The Terri Cole Show – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Do you ever shrink, freeze, or overreact with authority figures? 

It could happen with a boss, a professor, or even a doctor. 

Your heart races, your thoughts scramble, and afterward you think, Why did I react like that?

You are not alone. 

For many women, interactions with authority can trigger strong emotional responses that may not make sense in the moment. 

Today, we are breaking down why this happens, how it shows up, and the practical steps you can take to change the pattern.

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You keep attracting the same relationship patterns and don't know why. Psychotherapist Jessica Baum explains it's not your fault—your body remembers childhood dynamics through implicit memory and unconsciously recreates them in adulthood. Insecure attachment lives in your nervous system, not just your mind.

Discover why healing happens through safe relationships (not isolation), how to develop "earned security" even if your childhood was chaotic, and why depending on healthy people is the counterintuitive path to inner safety. True healing is somatic, body-based, and possible at any age.

Connect with Jessica Baum on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. Also, here is the freebie link that Jessica mentioned in the episode.

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Discover how childhood trauma and C-PTSD shape our ability to form healthy connections, set boundaries, and rebuild self-trust. In this episode, Anna Runkle, creator of the "Crappy Childhood Fairy," shares her journey, therapeutic writing tools, and insights from her book Connectability.

We explore emotional regulation, nervous system healing, and how to move from isolation to authentic connections. If you're interested in self-help and personal growth, this conversation offers guidance for creating deeper, lasting connections after trauma.

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Are you overly invested in the feeling states, situations, careers, circumstances, and relationships of the people in your life, to the detriment of your own internal peace?

So invested, that setting and maintaining boundaries feels selfish or impossible?

If so, you're not alone, and this episode is for you. I'm looking at the Boundary Boss Bill of Rights from my first book, but through the lens of high-functioning codependency because that's what my newest book, Too Much, is all about! 

For high-functioning codependents (HFCs) who are used to giving, setting boundaries can be challenging, but they're essential to our relationships. These boundary rights can serve as transformative tools for breaking free from the cycle of over-giving, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment so prevalent in HFCs.

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Today John and I are doing something new for the show– We're both interviewing each other for our own podcasts, at the same time! We jam on how breakups create the perfect conditions for reflection, how high-functioning codependency interferes with healthy relationships, and the ultimate purpose of love. Plus, I share some details about how I turned to the web to help more people over a decade ago!

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Are you tired of being the one doing all the things for all the people?

Are you the point person for everything in your family life?

Does it feel like you're the only one who can reliably get things done?

Then this episode is for you because I am talking about a common relational dynamic I see in high-functioning codependents (HFCs): how one person over-functioning causes the other to under-function. 

To illustrate this dynamic, I'm sharing an excerpt and case study from my newest book, Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. You'll learn how this dynamic impacts us, examples of how it shows up in our relationships, and how you can stop over-functioning.

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Today, I'm sharing a chat with Katie Bramlett about her perfectionism, self-acceptance, and rejecting messages from society that harm our mental wellness. She tells us how questioning the toxic nature of the fitness industry led her to co-found WeShape, a fitness app focused on emotional safety and self-acceptance. Plus, how listening to and reconnecting with your body can help your mental health!

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How do you relate to time? 

Are you someone who's always late or meticulously early? Do you schedule yourself within an inch of your life? Do discrepancies in your relationship with time ever create conflict with others?

If you're nodding your head, then this episode is for you, my friend. I'm breaking down time boundaries and how they can become disordered. You'll also learn how to better negotiate time boundaries with yourself and others for a more harmonious relationship with time (seeing as how it IS just a construct in our minds!)

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On today's episode, I'm chatting with Andrea Owen to explore the journey of self-discovery, the nuances of personal growth, and the vital role of vulnerability in relationships. Andrea shares how the re-release of her book, 52 Ways to Life a Kick-Ass Life, addresses personal growth, toxic positivity, and the role of shame in our unwanted behavior patterns. Plus, she tells us how we can use genuine vulnerability to get the help and connection we need!

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Physical and verbal abuse are not the only kinds of childhood trauma that can impact us in our adult lives. Though often overlooked, childhood emotional neglect from parents who were overbearing, overly lax, absent, or dismissive can lead to adult difficulties with self-esteem, emotional literacy, and boundaries. Today I am helping you determine whether you might have experienced childhood neglect and guiding you through some steps you can take to heal now that you are grown up.

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