma related?

56:30 Rox, has your father now accepted your diagnosis?

60:13 Rox, my producer has a personal question for you…

01:03:46 The ‘ADHD item’ segment

01:05:47 Why your new book is called ‘Small Talk’

01:20:38 Do any heartwarming stories from your audience spring to mind?

01:24:08 Washing machine of woes

01:31:18 Your most impulsive thing

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TJ Power is an esteemed neuroscientist, international speaker, and co-founder of Neurify, an organisation at the forefront of the mental health sector providing accessible and scientifically-backed teachings to enhance the management of mental health.

Topics:

00:00 Trailer

01:49 Let's start with the very basics. What are the 4 happiness chemicals we have as human beings?

03:03 Let's talk about Dopamine. When it comes to dopamine, what are the differences in someone with ADHD vs someone without ADHD?

03:38 As an example, back when we were cavemen and cavewomen, where would our dopamine highs be coming from?

05:54 What does the perfect morning routine look like for someone with ADHD

07:11 Dopamine sources to avoid

09:24 What is Effort dopamine vs Non-effort dopamine?

10:25 How to get natural dopamine hits

11:22 The perfect pre-bed routine for better sleep

14:27 Ice bath demonstration

17:23 What part do real human in-person connections with family and friends play on the ADHD brain with regards to our biochemistry?

19:49 The biochemistry behind maintaining friendships

21:38 Oxytocin and intimacy

23:39 Optimal time to have sex for better sleep

25:30 What is the difference in our biochemistry when a person has sex vs when they watch pornography?

28:40 Can you explain the difference between genetic vs behavioural ADHD in the current day and why there might be some overlap there?

30:12 Washing machine of woes

34:57 The biochemistry behind body doubling

36:22 Certain people with ADHD who might be high-functioning and successful, what do you think they are doing right?

38:07 How does our pursuit for dopamine in ADHDers increase the risk of addiction

43:36 Are coffee and dopamine related?

46:56 The biochemistry of Rejection Sensitivity

52:23 What does your knowledge of dopamine teach us about our eternal pursuit of happiness?

55:38 Most impulsive thing

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In this weeks Diary of late diagnosed ADHD woman, Alex chats to Dez Rock, who shares her late ADHD diagnosis story, and the lessons she's learnt along the way.

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