On Purpose with Jay Shetty – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Do you feel unproductive?

How can you boost your daily productivity?

Today, Jay talks about how to become productive without feeling burned out. In a world where productivity often leads to burnout, Jay offers practical and transformative strategies to help you achieve more while reducing stress. Whether you're feeling overwhelmed by an endless to-do list or struggling to manage your time effectively, this episode provides the tools you need to reclaim your focus and energy. 

Jay shares the importance of creating a workspace that fuels productivity and how subtle changes, like scent and sound, can enhance your environment. He also highlights the significance of workplace trust and how identifying whether an issue is people- or system-related can save you time and energy. He wraps up with insights on "monk mode," a method to achieve deep focus in the midst of distractions, and encourages listeners to experiment with these principles to find what works best for them..

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to focus on one task at a time for better productivity

How to identify key drivers of success 

How to lean into your momentum for maximum output

How to use a 'to start' list instead of a to-do list

Tune in to discover how to be productive without compromising your well-being, and walk away with actionable tips that you can implement immediately. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:29 Burnt Out Already?

04:03 Tip #1: Doing One Thing at a Time

10:10 Tip #2: Clean Your External Space

12:40 Tip #3: Create a To-Start-List

14:17 Tip #4: Give Yourself Positive Validation of Task Completion

18:51 Tip #5: No Email Until 10AM

19:47 Tip #6: Goal of the Day, Goal of the Week

22:03 Tip #7: Know When is Your Most Productive Time

23:41 Tip #8: Create a Space of Workplace Trust

26:21 Tip #9: Focus on What’s Causing Success or Failure

27:42 Tip #10: Lock Into Your Task

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What's a simple negotiation trick you can try today?

How can you get better at persuading others?

Today, Jay welcomes former FBI lead international kidnapping negotiator and author of "Never Split the Difference", Chris Voss. He is renowned for his innovative negotiation strategies that emphasize empathy, emotional intelligence, and tactical communication. After retiring from the FBI, Voss founded The Black Swan Group, a consultancy firm that provides negotiation training for businesses and individuals. He is also a popular speaker and has taught negotiation at various business schools.

Chris discusses his journey from being on a SWAT team to becoming a lead FBI negotiator. He shares that his career path changed after a knee injury and his growing interest in crisis response led him to hostage negotiation where he found the work more satisfying than his previous roles, emphasizing the importance of decisive action in crises.

Chris and Jay discuss how human beings are naturally wired to be negative as a survival mechanism, which impacts negotiations. He reframes negotiation as a collaborative process rather than a confrontational one and suggests that effective negotiation often goes unnoticed because it looks like seamless collaboration. They also talk about gender dynamics in negotiation, with Voss providing advice on how women can better negotiate in environments where they might be undervalued.  

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to calm tense talks

How to negotiate with narcissists

How to disarm aggression

How to foster collaboration

How to build rapport

In any situation, effective negotiation is not about winning at all costs but about creating a shared path forward that benefits everyone involved. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:23 Becoming a Lead Negotiator

04:08 Suicide Hotline Conversations

08:03 Labeling the Negative Emotions

09:35 Negotiation Isn’t a Form of Conflict

14:59 How to Get Someone to Collaborate with You?

21:15 How Do You Slow Down?

25:10 How Do You Prepare for a Negotiation?

29:54 Biggest Negotiation Mistakes

31:42 Always Look for the Patterns

40:20 Used and Taken Advantage Of

44:21 The Illusion of Control

46:17 What’s Your Intention?

48:37 How to Negotiate a Better Salary?

50:49 Reward Strategy in the Workplace

53:33 Negotiating Unfulfilled Salary Raise 

58:57 How Can Women Negotiate Better?

01:00:57 Negotiations That Don’t End with a Deal

01:05:03 Work with the ELFs

01:11:05 Polite Boundary Setting

01:16:29 How to Not Be Emotional When Negotiating

01:22:08 Are You in the Right Relationship?

01:25:55 Respecting Other People’s Values

01:30:52 Tactical Empathy Documentary

01:34:01 Chris on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Chris Voss | Website

Chris Voss | Instagram

Chris Voss | LinkedIn

Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It

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What do you look for in a partner?

