The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Andrea Vacca returns to explore amicable divorce solutions, even in high-conflict cases. While avoiding litigation is often the goal, sometimes it's unavoidable. Andrea breaks down the benefits of staying out of court, how to keep children at the center, and when it’s time to shift from collaboration or mediation to litigation.

Together, we also explore the power of a team-based approach and the role of a divorce coach, specifically how a coach can save you time, money, and energy! With her expertise in collaborative divorce and positive psychology, Andrea offers a fresh, empowering take on navigating divorce without court.

You’ll also hear:

• The misconception that all high-conflict divorces must go to court, and what it really takes to stay out of litigation (5:08)
• Why mediation isn’t always the best fit for high-conflict couples and what alternative approaches may work better (8:53)
• The power of a team approach, including the role of a divorce coach in navigating conflict (11:20)
• Strategies for keeping children at the center of decisions (32:29)

Learn more about Andrea Vacca: Andrea Vacca is the founder of Vacca Family Law Group in Manhattan, a boutique law firm focused on non-adversarial divorce and family law matters including divorce, separation, and prenuptial and postnuptial agreements. With a background in traditional divorce litigation, Andrea now exclusively helps her clients find amicable divorce solutions outside of court. She is a widely recognized collaborative divorce attorney and mediator, former President of the New York Association of Collaborative Professionals, author of the book Divorce Without Court: A More Peaceful Solution, and creator and host of “A Better Divorce” podcast. In addition to her law degree, Andrea holds a Certificate in Positive Psychology and recently became a Certified Positive Psychology Coach. Andrea regularly applies Positive Psychology principles in her work to help her clients navigate divorce, including having a growth mindset, being resilient, and encouraging mindfulness, helping them emerge stronger and more empowered.

Resources & Links:

Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025
Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes
Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 
Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

Andrea’s website, Vacca Family Law Group
Get a free digital copy of Andrea's book, Divorce Without Court: A More Peaceful Solution
Andrea on Facebook
Andrea on Instagram
Andrea on LinkedIn
Andrea on YouTube

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Episode link:
https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-313-divorce-without-court-is-it-really-possible-with-andrea-vacca

John Kim, aka The Angry Therapist, joins me to chat about his new book, Breakup on Purpose: A Catalyst for Growth. A bestselling author, well-known for his raw, no-nonsense approach to self-help, John keeps it real by practicing full authenticity and transparency.

In this episode, he challenges us to rethink breakups. No one really talks about the different kinds of breakups, but John breaks them down into eight distinct types and explains how understanding which one you're going through can be a total game-changer. 

We dive into how this framework can help you process your experience, focus your healing, and even turn your breakup into an opportunity for growth.

You’ll also hear:

• Why understanding your specific breakup type can help you prioritize healing (4:55)
• John goes through all eight breakup types and explains the different responses they may create (6:07)
• How healing from divorce is different from other breakups (37:15)

Learn more about John Kim: John Kim, LMFT is a bestselling author with a new book out called: BREAK UP ON PURPOSE: A Catalyst for Growth. Kim blogs as The Angry Therapist, and practices complete authenticity and transparency with his many clients. He is also the bestselling author of: “It’s Not Me, It’s You;” “Single. On Purpose,” and “I Used to be a Miserable F*ck.”

Resources & Links:

Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025

Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

John’s website

John on Instagram

John on Facebook

John on YouTube

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Episode Link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-312-breakup-on-purpose-with-the-angry-therapist-john-kim-lmft/

I’m bringing back one of my most impactful conversations with psychologist and writer Dr. Kerry Kerr McAvoy about healing from narcissistic relationships. We unpack the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who has narcissistic personality disorder, the profound impact it can have on your emotional and mental well-being, and actionable strategies for self-nurturing after the relationship ends.

We also take a closer look at the common phrase “it takes two to tango” and what it means in the context of unhealthy relationships. If you’re healing from a toxic relationship or want to gain clarity on what healthy love looks like, listen to this episode again or tune in for the first time.

What you’ll hear:

• We explore the phrase “It takes two to tango…” Does it, though, when narcissistic abuse or toxicity is involved in a relationship? 
• Is there anything that you can do to help a narcissistic and abusive partner? The short answer is no. 
• Narcissistic Personality is a disorder. It’s not a mental health condition. Kerry explains the distinction. 
• Focusing on and nurturing yourself back to life is essential in a relationship that has dimmed you. 

