Allowed (Caneel Joyce)

Let’s activate your superpower and create a life you love to lead by using the practice of presence. Bringing your focus inward is the paradigm shift in leadership development and personal growth.

Start back at the basics and learn what presence is and its wide array of uses. You can use presence to reduce anxiety, gain clarity, improve focus and productivity, and more. 

Learn how to use a variety of simple ways to help you return to mindfulness when you find yourself straying from presence. Throughout this coaching session, you will discover why presence is essential to conscious leadership, then explore the personal and professional benefits of living a mindful life.

Highlights
00:00 Intro
04:06 Conscious leadership involves presence
06:18 What is presence?
08:04 You are allowed to be present 
9:50 What presence looks and feels like
12:50 9 quick and simple ways to be present

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Discover the wisdom of the 5 core emotions and how their wisdom can inspire change and growth. You will then learn about how emotions manifest in your body and how to identify what you’re feeling without overanalyzing or stifling your feelings. 

In this episode, master a simpler, more powerful vocabulary of familiar basic emotion words that break you out of drama and help you navigate through your emotional world. 

Learn how the fact vs. story framework gives you the skills to consciously communicate your emotions. By the end of the episode, you will know how to shift away from the drama-based story language and into the language of facts in order to break out of draining emotional cycles and step into empowerment. 

Highlights 

13:03 - What does it mean to be unarguable? The Fact vs. Story Framework

16:57 - The 5 Core Emotions

20:50 - How Story Emotions Both Come From and Lead To Drama

27:47 - The Wisdom of the 5 Core Emotions

31:42 - How to Experience Your Emotions Consciously

36:08 - Allow Yourself to Feel Your Emotions

39:47 - The Part You Play in Your Emotions

44:52 - Are you very emotional and sensitive? You can use that emotional intelligence for your growth

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Are your results not matching up to the level of change you want? Let’s figure out what you truly want and set you up for success to get it. 

In this episode, you will discover how to boost your willingness through the Change Formula. 

Take the first step in boosting your willingness by learning about the importance of tapping into your creativity and crafting a powerful, motivating vision! You will then hear why getting comfortable with discomfort could be the missing component to making sustainable change in your life and leadership. Learn how you can get creative with how you support yourself through change and what support can do to make change easier. 

Throughout the episode you will also learn how listening to your Whole Body Yes can make each part of the Change Formula easier! 

Change doesn’t have to be hard. Once you tap into your will and choose to step into the Creator role in your life, you can create the changes you’ve been dreaming about.

Highlights

02:33 The Unarguable Check In

12:12 How to Get What You Want

15:00 What is the Change Formula?

18:48 The Change Formula: How to Create a Vision

26:17 The Change Formula: The Power of Discomfort

33:06 The Change Formula: Why Support Encourages Change

36:33 How to Guide Yourself Through Personal Growth: Follow Your Whole Body Yes

43:20 Are You Willing to Change?

46:08 Additional Conscious Leadership Resources

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Caneel recounts the moment she realized she was still repressing some of the most unique, authentic parts of herself in this personal episode. You will learn the difference between your identity and your essence, then discover how 360-degree reviews can help you professionally AND personally by revealing the innate gifts you already possess. 

Is there a part of you that never sees the light of day? Do you believe that you can’t be your true self?  Are you hiding your precious gifts from the world? 

You can break out of the mindsets that keep you from playing full out. Become the person you want to be by letting go, rediscovering your essence, and Allowing all of you to come out into the world.

Highlights

00:00 Intro

01:49 The difference between identity and essence 

07:15 The significance of uninhibited dancing

11:02 Why a 360-degree review helps develop personal branding

13:34 My shocking 360-degree review report results 

17:07 The importance of spontaneous creation

18:26 Why we repress our essence

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Beth Anstandig is back on the Allowed podcast!

As a lifelong cowgirl, writer, university faculty member, and licensed psychotherapist, Beth has 25 years of experience developing, implementing, and training people in Natural Leadership—a model she pioneered. Natural leadership helps people awaken their innate awareness so they can live and work with more authentic relationships and connections. 

Beth owns Take a Chance Ranch in Morgan Hill, CA providing leadership, culture, and well-being programs through The Circle Up Experience. Together with an ever-growing menagerie of animals, she’s trained thousands of leaders and teams from some of the most renowned corporations, universities, and nonprofits. 

Beth joins Caneel Joyce to discuss her brilliant new book The Human Herd and to share the incredible lessons leaders can learn from honing their natural leadership skills. 

Listen to learn why self-care is essential in building trust in teams, how learning about the different fields of awareness improves your leadership, and what being a part of a human herd really entails. During the episode, Caneel and Beth detail how you can strengthen the trust and relationships within your team through the principles of natural leadership. 

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Dr. Caneel Joyce talks with guest Erin Rocchio about wholeness and one of the biggest issues that moves us away from it...burnout. They discuss the factors that contribute to burnout, including the mismatch between a person and their environment, and offer six levers that can support well-being in the workplace. They also explore the symptoms of burnout and the phases that people go through, as well as the need for leaders to prioritize their own needs. Additionally, the connection between burnout and wholeness is discussed, and three self-guided coaching tools are offered as a means of prevention. This conversation emphasizes the importance of creating spaces where people can be their whole selves and flourish in all aspects of their lives.

Guest bio
For fifteen years, Erin has worked with executives across industries to find the sweet spot between business results and personal meaning. She designs and delivers transformational leader, team, and organization development in line with business strategy. Released in 2020, Erin’s inaugural publication, Wholeness at Work: Free Yourself from Burnout for Good, addresses the science behind workplace burnout. She explores the symptoms, sources, and solutions across three levels: individual, relational, and systemic. Her Roadmap to Wholeness supports leaders in finding a lifelong path to sustainable wellbeing in their work.

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Highlights
[00:04:02]  Burnout threatens leaders and organizational success

[00:07:56] Ignoring needs leads to burnout culture.

[00:11:47] Wholeness tools for burnout and systemic issues.

[00:17:36] Six workplace levers to support well-being 

[00:20:05] Guide to burnout causes and relief methods.

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Dr. Caneel Joyce welcomes back Enneagram expert Erin Rocchio to Allowed to discuss how the Enneagram personality system can be used to address burnout. They explore how different Enneagram types are more susceptible to burnout due to their specific tendencies and behaviors. The conversation includes practical tips for setting clear boundaries that connect to core values to promote emotional and mental well-being. If you're curious about using the Enneagram in your personal growth journey, this episode is a must-listen.

Guest bio
For fifteen years, Erin has worked with executives across industries to find the sweet spot between business results and personal meaning. She designs and delivers transformational leader, team, and organization development in line with business strategy. Released in 2020, Erin’s inaugural publication, Wholeness at Work: Free Yourself from Burnout for Good, addresses the science behind workplace burnout. She explores the symptoms, sources, and solutions across three levels: individual, relational, and systemic. Her Roadmap to Wholeness supports leaders in finding a lifelong path to sustainable wellbeing in their work.

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Highlights
[00:00:01] Enneagram allows compassion and growth; burnout discussion.

[00:04:49] Enneagram types face burnout from neglecting self-care.

[00:07:21] Burnout by Enneagram types summary

[00:12:11] Setting boundaries for emotional and mental well-being.

[00:17:23] The need for predictability in daily routine.

[00:23:43] Desire for wholeness & potential in life.

[00:24:35] Link to resources and buy card deck

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Dr. Caneel Joyce and guest Courtney Smith explore the impact of identity on personal growth and development. Gain valuable insights into how rigid childhood identity structures can become limiting and problematic in adulthood, leading to dissatisfaction, burnout, and a lack of fulfillment. 

In this thought-provoking podcast episode, Caneel and Courtney delve into the motives and challenges people face when embarking on personal growth journeys. Learn about the issue of rigid identities and how identity creates feedback loops, reinforcing existing patterns and limiting exploration of alternative ways of being. Uncover the common stages of life where identity crises often occur, like the midlife crisis, and learn strategies to navigate these periods of transition.

Throughout this episode, Caneel and Courtney stress the importance of questioning and challenging the underlying stories and assumptions that shape your identity. They highlight the limitations of off-the-shelf personal growth tools and advocate for tools that facilitate deep self-exploration and reevaluation of identity, like the Enneagram.

Discover the power of breaking points and embracing discomfort as a catalyst for personal transformation.

This episode offers valuable insights into the role of identity in personal growth, highlighting the significance of examining and evolving your identity structures as you navigate life's complexities so you can achieve sustainable growth in both your professional and personal life. 

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Dr. Caneel Joyce and Courtney Smith discuss the ancient personality typing system, the Enneagram, and its value for the process of self-discovery and letting go of harmful attachments to identity. Unlike traditional personality tools, the Enneagram goes beyond surface traits and delves into the underlying beliefs that shape individuals' perspectives. 

Throughout this episode Caneel and Courtney explore each of the nine points of the Enneagram, sharing insights into what motivates each Enneagram type and the identity trappings of the different archetypes, including yours! Caneel and Courtney’s conversation shares a unique perspective on this useful framework for self-reflection and understanding others. 

They discuss the use of the Enneagram as a tool to go beyond simple awareness and into a different experience. Courtney explains the importance of connecting with physical sensations to loosen the grip of identity and self-limiting stories and guides Caneel through a somatic exercise that you can try out at home to help you cultivate awareness of each Enneagram type’s embodied experience.

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Welcome to the fascinating concept of the Drama Triangle, created by Stephen Karpman. This crash course breaks down the victimhood mentality that can keep you stuck and disempowered in your life.  Through a quick explanation of the three roles on the Drama Triangle, discover how drifting from presence and adopting a victim mentality can hinder your personal growth and prevent you from making a meaningful impact. 

With her insightful guidance, Caneel will empower you to reclaim your power, break free from drama, and step into conscious leadership. 

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Learn about the detrimental effects of the loneliness epidemic, the risk factors of self-isolation, and the importance of social connection for our overall well-being. From combating loneliness to prioritizing self-care, explore ways to nourish your social needs and establish lifelong friendships. 

Join Caneel as she discusses the impact of loneliness on our mental and physical health, and shares insights into how the remedy to the loneliness epidemic starts with compassion. Don't miss this episode on mental health, self-compassion, and the power of conscious choice in finding healing and happiness.

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Uncover the key to creating the life you want. 

Learn about the powerful concept of the Empowerment Triangle in this minisode. Join Caneel as she explains the three essential roles within this triangle: the Creator, the Coach, and the Challenger.  Discover how the different roles on the Empowerment Triangle will help you step into your power. 

