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Be Present During Sex (Quickie)13 Nov 202400:02:34

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor with four ways to be fully present during sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Best Holiday Sex Tips for Playfulness05 Nov 202400:30:06

When it comes to making time for sexual intimacy during the holiday rush, it can be wonderfully stressful or wonderfully playful or anything in between. We discuss how to navigate the busy-ness and stress of the holidays so that you can create a time of playfulness with your spouse and give you some ideas to build playfulness in your relationship and sex life.

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From the Bible

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6–7

Resources


Donate to Our Ministry HERE

Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show.

Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:

Strong Wives - Bonny Burns
Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor
Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Creative Timing (Quickie)04 Sep 202400:01:32

This week's quickie is from J Parker about using creative timing to maintain or increase your sexual frequency. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Listener Questions27 Apr 202100:31:09

In this episode, we answer a few of your questions.

  1. “What are other ways to relax and enjoy my husband guilt free?”
  2. “I don't like feeling like it’s just sex.... Do I have a block? Was I wrong to be upset? How do I get myself [past] feeling like it's cold and not love?”
  3. “I was hoping you could share some wisdom of what it's like moving in with your husband for the first time… what to expect…how to talk to one another about our soon to be sex life, and tips for a soon to be pastor's wife.”
  4. “What are some positive resources on sex and marriage that are geared toward men? I have been able to find good resources for myself, but my fiancé has not."

If you want to submit a question for a future episode, click on Ask a Question in the menu on our website and submit your query.

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From the Bible

"All of you, clothe yourselves with humility toward one another, because, 'God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.'" 1 Peter 5:5 (NIV)

"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." Ephesians 5:21 (NIV)

Resources

Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

How Often Should You Have Sex12 Apr 202100:29:58

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As mentioned in the episode, Chris Taylor of Honeycomb & Spice is doing a survey on chronic illness and sex. We'd appreciate you taking the survey, so that she can address this subject well.

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About the Episode

How often should a married couple have sex? You might think this would be an easy question to answer, but we think it’s going to take a whole episode.

  1. How do seasons of life affect the frequency of lovemaking, and what range of frequency do you think is appropriate for each season?
  2. What other factors can affect frequency?
  3. What does research say about consistent sexual intimacy?
  4. How should you and your husband negotiate frequency?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about the frequency of sex?

Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. - 1 Corinthians 7:5

If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married. - Deuteronomy 24:5

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Take Time to Titivate30 Mar 202100:28:59

titivate (v). – to make a person or thing neater or more attractive (Merriam-Webster).

To titivate is to make small enhancing changes or to make oneself look attractive. For some women, titivation is a daily habit. For others of us, it takes intention to remember to do it now and then.

  1. Let’s start by talking about why wives might titivate in the first place.
  2. What are some reasons we might let titivation go?
  3. How does titivation spill over into our sex lives?
  4. What are some things women can do to enhance their appearance?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about titivating?

...she had to complete twelve months of beauty treatments prescribed for the women, six months with oil of myrrh and six with perfumes and cosmetics." - Esther 2:12 (and see Esther 2:1-18)

...as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest, and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels. - Isaiah 61.10

Don’t let your beauty consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and wearing gold jewelry or fine clothes, but rather what is inside the heart—the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. - 1 Peter 3:3-4 (CSB)

Resources

Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

What You Need to Know About Sex16 Mar 202100:29:45

There are a lot of resources about sex now, some great and some terrible. But often, resources have some important truths, some debatable points, and some myths. Today we want to talk about what really matters—the foundational points we want wives to know about sex.

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From the Bible

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. – Galatians 5:22-23

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

Resources

Visit our website: forchristianwives.com.

Enjoying Sex02 Mar 202100:48:21

Sex therapist and educator Joyce Penner joins us to talk about learning to enjoy sex more. Why do some women have a hard time seeing sexual intimacy as a gift? And what can these women do to pursue the enjoyment of sex with their husbands?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say that can help us better enjoy sex?

Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, NIV

I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. – Song of Songs 7:10

The marriage bed must be a place of mutuality—the husband seeking to satisfy his wife, the wife seeking to satisfy her husband. Marriage is not a place to “stand up for your rights.” Marriage is a decision to serve the other, whether in bed or out. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-4, The Message

Resources

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Nurture Your Non-Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife
You're Not Kissing Enough | Hot, Holy & Humorous
Why Kissing Is So Intimate for Her - Knowing Her Sexually
The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment
Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women
The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex
Restoring the Pleasure
Formula for Intimacy - free download from Joyce Penner

Resources for Adult Children of Alcoholics:
Focus on the Family
Only You Forever
Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs
Love and Life Toolbox
Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families: Friel Ph.D., John C., Friel M.A., Linda D. (older book, but still a good resource)

You can find more resources at Joyce's website, Passionate Commitment.

Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

100th Episode16 Feb 202100:29:07

About this episode

Today is our 100th Episode! On this special episode, we share what we do when we're not talking about sex, what ministry projects we're working on, and nearly half of a 100 sex tips list we ask our listeners help us complete.

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about our ministry (and yours)?

