Sex, Bodies, and Cinema – Détails, épisodes et analyse

In this episode of Sex, Bodies, and Cinema, Jason and Ashley are joined by special guest Garland Jarmon, a sex and intimacy coach from Seattle, Washington, to dive into the surreal and provocative world of Yorgos Lanthimos’ Poor Things (2023). Starring Emma Stone, Mark Ruffalo, and Willem Dafoe, this bold film follows Bella Baxter’s extraordinary journey of self-discovery, autonomy, and embodiment after her unconventional resurrection by a brilliant yet unorthodox scientist.

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses themes of sexuality, autonomy, and body experimentation, which may be sensitive for some listeners.

Hosts

Jason Goode is Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more about his work and offerings at somarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & intimacy coach who specializes in internal pelvic care. Visit her website at ashleyelisabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Our guest is Garland Jarmon, a Sex and Intimacy Coach, based in Seattle. Visit his website at spiritualeros.com. Garland helps individuals explore their bodies and sexuality through somatic education, free from shame, guilt, and judgment.

Explore Your Relationship Patterns

Take Jason’s Hidden Relationship Patterns Quiz. Uncover subconscious patterns that influence how you show up in your relationships. Get started with the quiz at https://kiki-g8bvhlnj.scoreapp.com.

Transform Your Relationships

Jason also offers The Authentic Intimacy Course as a follow up to the quiz, designed to help you bring clarity, confidence, and authenticity to your relationships. It’s only $59 and you can use promo code CINEMA25 to get 25% off. www.somarelating.ca

Topics Discussed

[00:17] Welcome and introductions. Exploring the intersection of sex, embodiment, and film.
[01:05] Film overview: Poor Things as a tale of evolution, freedom, and self-discovery.
[10:00] The use of lenses and cinematography to reflect Bella’s inner world.
[24:45] Bella’s sexual awakening and the significance of “happiness.”
[35:00] Experiments in Lisbon: Pleasure, freedom, and sensory discovery.
[45:00] Bella’s loss of innocence in Alexandria: Seeing suffering and evil for the first time.
[50:00] Paris and the brothel: Bella’s exploration of boundaries and consent.
[56:45] Wisdom through experience: The impact of Madam Swinney’s teachings.
[1:05:00] The return to London: Bella’s confrontation with Godwin, Felicity, and her past.
[1:13:44] The confrontation with Alfie: Power, consent, and self-possession.
[1:20:00] The ending: Bella as a triumphant, embodied figure stepping into her power.

Additional Resources

The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin: https://bettymartin.org/
A foundational framework for understanding giving, receiving, and consent. She has many resourceful videos on her YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@BettyMartin

Dive deep into the Wheel of Consent at the School of Consent: https://www.schoolofconsent.org/

Jaiya's Erotic Blueprint – Discover your erotic blueprint and learn about the healing power of pleasure.

About the Podcast

Sex, Bodies, and Cinema explores films that tackle taboo subjects of sex, embodiment, and intimacy. Co-hosts Jason Goode and Ashley Rose bring their expertise in somatic sex education and filmmaking to spark thought-provoking conversations.

Produced by Jason Goode
Editing and Mixing by Taqi
Music from #Uppbeat
https://uppbeat.io/t/infraction/ultraviolet
License code: D1XMKMHAULTCPFSC

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In this episode of Sex, Bodies and Cinema, we explore Lance Young’s 1997 film, Bliss, starring Craig Sheffer, Sheryl Lee, and Terence Stamp. The story follows a married couple seeking therapy to address intimacy challenges, ultimately diving into themes of trauma, healing, and embodiment. With Terence Stamp’s enigmatic Balthazar as their guide, the couple confronts hidden parts of themselves and their relationship.

Trigger Warning: This film contains themes of sexual trauma. Please take care when listening to this episode and consider whether these topics may be difficult for you.

Hosts

Jason Goode is Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more about his work and offerings at somarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & intimacy coach who specializes in internal pelvic care. Visit her website at ashleyelisabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Explore Your Relationship Patterns

Take Jason’s Hidden Relationship Patterns Quiz. Uncover subconscious patterns that influence how you show up in your relationships. Get started with the quiz at https://kiki-g8bvhlnj.scoreapp.com.

Transform Your Relationships

Jason also offers The Authentic Intimacy Course as a follow up to the quiz, designed to help you bring clarity, confidence, and authenticity to your relationships. It’s only $59 and you can use promo code CINEMA25 to get 25% off. More info at somarelating.ca

Produced by Jason Goode
Editing and Mixing by Taqi
Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
https://uppbeat.io/t/infraction/ultraviolet
License code: UJYTD91BKNNODTSA

Key Topics Discussed

[0:00] Opening Thoughts: Reflecting on the film’s 90s marketing and its actual depth, tackling themes of love, vulnerability, and healing.

