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	Title	Pub. Date	Duration
	When Growth Creates Distance \| Sanity Check	19 Jun 2025	00:06:52
Episode Overview Ever opened up to someone only to be met with silence or worse, a thumbs up emoji? In this Sanity Check, we dive into the disappointment of emotional disconnection, especially when it comes from people we’re close to. We unpack the hard truth: not everyone has the emotional capacity to meet you where you're at - and it’s not about you. This conversation is a compassionate reminder that your vulnerability is not too much, and choosing to protect your peace doesn’t make you cold. It makes you strong. Key Discussion Points Aileen’s story of opening up and getting… nothing back Why some people simply don’t have the emotional tools to meet you How growth can make you feel isolated from those who aren’t evolving Letting go of expectations without letting go of love Reframing disappointment by focusing on boundaries and self-honour Why protecting your peace is an act of self-respect, not rejection Listener Takeaways It's not always personal. People meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves You can't force connection, but you can choose your response Letting go of the fantasy that others will change creates emotional freedom Join the Conversation Who in your life struggles to meet you emotionally? How do you handle that disappointment? DM us or leave a voice message—we’re always here to listen. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	The Soft Life: Unpacking What It Really Means \| YKMS	18 Jun 2025	00:32:52
Episode Overview Is it time to stop chasing “having it all” and start redefining what really matters? In this episode, we unpack the growing cultural shift away from hustle culture and into what many are calling the soft life - a slower, more intentional way of living. We talk honestly about the tension between ambition and rest, how societal expectations have shaped women’s nervous systems, and why the soft life isn’t about giving up, it’s about tuning in. From motherhood and single parenting to invisible labour, work stress, wellness fatigue and everything in between. This conversation is about coming back to what fills you up, not what drains you. Key Discussion Points What the soft life really means and why it’s not lazy or indulgent The myth of “having it all” and the hidden costs of chasing it How our nervous systems have been wired for busyness and how to start unwinding that Why wellness culture can sometimes add to the burnout, not relieve it The emotional toll of invisible labour, especially for midlife women Redefining success and creating space for what truly matters How small, daily choices (like a walk, a conversation, a breath) can be radical acts of reclaiming peace Giving yourself permission to let go of expectations, overcommitments and pressure to prove The soft life as a rebellion: choosing presence over productivity Listener Takeaways You don’t need to quit your job or move to the beach. The soft life starts with one choice at a time Rest isn’t selfish, it’s essentiaL, especially when your nervous system is always “on” You’re not lazy for needing to slow down. You’re wise for listening to what your body and soul actually need If “having it all” is leaving you scattered and depleted, maybe it’s time to redefine what all means to you Join the Conversation We’d love to hear from you. What does rest look like in your life right now? Message us on Instagram or leave a voicemail. And don’t forget to like and subscribe and share this episode with someone you think needs to hear it! BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Breaking Point: How Our Lowest Moments Spark the Biggest Change \| SC	15 May 2025	00:09:54
Episode Overview In this episode, Julie and Aileen reflect on those moments in life where everything feels like too much — when you're overwhelmed, disconnected, or just not yourself. Inspired by a Mel Robbins quote, they explore the idea that feeling lost is often the beginning of finding your way back — or forward — to a stronger, wiser version of yourself. Whether it’s the chaos of parenting, a life change, or the slow build-up of a thousand small stresses, this conversation is a reminder that these low points can be turning points — if we let them. Key Discussion Points Why we often feel most lost right before something shifts The importance of sitting with discomfort instead of rushing to fix it How life transitions like moves, breakups, and burnout can spark growth Personal stories of feeling unmoored — and how clarity eventually came The quiet wisdom in letting go of old identities to make space for what’s next 💡 Listener Takeaways Feeling lost isn’t a sign you’re broken — it’s part of becoming Not all breakdowns are dramatic — sometimes it’s the subtle unraveling that leads to strength If you're in the midst of heaviness, it doesn't mean you're at the end — you could be on the edge of a new beginning Let yourself pause. Let yourself be. That might be the bravest thing you do right now. Join the Conversation Are you going through a season of uncertainty or feeling unsteady on your path? We’d love to hear your story. Leave us a voicemail or DM — we’re here to listen. And if this episode spoke to you, share it with someone else who might need the reminder: being lost might just be the start of finding something beautiful. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Pleasure vs Happiness: Why We’re Chasing the Wrong Thing \| YKMS	14 May 2025	00:28:50
Episode Overview: In this deeply honest conversation, Aileen and Julie explore a powerful realisation about the difference between pleasureand happiness. Triggered by a reel on dopamine vs serotonin, the chat unpacks how chasing short-term highs can leave us feeling emptier than ever—especially during perimenopause and other identity-shifting life stages. This episode offers a compassionate lens on our coping mechanisms and a gentle invitation to start seeking what actually sustains us. Key Discussion Points: ▪️ Dopamine vs Serotonin — What they are, how they affect us, and why this distinction matters. ▪️ The Trap of Quick Fixes — From food and alcohol to likes on social media, how we chase pleasure thinking it's happiness. ▪️ Hormonal Shifts & Midlife — Why perimenopause can bring our coping patterns into sharper focus. ▪️ Parenting in a Dopamine World — Reflections on teens, screen addiction, and fast gratification. ▪️ Real-Life Reflections — Personal stories of travel anxiety, shifting desires, and finding joy in simplicity. ▪️ Happiness as a Slow Burn — Why authentic happiness is quieter, and how to recognise it in everyday moments. ▪️ Practical Tools — Mindfulness, gratitude, purpose, and small serotonin-boosting rituals that reconnect us to ourselves. Listener Takeaways: 🔹 You’re not failing if you don’t feel happy all the time. 🔹 Start asking: Is this soothing me… or sustaining me? 🔹 Swap one dopamine-driven habit this week for something slower and deeper—like a walk, a cuddle, or a moment of stillness. 🔹 Awareness is the first step toward change—and even just noticing your patterns is a powerful act of self-care. 💌 Join the Conversation: Have you had your own ‘aha’ moment around this? Are you stuck in the dopamine loop? We’d love to hear from you. DM us or leave a voicemail—we're here to listen. 🎧 Listen now and don’t forget to like, subscribe and share with a friend who might need this gentle nudge toward something more lasting. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Is This Even a Holiday? Redefining the Term to Fit This Life Stage \| Sanity Check	09 May 2025	00:11:46
Episode Overview In this short but honest Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie unpack what taking a holiday really means when you're juggling a business, parenting, and the relentless mental load of modern life. From Aileen’s seaside escape in Spain (featuring a surprise meerkat) to Julie’s chaotic family visit up north, both share how even time away doesn’t always mean switching off. They explore the guilt, the pressure, the impossibility of true rest—and why we need to redefine what a break looks like in this phase of life. Key Discussion Points Why it’s so hard to truly disconnect as a mum and business owner The pressure to “use” holidays productively (and the guilt when we don’t) How rest might look different now—an hour alone, a change of scene, a walk by the sea The 35,000 decisions we make daily—and how even reducing one can feel like a win Why redefining rest is essential for our sanity, even if it’s imperfect Listener Takeaways You don’t need to earn rest—you just need to allow it. A holiday doesn’t have to look like a postcard to count. Even small, imperfect moments of letting go can be enough. Stop measuring the success of a break by how rested you feel. The mental load doesn’t clock off—but you can give yourself permission to pause. Join the Conversation What does a real break look like for you? We’d love to know. DM us on Instagram or leave us a voice note with your thoughts. And if you know someone who needs this reminder—send them this episode. 💛 Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	The Silent Shift: Body, Identity, and Midlife \| YKMS	07 May 2025	00:32:12
Episode Overview This week, we’re diving deep into the menopausal middle—the physical, emotional, and psychological shift that happens during perimenopause. What started as a simple sanity check sparked a huge response from our listeners, so we’re going further. We’re talking about the silent confusion, the disorienting body changes, the grief, and the unexpected loss of identity that so many of us are experiencing—but rarely speaking about. From belly fat to brain fog, muscle loss to mood shifts, and even a re-evaluation of friendships, we share what’s helped us and why we need to approach this season with gentleness, honesty, and a hell of a lot of grace. Key Discussion Points Why body changes in midlife feel so destabilising The silent identity shift behind the weight and wardrobe stress The lasting impact of dieting and why strength training matters now The emotional toll: grief, confusion, and unexpected loss How shifting friendships reflect who we’re becoming Our go-to tips for feeling better—inside and out Reframing midlife as a transition, not a decline Listener Takeaways You’re not alone—millions of women feel this shift This isn’t about willpower—it’s biology and identity Small changes can create real relief Rest and nervous system care matter as much as protein and training This phase may feel messy—but it’s not the end. It’s a becoming. 💬 Join the Conversation We’d love to hear how this stage is showing up in your life. Are you feeling the shift? What’s helped you feel more yourself again? Drop us a voice note or DM—and share this with someone who needs to hear they’re not alone. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	No One Warned Us About This Phase: Perimenopause Meets Teenagers \| Sanity Check	01 May 2025	00:11:41
Episode Overview: In this Sanity Check episode, Julie and Aileen dive into the hormonal chaos that hits when perimenopause and parenting teenagers collide. It's the messy middle no one warned us about—when your body feels like it’s breaking down just as your kids are ramping up. From brain fog to teen meltdowns, they share the raw, relatable truth about trying to hold it all together when everyone under the roof is riding a hormonal rollercoaster. 🔑 Key Discussion Points: The double whammy of navigating perimenopause while raising hormonal teenagers. Feeling blindsided by brain fog, mood swings, anxiety, and exhaustion—and not knowing what hit you. Why no one prepared us for this brutal life stage overlap. How societal narratives (think cranky fairy-tale witches) reflect deep-rooted stereotypes about older women. The emotional strength we do gain during this season—and why it’s often overlooked. The importance of female friendships and honest conversations to survive this hormonal storm. Hope from the other side: what gets better and why it’s not all downhill from here. Reframing the chaos as a powerful shedding of what no longer serves us. 💬 Listener Takeaways: You're not alone if you're crying in the car while your teen slams the door. This stage is hard, and that doesn't mean you're failing. Talk about it—with friends, with us, with anyone who gets it. We need each other more than ever in this season. Take heart: on the other side of this storm is clarity, power, and a deep knowing of who you are. Be kind to yourself. You’re going through a massive transformation while holding a family together. That’s no small feat. 📣 Join the Conversation: Have you felt this hormonal collision in your own life? Leave us a voicemail or email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com. We’d love to hear from you and share your thoughts in a future episode. 💛 And don’t forget to subscribe, share, and send this to a friend who needs to know she’s not the only one feeling like she’s losing it some days. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Self-Compassion: The Grace We Struggle to Give Ourselves \| YKMS	30 Apr 2025	00:21:58