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. - 2 Corinthians 1:3-5

Resources

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Valentine's Day02 Feb 202100:34:24
About this episode

Today we’re talking about Valentine’s Day. It’s coming up soon, and women feel all kinds of different things about it. Some women love it, some hate it, and some feel kind of ambivalent about it. And it plays out differently in different marriages. So, we talk about it and come up with some ideas for making it fun and romantic for all kinds of couples and marriages.

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about Valentine’s Day? (Not much, but a whole lot about love.)

Do everything in love. – 1 Corinthians 16:14
And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. – Colossians 3:14
We love because he first loved us. – 1 John 4:19

Resources
Overcoming Boredom in the Bedroom19 Jan 202100:24:24

With people staying home more than ever these days, monotony is overwhelming our lives. However, there is one area of your life than can certainly move from monotonous to mind-blowing with just a few simple changes.

Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we are talking about boredom in the bedroom and what can be done to generate more passion in your experience.

  1. What can lead to boredom in the bedroom?
  2. What can a wife do to move toward more energy, excitement, interest, and pleasure in the bedroom?
  3. What is boredom possibly masking?
  4. What are some possible solutions if there are deeper issues?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about boredom in the bedroom?

There the mandrakes give off their fragrance,
    and the finest fruits are at our door,
new delights as well as old,
    which I have saved for you, my lover.
Song of Songs 7:13

Resources

Visit our website: forchristianwives.com

Getting a Fresh Start with Your Sex Life05 Jan 202100:28:02

About this episode

Sometimes we need to hit the reset button with sexual intimacy. Maybe it’s not been going well lately. Maybe it’s never been good in your marriage. Maybe you only recently realized how important sexual intimacy is to your relationship. How can you start over or at least get a fresh start in some part of sex that hasn’t been ideal?

  1. Why do many wives feel they need a fresh start with the sex in their marriage?
  2. How can we begin to set a new tone or build new habits for sexual intimacy?
  3. What are some obstacles wives might face when they try to do something different?
  4. What are the long-term benefits of getting that fresh start?
  5. Are there any promises from God we can rely on as we try to reset our sex life?

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What does God have to say about fresh starts?

For I am the Lord your God
    who takes hold of your right hand
and says to you, Do not fear;
    I will help you.
- Isaiah 41:13

See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. - Isaiah 43:19

“I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—
    the great locust and the young locust,
    the other locusts and the locust swarm[a]—
my great army that I sent among you.
You will have plenty to eat, until you are full,
    and you will praise the name of the Lord your God,
    who has worked wonders for you;
never again will my people be shamed.
- Joel 2:25-26

Jesus replied, “What is impossible with man is possible with God.” - Luke 18:27

They remembered that God was their Rock, that God Most High was their Redeemer. - Psalm 78:35

Resources

35 Gifts for Your Marriage24 Nov 202000:21:08

Bonny, Chris, Gaye, and J have a list of gifts that can help you learn, love, and laugh in your marriage!

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about gift-giving?

A gift opens the way and ushers the giver into the presence of the great. - Proverbs 18:16

On coming to the house, they saw the child with his mother Mary, and they bowed down and worshiped him. Then they opened their treasures and presented him with gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. - Matthew 2:1

Gift List

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It's Christmas Eve, and Grace still hasn't seen a present under the Christmas tree from her husband. When Todd announces there is no present coming, she feels snubbed, not realizing that he's got a different surprise planned. But is his gift what she really wants? Or even what she needs?

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Making the Most of Your Five Senses28 Aug 202400:29:25

Let's talk about the five senses—touch, sight, hearing, smell, and taste—and how to make the most of them to increase your sexual interest and enhance your lovemaking experience.

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From the Bible

For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
Psalm 139:13–14

My dove in the clefts of the rock,
    in the hiding places on the mountainside,
show me your face,
    let me hear your voice;
for your voice is sweet,
    and your face is lovely.
Song of Songs 2:14

Resources

Donate to the Ministry by clicking HERE.

Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show.

Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:

Strong Wives - Bonny Burns
Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor
Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

How Does Depression Affect Sex?10 Nov 202000:35:44
About this episode

Thanks for joining us at Sex Chat for Christian Wives. Today we’re going to talk about something that affects more than 264 million people around the world–depression.

  1. People sometimes hear the word “depression” and think it just means that someone is sad a lot or that they are weak. So let’s start by talking about what depression is—and maybe what it is not.
  2. What kind of impact does depression have on our sex lives?
  3. How can our faith help us when depression affects our marriage?
  4. What can we do to address depression or soften the impact it has on our marriage and sex life?
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Anxiety weighs down the heart,
    but a kind word cheers it up.
Proverbs 12:25

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. – Matthew 11:28

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. – 1 Peter 5:7

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
Psalm 34:18

Resources

Depression (major depressive disorder) – Mayo Clinic
Is Depression Impacting Your Sexual Intimacy? – Hot, Holy & Humorous
Q&A with J: Sex and Antidepressants – Hot, Holy & Humorous
Is Seasonal Depression Impacting Your Marriage? – Hot, Holy & Humorous
Is the Oral Contraceptive Pill Associated with Depression?- A Synopsis of The Impact of OC Pills on Mood – Psych Scene Hub
Sexual Intimacy and Depression – The Forgiven Wife

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Listener Questions27 Oct 202000:24:28

We answer listener questions, specifically:

  • Could you talk about the tilted uterus? I was told I have one and would like to know more about it.
  • My husband is currently taking classes and working long days. He practically comes home to sleep and then leaves for school and work the next day. This has made it a lot harder to make time for us and especially sex. I try to do things for him in hopes that it will alleviate some of his stress What can I do to make sex happen? We used to be Jackrabbits and now I'm lucky if we have sex once a week. It makes me feel like there is something wrong with me.
  • I want to ask you about sex during my period. For me, sex helps with my cramps. However, my husband does not like intercourse at that time due to the flow. The other part of this is that my husband struggles with the desire to view pornography. So, during my period, he doesn’t want to have regular intercourse, but he wants me to give him oral sex to help him with his temptation. I’m seeking wisdom in how to please my husband and support him in his battle with pornography but not lose myself in my frustrations and sometimes selfish desires I have as a young bride.

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From the Bible

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. - Philippians 2:3-4

Resources

Sex Positions for Women with a Tilted Uterus - Christian Friendly Sex Positions
A Key to Understanding Orgasm: Deep Spots - OysterBed7
Can Sex Help Your Spouse’s Work Stress? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Why Stress Affects Sex And What To Do About It - OysterBed7
5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous
How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? - The Forgiven Wife
Is Porn Use an Addiction (and Does It Even Matter)? - The Forgiven Wife
Episode 38: A Conversation About Porn (Part 1)
Episode 39: A Conversation About Porn (Part 2)|
Episode 40: Healing after Porn Discovery
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Newlywed Tips, with Ngina Otiende13 Oct 202000:27:44

About this episode

Today, we have special guest Ngina Otiende of Intentional Today, and we're talking about...

  • Our most vivid memories of our weddings or first few months of marriage.
  • When did reality set in that marriage might take more work than you initially thought?
  • Now, bringing the conversation back to our mission of speaking candidly about God’s design of sexual intimacy, what is one newlywed obstacle you can speak to and give advice in overcoming?
  • What is one piece of sexually intimate advice you’d give to a bride today?

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From the Bible

"...Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

And that is what some of you were

But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God." ~ 1 Corinthians 6:9-11

Resources

Episode 32: Advice For Our Newlywed Selves
Free Access To "Subscriber Only" Resources - Ngina Otiende
How To Navigate Conflict In Marriage - Ngina Otiende
What Newlyweds Should Know About Married Sex - Bonny's OysterBed7
A Letter To My Newlywed Self (Age 20) - Bonny's OysterBed7
A Letter to My Newlywed Self: Age 25 - Hot, Holy & Humorous
What I Wish I’d Known Before the Wedding Night - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Wedding Tips for Bride - Hot, Holy & Humorous store item

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What Research Tells Wives About Sex, with Shaunti Feldhahn29 Sep 202000:37:51

We are so privileged today to have Shaunti Feldhahn—social researcher, bestselling author, and popular speaker—pulling up a chair at our virtual kitchen table.

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So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27

I made a covenant with my eyes
not to look lustfully at a young woman.
Job 31:1   Resources

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Feeling More Sensual15 Sep 202000:27:11

Today we’re talking about sensuality and how wives can feel more sensual. What does it mean to feel sensual? Why can it be difficult, and why does it matter? And what can you do to feel more sensual yourself?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about sensuality?

So I commend the enjoyment of life, because there is nothing better for a person under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of the life God has given them under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 8:15)

How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice! (Song of Songs 4:10)

And the rest of Song of Songs!

Resources

Orgasm Webinar on October 15

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Getting Him to Touch You Where You Want01 Sep 202000:18:45

It’s a common scenario we hear: She wants him to touch her body in various places, and he wants to focus on the “good bits.” So today, we’re going to talk about where you’d like to be touched, besides your special lady-parts, and how you can get your husband to spend more time and attention there.

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about touching and kissing her body?

She
Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine.
Song of Songs 1:2

His left arm is under my head and his right arm embraces me.
Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3

A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
Proverbs 5:19

Resources

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4 Tips to Improve Your Sex Life18 Aug 202000:19:12

We want to encourage you to just think of one thing you could do to improve your sex life. To give you some ideas, we're each going to share one thing we did to improve our sex life.

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about our tips?

For his unfailing love toward those who fear him
    is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.
He has removed our sins as far from us
    as the east is from the west.
Psalm 103:11-12 (NLT)

I belong to my beloved,
and his desire is for me.
Song of Songs 7:10

Resources

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The Worst & Best Sex Advice We've Ever Received05 Aug 202000:19:43
About this episode

There is some really bad sex advice out there, most of it because the people giving the advice don’t know any better themselves. Today we’re sharing with you the worst sex advice we’ve personally received, but also the best sex advice we’ve received.

  1. Okay, ladies, what is the worst sex tip you have gotten either from a resource or an individual?
  2. Taking a positive perspective, how can we correct the record? That is, how should each of us and women out there respond when we encounter bad advice?
  3. What is the best sex tip you’ve ever gotten from some resource or someone?
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What does God have to say about receiving advice?

  • The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice. – Proverbs 12:19
  • But Jehoshaphat also said to the king of Israel, “First seek the counsel of the Lord.” – 1 Kings 22:5
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Talk to Friends21 Jul 202000:19:42

Our podcast is hosted by four friends talking biblically and authentically about sexual intimacy. How can you find your own friend group to talk with about sex? We've got some tips!