Emphasizing taking responsibility, Caneel explores how your choices, beliefs, and actions shape your life. Radical responsibility, embracing curiosity, and focusing your attention on all that you can control can lead to profound creativity, growth, and transformation.

Raise your awareness of the patterns that no longer serve you and choose the path of the creator, coach, and challenger to create the life you want to live. By embracing the roles of the Empowerment Triangle, you can tap into your true potential and be the powerful leader you were born to be.

Listen to the full-length episode on the Empowerment Triangle here! 

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Are there areas in your life where you've wanted to make a change, but it seems like something is holding you back? Do you take the initial first steps to change but end up back where you’ve always been?

Change can be challenging but there are ways to overcome the roadblock keeping you from making positive changes. Welcome to a crash-course introduction to the Change Formula, a powerful tool for creating lasting change in your life.

Explore why change can be challenging, even when you desire it deeply, and then learn how to harness the power of the three components of the Change Formula: vision, discomfort, and support. Join Caneel as she discusses the importance of having a clear, strong, and compelling vision, and how discomfort is a catalyst for change.

Get ready to unleash your willingness to transform as this enlightening minisode offers practical steps and insights to help you amplify your willingness to create the meaningful changes in your life you truly want to make.

Full-length Allowed episodes about the Change Formula include How to Get Creative About Change and The Change Formula - Why Self-Help Books Aren’t Working for You

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Join Dr. Caneel Joyce as she breaks down the five basic emotions: joy, sadness, fear, anger, and desire, and invites you to listen to their innate value and wisdom. Explore the power of emotional intelligence and the art of feeling your way through to a more fulfilling life.

Delve into the power of understanding and embracing your core emotions. The core emotions each carry a unique message and value, and by fully experiencing and acknowledging them, you can tap into your inner guidance and make powerful choices in your life.
 
Listen to a full-length episode about the wisdom of the five core emotions here!

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Explore the power of ceremony in navigating personal transitions and collective change. Dr. Joyce highlights the emotional and identity aspects of embracing change and the resistance that often comes with it. Drawing from existing research, Caneel discusses the role of rituals in navigating new environments and sustaining consciousness. 

Throughout the episode, you will learn about ceremony and ritual’s potential to reduce emotional dysregulation and anxiety, as well as ceremony's significance in addressing grief and processing emotions. Highlighting the importance of community support and being witnessed during change, Caneel explains how ceremony aids conscious transition. 

Are there areas in your life where ceremonies or rituals can aid you in navigating transitions? 

Listen and learn more…

Highlights
00:00:35 Ceremony is a powerful way to acknowledge the endings and embrace the new beginnings in our lives
00:02:12 A story of a spontaneous, healing ceremony
00:04:23 Practicing intuition, following messages, cleansing the earth.
00:07:53 Learning, grieving, ceremony: detachment, connection, leadership.
00:08:56 Rituals and ceremonies provide a container in time and space to process grief
00:14:20 Using Ceremony for transition, change, and support.
00:15:20 Ceremonies mark an ending and a new beginning
00:26:41 Rituals help control and reduce anxiety
00:30:44 Opportunity for corporate funerals to help businesses embrace change
00:33:10 Ceremonies and rituals give weight and permanence to important moments
00:33:15 Transition must be honored and respected, peacefully.
00:39:19 The value of community support

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Unlock the game-changing power of clear agreements with this applicable minisode. Whether in your personal life or professional endeavors, learn how to define roles, responsibilities, deadlines, and accountability to foster high-integrity relationships. 

Caneel shares the common pitfalls of vague agreements and offers practical strategies to break through resistance and establish crystal-clear agreements. These transformative insights pave the way for drama-free interactions, successful project execution, and personal growth. Apply these principles across various facets of your life, from work to personal goals. Listen and master the art of crafting unambiguous agreements.

Highlights

00:00:45 Why do we break agreements? What is integrity? 

00:01:14 What is a clear agreement? 

00:02:23 Define the who. Who is accountable for the outcome?

00:03:39 Define the what

00:04:21 A new way of looking at deadlines

00:05:08 Explore, don’t ignore, resistance and fear in decision making

00:05:41 Take the time you need to create a clear agreement

00:06:43 The Importance of clear agreements in creative projects

00:07:21 Coaching moment: Apply your learnings

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15 years ago, Brandon Hurlbut left a traditional career to join Obama's campaign and dive into climate policy, influenced by its rising importance. Now he's combating climate change with Boundary Stone Partners, a climate government affairs firm with 85+ clients. He also co-founded Overture, a climate seed investment fund; and serves as an operating partner at NGP’s energy transition growth equity fund. 

From his dedicated climate work to his personal growth journey and experiences in the Obama administration, Brandon shares his vision of leveraging cultural influencers and supporting innovative climate tech founders. We'll also explore his reflections on balancing emotional health, the importance of personal coaching, and the urgency of hitting climate milestones by 2030. 

Links mentioned in this episode:

Connect with Brandon Hurlbut on LinkedIn

Boundary Stone Partners

Overture

The Sunrise Movement

Clean Energy for America

Environmental Defense Fund

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You can be the CEO of your own life. What are the pieces of you that you have put into the basement? ...The parts of you that we cannot see anymore, or even remember? What are the ways that you erode your own aliveness, creativity, and wellbeing? And how can you reclaim the wholeness that is your birthright? You are invited into a partnership, a connection, and a new way of seeing and experiencing life. Tackle your biggest challenges and break free from your limitations. You are allowed to grow. You are allowed to dream. You are allowed to be exactly who you want to be. caneel.com/podcast

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Allowed isn't just a podcast. It's an experience. With hands-on exercises, practical applications, expert guests, and your own desire to learn, Caneel will guide you through your unique transformation. Think of each episode as your very own, private coaching session.

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Caneel gives you a sneak peek into some of the juicy topics we'll be covering over the next few episodes and throughout the rest of the season. You'll get a taste of some of the exciting tools and resources you will soon have at your fingertips, and a few places you can go to start your journey of self-exploration even before the official launch of Allowed on November 12th. Music by SAICS, Music produced by Keith Milutinovic

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Personal growth is the journey of your life. Do you have an insatiable desire to learn? Are you interested in that process of finding out what part of yourself is going to shine next? How can you become a better leader of your own life? Today we're going to talk about the secrets that transform your life. You are allowed to recreate yourself and that is allowed to be easy. Welcome to Allowed. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Do you find yourself dating the same type of person over and over? Do you find yourself in the same job time and again, even though you were at a different company, it's a different year? We keep recreating the same patterns that are holding us back. Today we are going to break those patterns and begin to move forward. We will better understand why we get triggered and how to begin a process of reclaiming a sense of wholeness. You are allowed to love all parts of yourself. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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With the holidays upon us, take a sneak peek backstage with our team as we deal with chaos and panic surrounding unforeseen technical issues and are reminded of the importance of gratitude, the dangers of entitlement, and the joys of redundancy. Watch the video of our team in turmoil on the website. Final Note: Be sure to catch our special Thanksgiving episode where we discuss Gratitude vs. Entitlement, and you can hear the amazing and emotional episode that we thought was lost forever!  

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It's Thanksgiving week here in the U.S. and a lot of us are getting ready to head off for family gatherings. where we're all focusing together on gratitude and ironically we also are presented with some challenges to appreciating what we have. With my guest, Heather Nienaber, who has been my right-hand woman here at Kickass Enterprises for five years, we're going to be exploring the difference between entitlement and appreciation. You are allowed to grow from any change and find appreciation in any situation. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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How can you succeed without suffering? Answer: by identifying your Zone of Genius. In this episode, we will get into some hands-on exercises, that have been proven time and again with my clients, to help people identify their Zone of Genius. You are allowed to kick ass so much more easily than you might know. You are allowed to reach your full potential, to be healthy, to be happy, and to add tremendous value to the world by having the impact that only you can have. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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In this episode, we have Mary and Anna Bloom, two sisters and incredible leaders at Snap and Airbnb Plus. We talk to them about the importance of group work in their development as leaders and how their lives as sisters has helped to shape them as the leaders they are today. We also hear their sage advice on how to find, create and facilitate groups and communities. You are allowed to have partnership. You are allowed to have support. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Learn how to limit your time spent in drama by recognizing drama in its three main forms, the cost of drama, and how to recognize the warning signs of drama. This episode explains what the Drama Triangle model is and its different aspects.

By the end of this coaching session, you will be able to Identify what each Drama Triangle archetype represents and the way they impact your behavior and leadership. Discover how the Victim, Villain, and Hero manifest in your life and how to recognize the limiting stories you’ve been telling yourself. 

Gain the tools to combat Below the Line stories and shift Above the Line when you find yourself in drama.

Highlights

3:11 What drama looks like and why get mixed up in it

5:31 Who creates drama?

8:56 What is the Drama Triangle?

13:11 How to know if you’re being a victim

18:28 How to know if you’re being a villain 

26:31 How to know if you’re being a hero 

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Get started on the path of living Above the Line and going from victimhood to a place of power.

 You’ve learned how to recognize drama and identify if you or others are Below the Line. Now find empowerment by shifting Above the Line into the Empowerment Triangle.

 Discover the three distinct forms of power that are available to you Above the Line when you are being a Conscious Leader. The 3 aspects of the Empowerment Triangle are the Coach, the Challenger, and the Creator, and up there in that state of flow, anything is possible. Throughout this episode learn how to shift out of drama and into power. 

 Power is a place where you can resolve issues permanently, where you can learn, where you are free to create the life that you want. Empowerment means you are responsible without blame or judgment, and a visionary Creator dedicated to creating the life you want. 

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In this episode, you receive practical tips for moving your life into one where you are living primarily in your Zone of Genius: that place where you find effortless flow and you create value by using the natural gifts you love to use. You are allowed to bring a ton of value into your life, your company, your community, and your family in a way that comes easily to you. You are allowed to love what you do. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Most great leaders understand it’s key to be balanced, calm, and focused to make an impact. However, many leaders struggle to identify enjoyable and engaging ways to rest and reset after periods of intense effort.

Enter your Restorative Zone of Genius! Regularly recovering makes leadership sustainable and life-giving. 

In this episode, you will learn how to restore yourself in your genius in a way no one else can. Even the most conscious leaders who are mainly living in their Zone of Genius, doing their morning meditations and journaling practices every day still can find themselves burnt out, fried, or taking on workaholic tendencies.

Self-care does not have to be boring. You’re allowed to get creative with how you restore yourself. In fact, it’s essential to you living the life of your dreams. You are allowed to rest - trust your natural rhythm. 