Episode Overview In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie respond to a heartfelt listener letter asking a powerful question: Why is self-compassion so hard, even when we know it's important? They explore how deeply ingrained beliefs—from childhood conditioning to societal pressure—can make kindness toward ourselves feel indulgent or even weak. But what if self-compassion is actually the bravest, most radical thing we can offer ourselves? With honesty, vulnerability, and plenty of relatable moments, they break down the difference between self-compassion and self-indulgence, share personal stories of spirals, shame, and small acts of grace—and offer tangible ways to start flipping the script. 💬 Key Discussion Points Why self-compassion is often harder than showing compassion to others The voice in our heads: learning to interrupt self-criticism How compassion is not indulgence—but strength and support Real-life examples of freezing, spiralling, and finding grace The difference between pushing through and pausing Practical tools for practising self-compassion in daily life 🌱 Listener Takeaways Self-compassion isn’t a reward—it’s a lifeline when you're struggling You don’t have to earn your worth; it’s already yours Small shifts (like noticing your inner critic or putting a hand on your heart) can create big change Asking yourself “What would I say to a friend?” can help reframe harsh self-talk True compassion empowers us—it helps us move forward, not fall apart 📣 Join the Conversation What’s one way you could show yourself more compassion this week? We’d love to hear from you—send us a DM or leave a voicemail. And if this episode resonated, please subscribe, share it with a friend, and help us spread the message that you are already enough. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Redefining Productivity: What Counts as 'Enough' \| Sanity Check	24 Apr 2025	00:09:51
Episode Overview: In this Sanity Check episode, we take a closer look at the push and pull between busyness and perceived laziness. Following the response to our episode on exhaustion as a status symbol, we explore the idea of productivity—how we define it, how we tie our worth to it, and how we can start shifting the way we measure a 'good day.' Key Discussion Points: The Productivity Trap: Why so many of us feel like we haven't done enough, even when we've checked everything off the list. Invisible Labor & Self-Worth: The challenge of feeling satisfied with productivity when the work is intangible, such as emotional caregiving or simply being present. Redefining Success: Shifting from valuing only tangible accomplishments to recognizing rest, connection, and well-being as equally productive. Breaking the Cycle: How to challenge old conditioning and give ourselves credit for the unseen but deeply valuable aspects of daily life. Practical Reframes: Simple mindset shifts and daily check-ins to ensure we're honoring ourselves rather than just our to-do lists. Listener Takeaways: Productivity isn’t just about what you do; it’s about how you feel doing it. Rest, connection, and presence matter as much as tangible achievements. It’s okay to unlearn the belief that constant busyness equals worthiness. Small shifts—like acknowledging your needs each day—can make a big difference. You are enough, even on the days where nothing gets checked off. Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear from you! What does ‘enough’ look like for you these days? Drop us a DM or leave a voicemail. And if this resonated, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. And if you need help to feel like you are enough, download our FREE e-book: ENOUGH - Just As You Are - https://www.youkeepmesane.com/shop/ Thanks for being here—see you next time! Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	So Much Guilt! – Even When We Haven’t Done Anything Wrong \| YKMS	23 Apr 2025	00:27:55
Episode Overview: In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie dive deep into the weight of guilt—how we carry it, why we feel it, and whether it’s even the right word for what we’re experiencing. They explore how guilt is often misplaced, ingrained in us from childhood, and tied to expectations that may not even be ours. Is it actually guilt, or is it just sadness, regret, or feeling bad? And how do we begin to let it go? Key Discussion Points: 🔹 The Difference Between Guilt and Feeling Bad – Are we actually doing something wrong, or are we just reacting emotionally to life’s complexities? 🔹 The Heavy Weight of Guilt – How guilt creeps into motherhood, relationships, work, and even daily decisions like missing a workout or canceling plans. 🔹 Guilt as a Habit, Not a Truth – The societal and cultural conditioning that teaches us to feel guilty for simply existing. 🔹 Constructive vs. Destructive Guilt – When guilt is useful (motivating repair or change) versus when it’s an unnecessary energy drain. 🔹 Practical Steps to Let Go of Guilt – How reframing, self-compassion, and open conversations can help lighten the load. Listener Takeaways: Ask yourself: Have I actually done something wrong? If not, it’s not guilt—it’s just a feeling that needs acknowledgment. Challenge ingrained guilt—where does it come from? Cultural norms, childhood conditioning, or societal expectations? If guilt motivates positive change, use it. If it just weighs you down, let it go. Talking about guilt with someone you trust can strip it of its power. Join the Conversation: What role does guilt play in your life? Have you been labeling sadness or regret as guilt? We’d love to hear from you! Send us a message or leave a voicemail. And if you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. Remember, you don’t need to carry guilt to prove you care—you are already enough. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	The Menopausal Middle: Our Bodies Changed the Rules (and We Weren’t Ready) \| Sanity Check	17 Apr 2025	00:13:08
Episode Overview In this episode of Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into a frustrating yet deeply relatable topic—the stubborn menopausal middle. They share their personal experiences of how their bodies have completely changed the rules, making it harder than ever to maintain weight or fit into the clothes they’ve always worn. While they’ve done a lot of work on body image and self-worth, the disconnect between how they feel mentally and what’s happening physically is real. Together, they unpack the emotional, practical, and identity-based challenges that come with these changes—and explore how to navigate this transition with more self-compassion and less control. Key Discussion Points: When the old rules stop working – The diets, workouts, and habits that once worked suddenly have no impact. The emotional impact – It’s not just about weight; it’s about identity, confidence, and feeling at home in your own body. The unpredictability factor – Weight fluctuations, fluid retention, and how stress and cortisol play a massive role. Reframing the focus – Shifting from trying to control your body to prioritizing health, strength, and feeling good. Finding what works for you – From mindful movement and stress management to adjusting styles and embracing change. Listener Takeaways: You’re not alone. If your body is changing in ways you don’t recognize, you’re not imagining it—and you’re not the only one struggling. Self-compassion over control. Letting go of the need to ‘fix’ your body and instead focusing on what feels good. Trial and error is key. What works for one person might not work for another—it's about listening to your body. Keep the conversation going. Body changes in midlife aren’t widely discussed, but they should be. Join the Conversation Have you noticed changes in your body that feel completely foreign? What’s helped you navigate this transition? We’d love to hear your experiences. DM us or leave a comment—we’re in this together. 💬 Let’s talk about it. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	The Weight of Expectations: Breaking Free from What No Longer Serves You \| YKMS	16 Apr 2025	00:23:41
Episode Overview Have you ever felt like certain people expect more from you than they do from others? Maybe your family still sees you as the one who always shows up, or your friends assume you’ll always make the effort, even when life has changed. In this episode, we unpack the hidden weight of expectations—where they come from, how they get reinforced, and why it’s so difficult to shift them. We also explore how expectations play out in different areas of life—family, friendships, work, parenting—and why resetting them is so crucial for our well-being. Whether it's learning to say no, setting boundaries, or simply letting go of the pressure to be everything for everyone, this episode will help you reflect on where expectations may be holding you back. Key Discussion Points: Where expectations come from – Why certain people expect more from us than others. The role we’ve played in shaping expectations – Have we unknowingly reinforced them? Family dynamics – How old roles keep us stuck and why change is hard. Friendship & work expectations – How to reset them when life shifts. Parenting & expectations – Teaching kids about boundaries while checking our own pressures on them. Societal expectations on women – The pressure to be everything and how to let go of what doesn’t serve us. Practical ways to reset expectations – Communicating boundaries and updating the version of ourselves others see. Listener Takeaways: Reflect on the expectations in your life—are they fair, and do they still serve you? Identify whether you’ve unknowingly reinforced expectations that no longer work for you. Learn to communicate shifts in your availability, priorities, or needs. Recognize when people are simply taking advantage and how to set firmer boundaries. Understand that letting go of outdated expectations isn’t about making others happy—it’s about honoring your own needs. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch easily. Join the Conversation Do you struggle with managing expectations in your life? Have you ever had to reset boundaries in a big way? We’d love to hear from you! 📩 Send us a DM or voice message 📧 Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com If you found this episode helpful, subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave us a Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Bone-Tired: The Exhaustion We Don’t Talk About \| Sanity Check	12 Jun 2025	00:10:22
Episode Overview: In this candid Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into the kind of exhaustion that sleep alone can’t fix. It’s not just the 3am perimenopause wake-ups, the Prosecco regrets, or the never-ending to-do list - it’s the deeper, invisible load that keeps us wired 24/7. They unpack the toll of being constantly “on,” from anticipating everyone’s needs to never truly switching off, even when the kids are older. Whether it’s playing the role of juggler, chef, therapist, or clown, the emotional and nervous system load of motherhood and midlife deserves to be named and deeply acknowledged. Key Discussion Points: The difference between tiredness and “bone tired” exhaustion Why full nights of sleep don’t always help and what else might be going on The constant state of alert that mothers live in, even when no one’s calling their name How single parenting, invisible labour, and midlife sensitivity amplify fatigue Why real rest is more than just sitting down - it’s letting your body fully exhale Listener Takeaways: If you're feeling wiped out despite “doing nothing,” you're not alone or lazy The mental and emotional toll of being permanently on alert is real It’s okay to say you’re tired. You deserve rest that actually restores you Being deeply fatigued doesn’t mean you love your kids any less Rest isn’t indulgent, it’s a necessity for your nervous system Join the Conversation: Does this kind of tiredness sound familiar? Have you been carrying a load that no one sees? Send us a DM or an email at hello@youkeepmesane.com, we’d love to hear how this resonates for you. And if someone in your life needs to hear this, please pass it on. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Feeling a Lack of Joy? Let’s Talk About Anhedonia \| Sanity Check	10 Apr 2025	00:08:37