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From the Bible

Friends
We rejoice and delight in you;
we will praise your love more than wine.
Song of Songs 1:4

The godly give good advice to their friends;
the wicked lead them astray.
Proverbs 12:26 (NLT)

Resources

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Making Space in Your Life for Sex06 Jul 202000:27:40

About this episode

Today we’re talking about making space in your life for sex. And whether you’re listening to this in the time of COVID, when we’re recording it, or at a time when things are more back to normal, you probably have some sense of what it means to make space (or lack space) in your life for sex, intimacy, and just in general enjoying your marriage.

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What does God have to say about making space for sex in your marriage?

Song of Songs 7:11 - Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside, let us spend the night in the villages.

 

Making Sexual Changes (Quickie)20 Aug 202400:01:59

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor about what to remember when making sexual changes. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Trying New Sex Positions23 Jun 202000:23:05

About This Episode

Is it time to expand your sexual position repertoire? We discuss going beyond "missionary" to include other positions, with a dose of reality on what's do-able and how to introduce new positions into your marriage.

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From the Bible

"His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me."
Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3

The mandrakes give off a fragrance, and at our doors is every delicacy, both new and old. I have treasured them up for you, my love.
Song of Songs 7:13 (CSB)

Resources

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Self-care and Sexual Interest09 Jun 202000:20:00

About this episode

Self-care is important—and it helps our sexual interest too! In this episode we talk about why and share some tips.

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From the Bible

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

Then he said to them, “The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath.” Mark 2:27

But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. Luke 5:16

Resources

5 Ways to Treat Yourself Like a Friend – CalmHealthySexy

Silence the Lies – The Forgiven Wife

New Day, New Way – It’s Never too Late to Start Something New – CalmHealthySexy

Episode 80: Intimacy During Lockdown

Self-Bullying: What to do when the bully is YOU! (affiliate link)

5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself in a Crisis – CalmHealthySexy

Dating Your Spouse During Challenging Times26 May 202000:28:50

About this episode

We’re recording this at a time when many people are still living with some form of stay-at-home orders. Others can go out, but aren’t sure if it’s safe. And many others are facing financial difficulties, such as job loss, reduced work hours, or uncertainty about the future of their job or business. All of those things make the idea of “date night” seem rather daunting.

But even beyond the current crisis, lots of couples face challenges to enjoying a regular “date night.” Money may be tight, they may not have childcare, or they may be too tired to figure out what to do.

So today we’re going to talk about date nights for challenging times, whatever your challenge may be. These are simply ways to plan some fun with your spouse – at home or in your community –  that don’t cost a lot of money and don’t take a lot of time and energy.

From the Bible

Song of Songs 7:11-13 Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love. The mandrakes send out their fragrance, and at our door is every delicacy, both new and old, that I have stored up for you, my beloved.

Resources

Date Night Questions - The Romantic Vineyard
Alphabet Dates - The Romantic Vineyard
Date Night, Anywhere - The Forgiven Wife
Dating Your Spouse in a Crisis – LoveHopeAdventure
How to Have a Movie Date in Your Car – LoveHopeAdventure
4 Reasons to Add a “Parents’ Night” to Your Family’s Schedule - CalmHealthySexy
25 Ways to Have Fun with Your Husband – CalmHealthySexy
16 Fun and Healthy Dates for Married Couples – CalmHealthySexy
Variety and Libido - OysterBed7
Friendship 101 - OysterBed7
26 2-Player Board Games for Couples - To Love Honor & Vacuum
Are You Dating Your Spouse Enough? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Movies to Inspire Romance - Hot, Holy & Humorous
20 Date Nights You Can Do at Home (book review) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Make Date Night a Marriage Adventure (book review- Hot, Holy & Humorous

Listener Questions May 202013 May 202000:18:06

Today, we are answering some of your questions.

  • How can I get over being sexually shy with my husband?
  • How can I begin to get past the negative messages I learned about sex?
  • How can I show my husband desire throughout the day instead of compartmentalizing sex for bedtime only?

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From the Bible

"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." Galatians 6:9

Resources

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Doing the Best We Can27 Apr 202000:42:06
About this episode

We’re wingin’ it! Hang out with us as we ramble about life during a global pandemic, the reality of trying to continue intimacy despite circumstances, and where our heads and hearts are right now. Maybe you can relate.

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“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” – 1 John 4:18 (NIV)
“For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” – 2 Timothy 1:7 (ESV)
The Book of Psalms

Resources

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Melt Couples Massage Master Class
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USA Today Mask Pattern (the one J used)
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Intimacy During Lockdown14 Apr 202000:22:56

We're recording this during the Coronavirus global pandemic, but today we’re focusing on the positive with some practical tips for fostering intimacy during lockdown.

  1. What aspects of marital intimacy are most important during this tough time?
  2. How can sex be part of maintaining a positive attitude
  3. Knowing the challenges various couples are facing, what tips do you have for nurturing intimacy during lockdown?
  4. What scripture gives you hope and comfort right now?

