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199 Midlife can feel messy—hormonal shifts, brain fog, and exhaustion can leave you wondering, “Is this it?” But it’s also a powerful turning point.

In this episode, I sit down with Polly Warren, breathwork and nervous system coach and host of the Menomorphosis podcast. We talk about reframing perimenopause and menopause as opportunities to step into your best self. Polly shares her journey from constant busyness and burnout to discovering nervous system regulation, sustainable movement, and nourishment that actually supports her body.

We also connect the dots between stress, hormones, and purpose—and why this stage of life can unlock creativity and clarity you’ve never experienced before.

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, dismissed, or out of alignment in midlife, this episode will help you see the possibility of thriving in your next chapter.

Watch here: https://youtu.be/3yOwEqAEurU 

Links & Resources

• Free Energy Audit → brendawinkle.com/audit 

• Enroll in Your Yes Filled Life → brendawinkle.com/youryesfilledlife 

• Free Workshop: Embodied Clarity (Sept 9, 2025 @ 5pm PT) →  https://www.brendawinkle.com/clarity 

• Polly’s Free Breath Checkup + links → https://www.pollywarren.com/breathcheckup 

• Connect with Polly: Instagram: @pollywarrencoaching LinkedIn: Polly Warren Facebook: @pollywarrencoaching

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198. Your work isn’t “cute”—it’s transformational. In this episode, I share how raising your standards changes everything: your business, your relationships, and your energy. Learn the difference between standards and expectations, why nervous system work makes change sustainable, and how to upgrade your life with confidence.

Before you listen, grab my free 10-minute Energy Audit. It shows you exactly what’s fueling you and what’s draining you—so you can make confident choices that align with your energy.
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Sometimes people treat your healing work—or even your leadership—as something “cute,” a one-off spa-day vibe, or optional. The truth? Your work is transformational. The shift happens when you raise your standards.

In this episode, I share personal stories (yes, even about coffee and peanut butter!) to show how raising standards changes everything—from your business, to your relationships, to your own sense of ease.

This isn’t about being perfect or bougie (though I own that too). It’s about choosing what actually supports you—so you can lead with freedom, clarity, and joy.

• The difference between standards (what you set for yourself) and expectations (what you place on others)

• Why people undervaluing your work is often a reflection of your own standards

• How nervous system capacity can block or support your ability to raise standards

• Practical ways to stop offering one-off sessions and create containers for real transformation

• Why reciprocity and drama-free relationships are part of your energetic upgrade

• Free Energy Audit → brendawinkle.com/audit 

• Enroll in Your Yes Filled Life → brendawinkle.com/youryesfilledlife 

I’m Brenda Winkle, Intuitive Leadership Coach, Somatic Guide, and Psychic Medium for high-achieving, intuitive women who want more freedom, ease, and energy. Known as the “Boundary Queen,” I help leaders move into aligned action without second-guessing, guiding them to lead with clarity and confidence rooted in love.

1. Choose one area of your life to upgrade (coffee, clothing, friendships—start small).

2. Ask yourself: Is this my standard or someone else’s expectation?

3. Replace one one-off offer with a bundled or packaged option.

If this episode inspired you, share it with three friends who would love it too. And please leave a quick rating and review—it helps more intuitive leaders like you find this space.

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You’ve built a beautiful life. Now it’s time to bring your full self into it. https://www.brendawinkle.com/youryesfilledlife   

What would happen if you gave yourself permission to want what you really want?

In this episode, I’m sharing Day 1 of my signature experience, the Yes to Me Journey—a four-day guided process that helps intuitive, high-achieving women come home to themselves. If you've been feeling the nudge to shift something but you're not even sure what you want anymore...this is for you.

You'll hear the exact process I guide women through to get clear on what matters most now. We’re talking vision, alignment, energy, and your deeper “why”—the one that fuels everything.

This session is playful, practical, and spacious. There’s an exercise inside called “Wouldn’t It Be Fun If…” that gets your imagination flowing and helps you reconnect with possibility (instead of performance).

