We're helping you build the vibrant life you want by giving you the tools to own your authentic self. Hosted by Daniel and Garet, the Aussie meets Angeleno married couple share everyday relatable topics from an authentic gay point-of-view. We celebrate community wins, interview thought-provoking guests, and ask difficult but necessary questions about the life and times of Modern Gays. Each week, we'll introduce new topics on how to lead with vibrancy, own yourself with intention and create the community that builds you up!
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Kissing Boys and Taking PrEP: Dan Harry’s Journey to Love
Saison 2 · Épisode 38
mardi 17 septembre 2024 • Durée 26:21
In this insightful episode, Daniel and Garet sit down with Dan Harry, star of I Kissed a Boy and a powerful voice in HIV and sexual health advocacy. Dan opens up about his experience on the UK’s first gay dating show, shedding light on the pressures of on-screen dating and the vulnerability that comes with reality TV. Beyond the entertainment world, Dan is making a significant impact in the LGBTQ+ community by participating in an HIV vaccine trial and hosting the BBC documentary HIV, PrEP & Me. Together, they explore the evolving conversations around HIV prevention, the importance of breaking down stigma, and how the gay community can prioritize sexual health. Dan’s candidness about his personal struggles in dating, public perception, and advocacy work makes this a must-listen for anyone interested in both love and community activism.
Key Highlights:
Dan’s Reality TV Experience: Dan talks about his unexpected journey on I Kissed a Boy and how joining later in the show impacted his confidence and connections.
HIV Advocacy and PrEP: Dan discusses his role in an HIV vaccine trial and his BBC documentary, highlighting the importance of PrEP and HIV prevention education.
Breaking Stigma: The conversation dives deep into how HIV stigma still exists and why it’s essential to dismantle it, especially in the LGBTQ+ dating world.
Dating in the Spotlight: Dan shares how being on reality TV has changed his dating life and the toxic traits he’s working to overcome.
Words of Wisdom: Dan reflects on how what may be seen as weaknesses can be our greatest strengths, offering empowering advice for those navigating the dating world.
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Daniel and Garet's personal journal updates
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Caught in the Middle: Selling Sunset & the Messenger’s Burden
Saison 2 · Épisode 37
mardi 10 septembre 2024 • Durée 18:59
In this episode, Daniel and Garet unpack the complex role of the messenger, using Selling Sunset’s latest drama as a case study. From holding onto secrets to dealing with backlash, the hosts explore the fine line between being helpful and being perceived as stirring the pot. Is it ever okay to share private information if you think you’re protecting a friend? Or does the blame always fall on the one delivering bad news? Reflecting on both the show and their own experiences, the duo offers listeners relatable insights on trust, communication, and managing drama in their own relationships. Tune in as they dissect the fine art of being the vault, the ally, or the unfortunate bearer of bad news.
Key Highlights:
The Messenger’s Dilemma: Is delivering sensitive information an act of kindness or meddling?
Selling Sunset Drama: The blurred lines between reality TV and real-life relationships.
Trust vs. Intention: How your role as a messenger impacts the trust others place in you.
Reality TV’s Influence on Friendship: How shows like Selling Sunset mirror real-life dynamics.
Navigating Gossip: Balancing empathy and honesty when delivering uncomfortable truths.
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The Gaymer's Playersexual Debate
Saison 2 · Épisode 28
mardi 9 juillet 2024 • Durée 27:47
Hosts Daniel and Garet delve into the concept of playersexuality in video games. They share nostalgic gaming experiences and discuss how modern games like The Sims have evolved to include diverse sexual identities. The conversation highlights the importance of inclusive representation in gaming, particularly for the LGBTQ+ community. The hosts analyze both the positive and negative aspects of 'playersexual' characters, emphasizing the need for deeper, more authentic character development. They also touch on the societal implications of gaming, how it fosters community and the growing trend of identifying as 'gaymers'. The episode concludes with a light-hearted discussion about potential future developments in LGBTQ+ gaming.
Key Highlights:
Nostalgic gaming experiences with classics like The Sims and Grand Theft Auto.
Discussion on the evolution of games to include diverse sexual identities.
Examination of the concept of playersexuality and its implications.
Pros of playersexual characters: inclusivity, freedom, and positive representation.
Cons of playersexual characters: superficiality, tokenism, and lack of depth.
The significance of community and connection in gaming.
The need for more authentic and rich LGBTQ+ character stories in video games.
