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About Tim:

With more than 60,000 coaching sessions and 40+ years in the business, audition coach and premiere acting teacher Tim Phillips knows what works.

Audition For Your Career, Not The Job was written after 30 years of teaching and designed as a practical manual for the working actor. What Phillips is after are moment-by-moment, clear, specific, human truths that make you unavoidable on stage and screen, from character. 

Tim Phillips ignited the careers of Emmy award-winning Richard Schiff, Golden Globe nominee Wendy Malick, Nancy Travis, the excellent Robert Wisdom, James DuMont, Bruce Nozick (...) and many others. He's also helped catapult countless actors into more satisfying, long-term, confident careers.

Today, based out of Atlanta, he brings decades of NYC and LA-based experience to artists of every caliber across the country and now, thanks to Zoom, the globe. He coaches privately over the phone, via Zoom, and through Facetime.

Phillips' ethic and his teaching is human, individual, specific, and immediately applicable.

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Today I'm going to talk about what I find a sad subject, and it is about unsupportive friends and unsupportive family members.

And I'm gonna give you a few points and things to think about. So that you can have the support, at least from me, and I'll talk about getting more support in a moment, that helps you when you're dealing with this. 

Now, the first thing, and I know because, man, I hated this word when I first learned it, was boundaries.

Learning to set boundaries, clearly communicate your goals and values to others, and establish boundaries when necessary. 

This helps you to protect your energy and stay focused on what matters most to you without having that negativity affect you. 

Now, I think that's really important, and I'm going to say something about boundaries in a moment, but I also need to teach you this little phrase.

Don't go to the hardware store for lemons. 

If you know that a family member or a particular friend is not supportive of your acting career, here's an idea stop talking to them about it. 

Stop talking to them about it. You have a choice. Here's another idea. They call, you find them difficult to deal with this particular person. Don't pick up the phone. Let it go to voicemail. And call them back when you feel strong. 

When you feel strong. 

There's another great phrase. I just thought of it. I learned this in a 12 step program, which is Don't dial pain. Or don't text pain.

If that person, if you know that person, is not going to give you the empathy, the love, the support that you need, go to someone else, and if you don't know who to go to, oh, for goodness sakes, please shoot me an email. 

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The other thing here and it goes right into it, is you want to limit negative interactions.

When I go to places where I don't feel that I'm really going to be supportive, I remind myself that all I need to do is be civil and polite. 

And sometimes if it's like a party, I can ask questions. And just listen to other people. I don't have to be giving everything of myself. It's not required.

It's not my duty to entertain people. 

I can ask them how their lives are doing. And I am going to walk away feeling, one, good that I was there for another person, but two, also that I have protected myself. 

Limit negative interactions. 

If there are certain people consistently undermining your efforts, consider reducing the time you spend with them.

I always say there's another phrase that is arrive late and leave early, arrive late and leave early. 

And also, the restroom can be a wonderful place to just reconnect yourself, to gather your thoughts, to gather your resolve. 

If you're in situations that you can't get out of your family. 

For example, I, by the way my parents are the most supportive people in the whole world, so I can't imagine not having supportive family members.

But I have had unsupportive friends, so I can relate. 

You want to support yourself with positivity whenever possible to keep your motivation strong. That's one of the things that is so freaking wonderful about that weekly adjustment class. We are All supporting each other. It's such a wonderful class on that line.

Seek external support. We cannot do this on our own. It takes a village. We want to find like minded individuals who can uplift and encourage you and whether that is through an online community or getting a mentor or having supportive friends. 

Those are the people you want to be support surrounding you yourself with as much as possible because their reinforcement can balance out any negativity from other people.

I think it does so much more than balance it out. I think it tips the scale. 

Also, Remember to stay focused on your vision. Remind yourself of why you are pursuing your goals. 

And remind yourself that you are worth it. 

And that you were put on this planet for a reason. 

And it is worth you standing up for.

Focus on your vision. on your long term vision. 

When you do that, it helps you to remain steadfast, even when those around you may not. 

Support your choices. Don't abandon yourself, and don't abandon your dreams. You are worth it. You are worth it. 

Finally, respond with compassion. Oof, this is a toughie.

Sometimes, unsupportive friends or families, family, may be acting out because of their own fears or their own misunderstandings. 

Try to respond with empathy, but don't let their worries derail your progress. 

Focus on your path, knowing that their opinions do not define your self worth.

If someone is saying that I'm worried that you're in a risky job, with your goal of being an actor. 

Tell them that you can handle it. 