[15:30] The Role of Somatic Healing: How somatic approaches, like those portrayed in the film, can address sexual trauma and enhance relationships.

[28:45] Therapeutic Boundaries: Discussing ethical dilemmas in sexual healing, privacy, and client-therapist dynamics.

[35:10] Cultural Stigma Around Sexuality: Exploring the differences between society’s tolerance for violence versus sexuality in media, and the challenges this creates for films like Bliss.

[42:00] The Journey of Ecstasy and Embodiment: Unpacking quotes like, “Ecstasy heals the unconscious” and the portrayal of orgasm as a gateway to healing.

[51:00] Gender Dynamics and Power: Analyzing the film’s pivotal scene where Maria reclaims her power, and the complexities of consent and agency in relationships.

[1:02:00] Trauma in Relationships: How suppressed memories can surface during intimate connections, and the courage it takes to address these dynamics within partnerships.

[1:10:00] Narrative Power of Cinema: Discussing the unique ability of narrative films like Bliss to portray complex healing journeys, contrasting with educational content or documentaries.

Additional Resources

Learn more about Somatic Sex Educators:somaticsexeducators.com

Discover the work of Sexological Bodyworkers:sexologicalbodyworkers.org

Understanding Movie Ratings: Motion Picture Association Film Rating System

What is a Sex Surrogate? Learn More

Support Resources for Sexual Trauma Survivors

Canada

Ending Violence Canada: A comprehensive directory of sexual assault centers, crisis lines, and support services.
Visit Ending Violence Canada

Kids Help Phone: 24/7 confidential support for youth and adults. Call 1-800-668-6868 or text CONNECT to 686868.
Visit Kids Help Phone

The Canadian Centre for Abuse Awareness: https://www.abusehurts.ca. This Canadian organization offers programs and services to prevent and heal abuse.

Ending Violence Association of British Columbia (EVA BC): https://endingviolence.org. EVA BC provides resources and support for survivors of sexual assault in British Columbia.

VictimLink BC: 1-800-563-0808. This is a toll-free, confidential, multilingual telephone service available across British Columbia and the Yukon 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. It provides information and referral services to all victims of crime and immediate crisis support to victims of family and sexual violence.

United States

RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network): Offers a 24/7 National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) and a live chat feature.
Visit RAINN

National Domestic Violence Hotline: Provides support for abuse survivors. Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text START to 88788.
Visit the Hotline

United Kingdom

SurvivorsUK: Support for male survivors of sexual abuse. Chat online or call 020 3598 3898.
Visit SurvivorsUK

NSPCC (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children): Support for children and families. Call 0808 800 5000.
Visit NSPCC

Australia

1800RESPECT: 24/7 counseling for people impacted by sexual assault and domestic violence. Call 1800 737 732.
Visit 1800RESPECT

International

1in6: Support for men and their loved ones who have experienced sexual abuse.
Visit 1in6

Child Helpline International: A global network of child helplines.
Visit Child Helpline International

Additional Resources

Therapist Directories:

Psychology Today Therapist Finder (Worldwide)

Books and Educational Materials:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma by Staci Haines

Online Communities and Support Groups:

Pandora’s Project: Online resources and forums for survivors of sexual violence.
Visit Pandora's Project

After Silence: A forum for survivors to share their experiences in a supportive environment.
Visit After Silence

About the Podcast

Sex, Bodies, and Cinema explores films that tackle taboo subjects of sex, embodiment, and intimacy. Co-hosts Jason Goode and Ashley Rose bring their expertise in somatic sex education and filmmaking to spark thought-provoking conversations.

Produced by Jason Goode
Editing and Mixing by Taqi
Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
https://uppbeat.io/t/infraction/ultraviolet
License code: UJYTD91BKNNODTSA

Support the Podcast

Please rate, review, and follow the show on your favorite podcast platform. Share with anyone who loves movies and meaningful discussions about sexuality and embodiment!

Welcome to Sex, Bodies and Cinema—the podcast that boldly navigates the intersection of film, sexuality, and the human experience. Jason Goode and Ashley Rose do a dive deep into films that challenge the taboo surrounding bodies and desire. With backgrounds in film directing and acting, they channel their knowledge as practicing somatic sex educators to illuminate the narratives and themes behind each film they explore. Join them as they dissect a different movie each episode, unpacking its context, creators, and (eventually) its plot twists—all while sparking conversation about what it means to truly embody ourselves.