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Are you in the midst of an epic Hero's Journey?
 
The answer is yes, we all are. The Hero’s Journey is an important construct in all of our lives and is present in cultures throughout the entire world.
 
Everyone experiences longer “macro” Hero’s Journeys in their lives, as well as many smaller “micro” Hero’s Journeys, whether it’s having a child, going to college, starting your own business, or switching jobs. No matter what the details are of your journey, all Hero’s Journeys follow the same formula.
 
Understanding and mapping out exactly where you are currently in your Hero’s Journey will help you move through the struggle more quickly to reach the return home where you can share your gifts with the world.
 
In this episode, David Shechtman, a talented coach and partner at Evolution, shares his Hero’s Journey expertise, gained from decades of studying the art and science of behavior change, including many deep dives with Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey dynamic.

07:04 - What is The Hero's Journey? Who is Joseph Campbell?  Plus, examples of The Hero's Journey at different levels and life stages.

19:06 -Meet Coach David Shechtman and hear his story on how he developed his career and learn how it connects to the Hero's Journey.

23:18 The Hero's Journey is a skeleton key for human development in a universal way. The Hero's Journey represents the blueprint of a consistent experience that people go through on their life journey.

32:58 The importance of having meaning and purpose and formula identification in your life and career journey. The narrative structure created helps people define the experiences they have and make meaning of their life.

35:31 The 3 main stages of The Hero's Journey- departure, initiation, return, 

49:24 The Hero's Journey is important for people to understand and utilize because struggle, challenge, and experience are what create the gifts and transform lives so that a person can embody the change in their lives, create sustainable change and remove themselves from patterns and cycles that are keeping them in the struggle much longer than they need to be.

52:23 David's Bear in his backyard story and how it relates to the Hero's Journey. Within the Hero's Journey, there are challengers, allies, and other aspects of the experience that comes into it such as "The Call" and "The Dragon"

01:06:57 The denial of the call.

01:11:00 The Hero's Journey in the face of death. The mystery of death shines light on the importance of life and allows us to redefine and gain clarity about our priorities and our ultimate story that is The Hero's Journey of our life upon the final return home.

 

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Are you stuck in logic? Are you ignoring your animal instincts? Do you feel that you are constantly trying to react to situations instead of being one step ahead? In this episode, we talk with Beth Killough from The Circle Up Experience. Beth teaches us about natural leadership, humans as animals, and how people respond to pressure. We also discuss the four types of awareness and how, whether we are conscious of it or not, these levels of awareness actually guide us in our daily lives. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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In this episode, discover how you might be unintentionally making yourself a magnet for negativity and drama. You will learn how to avoid creating negative circumstances in your life, and how to reverse the pattern if it starts happening. 

Get your life to start operating FOR YOU instead of against you. Throughout this coaching session, gain the skills to recognize if you’re in a victim mindset and learn what steps you can take to change your mindset so that you can move out of drama and into empowerment. 

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Dive into the Villain mindset on the drama triangle. As part of the drama triangle series, this episode will teach you about the powerful Villain aspect. The Villain guilts, shames, judges, and blames. Learning this framework will make you more self-aware about limiting mindsets that lead to drama and dysfunction. 

By the end of the episode, you will gain more skills to move away from drama and towards empowerment. Question the stories that hold you back and free yourself from negative cycles. 

Highlights

00:00 Intro

04:47 A quick overview of the Drama Triangle and how identifying these patterns helps you break out of them. 

11:15 How to know when you are in villain mode and why it matters.

17:39 Different flavors of the villain and how you might behave in villain mode. 

22:33 Drama is contagious, and villains spread the drama

24:56 How to shift out of villain mode and come into power

28:10 Question your stories and reduce their negative impact

36:38 How to handle other people who are in villain mode. 

39:54 What happens when you stay a villain 

42:15 A real example of moving from villain mode and into empowerment and accountability.

47:07 Learn to love all parts of you and let go of “right” and “wrong”. 

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 In this episode, you unlearn everything you ever learned about heroes from movies like Superman or Star Wars. Learn how you’re allowed to help solve and fix in a way that is deeply empowering to yourself and others and does not drain your energy.

Do you like to solve any problem as soon as they come up? Do you find yourself often swooping in to save other people from bad things that might happen or to teach them stuff they really, REALLY need to know so that more bad things don’t happen? You might be a hero if you seek to help, solve, or fix in order to relieve discomfort or suffering from yourself or others.  

Throughout this episode, discover what the drama triangle hero archetype is and how heroing is a form of perpetuating drama and powerlessness in your own life and the lives around you. Wake up to the costs of your own heroing and learn how you're allowed to help others without continuing a cycle of suffering. 

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Are you setting new year's resolutions or company goals, but by this point in the year you've often fallen off the wagon? You wanted to make a big change and wanted to improve your life, but are spiraling with indecision? In this episode, you learn how to instantly predict the likelihood of achieving your goals and I'll teach you about how I do my new year's resolution recharge. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Whether you are supported by a rich community that nurtures the best parts of you and helps you to grow and succeed, or if you are feeling isolated, sometimes lonely, like you're wandering through a relational desert, today's episode is going to rock your world.

All of us have fundamental needs; the need for food, water, and air. But we also have some specific social needs. We need to belong. We need to work in teams to survive and we need to feel recognized, respected, and understood. We need to relate to each other authentically. But how?

In this special episode of Allowed, you're going to gain some tools to enrich your life and your relationships from Executive Coach, Simon D’Arcy. Enjoy insights about authentic relating and learn some tools for applying this powerful framework in your business and your personal life.

See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Diana Chapman is a best selling author of the 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, cofounder of the Conscious Leadership Group and she was named as one of the top 5 CEO coaches in Silicon Valley. Also, Diana was also my coach for 3 years. Do you ever feel lost or searching for someone or something to show us the way to the light? Do you feel that at the end of the day, all the practices you do are really not moving the needle? In today's episode, we will get to take a peek into the personal life of one of my gurus, Diana Chapman, and learn how to bring that leader home with us.

 See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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In this episode, we honor the leader in each of us. Discover your creative power, your ability to influence and even control things that you did not know that you could control. When you move into empowerment and away from victimhood and other forms of Drama, you have the opportunity to create the life you want to live and make your other dreams a reality.

Throughout this episode, learn how to reject the Victim mindset and step into the Creator role in your own life. You can claim your full power by learning how to harness the power of responsibility to bring your vision to life.
 
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Discover a set of skills to help you when find yourself with an intense urge to fix problems for others or control outcomes. Whether you're working with your children, collaborating with your partner, someone at work or are a manager of people you may find yourself fixing problems. In this episode, I'm going to give you an alternative to produce amazing results. 

Learn how to stop rescuing and start coaching. Throughout this episode learn why coaches welcome challenges and how to create the changes and success you want. Move into the role of a conscious creator.  See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Tough times call for loving leadership. With the COVID-19 pandemic shattering the idea of normal, leaders face the unique challenge of guiding teams to success during intense uncertainty. In this conversation, Dr. Caneel Joyce talks with Janet Logothetti about how to create an environment of loving kindness and how to manage stress during COVID-19. Hear about the importance regulation plays in leadership and how to create powerful connections within your team even through remote work.

Janet Logothetti provides leadership development, executive coaching, and thought partnership to business founders and leaders as a partner in Evolution. Her clients include Facebook, Slack, Uber, and Kiva.

Her work focuses on building leadership and culture to sustain innovation and execution through rapid growth and is influenced by a variety of interests and study, including behavioral economics, neuroscience, sensorimotor regulation, attention, transpersonal psychology, world wisdom traditions, and peak performance.

She has been a student of meditation for nearly 20 years in the Tibetan tradition and teaches it to interested clients.

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Janet Logothetti walks you through a Loving Kindness meditation.

Janet Logothetti provides leadership development, executive coaching and thought partnership to business founders and leaders as a partner Evolution. Her clients include Facebook, Slack, Uber, and Kiva.

Her work focuses on building leadership and culture to sustain innovation and execution through rapid growth and is influenced by a variety of interests and study including behavioral economics, neuroscience, sensorimotor regulation, attention, transpersonal psychology, world wisdom traditions, and peak performance.

She has been a student of meditation for nearly 20 years in the Tibetan tradition and teaches it to interested clients. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Each of the episodes of Allowed that we are recording during this time of crisis is here to give you further permission to approach this experience as a leader. To approach it as a learner. To approach it as a lover. This week we have the beautiful Christine Owenell, an executive coach and partner in Evolution, who I fell in love with the moment I met her. She's here today to talk to us about the alchemy of chaos, which is something that we're all getting to experience now. COVID-19 is really presenting us with a lot of opportunities to learn about leadership and is more of an extreme and accelerated learning situation than we may have had the opportunity to go through before. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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This week we have the amazing, award-winning author of Transformational Speaking: If You Want to Change the World, Tell a Better Story (Random House and Brilliance Audio), founder of Real Speaking® (www.realspeaking.com), and SBA award-winning entrepreneur, Gail Larsen, on the show.

Gail's original approach to communication draws from her own journey as a speaker, her respect for indigenous wisdom, 3+ decades in the world of speaking, and wide experience in business and association management. She is a former EVP of the worldwide National Speakers Association and has taught at Omega, Hollyhockk and Esalen. Gail offers Transformational Speaking to a global audience through both her Online Academy and live immersions in Santa Fe, NM.

Gail is here today to share her transformational wisdom with all leaders and guide us through the grief process of our interrupted dreams, that will ultimately lift us up into a new vision of what life can be so that we can not only survive in this moment but THRIVE in it. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Let go of toxic blame and shame, and learn how to challenge yourself and others in a way that promotes growth, sustainable change, and success. Discover a way to lead that encourages those around you to take accountability and step into their creative power. 

This episode is the final part of the 3-part series on the Empowerment Triangle- the role of the Challenger. You’ll learn skills, tools, and mindsets to become a more effective, resourceful manager. Help your team grow by staying Above the Line and challenging yourself and your team in an enlightened way, where you bring out the best in everyone. 

You are allowed to step into a different form of power that serves you, those around you, and the world.

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The world has seen dramatic changes taking place through many businesses and the way we live our daily lives due to the COVID-19 crisis. On this episode, we speak to Jess Kolko at Whole Foods Market HQ to get a look inside how one of the most beloved grocers in the US has quickly adjusted and managed their company and their team to, not only keep business running, but also help all of us who rely on essential services like these during uncertain times. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Whether you are a male leader or work with them, this week's episode featuring Matt Auron, Managing Partner and Co-Founder of Evolution, will give you a roadmap and deep insight into the mindset of male leaders throughout the different stages of their career allowing greater openings for cultural growth and improved communication between all genders.