Learn more about Kerry McAvoy:

Kerry Kerr McAvoy is a psychologist and a writer who educates on social media about cultivating healthy relationships, deconstructing narcissism, and understanding various other mental health-related issues. Her book, Love You More, gives an uncensored glimpse into the dynamics of narcissistic abuse.

Resources & Links:

Unbreakable – the Divorce Recovery Retreat, Sedona, AZ in April 2025

Submit your questions here for possible inclusion in future Q&A podcast episodes

Focused Strategy Sessions with Kate 

Phoenix Rising: A Divorce Empowerment Collective

Kerry’s book, Love You More

Kerry on TikTok

Kerry on Instagram

Kerry on Facebook

Kerry on YouTube

Why Can’t I Just Leave (book)

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Episode link:

https://kateanthony.com/podcast/featured-episode-healing-from-narcissistic-relationships-with-dr-kerry-kerr-mcavoy/

Gabrielle Hartley returns to the show to discuss the secret to getting along with others! Gabrielle is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee,

a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It’s Easier Than You Think,” is available for pre-order. 

Gabrielle says that when you learn the steps of getting along, there is nothing more satisfying than being in agreement. Listen to this episode to hear how meeting your deepest emotional needs will lead to resolving conflict.

Featured topics include:

• The framework of Gabrielle’s YES Method and how it encourages people to get along (12:50)
• Knowing when to shelve a conversation and take space (19:30)
• If you can understand what the other person really needs, you can settle almost any argument (24:47)
• Gabrielle explains what she means when she says, “Defensiveness is the enemy of resolution.” (32:42)
• The VIR protocol: visualizing how you want things to be (36:14)

Learn more about Gabrielle Hartley, Esq.:

Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee,

a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It’s Easier Than You Think” will be released this May. She offers a weekly newsletter, The Conflict Code” and hosts The Better Apart Blog and is a frequently quoted media expert in the peaceful divorce realm (The New York Times, Vice, WNYC, Forbes, Psychology Today,etc.) Gabrielle is former court attorney to NYS Supreme Court Judge Jeffrey Sunshine.  

While writing her first book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (HarperCollins2019) she realized that we all need to get along better in all facets of our lives. Gabrielle developed the YES Method based on more than 25 years working as a top divorce lawyer and mediator.

The Secret to Getting Along was recently selected as a Next Big Idea Club must-read and her Tedx Talk on her strategy has been viewed over 62 thousand times.

Resources & Links:

Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-215-the-secret-to-getting-along-with-gabrielle-hartley-esq/

Join me for a special Split UP: The TEEN Years screening event on Friday, May 12th! To secure your spot and get all the details, visit http://kateanthony.com/split.

A Conversation about the film Split UP: The TEEN Years with Christina McGhee and Ellen Bruno

Gabrielle's website
Gabrielle on Facebook
Gabrielle on Instagram
The Secret To Getting Along and Why It's Easier Than You Think
The Secret To Getting Along is Easier Than You Think TEDx Talk

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This week, Dr. Jeannette Lofas joins me to discuss why the step-family unit differs entirely from a traditional family. She explains why the science, rules, and roles of the step-family are uniquely distinct. Dr. Lofas also shares insights and advice about how to make the step-family structure work for your changing family, following divorce and remarriage. 

Jeannette Lofas, Ph.D., is a pioneering authority in stepfamily relationships, divorce, remarriage, and children. She is also the founder and president of the Stepfamily Foundation -- the first organization in the world devoted solely to the problems and challenges encountered in step relationships. 

Featured topics include:

• The step-family cannot and will not function as an intact family (12:03)
• Why identifying roles in the step-family system and defining rules is important (13:41)
• The role of the step-mother or step-parent (15:24)
• Dr. Lofas shares some of the rules of the step-family (22:19)
• The issue with the phrase “blended family” (28:07)

Resources & Links:

Information and links may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-214-navigating-step-family-relationships-with-dr-jeannette-lofas/

Join me for a special Split UP: The TEEN Years screening event on Friday, May 12th! To secure your spot and get all the details, visit http://kateanthony.com/split.