Hosts

Jason Goode is Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more about his work and offerings at somarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & intimacy coach who specializes in internal pelvic care. Visit her website atashleylizabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Music from #Uppbeat
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In this episode of Sex, Bodies, and Cinema, Jason and Ashley dive into Laurel Parmet’s The Starling Girl (2023), a coming-of-age drama about Jem Starling (played by Eliza Scanlen), a 17-year-old navigating her place in a repressive Christian fundamentalist community. The film takes a bold look at sexuality, autonomy, and the clash between religious doctrine and personal desires, especially when Jem becomes entangled in a secret relationship with her youth pastor, Owen (Louis Pullman).

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses themes of consent, sexual awakening, and spiritual repression that may be triggering or sensitive for some listeners.

Hosts:

Jason Goode is a Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more about his work and offerings at somarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & intimacy coach who specializes in internal pelvic care. Visit her website at ashleyelisabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Explore Your Relationship Patterns:

Take Jason’s Hidden Relationship Patterns Quiz. Uncover subconscious patterns that influence how you show up in your relationships.

Get started with the quiz at https://kiki-g8bvhlnj.scoreapp.com.

Transform Your Relationships:

Jason also offers The Authentic Intimacy Course as a follow up to the quiz, designed to help you bring clarity, confidence, and authenticity to your relationships.

It’s only $59 and you can use promo code CINEMA25 to get 25% off. Go to: http://www.somarelating.ca

Topics Discussed:

[00:17] Introduction to the film and its exploration of the tension between faith, sexuality, and self-discovery.

[03:00] Ashley and Jason’s initial reactions to the film’s nuanced portrayal of characters and themes.

[10:00] The role of religion and purity culture in shaping Jem's identity and sexual experiences.

[17:30] The chemistry between Jem and Owen and the dynamics of power and consent in their relationship.

[25:00] The impact of the church environment on Jem's sense of autonomy and her body.

[35:00] Exploring the spiritual and emotional isolation created by rigid religious structures.

[45:00] The conversation about consent, the confusion around sexuality, and the dangers of religious purity standards.

[55:00] The film's ending: Jem’s path toward reclaiming her agency and stepping into her own future.

[1:05:00] A reflection on how The Starling Girl challenges the portrayal of fundamentalist communities in film and its empathy for the characters.

Additional Resources:

Hellbound? (Documentary) by Kevin Miller
Find it on IMDb: Hellbound?
Purchase it here: Hellbound? DVD

Shameless by Rev. Nadia Bolz-Weber
Jason recommends this book as an insightful exploration of sexuality and spirituality. Learn more: Shameless by Rev. Nadia Bolz-Weber

The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin: a foundational framework for understanding giving, receiving, and consent. Watch her videos on YouTube: Betty Martin's YouTube Channel

The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin: an excellent resource for those exploring their sexuality in more depth. It offers insight into how shame and repression, often rooted in religious or societal frameworks, affect our sexual development and self-awareness. Find it HERE: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/174777.The_Erotic_Mind

About the Podcast:

Sex, Bodies, and Cinema explores films that tackle taboo subjects related to sex, embodiment, and intimacy. Co-hosts Jason Goode and Ashley Rose bring their expertise in somatic sex education and filmmaking to spark thought-provoking discussions.

Produced by: Jason Goode
Editing and Mixing by: Taqi
Music from: #Uppbeat – "Ultraviolet"
License code: D1XMKMHAULTCPFSC

Support the Podcast:

Please rate, review, and follow the show on your favorite podcast platform. Share with anyone who loves movies and meaningful discussions about sexuality and embodiment!

In this episode of Sex, Bodies, and Cinema, Jason and Ashley are joined by author and educator Jamie Lee Finch to explore An Education (2009), a coming-of-age drama directed by Lone Scherfig and written by Nick Hornby. The film, based on journalist Lynn Barber’s memoir, follows Jenny (Carey Mulligan), a bright schoolgirl in 1960s London, who becomes entangled with an older, charming con man, David (Peter Sarsgaard). As Jenny is swept into a sophisticated adult world, the film unpacks themes of power, agency, and the longing for freedom.

Trigger Warning: Discussions of grooming, age-gap relationships, societal expectations, and power imbalances.

