This Triggers Me – Détails, épisodes et analyse

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Ep.2-Is Empathy for Boys & Men Dangerous?

lundi 20 avril 2026 • Durée 01:00:26

Is empathy for men dangerous or is the real danger what happens when empathy is withheld?

In this episode of This Triggers Me, a psychologist specialized in therapy for men and a sociologist focused on men and boy’s wellbeing take on one of the most polarizing questions about gender dynamics. They explore the tension between empathy and accountability, challenge the fear that supporting men’s mental health enables harm, and unpack how dehumanization fuels division. Through real life examples and psychological frameworks, they examine what it actually looks like to hold both compassion and responsibility at the same time.

Key takeaways:

Why empathy for men is often seen as controversial
The difference between empathy and excusing harmful behavior
How dehumanization (not empathy) is what drives anger and division
The “trauma triangle” (victim, villain, hero) and how it shows up in conflict
How triggers and shame keep people stuck in reactive roles
The impact of polarization in conversations around the male loneliness epidemic and men’s mental health
Common themes in men’s therapy, including self loathing and difficulty with self compassion
Why many men deeply want emotional closeness but struggle to access it
How validating and witnessing pain can reduce defensiveness, anger, and disconnection

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Ep.1- This triggers me: Trigger warnings, trauma responses, and why we're leaning into discomfort

lundi 20 avril 2026 • Durée 58:33

What if the things that “trigger” us are actually the doorway to heal and connect?

In this first episode of This Triggers Me, licensed psychologist Dr. Audra Horney (therapist for men) and Dr. Brendan K Hartman (sociologist focused on boys’ and men’s social emotional wellbeing), unpack why they’re creating a podcast that leans into discomfort instead of avoiding it. From the realities of modern masculinity to the resistance many men feel toward therapy, this conversation sets the tone for deeper, more honest dialogue.

Key takeaways:

Why avoiding triggers can actually make emotional reactions worse and what to do instead
The current cultural polarization around masculinity and gender
How boys and men are often socialized into emotional restriction
The role of loneliness in men’s mental health today
Common barriers and misconceptions around men’s therapy
Why men may struggle to ask for guidance or support
Foundational concepts like the window of tolerance and stress responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn)
How to approach difficult conversations with more curiosity and accountability

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Introducing.. This Triggers Me podcast

mercredi 15 avril 2026 • Durée 01:54

Welcome to the This Triggers Me podcast.Hosted by Dr Audra Horney a licensed psychologist and sociologist Dr. Brendan Hartman, this conversation driven podcast explores masculinity, gender, and emotional development by leaning into charger or triggering topics.Each episode blends psychological insight, sociological perspective, and real dialogue to unpack some of the most polarizing conversations around men today. If you’re tired of surface level takes and ready for conversations that challenge you, stretch you, and actually move you forward, this is where that work begins

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Ep.4- Is There Truth in the Manosphere?

lundi 27 avril 2026 • Durée 01:01:08

What if the content shaping men online is helping them and hurting them at the same time?

In this episode of This Triggers Me, a sociologist focused on masculinity and a psychologist specializing in therapy for men unpack the tension between growth and harm in male targeted spaces online.

They explore the pull of the manosphere, why its messaging resonates with boys and men, and how it intersects with men’s mental health and men’s wellbeing. They also get personal, diving into the challenges of showing up imperfectly, people pleasing, and what it means to model more honest, grounded conversations.

Key takeaways:

How people pleasing and fear of imperfection can show up when talking about men’s mental health
What the manosphere is (and why it’s more nuanced than people think)
The difference between “on ramp” content (fitness, discipline) and more rigid or harmful ideologies
How algorithms expose boys and men to increasingly extreme content over time
Why black and white advice and confidence are so appealing in masculinity spaces
The link between rigid “man box” norms and men’s poorer wellbeing, including higher suicide risk
Why purpose and optimism can increase even within restrictive frameworks
The need for better, healthier messaging around men’s therapy and emotional development
A practical framework for modern masculinity: “build safety, show up, give a damn”
How therapy for men can offer a grounded alternative to the noise and a space to build real emotional strength

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Ep.6- Is Vulnerability A Weakness?

lundi 11 mai 2026 • Durée 53:26

After recording a more polished, intellectual episode about therapy for men (see Episode 5), Audra and Brendan returned to the studio for part 2 because part 1 didn’t feel personal enough.

In this episode of This Triggers Me, Dr Audra Horney (a therapist for men) and Dr. Brendan K. Hartman (a sociologist who researches the emotional well being of boys) dig into the messy, uncomfortable side of vulnerability. They explore why some people (Audra) easily default to intellectual instead of emotional, how performing vulnerability can replace real connection, and how this relates to men’s mental health.

Key takeaways:

Why emotional safety is key to opening up
The difference between real vulnerability and performing vulnerability
How perfectionism and fear of judgment block emotional expression
Why many men feel safer being the helper than receiving help
The impact of emotional suppression on men’s mental health
How sharing with the wrong people can feel worse than not sharing at all
The role of gender socialization on men expressing emotion
How overregulation, shame, and fear of “messing it up” limit connection
The importance of rupture and repair in building emotional trust
How therapy for men can create space to reconnect with yourself and move beyond old patterns

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Ep.5- Is Therapy For Men Safe?

lundi 4 mai 2026 • Durée 01:04:03

What if therapy for men isn’t always the safe, supportive space it’s made out to be?