Tell them how much you love and appreciate that they're concern, but that you've got this and that all you ask is that they love you. 

They don't even have to support you, but just that they love you.

Just that they're your friend. And then you can make the mental note of whether they heard that or not, and of whether you go to them again. 

Whatever you don't quit five minutes before the miracle. Don't do it. Keep going. Consistence. Persistence. Tenacity.

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Today I'm going to talk about the abandoned actor and this is something that I have been really delving into on a deeper level in my private work, the private work I do with clients, but also in my weekly classes.

And it's the idea of when we audition, or when we go to a set, or anything, maybe it could even be in your personal life when some kind of pressurized situation happens. We abandon ourselves. 

And I'm gonna start talking about I, just to make this easier to explain. 

I would abandon myself. Meaning, I would abdicate my feelings, my point of view, my talent to everybody else but myself, and that's what I mean by abandonment. 

One of my weekly classes is in my sister coaching company called Chiropractor for the Mind. And what I teach is emotional self sufficiency. 

And it's emotional self sufficiency, by teaching you emotional intelligence and teaching you to raise your intelligence emotionally.

And this idea of emotional self sufficiency, let me just talk about that for one moment, is that when I'm just talking about me, when I am emotionally self sufficient, that means whatever comes my way in life, I am able to coach myself, I am able to help myself out of that emotional confusion.

And emotional confusion is a problem for an actor because when you go in to do a scene, you want to be in the moment, emotionally on point. 

You want to be emotionally understood. 

You want to be able to access every single emotion in you in the moment. 

But if you are emotionally confused as a human being, oh boy, do we have a problem.

So here's the thing, through core work, which is all that I talk about, that's how we become emotionally unconfused. 

And it is also where this ability to coach yourself is so important, and that is especially important when it comes to this idea of how do you abandon yourself.

Now, a lot about abandonment has to do with feeling that you are a victim, thinking that you can't handle it, that you can't manage the situation you are in. 

But as all of my teachings have taught me and others, it is that we will never be given more than we can handle, but we will be given more than we can control.

I'm just going to use the audition situation to keep this easy. 

Why when we walk into a meeting or an audition, why do we feel the need to abandon us? 

Why all of a sudden does it matter what the writer, director, producer, casting director thinks, but not what we think? 

And one of the things I talk about with my private clients and in the weekly classes are, this idea that if I go in and pretend I am the character of Sally. 

If I believe I'm Sally, if the only person that I am focusing on that needs to believe that she is Sally is Peter Pamela Rose, guess what automatically will happen?

Automatically, everybody else in the room will. And I've only had to put the focus on making myself believe.

And when I do that, I am not abandoning myself. 

I am not abandoning myself. 

Now let's just talk about anxiety and abandoning ourselves.

 I want to talk about a few points of When I start to feel that I am, like, abdicating my responsibility for myself to someone else, the number one thing I need to do when that happens is, I need to become aware.

And I need to acknowledge my feelings.

I talk about awareness, acceptance and action. the first step in core work is becoming aware because you don't know what you don't know, right? 

So becoming aware. 

And as I am aware and I accept that, “oh, look, I am doing this,” then I can, then that awareness happens, the acceptance that I am doing it happens, and then I want to move very quickly into action.

The subject of awareness and acknowledging is really about recognizing and validating my emotions and also allowing myself to say, “okay, it's okay to feel it,” but this is the thing, if I try to say it's not happening, or just go away please, which is what I always like to say to my anxiety, it's not going to work.

I need to be in the room, with my feelings and go, this is happening, okay, how am I going to help myself with this? 

How am I going to walk through it? 

And this is the thing. I don't want to judge it. I just want to acknowledge it. 

Because as soon as I start to judge it as being something bad that is happening, that's me trying to get rid of it.

Not gonna work. It's not gonna work. 

I need to figure out how me and my, let's say, anxiety can function together so that I can say, Oh, look, there you are. Oh, okay. You don't want to eat. Okay. What do I know? I need to do need to make sure when was the last time I ate. Okay. It was an hour ago. Okay. Set my alarm for three hours from now. That's when I'm going to eat. 

In other words, I need to practice tough love with myself and support myself and love myself through the feeling of abandonment. 

I also recommend that when this happens, you immediately go to either talk to someone, Journal, talk to the universe, or listen to one of these podcasts, one of my core work podcasts.

Why do I say that? 

Because we need to get out of ourselves. 

We can't cure a sick mind with a sick mind. And when we're in that, we're a little sick. Our thinking is stinking. Stinky thinking. 

Journaling helps because our, the smarter part of ourselves, our higher coach gets in there and can help us.