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Ditching Digital Drama: Matchmaking is Making a Comeback
Saison 2 · Épisode 27
mardi 2 juillet 2024 • Durée 28:06
Join Daniel and Garet as they explore the concept of "sadfishing," where individuals post overly emotional content online to seek validation. They delve into the reasons behind this behavior and its impact on relationships and social media interactions. Moving away from the digital realm, they highlight the growing trend of matchmaking, sharing personal anecdotes and the value of human connection in finding love. The episode covers the advantages of matchmaking over traditional dating apps, emphasizing the desire for meaningful connections and the challenges posed by superficial interactions online. They also provide tips on navigating these evolving dating landscapes with empathy and authenticity.
Key Highlights:
Explanation of sad fishing and its implications on social media.
Personal stories about attraction, dating, and the difference between seeking attention and genuine vulnerability.
Discussion on the revival of matchmaking and its benefits over modern dating apps.
Insights into matchmaking experiences and the importance of personality and core values in successful matches.
Comparison between digital and traditional dating methods, including the impact of gamification and the desire for deeper connections.
Encouragement for listeners to be authentic and empathetic in their dating endeavors.
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Express Yourself: How to Be Confident with TheeAlexanderJ
Saison 2 · Épisode 26
mardi 25 juin 2024 • Durée 26:51
In this episode of Modern Gays, we sit down with TheeAlexanderJ, a dynamic influencer known for his vibrant fashion and confident demeanor. We delve into his background, discussing the origins of his confidence and the motivation behind his viral content. Alexander shares experiences growing up, highlighting the challenges and triumphs that shaped his journey. He emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance, breaking free from societal norms, and finding joy in one's uniqueness. The conversation also covers strategies for maintaining confidence in public spaces, dealing with negativity, and using social media as a platform for positivity. TheeAlexandeJ's insights on daily practices for confidence, manifestation, and the power of starting are invaluable for anyone looking to boost their self-esteem and live authentically.
Key Highlights:
The journey from insecurity to confidence, and the role of self-acceptance.
Strategies for staying confident in public and dealing with negative feedback.
The significance of breaking societal norms and embracing individuality.
Daily practices for building and maintaining confidence.
The impact of confidence on personal relationships and attracting supportive people.
The power of manifestation and the importance of starting your journey.
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100% Delulu: Using Delusion to Get What You Want
Saison 2 · Épisode 25
mardi 18 juin 2024 • Durée 26:52
Let's talk about "Delulu," a term that started as a playful social media jab but has evolved into a powerful mindset for achieving your wildest dreams. Daniel and Garet discuss how embracing a bit of delusion can lead to setting and achieving audacious goals. Through personal anecdotes, celebrity examples, and practical tips, they explore the transformative power of believing in your dreams, visualizing success, and overcoming mental barriers. Join the conversation and learn how to harness your inner "Delulu" to create the life you desire.
Overview:
Personal Stories of Delusion
The Power of Delusion in Goal Setting
Visualization techniques
Overcoming mental barriers
Delulu or Not: A Fun Game
Hosts and listeners play a game to identify delusional versus realistic goals
Celebrity Examples of Delusional Success
Ariana Grande, Sabrina Carpenter, Megan Thee Stallion, Walt Disney
Practical Tips for Embracing Delulu
Belief, Visualization, and Breaking Through
Setting big, scary goals
Techniques for maintaining focus and overcoming negativity
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Dating, Friends and Competition (with Love Daddy Trev)
Saison 2 · Épisode 24
mardi 11 juin 2024 • Durée 24:20
Daniel and Garet are joined by love and relationship expert Trevor Kuhn from Love Daddy Trev. Together, they address common questions facing single gay men, such as why they might still be single, how to find the right partner, and navigating the complexities of dating in close-knit gay communities. The discussion also touches on the impact of Pride events on finding love, the competitive nature of dating among gay men, and the importance of self-love and authenticity in relationships. Trevor shares practical advice for dating, from engaging meaningfully with others to managing expectations on dating apps. The episode concludes with encouragement to prioritize self-love and genuine connections during Pride and beyond.
Chapters:
00:26 Friends vs. Dating in Close-Knit Communities
01:28 The Impact of Pride on Finding Love
03:09 Navigating Gay Social Settings
05:20 The Competitive Nature of Gay Dating
08:12 The Role of Attraction in Friendships and Dating
16:13 Tips for Using Dating Apps Effectively
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What’s included:
Exclusive content, stories and behind-the-scenes
Community chats with Daniel and Garet
Exclusive voting power on episode topics/guests
Power in Gay Pride: Demanding the Love & Respect You Deserve
Saison 2 · Épisode 23
mardi 4 juin 2024 • Durée 22:22
In this Pride edition of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the deeper meaning of pride beyond the celebrations. They discuss how truly owning and expressing your gay pride every day can lead to incredible personal and societal transformations. From the importance of visibility and acceptance to the ongoing fight for equality and the resilience needed to face challenges, this episode is a heartfelt and empowering exploration of what it means to live with pride. The hosts share personal stories, practical tips, and inspirational insights to help listeners embrace their identities and take action for a more inclusive world.
