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November and December are historically slower months for divorce professionals. Even though they’ve made the decision to divorce, many people choose to wait until after the holidays to take any action. They worry about starting something that could instigate conflict during what should be the happiest time of the year for their kids.

That means there is a lot of pent up demand and so divorce professionals historically see an uptick in requests for their services in January. So much so that January is recognized as Divorce Month. And even more specifically, the first business day in January is usually referred to as National Divorce Day as family lawyers report that their phones ring off the hook. 

We’ve also talked about the efforts to begin repealing no-fault divorce laws and we would expect that anyone who’s been holding off may choose to move ahead now before any legislation could affect their ability to get divorced. So as a divorce coach, now is the perfect opportunity to position yourself as the go-to expert for those in need.

In today’s episode, we share some essential tips on how you can prepare for Divorce Month, optimize your marketing, and make sure your practice is ready to meet the demand. 

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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At DCA, we share a vision that couples would have the ability to rearrange and restructure their relationships and their families in a way that leads to wholeness and happiness. Divorce is often seen as an end—an ending to a marriage, an ending to a chapter of life. But what if it didn’t have to be a painful, adversarial process? What if divorce could be approached with intention, healing, and collaboration, with the goal of not just separating, but rebuilding lives in a healthy, sustainable way?

In today’s episode, we explore the idea of restorative divorce—an approach that focuses on healing, mutual respect, and long-term well-being for both partners. We’ll dive into how this process works, how it differs from adversarial divorce, and why we believe it’s a better way forward.

We wrestle with the concept that divorce creates a broken home, discuss the recent addition of CAPRD (Child Affected by Parental Relationship Disorder) to the DSM IV, and outline the six elements of a restorative divorce process. 

As opposed to traditional divorce that focuses on winning, a restorative divorce process is an alternative that can reduce harm, encourage positive outcomes, and support healthier post-divorce relationships for everyone involved.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Good storytelling is a powerful tool for creating connection, building trust, and communicating ideas and concepts. However, when it comes to divorce coaching, storytelling can be a mixed bag. And a common mistake we see coaches make is oversharing about their own personal experiences.

In this episode, we discuss when and how it is appropriate to share personal stories with clients. While it’s well-intentioned, it’s also important to be mindful about when and how we share personal stories with clients.

Our words of caution...there are two ways storytelling can muddy the waters when it comes to our coaching relationships. First, sharing too much from our personal lives can take the focus off the client and put the spotlight back on the coach. And second, clients look to us as the expert so those stories might be interpreted as directive or advice giving. 

Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk about why intention matters when it comes to storytelling in divorce coaching.

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
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Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Do you secretly struggle with imposter syndrome? Maybe you don't recognize it as that, but it can show up in sneaky ways that prevent coaches from stepping into their full potential. In today's episode, we talk about the many ways we see imposter syndrome present in new coaches and what you can do to see it and challenge it.

We work with coaches all the time on their failure to close consult calls, agonizing over pricing and packages, taking on too much pro bono work, having porous boundaries with clients or being afraid to follow up. It also looks like perfectionism, analysis paralysis, or taking training after training to feel good enough. Imposter syndrome sounds like "I don't feel like I should", "I don't feel like I can", and "I don't feel like I'm ready".

It all boils down to the question "Am I good enough?" And when coaches struggle with that self-doubt, they become a barrier to their own success. But it can be overcome by looking at ourselves realistically and then addressing what needs to be changed.

First things first. There is no wrong way to be you. Second, let's acknowledge that you are a pioneer - you are forging a new path in a profession that is relatively new. There's no clear roadmap for you to follow or measuring stick to assure you that you're "doing it right". The good news is that gives you the freedom to do it your way.

One of the keys to clearing out that self-doubt is a supportive, encouraging community with professional mentoring. A place like our Case Consultation & Mastermind Group where we can help you reflect, correct, and gain the confidence you need to get out there and reach for your goals.

If any of this is resonating with you, we encourage you to join our community and let us help you kick imposter syndrome to the curb.


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
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Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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In this week's episode, Debra is joined by recent DCA™ Divorce Conflict Coaching graduates Dori Braddell and Sue Horwitz to talk about their experience in the training and how they've been able to put their new skills to use.

Dori and Sue were gracious enough to take time out of their busy schedules to discuss how they had been struggling with helping clients manage conflict, what prompted them to enroll in the course, and the biggest takeaways they got from the experience.

Both are certified divorce coaches who have significant training and experience under their belts, and yet, they were missing the science behind conflict, the specific tools to use with clients, and the confidence to lean in.

Listen in as they share what a difference conflict coaching has made in their coaching practice and for their clients. We hope you'll consider adding this speciality training to your 2023 professional development calendar.

If you'd like to be the first to know when the next session of DCA™ Divorce Conflict Coaching opens, join the wait list today.

Feel free to reach out to Dori or Sue to ask them ALL the questions about their experience in the class. Trust us, they're believers!

Get in touch with Dori:
Website: www.thedivorcementor.ca
Email: dori@thedivorcementor.ca
Instagram: @divorcementor
Facebook: @thedivorcementor
LinkedIn: Dori Braddell

Get in touch with Sue:
Website: www.suehorwitzcoaching.com
Email: sue@suehorwitz.com
Instagram: @suehorwitz
Facebook: @suehorwitzcoaching
LinkedIn: Sue Horwitz


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Today on the podcast we're doing some myth busting. If you think you're bad at math or have been afraid to dive into divorce financial matters with your clients, then keep listening. We're going to give you the confidence to jump into the deep end.

Of course financial professionals provide a ton of value in divorce and they serve a necessary role. Nobody wants amateurs valuing a business or valuing a pension, doing forensic or fraud investigation, or providing tax advice. BUT, and it's a big but ... there is so much you CAN do with clients to help them make good decisions.

