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#133 - Healing Anxiety Beyond Talk Therapy with Tori Lutz09 Jun 202600:49:14

This week, I'm joined by Tori Lutz, a spinal energetics practitioner and a transformational mindset & somatic coach who spent two decades in talk therapy before discovering that healing her anxiety required getting out of her head and into her body.

We talk about why so many of us get stuck intellectualizing our experiences, what it actually means to "feel it to heal it," and the difference between identifying as an anxious person versus simply having moments of anxiety (a shift that has been completely transformative for both of us).

This conversation is for anyone who has ever felt like they *know* all the things but nothing is actually changing - and is ready to explore a different way in 🤍


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#132 - Do I Still Have Relationship Anxiety? (My Honest Answer)19 May 202600:17:49

Welcome back!!! 💓 It feels really meaningful to be here again after taking some time away.


In this episode, I’m sharing a bit of a life and identity update: what’s been shifting for me over the past year, why I stepped away from the podcast for a period of time, and the honest answer to a question I’ve been getting a lot lately:


Do I still experience relationship anxiety?


The answer surprised me… and it might surprise you too.


In this conversation, I open up about what it actually looks like for me to still have moments of anxiety, while no longer identifying as someone who has relationship anxiety. I talk about the difference between experiencing anxious thoughts and being defined by them, and how my relationship to those moments has completely changed over time.


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#123 - Letting Go of Who You Think You “Should” Be with Mollie Birney17 Jun 202500:40:07

In this episode, I’m joined by Clinical Life Coach & Consultant and former therapist Mollie Birney to discuss the role identity plays in all aspects of our lives. We talk about why letting go of the labels we put on ourselves is often the scariest (and most freeing) thing we can do. Molly shares her personal journey from licensed therapist to coach, the concept of “freedom work,” and how we can stop trying to fix ourselves and instead be in relationship with the parts of us we’ve tried to avoid.

 

Mentioned in the episode: 

Mollie’s Website

Get The Freedom Coursebook

Connect with Mollie on Instagram

 

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#33 - How to Navigate Relationship (& Life) Transitions w/ Ela Topcuoglu22 Aug 202300:46:13

Transitions and change can bring up a lot of emotion. Whether it’s moving in together, getting engaged, moving to a new city (or country), or changing jobs…there are stages we go through in times of transition.

In this episode, I sat down with Ela Topcuoglu, a transformational Life Coach who works with people to make the most of life transitions by helping them become more aware of the psychological, emotional, and spiritual aspects of those changes.

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Check out more of Ela’s work here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elavatecoaching/

Life Transition Quiz: https://www.tryinteract.com/share/quiz/6426bf1ef9c520001499a365

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#32 - “Is it relationship anxiety…or are we incompatible?”15 Aug 202300:48:11

“Is it relationship anxiety…or are we incompatible?” is the #1 question I am asked as a relationship anxiety coach.

In this episode, I share 2 frameworks to consider when answering this question, why answering this question can be so challenging, and important reminders to keep in mind if this question brings up a lot of fear for you.

To explore this topic further:

Check out the “is it anxiety or incompatibility?” webinar + Q&A replay. Get it here for $27.

Or, apply for private coaching here.

Here is the Mel Robbins Dr. Spirit clip referenced in the podcast

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#31 - 9 Tools to Help You Navigate Relationships (& Life)08 Aug 202300:39:28

Relationship anxiety has so many parallels with what it means to be human.

It’s an invitation to lean into uncertainty, discomfort, and change.

It’s an invitation to build more self-trust, acceptance, and contentment (peaceful happiness).

It’s an invitation to practice releasing expectations, taking responsibility, and explore our values.

All of these are not only part of relationship, but part of LIFE, and that’s what I explore in this week’s episode.

I have a few private coaching spots open to begin in August + September:

Apply for private coaching here.