Whether you're at a career crossroads, approaching empty nest, or just ready for more joy and clarity, this episode will help you start uncovering the real you underneath the roles and responsibilities.

And if you love this taste of the Yes to Me Journey, the full audio experience is available now—so you can start your journey at any time.

• What the Yes to Me Journey is and why it’s so powerful

• Why getting clear on your “why” changes everything

• How high achievers accidentally block their own clarity

• A simple journaling exercise to reconnect to joy and vision

• The surprising truth about seriousness in the personal development space

• What to do when you feel stuck or unsure about what you want

• Access the full Yes to Me Journey audio experience: brendawinkle.com/yes-to-me

• Learn more about the Your Yes Filled Life group coaching program: brendawinkle.com/youryesfilledlife

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Become a founding member of Your Yes Filled Home by clicking here. In this podcast episode, Brenda and Lynn Stanek, a professional real estate stager, discuss creating a sense of ease and flow in homes. Brenda shares her positive experience working with Lynn when selling her townhouse, and Lynn talks about the importance of creating a meaningful and balanced space. They discuss furniture placement, the use of personal items, and the impact on the overall atmosphere of the home. They also share tips for decluttering and letting go of sentimental items. 

1. Creating a sense of ease and flow in homes makes you feel more at home
2. Furniture placement and personal items are important to consider in creating a welcoming home environment. Think about pulling large furniture away from the wall.
3. Try angling furniture or rugs to transform the energy in a space
4. External surroundings reflect one's internal self
5. Keep only meaningful items in the space and eliminate clutter
6. Try folding your towels in half before hanging them so they look really pretty, then place a towel you want people to use on the counter, and it will direct people to the towel you prefer them to use.
7. Let go of sentimental items by putting them somewhere you can see them and use them, or by taking a photo 

EMAIL: lynn@ambiencestagingdesigns.com 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AmbienceStagingDesigns 

Website: https://ambiencestagingdesigns.com/ 

New free 4 part video series, "Breathwork to strengthen and trust your intuition" https://www.brendawinkle.com/breathe 

1:1 Healing Sessions - Heal to the Yes - https://www.brendawinkle.com/healing 

Yes Academy - https://www.brendawinkle.com/yes-academy-course 

Heal Yes Retreat - https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat 

 https://calendly.com/brendawinkle/discovery

https://www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetterfast 

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Email: brenda@brendawinkle.com 

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Join the Boundary Brilliance Masterclass: https://www.brendawinkle.com/boundary-brilliance Brenda Winkle, the host of the podcast "Your Yes Field Life," discusses the topic of overriding the nervous system. She shares her personal experience of attending a conference in Boise, Idaho, where she spoke on diversity, equity, and inclusion, as well as taught breathwork for educators. Brenda explains that overriding the nervous system can have negative effects on vitality, creativity, joy, and overall well-being. She provides cues to recognize if one is overriding their nervous system and emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and taking care of our physical and mental well-being. 

1. Overriding your nervous system has negative effects of on vitality, creativity, joy, and well-being
2. Cues to recognize if one is overwriting their nervous system include exhaustion, numbing, lots of obligations and a busy schedule, having a short fuse and being quick to anger, exhaustion sleep won't help, you find yourself thinking, "I've just got to make it through this ____"
3. Energy has no walls and affects our creations and interactions
   Coping mechanisms and the need to cope with something
4. Boundaries are a solution to taking better care of physical and mental well-being

New free 4 part video series, "Breathwork to strengthen and trust your intuition" https://www.brendawinkle.com/breathe 