Episode Overview Have you ever felt like the things that used to bring you joy just… don’t anymore? Like you’re going through the motions, but the spark is gone? That’s anhedonia—the inability to feel pleasure from things that once made you happy. In this episode, we dive into what anhedonia really is, why it happens, and how to gently invite joy back into your life. We also discuss the work of Dr. Judith Joseph, a psychiatrist who has helped shed light on this experience. Her insights helped us recognize what we were going through—and might help you, too. Key Discussion Points What is anhedonia? The emotional numbness that makes life feel distant. Our personal experiences with anhedonia and how we realized what was happening. Why it’s not just “feeling down”—how it differs from sadness or a rough patch. The connection between anhedonia and stress, burnout, depression, and perimenopause. The guilt of not feeling joy, especially as a parent. Why ‘snapping out of it’ doesn’t work and how self-criticism makes it worse. Small steps that help—how to reconnect with life without forcing joy. The importance of naming it, seeking connection, and getting support. Listener Takeaways You are not broken—anhedonia is a symptom, not your identity. Naming it is powerful—it helps separate the feeling from who you are. Small, gentle actions can help—listening to a song, sitting with a loved one, reaching out to a friend. Connection is key—even when you don’t feel like it. It’s temporary—you won’t feel like this forever. Professional support can make a difference when anhedonia feels overwhelming. Join the Conversation Have you experienced anhedonia? What has helped you reconnect with joy? We'd love to hear from you! Send us a message or leave us a voicemail—we always love hearing from you. If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, share, and leave a review. You never know who might need to hear this today. Sources & Further Reading Dr. Judith Joseph – Psychiatrist specializing in mental health and emotional wellness. Learn more about her work here. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	When the Past Calls, Don’t Answer: Embracing Who You Are Now \| YKMS	09 Apr 2025	00:36:32
Episode Overview Ever feel like you become a past version of yourself around certain people or places? In this episode, we explore why we unconsciously shrink to fit old roles, especially with family or longtime friends. Inspired by a powerful listener letter, we talk about shifting identities, letting go of outdated labels, and the courage it takes to fully step into who you are now. Key Discussion Points A listener’s story about reverting to their old self at home Why we fall back into habits around certain people The discomfort of being seen as your “past self” Unconscious roles and outdated labels from childhood Gossip as default behaviour—and why it’s hard to quit How to update your self-image and reclaim your present identity Listener Takeaways Question old self-beliefs—they might not be true anymore You’re allowed to grow and change—give yourself that permission Notice when you're playing outdated roles—and step out of them Stand firm in who you are now, even if others don’t see it yet Surround yourself with people who honour your growth Join the Conversation What’s one outdated belief about yourself that you need to rewrite? And if you’re struggling to change, is it because you still believe the old story—or because the people around you do? Send us an email at hello@youkeepmesane.com DM us or leave us a voicemail with your thoughts 📢 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who might need a little permission to grow! Resources Mentioned Gabor Maté’s concept of connection vs. authenticity Note to Self (our upcoming book!) Watch this space… BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Perimenopause: Just When We Thought We’d Heard It All! \| Sanity Check	03 Apr 2025	00:12:52
Episode Overview Just when you think you’ve heard it all, perimenopause throws in a few more surprises—rashes and breathlessness! In this Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into these lesser-known symptoms, sharing their own experiences, frustrations, and what they’ve found helps (or doesn’t). If you’ve ever wondered why your skin suddenly erupts into chaos or why you’re out of breath just existing, you’re not alone! Key Discussion Points Aileen’s mysterious rash – An itchy, red, and inflamed reaction that appeared out of nowhere and refuses to leave. Julie’s itchy legs – Years of unexplained skin irritation, later linked to perimenopause. Breathlessness – Aileen shares how simple activities, even talking, are suddenly leaving her winded. The missing conversation – Why aren’t doctors warning us about these symptoms? And what if men experienced this? What helps – Cooling gels, hydration, avoiding inflammatory foods, and slow breathing techniques. Listener Takeaways Perimenopause affects skin elasticity and moisture levels, leading to rashes and irritation. Estrogen plays a role in lung function—when it dips, breathlessness can occur. Many symptoms go unrecognized and unacknowledged, making it even more frustrating to find solutions. The importance of talking about it—raising awareness so more women know what to expect. Join the Conversation Have you experienced unexplained rashes, breathlessness, or other unexpected perimenopause symptoms? Have you found anything that helps? We’d love to hear from you! Send us a DM, leave a comment, or drop us a voice note. Let’s make this a conversation, not a solitary struggle. 🎧 Thanks for tuning in to You Keep Me Sane! Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with anyone who needs to hear it. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Health Anxiety & Mammograms: A Game-Changing Solution with Naomi Cosman \| YKMS	02 Apr 2025	00:38:15
Episode Overview Routine health checks can be a major source of anxiety, especially for women. Mammograms, pap smears, and other screenings come with emotional weight, discomfort, and sometimes even fear. In this episode, we dive into the reality of health anxiety and the barriers preventing many women from getting their regular breast exams. We’re joined by Naomi Cosman, Global Head of Marketing & Investor Relations at Koning Corporation, to discuss a groundbreaking new technology that’s changing the way women experience breast screening. Say goodbye to painful, outdated mammograms—this is the future of breast health. Key Discussion Points The Reality of Health Anxiety – How routine health screenings can become a significant source of stress for women. The Mammogram Experience – From painful compression to long wait times for results, why so many women avoid these essential tests. The Shocking Stats – Up to 50% of women skip their annual mammograms due to discomfort and fear. A Game-Changing Solution – The Koning Vera Breast CT: no compression, no pain, real 3D imaging, and faster results. Why This Matters – Early detection saves lives, but only if women are getting screened. What’s Next? – When and where this technology will be available in Australia, the UK, and beyond. Listener Takeaways 💡 Mammograms miss up to 30% of breast cancers—and up to 70% in women with dense breasts. 💡 The Koning Vera Breast CT eliminates pain and provides more accurate imaging, making breast screening less stressful and more effective. 💡 It’s time for women to advocate for better healthcare solutions—because we deserve medical care that prioritizes comfort and accuracy. Links 🔗 Learn more about Koning Health and the Vera Breast CT: Koning Health Join the Conversation Have you ever skipped a mammogram due to discomfort or fear? Do you think this new technology could help more women take control of their health? Let’s talk! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend—especially someone who dreads their mammograms. The more we talk about this, the more we can push for better healthcare options for women everywhere. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	From Shutdown to Calm: Pulling Yourself Back from Anxiety \| Sanity Check	27 Mar 2025	00:14:04
Episode Overview In this episode of Sanity Check, Julie opens up about her recent struggles with anxiety—how it’s been creeping back in despite years of managing it well. She and Aileen discuss the common triggers that can bring anxiety back, the signs to watch for, and practical steps to stop it from spiraling. They also share personal experiences, tools, and small but impactful strategies to calm the nervous system and regain balance. Key Discussion Points How anxiety can unexpectedly return even when you’ve learned to manage it Recognizing early warning signs and physical symptoms Julie’s personal anxiety “toolkit” and how she uses it to regain balance The role of overcommitment, lack of alone time, and lifestyle changes in triggering anxiety Small, practical shifts that can help—like breathing exercises, movement, reducing caffeine, and reassessing your to-do list Techniques like progressive muscle relaxation, the 3-3-3 rule, and vagus nerve activation The power of connection—why reaching out (even with a simple message) can make a difference Listener Takeaways Anxiety doesn’t mean you’ve failed; it just means you need to check in with yourself again. Small, simple steps can help break the cycle—start with one change instead of overwhelming yourself. Tools like movement, breathwork, journaling, and nervous system support can help ease anxiety. You’re not alone—talking about it, even in a small way, can be a powerful shift. Join the Conversation If this episode resonated with you, we’d love to hear from you! Send us a DM or voicemail and tell us what works for you when anxiety flares up. And if you know someone who might need this, please share this episode with them. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Rethinking Addiction: From Judgment to Understanding \| YKMS	26 Mar 2025	00:29:25
Episode Overview In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie take a deep dive into the concept of addiction—not just in the traditional sense of substance abuse but in the broader context of human behavior. Drawing inspiration from Gabor Maté’s work, they explore addiction as a response to pain rather than a failure of willpower. From sugar and shopping to busyness and technology, they examine the ways addiction manifests in everyday life and how it connects to unresolved trauma. Redefining Addiction: It’s more than just drugs or alcohol—work, shopping, and screens can also be addictive. The Root of Addiction: It’s a way to escape deep-seated pain or trauma, not a lack of willpower. Personal Journeys: Aileen shares her struggles with sugar, while Julie explores how busyness became her coping mechanism. The Dopamine Cycle: Why our brains crave quick relief, even when it harms us. Breaking the Cycle: True recovery starts with addressing the root cause, not just stopping the habit. Healing Approaches: Self-awareness, mindfulness, and finding support systems are key to overcoming addiction. Listener Takeaways Addiction isn’t about weakness—it’s a way of coping. Judgment doesn’t help—compassion and understanding do. Small, consistent steps can help break the cycle. Healing requires addressing why we turn to addictive behaviors. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch easily. BetterHelp carefully vets their therapists and has over 7,000 reviews with a 4.5-star rating on TrustPilot. Join the Conversation What are your thoughts on addiction? Share your insights with us—DM or comment on Instagram! If this episode resonated, please like, subscribe, and share with someone who might need to hear this. 🎧 Catch us next week for another honest conversation on life’s challenges. Sources & Further Reading Gabor Maté, M.D. In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction (2008) When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress (2003) The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture (2022) Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Perimenopause & Hair Loss: A Conversation We Need to Have \| Sanity Check	20 Mar 2025	00:11:09