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#30 – Help! I Can’t Stop Nitpicking My Partner w/ Ivy Miller01 Aug 202300:33:38

Have you ever judged your partner for making small mistakes like leaving their towel on the floor, or not doing something the way you asked? It doesn’t feel great (I’ve been there, too). In today’s episode, I sat down with Ivy Miller, a certified Mindset & Relationship Coach, to discuss:

  • why we don’t tolerate mistakes in others
  • how nitpicking small mistakes can affect our relationships
  • the antidote to criticism and nitpicking 
  • how to build a more loving relationship with ourselves
  • how to feel our feelings

…and more.

Check out more of Ivy’s work here:

Website: https://www.ivymiller.coach/

Group Coaching Waitlist: https://ivyannemiller.mykajabi.com/loving-leaders-waitlist

Instagram and TikTok Accounts: @ivyannemiller

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#29 - Is it wrong to find someone else besides your partner attractive?25 Jul 202300:33:41

Is it wrong to find someone else besides your partner attractive? In today’s episode, I explore:

  • the impacts of religion and romanticism on the message of “only having eyes for our partner”
  • the shame and guilt that can come up from finding someone else attractive
  • my new beliefs on attraction that feel helpful, not anxiety inducing
  • an exercise you can do after the episode to help you determine if your beliefs on attraction are helpful…or not

I have 2 private coaching spots opening up to begin in August or September…here is the link for more information and to apply.

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#28 - “I feel silly getting hung up on my partner’s looks”17 Jul 202300:39:53

Have you ever nitpicked your partner’s physical appearance and felt so guilty for it? You are NOT ALONE! In this episode I address a community-submitted topic: hyper-fixation on “small, superficial, or physical traits about my partner, like teeth, hair, posture, or mannerisms.”

Hyper-focus on our partner’s physical appearance can cause us to feel shame, so I discuss how to shift out of the shame and into more self-compassion.

I also address the question of “if they were exactly the person they are right now, but looked different or to my ideal standard, then would all the questions around it go away?”

DM me @youloveandyoulearn on Instagram with your takeaways!

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#27 Emotional Wounding’s Affect on Relationships w/ Dr. Russell Kennedy10 Jul 202300:58:46

In this episode, I sat down with Dr. Russell Kennedy, author of award-winning book Anxiety Rx. We talk about how our emotional wounding (which he calls alarm) affects anxiety and what to do about it. We cover:

  • the difference between anxiety of the mind and alarm of the body
  • where our anxiety and alarm stems from
  • if you need to know what’s happened in your past in order to manage anxiety and alarm
  • what anxiety is distracting us from doing and how to change this pattern
  • how to show up for yourself before, during, and after triggering moments

Check out more of Dr. Kennedy’s work here:

Website + Instagram

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#26 - did relationship anxiety visit when I got engaged?03 Jul 202300:40:55

In Part 2 I’m sharing the behind the scenes of getting engaged and how I felt during and after. I answer community questions like “did you expect it?” “were you anxious during or after?” and “did you feel disappointed during the proposal?”

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#25 - How To Know You’re “Ready” to Get Engaged26 Jun 202300:57:30

ICYMI — I’m engaged! In this episode, I’m answering community questions like “how do you know you’re ready to get engaged?” + “what did your pre-engagement discussions look like?”

I also share more about my own transformation from being scared of marriage to feeling ready to move forward.

Be sure to tune in next week to hear the proposal story, how I felt during and after the proposal, and my post-engagement reflections.