1:1 Healing Sessions - Heal to the Yes - https://www.brendawinkle.com/healing 

Yes Academy - https://www.brendawinkle.com/yes-academy-course 

Heal Yes Retreat - https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat 

 https://calendly.com/brendawinkle/discovery

https://www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetterfast 

https://www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetter 

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Join the Boundary Brilliance Masterclass: https://www.brendawinkle.com/boundary-brilliance In this podcast episode, Tracy Beavers, a business and sales coach from Arkansas, joins Brenda as a guest. They discuss the importance of finding joy and spaciousness in business, as well as the initial fears and challenges of becoming an entrepreneur. Tracy shares her personal journey and the lessons she has learned along the way. They also talk about the ongoing nature of building a business and the need to pace oneself. Tracy and Brenda discuss the benefits of delaying a website and using live video in business. They emphasize the importance of engagement and building relationships in the online space. Tracy reflects on the importance of taking care of one's nervous system and finding joy in difficult moments through gratitude.

1. You can increase your success in business when you find spaciousness and joy 
2. Our businesses will never be fully built as online entrepreneurs. Entrepreneurship is a roller coaster, and most successful entrepreneurs are willing to slow down their pace and figure things out as they go.
3. There is often a need for reassurance and validation in entrepreneurship because there isn't a guidebook, since we are all so different. This is where a business coach can be supportive.
4. You can start your business with almost nothing, delaying the creation of a website and focusing on other aspects of the business by creating a simple landing page. 
5. The most effective thing to do to increase your visilbity from a social media standpoint is to use live video and reels. 
6. Something simple you can add to your content is a call to action. Ask for a response of any kind.
7. Importance of engagement and building relationships in the online space

Tracy Beavers is a Business and Sales coach from Arkansas. She has helped hundreds of entrepreneurs over the years with everything from overcoming the fear of sales to growing their brand visibility and email lists through organic marketing strategies. She walks hand in hand with her clients providing them a roadmap of clear action steps so they can put their blinders on and confidently get to work. Building your business does NOT have to be a struggle. Tracy can show you how to build with EASE. She is a wife, Mom of two young adults and a dogMom. She is a public speaker, and a published author. She has been featured on top business podcasts, and has been a regular contributor on one of her hometown’s premier tv shows. She is the creator of two online courses: “Business Visibility Made Easy” and “Be A Confident Entrepreneur”. She has a group coaching program and offers private 1:1 coaching for clients wanting a VIP custom experience.

Grab Tracy's free guide to create 90 days of social media content in 30 minutes here: https://www.tracybeavers.com/social 

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Website: https://www.tracybeavers.com/ 

New free 4 part video series, "Breathwork to strengthen and trust your intuition" https://www.brendawinkle.com/breathe 

1:1 Healing Sessions - Heal to the Yes - https://www.brendawinkle.com/healing 

Yes Academy - https://www.brendawinkle.com/yes-academy-course 

Heal Yes Retreat - https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat 

 https://calendly.com/brendawinkle/discovery

https://www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetterfast 

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Email: brenda@brendawinkle.com 

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Try breathwork free: https://www.brendawinkle.com/breathe In this podcast episode, Brenda Winkle and Lucas Root discuss their experiences and challenges when leaving their corporate careers. They share personal stories and insights on boundaries, freedom, and pursuing their passions. They also discuss the importance of empowering women, achieving gender parity, and building strong communities. Lucas introduces the concept of the six elements of community: language, purpose, projects, and value. They touch on the financial burden of raising children and the loneliness epidemic. They also explore the use of technology in their creative processes and the importance of understanding and utilizing these tools. 