Hosts

Jason Goode is a Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more at somarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & Intimacy Coach who specializes in internal pelvic care. Visit ashleyelisabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Our guest for this episode is Jamie Lee Finch. Jamie is an author, educator, and bodyworker. She co-hosts the Experiential Anatomy podcast with Dr. Joan Chan and wrote You Are Your Own: A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity. Find her work at jamieleefinch.com and on Instagram @jamieleefinch.

Explore Your Relationship Patterns

Take Jason’s Hidden Relationship Patterns Quiz. Uncover subconscious patterns that influence how you show up in your relationships.

Get started with the quiz at https://kiki-g8bvhlnj.scoreapp.com. 

Transform Your Relationships

Jason also offers The Authentic Intimacy Course as a follow up to the quiz, designed to help you bring clarity, confidence, and authenticity to your relationships.

It’s only $59 and you can use promo code CINEMA25 to get 25% off.

Go to: http://www.somarelating.ca

Find the Podcast:

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5ZV2L3Qv4TQzXnYSfpFutU

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-bodies-and-cinema/id1782598061

YouTube Music: https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGjmizQHfiZhIe5WgPnPMQ3XV7iXGOMVY

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexbodiesandcinema

Topics Discussed

[01:00] Introduction to An Education and its major themes
[05:00] Jamie’s personal connection to the film and how it resonated with her coming-of-age journey
[12:00] Carey Mulligan’s performance and Jenny’s balancing act between youth and maturity
[20:00] The father-daughter dynamic and its post-WWII cultural backdrop
[32:00] The seductive pull of sophistication and the illusion of agency in grooming dynamics
[45:00] The role of music and cinematography in shaping the film’s emotional tone
[52:00] How An Education challenges traditional coming-of-age narratives
[01:05:00] The film’s conclusion and the deeper lessons about self-trust and autonomy

Additional Resources

Lynn Barber’s Memoir: An Education Goodreads

Nick Hornby’s Other Works: Goodreads

Jamie Lee Finch’s Course: Your Body is a Person https://course.jamieleefinch.com/pages/your-body-is-a-person

About the Podcast

Sex, Bodies, and Cinema explores films that tackle themes of sex, embodiment, and intimacy. Co-hosts Jason Goode and Ashley Rose bring their expertise in somatic sex education and filmmaking to spark thought-provoking conversations.

Produced by Jason GoodeEditing and Mixing by TaqiMusic from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):https://uppbeat.io/t/infraction/ultravioletLicense code: 9ZNOLBXC6YPVFEWC

Support the Podcast

Please rate, review, and follow us on your favorite podcast platform. Share with fellow film lovers and anyone interested in meaningful discussions about sexuality and embodiment!

In this episode of Sex, Bodies, and Cinema, Jason and Ashley dive deep into Stanley Kubrick’s provocative 1999 film Eyes Wide Shut, starring Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman. The film follows Dr. Bill Harford on a bizarre, night-long journey through the hidden worlds of desire and secrecy after his wife, Alice, shares her secret fantasy of another man. As Bill navigates his own sexual awakening, the couple’s relationship faces a crisis of trust, power, and unspoken truths.

Trigger Warning: Discussions of infidelity, power dynamics, sexual fantasies, and intense emotional distress.

Hosts

Jason Goode is Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more about his work and offerings atsomarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & intimacy coach who specializes in internal pelvic care. Visit her website at ashleyelisabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Explore Your Relationship Patterns

Take Jason’s Hidden Relationship Patterns Quiz. Uncover subconscious patterns that influence how you show up in your relationships.

Get started with the quiz at https://kiki-g8bvhlnj.scoreapp.com.

Transform Your Relationships

Jason also offers The Authentic Intimacy Course as a follow up to the quiz, designed to help you bring clarity, confidence, and authenticity to your relationships.

It’s only $59 and you can use promo code CINEMA25 to get 25% off. Go to: http://www.somarelating.ca

Topics Discussed

[01:00] Introduction to Eyes Wide Shut and the film's main premise

[02:00] Jason and Ashley’s personal history with the film and Stanley Kubrick’s filmmaking style

[06:00] The power dynamics in the opening scene between Bill and Alice

[15:00] Exploring the theme of masking and unmasking in the film’s cinematography

[25:00] The role of Christmas symbolism and its connection to alienation and the commercialization of life

[32:00] The pivotal moment where Alice shares her secret fantasy and how this triggers a crisis in Bill’s character

[45:00] The clinical yet erotic atmosphere of the secret society orgy and the power dynamics within

[56:00] Domino’s role as one of the few characters showing integrity and humanity

[01:03:00] The significance of the morgue scene and the emotional reckoning it triggers for Bill

[01:12:00] The final scene and Alice’s statement about being “awake,” unpacking its emotional and spiritual implications for Bill and Alice’s relationship

[01:20:00] Conclusion on the complex layers of desire, power, and relationships explored in Eyes Wide Shut

Additional Resources

Eyes Wide Open, a memoir on the writing of the script: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/318531.Eyes_Wide_Open

Stanley Kubrick: a Life in Pictures: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0278736/

Cosmo Meens’ website has great resources around navigating desire: https://www.himerosproject.com/resources

Also, sign up for Cosmo Meens’ Anatomy of Desire workshop to learn more about how to communicate your unspoken desires.