What do you think makes a relationship interesting?

Today, let's talk about the disparity between what people say they want in a partner — traits like kindness, empathy, and thoughtfulness — and what they often find themselves attracted to, which may be more superficial qualities like physical attractiveness.

Jay references research from the Pew Research Center to highlight that 35% of men value physical attractiveness most in women, while 33% of women value honesty and morality most in men. He discusses how societal pressures and media influence shape these preferences and often lead people to prioritize the wrong traits, which can result in unsatisfying relationships.

Additionally, Jay addresses the issues of men looking for nurturing qualities in women, sometimes in an unhealthy, maternal sense, and the pressure on men to achieve professional and financial success. He also touches on the societal expectations and challenges faced by successful women who feel they need to downplay their achievements to attract partners.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to identify cover values in a partner

How to balance attraction and values

How to avoid common relationship pitfalls

How to build a connection based on values

How to foster a healthy relationship

By focusing on qualities like kindness, empathy, and honesty, we can build deeper, more meaningful connections. True compatibility goes beyond physical attraction and societal expectations, it's rooted in shared values and mutual respect.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:26 What Is More Important to Us in a Partner?

04:44 #1: Physical Attractiveness

05:16 #2: Honesty and Morality

08:37 #3: Empathy, Nurturing, Kindness

15:30 #4: Professional, Financial Success

18:49 #5: Intelligence

23:06 Looking for Love in the Wrong Places

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What was your biggest dream as a child?

Growing up, did you have the best environment to pursue these dreams? Or did you need to set them aside for a different purpose in life?

Today, Jay sits down with the iconic voice behind Elsa from the film Frozen, Idina Menzel. Idina's other well-known character is Elphaba in the original Broadway production of the musical "Wicked." She co-authored the children's book, Loud Mouse.

One of the big takeaways here is how our dreams and ambitions are like living entities, always changing and growing, just like we are. As we navigate life's various chapters, our goals shift in response to what matters most to us. It's a reminder that it's perfectly okay for our dreams to evolve and expand as we do.

Idina has a way of nudging us to appreciate diverse viewpoints and experiences. The podcast encourages us to embrace this and to seek understanding and connection with others. There's a powerful message about the strength in being open, vulnerable, and compassionate in a world that can sometimes be a bit harsh. 

In this interview, you’ll learn:

How our dreams evolve throughout the years

How to navigate challenges that come our way

How to be less self-absorbed in certain situations

Why understanding someone has limitations

How to allow your authentic voice to be heard

Ultimately, this conversation is like a friendly nudge to live life on our terms, free from the weight of other people's judgments. It's an invitation to explore our ever-changing perspectives, to find strength in resilience, and to chase our passions with fervor.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:31 What keeps you going these days?

06:00 When you start seeing things differently through a different lens

08:43 The story of a young girl learning her way with music through experience

12:23 How ambition and dreams can evolve through the years

16:07 The long developmental process of musical shows

19:46 The mission was to show up and never miss a show

23:39 How do you find perspective and become less self-absorbed?

26:14 How do you stay present in the moment?

31:09 How to communicate through differences with parents and children   

35:55 Idina wrote a children’s book that allows children to be more themselves!

40:39 How do you allow your authentic voice to be heard?

41:54 What it is like to revisit a character you played years later

44:27 Why it is challenging to believe we can walk in someone else’s shoes 

46:37 Stop worrying about what other people think and live your own life

Episode Resources:

Idina Menzel | Website

Idina Menzel | Instagram

Idina Menzel | YouTube

Idina Menzel | Facebook

Idina Menzel | TikTok

Loud Mouse

Drama Queen Digital Album

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How far are you willing to go to pursue your passion and achieve success?

Do you sometimes find yourself sitting in silence and getting in your own thoughts?

When we're driven by our passion, we become creative, motivated, and enduring every hardship that comes our way. 

Today, Airbnb Co-founder and Chief Executive Officer Brian Chesky sits down with Jay for an honest and eye-opening conversation about the other side of success. 