Episode Overview Hair loss is often seen as a men’s issue, but for many women, it’s a deeply emotional experience tied to identity, confidence, and self-worth. In this short but important Sanity Check, Aileen opens up about her personal experience with hair loss, the impact it had on her self-image, and the surprising encounter that gave her hope. Julie and Aileen discuss why hair loss isn't just about vanity, the role of perimenopause and hormones, and practical steps to support hair health. Key Discussion Points Aileen’s personal journey with hair loss and how it started. The emotional impact of losing hair and how it affects self-image. The role of perimenopause, hormones, stress, and overall health in hair loss. The societal pressures around hair and why it's rarely talked about among women. The importance of nutrition, lifestyle changes, and checking for deficiencies. Practical strategies for managing hair loss, from diet to stress management. Redefining beauty beyond appearance and embracing confidence at any stage of life. Listener Takeaways Hair loss in women is more common than people think – you’re not alone. Checking in with a doctor can help rule out underlying medical conditions. Nutrition, stress management, and gentle hair care can play a huge role in hair health. Hair does not define your beauty – confidence, self-care, and support from others matter more. It’s okay to grieve the changes, but also to embrace new styles and solutions that make you feel good. Join the Conversation Have you experienced hair loss? What worked for you, both physically and emotionally? We’d love to hear your story. Send us a message at hello@youkeepmesane.com or leave us a voicemail. If you found this episode helpful, please share it with someone who might need it, and don’t forget to like and subscribe! Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Authenticity vs. Approval: The Tug of War We All Face \| YKMS	19 Mar 2025	00:29:11
Episode Overview In this episode, we explore the journey back to authenticity—why we lose it, how we reclaim it, and what it costs us when we don’t. From childhood conditioning to the pressure to fit in, we unpack how the need for approval can disconnect us from who we really are. With insights from Gabor Maté and our own stories, we reflect on what it means to show up as your true self. Key Discussion Points Losing Ourselves: How early conditioning shapes our identity. Authenticity vs. Attachment: Why we trade truth for belonging. Our Stories: When we conformed, resisted, and reclaimed ourselves. Fear of Judgment: Why being real feels risky—but freeing. Relationship Shifts: How authenticity affects who we attract. Staying Self-Aware: Spotting when you’re not being you—and what to do. Listener Takeaways Notice when you feel disconnected—start with curiosity. Your truth matters—even if others don’t get it. Find people who love the real you. You don’t need to earn your worth—you already have it. Sources & Further Reading: Gabor Maté, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture Gabor Maté, When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are Tara Brach, Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear from you! Have you ever struggled with authenticity? Have you faced judgment for being yourself? Send us a DM or share your thoughts—we’re here to listen. If this episode resonated with you, don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review. It helps us reach more people who need these conversations. See you next time! 💛 BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	You're Not Fun Anymore: How Motherhood, Mental Load, and Perimenopause Shift Everything \| Sanity Check	13 Mar 2025	00:10:54
Episode Overview: In this Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into a topic that hits hard: the feeling of having lost the fun, playful side of yourself. Whether it comes from a partner, a friend, or even your own kids, hearing "you're not fun anymore" can sting deeply. They discuss personal experiences, the emotional toll of mental load, and how societal expectations often strip women—especially mothers—of their spontaneity and joy. This candid conversation explores why this happens and how we can reclaim our sense of fun. Key Discussion Points: The painful impact of hearing "you're not fun anymore," especially from loved ones. Personal reflections from Aileen and Julie on feeling disconnected from their playful selves. How motherhood, mental load, and perimenopause contribute to the loss of lightness. The role of societal conditioning in assigning emotional labor and household management to women. The emotional exhaustion of juggling responsibilities while trying to maintain a joyful spirit. The unfair comparison to dads who often retain their playfulness. Practical steps to reconnect with fun: small moments of joy, dancing in the kitchen, morning music rituals, and scheduling time for fun. Listener Takeaways: It's normal to feel like you've lost your fun side during certain life stages—you're not alone. Give yourself grace; this phase of life is demanding, and self-judgment only adds to the weight. Finding joy doesn’t have to be grand—small, intentional actions can reignite your playful spirit. It’s okay to ask for help and share the load to create space for your own joy. Fun isn't something you have to perform for others; it's about reconnecting with what brings you joy. Join the Conversation: Have you ever felt like you've lost your fun side? How have you tried to bring it back? We'd love to hear your thoughts, experiences, and tips. DM us or email at hello@youkeepmesane.com. Your stories might be featured in a future episode. If this episode resonates with you, please like, subscribe, and share with someone who might relate. We're all just doing our best, and that's enough. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	The Comparison Trap: Why We Feel It & How to Break Free \| YKMS	12 Mar 2025	00:33:26
Episode Overview Comparison can sneak in through social media, friendships, or everyday moments—leaving us feeling like we’re not enough. In this episode, we explore the roots of comparison and jealousy, how they impact self-worth, and what we can do to shift our mindset. Through personal stories and practical tools, we look at how to move from comparison to connection. Key Discussion Points Comparison vs. Jealousy: What’s the difference and why it matters. Our Stories: Moments where we’ve felt “less than.” The Social Media Effect: How curated lives trigger insecurity. Why We Compare Up: And how it affects our self-worth. Rebuilding Worth: Tools to reframe and focus on what matters. Practical Tips: Gratitude, perspective shifts, and celebrating others. Listener Takeaways Awareness is powerful—know when comparison shows up. Reframe your thoughts—ask what the feeling is really about. Practice gratitude—it helps anchor you. Celebrate others—someone else’s win isn’t your loss. Social media isn’t the whole story—focus on your own path. Join the Conversation: We want to hear from you! Have you struggled with comparison or jealousy? How have you learned to navigate these feelings? Send us a DM or leave us a voice message—we’d love to share your insights in future episodes! 📢 If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend who might need to hear it. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and leave us a review! Until next time, remember—you are enough, just as you are. 💛 BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Harder to Be Happy? It Might Be Your Wiring, Not Your Fault \| YKMS	11 Jun 2025	00:29:19
Episode Overview: In this episode, Aileen and Julie reflect on why some people seem naturally happier, while others (like themselves!) are built with layers, reflection, and emotional intensity. Through personal stories, laughter, and a dose of science, they explore how understanding emotional wiring can shift the way we experience happiness and relate to ourselves. They also revisit a metaphor that’s stuck with them for years: are you an onion or a potato? It began as a throwaway comment by Julie's husband, but it’s grown into a powerful framework for understanding the different ways people process life, emotion, and joy. Key Discussion Points: Julie’s sister’s blunt but brilliant advice: “Calm the F down” Why some people feel content with less, while others crave depth The “onion vs. potato” metaphor: emotional complexity vs. grounded simplicity The science behind Happiness Set Point Theory and what we can (and can’t) change How upbringing, personality, and life experience shape our emotional landscape Why it’s powerful to honour your wiring rather than trying to “fix” it The importance of deep connection, especially when others process differently Listener Takeaways: Get curious about your emotional blueprint, do you lean toward simplicity or reflection? Understand that overthinkers and seekers aren’t broken… they’re just layered Release the idea that happiness is something to earn Recognise the strengths in both “onion” and “potato” types Embrace the idea that calm, grounded joy is just as meaningful as complex growth Join the Conversation: Are you more of an onion or a potato, or somewhere in between? Aileen and Julie would love to hear what resonates. Send them a DM, leave a voicemail, or join their WhatsApp group (link in bio). New here? Subscribe to You Keep Me Sane for honest, layered, and heartfelt conversations every week. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	The Power Shift: How Women’s Wealth Transforms the World \| Sanity Check	06 Mar 2025	00:10:51
Episode Overview This week’s Sanity Check lands on International Women’s Day, and we’re diving into a conversation that doesn’t get nearly enough attention—the immense power of women in the economy. Despite the progress we’ve made, studies show it will take until 2158 to achieve full gender parity. That’s five generations away. Simply put, change isn’t happening fast enough. In this episode, we explore the real impact of women’s financial power, the barriers that still hold women back, and what the world might look like if our economic systems had been built with women in mind from the start. Key Discussion Points Key Discussion Points Why Accelerate Action Matters – At this rate, gender equality is over a century away. Change is too slow. Women and Wealth – Women reinvest up to 90% of their income into families and communities, yet still face financial inequality. The Money Mindset Gap – Girls are taught to save; boys are encouraged to invest. This shapes financial confidence. Systemic Barriers – The pay gap, career interruptions, unpaid labor, and male-dominated finance keep women at an economic disadvantage. Rethinking the Economy – What if financial systems were built for women? Imagine care work being valued and collaboration over competition. Why Act Now – We can’t wait five generations. It’s time to build a system that truly works for women. Listener Takeaways How do you see money? Were you taught to be cautious or empowered? Women’s wealth creates change. What we earn and invest shapes entire communities. Push for progress. Advocate for equal pay, challenge financial structures, and demand better policies. SOURCES & FURTHER READING: The World Bank Report on Women and Economic Growth (2023) McKinsey Global Institute: The Power of Parity (2020) UN Women: Women’s Economic Empowerment (2022) Harvard Business Review: How Women Invest Differently Than Men (2021) World Economic Forum Gender Gap Report (2023) Instagram Post Referenced: @thefeministfinancialadvisor Join the Conversation This International Women’s Day, let’s take action—waiting until 2158 isn’t an option. How can we create systems that truly work for women? DM us or email hello@youkeepmesane.com—we’d love to hear your thoughts. If this episode resonated, share it and keep the conversation going. Subscribe, rate, and review You Keep Me Sane for more honest conversations. Happy International Women’s Day—own your power. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Money Without Guilt: Why Earning, Saving & Investing Matters \| YKMS	05 Mar 2025	00:31:30