Download The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Curated Podcast Playlist
The Stepfamily Foundation
Dr. Lofas on Instagram
Dr. Lofas on LinkedIn
A Conversation about the film, Split UP: The TEEN Years with Christina McGhee and Ellen Bruno

Learn more about Dr. Jeannette Lofas:

Dr. Jeannette Lofas (Ph.D., LCSW) is a therapist specializing in stepfamilies. Dr. Lofas herself is a divorcee, successfully remarried. (She is also a stepchild and a stepmother.) She has been helping stepfamilies for more than four decades and said there is not a question she hasn’t answered.

Dr. Lofas believes that the stepfamily does not and cannot function as a biological family. Author of four books, she has deep and specific knowledge of the science of the stepfamily system where the roles and rules are very different from traditional marriages. More an expert consultant than a traditional therapist, Lofas offers an approach which is actionable, practical and solution based to help you succeed in this different dynamic. She defines responsibilities and contributions for every member of the stepfamily and teaches communication skills, focusing on positivity, manners, visitation, the prior spouse, co-parenting and more. Dr. Lofas believes solutions come from education about how to manage stepfamily relationships – and she speaks to everyone in the family. Lofas is also a Certified Divorce and Co-Parenting Mediator.

Lofas is former TV reporter/film critic for ABC, NBC and CBS.

In her linked in profile she provides some background as to how she became a stepfamily expert:

"When I remarried I found myself lost and in conflict within my own new family. I was amazed to find that my beloved husband sided with his four girls rather than me. Before we got marred his girls and I were best of pals. I was devastated. My husband and I began fighting over his not taking my side, discipline, putting his children before me, and my 10-year-old son.

Dismayed I contacted every therapist in the state and then began to call all over the US. There was no one there. Having come out of TV on air broadcast news and being an experienced interviewer I turned to looking for and talking to others in similar situations. From that information I created my first book. LIVING IN STEP: A Remarriage Manual.

As a result people started asking me for advice. I decided to make a career transition and to counsel people who had remarried with children. My reputation as a writer and counselor spread so that I was invited as a guest on such TV programs as Oprah, Montel Williams, The Today show, CBS Morning News and Fox. I have also been interviewed by periodicals such as the NY Times, The Ladies Home Journal (Woman of the Month) and Vogue to name a few.

I live in constant gratitude and delight watching my client families grow from chaos and conflict to laughter and love."

Dr. Lofas is the recipient of a 1995 presidential award for her ‘outstanding efforts in strengthening step relationships across America’ and is president of the Stepfamily Foundation https://www.stepfamily.org/, a not-for-profit that she founded in 1976. She is the author of Living In Step, with Ruth Roosevelt, McGraw-Hill, 1976; He's OK, She's OK: Honoring the Differences Between Men & Women, Tzedakah, 1995; Family Rules, Kensington Books, 1998; and Stepparenting, 3rd Edition May 2004, Citadel Books, one of the largest selling books of its kind.

Dr. Lofas counsels clients from around the world.

 

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How will your choices about divorce affect your children now and in the future? The creator of the films Split and Split UP: The TEEN Years, Ellen Bruno, says, “The connection between how parents frame the changing family, separation, and divorce profoundly impacts kids.” Split UP: The TEEN Years documents the experiences of teenagers with divorce. Christina McGhee and Ellen Bruno join me in this episode to discuss this new film and share their insights and takeaways for parents and children.  

Split UP: The TEEN Years is comforting, poignant, and deep. The children in these films are the best teachers. They provide the opportunity to see how families experience divorce and its impact on children. 

Featured topics include:

• The impetus for creating the films Split and Split UP: The TEEN Years (6:27)
• How the movie gives parents an unfiltered look into how this experience feels for children (10:58)
• The choices you make in your divorce now impact children for the rest of their lives (11:45)
• The greatest gift we can give our children is to rise up, take the high road, and keep them at the center of the divorce (14:37)
• When the family begins to change, it is important to remind kids that “They are wanted, they are loved, and this is not their fault.”  (33:34)

Join us for a special Split UP: The TEEN Years screening event on Friday, May 12th! To secure your spot and get all the details, visit http://kateanthony.com/split.

Learn more about Christina McGhee and Ellen Bruno:

Christina McGhee, MSW,  is an internationally recognized divorce parenting expert, speaker, and author of the critically acclaimed book PARENTING APART: How separated and divorced parents can raise happy and secure kids and the founder of divorceandchildren.com.

Ellen Bruno is an award-winning documentary filmmaker based in San Francisco. With a background in international relief work, Ellen’s films have focused on issues at the forefront of human rights. 