Matt helps senior leaders in fast-growing companies scale into their potential with long-term, sustainable success. His combination of deep intuition, organizational experience, and behavioral science expertise allows him to design powerful and customized development solutions for clients such as Slack, Snapchat, Change.org, Coursera, Tile, Eero, Collective Health, Dropbox, and Radiology Partners. Matt is also a founding partner at Evolution Ventures, an early-stage venture fund that combines coaching with investment for seed- and other early-stage companies.
 
Our conversation explores the development of the various strengths and leadership capacities that lead to maturity as a man. 
 
We talk about how women can better understand the process men are in as they mature and how it intersects with men coming into their own power. We also touch upon emotional intelligence, connection, and men’s work and men’s groups.
 
As a woman who coaches a lot of men at midlife, these concepts have dramatically changed how I work with men. 
 
Whether you are a male leader or work with one, this episode will give you a roadmap and deep insight into the mindset of male leaders throughout different stages of their careers, allowing greater openings for cultural growth and improved communication between all genders.

Highlights
1:15 - Meet Matt Auron, co-founder of Evolution.
11:14 - What are men's groups?
13:50 - Learn what distinguishes immaturity in a man.
21:44 - How men repress emotions and deal with emotions in general.
23:19 - Coaching work with Evolution is about cleaning yourself out, dealing with emotions, and creating your purpose and mission in life.
26:09 - How does Matt's experience in men's work tie into his current clients and leaders in his coaching business and how does it play into their journey?
30:14 - Caneel and Matt discuss avoidance and going for impact within a safe space which has transformative power in lives and organizations.
33:27 - How identity changes for men during midlife
35:09 - Matt gives us a roadmap of a male leader entering midlife. There are stages of a male leader's life that help all genders understand and relate to each other better.
38:29 - Individuation is the psyche constructing itself in opposition to another and it is important to understand for all leaders.
42:19 - The differences between men and women and how they come into their power. Men tend to go down as women began to go up at the same time in midlife.
43:54 - How does working with a coach benefit male leaders and their companies?

 
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Explore how important it is for leaders to have an openness to learning and how 10-second miracle conversations can change leadership. This powerful conversation about conscious leadership reveals how making conscious commitments can help you create the life of your dreams. Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship and body-mind transformation for more than 45 years and has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap. He joins us on this week’s show to give exclusive insights on his brand new book, Conscious Luck, to share secrets to creating your own luck, and to expand on his Zone of Genius research by introducing a whole new layer to his groundbreaking discovery, the Genius Spiral.

Highlights:

4:54 - Gay Hendricks joins the Allowed Podcast.

5:14 - Gay discusses his bestselling book The Big Leap and upper limit problems and how he came up with the concept.

9:18 - Gay explains what the ULP or Upper Limit Problem is.

11:29 - How fear plays into the upper limit problem process within all of us.

 16:10 - Gay explains you have two ways of looking at human beings. We are human animals rather than failed angels. 

 19:44 - We have these two cosmic pulls in us. One is to expand and one is to contract. Once we get into harmony with that, things can move very well but if we are resisting every move of that process our whole systems are working against each other.

25:02 - Gay speaks about the importance of the 10-second sweaty conversation. The value is in the healing that comes from them. These can actually be 10-second miracle conversations because of the relief and healing that comes from letting go of the drama and avoidance. 

26:03 - Gay talks about where in the body certain emotions are held and how they are released from bottom to top.

30:18 - Gay speaks about how shame is a mixture of fear, sadness, and anger but it shows up lower in the body which he addresses in his new book Conscious Luck.

32:16 - The big finding exposed in Gay’s new book Conscious Luck is you can consciously change your luck. 

34:59 - Gay shares an exclusive story about Gay and his own experience with creating luck in a conscious way. It is about making a decision to be lucky and how that changed his life.

38:48 - All conscious change begins with a new conscious commitment. There are 8 different tools you can use to make yourself luckier. One is to create luck-worthy goals. 

41:46 - Gay talks about how it is important to take a moment and love that part of you that doesn’t feel like you deserve it. Love the part of you that doesn’t feel worthy. The feeling of unworthiness is the number one fear we have to get out of ourselves.

43:28 - Gay explains the Genius Spiral and how the Zone of Genius is actually an ongoing and growing spiral.

See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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David Shechtman is a committed coach and partner in Evolution who works with CEOs, high-potential leaders, and successful sales professionals on mastering Deep Change. He has an unparalleled ability to cut through the fog of complexity, confusion, and fear. Today we speak with David and learn one of the most powerful tools a leader can ever have, “self-as-instrument”. Many leaders and coaches want the cutting edge methodologies, exercises, and information, which is all extremely important. However, the most overlooked but most vital tool that the most successful leaders and coaches use is the unique understanding of who they are and what they bring to the table. A lot of help just isn’t helpful, and today we discuss how to help others in a way that maximizes the efficacy of your leadership and coaching.  See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Are you a single leader working in a larger team or organization or in a community. Are you doing your best to lead consciously, to have a growth mindset, and yet all around you there are people who are undermining your ability to make progress? What do we do when it's just us and we're trying to swim against the tide and change our whole entire culture?

Today's show features the incredible creator of the Conscious Leadership Group, author of the book, The 15 Commitments of Conscious Leadership, Diana Chapman. Diana walks us through some role-playing that will help us understand how to transform our businesses through the practice of conscious leadership. 

Many of us have been in organizations that have felt toxic. We impact each other and while there are many tools that we can use to really bring ourselves into the mindset that we want to have, the effect of culture is quite real. With Diana’s help, we begin to find that transformational power to create lasting and sustainable change that each of us actually has buried within ourselves, just waiting to be accessed. See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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The startup game is a roller coaster, and for many, it is one of the most difficult, frightening, stressful roller coasters in the world – it’s boot camp for the soul. As a founder, an executive, or a leader in a fast-growing company, you can feel alone in your struggles. We often hide them in an effort to appear like everything is going great. If you're feeling alone in your role in the world as a leader, you can find healing in connecting with the stories of others.

Hear about the journey of startup entrepreneurship and how to navigate the rollercoaster of the startup game in this special guest episode of Allowed. Throughout this episode, featuring the remarkable Terry Lee, of Mezcal Rosaluna and MeUndies, gain insight and information about the leader's journey and lessons that every conscious leader can learn from. He's a former CEO, he's a former COO, and he is human, just like you. Many of the lessons Terry learned along the way would not have come without a certain degree of heartbreak, pain, and struggle. The journey is ALWAYS here to teach us what our soul most wants to learn. Buckle up and come along for the ride as we dive into the wild rollercoaster of the startup game.

Highlights:

2:50 - Meet Terry Lee. Hear how Caneel and Terry Lee met and how he became an executive coaching client.

7:09 - Terry Lee speaks about how being involved in soccer throughout college and his commitment to that with a singular goal helped train him for his entrepreneurship journey.

10:21 - Terry discusses striving and the idea that nothing is ever enough. Hear why striving is not the same as success.

13:53 - Striving vs striding will determine your feeling of success. Terry Lee discusses the moment in his journey when he began to switch mentalities to a striding-focused growth mindset.

17:24 - Terry used the Change Formula unconsciously because he hit a certain level of discomfort in his business that forced him to make changes.

19:08 - Terry Lee discusses having grace for yourself and why grace is an impactful message for leaders.

22:03 - Caneel and Terry Lee discuss the Drama Triangle and how Terry was putting himself into a Villain role.

24:40 - Advice for current or aspiring COOs.

28:56 - The biggest difference between being COO and being the founder CEO.

33:28 - Advice for founders about how to build a team of champions.

37:00 - How to confront the dark nights of the soul.

See show notes and get free tools and guides at Caneel.com.

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Have you drifted away from conscious leadership without even realizing it?

At work, we sometimes react to something and immediately regret it. But, sometimes our reactivity is more drawn out to where we don't even realize we're doing it. It becomes a Below the Line pattern. There are a lot of different ways that this can look, and we are going to explore those today.

When you find yourself deeply immersed in these reactive behaviors you don't have access to the here and now and you can't be effective. In this episode, you will learn about reactive behaviors and discover how you can shift back into presence and get back to consciousness.

You are Allowed to be a full human being who sometimes gets reactive, and you're Allowed to learn how to shift back into presence and empowerment.


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In a time when employee engagement is down, many leaders are re-envisioning the roles inclusivity, purpose, and personal growth play in the workplace. With the help of David Hassell and Shane Metcalf, co-founders of the industry-leading performance management software company, 15Five, we tackle the tough questions surrounding employee growth, fulfillment, and morale, as well as the responsibility all leaders have right now to address how their own growth journey and mindsets affect their teams. Learn what Best-Self Management is and how it could benefit your organization. Dive into what the future of organizational development and company culture looks like in a remote environment. When you commit to your Best-Self, you unlock your personal potential and the next level of your leadership.

Highlights:

2:17 - Meet David Hassell and Shane Metcalf of 15Five.

2:49 - What is 15Five?

7:34 - How discovering your Zone of Genius helps you to find your purpose.

11:45 - Shane Metcalf's own personal growth journey led him into best-self management.

18:20 - David Hassell's personal growth journey through finding his Zone of Genius, creating his best-self management methodology, and meeting his co-founder Shane Metcalf.

28:24 - How Shane and David met and created 15Five.

33:23 - What is Best-Self Management? It is about leaving a company as a better person and better performer than when you joined them.

37:51 - How engagement dictates company culture, employee health, and overall success. Engagement and performance are the biggest issues that a company needs to solve.

41:44 - How to develop your team as well as your own best self.

47:36 - What we can learn from remote work.

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Sometimes it just feels like we can’t live up to our team’s expectations, our company's needs, or even our own goals, all at the same time. Yet, it is up to leaders, HR, and other organizational development roles within companies to manage, maintain, and grow all of these key aspects. Without personal development of yourself and the individuals on your team, you may be left with unsatisfied and unfulfilled team members who aren’t consistently bringing their best selves to the plate. Without leadership development, you and your team might become stagnant, and unable to grow past a certain level of success. If you're not meeting company growth or economic goals, your organization will not survive in a competitive market.

How do the most successful leaders and HR people approach this overwhelming, high-wire balancing act? How can you, as a leader, manager, or HR person, support the growth of your team members as individuals, as well as maintain the consistent growth of your organization?

Brilliant business designer and TrueCar CPO, John Foster, is here to help guide us in this hugely important conversation. He shares insights on how HR can be fundamental in empowering the mindset shift within an organization to optimize growth and support each individual.