1. Leaving corporate careers to pursue fulfilling work feels like freedom
2. You are selling all the time whether you realize it or not. Consider the ways you "sell" your loved ones on things. In Lucas' example, he mentioned selling your kids on not running in the street. If you have a fear of sales, realizing the ways you are already selling can be supportive. 
3. A study by McKinsey revealed that only 5% of C-Suite executives are women. If this could change, and we achieved gender parity, it would infuse the global economy with $28 (updated) Trillion based on the stats provided by that study linked here.
4. Elements of community:
   1. Language - Inside stories, the way we shake hands, our words, the ways we dress
   2. Purpose - Security is often the primary purpose of community but our communities can focus on much more granular issues. The more granular, the better. 
   3. Projects - A time-bound activity with a deliverable at the end. Examples Lucas provided included meeting friends for coffee on a Saturday morning. It has to be planned and has to be in pursuit of the purpose and have a deliverable.
   4. Value - Shared value: the value you receive and the value you contribute. That could be hugs and friendly faces. It could also considered an energy exchange rather than a direct reciprocity. 
   5. Social Contract - the rules we choose to live by while we are in community
   6. Heart (no exact word in English) - the sharing and receiving of care and pride as it pertains to the work you do with and for the community
5.  It's no secret that raising children comes with a financial burden. Building community to help you raise your children is way to create the village of "it takes a village".
6. There is a loneliness epidemic. Human connection is critically important. Invitation to consider how you can create a community with the people around you. Can you ask for help? Can you offer help? Lucas said, love your neighbors and you never know what will happen.
7. Use technology to enhance creative processes. We also talked about the potential risks and benefits of AI. Chat GPT is essentially a calculator predicting outcomes for words. The most important thing to do is to use it, try it or risk being left behind. 
8. You can easily enhance creativity by playing with children and finding ways to have fun.
9. Ways to access joy and reprogram oneself for a positive mindset

Lucas Root is a technologist, community builder, and leadership coach with a passion for using technology to improve the world. As a leading expert in artificial intelligence (AI) and its potential to transform society, Lucas is dedicated to leveraging technology to build stronger, more inclusive communities.

With a career spanning various industries including technology, finance, and retail, Lucas has held senior positions at several Fortune 100 companies, developing and implementing strategies for using technology to achieve business goals. As the founder and CEO of several successful businesses, including the SGIC Consulting Firm, Lucas has proven his ability to lead and innovate.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lucroot/ 

Website: https://lucasroot.com/ 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lucroot/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelucroot 

Podcast: The Elements of Community 

Hear Brenda on Lucas' Podcast the week of October 2, 2023 (come back for the link)

New free 4 part video series, "Breathwork to strengthen and trust your intuition" https://www.brendawinkle.com/breathe 

1:1 Healing Sessions - Heal to the Yes - https://www.brendawinkle.com/healing 

Yes Academy - https://www.brendawinkle.com/yes-academy-course 

Heal Yes Retreat - https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat 

 https://calendly.com/brendawinkle/discovery

https://www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetterfast 

https://www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetter 

Website: https://www.brendawinkle.com/ 

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Email: brenda@brendawinkle.com 

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Brenda Winkle, the host of the podcast "Your Yes-Filled Life," discusses the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care. She shares her personal experiences and insights on how prioritizing her own needs has positively impacted her life. Brenda emphasizes that setting boundaries is her responsibility and that others' reactions to those boundaries are not her concern. She mentions that her Yes Academy provides resources and support for practicing boundary setting and highlights the concept of radical self-acceptance. Brenda expresses gratitude to her listeners for investing in themselves and emphasizes the healing that comes from prioritizing self-care.

1. Meeting your needs of all kinds is an integral part of your Yes Filled Life
2. You can only expand and grow when you feel safe
3. A great place to start is by meeting your physical needs including rest, hydration, and nourishment
4. Give yourself permission to meet your own needs frees up mental, emotional, and physical capacity
5. Your Yes Filled Life is on the other side of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care
   
   

Pause and Breathe - Fall Reset - Free breathwork and masterclass 

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Yes Academy - https://www.brendawinkle.com/yes-academy-course 

Heal Yes Retreat - https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat 

 https://calendly.com/brendawinkle/discovery

https://www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetterfast 

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In this podcast episode, Brenda and Karin Calde have a conversation about relationships, therapy, coaching, and personal growth. Karin is a former therapist and current relationship coach, specializing in helping women struggling in their romantic relationships. Karin discusses her transition from therapy to coaching and the focus of her podcast, "Love is Us," which explores various aspects of relationships.