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#24 - 5 Books That Changed The Way I View Love + Relationships19 Jun 202300:56:49

This week I share 5 books that have changed my life and the way I view love and relationships. Each book has meant so much to me and I dive into some of my favorite concepts + quotes from each book. I cover:

Mating in Captivity Esther Perel → this changed the way I view passion in relationships and transitioning out of the honeymoon phase

The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul → validated my experience of relationship anxiety and brought forward a compassionate interpretation of it

Eight Dates by John and Julie Gottman → helped me understand important relationship dynamics and open doors of discussion with Nate on our shared values and life visions

The Relationship Handbook by George Pransky → recent book that changed the way I perceive moments of relational challenge and why they happen

All About Love Bell Hooks → opened up my perspective on love and what love means

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#122 - Navigating Motherhood with Anxious & OCD Tendencies with Kiyomi LaFleur03 Jun 202500:37:21

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with returning guest Kiyomi, with Awaken Into Love, to talk about her journey into motherhood and the powerful inner transformations it brought with it. She opens up about the spiritual and emotional journey of becoming a mom, and how she navigated postpartum challenges while maintaining a sense of self. We explore the parallels between motherhood and relationship anxiety, and how both call us into deeper compassion and trust. Whether you're a parent, on the path to becoming one, or simply going through a big life transition, this conversation is for you.



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#23 - The “should’s” + pressures of love in our 30’s w/ Emma Wilson, Turning 30 Coach12 Jun 202300:58:11

In this episode, I got a chance to speak with Emma Wilson, the Turning 30 Coach about how relationship anxiety can be impacted as we near/are in our 30’s.

We cover:

  • the instruction manuals we each create that dictate our lives and how we think life “should” look in our 30’s
  • how to parse out what it is that you want vs. what is a societal expectation
  • Emma’s story about identifying incompatibilities her past relationship
  • slowing down and letting things happen in the time they will take
  • the doomsday perceptions we have about breakups and divorce
  • specifically for women: the pressure of wanting to have kids by a certain age

Learn more about Emma’s work here:

Instagram: @turning30coach

Website: www.turning30coach.com

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/il/podcast/turning-30-podcast/id1526149550

In the episode, I mentioned the “would I be happier single?” blog post, which you can read here: https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/blog/would-i-be-happier-single

In the episode, I mentioned the “is it anxiety, or am I settling?” webinar, which you can purchase here for $27: https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/is-it-anxiety-or-settling

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#22 - My journey towards self-love05 Jun 202300:31:00

This is a vulnerable episode where I share my experiences and insights on the journey towards self-love, what I’ve changed my mind on when it comes to self love, and my intentions for practicing self-love moving forward.

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#21 - Leave emotional addiction in your relationship behind w/ Star Jesse Taylor29 May 202301:38:26

This episode is a masterclass of how to shift out of the compulsive patterns of relationship anxiety and ROCD and switching to acting and living from our values.

In this episode we discuss:

  • What are compulsions and why do they happen in our relationships
  • How to stop compulsive actions, and compulsive thoughts
  • Should you have sex if you don’t feel like it?
  • Instead of trying “fix” and “heal” - do this instead
  • An exercise to get clear on your life and relationship values
  • How to take actions in your life despite how you feel

Learn more about Star and his work here:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@starjessetaylor

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starjessetaylor/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y%3D

In the episode, Star mentions the work of Mark Freeman - here is Mark’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@everybodyhasabrain/videos

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#20 - 6 reasons I felt discontent in my relationship22 May 202301:08:38

In today’s episode, I share 6 reasons why I felt discontent in my relationship—6 ‘blockers’ of content (peaceful happiness) in my relationship. I also share 6 practices that have helped me reduce discontent, and enhance feelings of content in my relationship.

APPLY FOR THE PIONEER COHORT OF CULTIVATING CONTENT HERE:

https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/cultivating-content-mastermind

Kristin Neff Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IvtZBUSplr4

“Is it anxiety or am I settling?” webinar: https://www.youloveandyoulearn.com/is-it-anxiety-or-settling

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#19 - Are We Too Attached to Our Attachment Style? w/ Stephanie Rigg15 May 202300:53:54

In this episode I sit down with Stephanie Rigg to talk about attachment and how our attachment styles can affect how we show up in our relationships.