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From the Bible

"This is the day that the Lord has made;
let us rejoice and be glad in it."
– Psalm 118:24 (ESV)

When you pass through the waters,
I will be with you;
and when you pass through the rivers,
they will not sweep over you.
When you walk through the fire,
you will not be burned;
the flames will not set you ablaze.
For I am the Lord your God,
the Holy One of Israel, your Savior.
– Isaiah 43:2-3

"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?" – Matthew 6:25-27

Do not put your trust in princes,
in human beings, who cannot save.
Blessed are those whose help is the God of Jacob,
whose hope is in the Lord their God.
– Psalm 146:3,5

Resources

5 Ways to Take Care of Yourself in a Crisis - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
The Joy of Earbuds - The Forgiven Wife
What Will the Kids Think? The Forgiven Wife

Maintaining Sexual Intimacy During a Crisis30 Mar 202000:24:30

About this episode

As we record this, we are in the midst of a global pandemic. Life feels far from normal.

Besides pandemics, we all live through very difficult experiences from time to time. Natural disasters, deaths, illnesses, and family crises can pull the rug out from under us.

In this episode, we share some ideas to help you maintain sexual intimacy when life goes topsy-turvy.

From the Bible

What does God have to say about [insert topic]?

"Then David comforted his wife Bathsheba, and he went to her and made love to her" (2 Samuel 12:24a).
"Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7).

Resources

Challenging Times? Some Tips to Keep Up Marital Intimacy! - J's newsletter
Let's Address These Marriage Struggles You May Have Right Now - J's newsletter
4 Ways Sex Can Comfort in Crisis or Grief - Hot, Holy & Humorous
How Sex Can Help Us Cope - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Your Wife's Anxiety - KHS Ministry
8 Ways to Stay Intimate Even When Life Gets in the Way of Sex - The Forgiven Wife
Nurture Your Non-Sexual Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife

Note: J's son was tested for Coronavirus, and the test was negative. Her husband's insulin issues got resolved as well. Let's keep praying for others who are impacted or at risk.

Breasts and How They Impact Female Sexuality17 Mar 202000:27:05

Today, we are discussing breasts and how they can impact your sexuality.  Song of Solomon calls them twin fawns of a gazelle and clusters of fruit.  Whether your twins are gazelles, grapes, or grapefruit, we are going to delve into a discussion about the female breast.

  1. What are some of the names used for breasts through the years?
  2. We can’t talk about breasts without first talking about breast feeding.  How can nursing affect a wife’s sexual intimacy?
  3. What are some characteristics of healthy breasts and what are some warning signs that you may need to go to the doctor?
  4. How breasts can impact a wife's experience of sexuality in the bedroom?

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From the Bible

"Your breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle" (Song of Solomon 7:3).

"Your stature is like that of a palm, and your breasts are like clusters of fruit.  I said, 'I will climb the palm tree; I will take hold of its fruit.'  May your breasts be like clusters of grapes on the vine..." (Song of Solomon 7:7-8).

Resources

3 Ways for a Young Mom to Feel More Sensual - Bonny's OysterBed7
Ta-Ta Touch - Bonny's OysterBed7
A&D Cream - Amazon (affiliate link)
Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream (affiliate link)
Bag Balm - Amazon (affiliate link)
101 Words for Your Private Parts (with 25 words for breasts) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Check Out Those Breasts - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Q&A with J: “How Do You Feel about Your Implants Now?”
He Can’t Really Be Happy with My Body - Guest Post by J. Parker on The Forgiven Wife
A Wife's Breasts Have History - The Forgiven Wife

How to Ask for What You Want03 Mar 202000:33:26

About this episode

Today we are discussing how to ask for what you want, in marriage overall, and more specifically in the bedroom. This is something many women struggle to do and many women do not even know if they are supposed to ask.

  • Why is it so hard for women to ask for what they want, especially in the bedroom?
  • What are some practical things that women can do to start speaking up about what they want and need, and keep speaking up until they get it?
  • What about women who do ask for what they want, but nothing changes? Or changes happen for a short time, but then drift back toward the status quo?

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From the Bible

The Song of Solomon

Resources

Speak Up - The Forgiven Wife
Learn What You Like in Bed - The Forgiven Wife
Sock Monkey Kama Sutra book (affiliate link)
Cookie Sutra book (affiliate link)
Sharpie markers (affiliate link)
Q&A with J: How Do I Express What I Want in Bed? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
101 Words for Your Private Parts (But No Curse Words) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Understanding Her Sex Drive Webinar - replay for only $5
Ravel's Bolero: Version 1 (10 min) and Version 2 (13.5 min)

Listener Questions18 Feb 202000:29:26

Today, we are answering some of your questions.

  • How does a high desire wife navigate week-long business travel separation?
  • What are some ways a nursing mom and mom of little ones can increase her desire to be sexual?
  • How does menopause and hysterectomy affect sexual intimacy?
  • Is it sinful to figure out how to reach orgasm on your own so that you can show your husband what works?
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From the Bible

The following verse is referenced and explained within the episode, but read the whole Onan story here. "Then Judah said to Onan, 'Sleep with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.' But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother" (Genesis 38:8–9, NIV).

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What Is Sexual Betrayal and How Can You Address It?16 Aug 202400:39:33

What is sexual betrayal? Have you experienced it? Today, we address the sensitive topic of sexual betrayal with honesty and compassion, relying quite a bit on our in-house expert, Bonny Burns. 