About the Podcast

Sex, Bodies, and Cinema explores films that tackle taboo subjects of sex, embodiment, and intimacy. Co-hosts Jason Goode and Ashley Rose bring their expertise in somatic sex education and filmmaking to spark thought-provoking conversations.

Produced by Jason Goode

Editing and Mixing by Taqi

Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):

https://uppbeat.io/t/infraction/ultraviolet

License code: 3UEKTOITJOY0Q2PO

Support the Podcast

Please rate, review, and follow the show on your favorite podcast platform. Share with anyone who loves movies and meaningful discussions about sexuality and embodiment!

In this episode of Sex, Bodies, and Cinema, Jason and Ashley dive into Alfonso Cuarón’s Y tu mamá también (2001), a provocative coming-of-age road trip film that follows two teenage boys, Julio (Gael García Bernal) and Tenoch (Diego Luna), who embark on a journey to the coast with a much older woman, Luisa (Maribel Verdú). Set against the backdrop of political upheaval in Mexico, the film explores themes of sexual exploration, power dynamics, and the complexities of youth, identity, and human connection.

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses themes of sexuality, power, immaturity, and the complexities of relationships that may be triggering or sensitive for some listeners.

Hosts:

Jason Goode is a Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more about his work and offerings at somarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & intimacy coach who specializes in internal pelvic care. Visit her website atashleyelisabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Explore Your Relationship Patterns:

Take Jason’s Hidden Relationship Patterns Quiz. Uncover subconscious patterns that influence how you show up in your relationships.

Get started with the quiz at https://kiki-g8bvhlnj.scoreapp.com.

Transform Your Relationships:

Jason also offers The Authentic Intimacy Course as a follow up to the quiz, designed to help you bring clarity, confidence, and authenticity to your relationships.

It’s only $59 and you can use promo code CINEMA25 to get 25% off. Go to: http://www.somarelating.ca

Topics Discussed:

[05:00] Jason and Ashley’s initial reactions to the film's blend of raw sexuality and political commentary. 
[12:00] The immaturity of Julio and Tenoch: how their sexual desires conflict with their moral compass and expectations.
[18:30] The character of Luisa and her role as both a mentor and lover.
[27:00] The road trip as a metaphor for self-discovery and the turbulence of adolescence.
[35:00] The tension between freedom and consequence: How the boys’ reckless behavior ultimately shapes their paths.
[45:00] Power dynamics in Y Tu Mamá También: how both characters and society struggle with power, control, and independence.
[52:00] The film’s portrayal of Mexico—politically, socially, and culturally—and how it influences the characters’ journeys.
[1:00:00] A deep dive into the final moments of the film, where the boys’ youth and inexperience clash with the realities of life and loss.
[1:10:00] The wisdom and grace of Luisa: how her life choices and final moments provide clarity for the boys and viewers alike.

Additional Resources:

Y tu mama tambien on IMDB.

About the Podcast:

Sex, Bodies, and Cinema explores films that tackle taboo subjects related to sex, embodiment, and intimacy. Co-hosts Jason Goode and Ashley Rose bring their expertise in somatic sex education and filmmaking to spark thought-provoking discussions.

Produced by: Jason Goode
Editing and Mixing by: Taqi
Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
https://uppbeat.io/t/infraction/ultraviolet
License code: JPNITEAE7YIQPBW8

Support the Podcast:

Please rate, review, and follow the show on your favorite podcast platform. Share it with anyone who loves movies and meaningful discussions about sexuality and embodiment!

In this episode of Sex, Bodies, and Cinema, Jason and Ashley dive into Sarah Polley’s Take This Waltz (2011), a poignant and emotional drama that explores the complexities of desire, fidelity, and the search for meaning in relationships. Starring Michelle Williams, Seth Rogen, Luke Kirby, and Sarah Silverman, the film follows Margot (Williams), a married woman who finds herself torn between her stable, familiar life with her husband Lou (Rogen) and the magnetic allure of Daniel (Kirby), an artist living across the street.