Key Highlights:
The Importance of Visibility: Exploring how being openly gay impacts personal life and society.
Acceptance: Personal journeys of acceptance and the importance of being accepted by others.
Equality: The ongoing fight for LGBTQ+ rights and the importance of solidarity.
Resilience: Overcoming challenges and thriving despite adversity.
Taking Action: Practical steps to support LGBTQ+ rights and foster inclusivity.
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What’s included:
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Exclusive voting power on episode topics/guests
Looking for Friends or FWB? (with Mindset Coach Kevin Kasir)
Saison 2 · Épisode 22
mardi 28 mai 2024 • Durée 34:33
Kevin Kasir, a gay mindset coach, shares his journey into self-development, emphasizing the importance of a positive mindset and self-love. The conversation covers recognizing negative thought patterns, the significance of taking small actionable steps towards self-improvement, and the impact of deep, supportive friendships. Kevin offers practical advice on overcoming laziness, the role of friendships in mental health, and how to make and maintain meaningful connections.
The trio delves into the unique dynamics of LGBTQIA+ friendships, highlighting how deep, supportive connections can significantly enhance mental health. Kevin provides insightful tips on making new friends, maintaining meaningful relationships, and the importance of clear intentions. He also shares creative ideas for nurturing these bonds through consistent, heartfelt communication.
Addressing the common issues of jealousy and judgment in friendships, Kevin explains the impact of insecurity and the need for fostering healthy relationships. He emphasizes living authentically as a means to attract quality connections, sharing his personal strategies for cultivating confidence and self-trust.
Join our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!
Identity, Intimacy and Influence (with Brian Spitulnik, LMSW)
Saison 2 · Épisode 21
mardi 21 mai 2024 • Durée 34:03
Daniel and Garet are joined by psychotherapist Brian Spitulnik to explore the complex interplay between identity, sex, and the influence of porn in the LGBTQ community. Brian, known for his authentic and relatable advice on Instagram and TikTok, shares his expertise on how being gay can shape personal choices and relationships. Together, they dive into the core issues of shame, the importance of chosen families, and the challenges of forming authentic connections in a digital age.
Key Topics Discussed:
Common Challenges Faced by Gay Men: The pervasive sense of shame and its specific manifestations. How shame influences behaviors like addiction, body dysmorphia, and relationship dynamics.
The Role of Chosen Families: Importance of finding true and honest relationships within the LGBTQ community. Brian's perspective on the adolescent phase gay men go through upon coming out.
Navigating Romantic and Platonic Relationships: The complexities of building intimate and platonic relationships in the gay community. Balancing personal identity with societal and community expectations.
Impact of Porn on Real-Life Intimacy: Discussion on how porn consumption affects emotional engagement in real-life relationships. Strategies to find a healthy balance between porn and personal connections.
Listener Questions (Only Whispers Segment): Addressing Rex from Sydney's concern about balancing porn with real-life intimacy. Advice for Thomas from Boston on finding dates outside of dating apps.
Practical Tips for Building Authentic Connections: Checking the facts to avoid miscommunication. Reflective listening to ensure understanding and clarity. Evaluating personal feelings towards others to foster genuine connections.
Notable Quotes:
"True love is holding another's spiritual evolution as equal to your own." – bell hooks
"Everything changes. Nothing remains the same. To think that you're always going to want the same thing is not being in reality." – Brian Spitulnik
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Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening!
Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening!
Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening!
Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening!
Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening!
Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening!
Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening!
Modern Gays is published every week. If you love the show and can support us, please subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts! Thanks for listening!
Brian Spitulnik, LMSW, is a psychotherapist in private practice and co-founder of Artists Reimagining Therapy & Systems (A.R.T.S.), a fully-funded program offering free group and individual therapy to artists and arts workers. Brian is committed to working with his clients to come fully into relationship with their environment and themselves while providing practical tools for behavioral change and emotional growth. Ongoing professional development and advanced training experiences are a critical component of Brian’s practice, ensuring a transformative impact on the individuals and communities he serves. Brian has earned degrees from The University of Michigan, Columbia University, and The Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College. Before becoming a mental health practitioner, Brian performed on Broadway for over 15 years, wrote for Global Citizen, The Daily Beast, McSweeney’s, and Dance Magazine, and co-founded 85th Street Productions.
Join our Patreon! Get access to deeper dives and juicier content around every episode! Move into the Modern Gayborhood for only $5 USD/month and help us produce Modern Gays. Your support pays for our hosting, audio production and episode research. Please check it out and sign up here!
What’s included:
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Community chats with Daniel and Garet
Exclusive voting power on episode topics/guests
Daniel and Garet's personal journal updates
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