Praying helps, okay, or reaching out to the universe, talking to a friend to get us back on point. 

Or, listening to a podcast like this to get yourself back, to get yourself back. 

The other thing that's very important is that I take care of myself. That's why I go to the food. I know when I get anxious, the number one thing I don't want to do is eat.

Therefore, I need to put myself on an eating schedule and then decide how much I'm going to eat and then I don't allow myself to get up from the table until I finish it. 

And if you think that I don't like doing this, you are correct. Not my favorite thing. But, it does work. Why? Because I'm going through.

The best way out is always through. 

The other thing is, I really need to challenge my negative emotions and my negative thoughts. 

What is my stinking thinking telling me? And how is it making me want to abdicate responsibility for whatever is going on in this moment? Because I am capable. 

I am the most capable person I know.

How am I going to take care of myself at this moment? What do I need to tell myself? What good things do I need to tell myself? 

And then, after I've done these things, then I need to put it all into action. 

Put it all into action. And not forget to Baby step it. Baby step it. 

It doesn't matter how small it is, because when we accomplish small tasks, we build what?

We need that thing that we really need when it comes to abandonment. Knowing that we have the ability to get ourselves out of it. 

Knowing that we have the ability to get ourselves out of it. To regain, to take back our power in that audition room. And focus on the job. Which is to act. 

There's no need to abandon yourself.

Stay with yourself, love yourself.

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I always find December to be actually the hardest time of the year. I feel like there are more demands put on me in all areas of my life.

I will allow myself just to be where I'm at.

So if you feel like you're starting the new year exhausted. I just wanted to say I hear you. I'm kind of there myself, but it's all right.

Find the pockets of time when you can take care of yourself.

The Language of Letting Go: 

"Make New Year's goals. Dig within and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part."

If you want to change your own life, you need to take responsibility for it.

"It is an affirmation that you're interested in fully living in the year to come."

Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction.

What would you like to have happen in your life this year?

"What would you like to do? What would you like to accomplish? What good would you like to attract into your life? What particular areas of growth would you like to have happen to you? What blocks or character defects would you like to have removed?

What would you like to attain? What little things would you like to attain? What big things would you like to attain? Where would you like to go? Where do you want to travel to this year? How would you like your mind to open this year? What would you like to have happen in your friendships? What would you like to have happen in your love life? What would you like to have happen in your family life?"

Remember, we aren't controlling others with our goals.

"What problems would you like to see solved? What decisions would you like to make? What would you like to have happen in your career?"

"Write it down. Take a piece of paper. Take the time out as an affirmation of you, your life. Your ability to choose. Then let it go. Certainly, things happen that are out of our control. Sometimes these events are pleasant surprises. Sometimes they are of another nature. But they are all part of the chapter that will be this year in our life and will move us forward in the story. The New Year stands before us like a chapter in a book waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals."

One of the things that I spent a lot of time over the holiday doing is going over my goals, motivations, and next steps and planning things out for 2023.

I’m really grateful for this year.

I want you to think of a few things that you are grateful for. 

• What's number one? Fill in the blank.
• What's the number two? Fill in the blank.
• And what's the third thing you're grateful for this year, in 2022? Fill in the blank.

Also, start to look forward to 2023.

• Are you looking to this year coming up with anticipation and excitement? Dread? Worry? Fill in the blank.
• What are the three emotions you are looking at 2023 with?

Feelings aren't facts.

Take your emotions out of your to do list. 

When we are worried or anxious, the real question is, “what are we not taking responsibility for?”

So if you have some sort of negative feeling toward 2023, ask yourself, “what are you not taking responsibility for?”

Ask yourself, How can I baby step and take responsibility?

Once taking responsibility, especially when you're frightened, especially when you're scared. When you're able to do that, you build so much self-esteem.

Take contrary action. 

Breathing Meditation

When you connect to your breath, you feel a little bit better. You feel a little more connected to what you're grateful for.

I wish you a wonderful, incredible holiday season. And an even better 2023.

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About Geneva:

GENEVA CARR is best known for her portrayal of Marissa Morgan on 6 seasons of the CBS television series BULL.  

Additional TV credits include Law & Order: SVU and Criminal Intent, Rescue Me, Younger, The Mysteries of Laura, Royal Pains, Elementary, The Good Wife, and Sex and the City.  

Film credits include Wonder Wheel, Love and Other Drugs, Ava’s possessions, It’s Complicated, College Road Trip, and the upcoming Asian Persuasion.