We cover:

  • an overview of the four different attachment styles
  • Stephanie’s compassionate definition of what attachment is and is not
  • if it’s helpful to label yourself or your partner’s attachment style
  • how to use your attachment style to benefit you and your relationship
  • taking responsibility for your own inner work

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Check out more of Stephanie’s work:

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#18 - How to Make Space for Our Anxious Parts w/ Alex of @forloveweheal08 May 202300:56:54

In this episode, I sit down with Alex Bishop of @forloveweheal. He’s a registered counsellor who helps others with a wide range of personal and relational challenges work towards a more fulfilling loving relationship with their partner and themselves.

In this episode we cover:

  • defining Internal Family Systems + ‘parts work’ as a therapeutic method
  • breaking down which inner parts of us may be at play when there is lack of attraction in your relationship
  • how to separate yourself from your anxiety or OCD
  • tapping into the version of ourself that loves openly without fear
  • what does it mean to “love the fear” instead of “choosing love over fear”
  • do more women than men have relationship anxiety/ROCD?

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Check out more of Alex’s work here:

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#17 - “I’m not sure if I’m ‘in love’ with my partner. I just ‘love’ them…is that enough?”01 May 202300:54:57

In this episode, I address questions like:

“Did I fall out love with my partner?”

“What if I feel love toward my partner, but don’t feel IN LOVE with my partner?”

“What if we fall out of love in the future…then what?”

“If you fall out of love…can you fall back “in love”?

I explore what the differences are between being “in love” and “love” and give you new ways of thinking about love that can expand your perspective.

Excited to hear what you think of this one! DM me @youloveandyoulearn on Instagram with your thoughts :)

And if you are enjoying the podcast, it would mean the world to me if you can leave a review + rate the podcast. I appreciate you!

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#16 - Let’s Talk Somatics + Sex! w/ Marina, the Compassionate Somatic Coach24 Apr 202300:54:02

TW: this episode mentions sexual assault and rape.

In this episode I sit down with Marina, the Compassionate Somatic Coach to talk about somatic work (working with the body) and how our body affects how we show up sexually.   

We cover:

  • why compassion is important in our journey to connect more with our bodies and our sexuality
  • why nervous system regulation is so important in a relational context
  • regulation, projections, triggers, and trauma that comes up for two people in relationships
  • moving through sexual trauma and working through it to show up more openly in relationships
  • her journey from being uninterested in sex to opening up to it again

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For more of Marina’s work, check out:

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#15 - Is Resistance Blocking You From Healing Relationship Anxiety/ROCD? w/ Kiyomi LeFleur of Awaken Into Love17 Apr 202300:40:55

In this episode, I sit down with Relationship OCD expert and founder of Awaken Into Love, Kiyomi LaFleur, to talk about resistance and how it shows up in our journey to heal relationship anxiety/ROCD.

We cover:

  • three common ways resistance shows up in the healing journey
  • how to view resistance with more compassion (and even to celebrate it!)
  • how to begin working with resistance
  • self-empowerment and self-trust

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More of Kiyomi’s work:

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#14 - “Is it possible to move past ‘the ick’ in my relationship?”10 Apr 202300:27:27

This week I answer the question “is it possible to move past ‘the ick’ in my relationship?”

‘The ick’ being moments of being turned off, disgusted, or feeling like something your partner does is cringe-y.

I cover:

  • what ‘the ick’ is
  • where ‘the ick’ comes from
  • why it is often showing up
  • answering “is it possible to move past ‘the ick’”?

In this week’s episode I mention having 1 private coaching spot available to begin in April. Learn more and apply here.

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#121 - Throwback Episode: “Am I ‘In Love’, or Do I Just Love Them?”20 May 202500:54:57

Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in May 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away. 

 

In this episode, I address questions like:

“Did I fall out love with my partner?”

“What if I feel love toward my partner, but don’t feel IN LOVE with my partner?”

“What if we fall out of love in the future…then what?”

“If you fall out of love…can you fall back “in love”?