Brian talks about how crucial it is to choose your group wisely for the people you surround yourself with can make a big difference, sharing success with others keeps you from feeling all alone in your victories, and the need for balance between focusing on your goals and creating a community where you can thrive. 

Mental health is another important point of discussion as well as the outdated perceptions we have of ourselves that potentially blocks personal growth. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to be wise in choosing your people

How to keep valuable friendships

How to deal with success

How to overcome loneliness

How to be of service to others

How creativity can solve problems

Join us in this engaging conversation as we navigate the twists and turns, seeking wisdom and connection for personal growth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:16 Choose the people you want to surround yourself with

05:33 Going in a journey that will help you learn something new about yourself

08:47 Never allow arguments to win over your friendships

13:28 Share your success or else it might feel so isolating

18:24 To truly understand someone is to try to walk in their shoes

20:35 That feeling where you don’t fit in anywhere

28:29 Loneliness has led to a lot of mental health issues

34:59 Worry less about what people think, focus on what you can share with others

39:42 There are two words that define being alone - loneliness and solitude

41:40 Creativity is about bringing different experiences together

49:00 Try more things, have more experiences, and avoid seeking status

50:41 What would your younger self tell you now?

55:37 We are who we think other people think we are

57:48 The tendency to make an outdated perception of ourselves

01:00:32 How do you want to be remembered?

01:03:15 Singular focus is good for success but it has limitations  

01:09:03 What keeps you up at night?

01:14:19 How do you process your thoughts and ideas?

01:17:38 Finding a shared value and having clarity about what you want to do

01:20:13 Losing yourself while pursuing your passion

01:24:00 How do you want to define family?

01:27:47 The wisdom of older people and the curiosity of a child

01:32:16 Even though things are interconnected, it doesn’t mean they’re all the same

01:36:12 Brian on Final Five

Episode Resources:

Brian Chesky | Instagram

Airbnb

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Each year is a new year to develop new skills and acquire more knowledge.

We also discover more things about ourselves and learn new lessons along the way.

In this birthday episode special, I'm sharing with you some of the biggest personal and professional reflections in the past 12 months. Our relationships greatly influence our well-being so it's crucial to surround ourselves with individuals who uplift and support us. Our bodies are our most essential assets, and nurturing them is a fundamental responsibility. 

In reality, even with the purest of intentions, there will always be individuals who seek to undermine or criticize us.  It encourages resilience in the face of negativity and a focus on staying true to one's path. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

The importance of self-care

How to stay grounded

How to love yourself more

Being perfect isn't required when helping others

How to serve others with gratitude

These valuable life lessons provide a roadmap for personal growth, resilience, and a meaningful life. They serve as reminders of the beauty and complexity of human existence, encouraging us to learn and evolve.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:56 Personal and professional reflections for the last 12 months

02:43 Lesson #1: Be really conscious about who you keep and let go in your life

07:33 Lesson #2: Take care of your body like your life depends on it

12:19 Lesson #3: It’s okay to ask for a hug or help from others

16:40 Lesson #4: Don’t buy into your own hype, stay connected to where you started

19:37 Lesson #5: People will always try to tear you down no matter how good your intentions are

22:10 Lesson #6: Different levels come with different problems

26:11 Lesson #7: As you get older, don't forget to do things for your younger self. 

29:45 Lesson #8: Give yourself permission to be all of you 

30:22 Lesson #10: You don't have to be perfect to help others

31:11 Lesson #9: You can’t avoid mistakes but don’t avoid the lesson

32:38 Lesson #11: Make new memories instead of living old ones again and again

34:03 Lesson #12: Use your gifts and skills in the service of others.

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Anxiety is an ongoing battle that happens right inside your mind.

Your mind becomes this never-ending movie reel of worst-case scenarios, and it just keeps on playing. 

When we're stuck with anxious thoughts, we want to find an escape.

Today, singer and songwriter Reneé Rapp, known for her role of Regina George in the Tony-nominated Mean Girls musical on Broadway, sits down with me to share her incredible journey. 