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From the Bible

"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matthew 5:28

“For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him who covers his garment with violence,” says the Lord of armies. “So be careful about your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” Malachi 2:16 (NASB)

I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Jeremiah 3:8a

John’s disciples came and took his body and buried it. Then they went and told Jesus. When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. Matthew 14:12-13a

Resources

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Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well:

Strong Wives - Bonny Burns
Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor
Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

Our Best Tips for Initiating Sex04 Feb 202000:30:45
About this episode

We all want to be wanted, and our husbands are no exception. Initiating sex is a great way to communicate “I want you” to your husband, but it isn’t always easy.

  • Why do wives sometimes find it difficult to even try to initiate sex?
  • Some wives report that they do try to initiate sex but their husbands don’t seem to pick up on the signals. What is going on?
  • What are some things wives can do to initiate sex and get things rolling?
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From the Bible

What does God have to say about initiating?

Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,
let us spend the night in the villages.
Let us go early to the vineyards
to see if the vines have budded,
if their blossoms have opened,
and if the pomegranates are in bloom—
there I will give you my love.
The mandrakes send out their fragrance,
and at our door is every delicacy,
both new and old,
that I have stored up for you, my beloved.

Song of Songs 7:11-13

Resources

You’re Not Kissing Enough – Hot, Holy & Humorous
40 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Husband – Hot, Holy & Humorous
5 Ways to Initiate Sex with Your Spouse – Hot, Holy & Humorous
Flip the Switch from Initiation to Availability – Hot, Holy & Humorous
How Do You Initiate Sex ? – The Forgiven Wife
When You Initiate, Do This – The Forgiven Wife
10 Ideas You Can Use to Initiate Sex – The Forgiven Wife
He Wants a Wild-Cat in Bed. That's Not Me. - Bonny's OysterBed7

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Getting Comfortable with Your Body21 Jan 202000:30:26

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We understand the struggle wives often have with their body image and how it affects their sexuality. Today we want to revisit this topic to discuss how we can finally embrace our bodies and get comfortable being naked with our husbands.

  • Why is having a positive body image such a challenge for women?
  • What can we do to combat messages that make us feel worse about ourselves?
  • Do we have any responsibility to take care of our bodies?
  • Despite how we feel about ourselves, most husbands find their wives beautiful. But what about the wife whose husband criticizes her appearance?
  • What advice from your own journey would you give to help a wife embrace a positive body image?

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From the Bible

For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.

Psalm 139:13-14

Resources

Body Image Got You Down? - The Forgiven Wife
Body by God - The Forgiven Wife|
He Can't Really Be Happy with My Body - J's guest post on The Forgiven Wife
Enjoy a Plus-Sized Sex Life - The Forgiven Wife
5 Ways to Feel More Attractive – Beauty and Confidence for Real Women - Calm.Healthy.Sexy.
My Husband’s Big Belly Turns Me Off. Am I Shallow? - Bonny's OysterBed7

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Out with the Old, In with the New07 Jan 202000:25:51
About this episode

Today we’re talking about letting go of something old and taking hold of something new in 2020. Sometimes we hold onto habits, thoughts, and behaviors that seemed to serve us well in the past, but now aren’t helping us move forward. They’re keeping us from moving forward and creating something new and better.

  1. What are some things we tend to hold onto, that may have helped us in the best but might be holding us back as we move into the New Year?
  2. What are some changes you’ve made, or changes you know that other women have made, that have allowed them to take hold of something new in their marriage?
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From the Bible

Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert. – Isaiah 43:19

I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—
the great locust and the young locust,
the other locusts and the locust swarm—
my great army that I sent among you.
You will have plenty to eat, until you are full,
and you will praise the name of the Lord your God,
who has worked wonders for you;
– Joel 2:25-26

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! – 2 Corinthians 5:17

Resources

Gift Guide26 Nov 201900:26:23

Welcome to our Christmas episode! Listen as we share a little about ourselves. Plus, we thank you for listening by offering gift suggestions to build your lovemaking experience, your bedroom ambiance, and your connection with your sweetie.

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From the Bible

James 1:17, "Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows."

Resources

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Support from Other Women11 Nov 201900:33:45

About this episode

When we struggle with sexual intimacy, we often feel alone. Our husbands may be our go-to support for most things, but if sex isn’t working well, he may not be able to help us in the way we need. Sometimes what we really need is support from other women who know what we’re going through.

In this episode, we talk about how to find support for our sexual struggles and how to use that support to help us grow. We’re joined by Ruth Buezis, founder of Awaken-Love Ministry and author of Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage.

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about letting others help us?

Proverbs 11:14 - When there is no guidance a nation falls,
but there is success in the abundance of counselors.
(NET Bible)

Proverbs 27:17 - As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

Galatians 6:2 - Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

Resources

Sexless Marriages30 Oct 201900:42:51

About the Episode

Around 20% of marriages are sexless. That is, the couple has sexual activity ten or fewer times per year. About ten years ago, a New York Times study indicated that 15% of couples haven’t had sex in at least six months.

Sexlessness in a marriage can be a source of deep pain—and if often reflects pain as well.

