The Love Drive with Shaun Galanos – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Dan Savage is officially the first guest of The Love Drive relaunch and it's the perfect way to kick off the relaunch.

Dan is a legend in the world of sex, love, and relationships. He is the host of the Savage Lovecast, the writer of the long-running Savage Love advice column, and someone whose work has shaped how many of us think and talk about sex.

In this episode, Shaun shares the story of double texting Dan to beg him to be on the show, how he used to refer to himself as the ‘younger and straighter Dan Savage,” and gets into why he downloaded Grindr. 

They get into herpes stigma, Shaun’s personal experience, Dan’s GGG philosophy, polyamory, age-gap relationships, and the politics shaping modern dating. They also talk about why straight men are often judged more harshly for sexual curiosity, why erections do not always equal arousal, and Dan’s pushback on the Burned Haystack Dating Method.

There is also a candid conversation about Shaun’s past work as an erotic masseur in San Francisco, along with detours into Heated Rivalry, sexual openness, and the campsite rule.

This one is sexually explicit, very funny, and full of honesty.

Timestamps:

(00:42) Shaun introduces Dan Savage

(04:12) Dan Savage joins The Love Drive

(09:36) Herpes stigma and the truth about disclosure

(15:54) Heated Rivalry and what straight people can learn

(21:33) Why straight sex needs more honesty

(25:05) Shaun’s erotic massage story

(28:26) Sex work, loneliness, and human connection

(33:38) Politics, masculinity, and modern dating

(40:46) Burn the haystack or stay open to love

(52:39) Why straight men are judged for curiosity

(01:09:20) Age gaps, the campsite rule, and leaving people better

Send Shaun your questions at +1 (415) 494-9559 or email him at podcast@thelovedrive.com. Voicemails and voicememos are preferred, but texts/emails are OK too. 

To submit a guest, please do so here: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/

If you’re listening on Spotify or watching on YouTube, please leave a comment. Shaun loves hearing from you. And leave a review wherever you listen.

Links:

https://savage.love

https://www.instagram.com/dansavage/

Love Camp: https://shaungalanos.substack.com/p/summer-camp-isnt-just-for-kids-love

Connect with Shaun:

Retreats and latest offerings: https://bit.ly/m/thelovedrive

Read my blog: https://shaungalanos.substack.com

The Love Drive Podcast: https://shaungalanos.com/podcast/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive/

More About Shaun: https://shaungalanos.com/about/

Buy me a coffee: buymeacoffee.com/thelovedrive

I’m both very excited and a tad nervous about relaunching my old podcast, The Love Drive.

Excited because I love having conversations about sex, love, and relationships with other experts, thought leaders, and everyday people. Hosting a podcast is great fun, by the way. And I still have so much to learn about the subject.

And, nervous because a lot has happened over the past few years, and my confidence in many areas isn’t where it used to be. I’ve also felt a lot of grief since my father passed a few years ago, and I’m feeling more tender and vulnerable ever since. 

And yet, here we go.

Here's a sneak peek of what you can expect this month.

New episodes on Tuesdays and Thursdays for the month of March.

Thanks for being here, and enjoy!

A little pep talk on finding great people to love and that no, all the good ones aren't taken (and you should be careful about that belief - confirmation bias is a doozy!)

What happens when the values you hold dear don't line up with those of your partner? How do you leave a loving relationship, knowing that you deserve more? How do you both honor your relationship, and celebrate it, while honoring yourself and leave it?

Today, we explore those answers. 

To book a coaching call

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Grieving a relationship takes time. And it's OK to start dating when you're still thinking about your ex. And you need to be upfront about it. How can you trust that the next relationship will be as good or better than the last? How do you stop comparing your new partner to your old partner?

Today, we explore those answers. 

To book a coaching call

https://thelovedrive.com/coaching

Learn more about The Love Drive

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Become a Contributing Lovebird

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What's so scary about a man being vulnerable? How can we learn to accept, welcome, and celebrate men who show us their sadness, their pain, and their soft side? What can women do to let men know that it's safe to put their guards down and open up?

Shana James is a coach and host of the Man Alive podcast. She works with men on a daily basis, challenging their conception of what it means to be a man. Together, we explore the softer side of men and the implications that can have on relationships.