Discover how the concepts of facilitation, reciprocity, and empowerment can revolutionize your organization and promote the growth of your team while meeting overarching business goals.

You are allowed to commit to your team members’ development. You are allowed to commit to your company goals. And you are allowed to support the growth and success of both.

Highlights:

5:39 - Introduction to the topic of empowerment and reciprocity.

10:47 - You have to create space for others to grow and for them to fail.

16:24 - What is empowerment? There are people who are afraid and it takes work like this to help them grow.

27:14 - New behavior takes time. Bringing in support systems and assessment tools to help track the improvements and changes adequately.

30:22 - How can you allow a person to choose to give them a feeling of empowerment?

32:20 - The role fear has played in John's journey.

37:10 - Productive HR people create sustainable high performance and think about what are all the things that would be necessary to create that performance which include empathizing with humans and creating containers for that to allow creative human output.

39:17 -  Paternalistic HR disempowers teams within an organization. Reciprocity prevents HR from being paternalistic.

41:37 - Ways a team member can better engage with HR that empowers them and the organization

43:09 - What are the most empowering ways that we can invest in our employees?

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You’re ready to make a change. You’ve tried the books and seminars, but you want something more. Investing in your growth is one of the most important investments you could ever make. 

This episode is your quick-start guide to coaching. 

Determine whether you need a coach and what type of coach would be best for you. Explore the power of coaching and how it can help your life and leadership. 

If you’re ready to take the next step in your personal growth or just looking to get started on your journey, this coaching breakdown will teach you the basics of coaching, its various forms, and the incredible ways it can enhance your self-awareness and personal growth. 

Highlights

6:03 - Question 1: Do I need a Coach?

12:56 - Coaches help raise self-awareness.

15:23 - Question 2: What is your goal? What do you want? What type of coach is best for me?

23:53 - Question 3: Do I need a coach or do I need a therapist?

28:40 - Question 4: Do I want one on one coaching or group coaching?

35:53 - Question 5: How do I find a coach for myself?

37:48 - Download the free How to Find a Coach E-Book with over 30 pages of guidance on whether or not coaching is right for you and how to navigate the world of coaching.

 

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Leadership is perception. 

There is intrinsic value in finding out how you are perceived and received by people that view you from different perspectives - whether above you, beside you, or below you.

In this episode, learn about 360-degree reviews and other forms of leadership feedback. You will be introduced to a curiosity mindset as you explore the importance of listening to improve your leadership. Find out why feedback is an extremely important process for leaders to go through. 

Discover how to transform feedback into positive changes and personal growth. After this episode, you will have a deeper appreciation and understanding of feedback and its powerful role in growth and leadership, as well as its often underleveraged ability to accelerate a leader’s performance. 

Highlights: 

• 4:25 - Independence vs interdependence. Why listening is the most important thing leaders can do right now. 

• 9:12 - Why feedback is an important process for leaders to go through

• 14:56 - A 360-degree review is one of the most popular ways to get feedback. So what is a 360 review?

• 33:09 - Variations of feedback and warnings from Caneel – plus more feedback tools and methods.

• 40:48 - The difference between 360 feedback reviews and performance management and some problems that come up with 360s.
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Are you asking for what you really want? Or are you asking for what you think you can get? Dia Bondi is a coach, catalyst, and creator of Ask Like an Auctioneer. For the last 20 years, some of the highest-profile, most extraordinary world leaders, CEOs, philanthropists, visionaries, and innovators have considered Dia their secret weapon. Over thousands of coaching sessions, she’s been in their corner, behind the curtain, helping them tap into their power and move their businesses forward. Dia is on the show today to give exclusive tips about how we can jumpstart our dreams by asking for what we actually want. Dia gives us valuable keys from her project, Ask Like An Auctioneer, aimed at helping a million women ask for more and get it using the mental model, tools, and frameworks from the world of auctioneering. See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

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Today's episode gets personal as Caneel shares her own internal struggles that almost made her decide to throw in the towel on her entire business. Her story sheds light on what most leaders have to deal with at some point in their journeys and she also shares how she overcame being "Below the Line" in the Drama Triangle.

Caneel re-established clear agreements with her family, her team, and most importantly, with herself, so she could come back into integrity and lead from presence by being "Above the Line" in how she operates her business and her life.

Learn how you can shift from broken agreements and Drama to living and leading with Empowerment and a commitment to your Whole Body Yes.
 
Highlights: 

•  3:53 - The importance of integrity in leadership, especially during hard times.
• 4:39 - Caneel's personal struggle with being below the line.  
• 6:58 - Caneel found herself stuck in the Drama Triangle.
• 11:37 - How Caneel shifted to be above the line after her internal crisis.

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Drama is toxic, stifling, and contagious. Teams break down and creativity grinds to a halt when drama is involved. It is up to us, as leaders, to mitigate the drama and empower ourselves and our teams. This can be difficult without the right tools and mindsets to empower your leadership.

In this episode, enjoy the skill-building executive coaching series Caneel gifted a Fortune 500 client after an in-person leadership training session. You will learn 10 essential skills that will guide you in how to shift yourself out of drama - and for you managers of people – how to help your teams learn to end drama as well. 

After this episode, you will have experience with the concepts, mindsets, and practices of this important aspect of conscious leadership, and you will also have free tools and practical applications to bust drama in your professional and personal life. 

Highlights

4:51 - Skill 1: Prepare to Shift Out of Drama

7:43 - Skill 2: Locating Yourself

11:01 - Skill 3: Are You Willing to Shift?

16:50 - Skill 4: Learn How to Get Curious

20:37 - Skill 5: Be the Creator

22:48 - Skill 6: Be the Coach

26:01 - Skill 7: Be the Challenger

30:59 - Skill 8: How to Speak Unarguably

33:45 - Skill 9: Be the Resolution

36:54 - Skill 10: Accept the Drama

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Let's take a deep look into the Change Formula. The Change Formula is a groundbreaking method guiding you to create sustainable, lasting change. You have free will, and taking 100% responsibility for how you show up is key to this process. Resistance to change is real, but with the foundational knowledge of the Change Formula, it is possible to overcome obstacles holding you back.

Listen and learn how to push past your resistance and create the differences in your life you’ve been dreaming of. Throughout this episode, explore the 3 key elements of the Change Formula and why they are essential empowerment tools for change. You are allowed to achieve the change you’ve been wanting.

Time to step into being the creator of your own life.

Highlights

• 7:08 - What does resistance have to do with change and how can we overcome it?
• 11:46 - The role free will as conscious leaders plays in our own accountability for things happening in our lives and the change we are or are not making.
• 16:36 - Some of the main reasons why we will not be able to overcome resistance to change.
• 19:13 - How do you find the willingness to change? How do you use the change formula?
• 25:02 - What role does discomfort play in sustainable change?

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Have you ever said yes to something where you had a bad gut feeling? How did that go? Or have you said yes to something where you knew you really didn't mean it? How did that go? The number one reason people end up breaking agreements is because they didn't really agree to begin with. They didn't have a whole body yes. Today we focus on a super easy hack to clean up your life, to free up your energy, and to allow life to flow through you – only say yes to things where you have a whole body yes. The whole body yes is a stepping stone. Every single yes you can say that's whole body is a stepping stone toward your purpose, toward living in your genius. So, what does it mean to have a whole body yes? How do you know if you have one? Why is it important? And how can you find one when you really want to make change and you just can't seem to find that whole body yes? Listen to this episode to learn about how you can access and begin using the whole body yes in your daily agreements. See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

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This week’s episode offers personal insight into Caneel’s journey to becoming a coach. 

Have you ever wondered what it takes to start your own coaching practice? Are you interested in getting an inside perspective on what training is out there? What training do you even need to get started in the world of coaching? 

Learn about common misconceptions and roadblocks that many prospective coaches run into, and hear about scams and pyramid schemes for you to avoid on your path to coaching. After listening to this episode, you will have a much better understanding of the purpose of coaching and what it might take for you to start on the path to becoming a coach of yourself or others.   

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We are in a time of deep change – a kind of change that requires not just incremental shifts, but deep transformation where we don't know what the end state is going to look like, both collectively, but also for each of us individually. It's changing the way that we need to show up as leaders and highlighting the importance of leading as whole humans with empathy and compassion for one another. Jeremi Gorman, the Chief Business Officer at Snap Inc, is here to discuss the importance of practicing and leading with empathy. Jeremi leads global sales, agency partnerships, customer and business operations, platform integrity, trust and safety, and creative strategy, and is also a huge influence on people's mindsets and the culture at Snap, and she brings some great insight into leadership, from both a corporate and a personal standpoint. Company values come from the top, and leaders who practice empathy are leaders that teams are eager to support, teams that are willing and able to pivot, teams that want to learn and to grow, not just professionally but personally, and teams that stand together during times of crisis. See show notes and get the free tools at AllowedPodcast.com.

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One-on-one meetings can be tricky. The value can feel elusive in the blur of daily life and reacting to constantly changing needs and time pressures.  How do you have a one-on-one meeting that can make a real difference? Management and leadership is a constant balancing act.

Learn how you can leverage your one-on-one meetings in a way that helps you and your employees keep up with tasks and priorities while also expanding the value of your employee relationships. Leveraging your one-on-one time has huge benefits, not just for your team, but also for yourself. It's a creative game. Learn how to design a conversation that can move the needle in the future, using 10 tips for conducting a productive 1-on-1 meeting. Avoid wasting both your time and the time of your employees by discovering what to avoid during your one-on-one conversations. By leaning into the value of the individual you can foster growth that impacts both your team and your company at large.

Highlights: 

 04:31 - What are the true benefits of a consciously led recurring one on one meeting?

05:18 - Avoid some of these common pitfalls and mistakes when holding one on one meetings.

10:27 - What is the purpose of a one on one meeting?

11:30 - Why you should hold a one-time introductory and role negotiation meeting before beginning regular one-on-one meetings.

16:57 - What to do before each one on one meeting. 

20:27 - 10 tips to run a successful, productive, and high-leverage one on one meeting.

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One of the most important skills of a conscious leader is asking yourself, “How did I create this current situation that is in front of me?” 

Mindset is really about the way you are being and the most important way of “being” is being present – in ease, in flow, aware, and grounded in current reality. We are not present when we’re focused on what we are going to do later. One way to remain present throughout your day is to focus your morning on cultivating that mindset and way of being.