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses themes of emotional conflict, infidelity, and personal identity within relationships. Please take care when listening.

Hosts:

Jason Goode is a Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more about his work and offerings at somarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & intimacy coach who specializes in internal pelvic care. Visit her website at ashleyelisabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Explore Your Relationship Patterns:

Take Jason’s Hidden Relationship Patterns Quiz. Uncover subconscious patterns that influence how you show up in your relationships.

Get started with the quiz at https://kiki-g8bvhlnj.scoreapp.com.

Transform Your Relationships:

Jason also offers The Authentic Intimacy Course as a follow up to the quiz, designed to help you bring clarity, confidence, and authenticity to your relationships.

It’s only $59 and you can use promo code CINEMA25 to get 25% off. Go to: http://www.somarelating.ca

Topics Discussed:

[03:00] Ashley and Jason’s initial thoughts on the film’s portrayal of longing, dissatisfaction, and the emotional struggles of Margot and Lou.

[10:00] The role of Margot’s emotional needs and how she navigates her connection with Daniel in contrast to her relationship with Lou.

[17:30] Exploring the dynamics of love, routine, and passion within Margot and Lou’s marriage and the underlying themes of emotional suffocation and longing.

[25:00] The role of Daniel (Luke Kirby) in challenging Margot’s self-perception and her understanding of desire and intimacy.

[35:00] The importance of communication and emotional vulnerability in relationships—how misaligned desires and emotional needs can create tension and confusion.

[45:00] A deep dive into the film’s portrayal of the inner conflict that Margot experiences, and how her relationship with Daniel invites her to confront her personal desires.

[55:00] The film’s ending: Margot’s journey toward self-realization, emotional acceptance, and the inevitable gap between what we desire and what we can achieve in our relationships.

[1:05:00] A reflection on how Take This Waltz challenges romantic conventions and offers a deeper look at the complexities of modern love and desire.

Additional Resources:

Take This Waltz - on IMDb.

Katherine Monk’s excellent book on Canadian Cinema: Weird Sex and Snowshoes.

Cosmo Meens’ website has great resources around navigating desire: https://www.himerosproject.com/resources

Sign up to watch SSE Cosmo Meens’ Anatomy of Desire workshop.

Mating in Captivity- Esther Perel’s exploration of the tension between love and desire, this book helps couples address how to keep desire alive in long-term relationships and navigate the complexities of fidelity, intimacy, and attraction.

About the Podcast:

Sex, Bodies, and Cinema explores films that tackle taboo subjects related to sex, embodiment, and intimacy. Co-hosts Jason Goode and Ashley Rose bring their expertise in somatic sex education and filmmaking to spark thought-provoking discussions.

Produced by: Jason Goode
Editing and Mixing by: Taqi
Music from #Uppbeat
https://uppbeat.io/t/infraction/ultraviolet
License code: Z4EEWFS5NCW8VM6H

In this episode, we dive deep into the 1992 erotic thriller Basic Instinct, directed by Paul Verhoeven and written by Joe Eszterhas. The film follows a troubled police detective, Nick Curran, as he investigates the brutal murder of a rock star that leads him into a complex, manipulative relationship with the seductive suspect, Catherine Tramell, played by Sharon Stone. With its provocative exploration of power, desire, and the blurred lines between control and submission, Basic Instinct challenges the boundaries of the erotic thriller genre. Through its iconic performances, Hitchcockian influences, and controversial moments, the film raises questions about manipulation, sexuality, and the cost of obsession.

Trigger Warning:
This episode discusses themes of sexual manipulation, violence, consent, and power dynamics that may be triggering for some listeners.

Hosts:

Jason Goode is a Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more about his work and offerings at somarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & Intimacy Coach specializing in internal pelvic care. Visit her website at ashleyelisabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Explore Your Relationship Patterns:

Take Jason’s Hidden Relationship Patterns Quiz. Uncover subconscious patterns that influence how you show up in your relationships.

Get started with the quiz at https://kiki-g8bvhlnj.scoreapp.com.

Transform Your Relationships:

Jason also offers The Authentic Intimacy Course as a follow up to the quiz, designed to help you bring clarity, confidence, and authenticity to your relationships.