Reneé and I offer insights on how to prepare oneself mentally and emotionally for the inevitable disappointments that life may bring, the insidious nature of self-criticism and its far-reaching effects, and the art of expressing vulnerability without fearing miscommunication.

Self-doubt can be a formidable obstacle to pursuing one's passions. We will also explore the strategies to confront and overcome self-doubt and overcome the role of being one's own harshest critic.

In this interview, you will learn:

How to understand perception and well-being

How to prepare for future disappointment

How to be less self-critical

How to manage your inner voice

How to express insecurities effectively

How to stay resilient in challenging situations

Together, let us transform uncertainties into positivity and look forward to reshaping our mindset.  

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Reneé Rapp’s debut album “Snow Angel” is out now http://reneerapp.lnk.to/snowangel 

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:46 Understanding how others perceive you and its impact on your well-being

05:05 What happens with you come face-to-face with a stalker

06:57 Ways to not prepare yourself for future disappointment  

09:03 Why excessive self-criticism can hurt your self-confidence

11:20 How do you interpret your inner voices? 

14:32 How to find a mindset to help yourself improve 

17:45 Cultivating a passion for acting, even when it presents occasional challenges

20:41 How do you express your insecurities effectively without fearing miscommunication

23:08 Do you let self-doubt keep you from pursuing your passions?

26:55 How resilient are you in the most unfavorable situations?

35:19 Placing trust in the wrong people can have adverse consequences on your life

40:44 How to find a strong inner group filled with trust

41:39 Reneé recounts a traumatic experience 

45:16 Stay focused on the love for your family and the special people in your life

48:03 How can you escape the self-imposed role of being your own harshest critic?

50:46 What would you tell yourself now?

52:48 If you could unlearn something from your past, what new knowledge or skill would you want to acquire now?

55:16 How can you transform the uncertainties in your life into more positive, joyful experiences?

01:17 Renee on Final Five 

Episode Resources:

Reneé Rapp | YouTube

Reneé Rapp | Instagram

Reneé Rapp | TikTok

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Ever find yourself yearning for a deeper bond with those around you?  

Creating deeper connections doesn't have to be an exhausting or daunting task.

We can still create connections in the simplest most ordinary ways if we make time for it and show sincerity. 

From the hustle and bustle of everyday life to the moments of solitude, we'll uncover the secrets to forging relationships that stand the test of time. Your social life doesn't have to feel like a performance – let's make it a celebration.

Let's explore how broadening your emotional language can be the key to unlocking a world of deeper connections. Say goodbye to surface-level chatter and say hello to discussions that spark genuine connections. From sharing smiles with strangers to using technology to our advantage, each habit is a stepping stone to deeper relationships. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to bridge connection gap

How to tune into yourself before making connections

How to be more vocal about your emotions

How to make new memories with old friends

How to start engaging conversations

Hope you're able to genuinely connect with someone today. Let's make every connection count!

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:36 Do you sometimes feel lonely, or disconnected from the people around you?

07:58 Habit #1: Check in with yourself - Does your social life start to feel like work or when your social life feels like it's non-existent?

14:14 Habit #2: Expand your emotional vocabulary -  If you wanna see, hear, and understand and value other people better, you need to expand your emotional vocabulary

17:56 Habit #3: Old new and new old - While we use nostalgia to build connection, try to build new memories with an old friend

20:44 Habit #4: Ask interesting questions - Go for more open and fascinating questions that won’t pressure other people to answer

23:05 Habit #5: Deep versus shallow time - Take the time to invest in creating a small group where you can build deeper connections 

26:07 Habit #6: Look for patterns and connections where others don’t see them

27:20 Habit #7: Smile at strangers and say hello creates an energy for small moments of connection

28:40 Habit #8: Use technology to your advantage and connect with people you haven’t talked with in a while or reconnect with them anytime

30:04 Habit #9: Giving creates connect - When you give someone a part of you, a piece of you, a truth about you, it allows you to connect with them

30:52 Habit #10: Invite people for ordinary tasks - It’s okay to spend time with people in boring ways and connect with them

31:34 Habit #11: Connecting with people in all ages 

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Why do we often struggle when we are trying to build a lasting relationship with someone?