There are so many different ways that you can support yourself through the creative use of your own morning routines, and it can actually be really fun. Today we share some of our favorite tools and tricks and give ourselves permission to continue to play and experiment and make this morning mindset time a time of self-discovery and expansion. 

Claim your role as the creator of your day. Connect your intention with your action. Be proactive. Be creative. By creating a personalized morning routine to develop the optimal morning mindset for yourself, you will gain the benefits of energy, clarity, and inspiration. The only person who can make you a conscious leader is you. And it starts first thing in the morning.

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As creative thinkers and entrepreneurs, we create tools and products because we, ourselves, need to work on something. For Canadian entrepreneur superstar, Alex Ikonn, co-founder of Intelligent Change and creator of the best-selling Five Minute Journal and Productivity Planner, gratitude was his Achilles heel. When Alex, who had a challenging childhood and at times had felt like a victim of his circumstances, learned the power of gratitude, it shifted his whole life. 

If you have scarcity in your life of some sort, whether it be from things that are happening in your family, in your career, or in relationships, you can get into that trap of saying, "Why me?" 

When Alex had that first huge realization that you are planting seeds to your reality with your everyday thoughts and that what you focus on, you cultivate and create in your life, everything changed for him. He learned that if you want to make any difference in your life, you have to take responsibility. This led him to create tools like the Five Minute Journal that could act like “toothbrushes for the mind” and help people build new, healthy habits through a daily routine of being grateful that catapults them on a new life trajectory through changing their mindset.

No one can make you unhappy. Once you take responsibility in your life, there is power. If you take care of that one being that you can be responsible for – YOU – you're making a massive change that will create a ripple effect and you're going to inspire others. 

In this episode, Alex Ikonn shares his personal journey and it demonstrates how one truly simple question, asked once per day, can make a massive, fundamental difference in your life. 

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Conscious leaders strive to learn about how we can better manage, lead, influence, and support our teams, our colleagues, and ourselves, and how we can best lead, especially through crises or change such as COVID-19. In this episode, we speak with Dr. Dana Sumpter about a leverage-point that has great relevance for any manager in the workforce. In particular, we will be focusing on one of the most valuable and essential segments of the workforce – parents.

There's a lot of evidence that especially in this COVID era, with the shutdown of schools, working parents are feeling the pressure and scarcity of resources. They are a misunderstood group. Collectively as a society, and as leaders, in particular, we have a shared responsibility to better understand what this group is going through, and to understand what we can do to challenge the system, to create the change we want, and to stand for reformations, acceptance, and empathy, and how can we reorganize ourselves in a way that is creative and from above the line. 

In this episode, we talk about specific tactical recommendations for both parents and leaders of working parents to maximize growth, improve communication, increase support, and optimize productivity, especially in remote working and remote learning environments. 

You may be one of those who is needing to be better understood, better supported, or you may be not part of this demographic segment and yet it's very important that we better understand what they're going through right now so that we can move into a place of greater awareness and we can make conscious choices as leaders about how we might adapt our approach to be more in service of that to which we are most deeply committed.

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As a leader, you use your storytelling abilities to inspire and motivate. But to create lasting change, use the language of facts to speak unarguably.  

In this week’s episode, explore the fundamental invitation of conscious leadership, which is to understand the difference between a fact and a story. This episode will provide you with the framework to begin to notice whether you’re expressing yourself in the language of facts or stories. Understanding the key differences between facts and stories gives you the knowledge necessary to begin to consciously communicate. 

Throughout this episode, learn about externally and internally-based facts, then explore what a story is and why certain stories prevent progress and growth. Facts and your stories both matter. When you can clearly define facts and stories and use this framework to communicate with intention, you lead consciously. 

Highlights

6:11 - What is a story?

8:11 - What is the difference between a fact and a story? 

10:38 - What are the 3 types of inner facts you can observe? 

11:48 - Learn how to describe your emotions in an unarguable way. 

21:40 - Why understanding facts and stories are key to conscious leadership

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Unlock a whole new level of deep personal development. Enhance your communication and find an even greater level of fulfillment in your interpersonal relationships. How? Learning about an ancient personality system and how your personality type influences your mindset and behavior. 

In this episode, the remarkable Erin Rocchio joins Allowed. Erin is an executive coach, a partner in Evolution, and she’s certified in a revolutionary personality tool that you’ve heard mentioned on this show many times – the Enneagram. 

Learning about the Enneagram personality types can make a massive difference in your life and the way you interact with yourself and with others. The Enneagram model is uniquely suited to support lifelong transformation and development.  You can take it down a spiritual path, you can take it down a path as a parent, you can take it into your personal relationships, and you can take it into your work and your role as a leader. Throughout this episode learn how you can apply the wisdom of the Enneagram to your own life and leadership. 

Highlights:

• 3:14 - Erin Rocchio shares about her career and her experience with the Enneagram.
• 5:44 - What is The Enneagram?
• 13:22 - Erin provides some examples of the core aspects of The Enneagram.
• 22:46 - Erin runs through all the Enneagram types and their basic desire or drive.
• 28:20 - Erin explains how knowing your type is the most important step and a vital first step. Truly understanding your type allows you to move forward in deeply personal, professional, and relational development.
• 33:22 - How can you use your Enneagram type to grow?

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Your body can teach you important information about yourself, your leadership, and your lifestyle. Gain wisdom about what you need and truly want by listening to your body. 

Throughout this episode, learn how living outside of integrity can result in both physical and mental fatigue. Suffering is not necessary for your success. Hear how integrity can not only end your suffering but empower you to live and lead sustainably by guiding you to your Zone of Genius.

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You are allowed to kick ass, reach your full potential, and be healthy and happy. Tap into the transformative power of your Zone of Genius in this free, exclusive, on-demand workshop. Your Zone of Genius is the space where you nurture and enjoy your deepest, most organic talents and traits: your soul’s essence. It is here that you use your natural strengths to catapult you into a life with more opportunities for success. This workshop is for motivated, forward-thinking leaders; people who want to experience life at their full potential, and people who, despite great success, often feel burnt out or uninspired. Watch the full on-demand Zone of Genius workshop, and get the free tools at Caneel.com/zone-of-genius-workshop.

When you sign up for this workshop, you will automatically receive these free tools (sent straight to your email): 

• The Four Zones of Being Diagram (Free Download): Use Caneel’s diagram to figure out your four Zones of Being - your Zone of Incompetence, Zone of Competence, Zone of Excellence, and Zone of Genius.
• 5 Steps to Living in Your Genius (Free Download): With this practical 5 step checklist process, you will begin to move forward on the path of actually living 70% of your time in your Zone of Genius.
• Daily Energy Audit (Free Download): Become aware of what tasks drain you and give you life with this daily energy audit.
• Discover your Restorative Zone of Genius Worksheet (Free Download):  Follow these steps to find your Restorative Zone of Genius and take action on creating space to restore like a rockstar!
• The Zone of Genius Mind Map (Free Download): See how you can integrate your Zone of Genius into all areas of your life by examining your Community, Gifts, Quality of Life, and Impact.
• Emotional Intelligence Chart (Free Download): Understand what your body is truly telling you about your deep-rooted emotional state with this easy to use diagram.
• The Be, Do, Have Exercise (Free Download): Get insight and guidance so you can identify the areas of your life where you have an opportunity to step more fully into your own power as a leader. It can be applied to your life as a whole or to one domain of your life (e.g., work, romantic life, health, parenting.)

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Throughout this coaching session, learn how to tell whether you’re above or below the line. Explore why trying so hard to be out of drama can lead you into drama. Empower yourself to acknowledge the wisdom that comes from both being Above and  Below the line. 

This episode will help you move into a place of true acceptance of yourself and others, no matter where you find yourself at the moment. This framework is your roadmap to consciously navigate through life, without shame, blame, guilt, or judgment. 

There is no wrong place to be. Conscious leadership involves self-exploration and giving yourself permission to experience life and leadership in new ways.  This episode emphasizes the importance and benefits of self-awareness and self-acceptance has on your life and leadership. 

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Today, let’s dive into the concept of humans being made of many selves. You’ve likely heard me mentioning “a part of me” or “a part of you”. There are a lot of different parts of you that, combined, make up your whole self. Each of these parts can be identified as a different persona with its own unique needs, fears, desires, personality, and quirks. They even have their own heroes, role models, and values.

Often, when you get into inner conflict or any kind of suffering, it’s because there are parts of you who are not getting along with each other.  

When you can identify your personas and resolve the conflicts between them so that they truly trust and rely on each other, you can find more peace, ease, and confidence. In this episode, learn how to begin unpacking your own personas so that all of your amazing and unique parts can begin to work together as a whole.

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It’s time to get inspired to design the business and leadership lifestyle of your dreams. 

Regardless of what you do, you are a leader of your own life. You lead in your home. You lead in your work. You lead in your personal life. A common struggle that many of you have already faced is how to lead as a whole human with a whole life. Leaders often compartmentalize and make choices in one area of their lives while neglecting certain other areas. This doesn’t have to be the case. You can make choices that allow you to bring all parts of yourself onto the table. You don’t have to sacrifice your personal life to grow a successful business. 

Noa Ries and Kim Havens, co-founders of the rapidly growing business, Kahilla, are here to explore this unconventional idea with you. These remarkable women have found a way to lead together that supports each of them in their whole beings, all while building a thriving business. They share the decisions they've made on how they designed their company and partnership, as well as the very popular leadership advice they have chosen to ignore in order to create the type of life that serves them, their families and a community of empowered women around the world.

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How do you ask for and get what you want? I used to be a business school professor and one of the key courses I would teach to MBAs, undergrads and executive MBAs is negotiation, the skills and theories around negotiation and how to get what you want. By far, the biggest takeaway is how most of the time people ask for what they think they can get, instead of what they want.

Last week on the show, Noa Ries and Kim Havens, co-founders of Women's Executive Network Leadership Educational Platform, Kahilla, shared their co-leadership strategies, and in this episode, I share a separate conversation I had with them on their podcast called “Conversations at Base Camp” where we cover Zone of Genius and how it relates to asking for and getting what you want, as well as applicable strategies for having real-life negotiation conversations so that you can increase the lifetime value in a monetary fashion but also in many other ways of your career.

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Today, we are tackling one of the most commonly experienced ways to suffer that I have ever come across in all of my coaching work, and it is something called the Imposter Syndrome. 

The Imposter Syndrome is when you really feel like you are a fraud, and everyone might find out that you've been faking it this whole time, and that you aren’t qualified to actually do the job that you're doing, to have received the rewards that you're receiving, to be in the role or position that you're in, or to have the confidence, success, happiness, or ease that you currently have. 