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• How to set a container to hold a man's vulnerability

• What men can do to begin opening up to their partner in a safe way

• The importance of regular heart to heart check-ins and how to do them

Where to find Shana James:

Website https://shanajamescoaching.com/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/truesuccessformen/

Resources and Links

The Man Alive podcast https://shanajamescoaching.com/man-alive-podcast

Learn more about The Love Drive

Website https://thelovedrive.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive

Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

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Your relationship needs intimacy, passion, and commitment if you want it to stand the test of time. Not only that, you need enough of these three qualities to help you get through the rough or dull parts. And lastly, you need realistic expectations of what a relationship can realistically provide.

Dr. Robert Sternberg is a professor of Human Development at Cornell University, the author of The New Psychology of love, and has been writing on the subject of love for over 30 years.

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The triangular theory of love (intimacy, passion, and commitment)

• The importance of defining what loves means to you

• How putting the other first can lead to long term relationship satisfaction

Where to find Dr. Robert Sternberg:

Website https://lovemultiverse.com/

Resources and Links

The triangular theory of love http://www.robertjsternberg.com/love

The New Psychology of Love by Dr. Robert Sternberg and Dr. Karen Sternberg https://amzn.to/34Q8gZd

Learn more about The Love Drive

Website https://thelovedrive.com/

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Become a Contributing Lovebird

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Kindness matters when it comes to life, relationships, and how we speak to ourselves. Like Roxan says, " anything else ain't shit" and I agree. 

Roxan McDonald is a writer, teacher, and creator behind the spiritual_af Instagram account and today we talk about the importance of kindness in all areas of our life.

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The importance of passion, safety, and kindness to founding great relationships

• How to use attraction to cultivate all sorts of relationships 

• The concept that you are loveable, no matter what

Where to find Roxan McDonald:

Website https://www.roxanmcdonald.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spiritual_af/

Spiritual AF... or Whatever podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/spiritual-af-or-whatever/id1478665758

Resources and Links

Eat to Love book by Jenna Hollenstein book https://amzn.to/36fpYqs

Jenna Hollenstein on The Love Drive Podcast https://thelovedrive.com/relational-self-awareness/

Learn more about The Love Drive

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Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive

Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

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Change is incredibly hard. There's no doubt about it. And yet, the biggest obstacle to change is often fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of failing, and fear of making the wrong decision. What if that fear didn't exist? What then? What crazy life could you dream up, and then make happen? Would you still be in your current job and in your current relationship? Maybe. 

Dr. Jeremy Goldberg is a recovering scientist, lover of life, and empowers folks to change their life daily. We explore how to overcome our limiting beliefs and we go deep on how to win at the game of life. We drop the secret cheat codes to succeeding at life and you don' want to miss it. It could quite possibly change your life.

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• The secret to winning at the game of life

• How death is the biggest motivator to getting anything done

• How to win at comparing yourself to others

Where to find Dr. Jeremy Goldberg:

Website https://www.longdistancelovebombs.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/longdistancelovebombs

Resources and Links

Loving Bravely by Dr. Alexanda Solomon book https://amzn.to/36fpYqs

Dr. Alexandra Solomon on The Love Drive Podcast https://thelovedrive.com/relational-self-awareness/

Learn more about The Love Drive

Website https://thelovedrive.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive

Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/thelovedriveshow/

Become a Contributing Lovebird

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If you haven't heard part 1, I strongly recommend you start there.

One of my former clients shares what prompted her to reach out to me, what the session felt like from beginning to end, and what lasting effects she experienced from receiving loving touch and attention from me. 

We explore the importance of slowing (everything) down, what giving loving touch looks (and feels) like, and why it's crucial to be curious about your partner's sexuality. 

You don't want to miss this one. 

Resources

Aphrodite's Daughters: Women's Sexual Stories and the Journey of the Soul by Jalaja Bonheim

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Emotional Availability Program starts Nov, 7th 2019

https://thelovedrive.com/bemoreopen

Learn more about The Love Drive

Website https://thelovedrive.com/

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive

Become a Contributing Lovebird

Support The Love Drive here https://thelovedrive.com/join/