Episode Overview Most of us left school knowing algebra—not how to budget, manage debt, or invest. In this episode, we unpack the money lessons we wish we’d learned, how to shift our mindset around finances, and why it’s never too late to take control. Let’s break the silence around money and start making it work for us. Key Discussion Points Financial Gaps in School: Why we weren’t taught basic money skills. Money Mindset: How guilt, shame, and old beliefs hold us back. Lessons from Mistakes: Our stories of debt and what we’d do differently. Women & Wealth: Why financial independence matters. Teaching the Next Gen: Simple ways to raise financially savvy kids. Healthy Habits: Easy steps to build stability and confidence. Listener Takeaways Money is a tool—not something to fear. Financial literacy gives kids lifelong power. Start small: track spending, save often, and stay consistent. Open money conversations can change everything. We’d love to hear your experiences! Do you struggle with a subconscious belief that money is bad or greedy? Have you started teaching your kids about money? What’s worked well for you? Send us a DM or a voice message to share your thoughts! Resources & Links Mentioned in This Episode Stephen Bartlett’s Diary of a CEO episode on Money & Investing: https://stevenbartlett.com/the-diary-of-a-ceo-podcast/ Female Invest – A great resource for learning about investing: https://www.femaleinvest.com/ Compound Interest Calculator – See how small savings grow over time: https://www.investor.gov/financial-tools-calculators/calculators/compound-interest-calculator If you found this episode helpful, share it with someone who needs to hear it and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Overdeveloped Sense of Duty: When Helping Becomes a Habit \|Sanity Check	27 Feb 2025	00:12:55
Episode Overview In this Sanity Check episode, we explore a term that resonates deeply with many women: an overdeveloped sense of duty. Julie shares how she first heard this phrase in her early twenties, and it stuck with her. Over the years, she began to recognise how it played out in her life—compulsively taking on responsibility, stepping in to fix things, and helping others without question. Aileen and Julie discuss where this drive comes from, how it plays out in their own lives, and the emotional toll it can take. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who finds themselves constantly stepping in, carrying the load, and struggling to say no. Key Discussion Points The emotional and physical toll of feeling responsible for everything and everyone. Why so many women are conditioned to believe their worth is tied to their usefulness. The connection between apologising too much, hyper-responsibility, and burnout. Aileen’s perspective on playing the mediator in her family and how that shaped her sense of responsibility. The impact of societal conditioning—why women are often praised for selflessness but rarely encouraged to set boundaries. Practical strategies for letting go of the need to always help and prioritising self-care. How to check in with yourself: Are you helping out of choice or obligation? Listener Takeaways If you have a habit of always taking on responsibility, pause and ask: "Am I doing this because I want to, or because I feel I have to?" Selflessness isn’t the same as self-sacrifice—you can care for others without draining yourself. You are enough, even when you’re not doing everything for everyone. Saying no isn’t selfish. Other people can carry the load too. Boundaries matter. If your energy is constantly depleted, it’s time to reassess. Join the Conversation Does this episode resonate with you? Do you struggle with an overdeveloped sense of duty? We’d love to hear from you! 💬 Drop us a message or share your thoughts on Instagram @YouKeepMeSane 📩 Send us a voicemail or email—your stories matter! 🎧 If you found this episode helpful, please like, share, and subscribe! Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Happiness: Why Does It Feel So Elusive? \| YKMS	26 Feb 2025	00:25:12
Episode Overview Why does happiness feel like something we’re always chasing but never quite reaching? In this episode, we dive into why happiness feels so elusive and how we can redefine it in a way that feels more fulfilling. Drawing from personal experiences, Russ Harris’ The Happiness Trap, and Dr. Judith Joseph’s 5 Vs for mental health, we explore how meaning, connection, and small sparks of joy can reshape the way we think about happiness. Key Discussion Points The Happiness Trap – Russ Harris' concept of why chasing happiness makes it harder to attain. Social Media & Cultural Myths – How unrealistic expectations of happiness contribute to dissatisfaction. Meaning vs. Happiness – Why seeking purpose and embracing all emotions (even the difficult ones) can lead to a more fulfilling life. The 5 Vs of Mental Health (Dr. Judith Joseph): The Role of Small Sparks – How happiness often hides in small, everyday moments rather than grand achievements. Listener Takeaways Redefine happiness – It’s not about constant joy but about moments of connection, meaning, and being present. Identify your values – Are you living in a way that aligns with them? If not, what small shifts can you make? Practice self-compassion – You’re not supposed to feel good all the time, and that’s okay. Notice your sparks – Pay attention to small things that bring joy and make space for them in your life. Resources The Happiness Trap by Dr. Russ Harris – https://www.actmindfully.com.au/the-happiness-trap/ Dr. Judith Joseph’s Work – https://www.drjudithjoseph.com/ BetterHelp (Paid Partnership) – Get 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane BetterHelp Paid Partnership If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a discount on your first month of therapy BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch easily. BetterHelp carefully vets their therapists and has over 7,000 reviews with a 4.5-star rating on TrustPilot. Join the Conversation What does happiness mean to you? Has your definition changed over time? What are the small sparks that bring you joy? We’d love to hear from you—leave us a voicemail or send us a DM! If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a friend who might need to hear it. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Exhaustion Isn’t a Status Symbol: Embracing Rest and Play \| Sanity Check	20 Feb 2025	00:14:44
Episode Overview In this week's Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into one of Brené Brown’s transformative quotes: “It takes courage to rest and play in a culture where exhaustion is seen as a status symbol.” They explore how society glorifies busyness and how deeply ingrained patterns of justifying our time can impact our well-being. Reflecting on their personal journeys, they discuss shifting from a mindset of relentless productivity to embracing rest, play, and meaningful living. Key Discussion Points The Cultural Glorification of Exhaustion: How busy-ness has become a marker of success and worth. Personal Reflections on Busyness: Julie and Aileen share how they’ve identified and begun to unlearn these patterns in their own lives. Language and Perception: The subtle ways we signal busyness in conversations and how it can unintentionally reinforce these ideals. The Role of Self-Worth: How tying self-value to productivity prevents us from fully embracing rest and play. Practical Steps for Change: Actionable strategies to prioritise rest, engage in play, and redefine success. Listener Takeaways Notice Your Language: Pay attention to how you describe your life to others. Shift from saying “I’m busy” to sharing something restful or joyful. Schedule Rest: Treat downtime as a priority, blocking out time to recharge guilt-free. Embrace Play: Rediscover activities that bring you joy and make space for them without needing a productive outcome. Reflect on Your Why: Journal about what drives your busy-ness—awareness can help you challenge and change old patterns. Celebrate Rest and Play: Share your moments of rest and joy openly to normalise them as valuable achievements. Join the Conversation We’d love to hear your thoughts! How do you balance rest and productivity in your life? What’s one small step you can take today to embrace rest and play? Let us know by: Leaving a voicemail Messaging us on Instagram (@YouKeepMeSane) Email us! Remember, you are enough just as you are—whether you’re busy, resting, or playing. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Body Image and Self-Worth: Rewriting the Narrative \| YKMS	19 Feb 2025	00:32:43
Episode Overview: In this deeply personal episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie dive into the complex topic of body image, exploring why size and shape continue to hold such power over our self-worth. They share candid stories from their own lives, reflecting on the lasting impact of societal expectations, family influences, and personal experiences with food, body shame, and self-acceptance. This heartfelt conversation also delves into how they’re working to foster healthier body narratives for their daughters, challenging the cultural norms that have shaped generations. Key Discussion Points: The lingering influence of childhood experiences with diet culture and body expectations. Personal journeys with body image, food addiction, and disordered eating. How puberty and societal comments shaped their perceptions of self-worth. The evolution of beauty standards across different eras and cultures. The impact of social media and algorithms on body dissatisfaction. Navigating body changes during perimenopause and finding acceptance. The importance of modelling body positivity and neutrality for the next generation. Listener Takeaways: Recognise that body ideals are socially constructed and can be deconstructed. Understand the connection between self-worth and body image. Practical tips for curating a positive social media feed. The power of challenging negative self-talk and practising body neutrality. How to create a body-positive environment for children. Strategies for shifting focus from appearance to self-appreciation and internal qualities. BetterHelp Paid Partnership If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch easily. BetterHelp carefully vets their therapists and has over 7,000 reviews with a 4.5-star rating on TrustPilot. Referenced Resources & Statistics: Over 90% of Australian teenagers have some level of body image concern, with 38% being very or extremely concerned. https://butterfly.org.au/news/more-than-90-of-young-people-in-australia-have-some-concern-about-their-body-image/ Nearly half (45%) of young people are dissatisfied with their appearance, and approximately 37% avoid physical activities due to body image issues. https://butterfly.org.au/news/more-than-90-of-young-people-in-australia-have-some-concern-about-their-body-image/ Research indicates a link between tim Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	From Cats to Dogs: The Unexpected Benefits of Having Pets \| Sanity Check	13 Feb 2025	00:15:31
Episode Overview: In this short Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie explore the unexpected joy and comfort pets bring to our lives. From the unconditional love of dogs and cats to the calming presence of a turtle, they dive into how pets enrich their families and create lasting memories. They share personal stories about their own pets and reflect on the valuable lessons they’ve learned, such as responsibility, empathy, and mindfulness. Whether you’re a seasoned pet owner or contemplating getting a furry friend, this episode will remind you of the immense joy and emotional support animals offer. Key Discussion Points: The positive impact of pets on children, teaching them responsibility, empathy, and compassion. The benefits pets offer to adults, including emotional support and the calming effect they provide. The role pets play in family dynamics and how they help bring people closer together. The mindfulness and routine that comes with caring for pets, including the physical and emotional benefits of daily walks and cuddles. The healing power of animals, especially in tough times like the pandemic. Listener Takeaways: Pets are more than just animals – they are emotional anchors that teach us essential life skills. Whether it’s a cat, dog, or even a turtle, the presence of pets can significantly impact our mental well-being and family cohesion. The responsibility of caring for a pet is a rewarding experience that can improve mindfulness and provide a sense of purpose, especially in challenging times. If you’re considering getting a pet, remember to think about the commitment and embrace the joy that comes with the responsibility. Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear about your pets and the joy they bring to your life. Share your stories with us on Instagram or send us a message – we’re all ears! Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone who loves pets or is thinking of getting one. Resources Mentioned: Three Wild Dogs and the Truth by Marcus Zusak – A brilliant, autobiographical book about the joy and chaos pets bring to a family. Highly recommended by Julie! All Cats Are on the Autism Spectrum by Kathy Hoopmann – An affirming introduction to autism through the lens of feline behaviour. All Dogs Have ADHD by Kathy Hoopmann – An affirming introduction to ADHD, focusing on the behaviours of dogs and how they relate to ADHD. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	The Unlived Life: Are We Burdening Our Kids with Our Past? \| YKMS	12 Feb 2025	00:27:04