They talk about the difference between therapy and coaching, and the importance of discernment when seeking help. They talked about the possibility of seeing both a therapist and a coach concurrently. The conversation then shifts to relationships, with Karin sharing advice on healthy relationship habits and applying them to dating. They also touch on the topic of sexual desire and communication in relationships. 

1. The difference between coaching and therapy is the needs of the client. Therapy is for those in crisis, while coaching is for those looking to improve their lives.
2. Personal growth and self-love are very important in relationships. Many relationships can improve simply by increasing your personal growth and self-love.
3. Power differentials in relationships can be a source of problems in a relationship. When one partner has control over the money, the time or decisions that are made it's a sign of a problem in the relationship. Couples therapy in this situation is never recommended in these situations. Instead, consult a resource such as The Hotline. (Be mindful that browsing history can be traced to do this with intention) https://www.thehotline.org/
4. The best relationships happen when there is a conscious awareness of our own self-responsibility, showing compassion for each other, paying attention to each other and coming together when one of you reaches out. There is fondness and admiration, both are good at expressing gratitude and spend time together.
5. The concept of spontaneous desire vs responsive desire in sexual desire in long term relationships is a great thing to think about. Sometimes we equating spontaneous desire with a genuine interest in relationships, and we might not give responsive desire the credit it deserves. 
6. Clarity, communication and spending time together are the three most impactful things you can do for healthy relationships. 

Karin is an IFS-Informed Relationship Coach. She works with individuals and couples who want to break old relationship patterns and create more joyful connections with one another and with themselves. She has a special interest in helping individuals who feel stuck in their relationships and/or have partners who don’t want to join them in couple coaching. In 2010, Karin earned her PhD. in Clinical Psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology in San Francisco and has completed a number of post-graduate courses and certifications to supplement her work, such as in hypnosis, sex and intimacy, a coaching program, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and more. In her free time she enjoys hiking, gardening, and singing in an 80’s girl-wave cover band.

IG: @theloveandconnectioncoach

TikTok: @loveandconnectioncoach

Website: www.drcalde.com

Pause and Breathe - Fall Reset - Free breathwork and masterclass 

 https://www.brendawinkle.com/pause-and-breathe

1:1 Healing Sessions - Heal to the Yes - https://www.brendawinkle.com/healing 

Yes Academy - https://www.brendawinkle.com/yes-academy-course 

Heal Yes Retreat - https://www.brendawinkle.com/retreat 

 https://calendly.com/brendawinkle/discovery

https://www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetterfast 

https://www.brendawinkle.com/feelbetter 

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During this podcast episode, Brenda interviews Aaliyah Mora-Khan, who specializes in helping leaders with their emotional intelligence and cultural heritage. They discuss Aaliyah's work in guiding individuals through their inner landscape and navigating discomfort to create positive change. They explore topics such as self-discovery, trauma, cultural identity, and the importance of being witnessed in the process. They also touch on the concept of displacement, permission to shine, and the connection between our cultural heritage and embodied emotional intelligence. Aaliyah shares insights on co-regulation, embodiment, intuition, and the importance of boundaries. 

1. Leadership comes from within and starts with self-leadership. It means developing an emotional intelligence and not only embracing your cultural heritage, but celebrating the heritage of those you lead.
2. Connection to others starts inward and then moves outward. You are responsible for yourself as an individual, and also responsible for understanding what your responsibility is to the collective (your community, your town, the library you joined, your online community.) It's worth asking, "How am I contributing?" Being a part of a community and being witnessed is incredibly healing. 
3. Exploring the inner landscape often means navigating discomfort and being willing to be vulnerable. When we heal in community and in relationships. 
4. Embodied emotional intelligence is the encoding of our bodies that holds the stories we've lived. Our bodies store not only our story but the stories of the people around us and people in our past. 
5. Boundaries are a very important part of leadership. Boundaries can be absolutely open (too porous), or absolutely closed (too rigid) and we might find ourselves at either end at times. What we are learning is balance. 

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