Today we’re going to talk about sexless marriages and what you can do about it if you’re in one.

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about sexless marriages?

"The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." 1 Corinthians 7:3-5

Song of Songs

"Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." Galatians 6:2

"You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love." Galatians 5:13

"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others." Philippians 2:3-4

"That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:24

"'Haven’t you read,' he replied, 'that at the beginning the Creator "made them male and female," and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.'" Matthew 19:4-6

How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights! - Song of Songs 7:6

Resources

Unlock Your Libido: 52-Week Sex Drive Transformation by Bonny Logsdon Burns
Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage by J. Parker
Why Knowing Your Low Drive Spouse's Love Language Is Important - Bonny's OysterBed7
Move Mismatched Sex Drives Toward Better - Bonny's OysterBed7
Ways to Align Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's Oysterbed7 @Messy Marriage
Helping Mismatched Sex Drives Become More Matched - Bonny's OysterBed7
Why Sex? - Bonny's OysterBed7
How to Arouse Sexual Desire Through Emotional Connection - Bonny's OysterBed7
Eliminate These to Help Grow Mismatched Sex Drives - Bonny's OysterBed7
Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too - Calm.Healthy.Sexy
Just Because He Stopped Asking Doesn’t Mean He Stopped Wanting - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Is Refusing Sex in Marriage a Sin? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Q&A with J: “What If Neither of Us Desires Sex?” - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Q&A with J: I’m in a Sexless Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Q&A with J: “My Sexless Marriage Is Making Me Lose My Faith in God” - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Is the Church Failing Sexless Marriages? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Q&A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 1 - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Q&A with J: How Do I Write a Post that Helps Sexless Marriages?
Q&A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 2 - Hot, Holy & Humorous
A Prayer for Sexless Marriages - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Q&A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 3 - Hot, Holy & Humorous
Q&A with J: “What Can I Do About My Sexless Marriage?” Part 4 - Hot, Holy & Humorous
How the Sexually Rejected Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous
How the Sexually Disinterested Spouse Feels - Hot, Holy & Humorous
A Moment of Hard Truth - The Forgiven Wife
Leaving a Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife
Living in a Nearly Sexless Marriage - The Forgiven Wife
Is a Sexless Marriage a Loveless Marriage? - The Forgiven Wife

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Shower Power15 Oct 201900:24:46

Episode 69: Shower Power About this episode

Today we’re talking about bathing and showering—not just having sex in a shower or bathtub, but the whole kit-and-caboodle. You’ll see what we mean once we get started.

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about sex and showers (or bathing)?

Song of Songs 4:15
You are a garden fountain, a well of flowing water streaming down from Lebanon.

Song of Songs 5:12-16
His eyes are like doves by the water streams, washed in milk, mounted like jewels. His cheeks are like beds of spice yielding perfume. His lips are like lilies dripping with myrrh. His arms are rods of gold set with topaz. His body is like polished ivory decorated with lapis lazuli. His legs are pillars of marble set on bases of pure gold. His appearance is like Lebanon, choice as its cedars. His mouth is sweetness itself; he is altogether lovely. This is my beloved, this is my friend, daughters of Jerusalem.

Resources

Listener Questions01 Oct 201900:23:33

About This Episode

Today's listener questions are:

  1. My husband is really interested in me swallowing during oral sex. I don't get it. I honestly don't want to work up to it; it's already taken a lot of effort just to give bjs and oral sex to him. But he keeps asking. I'm not sure what to do - keep saying no, or work through my gag reflex and dislike of the smell and try it? To be honest, it kind of grosses me out even thinking of swallowing. I've tried using the gag reflex sprays too and it doesn't help much. I just need some advice.
  2. I’ve read in some books and blogs God’s biblical design and purpose is that sex is a) for reproduction b) for pleasure c) creating intimacy - these three purposes are independent of each other — reproduction is possible without pleasure/intimacy or pleasure can be possible without procreation. -the maximum goal of the Lord is intimacy, for happiness of the couple and because marriage represents intimacy between church and Jesus So.. Do you think it’s possible to have real intimacy without pleasure in sex? Like saying “if sex is not really pleasurable then intimacy is not really close” or “the greatest the pleasure the stronger the intimacy” or “a marriage can’t have actual intimacy without good sex” or “no sex, no intimacy”, etc. I know is a kind of strong question but I am struggling with this thought because I’ve read the three independent purposes of sex at some blogs/books, but I feel some explanations are missing, specially for we wives striving with orgasm or painful intercourse or trouble with arousal, so “pleasurable” is hardly a way to define sex life.

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From the Bible

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. – Ephesians 5:28

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

I have come to my garden-my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! – Song of Songs 5:1

Resources

What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? – Hot, Holy & Humorous
Sex's Primary Job is not Lust Management - Bonny's OysterBed7
International Pelvic Pain Society
National Vulvodynia Association
Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy & Humorous
Do I Have To? - The Forgiven Wife
Oral Sex: Spit, or Swallow? - The Forgiven Wife
Enjoying Your Husband’s Semen - The Forgiven Wife
Dealing with a Gag Reflex - The Forgiven Wife
Goodhead Fundamentals Kit from Married Dance (affiliate link)
Marital Aid Pilot Program from Married Dance (affiliate link)
When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain - The Forgiven Wife
Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn’t Possible - Messy Marriage
Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife
Episode 65: Female Sexual Health
Q&A with J: Should You Just Swallow Already?
Is Giving a “Blow Job” Enjoyable for the Wife?