Episode Overview In this episode, we explore a thought-provoking quote by Carl Jung: "The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parents." We unpack what this means, how our unresolved struggles or unmet dreams can impact our children, and how we can foster self-awareness to break the cycle. Aileen and Julie reflect on their own experiences—how their upbringings shaped them and how they strive to parent differently. They discuss the importance of emotional intelligence, self-reflection, and ensuring that children are free to develop their own identities without carrying the weight of their parents’ past. Key Discussion Points Jung’s “Unlived Life”: How parents may project their unmet dreams onto their kids. Personal Reflections: Aileen shares her emotionally restricted upbringing; Julie reflects on parenting through a self-worth lens. Generational Patterns: How unresolved wounds shape how we parent. Breaking the Cycle: The power of self-awareness in stopping unconscious projections. Supporting Our Kids: Practical ways to nurture independence and authenticity in children. Listener Takeaways The importance of self-reflection in parenting—checking whether we’re projecting unmet needs onto our children. How to balance support and encouragement without steering children toward a path that serves us more than them. The power of honesty and emotional openness in parenting. Why working on our own self-worth prevents us from burdening our kids with our unresolved struggles. Practical ways to create a healthier, more supportive environment for children. Join the Conversation We’d love to hear your thoughts! How has the idea of the unlived life shown up in your own parenting journey? What steps are you taking to grow alongside your children? BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Breaking the Cycle: Why Women Should Lift Each Other Up, Not Tear Each Other Down \| Sanity Check	06 Feb 2025	00:13:47
Episode Overview: In this episode of Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into a topic that resonates deeply with many women: how we can sometimes be our own worst critics, and how we must work towards lifting each other up rather than tearing each other down. They explore how societal pressures, insecurities, and unhealed wounds can fuel negative behaviour between women, and why it's crucial to change the narrative towards mutual support and empowerment. Key Discussion Points: Aileen and Julie reflect on a recent conversation about a woman who faced constant criticism from another in her circle. The damaging impact of competition, gossip, and judgment in female relationships. How insecurities often drive criticism, and why it’s important to recognise and address them. The need for women to extend grace to themselves and others, especially in the context of motherhood and aging. The significance of healthy, supportive friendships and the boundaries needed to protect our mental and emotional well-being. How inner work and self-acceptance are essential to breaking the cycle of negativity. Listener Takeaways: Recognise when you are falling into a pattern of criticism and choose to lift others instead. Understand that hurtful behaviour often stems from insecurities, and it’s essential to reflect on this before reacting. Prioritise relationships that bring positivity and support into your life, and let go of toxic dynamics that drain you. Embrace the power of mutual support, especially among women, and focus on celebrating each other’s achievements rather than competing. Value yourself just as you are, and extend that same grace to others. Resources/Studies: Female Intrasexual Competition: Study on Female Intrasexual Competition and Indirect Aggression, Psych Central, 2021. Perceptions of Competition in Young Women: Competition as a Norm: A Study on Young Women’s Rivalry and Societal Expectations, Springer Link, 2016. Socialization and Female Competition: No, Women Aren't Inherently Catty or Competitive, Bustle, 2014. Join the Conversation: Have you ever experienced criticism or negativity from other women? How did you handle it? We’d love to hear your stories and thoughts on creating positive, supportive connections in your life. Share your experiences with us by leaving a comment or reaching out through our socials. Remember to like, subscribe, and share this episode if you think it will resonate with someone. Let’s keep the conversation going and support each other as we all navigate the ups a Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	One Set of Hands, Countless Responsibilities: The Single Parent’s Journey \| YKMS	05 Feb 2025	00:29:42
Episode Overview: In this deeply personal episode, Aileen opens up about her experiences as a single parent, raising her daughter Amelia for over a decade. She shares both the rewarding and the challenging aspects of single motherhood, offering insight into the emotional, physical, and financial burdens that often go unseen. Julie and Aileen also discuss how building a supportive community, embracing vulnerability, and seeking help from friends can make all the difference. Key Discussion Points The Mental Load: Aileen opens up about the constant decision-making strain of solo parenting. Friendship as Support: Why close female friendships are vital when you’re doing it alone. Financial Pressure: The juggling act of raising a child solo in an expensive city. Emotional Labour: Being the steady anchor for your child while managing your own ups and downs. Hormones Everywhere: Navigating perimenopause while parenting through puberty. Staying Grounded: Therapy, movement, and breathwork as essential tools. Listener Takeaways You’re Not Alone: Connection and support make all the difference. Self-Kindness Matters: Your best really is enough. Vulnerability is Strength: Let your kids see it’s okay to feel. Build Your Village: Lean on friends, therapy, and self-care to lighten the load. Join the Conversation: We’d love to hear from you! If you’re a single parent, what challenges do you face and how have you learned to cope? Send us a voicemail or drop us a message—we're here to listen and support. Don't forget to share this episode with any single parents who could benefit from hearing these honest, relatable conversations. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Saying NO - Why Is It So Hard? \| Sanity Check	05 Jun 2025	00:10:22
Episode Overview This listener-inspired Sanity Check explores the discomfort so many of us feel when it comes to saying no or speaking honestly. Aileen and Julie unpack the messy middle between people-pleasing and genuine empathy, and explore the deeper fears—like judgment, rejection, or letting someone down—that keep us stuck in yes-mode even when we're at capacity. Whether you're someone who always says yes out of habit, fear, or heart, this episode offers research-backed insights and gentle reminders that you're not alone—and that boundaries are not a betrayal of kindness. Key Discussion Points Why we feel guilt or anxiety about saying no—even when it’s justified The tug of war between wanting to help and protecting our own peace People-pleasing vs. empathy—how to know what’s really driving you Social rejection, shame, and conditioning: What the research says The power of pausing and checking in with your actual capacity How guilt can sometimes be a sign of growth Speaking honestly with kindness and clarity Listener Takeaways Saying no doesn’t make you selfish—it makes you honest Notice when discomfort is old programming, not a present-day truth Ask yourself: Am I afraid of being judged? Or am I truly concerned for the other person? Treat yourself like you’d treat a friend: with understanding and compassion Growth can feel like guilt—especially when you're not used to honouring your own needs Join the Conversation Have you struggled with saying no or speaking up? What helps you navigate the guilt? Drop us a message or leave us a DM—we’d love to hear your thoughts and stories. Let’s make boundary-setting feel a little less lonely. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	A Break from Booze: Why We’re Doing it And Why It’s Tough \| Sanity Check	30 Jan 2025	00:13:44
Episode Overview In this episode of Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie reflect on their decision to take a break from alcohol. Sharing their personal experiences and challenges, they explore how alcohol affects them differently now, especially in the context of perimenopause. They discuss the cultural pressures around drinking, how alcohol impacts their energy, sleep, and mental health, and how stepping back has led them to rediscover a more mindful and present version of themselves. Key Discussion Points The impact of perimenopause on alcohol tolerance, including changes in sleep, energy, and anxiety. How alcohol has historically been woven into social rituals and the challenges of changing these habits. The importance of creating new, healthy habits to replace alcohol without feeling deprived. The power of boundaries and normalising your choice to not drink in social situations. Listener Takeaways Aileen and Julie have both noticed clearer minds, more energy, and a greater sense of calm since stepping away from drinking. Taking a break from alcohol can be a liberating choice that opens up new, healthier habits and routines. It’s okay to change your relationship with alcohol – it doesn’t make you any less fun or social. Instead, it shows that you’re being intentional with what you want in your life. Creating new rituals and habits, like replacing alcohol with tea or mindful activities, can help reduce the reliance on alcohol as a social crutch. The journey of reducing or eliminating alcohol is personal, and there’s no need for perfection – it’s about what feels right for you. Resource Mentioned The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Boundaries: How Saying No Can Be the Ultimate Act of Self-Respect \| YKMS	29 Jan 2025	00:19:04
Episode Overview In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie dive into the sometimes tricky but essential topic of boundaries. Prompted by a listener email reflecting on struggles with self-worth and boundary-setting, they explore why boundaries are so important for protecting your energy, maintaining healthy relationships, and fostering self-respect. Both Aileen and Julie share personal stories of learning to say no, recognising resentment as a red flag, and overcoming the guilt that often comes with prioritising their own needs. They also discuss the powerful connection between boundaries and self-worth and why setting limits is not selfish but a profound act of self-care. Key Discussion Points Listener Story: Alison shares her struggle with people-pleasing and guilt around boundaries. Why Boundaries Matter: They protect your energy and help you focus on what truly matters. Boundaries & Self-Worth: Saying no is an act of self-respect—not selfishness. Knowing When You Need One: Frustration, burnout, and resentment are key signals. How to Set Them: Be clear, firm, and kind—without over-explaining or guilt. Handling Reactions: Others may resist, but their response isn’t your responsibility. Listener Takeaways Boundaries are Bridges, Not Barriers: They create healthier, more balanced connections while protecting your well-being. Resentment Is a Sign: If you’re feeling frustrated or drained, a boundary might be missing. It’s Okay to Prioritise Yourself: Learning to say no is not selfish—it’s self-respect. Stop Over-Explaining: You don’t owe anyone a lengthy justification for protecting your energy. Respect Yourself First: When you set boundaries, you teach others how to treat you and model self-respect. Join the Conversation We’d love to hear from you! Have you set a boundary recently that’s brought you more peace? Or are you struggling to set one in your life? Leave us a voicemail or message us on Instagram. Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Share this episode with a friend who might need a reminder that boundaries are a form of self-love. Final Thought "Boundaries aren't barriers. They're bridges to healthier, happier lives." Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Demi Moore's Speech: Put Down the Measuring Stick and Be Enough \| Sanity Check	23 Jan 2025	00:10:52