Geneva earned a 2015 Tony Nomination for Lead Actress in a Play for her performance as ‘Margery’ in Broadway’s Hand To God. 

Additional NY theatre credits include Trevor, Just Sex, I Wanna Destroy You, Finding Claire, Rose’s Dilemma, Clash by Night, Betty’s Summer Vacation, and Boise. 

You have to create a space where you can find work for yourself.

Bull was my eighth pilot, which I like telling actors about because it doesn't happen overnight. This was my eighth.

Hand to God led to Bull on CBS. I did that for six seasons.

And the truth is, nobody loves to audition as much as me because it's a 30-second movie starring me right now.

I love to prepare. It's like going to the gym. It's like putting on a show. And you know that for 5 minutes, you have a captive audience.

Casting directors want to like you. They want to get to know you. So if you can put your nerves aside and realize that it's a real treat to be in that room.

You have to watch everything ON TV. 

“I don't put people on TV if they don't watch TV.”

You can only be yourself.

Maybe it's easier for me now because I know who I am. I'm not apologizing for who I am. I can't please everyone. But the truth is, I don't like everyone, and the more you are authentically yourself, the more you will work.

If you want to build somebody up, give them an honest compliment. 

I had to go back to being an actor looking for work with a whole new toolkit.

The Director Tells the Story

Being a costar and a guest star has zero to do with being a series regular. It is very challenging being a series regular.

Costars and guest stars- savor those opportunities to learn because a series regular is really hard.

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What to get Casting Directors, Managers, and Agents over the holidays. 

This year I’m suggesting one of two things: a thoughtful gift card or a charity donation.  

So a thoughtful gift card would be that you contact someone else in the casting office or agency and ask what their fellow employees like. 

“Hey, are they a Starbucks person, or are they a Costco person? Are they a McDonald's person or a Dunkin Donuts person?” 

And then, you can send them an electronic gift card.  

If you're booking a lot. Yes. You want to be thinking more $50, $75, $100.  

But if you're a new client or you haven't been booking that year, or there's a casting office that has maybe thought of you a few times throughout the year. A simple $20 gift card. A $25 gift card is fine.  

Defaults: 

• Amazon, you can buy anything there.  
• Starbucks, you can get food, you can get coffee, you can get tea 

Or, the charity donation, which, again, you could ask someone in the office or even ask that person, “I'd like to make a donation to a charity of your choice this year. Would you please let me know what charity you support?”  

And then you make a donation in their name.  

Or you could choose a charity yourself. The Actors Fund or Broadway Cares Equity Fights AIDS are wonderful charities that the industry recognizes.  

The gifts are just tokens. 

A well-written card, something that says something from the heart, is also a wonderful, wonderful way for you to show your appreciation.  

You're not going to buy your way into that casting director's heart. You're not going to buy your way into that agent or manager's heart.

You're just genuinely letting them know that you appreciate how they have thought of you this year. 

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About Andi:

Andi Matheny is a 25-year veteran of Hollywood who started the Andi Matheny Acting
Studios in 2010 and has coached hundreds of actors to book their first roles in TV and
film.

Andi has had a recurring role on The Resident as Dr. Kelly Whitley, starred
opposite Sara Rue in The Hallmark Channel Movie True Love Blooms, opposite Kelsey
Grammer in the film High Expectations, opposite Phylicia Rashad in the Oprah Winfrey
production David Makes Man and opposite Ryan Phillippe and Patrick Duffy in the
comedy Lady of the Manor, written and directed by Justin Long. Other notable credits
include Devious Maids, The Mentalist, Ugly Betty, Zoey 101, The Suite Life of Zack and
Cody, and The Shadow Effect.

Andi hosted the talk shows Friends or Lovers, Essentials, Fit Resort and Spa, and Kwik
Witz. She appeared in dozens of commercials, including a worldwide campaign for
Olay.

Andi won the Jury Prize for Best Florida Film for her directorial debut The Newest
Member at the 2017 Sunscreen Film Festival. Her web series Good Morning St. Pete!
which she wrote, directed, and starred in, won Best Web Series at the 2018 Sunscreen
Film Festival and garnered her the Best Leading Actress Award at the 2018 Tampa Bay
Underground Film Festival.

Andi’s groundbreaking book “Act ALIVE: The Essential Guide to Igniting and Sustaining
Your Working Actor Career” was published in 2022 and debuted on Amazon at #3 in
Acting and Auditioning. 

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How hosting has changed. 