About this episode:

In this episode of This Triggers Me, a sociologist and a psychologist specializing in men’s therapy unpack why conversations about men’s mental health can feel so triggering and why many men feel let down by therapy itself.

They explore the gap between cultural messaging (“men just need therapy”) and the real experiences of men who report feeling dismissed, misunderstood or judged. This conversation challenges assumptions while offering a more honest look at what actually supports men’s wellbeing.

Key takeaways:

Why men’s mental health and therapy for men can feel triggering or unsafe for some men
Common experiences of invalidation, minimization, and dismissal in therapy
The problem with blanket statements like “all men need therapy”
How the perceived feminization of therapy can create resistance
The impact of weaponized therapy language in relationships and culture
How masculinity norms like self-reliance shape help-seeking behavior
Why the therapeutic relationship not techniques is the strongest predictor of success
A reframing of men’s therapy as collaborative, challenging, and accountability driven (not just venting)
Structural barriers: cost, lack of choice, and gaps in training around men’s experiences
The need for more accessible, nuanced support systems for men’s wellbeing

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Ep.7- Why Are Dad’s So Triggering?

lundi 18 mai 2026 • Durée 49:11

Why do conversations about fathers bring up so much emotion, shame, and defensiveness, especially for men?

In this episode of This Triggers Me, Dr Audra Horney (a therapist for men) and Dr. Brendan K. Hartman (a sociologist who researches the emotional well being of boys) unpack the complicated role fathers play in shaping men’s mental health, identity and emotional development.

From father wounds to modern parenting expectations, they explore why dads are often seen as either sacred or suspect and how both extremes miss the nuance. This conversation dives into generational shifts in fatherhood, emotional connection, shame, repair and the impact fathers have on boys and men’s wellbeing.

Key takeaways:

Why fathers are such a triggering topic in conversations about masculinity and men’s mental health
The tension between over praising dads for “bare minimum” parenting while also under crediting involved fathers
How modern fatherhood has shifted across generations
Common father wounds and why many men struggle to honestly reflect on their relationship with their dad
The impact of emotional connection (or lack of it) on boys’ emotional development and men’s wellbeing
Different father archetypes: the tyrant, the absent/workaholic father, and the teacher
Why repair after mistakes matters more than perfection in parenting
Research on fatherhood, bonding, hormones and paternity leave
The loneliness and isolation many involved fathers experience
Why men in caregiving roles are often treated with suspicion
How therapy for men can help unpack shame, resentment, grief and emotional patterns tied to fatherhood

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Ep.9- Who Triggers Us?

lundi 1 juin 2026 • Durée 56:28

What if the people who trigger you the most are actually showing you something about yourself?

In this episode of This Triggers Me, Dr Audra Horney (a therapist for men) and Dr. Brendan K. Hartman (a sociologist who researches the emotional well being of boys) turn the conversation inward by unpacking who they get triggered by and why. Instead of using triggers as proof someone else is wrong, they explore how triggers can become invitations toward self awareness, accountability and growth.

From online outrage culture to jealousy, self censorship, polarization, and fear of being misunderstood, this conversation dives into the emotional complexity behind public discourse around men’s mental health, gender, and relationships.

Key takeaways:

Why triggers can be opportunities for self-reflection instead of just blame
How outrage culture rewards certainty, confidence, and black and white thinking
Why people with overlapping views can sometimes feel more triggering than complete opposites
The emotional impact of online audiences, comment sections and public scrutiny
How fear of credibility loss shapes conversations around masculinity and men’s mental health
Audra’s reflections on jealousy, self censorship and being compared to creators she disagrees with
Brendan’s critique of gender essentialism and overly simplistic relationship advice online
The tension between intention, audience impact and nuance in creator spaces
How polarization makes meaningful dialogue more difficult
Why therapy for men and emotionally honest conversations require tolerating discomfort and complexity

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Ep.8- What's Underneath the Men vs. Women Suffering Contest?

mardi 26 mai 2026 • Durée 01:00:57

What if men and women stopped arguing about who suffers more and started trying to understand each other instead?

In this episode of This Triggers Me, Dr Audra Horney (a therapist for men) and Dr. Brendan K. Hartman (a sociologist who researches the emotional well being of boys) take on “suffering contests” and the growing divide in conversations around gender.

Through a role reversal exercise, they each advocate for the other gender’s experience, exploring the pain, pressure, loneliness, fear and emotional labor that often go unseen. Instead of debating who has it worse, this conversation focuses on empathy, nuance and what both men and women wish the other truly understood about men’s mental health, relationships, and emotional wellbeing.

Key takeaways:

What “suffering contests” are and how they fuel polarization around gender
The difference between acknowledging pain and weaponizing “what about…” arguments
Why many men crave emotional intimacy, affection, and closeness beyond sex
The impact of touch starvation, shame, and fear of being a burden on men’s mental health
How boys and men are often negatively reinforced for emotional vulnerability
Why many men are trying to grow despite limited emotional socialization
The invisible emotional labor many women carry in relationships and daily life
How safety vigilance and threats to bodily autonomy shape women’s experiences
Why “not all men” conversations often miss the emotional point being made
How role reversal and empty chair exercises can build empathy and understanding
Why emotionally honest dialogue matters for healthier relationships, men’s wellbeing and connection

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