Are you in a position right now, where you feel unsure of yourself, maybe self-critical or self-judgmental? Do you feel paranoid, afraid that others can see through you, feel guilty or anxious about it, or ashamed,? Do you find yourself up all night long, indulging in overworking in an attempt to make up this deficit? 

It's time to question your stories.  

In this episode, you can begin to unravel the stories that are leading to your own experience of the Imposter Syndrome by exploring some techniques and exercises I have found useful for my clients. Curiosity is always a tool that's available for you to use, and it's especially important when you feel like it's not okay that you don't know everything. That's the time when you need it most. 

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This week is Thanksgiving in the United States and it's one of my favorite holidays, although this year is going to look pretty different for almost all of us. This is also normally the week where we would talk a lot about gratitude and why it's important. One of the things that I often see is that it's easy to be grateful for things that seem really profound and important. It's not usually something we consider, to be grateful for that which we find most challenging. 

2020 has been the year of challenges. However, these challenges have made us wake up and realize that it is now time to face these things which we did not want to face before. Finding gratitude within your challenges can be empowering and allows you to take back control of something that may have felt beyond your control.

Flipping something that seems like an unwelcome challenge and looking for how this might be exactly the right thing for you right now can be hugely beneficial and spur both personal and interpersonal growth. It’s not always easy to do, but in many of life's circumstances, it can be true that there is a silver lining.

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There's nothing that you're not allowed to want. You are allowed to want what you actually want. There's no, “should”, necessary. There's no, “I need to”.  

If you're heading into a new year's resolution process or you're setting goals for your team, your company, or your family, I invite you to build a foundation for making a massive change that's actually in service of your deepest, most authentic self. I’m here to support you in playing with this idea of, "from above the line, I don't need anything. There's nothing I should do. There's nothing I have to do. However, I can want. I can have strong preferences. I can stand for things. I can be committed." In this mindset, from above the line – that's where genuine change happens. 

There's nothing more human than creating and there's nothing more human than creating change. So, this week, I want to invite you into a really different process; a conscious process of allowing ourselves to be a vehicle for change to happen.

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Are you pumped about your 2021 Vision, your New Year's Resolutions, or your annual goals?

Wherever you are on your journey, this is a great time to give yourself and your goals a recharge. Here is your chance to align or realign all of your goals with my goal-setting workshop.

In this free session you will:

• Clarify and set (or re-set!) a goal that means a lot to you this year
• Learn the secrets to getting yourself back on track and unstuck
• Make a plan to make achieving your goal much easier
• Get a massive boost of energy, calm, and encouragement!

You can also download the free tools from this webinar, which include:

• Resolution Recharge Worksheet: Realign with your goals right away. 
• Conscious Goal Tracker: Focus on your progress and keep on track.  
• Solar System Exercise: Recognize your current support systems and where you could add more support to help you reach your goals.

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True design breakthroughs come, not just in whatever your innovation is or whatever it is that you’re designing, but through a process of learning how to serve and how to best understand your users. 

Design thinking is a powerhouse skill that can be applied to any situation where there is a problem to solve. This simultaneously rigorous and flexible methodology can be applied to healthcare problems, organizational problems, leadership problems, process design, service design, and so much more. 

This training will guide you through the fundamentals of the design thinking process and give you innovative skills to share with your team and colleagues. 

Featuring Luke Entrup, Partner in Evolution, this design thinking crash course will arm you with new frameworks and parameters to keep your design process focused, creative, and user-oriented. 

No matter what tasks you’re working on, the work is always the inner work.

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You used to think that gender was a simple thing. For some of you, you simply were born into one, and for others, you have questioned, identified and discovered for yourself. Whatever your gender is, gender does play a very important role in shaping what your life looks like – this is undeniable.

And in this post #metoo era, it is often an uncomfortable topic to discuss. Today we're going to be focusing on what it's like to be a leader as a woman. How women can support and empower each other, and some of the traumatic things that women face in the world. I have back on the show today Mary and Anna Bloom (of Snap Inc. and Airbnb Plus, respectively) who are here to share some personal stories and excellent advice for men and women alike around what it's like to be a powerful woman.

We’ll discuss what it means to be a feminist and how this concept has evolved over the course of their lives, the ways that they have been leaders while maintaining feminist identities, motherhood as an identity shift, and ways you can support yourself as a woman. I think you're going to find the way that they show up in their organizations as women to be profoundly inspiring whether you're a man, a woman, or any other gender. 

You are allowed to be a powerful woman. And men, you are allowed to be feminists. 

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Today’s episode breaks down one of the main goals of conscious leadership - integrity. As one of the most sought-after corporate values, understanding and embodying integrity is an invaluable leadership skill. This crash course episode explains what integrity is and what acting with integrity looks like. During this episode, you will learn how to shift back into integrity when you’re leading without it. This coaching session also details how your body’s signals can help you feel the difference between having integrity and being out of it. 

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Most agreements are designed to fall out of integrity right away. End the friction of confusion and complication by fine-tuning how you make your agreements. You empower yourself and your team to work with integrity, by having concrete, literal, and clearly-defined plans from the onset, rather than vague suggestions.  

Today, we're going to talk about how to create high-integrity agreements using a 3-prong framework. This practice can be applied at ANY time. Whether you’re making new goals or following up on a project, there is always the opportunity to improve your life and work by leading with integrity.  

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You’ve learned all the basics of Conscious Leadership, right? You’ve gone to the community meetings. You’ve listened to all the podcasts… So… What’s next? 

Today we speak with the remarkable CEO of Alamo Drafthouse Cinema, Shelli Taylor. Shelli’s career as an executive highlights her passion for people as she leads through the lens of all her teammates and stakeholders to deliver results. Throughout the past year, Shelli has been putting lessons she has learned from this podcast to practice in her real life, her career, and her relationships, and she is here to tell her story and inspire all of us to put our own conscious leadership training into action. 

Join us as Shelli shares her amazing experience of being a newly appointed leader during crisis. Taking on the CEO position at Alamo Drafthouse in May 2020, right at the beginning of a worldwide pandemic, created a unique set of challenges that paved a hard but rewarding road to success for herself and her team. 

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Don’t forget the most important thing to do this Valentine’s Day! 

When you hear the term ‘self-love’, you probably think about bubble baths, chocolate and massages. However, none of those things are truly self-love. 

Today, we’ll break down some barriers that we often have against self-love. We’ll also discuss what self-love actually is and what it could look like for you. 

Self-love is inner work. It's an inner experience of acceptance and appreciation. At the most basic level, self-love is simply asking the questions, "Can I allow myself?” and, “Can I allow myself to be fully here now?" The essence of self-love is 100% allowance of all that is here now.

Self-love is at the heart of everything we talk about on this show, and it is at the heart of all genuine, lasting personal growth. Please remember to give yourself the gift only you can give – show yourself some real self-love this Valentine’s Day.

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Today I’m sharing one of my favorite tools that is useful in all areas of your life, regardless of if you are an executive, a formal people manager, or if you are in a family leadership position. 

ARCI is a tool that I teach to my executive teams when I'm doing executive team development and offsite training. It's a framework. It's a way of understanding the ‘who’ behind ‘who will do what by when’, which is the keystone of high integrity clear agreements.

ARCI stands for Accountable, Responsible, Consulted, and Informed. 

ARCI is a framework for understanding the structure of an agreement and how we're going to cooperate and coordinate action together in a social unit, as a team. 

Integrity breaches are one of the most destructive forces in organizations, teams and families. When we don't do what we say we'll do, or when we create agreements that are vague, impossible to understand, ill-defined, or low integrity, this leads to a lot of drama. 

Unchecked integrity breaches create unhealthy forms of conflict and strife, and take up a lot of time and energy. ARCI is a framework for understanding, developing and tracking the structure of an agreement and how everyone involved is going to cooperate and coordinate action together. 

You can apply it to how a team generally operates. You can apply it to a process. You can apply it to a project. You can apply it to achieve a specific goal, and you can apply it to all different layers. With ARCI in your tool arsenal, you can start having breakthroughs in muddled situations in your work and home right away.

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One of my top recommendations for you as a leader is to learn to speak in a language that is unarguable. You CAN speak about anything you want to in a way that nobody can argue with. This communication ninja skill allows you to move into action and brings you out of drama.

To speak unarguably means to speak in the language of facts, not stories. 

Learning the difference between facts and stories is a powerful step towards consciousness. By speaking unarguably you are able to communicate in a way that’s free of Drama! Throughout this episode, learn how to distinguish between facts and stories and how to use this framework to clear up your communication. 

Speaking unarguably is a useful tool for conscious leaders to become self-aware. Gain the language tools to shift your communication from subjective to unarguable during this coaching session. Discover how you might be dipping into drama, how to find a path to get out of drama, and a powerful technique to stop spreading drama in your relationships and life. 

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Join Caneel for a frank discussion about body shame. 

Discover how to break free from shame and guilt and how to move away from drama and towards empowerment. Learn how to shift your mindset by questioning the stories you’ve been told and internalized and watch how your energy is freed up. 

You can choose to stop shaming, blaming, and judging yourself. 

Use this episode to guide you away from body shame and towards self-acceptance. 

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Many great leaders understand that company culture is one of their greatest customer advantages and the foundation of culture is in the health of not only the individual team members but also of the team as a functioning whole. The first step to becoming a leader of a high-performance team is to be completely accountable as a steward of culture through your behaviors, actions, and communications. Take those first steps today and lead your team to consciously create together. 

This week, executive coach and partner in Evolution, Anjani Bhargava, joins us to take a deeper look at high-performance teamwork through the lens of Conscious Leadership. 

With 20 years of experience helping organizations build the right culture for their stage of growth, Anjani reveals some simple tactics to gain business results through transforming operators into culture-building leaders. 

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This week, learn about a pernicious problem that you might be contributing to without realizing it.  One of the most common issues that come up in organizations, families, teams, and even within ourselves is gossip.

Gossip is a pervasive form of drama that infects entire teams when left unchecked. Gossip matters because it is one of the easiest ways to spread drama in any social setting, in any relationship, in any team, and in any company. 

Gossip keeps you in Below the Line feelings like shame, blame, paranoia, and guilt. Shifting your mindset and practicing gossip-free leadership moves you and your team towards the incredible benefits you get living in Above the Line empowerment. 

Drama patterns like gossip stifle creativity and collaboration. By consciously leading your team and yourself out of the gossip habit, you can facilitate creative and safe collaboration. 

In this episode learn what gossip truly is, why gossip arises, and how to stop yourself and your team from engaging in gossip. Gain drama-busting skills that stop gossip in its tracks by addressing the root of the gossip issue. 