Episode Overview: In this short Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into the powerful message of self-worth delivered by Demi Moore in her acceptance speech for her first acting award at the age of 62. Inspired by Moore's journey of resilience and self-belief, they explore the concept of being enough just as we are, and how we often get caught up in unrealistic standards and comparisons. Together, they discuss how we can let go of the measuring stick and embrace our inherent worth. Key Discussion Points: Demi Moore's inspiring speech and the message that we are enough, just as we are. The concept of the "measuring stick" — the invisible bar we set for ourselves based on external standards. The impact of comparisons and how they can undermine our self-worth, particularly in social media and career aspirations. Overcoming negative feedback and criticism, and how Demi Moore's experience of being called a "popcorn actress" at 32 exemplifies resilience. The importance of focusing on your own journey and celebrating small wins along the way. Letting go of perfectionism, embracing imperfection, and practising self-compassion as steps to believing in your own worth. How success is not defined by accolades or external validation, but by staying true to yourself and evolving at your own pace. Listener Takeaways: You are enough — stop measuring yourself against impossible standards. Focus on your own unique worth and value, instead of comparing yourself to others. Perfectionism is a burden. Embrace your imperfections and be kind to yourself. It's never too late to rewrite your story and chase your dreams, no matter where you are in life. Celebrate small achievements, and recognise how much you are growing every day. Surround yourself with positive influences and let go of negativity. Join the Conversation: We'd love to hear your thoughts and reflections on today's episode! How have you struggled with the idea of being "enough"? What steps have you taken to embrace your worth? Join us on social media or drop us a message to share your story. And as always, thank you for being part of our community. Call to Action: If this episode resonated with you, don't forget to subscribe, leave us a review, and share with someone who needs the reminder that they are enough just as they are. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Ageing is Not a Flaw: Stop Apologising and Start Celebrating the Value of Ageing \| YKMS	22 Jan 2025	00:30:48
Episode Overview In this episode, Aileen and Julie discuss why women often feel the need to apologise for ageing, unpacking societal pressures and how our self-worth is tied to our appearance. They explore how to shift the narrative around ageing, embracing the wisdom and experience that come with it. Key Discussion Points The Ageing Double Standard: Why society praises ageing men but sidelines ageing women. Beauty, Patriarchy & Capitalism: How women’s value has been linked to youth and appearance. Media Representation: The lack of older women in film and TV and its impact on self-perception. Appearance vs. Self-Worth: How beauty standards and social media shape women’s sense of value from a young age. Reclaiming Ageing: Embracing ageing as a powerful journey filled with wisdom, confidence, and resilience. Role Models: Women like Jamie Lee Curtis and Julia Roberts show us how to age with authenticity and pride. Listener Takeaways Ageing is a natural, beautiful process that should be celebrated, not feared. Your worth is defined by who you are, not how you look. Women gain so much as they age - wisdom, compassion, experience - and that is so much more valuable than youthful looks It’s time to rewrite the narrative around ageing—let’s embrace it unapologetically. Join the Conversation Share your thoughts and experiences with ageing. Leave us a voicemail, send a DM, or like and share this episode with a wise woman who needs to hear it. Let’s continue to celebrate ageing and change the conversation together. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Procrastination Unpacked: Why We Avoid and How to Start \| Sanity Check	16 Jan 2025	00:11:59
Episode Overview In this quick Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie delve into one of the most relatable struggles we all face: procrastination. From the fear of failure to the pull of perfectionism, they discuss the many reasons we avoid tasks and share practical tips on how to break free from the cycle of procrastination. Key Discussion Points Why Procrastination Happens: Fear of failure, fear of success, perfectionism, lack of interest, and overwhelm are just some of the reasons why we procrastinate. Personal Experience: Julie and Aileen discuss their personal struggles and the times they procrastinate the most. The Emotional Toll of Procrastination: How guilt, shame, and the snowball effect of avoidance can drain your energy and confidence. Breaking the Cycle: Recognising the reasons behind procrastination. Taking small, manageable steps to tackle tasks. Finding accountability partners for support. Being kind to yourself and focusing on progress over perfection. Listener Takeaways Procrastination is a universal experience, but it doesn't define your abilities or worth. To overcome procrastination: Acknowledge and understand your reasons for avoiding tasks. Break tasks into smaller, bite-sized chunks. Start with just 5-10 minutes of work to build momentum. Celebrate small wins to keep yourself motivated. Seek support from friends or accountability partners. Remember: Procrastination is a habit, and like any habit, it can be changed. Join the Conversation We’d love to hear how you handle procrastination! Share your tips or struggles with us: Email: hello@youkeepmesane.com Voicemail: Drop us a message – we’re here to listen. Thanks for tuning in to this Sanity Check! Remember, you've got this—one small step at a time. Until next time! Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Anxiety: Our Stories, Struggles, and Ways to Cope \| YKMS	15 Jan 2025	00:36:10
Episode Overview In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie share an honest, relatable conversation about anxiety—how it manifests, how it affects their lives, and the tools they’ve found to navigate through it. From childhood experiences and lifelong struggles to the surprising onset of anxiety in peri-menopause, they open up about their personal journeys and offer practical strategies for managing anxiety. This episode is a reminder that you’re not alone and that there are ways to find calm, even in the chaos. Key Discussion Points What Anxiety Feels Like: How it differs from stress and shows up in the body and mind. Our Stories: Julie’s lifelong anxiety and Aileen’s peri-menopausal onset. Coping Tools: Breathwork, boundaries, magnesium, movement, and creating a personal go-to list. A New Perspective: Anxiety is often a symptom, not who you are. Talking about it reduces its power. Listener Takeaways You’re not alone—anxiety is more common than you think. Small steps like mindfulness and self-care make a difference. Help is available—and asking for it is a strength, not a weakness. Anxiety doesn’t define you. Be kind to yourself. Join the Conversation We’d love to hear from you. How does anxiety show up in your life, and what tools have helped you navigate it? Share your thoughts, stories, or questions with us! Resources Mentioned Jamie Clements (Breathwork Expert) – https://www.instagram.com/jamieclements_/ Free weekly Instagram breathwork sessions Somatic Workouts for stress release – https://www.instagram.com/theworkoutwitch_/ London Nootropics (Mushroom Coffee) – A caffeine alternative for managing jitters Thank you for listening! BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Growth Through Adversity: How Challenges Shape Who We Become \| Sanity Check	09 Jan 2025	00:14:55
Episode Summary In this episode, Aileen and Julie explore the powerful, often difficult process of growth through adversity. Reflecting on their own life experiences—from heartbreak to major transitions—they discuss how challenging moments have fundamentally shaped who they are. Together, they ask whether personal growth always requires hardship and consider ways we can foster self-development even in calmer times. For anyone navigating a tough period or looking to cultivate growth without drama, this episode offers gentle encouragement and thoughtful perspectives. Key Takeaways: Growth Through Adversity: Aileen and Julie share personal stories of overcoming grief, loss, and life transitions. They reveal how these hardships ultimately brought greater strength, self-understanding, and compassion. Can We Grow Without Trauma? The hosts discuss whether growth must come through painful experiences, contemplating the role of intentional challenges, risk-taking, and stepping out of one’s comfort zone as alternative paths to growth. They reflect on the importance of self-acceptance and facing one’s fears before life forces a confrontation. How to Embrace Growth, Even When It Hurts: For those facing difficult times, Aileen and Julie offer strategies to navigate pain and find growth within it. They share personal practices, like journaling, self-reflection, and letting emotions surface, to help process and embrace challenging emotions in a healthy way. Quote of the Episode: "To abolish all valleys is to get rid of all mountains." – Alan Watts, shared by Julie Practical Advice: Allow yourself to feel and process difficult emotions, using practices like journaling, mindful observation, and seeking support from trusted friends. Recognise growth opportunities in smaller, intentional challenges, especially when life feels stable—take steps that expand your comfort zone in gentle, steady ways. Join the Conversation: Share your thoughts on growth through adversity or how you encourage self-development in calmer times. Join our Instagram group, send a voicemail, or email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com. Thank you for listening! Join us next week for another honest conversation about navigating life’s challenges together. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Purpose Reimagined: Discovering Your Spark in Everyday Moments \| YKMS	08 Jan 2025	00:28:32
Episode Overview In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie explore the idea of purpose—not as a grand, singular mission, but as discovering your “spark.” They share personal stories and practical insights to help you identify the small, meaningful moments that bring joy and fulfilment, encouraging a more present and intentional approach to life. Key Discussion Points Challenging Traditional Views of Purpose: Why tying purpose to external achievements often leaves us unfulfilled. Discovering Your Spark: What sparks are, how they make you feel alive, and why they’re not about productivity or impressing others. Purpose as a Journey: How to reframe purpose as a daily practice of living fully, with curiosity and joy. Listener Takeaways Purpose doesn’t have to be grand; it’s about noticing and nurturing the small things that light you up. Sparks evolve over time—stay curious and make space for them in your life. Living with purpose is a journey of being present and choosing joy daily. Join the Conversation What’s your spark? Share your thoughts with us via voicemail, DM, or on social media. Let’s make 2025 a year of discovery and joy! Thank you for tuning in—see you next time on You Keep Me Sane! BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	A New Year’s Intention: Breaking the Addiction to Not Being Okay \| Sanity Check	02 Jan 2025	00:17:41