It’s only $59 and you can use promo code CINEMA25 to get 25% off. Go to: http://www.somarelating.ca

Find the podcast:

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5ZV2L3Qv4TQzXnYSfpFutU

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-bodies-and-cinema/id1782598061

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexbodiesandcinema

Youtube Music:https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGjmizQHfiZhIe5WgPnPMQ3XV7iXGOMVY

Topics Discussed:

[00:20] Introduction to Basic Instinct and the film's premise

[02:56] Ashley and Jason’s personal history with Basic Instinct and their initial impressions of the film

[05:00] Director Paul Verhoeven’s filmmaking style and his approach to subverting Hollywood tropes

[09:46] Michael Douglas's performance as Nick Curran and his portrayal of a flawed protagonist

[12:00] Sharon Stone’s rise to fame and her iconic portrayal of Catherine Trammell

[18:00] Exploring the power dynamics between Catherine and the male characters in the film

[24:35] The famous interrogation scene: power, control, and manipulation

[29:00] Female empowerment in Basic Instinct: Catherine as both a projection of male fantasy and a symbol of overt power

[34:00] Basic Instinct as a deconstruction of film noir and erotic thrillers, with references to Hitchcock and classic Hollywood

[40:00] Michael Douglas’ character, Nick, and his vulnerability in the face of Catherine’s control

[45:00] The controversial and complex dynamics surrounding Sharon Stone’s interrogation scene

[50:00] The juxtaposition of Catherine’s overt power and Beth’s covert manipulation

[56:00] Analyzing the Hitchcockian influences in the film’s cinematography, particularly the use of light and shadows

[1:00:00] The film’s exploration of control, dominance, and vulnerability within sexual relationships

[1:03:00] The ambiguity of the ending and the role of personal drives and societal projections

[1:04:00] The final thoughts on the film’s cultural commentary on sexuality, power, and the genre of erotic thrillers

[1:15:00] The lasting cultural impact of Basic Instinct and its role in shaping the erotic thriller genre

Additional Resources:

The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin: a foundational framework for understanding giving, receiving, and consent. Watch her videos on YouTube: Betty Martin's YouTube Channel

Jack Morin’s The Erotic Mind: A book that explores the psychology of eroticism, which ties into the themes discussed in the episode about arousal, power, and inhibition. Find it HERE: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/174777.The_Erotic_Mind

About the Podcast

Sex, Bodies, and Cinema explores films that tackle taboo subjects of sex, embodiment, and intimacy. Co-hosts Jason Goode and Ashley Rose bring their expertise in somatic sex education and filmmaking to spark thought-provoking conversations.

Produced by: Jason Goode
Editing and Mixing by: Taqi
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We dive into the 2016 masterpiece Moonlight, written and directed by Barry Jenkins, based on the play In Moonlight Black Boys Look Blue by Tarell Alvin McCraney. Moonlight explores the journey of a young African-American man, Chiron, as he navigates his identity, sexuality, and the complexities of growing up, with each chapter of his life portrayed by a different actor. The film is split into three parts: childhood, adolescence, and adulthood, each deeply exploring themes of self-acceptance, vulnerability, and the societal pressures surrounding masculinity.

Trigger Warning:
This episode discusses themes of trauma, violence, homophobia, and identity struggles that may be triggering for some listeners.

Hosts:

Jason Goode is a Somatic Sex Educator and Somatic Performance Coach. Learn more about his work and offerings at somarelating.ca.

Ashley Rose is a Sexological Bodyworker & Intimacy Coach specializing in internal pelvic care. Visit her website at ashleyelisabethrose.ca for resources, workshops, and private coaching.

Our guest today is Jeremy Crittenden (https://jeremycrittenden.com), an actor and comedian based in New York. Follow him on Instagram at @Jcritty and on TikTok at @hijcritty

Important voices to learn from:

Aaron Johnson

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/holistic_resistance/

The Cut Project: https://www.cutproject.org/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cut.project/

Dark and Tender film: https://www.instagram.com/dark.and.tender.film/

Resmaa Menakem

My Grandmother’s Hands: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34146782-my-grandmother-s-hand

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/resmaamenakem/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/resmaa

Adrienne Maree Brown

Website: https://adriennemareebrown.net/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/adriennemareebrown/

Raoul Peck

Exterminate All the Brutes (HBO Mini-series): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQ4r3Qdrqmo

Based on the book by Sven Lindquist: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/909011._Exterminate_All_the_Brutes_

Raoul Peck

Exterminate All the Brutes (HBO Mini-series): Wikipedia

Explore Your Relationship Patterns:

Take Jason’s Hidden Relationship Patterns Quiz. Uncover subconscious patterns that influence how you show up in your relationships. Get started with the quiz at https://kiki-g8bvhlnj.scoreapp.com.