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Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) - November 14, 2019

Romance and Your Bedroom17 Sep 201900:26:15

About this episode

Today we’re talking about bedrooms, specifically the effect of your bedroom on the quality of sex and intimacy in your marriage.

  1. Can a couple’s bedroom affect romance and/or sex in their marriage?
  2. What kinds of things about a bedroom are most likely to negatively and positively affect romance and sex?
  3. What are some simple things that wives or couples can do to improve the state of their bedroom?
  4. What could they do that costs very little or offers a lot of improvement for a little bit of effort?

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about the bedroom?

How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant. The beams of our house are cedars; our rafters are firs. Song of Songs 1:16-17

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Higher Desire Wives04 Sep 201900:36:13

About the Episode

Today we're talking about higher desire wives. But whether your sexual interest is higher or lower than your husband, you’ll benefit from our conversation.

  1. Let’s begin by defining “higher drive wives.” Are these just wives who want an excessive amount of sex? What makes a wife higher drive or desire?
  2. The standard presumption is that husbands want sex more than their wives. Why has this message been so prevalent, and why do we need to change it?
  3. What are some reasons why husbands might have less sexual interest than their wives?
  4. What do you think lower interest spouses wish their higher desire spouses understood about their sexuality?
  5. Are higher desire wives represented anywhere in Scripture?

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From the Bible

"The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:3-4).

"Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Corinthians 7:8-9).

"Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love" (Song of Songs 7:12).

"All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves" (Song of Songs 3:1-2).

Resources

Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture

"Dealing with a Low-Desire Husband," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker

5 Truths for High-Drive Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous

I Love My High Sex-Drive Sisters - OysterBed7

Q&A with J: When It Comes to Sex, My Husband Says I’m “Too Much” - Hot, Holy & Humorous

A Prayer for Higher-Drive Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous

Q&A with J: What If Hubby Is Passive in the Bedroom - Hot, Holy & Humorous

High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots - Hot, Holy & Humorous

A Letter to the Low-Drive Husband - Hot, Holy & Humorous

Hot, Holy & Humorous HD, Facebook group for higher desire wives

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The Power of Words (Quickie)06 Aug 202400:02:54

This week's quickie is from Bonny Burns about the power of words to foster friendship and overflow into your bedroom. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Female Sexual Health20 Aug 201900:37:27
About the Episode

Today, we are discussing female genital and reproductive health. What we affectionately call "hooha" health.

  • What are some issues that women have in terms of genital or reproductive health?
  • Focusing on the vulva and exterior lady parts, what kinds of things are red flags that someone should see the doctor?
  • Thinking about our internal reproductive organs (vagina, cervix, uterus), what are some red flags?
  • Now let's shift focus and talk about sexually transmitted infections and diseases.
  • What other practical suggestions for remaining intimate with health problems or STI/STD can you offer?
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From the Bible

"God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." 2 Corinthians 5:21.

"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:8-10.

"Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well." 3 John 1:2.

Resources

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Healing from Sexual Abuse06 Aug 201900:49:16

Episode 64: Healing from Sexual Abuse, with Mary DeMuth

Many of our listeners are survivors of sexual abuse, or we know someone who is. We’d like to talk today about how that trauma shapes survivors, how it affects their marriages, what healing looks like, and what we can do as the church to support survivors.

We are joined by Mary DeMuth, an advocate, author, and survivor herself. Mary has a new book coming out August 13: We Too: How the Church Can Respond Redemptively to the Sexual Abuse Crisis.

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From the Bible

What does God have to say about healing and sexual abuse?

Luke 4:17-21 - . . . and the scroll of the prophet Isaiah was handed to him. Unrolling it, he found the place where it is written:“The Spirit of the Lord is on me,because he has anointed meto proclaim good news to the poor.He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisonersand recovery of sight for the blind,to set the oppressed free, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.” Then he rolled up the scroll, gave it back to the attendant and sat down. The eyes of everyone in the synagogue were fastened on him. He began by saying to them, “Today this scripture is fulfilled in your hearing.”

Luke 10:25-37 - The Good Samaritan

The Book of Job

Genesis 1:2 - Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.

Resources

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Sexy Talk23 Jul 201900:29:59

We’re addressing the topic of how we talk with our husbands to create a sexier and more intimate atmosphere for the bedroom.

  • What defines “sexy talk”? What does that look like?
  • As Christians, what kind of sexy talk is okay or not okay?
  • How can we incorporate sexy talk into our repertoire? What are some specific ideas to get started or rev things up?
  • Does the Bible have more to say about sexy talk?

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From the Bible

My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14

Resources

Talking Flirty vs. Talking Dirty – Hot, Holy & Humorous
Say What? Sexy Talk in the Bedroom – The Forgiven Wife
Flirt with Your Husband (12 SFW Text Messages) – OysterBed7
15 Flirty, Corny, Steamy SFW Texts For Valentine’s Day – OysterBed7
Say the Magic Word! – OysterBed7
How to use Apple iPhone's Invisible Ink
Bitmoji

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