Episode Overview Happy New Year! In this special episode, Aileen and Julie introduce Sanity Check, a short weekly segment offering quick insights alongside their regular episodes. They explore the idea of being addicted to not feeling okay—a mindset where struggle and chaos feel normal—and share how they plan to break free from this cycle in 2025. Key Discussion Points Reframing Resolutions: Shift from pressure-filled resolutions to positive intentions like “I will drink more water” instead of “I won’t drink alcohol.” Addicted to Not Being Okay: Why we cling to stress and drama, and how it can feel unfamiliar—even scary—to embrace calm and happiness. Breaking the Cycle: Develop awareness, practise mindfulness, embrace joy, and let yourself sit with moments of contentment without seeking problems to solve. Listener Takeaways Reflect on how societal and personal stories keep us stuck in holding patterns of discontent. Practise being present and recognising when things are okay. Reframe your goals with kindness and focus on what lifts you up. Join the Conversation What’s your intention for 2025? Are you ready to let yourself feel okay? Share your thoughts by messaging us on Instagram, email or leaving a voicemail. Here’s to a year of embracing calm. Happy New Year! 🎉 Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Holding Patterns: What's Keeping You Stuck? \| YKMS	01 Jan 2025	00:21:43
Episode Overview In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie delve into holding patterns—the habits or beliefs that keep us stuck in life. These cycles, often rooted in fear or indecision, can prevent growth and change. Inspired by a heartfelt letter from a listener, Sue, they reflect on personal experiences and offer insights on recognising and breaking free from these patterns. Through honest conversations, Aileen and Julie highlight the importance of self-awareness, small intentional steps, and trusted relationships in moving forward. Key Discussion Points Understanding Holding Patterns Repetitive cycles that keep us stuck, often driven by unresolved fears or beliefs. Listener Letter: Sue’s Story Sue shares struggles with recurring drama and feeling unable to move forward, sparking today’s discussion. Self-Awareness and Fear Recognising where we’re stuck requires honesty and courage. Julie discusses her fear of judgement and how confronting it has fostered growth. Aileen reflects on low self-worth and unhealthy relationship patterns shaped by guilt. Breaking the Cycle Small, conscious changes—like saying no when it feels uncomfortable—are powerful. Growth isn’t linear; setbacks are part of the journey. The Role of Trusted Relationships Having someone reflect your patterns back without judgement can be transformative. Listener Takeaways Recognise Patterns: Identify areas where you feel stuck or repeat unhelpful behaviours. Ask Questions: What’s holding me back? Is fear or a belief shaping my choices? What would I do if I weren’t afraid? Start Small: Make one small, intentional change. Reflect with Others: Share your thoughts with a trusted confidante. Be Kind to Yourself: Growth takes time—celebrate progress, however small. Join the Conversation What holding patterns are showing up in your life? We’d love to hear your thoughts: Email: hello@youkeepmesane.com Instagram: @youkeepmesane.pod If this episode resonates with you, please like and share it with someone who might benefit. Remember, growth starts with honesty. Until next time, take care. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	The Invisibility Cloak: Midlife, Visibility, and Redefining Worth \| YKMS	04 Jun 2025	00:22:40
Episode Overview In this deeply reflective episode, Aileen and Julie explore the quiet but powerful transition many women experience in midlife—the shift from being seen and celebrated for youth and appearance to becoming quietly overlooked by a culture that worships the new. But is this invisibility a loss… or a kind of liberation? Through honest conversation and personal stories, they unpack what it means to feel unseen in a world that once watched your every move, and how this stage of life can offer something far richer: presence, peace, and purpose. Key Discussion Points The emotional impact of no longer being the center of cultural attention Watching their daughters enter a world of visibility, hustle, and image pressure The contrast between youth and midlife—performance vs. presence Grief, freedom, and what we gain as we age The idea of invisibility as a cloak we can choose to wear or shed How midlife brings deeper intuition, discernment, and authentic friendships Why being seen isn’t always about external eyes, but internal fullness Listener Takeaways You’re not invisible—you’re evolving. This phase is full of wisdom, grounding, and power, even if the world doesn’t applaud it. Visibility doesn’t have to come from others—it can be something you claim for yourself. The freedom to stop hustling for approval is a gift of age. Ask yourself: What does visibility mean to you now? Join the Conversation We want to hear from you. What’s your relationship with visibility right now? Do you ever feel invisible—and if so, what helps? DM us or drop a voice message. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Merry Christmas! Whatever That Looks Like For You \| YKMS	25 Dec 2024	00:15:36
Episode Overview In this Christmas Day episode, Julie and Aileen hold space for every kind of Christmas—joyful, bittersweet, or quiet. They reflect on family traditions, the challenges the holiday can bring, and the importance of creating moments of connection and meaning, however the day unfolds. Key Discussion Points The Complexity of Christmas The holiday can bring joy but also amplify feelings of loneliness, grief, or overwhelm. Acknowledging that it’s okay to feel however you feel today. Creating Connection Small acts, like sending a message, taking a walk, or enjoying a film, can bring comfort. Aileen and Julie share personal traditions and reflect on the joy of giving. Honouring Absent Loved Ones Simple rituals, like playing a song or lighting a candle, can keep memories close. Letting Go of Perfection Embrace the chaos and let go of the pressures of the season. Taking time for yourself is important. Gratitude and Presence Gratitude can be found in small, quiet moments. Presence, not perfection, is what truly matters. Listener Takeaways Your emotions today are valid—whatever they may be. Small moments of connection can make a difference. Honour loved ones in ways that feel meaningful to you. Let go of perfection and focus on what truly matters. Join the Conversation We’d love to hear about your Christmas—what brought you joy, what was challenging, or how you found meaning. Share with us via DM or voicemail, and join us in the New Year for more honest conversations. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Pre-Christmas Chaos – Embracing "Good Enough" \| YKMS	18 Dec 2024	00:14:21
Episode Overview In this festive sanity check, Aileen and Julie reflect on the chaos of the pre-Christmas period. From endless to-do lists and the pressure to create the "perfect" holiday, they share their personal experiences and remind us that good enough truly is good enough. Key Discussion Points The Holiday Juggle: Why the week before Christmas feels overwhelming and how 80% of people feel stressed by preparations. Perfection Pressure: The emotional load of striving for a picture-perfect holiday often leaves us overwhelmed. Studies show that 42% of people feel pressured to create the "perfect" Christmas, with 1 in 5 finding it too stressful to enjoy. Personal Stories: Julie’s triple-whammy of Australian Christmas chaos (school year, summer holidays, and family travel) and Aileen’s strategy of setting the table a week early to stay sane. Practical Advice: Lean into "good enough," let go of unnecessary tasks, and focus on connection and joy. Listener Takeaways Christmas is about the moments, not the details. Laugh at what goes wrong—it’s where the best stories come from. Letting go of unrealistic expectations can help us focus on what truly matters—connection and joy. Prioritise self-care, whether it’s a glass of wine, a cup of tea, or simply letting yourself off the hook. Join the Conversation How are you managing the pre-Christmas chaos? Share your stories with us via DM or voicemail—we’d love to hear from you! Connect with Us We’ll be back next week with more honest chats. Until then, take a breath and remember—it doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Self-Worth in Kids: Why It Matters and What the Journey Looks Like \| YKMS	11 Dec 2024	00:39:45
Episode Overview In this heartfelt episode, Aileen and Julie delve into the challenging but vital topic of self-worth in children. How do we help our kids feel worthy and enough when many of us struggle with self-worth ourselves? Inspired by a listener's letter, they explore what self-worth truly is, why it’s essential for kids, and how we can teach it while still learning it ourselves. Key Discussion Points What Is Self-Worth? Understanding it as an inner belief in your value—different from self-esteem. The Cost of Low Self-Worth: Aileen and Julie share how chasing external validation shaped their lives. Raising Resilient Kids: Teaching self-worth helps children handle setbacks and build healthy relationships. The Parenting Balancing Act: Navigating our own self-worth while modelling it for our kids. Practical Tools: Real examples—affirmations, praising effort, and creating emotionally safe spaces. Listener Takeaways Model It: Speak kindly about yourself and set boundaries your kids can learn from. Praise the Process: Celebrate effort and inner qualities, not just achievements. Separate the Deed from the Doer: Correct behaviour without labelling the child. Validate Feelings: Show it’s okay to feel and fail—it’s how we grow. Celebrate Uniqueness: Help kids own their strengths and quirks. Own Your Mistakes: Apologising models accountability and unconditional love. Resources The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown Raising Girls Who Like Themselves in a World That Tells Them They're Flawed by Kasey Edwards and Christopher Scanlan Join the Conversation How do you nurture self-worth in your children? Have you found ways to model self-worth while on your own journey? Share your experiences with us via voicemail, email, or DM. Until next time, remember—you are enough, just as you are. BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
	Always On: The Weight And Chaos of the Mental Load \| YKMS	04 Dec 2024	00:40:19
Episode Overview In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie delve into the exhausting and often invisible reality of this life stage, the mental load and the chaos it can create in our lives. With the added pressures of the holiday season, they share honest reflections on the relentless demands of caregiving, managing households, and balancing work, all while navigating emotional and mental well-being. They also explore practical strategies for managing the overwhelm and embracing imperfection during life’s busiest stages. Key Discussion Points What Is Mental Load? The often-invisible strain carried by caregivers. Why It’s Exhausting: Emotional, mental, and physical burnout from doing it all. Life Stage Chaos: How work, parenting, and holidays amplify the pressure. Guilt & Expectations: The myth of “doing it all” and its toll on self-worth. New Perspective: Embracing imperfection and accepting life’s messiness. Tools for Relief: Tips to manage mental load—boundaries, priorities, and asking for help. Listener Takeaways Feeling overwhelmed? You’re not alone. “Good enough” is more than okay. Boundaries and self-care help lighten the load. Accepting your life stage can bring calm. Asking for help is a strength, not a failure. Quotes & Links Mentioned “It takes courage to rest and play in a culture that sees exhaustion as a status symbol” - Brene Brown For Incredible Holiday Portraits (discount code YKMS24): https://www.gsixtysix.com/category/xmas24 Join the Conversation We’d love to hear your thoughts! How do you manage the chaos of mental load, particularly during the holiday season? If this episode resonated with you, please share it with someone who might need to hear it. Thanks for listening! BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy. BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch. Links: Follow YKMS Podcast on IG @youkeepmesane.pod Follow YKMS on FB https://www.facebook.com/YouKeepMeSanePod Email us at hello@youkeepmesane.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/ Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy Editor: Allia Lenit Galos See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information Disclaimer: Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.

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