Resources & Links:

Download The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Curated Podcast Playlist

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Solo Episode alert!! 

After over a decade of working with thousands of women, I’ve become really good at mapping out the entire divorce process and pinpointing where on that map someone might land. I’ve become so good at it that I actually created something I’m calling The Divorce Roadmap.

In this episode, I share the three stages of the Roadmap: Awareness, Action, and Moving On, and explore the various phases within each stage. Divorce journeys are almost never linear, they ebb and flow and have hard times and times when things fall neatly into place. Knowing where you are on your journey can help you prepare for what’s to come. If, after listening to this episode, you have found yourself somewhere along the map described, I have resources for every phase and every stage. Download your free Divorce Roadmap today!

Resources & Links:
Information and resources may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-212-your-divorce-roadmap-the-stages-and-phases-of-divorce

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“Mom, did Dad cheat on you?” If and when your child comes to you with questions about why you and your ex are divorcing, do you know how you plan to respond?  

This week, Christina McGhee joins me to talk about how to walk the line between not gaslighting your children versus not throwing a co-parent under the bus or telling children truths that might be too hard for them to hear. In this episode, you’ll hear practical strategies for maneuvering this complex situation.

This is an important episode for any parent going through a divorce or experiencing hardships in their relationship. As you listen, please remember to allow yourself grace as you walk this difficult journey with your kids. 

Featured topics include:

• How to communicate with kids about the ‘whys’ around the ending of your marriage (4:55)

• A reminder that you do not need to give a full accounting of your marital issues (13:20)

• Meet your kids where they’re at, and focus on their feelings. (14:08)

• You don’t need all of the answers in order to have a conversation with your children. (20:58)

• Think before you speak and consider: Do you need to share certain information because your child should hear it or because you feel the need to tell it? (23:02)

• How to respond when your child says their co-parent is not emotionally available to have a conversation or listen to them, and how to help your kids learn to cope. (25:28)

Learn more about Christina McGhee:

 Christina McGhee, MSW is an internationally recognized divorce parenting expert, speaker, and author. While splitting up is undeniably hard, Christina believes divorce doesn't have to equal devastation for families. She feels with the right kind of information and support, parents have the ability to be a child's absolute best resource when families change. 

Throughout her career, she has educated both parents and professionals on how to minimize the impact of divorce on children. In her book, PARENTING APART: How separated and divorced parents can raise happy and secure kids,  Christina offers parents useful strategies for dealing with the “real-life” everyday challenges of coparenting.

 One of her core beliefs is that divorce doesn’t make you a bad parent, it makes you a parent going through a bad time.  Because she is passionate about helping parents get through that bad time, Christina also maintains an active coaching practice that allows her to work with Moms and Dads all over the world.

Most recently, Christina launched an online program, Coparenting with Purpose. Designed to provide moms and dads with an easy, convenient way to access critical information, it’s filled with practical tools and solutions for managing the most common coparenting problems.

Additionally, she has contributed to several other media projects as a featured expert, a content consultant, and a writer/producer. Currently, she serves as a consulting producer and subject matter expert for the documentaries SPLIT: A film for kids and their parents and Split UP: The Teen Years, two compelling films that let kids know they’re not alone and normalize the many feelings and experiences children and teens encounter when parents part.

Over the years, she has been featured on television, radio, podcasts, and in print around the US and abroad. A few places you may have seen her are TODAY Parents, the BBC, The Times, and Parents Magazine.

Married for over twenty-seven years, Christina and her husband live outside of Houston, Texas. As a mom of four (two bonus and two bio) children, she has acquired extensive on-the-job training as a chauffeur, negotiator, short-order cook, scheduler extraordinaire, and finder of all things lost. To find out more,  check her out at divorceandchildren.com

Resources & Links:
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Episode 209: Sex Addiction, Cheating, and Betrayal with Dr. Rob
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Rebecca Zung returns to the show to share her expertise on narcissism and negotiation. Rebecca is a Narcissism Negotiation Expert, founder of the SLAY negotiation method, popular YouTuber, and one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation.

In this episode, Rebecca sheds light on what it’s like to have a partner who is a narcissist and what happens when you want to get out of the relationship. She also shares valuable advice on dealing with a narcissistic ex who launches a smear campaign about you, describes her SLAY negotiation method, and debunks some myths. This episode contains insightful advice and value for anyone looking to break free from a narcissistic partner or ex-partner.