Why is love not enough to make two people genuinely care for each other and stay happy together?

Let's unpack the conversation I had with Lori Gottlieb. Lori is a psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, which has sold nearly two million copies and is currently being adapted as a television series. In addition to her clinical practice, she is co-host of the popular “Dear Therapists” podcast now in its 4th season.

In this digital age, the power of in-person conversations is unparalleled, therefore, face-to-face discussions not only ease challenging topics but also strengthen connections, even in times of disagreement. We will eExplore the fascinating urge to share our stories when conversations turn distant. Uncover the psychology behind this impulse and its impact on nurturing authentic connections.

It's important to find the balance between desired traits and the potential for mutual growth. And boundaries aren't about controlling others; they're about prioritizing self-care. 

In this interview, you'll learn:

How to deal with unwanted peer pressure

How to master difficult conversations

The importance of setting early relationship goals

How to balance the qualities we look for in a partner

The positive impact of active listening

How to navigate relationship triggers 

Let's uncover the truths, debunk the myths, and reshape the way you perceive and nurture connections.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:02 What should you do if a friend is pushing you to do something that makes you uncomfortable?

03:24 In-person conversations ease difficult discussions; connection persists despite disagreement

05:16 Set relationship goals early; they reveal compatibility quickly

07:47 Social anxiety often mirrors our childhood treatment

11:51 The urge to discuss oneself grows when sensing disinterest or neglect in conversations 

16:24 Your potential partner might possess certain preferred qualities, yet not encompass all you seek

18:26 Identify your deal breakers and let go of the relationship fantasies we grew up with

22:25 How to shift from rigidity to actively listening to your partner?

26:47 By comprehending your partner's triggers, you can guide them back to the present moment

29:28 Boundaries involve defining self-care actions, not manipulating others' behavior around you

35:14 Consistency with our self-set boundaries fosters meaningful connections

39:10 Let go of what you couldn’t have and then go find it in someone without trying to change them

41:41 What does money and gender roles represent in your relationship? 

44:56 Having an authentic, open, and genuine conversation, even if uncomfortable, isn't unkind

49:22 Dating entails the concessions you're ready to offer and those your partner commits to as well

53:32 You can multitask your pursuits. It's fine to follow your passion while staying in your current situation

57:33 Journaling creates a safe space for self-expression, free from the fear of judgment by others

01:02:02 Journaling offers the advantage of cultivating accountability through increased self-compassion

01:04:45 A breakup is a form of grief, as you've lost a shared past and the gradually constructed future with that person  

Episode Resources:

Lori Gottlieb | YouTube

Lori Gottlieb | Instagram

Lori Gottlieb | Website

Dear Therapists Podcast

Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

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Relationships often start with a spark, but how do you keep that spark alive without getting burnt?

It's a common question that many couples face as they navigate the complexities of maintaining a healthy and deep relationship.

Today, we will look deep into seeing the differences between a toxic and a healthy relationship and uncover the ways to build a lasting one. Every relationship is different - but understanding these four different toxic traits that are common in relationships will help you move away from something that is not serving you. 

Moving to a healthy relationship when you’re coming from a toxic one is difficult but finding the courage to do so is a crucial step towards your emotional well-being and personal growth. 

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to prioritize healthy love over perfection

How to embrace each other’s unique identities

How to avoid over-reliance and codependence

How to practice transparent communication

Hope that this guides you through a more healthy and happy relationship! 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:32 What is the real definition of healthy vs. unhealthy love?

03:56 Toxic Trait #1: Over-reliance on one person - Do you go to your partner for everything that you need?

11:41 Toxic Trait #2: The idea of trying to change someone -  We try to change our partners to be like us but have we ever thought about letting them be them and we be ourselves?

16:36 Toxic Trait #3: Playing games - Are you pursuing peace with your partner or are you pursuing power over your partner?

22:20 Toxic Trait #4: Losing your own identity - Don’t sacrifice your interests and independence for a relationship

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