I explore what the differences are between being “in love” and “love” and give you new ways of thinking about love that can expand your perspective.

Excited to hear what you think of this one! DM me @youloveandyoulearn on Instagram with your thoughts :)

And if you are enjoying the podcast, it would mean the world to me if you can leave a review + rate the podcast. I appreciate you!

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#13 - "How do I deal with negative comments from friends/family about my relationship?"03 Apr 202300:35:55

This week, I answer the question “How do I deal with negative comments from friends/family about my relationship?”

I cover:

  • Who may take family and friends’ comments more seriously and why
  • Things to keep in mind when hearing family and friends’ comments about your relationship
  • 5 ways to respond when you get comments from family or friends about your relationship

In this podcast, I mention my two webinars, which you can purchase the replays of here:

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#12 - Being Single While in Partnership w/ Natalie Kennedy of @anxiouslovecoach27 Mar 202301:06:52

Can you be single and in a partnership at the same time?! I sit down with Natalie Kennedy of @AnxiousLoveCoach to discuss how to embrace your independence while in a relationship.

We discuss:

  • what it means to “be single while in partnership
  • the benefit of spending intentional time together or intentional time away from your partner
  • how Natalie and her husband lived separately for a month after just getting married and Natalie’s lessons from the experience
  • setting boundaries in your relationship

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Check out more from Natalie here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/anxiouslovecoach/

Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6MUpA6o5RA9d1Ns4a66kbF?si=b5314ad623e1496e

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#11 - Instead of Everything Being 50/50 in your Relationship, Try This… w/ Nate Klemp21 Mar 202300:57:55

In this episode I sat down with author Nate Klemp to talk about a new approach to relationships and marriage (as seen in his book The 80/80 Marriage) and how to bring more acceptance and mindfulness to your relationship and life.

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Nate:

Learn more about the book The 80/80 Marriage: https://www.8080marriage.com

Sign up for the free weekly newsletter: https://www.8080marriage.com/subscribe

Follow @8080marriage on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/8080marriage/

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#10 - We Can’t Dismantle Relationship Anxiety Unless We Do THIS… w/ Chelsea Horton of @healing.embodied14 Mar 202300:43:35

Chelsea Horton is a Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist and the founder of Healing Embodied. She has experienced anxiety, shame, and religious trauma and has dedicated the last 9 years of her life unlearning this and stepping more fully into her authentic self. She has worked with hundreds of people around the world, helping them to overcome anxiety in their lives and relationships through the power of dance/movement therapy.

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Chelsea:

Website: www.healingembodied.com

Instagram: @healing.embodied

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#9 - Building Self-Awareness to Strengthen Your Relationships w/ Elizabeth Overstreet07 Mar 202300:52:31

I sit down to talk with author Elizabeth Overstreet, a trusted love and relationship strategist who keeps things real. She’s a coach and motivational speaker who’s been featured ABC, CBS, NBC, The New York Times and helps you create personalized, practical roadmaps to happier, more satisfying relationships with others and yourself.

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Elizabeth:

Check out more of her work at: http://www.elizabethoverstreet.com/

Her Podcast Bedtalks: https://www.anchor.fm/bedtalks

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#8 - Relationships Force Us to Answer Life’s Big Questions28 Feb 202300:31:41

When you’re in a relationship, life’s big questions present themself: who am I? what do I believe? what do I value? how do I want life to look? what is normal?

In this episode, I walk through these big life questions and help normalize asking them within the context of a relationship.

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If you’re interested in Deconstruct the Doubts digital course, click here to join: http://bit.ly/3ZoKpw0

Deconstruct the Doubts is a self-study course to understand why you’re questioning your relationship and give you tools to reduce the doubts.

I’ve just added 2 Bonus Modules and refreshed the Implementation Workbook—it’s gotten a whole refresh.

Price goes up Friday March 3rd!