Human beings are interesting. 

hHere is a thing that beginning actors and even experienced actors do. They'll look at a script, right? And the script will say things like, "I hate you, you have ruined my life, blah, blah, blah." And everybody jumps to the conclusion of, “Well, this is an angry scene, and I got to say, I hate you, and you've ruined my life.”

The hot person confrontation is when you find somebody, this "hot person" in your life who has screwed you over, and now you're kind of doing the fantasy version of talking to them the way you wish you could have talked to them in that moment.

As a coach, I'm not interested in your excuses. I'm interested in what you're going to do about it. In spite of all the odds against you. 

If your job is to act, you better get fucking good at acting.

Understand what casting directors had been trying to get through my head, which is, I want you to be good. 

When you audition, you are solving somebody's problem. So when you have the working actor mindset, you show up in a collaborative, helpful spirit to help solve the casting director's problem because the casting director has pressure on them to fulfill all of these roles.

As soon as you make it about the other person and not about you and your ego, that's when your bookings are going to start soaring.

Art comes from a totally different place. You've got to be connected. You have to be connected from your soul, from a soul level, to what you're doing. 

Sometimes the less, the better.

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Marianne Williamson

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” 

My manifesto for my life is to inspire.

It is the one word that I feel describes what my purpose on this planet is to do. I wake up, and I show up for duty.

What’s your one word purpose?

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

And I believe it is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us because it is not our darkness that we need to take responsibility for. But it is our light. It is our talent.

Every single one of us has a purpose. 

As your life gets bigger, it requires more of your attention.

Because I cannot give away what I have not given myself.

You not being your best; who the fuck does that serve?

You hiding your talent that has been so freely given to you? Who the hell does that serve? 

You're not being generous and fabulous and showing your light and being who you really are. Who does that serve? The answer is no one except maybe your ego.

There's the ego mindset, which is finite and is only what is in me. And then there is the universal mindset, which is infinite. Which plugs into that universal intelligence.

There is power in serving. Because when you serve, you get out of yourself. When you are out of yourself, and you are serving, you are no longer in fear.

I am so done with playing small so that people around me feel more comfortable.

If you don't feel comfortable being around me, don't hang around me.

I want to concentrate on serving one because it makes me happy. Inspiring brings me more joy than anything else in the world, no matter what form it is.

It's not my job to help you feel better by diminishing myself.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

If you go on social media and you see somebody do something. And it makes you feel bad about yourself. Ask yourself, what do I not want to take responsibility for? 

When one of your friends wins an award or one of your friends makes a short film, and it gets voted best something at the Grand Canyon Film Festival. Congratulate them.

Thank them for showing you that it is possible. 

Isn't that much better than just feeling shitty about yourself? That doesn't serve anybody. That doesn't do anything. 

I want to inspire you to do something. To be brave. To serve, because when you serve through your craft, through your talent, you are a positive force in this world. And, my God, we need a powerful force.

So be that in your world.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. That is the power of serving as an actor.

By you doing your work as an artist. You help other people, but you also help yourself, which only enables you to help more people.

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“I was 35 years old the first time I spoke up to my mother and refused to buy into her games and manipulation. I was terribly frightened and almost couldn't believe I was doing this. I found I didn't have to be mean. I didn't have to start an argument. But I could say what I wanted and needed to say to take care of myself. I learned I could love and honor myself and still care about my mother the way I wanted to, not the way she wanted me to.” 

Take a step back and observe. 

I tell myself, mouth shut.

If you are using your mind to govern your brain while you are with family over the holiday and you start to spot the stuff going on.

You can simply remain quiet and just observe it:

• Maybe go to the kitchen.
• Make yourself a cup of tea. 
• Make yourself a cup of coffee.
• Go to the bathroom.
• Say, "You know what? My legs are a bit stiff. I'm going to go for a walk."
• Understand that you don't need to be trapped into it.

You can observe it and can choose how you are going to respond to it.

I also recommend bringing some sort of a journal.

I also find that if there is a pet in the house, that's a great always a great diversion to go to the pet if you need a touchstone because animals are the presence keepers.

Drop the rope.

The best frickin’ piece of advice I can give is when somebody goes at you, respond in kindness.

It's not that you're not participating. It's that you're taking care of yourself.

Just for this holiday. Take care of your emotional self.

Say less. Be kind. Be there for others.

Here's an old thing I've used to use quite a lot, put on your bubble suit.

When you get to where you are arriving or if you're taking a train or a plane, go to the public restroom, and bend all the way down to the floor. Imagine yourself stepping into an imaginary bubble suit. Pull it up around your head. Clench it tight and know that in your little bubble suit, you are safe and secure.