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This week, executive coach and partner in Evolution, Anjani Bhargava, is back on the show to share her personal experience on how to turn your family into a high-performance team. 

In this episode, you will learn how to make your family a team that trusts each other, that works well together, that can make decisions together, and that can really co-create the life and impact you want to have as individuals and as a whole. Teamwork is built into our DNA and since we are interdependent in our families, teamwork is the integration of the “we”, the “I” and the “it”. Anjani reveals it is possible to use this natural tendency to coordinate and develop healthy team dynamics in your own family. 

 With 20 years of experience helping organizations build the right culture for their stage of growth, Anjani explains some methods and insights in how she approaches her own family as a team. We cover some things she has done inside of her own family to create a really beautiful system that has, not only a positive impact on her own life but also a positive impact on the world. 

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Highlights
01:22 Meet Anjani Bhargava, Partner in Evolution

04:30 Anjani tells us the amazing story about how she and her husband met and ended up together

09:50 Will you run for shelter in the rainstorm or will you go out and dance in it?

13:10 Anjani discusses some frameworks she developed in creating a team dynamic within her family

18:00 Anjani and Caneel discuss the importance of their morning routines.

21:00 Anjani coaches Caneel on why Caneel is not following through on her morning routine, and whether or not that serves her

31:48 We are interdependent in our families. Teamwork is the integration of the we, the I and the it 

33:30 Conscious listening routines for family well-being

35:40 Caneel shares her scrapbook journals and how they relate to her own family’s patterns and tendencies to constantly optimize

41:10 Get in contact with Anjani and Evolution

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This week, you get to peek into the world of aerospace pioneer and exemplary leader, Tim Ellis, co-founder and CEO of Relativity Space. As one of my long-time clients, Tim has gained valuable insight into the world of Conscious Leadership, which he has learned how to put into action as his company has grown from a seed to a full-blown revolutionary venture. 

In this episode, he shares his unique experiences as a co-founder of a company that is not only growing exponentially but is also challenging the way that we as humans view the future of space exploration. Since co-founding Relativity, Tim has helped change the future of space exploration by expanding the possibilities of manufacturing. Under his leadership, Relativity has skyrocketed, and as with all fast-growing companies, there have been a few growing pains along the way. 

Relativity Space is the first autonomous rocket factory and launch services leader for satellite constellations which is disrupting 60 years of global aerospace manufacturing. Relativity is developing the first and only aerospace platform to integrate machine learning, software, and robotics with metal 3D printing technology to build and launch rockets and other aerospace products in days instead of years, with the long-term goal of building the future of humanity in space. 

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Highlights:

00:00 Intro

01:22 Meet Tim Ellis, co-founder and CEO of Relativity Space

04:00 Learn about Tim’s mission and vision with Relativity Space and his growth journey

06:59 Caneel and Tim discuss adapting to company changes with a fast-growing startup

10:00 Tim shares about challenging times in the company’s growth and how to grow into your leadership

15:15 Tim tells the story of how he camped in a tent at work for weeks to motivate his team and himself

21:25 Tim discusses imposter syndrome and learning about his Zone of Genius

25:25 Tim talks about how working with Caneel as a coach was a big part of their strategy and success

31:30 Tim and Caneel share how coaching benefits co-founder relationships 

33:00 How unstructured time keeps Tim sane and sustainable in times of extreme growth

36:20 Tim talks about the Fact vs. Story framework and how it helped his leadership

39:05 Why space exploration matters to Tim and how he wants to help pioneer multi planetary living

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Join this powerful conversation on beauty as a form of social currency, the future of dating app technology, the paradoxical association between intelligence and appearance, and the shame around discussing beauty. Throughout the episode, you will learn how shifting your mindset about beauty can empower you to break free from fear-based stories and challenge your own subconscious associations of youth and beauty.  

Regardless of your gender identity, this episode breaks through the noise and helps identify your own thought patterns, and sheds light on how society has been shaping your own self-esteem. Putting aside generational differences, and stigma surrounding the polarizing topic of beauty as it relates to gender equality, Caneel and Brittany boldly address their own insecurities and how their experience with beauty and aging has transformed over time.

Highlights 

00:00 Intro

03:08 Meet Brittany Allyn, founder of Thirty Waves and SCOOPS

07:08 Caneel and Brittany discuss the pressures around aging and fertility 

15:06 Discussing Brittany’s startup SCOOPS 

21:36 Caneel shares her experience with disordered eating and beauty standards in LA

23:44 Discussion about beauty as a form of forward-facing currency 

25:15 Brittany and Caneel talk about how women are afraid to call themselves beautiful 

35:57 The importance of dismantling associations between youth and beauty 

37:54 The paradoxical association between beauty and intelligence

38:40 Caneel reveals that we often perpetuate stories we are told and internalize

41:04 Caneel discusses the existence of “pretty privilege” 

48:04 Discussing performative beauty 

54:32 Caneel asserts everyone has a choice whether to bond over shame or to overcome our stories

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Outer and inner beauty are at the forefront of this special bonus episode of Allowed, as we explore the complex relationship women often have with beauty- one of artistry, confidence, insecurity, and evolution. 

Join us as Brittany Allyn, founder of ThirtyWaves and SCOOPS, guides us through the art of her morning beauty routine while sharing her favorite beauty products and tricks. Throughout this beauty tutorial, this bonus episode also goes beneath the surface as we touch on how freedom to express oneself through beauty is feminist, context versus content, the Drama Triangle’s influence on beauty, and the power of hypnobirth. 

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Wondering if it’s time to quit? Questioning whether or not to move on? Feeling an urge to start over? Are you struggling with burnout? Are you feeling like life is happening to you?

This coaching session will inspire you to utilize new beginnings as an opportunity to release what no longer serves you. Change is possible, and it can start right now if you want it to.  

In this inaugural episode of Allowed’s second season, you will determine if it's time to quit, start over, or reassess areas of your life. You will learn how to begin rebuilding and designing your life in a way that best serves you. A life customized by and for YOU. 

Gain the life-changing leadership skill of shifting your mindset to dismantle the fear-based stories you have around blank slates. By breaking free of the thought patterns that keep you trapped and stifled by broken systems, you will move towards a healthy and empowered personal growth mindset that embraces the unbelievable power of change. Design your life consciously and foster creativity in all areas of your life. 

Highlights

00:00 Intro

05:13 What is the value of a growth mindset?

07:37 How to embrace the powerful responsibility of leadership

08:43 Learn how self-care and leadership intersect

09:55 Practice decluttering by making clear agreements 

13:24 When is it time to quit and start over?

16:30 How to end the burnout cycle

21:53 You are Allowed to change everything and start over

25:53 How fear is holding you back

30:39 How to shift your mindset about new beginnings 

37:25 What is there to learn from old cycles and broken foundations?

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This week’s coaching session is all about the transformative power of curiosity.  In less than an hour, learn what genuine curiosity is and how to use it to your benefit. 

Master how to use curiosity to craft creative solutions to lingering problems and see how your energy is freed up. Question your motivations and reevaluate your agreements to gain insight into what to prioritize in both your personal and professional life so you can live with more integrity. The opportunities for growth are limitless when you master curiosity. 

Highlights 

 04:08 Responsibility is power. 

04:55 How radical responsibility combats drama

09:15 How did you help create your situation?

13:27 Curiosity can free you from generational patterns.

15:38 Curiosity helps you let go of the control story

17:54 Getting curious about challenges 

22:47 You are Allowed affirmation

26:51 Asking questions without an answer preference 

32:44 Curiosity facilitates clarity

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Expressing your gratitude for things that feel profound, positive, and important feels straightforward and easy. However, being grateful for that which we find most challenging is not usually something we consider or put into practice. Finding gratitude for the challenges you face allows you to take back control of something that may have felt beyond your control. When challenging moments and obstacles arise, we can easily slip into a state of powerlessness or victimhood that, in conscious leadership, would be described as being in the drama triangle, where we perceive life as happening to us and being against us. Living a life of conscious presence means that you acknowledge all aspects of your life as serving a purpose for your benefit and growth.

With the complex pivots and particular set of challenges 2021 has entailed, this Thanksgiving holiday in the US presents a unique opportunity to revisit one of Allowed’s first episodes, originally aired in 2019. Focused on gratitude in honor of the American Thanksgiving holiday, this personal episode touches upon the value challenges bring to our lives, the beautiful complexity of family, and being thankful for and celebrating differences. Throughout the episode, explore the distinction between entitlement and appreciation and the results you can see born out of these two very different mindsets. During Heather and I’s conversation, you will also hear how creating a community of gratitude can transform your own mindset. 

Across the globe over the past two years, humanity has faced life-changing challenges, strife, division, and loss. These challenges, while immensely difficult, have also provided an incredible opportunity to reevaluate our priorities and face many truths we did not have the will or opportunity to face before. Shifting our mindsets around these challenges and examining how this might be exactly the right thing for you right now can hugely benefit both your personal and interpersonal growth. 

When you accept the challenge of looking at every aspect of your life with a grateful mindset, you may find yourself feeling more powerful and motivated than ever before.

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This week’s coaching session will help you end burnout, stop indecisiveness, reduce your feelings of overwhelm, and end the depletion of your creative energy. 

In less than an hour, learn how getting into the daily practice of creating clear agreements with yourself for the day is a beneficial exercise of self-care. Self-care habits, like integrity, Whole Body Yes, and boundaries, help you to own the leadership role in your life and set the foundation for your external leadership. 

Discover how to use your internal wisdom to guide your commitments, so you can stop breaking your agreements and start creating agreements that make you feel ALIVE. 

Highlights 

06:59 Self Care Is More Than Bubble Baths

08:09 How Your Integrity Serves Others

10:11 The Value of Self Care Habits

11:07 What is Integrity?

14:26 The Consequences of a Lack of Integrity

16:28 What is a Whole Body Yes?

25:19 What is a Clear Agreement?

33:11 How Living a Life of Integrity Reduces Burnout

36:10 Clear Agreements Journaling Exercise 

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In this special New Year bonus episode of Allowed, Caneel walks you through a year-end visioning routine. And while the coming of the New Year is a perfect time to do this exercise, you can create a powerful vision at any time. Wherever you are on your journey, this is a great way to give yourself and your goals a recharge. 

A compelling vision will help you achieve the lasting change you have been wanting.  And the best part? All you need to do for this exercise is answer a few simple questions.  

Start the year with a commitment to yourself to make 2022 a year where you become even more uniquely and beautifully you.

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