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#7 - 5 Ways to Respond When Anxiety Shows Up21 Feb 202300:28:45

When anxiety shows up, it can feel tempting to want to make it go away as fast as possible. I’ve found this can actually make the anxiety stronger, and offer up 5 alternate ways to respond next time anxiety shows up.

“Is it anxiety or incompatibility? webinar mentioned in the episode: https://youloveandyoulearn.com/ra-or-incompatibility-webinar

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#6 - From Doubt to a 20-year Thriving Relationship w/ Christine Earthart14 Feb 202300:53:06

In this episode, I sit down with Christine Eartheart, Founder of the Center for Thriving Relationships where she, along with her wonderful husband, helps couples transform conflict, deepen connection, and create the kind of love they have always wanted.  She has so much wisdom to share about how to create a thriving relationship, and I can’t wait for you to hear everything she shares!  

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Check out more of Christine and her work here: 

https://centerforthrivingrelationships.com/ 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/centerforthrivingrelationships/  

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#5 - 6 Lessons from my 6-year Relationship07 Feb 202300:43:05

I celebrated 6 years with Nate in December and reflected on 6 important lessons from the 6 years. If I had known these earlier on, it would have saved me from a lot of disappointment and anxiety.

DM me on Instagram at @youloveandyoulearn with your favorite lesson from the episode! And if this episode was helpful, it would mean the world for you to rate + review the podcast. That helps get the word out to others who may enjoy this information.

In the episode, I mentioned the “is it anxiety or incompatibility?” webinar. You can purchase the replay for $27 here: https://sarah-yudkin.mykajabi.com/ra-or-incompatibility-webinar

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#4 - Strengthening Your Relationship Toolbox w/ Alexandra of @toolboxforlove31 Jan 202300:54:20

In this episode, I sit down with Alexandra of @toolboxforlove as she shares tools that can help strengthen our relationship toolbox and busts the myth that “relationships are zero work.”

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Alexandra:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toolboxforlove/

Website: https://www.toolboxforlove.com/

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#120 - It’s Wedding Week! My Reflections and Intentions Before the Big Day06 May 202500:22:56

It's officially wedding week! 🎉💍

In this episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of my wedding season — from setting intentions before my bridal shower and bachelorette, to navigating unexpected bumps, practicing presence, and learning how to receive love and support from those closest to me.

I also share some honest reflections about the final month of wedding planning — the pressure that builds, how I’m handling human moments (yes, even with years of personal growth work!), and why setting boundaries has been a key theme during this busy, exciting season.

Whether you’re planning your own big event, navigating milestones, or just curious about the real emotional side of wedding prep, I hope this episode feels like a warm, honest conversation with a friend. 

 

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#3 - “Am I in the ‘right’ relationship?”24 Jan 202300:18:48

Is there such thing as the “right relationship?”

Why is this such a common question we ask ourselves?

How do we expand into a new way of thinking?

I dive into my thoughts on this subject and how to think about our relationship in a way that is less anxiety-inducing.

In the podcast, I mention relationship incompatibilities, and if you’re looking to answer the question “is it anxiety or incompatibility?” in your healthy relationship with more confidence, check out my 2-hour webinar on this for $27. CLICK HERE TO CHECK IT OUT

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#2 - My Relationship Anxiety Story: From “Do I love him enough?” to “He’s my person”24 Jan 202300:37:22

In this week’s episode I get much more detailed with my relationship anxiety journey:

- the beliefs and experiences that led me to where I am today

- leaving my ex and how I made that decision

- my story with Nate

- from “he’s amazing!” to “do I love him enough?” to “he’s my person”

- the challenges we’ve faced along the way

- the moment I realized this anxiety was my own and that I wanted to be with Nate

- what I’ve learned along the way I hope my story reminds you that you’re not alone.

Thank you for listening!