Transform Your Relationships:

Jason also offers The Authentic Intimacy Course as a follow up to the quiz, designed to help you bring clarity, confidence, and authenticity to your relationships.

It’s only $59 and you can use promo code CINEMA25 to get 25% off. Go to: http://www.somarelating.ca

Topics Discussed:

[00:00] – Introduction of the podcast, hosts, and the hidden relationship patterns quiz.

[02:39] – Opening Reaction to the Moonlight Trailer

[03:44] – Relationship to the film:hosts share their deep admiration for Moonlight and the empathy it generates.

[08:26] – Disclaimer on speaking to the African American experience: hosts acknowledge their position as white Canadians and direct listeners to voices discussing the African American experience.

[10:49] – Complexity of identity and class in the film: reflection on the film’s layers, including identity, class, and orientation.

[13:55] – Discussion of Chiron’s emotional isolation and the significance of the community around him.

[16:33] – Exploration of the use of classical music in the film, blending it with hip-hop influences.

[17:19] –Introduction of key characters, including Juan, Teresa, and Paula, and reflection on their performances.

[20:30] –Examination of the developing relationship between Chiron and Kevin, focused on care and tenderness.

[21:46] –Discussion of the absence of mentorship and the challenges of parenting amidst addiction.

[23:47]–The beach scene and vulnerability: discussion of Juan teaching Chiron how to navigate the challenges of life through the metaphor of the ocean.

[26:47] – Chiron’s vulnerability and masking: Chiron’s emotional armor and the societal pressures he faces to mask vulnerability.

[28:04] – Reflection on the absence of a mentor figure in Chiron's life and its impact.

33:39 – The role of scapegoating:introduction to René Girard’s concept of scapegoating and how it plays out in the film.

35:16 – Discussion of Chiron’s response to bullying and his journey into emotional isolation.

[37:47] –Chiron’s violent retaliation against his bully as a response to his inner turmoil.

[41:56] –Kevin and Chiron reconnect at the diner, and the vulnerability they share is explored.

[44:59] –Safety, healing, and vulnerability:the emotional safety Chiron finds with Kevin, contrasting with his earlier experiences.

[53:48] –Jeremy’s experience with code-switching:Jeremy shares his personal experience of navigating different identities for survival.

[59:25] –Scapegoating and social systems: discussion of how scapegoating operates in both personal and societal systems.

[1:08:58] –Reflection on Chiron’s transformation and the unmasking of his vulnerability.

[1:11:53] –Final thoughts on the film: the tenderness of the final scene, highlighting Chiron's desire to be seen and held.

Additional Resources:

IMDb: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt4975722/

Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moonlight_(2016_film)

Jason’s somatic coach, Bettina Rothe: https://www.bettinarothe.com/

Rene Girard and Scapegoating

Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ren%C3%A9_Girard

Mimetic Theory: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mimetic_theory

CBC did an incredible series on Girard’s Scapegoat: 

https://www.cbc.ca/radio/ideas/the-scapegoat-the-ideas-of-ren%C3%A9-girard-part-1-1.3474195

The Scapegoat, Part 1: https://www.cbc.ca/radio/ideas/the-scapegoat-the-ideas-of-ren%C3%A9-girard-part-1-1.3474195

The Scapegoat, Part 2: http://www.cbc.ca/radio/ideas/the-scapegoat-the-ideas-of-ren%C3%A9-girard-part-2-1.3474463

The Scapegoat, Part 3: http://www.cbc.ca/radio/ideas/the-scapegoat-the-ideas-of-ren%C3%A9-girard-part-3-1.3483382

The Scapegoat, Part 4: http://www.cbc.ca/radio/ideas/the-scapegoat-the-ideas-of-ren%C3%A9-girard-part-4-1.3483817

The Scapegoat, Part 5: http://www.cbc.ca/radio/ideas/the-scapegoat-the-ideas-of-ren%C3%A9-girard-part-5-1.3494516

About the Podcast

Sex, Bodies, and Cinema explores films that tackle taboo subjects of sex, embodiment, and intimacy. Co-hosts Jason Goode and Ashley Rose bring their expertise in somatic sex education and filmmaking to spark thought-provoking conversations.

Produced by: Jason Goode
Editing and Mixing by: Taqi
Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!):
https://uppbeat.io/t/infraction/ultraviolet
License code: 7RCLJN6MZPXYTYIK

Support the Podcast

Please rate, review, and follow the show on your favorite podcast platform. Share with anyone who loves movies and meaningful discussions about sexuality and embodiment!