Secondhand Therapy is a funny, honest mental health podcast where two unlicensed best friends unpack their weekly therapy sessions. Join Louie Paoletti and Michael Malone as they explore anxiety, ADHD, grief, masculinity, and emotional growth—with humor, heart, and total transparency. Each episode blends raw self-reflection with real time takes on therapy, trauma, relationships, and the messy process of healing. It’s real talk about mental health in the modern world, and why personal growth is so damn hard.
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Why do we run from love even when we want it? In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, we unpack relationship anxiety, fear of vulnerability, emotional avoidance, and the ways childhood experiences shape how we show up in dating.
After a surprising reading sparks a deep conversation, we dive into grief, attachment styles, self-sabotage, codependency, and why anxiety can become the perfect escape hatch from intimacy. We talk about long-distance relationships, fear of abandonment, feeling undeserving of love, and why receiving care can feel uncomfortable.
This episode blends comedy with real conversations about mental health, relationships, trauma, and personal growth.
Topics in this episode:
• relationship anxiety
• fear of intimacy
• attachment styles and dating
• grief and emotional avoidance
• self-sabotage in relationships
• codependency and vulnerability
• learning how to receive love
If you’ve ever wondered why relationships feel harder than they should, give us a listen. Or if you're into mental health with some humor. It's kinda our thing.
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This week on Secondhand Therapy, we unpack the battle between logic vs emotion, and how living in your “wise mind” could change your relationships forever.
We talk about:
• The therapy concept of logical mind, emotional mind, and wise mind
• Why partners are often opposites in relationships
• The hidden ways control, anxiety, and people-pleasing show up
• The difference between situational shame vs character shame
• How childhood roles shape adult relationships
• Why saying “no” and being authentic feels terrifying
• The moment you realize you might be getting in your own way
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Are you sabotaging your relationships without realizing it? In this hilarious and honest episode, we dive into avoidant attachment, fear of rejection, dating apps burnout, and the uncomfortable role ego plays in heartbreak.
We talk about why the “spark” can be misleading, how perfectionism keeps you single, and the psychology behind ending relationships before you get hurt. Inspired by therapy conversations and the Matthew Perry memoir, we unpack attachment styles, vulnerability, emotional avoidance, and the fear of not being “enough.”
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What happens when you realize you don’t actually know your parents as people?
In this episode, we talk about the moment adulthood hits and you suddenly see your mom as a human instead of just “Mom.” We get into parent–child relationships, emotional maturity, grief, family dynamics, divorce, childhood memories, and why so many adults feel regret about not asking their parents deeper questions sooner.
We share the emotional experience of trying to intentionally connect with a parent, what changes as parents age, how becoming a grandparent can shift emotional openness, and the complicated feelings that come with realizing your parents had full lives before you.
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Why do we sabotage ourselves right when life is going well? In this deeply honest and funny episode, we talk about self-sabotage, burnout, body image, ADHD overwhelm, emotional contagion, perfectionism, and the fear of slowing down.
One host opens up about gaining weight and the shame spiral that followed, while the other calls out the real culprit: feeling defeated before even trying. From driving to Costco and leaving with In-N-Out instead of groceries, to the exhausting pressure of productivity and the inability to truly rest, this episode dives into the psychology of why change feels impossible when you’re already overwhelmed.
Can Trauma Fuel Growth and Resilience? (with David Sussillo) | #125
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What happens when childhood trauma meets therapy, neuroscience, and personal growth?
In this episode, we sit down with David Sussillo, a tech leader and author who grew up in foster care, group homes, and institutional living to explore how early adversity shapes the brain, emotional regulation, confidence, and adult success. Together, we unpack the psychology of trauma, resilience, and the long-term impact of feeling unsafe as a child.
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-BetterHelp:
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Why are some people afraid to be happy? In this episode, we unpack the fear of happiness, losing your identity, and why suffering can feel tied to purpose. We talk about loneliness, the “sad identity,” and the belief that being happy makes you less relatable or useful to others.
We dive into emotional immaturity, childhood conditioning, emotionally immature parents, gaslighting vs lying, codependency, people-pleasing, and the urge to help or control others. We explore how trauma, family dynamics, and early experiences shape your self-concept, relationships, and sense of worth.
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Why do we people-please? Why is having opinions so scary? And why do old memories and regrets stay with us for life?
This episode dives deep into people pleasing, fear of abandonment, identity, childhood emotional development, and the pressure of expectations. We talk about why we struggle to disappoint others, why external validation feels safer than authenticity, and how regret and unresolved memories shape adulthood.
Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!
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Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored
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In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, we dive into dopamine detox, phone addiction, and what happens when you remove distractions from your life. One host quits his smartphone, switches to a Light Phone, ditches Bluetooth, and starts living with extreme intention—only to realize it’s way harder (and more uncomfortable) than expected.
We talk about doomscrolling, online shopping addiction, constant comparison, and the feeling of always searching for something you can’t define. Is modern technology making us anxious, disconnected, and unhappy?
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BetterHelp:
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ADHD, executive dysfunction, EMDR therapy, anxiety, and healing after relationships — this episode dives deep into the messy reality of mental health recovery.
Michael opens up about living with ADHD, the pressure of rigid routines, executive dysfunction burnout, and the exhausting cycle of all-or-nothing thinking, perfectionism, and chasing the ideal self. He shares how ADHD impacts productivity, identity, motivation, and emotional regulation.
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Plus: awkward book signings, therapy homework, identity shifts, and the small moment that felt huge—returning a wallet instead of pretending to want it.
If you’ve ever struggled with boundaries, authenticity, fear of rejection, or being the version of yourself others need, this episode may ruin your day, Or help. Who knows.
If you’ve ever:
• Deleted and re-downloaded dating apps
• Compared new partners to your ex
• Felt afraid of commitment or intimacy
• Wondered if you self-sabotage relationships
• Struggled with breakup anxiety or closure
This episode will hit hard — and make you laugh while it does.
Expect comedy, brutal honesty, and relatable mental health conversations about dating, relationships, therapy, anxiety, and personal growth.
Perfect for fans of therapy podcasts, self-improvement, and comedic mental health content.
Losing a parent and the regret of never truly knowing them
How childhood shapes your adult relationships
Therapy concepts like reframing, empathy, and emotional growth
How grief and healing change family relationships
The psychology of seeing your parents differently as an adult
If you’ve ever wondered:
Why don’t we really know our parents?
Why does time with family feel more meaningful as we get older?
Why do adult children start asking deeper questions later in life?
We also explore:
• Why burnout kills motivation
• The hidden link between shame and self-sabotage
• The pressure to always be “productive”
• Why we struggle to feel content or fulfilled
• Emotional contagion and childhood emotional patterns
• The fear of stopping, slowing down, or “not running” anymore
This episode blends mental health, comedy, therapy insights, and real conversations about anxiety, depression, motivation, and personal growth.
If you’ve ever felt stuck, exhausted, or like you’re getting in your own way — this one will hit hard (and make you laugh).
We talk about:
• Growing up in foster care and surviving a turbulent childhood
• How trauma affects curiosity, intelligence, and risk-taking
• Emotional regulation, anger, anxiety, and relationship patterns
• Therapy, meditation, and learning to “observe” your thoughts
• Addiction, family history, and breaking generational cycles
• Religion, meaning, and the fear of nothing after death
• Neuroscience, AI, and what makes humans conscious
This conversation blends mental health, psychology, neuroscience, and real lived experience to answer a big question: Can trauma hold you back—or help you grow?
If you’re interested in therapy, healing, self-awareness, personal growth, childhood trauma, anxiety, depression, resilience, and the science of the mind, this episode is for you.
If you struggle with feeling undeserving of happiness, fear being seen as “better than others,” or feel stuck in a helper role, this conversation will feel deeply relatable.
We also get into family dynamics, political tension, overthinking, and the struggle with self-worth—especially when you assume people are judging you. Why do we spiral about what others think? And how do you stop?
This episode is about slowing down, being present, and learning how to sit with discomfort instead of escaping it.
Topics include:
Dopamine detox & digital minimalism
Phone addiction & social media habits
Intentional living & mindfulness
Anxiety, overthinking, and shame
Family conflict & emotional triggers
Self-worth and comparison
If you’ve ever felt addicted to your phone, stuck in your thoughts, or unsure if you’re growing or just spiraling—this one’s for you.
Lou reflects on recent EMDR therapy sessions while processing a past relationship and the emotional residue left behind. He discusses anxiety, avoidance, emotional numbness, and the fear that comes with telling deeply personal stories. The conversation explores vulnerability, trauma processing, therapy breakthroughs, and deciding when you're ready to share your truth.
This episode is for anyone navigating ADHD overwhelm, therapy healing, relationship grief, anxiety recovery, perfectionism, and personal growth.