Featured topics include:

• What it’s like to have a partner who is a narcissist, and what happens when you want to get out of the relationship (3:36)
• When your narcissist ex launches a smear campaign about you: never defend, explain, justify, or overshare (11:09)
• Rebecca busts some myths about narcissists, including “narcissists just want to win.” (24:40)
• How to slay your negotiations with a narcissist (27:43)
• Certain things are negotiable, and certain things are not: what is not negotiable is your self-respect and your value as a human (38:21)

Learn more about Rebecca Zung:

Rebecca Zung is a Narcissism Negotiation Expert, founder of the SLAY negotiation method, popular YouTuber (more than 20 MILLION VIEWS in less than 2 years), and one of the Top 1% of attorneys in the nation, having been recognized by U.S. News & World Report as a “Best Lawyer in America”, as “Legal Elite” by Trend Magazine, and recognized by her peers and the judiciary as AV preeminent rated in family law, the highest possible rating for an attorney by Martindale Hubbell. She is the author of TWO bestselling books, Negotiate Like You M.A.T.T.E.R.: The Sure Fire Method to Step Up and Win (foreword by Robert Shapiro) and Breaking Free: A Step-by-Step Divorce Guide for Achieving Emotional, Physical, and Spiritual Freedom, and is a sought after major media contributor. Her perspectives are in high demand by television and print outlets, as she has been featured in or on Extra, Forbes, Huffington Post, Newsweek, Time, Dr. Drew, NPR Talk Radio, Good Day New York, and CBS Los Angeles among others. Now, she is continuing to serve through her very popular YouTube channel, media appearances, podcast, articles, and on-demand programs such as S.L.A.Y. Your Negotiation™ with a Narcissist, SLAY the Narcissist in Family Court, and Breaking Free™ Divorce Masterclasses.

Resources & Links:

Links and information may also be found at: https://kateanthony.com/podcast/episode-210-slay-your-negotiations-with-a-narcissist-with-rebecca-zung/

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Is it sex addiction, or is he just a cheater? Does the distinction even matter? That is just one of the topics I discuss in this episode with my guest, Robert Weiss, Ph.D., LCSW (Dr. Rob). Dr. Rob is the Chief Clinical Officer of Seeking Integrity LLC, which provides online education and residential treatment for sex, porn, and substance/sex-addicted men and their families.

During our conversation, we delve into the differences between sex addiction and love addiction and discuss whether sex addiction is just a fancy name for cheating. We also explore coping with betrayal and how to move forward and restore trust as a couple.

This episode provides a deep and informative conversation about sex addiction and cheating and provides insights for listeners who may be struggling with these issues in their own relationships.

Featured topics include:

• The difference between sex addiction and love addiction (5:18)
• Is sex addiction just a fancy name for cheating? (15:09)
• Coping with betrayal: understanding betrayal trauma and ambivalent love (22:44)
• How to move forward and restore trust as a couple after betrayal (30:20)
• “There is nothing you have ever done that caused this to happen.” (38:42)
• Dr. Rob sounds off about codependence vs. prodependence (39:05)
• The impact on children when a parent cheats or is a sex addict, plus what to say or not to say to a child about their cheating/addicted parent (51:50)

Learn more about Dr. Rob:

Robert Weiss, Ph.D., LCSW is Chief Clinical Officer of Seeking Integrity LLC, with clinical programs that provide online education and residential treatment for sex, porn, and substance/sex-addicted men and their families. A psychotherapist and addiction specialist, he has created six intimacy and addiction treatment programs in the US, Southeast Asia, and the US military. Dr. Weiss is an online host for Digital Addiction on A&E. He has served as a subject-matter expert for numerous major media outlets, including CNN, NPR, and The New York Times, among others. He is the author of eleven books, including Prodependence, Sex Addiction 101, and Out of the Doghouse. His Psychology Today blog, “Love and Sex in the Digital Age,” has over 21 million reads, while his podcast, “Sex, Love, & Addiction,” has over 1.1 million downloads.

Resources & Links:

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TODAY’S EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY:
THE REVISED SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO? PROGRAM

  An online coaching program designed to help you make the right decision about your marriage…once and for all.  In this groundbreaking online coaching program, you’ll unlock the support, education and deep transformational work you need to finally answer to your most burning question: should I stay or should I go?  

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