That's why we're offering the Financial Foundations from a CDFA 4-week course starting in January 2023. To give you the information, tools, and even spreadsheets you need to do this foundational work with clients.

So many clients show up with $$$ fears - are they going to have enough? This is an answerable question starting with the client's budget. First their divorce budget - how much do they want to spend on their divorce, how much do they have available, and what process and what decisions would they have to choose to stay within that amount? And next, their monthly budget. What are their cash flow needs. You can work to help them identify both of these. You can also help them document their assets and debts and begin to create proposals that address their needs.

And when an outside financial professional is needed, you'll work with your client to determine who they want to hire and the scope of work they want to have done.

There's no need to punt all the financial work to the pros when you've got a CDFA to show you how to do it!


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Did you know that, at least in the US, the first business day in January is known as "National Divorce Day"? That's because historically that's the day that family law attorneys get the most inquiries from people thinking about starting the divorce process.

There are many reasons January is the heaviest month for divorce filings. It might be that it's a new year and they can't imagine spending yet another year in that unfulfilling marriage. Or perhaps the stress of the holidays put them over the edge. Or they made a decision months ago and have just been hanging on until the holidays are over and the kids are back in school.

Whatever the reason, we want you to be thinking about how you are preparing right now for the increase in potential clients.

We know that divorce coaches can be extremely helpful and effective when brought in at the very beginning - before that client hires an attorney. So how are you using your marketing language to help potential clients understand that value? What are you posting on social media? What are you saying when people ask what you do?

The current economic climate is a perfect opportunity to talk about saving money on divorce. Most people are seeing a hit to their property values, investments, and retirement accounts so there is even less to divide now. As a divorce coach, how are you communicating the benefits you offer in helping them choose a less expensive process, make better decisions, and manage emotions - all of which reduce their costs.

If you want to build your practice in 2023, we urge you to intentionally get ready for National Divorce Day.


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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You had your own divorce experience and felt called to become a professional divorce coach to support others through the process so they could have what you needed. We applaud you for wanting to make divorce different for others. But in this week's episode, we are telling a cautionary tale  to remind everyone of the importance of coaching from our scar, and not from our wound.

When coaches aren't able to set aside their own personal divorce experience, it's much more likely they will hear the client through their personal filter and step out of neutrality. We begin to hear phrases like "you should" that indicate the coach is putting on their superhero cape and trying to save the client rather than asking the curious questions that allow the client to self-discover.

We're inviting you this week to reflect, to look closely in the mirror, and examine if there is anything clouding your vision. Do you find yourself having strong emotional reactions or getting triggered? Do you hear yourself making recommendations instead of asking questions? Are you feeling the urge to save your client from making a mistake that you made? Are you making assumptions about their spouse or their situation based on your experience?

If so, we encourage you to spend some time processing that and identifying where you might still need to do some healing. We also encourage you to join our Case Consultation & Mastermind Group - it's a safe space for you to get feedback to explore if your vision is clear or cloudy. 

Absolutely, use your divorce experience - it adds great value to your coaching practice. Just be sure your wound is healed so you don't bleed on your clients.


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Being a solopreneur as a divorce coach is hard. but we don't want you to feel like you have to do it alone. In this week's episode, Tracy and Debra talk about why they believe every coach should have a community.

According to an ICF (International Coaching Federation) study, 4 out of 5 coaches fail. We find that shocking and are committed to doing everything we can to insure that those statistics do not apply to divorce coaches. That's why we established the Case Consultation & Mastermind Group and frankly, we don't understand why more coaches aren't taking advantage of it.

Therapists are required to have some sort of clinical supervision on an ongoing basis to insure 1) standards of practice are being met and 2) self-care and professional growth are being prioritized. Why should the "helping profession" of coaching be any different?

Divorce coaches are entrusted with helping clients make some of the most important decisions of their lives and the work we do often involves a ton of heavy stuff.  Who is supporting you when you feel overwhelmed by the weight of it? Where is the community you can go to for refreshment, new ideas, encouragement?  Who helps when you aren't getting the financial results or client success you hoped for?

We urge you to consider joining us. We don't want you to burn out or give up. We want to offer the professional, supportive environment you need to keep going and keep advancing. You really don't have to do this alone - we have a village just waiting for you.


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Bring on the haters, but we're gonna say it. We don't recommend attorneys or other divorce professionals to clients. And we think it's risky business for coaches to do it.

In this week's episode, Tracy and Debra chat about the reasons they don't share lists of recommended professionals with clients. Aside from the fact that both of them work nationally and internationally, it's not a practice they employ with local clients either.

The number one reason is because it takes away the client's agency. It strips them of the power to make their own divorce decisions. Coaching is about helping the client self-discover what they want and what they need, so why would choosing an attorney or a CDFA be any different?

Often clients come to us feeling overwhelmed, uniformed, and anxious about what to do next. We add the most value to helping them explore their fears, prioritize their needs, and determine what information they need. If they decide they need some outside expertise, we can best support them by identifying the interview questions they need to ask to determine if a given professional is the best fit for them. Then after those interviews, we can process what they learned so they can make the right choice for themselves.

One of the risks we run when recommending or referring is that we can't know who is fit for an individual client. Just because a previous client had a good experience doesn't mean that this client will. And if they don't? Now you're in the hot seat. And that's not good for your coaching relationship or your business.

Your best bet is to stick with coaching rule #1 - Ask, Don't Tell.  Use your powerful questioning skills rather than giving your client a list. You'll be protected and it will serve your client better in the long run as they gain confidence to make their own decisions.


You can learn more about DCA™ or find out about any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: www.instagram.com/divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:

Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.com
Instagram: @divorcecoachesacademy
LinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academy
Email: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com