*note: my podcast does not apply to abusive relationships

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#1 - Why Does Relationship Anxiety Happen?24 Jan 202300:21:56

Welcome to the You Love and You Learn podcast! I am beyond excited to release this into the world, and can’t wait to dive deeper into the world of love and relationships.

Today’s episode introduces my mission behind this podcast and shares a handful of reasons why relationship anxiety (which is a big part of my story) tends to show up in healthy relationships.

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#119 - Throwback Episode: Relationships Force Us to Answer Life’s Big Questions29 Apr 202500:29:37

Bringing back an oldie but goodie episode this week! Whether you’re hearing it for the first time, or if you heard it when it first aired back in February 2023, I hope you will find some nuggets of wisdom to take away. 

 

When you’re in a relationship, life’s big questions present themself: Who I am I? What do I believe? What do I value? How do I want life to look? What is normal?

 

In this episode, I walk through these big life questions and help normalize asking them within the context of a relationship. 

 

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#118 - Releasing Intensity in Relationships and Career22 Apr 202500:28:40

In this solo episode, I’m sharing what it’s looked like to reduce the pressure and urgency I used to bring into two major areas of my life: my relationship and my work. From letting go of perfectionism in partnership, to allowing myself to embrace a season of maintenance in business, this episode is a reflection on how releasing intensity can actually create more ease, connection, and clarity.

Whether you’re navigating a big life change (like a wedding!) or simply noticing that things feel a little too much lately, this is your invitation to pause and reflect on where you can invite in some compassion and be more gentle with yourself. 

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#117 - Getting Your Spark Back with Anna Seirian15 Apr 202500:44:30

This week on the podcast I have on Anna Seirian, a writer and coach for ADHD women who want to trade exhaustion and survival for ease and pleasure. She’s the writer of the best-selling Substack Ambitious Softie and the cofounder of Internet People, a digital media company and community for creatives, artists, and entrepreneurs.

 

In this episode we dive into the heart of Anna’s Brilliance Experiment and how small, intentional actions can reclaim our joy, vitality, and sense of connection to ourselves, which in turn can help us connect to other relationships in our life more intentionally. Anna opens up about how she’s been cultivating joy in her life through these simple experiments each week that encourage mindfulness, self-care, and personal growth.

 

Mentioned in the episode: 

Join the Brilliance Experience on Anna’s Substack

Anna’s Podcast: Internet People Podcast

Connect with Anna on Instagram

Anna’s Audio Course - 17 Principles of Soft Ambition

The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron

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#116 - Letting Go of the Need for Certainty in Relationships w/ My Client08 Apr 202500:44:57

I am so grateful to bring on another former client of mine to discuss her transformative journey with relationship anxiety. In this episode we explore:

  • How the need for certainty in her decisions fueled her relationship anxiety
  • The struggle of knowing if it is anxiety or intuition and how to navigate
  • Moving from black and white thinking to accepting things can be “both, and”
  • Ways she works with her anxiety (not against it) as it shows up

If you've ever felt stuck in patterns of doubt, fear, or overthinking in your relationship, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone—and that growth is possible.

Mentioned in the episode:

 The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul 

“Is it Anxiety or Intuition?” Webinar

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#115 - Transform Your Relationship with Your Body, Not Your Mind with Becky Aste01 Apr 202500:47:57

Have you ever felt stuck in the same relationship patterns, no matter how hard you try to change? This week, I sat down with trauma-informed marriage coach, Becky Aste, to explore how healing yourself can transform your relationship. Becky shares the patterns that nearly led to divorce and how discovering somatic work (aka, soothing your body) changed everything. We discuss how regulating your nervous system, breaking toxic cycles, and shifting from control to connection can create a healthier, more fulfilling partnership

Connect with Becky:

Becky’s Instagram

Free Training: “4 Somatic Secrets to Secure Love” 

Podcast: Your Breakthrough Blueprint

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#114 - The Impact of Alcohol in Relationships25 Mar 202500:17:04

In this episode, I’m exploring a topic that can sometimes feel a little uncomfy—but is super important to talk about: the role alcohol plays in romantic relationships. This discussion was inspired by a question from a Patreon member, but I know many other people navigate similar dynamics in their relationships.

I share my personal experiences with this topic, including how alcohol has impacted my relationship with Nate, my past anxieties around it, the boundaries we’ve set, and open conversations we’ve had in order to create a mutual understanding around our alcohol consumption.

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#131 - Building Real Wealth Through Our Relationships w/ Sahil Bloom30 Sep 202500:42:30

This week, I’m joined by New York Times bestselling author, entrepreneur, and investor, Sahil Bloom, as he shares the life-changing insights behind his book Five Types of Wealth.


We talk about what it really means to design a life that feels rich (far beyond money). Sahil opens up about the wake-up call that shifted his own priorities and the simple daily practices that helped him rebuild around what truly matters.


This conversation is a reminder that you don’t have to live by someone else’s definition of success. Small, intentional actions can create profound change.


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#113 - The Messy Middle: Navigating Life’s Uncertain Seasons18 Mar 202500:25:09

The Messy Middle — a space we all find ourselves in at some point. It’s that uncomfortable, uncertain period where things feel unclear, and we’re searching for answers that don’t seem to come. In this solo episode, I open up about my own experience with navigating uncertainty, feeling stuck, and provide practical ways to support yourself when you don’t have a clear path forward.

Mentioned in the episode: 

Anxiety Rx by Dr. Russell Kennedy, M.D.

The Wisdom of Anxiety by Sheryl Paul

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#112 - How to Stop Overthinking and Create Safety From Within With Samantha Chung11 Mar 202501:01:32

In this episode, I sit down with life and manifestation coach, Samantha Chung, to explore how to overcome anxiety, relinquish control, and create inner peace. Sam shares her personal story—from her early struggles with perfectionism and control as a professional ballerina to discovering the power of mindfulness, self-acceptance, and manifestation.

This episode is for anyone who struggles with overthinking, self-doubt, or the need to control every aspect of life. Join us as we dive into how to embrace all emotions and learn to live in the present moment (instead of an unknown future).

Mentioned in the episode: 

Listen to Samantha’s Podcast, Spiraling Higher

Connect with Samantha on Instagram and TikTok

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#111 - The Journey to Better Sex with Sex Expert Susan Bratton04 Mar 202500:50:40

Ready for a real conversation about sex? This week, I'm joined by sex expert Susan Bratton to explore the path to a more fulfilling sex life. We unpack the importance of open communication and how to overcome the misconceptions that are holding you back from passionate and connected sex. Discover how to take ownership of your own pleasure and build a stronger bond with your partner to unlock the best sex of your life (even if that’s something that currently feels intimidating).

 

Mentioned in the episode: 

Susan's Website

Connect with Susan on Instagram

Susan’s Youtube Channel

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#110 - Why Your Brain Wants to Run in Relationships w/ Robert James25 Feb 202500:48:18

I know many listeners have felt the urge to escape a perfectly good relationship. This can show up as questioning if you're making a mistake, if you're truly in love, or if you're missing out on something better. I went through it too, so just know you are not alone. I am bringing back OCD and Anxiety coach Robert James to share his journey with Relationship OCD and to unpack why our brains can send us into panic mode in relationships.

We discuss:

  • How rumination and overthinking can keep you stuck
  • The role of self-compassion in overcoming relationship anxiety
  • Why vulnerability and presence are key to healthy love
  • Practical steps to break free from the cycle of doubt

Here is the first episode I did with Robert (#52) if you missed that one (it’s a goodie!): 

Spotify link: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3pbH7OXf0MFcV4pqoXfbUM?si=0b9fd7ef499c4ed8

Apple link: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/52-leaning-into-discomfort-in-your-relationship-w-robert/id1654761308?i=1000640294215

 

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