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| Wicked Wednesdays No. 74 “Conflict Resolution” Pt 1 | 28 Mar 2025 | 00:43:09 | |
This week I begin a new series on conflict resolution in relationships. Step one, lets figure out if this is actually a conflict or is this a problem I need to deal with myself. Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No. 73 “Dom 101” | 03 Mar 2025 | 00:39:16 | |
This week I answer one of my most frequent questions “How can I ask my partner to be more dominant?” As well as give some advice for people just getting started as Doms in D/s play. Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No. 72 "N.R.E. New Relationship Energy" | 20 Feb 2025 | 00:37:09 | |
This week I answer a listener’s question about N.R.E New Relationship Energy. What is it, how do you deal with it from both sides of the relationship and other good advice for having happy polyamours and any other kind of relationships. Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No. 71 “Total Power Exchange” | 06 Feb 2025 | 00:35:36 | |
This week I answer some questions about how punishment works in a BDSM setting. Ho can punishment fulfill a submissive, Does there always have to be punishment in BDSM and kink? How can punishment be an effective tool in deepening a D/s relationship? Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No. 70 “Punishment” | 30 Jan 2025 | 00:39:03 | |
This week I answer some questions about how punishment works in a BDSM setting. Ho can punishment fulfill a submissive, Does there always have to be punishment in BDSM and kink? How can punishment be an effective tool in deepening a D/s relationship? Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No. 69 “Hard Dom or Soft Dom” | 23 Jan 2025 | 00:32:34 | |
This week I talk about the soft and hard styles of domination, how should Dominants approach the needs of their submissives? What is the most effective strategy to ensure a healthy happy D/s relationship? Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No. 68 “The Truth Pt. 2” | 16 Jan 2025 | 00:45:44 | |
This week I continue our conversation about being truthful in your relationships. Who is deserving of your truth and do you deserve the truth from the people around you. How does honesty effect your personal relationships and how to we come to terms with our own true selves. Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No. 67 “The Truth” | 09 Jan 2025 | 00:40:12 | |
This week I talk about being truthful in your relationships, especially with yourself. How does honesty effect your personal relationships and how to we come to terms with our own true selves.Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 66 “Topping From the Bottom | 13 Sep 2024 | 00:31:09 | |
This week I answer a listener's question about what is and what is not topping from the bottom in a Kink or D/s relationship. How to avoid topping from the bottom, and how to communicate your needs to your Dom without stepping out of line. I also talk about how important it is for Doms to encourage their subs to communicate in a healthy manner. Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 65 “Can BDSM be Therapy" | 22 Aug 2024 | 00:36:24 | |
This week I answer a listener's question "Do you think BDSM can be therapy? Join me as I talk about potential pitfalls and benefits of therapeutic Kink. Show notes and links can be found at: | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 64 “How Will A.I. Effect the Adult Entertainment Industry?" | 14 Jul 2023 | 00:36:24 | |
This week I dive in the question of how Artificial Intelligence will affect the adult entertainment industry. Will powerful A.I. tools make porn safer for all of us?, will computer generated porn take over and displace human performers? What does the near future hold for all of us?” Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 63 “BDSM Breakups” | 19 May 2023 | 00:32:28 | |
This week: BDSM breakups. How do Kink and BDSM breakups differ from your normal vanilla break up? What can Doms do to help provide relationship aftercare, what happens when a sub wants to break up with their Dom? Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 62 “Surviving Breakups” | 30 Mar 2023 | 00:41:56 | |
This week: Surviving breakups. I talk a lot about how to have successful healthy relationships on this podcast but sometimes things just don’t work out. I talk about how to get through the end of a relationship and hopefully come out the other side with your friendship intact. I also answer some listener questions about my relationship with leather, other men, and why I haven’t released any adult content in a while. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 61 “Non Toxic Masculinity Pt 3 With Race Bannon” | 22 Feb 2023 | 00:32:39 | |
This week: part two of my interview with author and activist Race Bannon about how societal pressures and expectations shape men. With trans and gay rights being a hot topic in the news we talk about why and how these social issues have become a political battle ground. We also talk about how some groups actively recruit disenfranchised and isolated men. Find out more about Race Bannon here: https://linktr.ee/BannonRace Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 60 “Non Toxic Masculinity Pt 2 With Race Bannon” | 19 Feb 2023 | 00:28:51 | |
In the weeks episode I have a conversation with author and activist Race Bannon about how societal pressures and expectations shape men. What does it mean to be “a real man”? Who gets to decide what a man should be and how they should act? Join us for part one of this conversation in my ongoing series about non toxic masculinity. Find out more about Race Bannon here: https://linktr.ee/BannonRace Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 59 “The Ethics of Porn Pt 3: Does Mainstream Porn Lead to CSAM” | 12 Feb 2023 | 00:33:58 | |
“In the weeks episode I tackle the very difficult subject of whether or not I believe mainstream porn can lead people down a path to CSAM, especially porn that has an “Age Play” element. This a very sensitive subject for many and I do want to warn anyone listening that I do discus the exploitation of children in the episode. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 58 “Age Verification” | 11 Feb 2023 | 00:20:23 | |
In this weeks episode I talk about age verification, how do we make certain that kids aren't watching porn. Can we have reliable age verification? What age is OK for porn? Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 57 “The Ethics of Porn Pt 1” | 21 Jan 2023 | 00:24:23 | |
Is rough porn, or pornography in general, unethical? Does watching rough pornography cause people to commit crimes or become abusive? Are content creators responsible for the actions of their viewers? In this first part of a new series I give my thoughts on these questions sent in by a listener. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 56 “Incels and Sex Workers” | 14 Jan 2023 | 00:32:40 | |
Would legalizing sex work resolve the Incel problem? Should “Real Men” bother with consent or just do what they want? On this weeks episode I talk about these issues and more. Thanks to our new Patrons: Saavik, Miss D, and MJ your support is so important to the this podcast. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 55 “Consent” | 04 Jan 2023 | 00:38:18 | |
In our first episode of the new year I wanted to get back to some Kinky fundamentals and with Consent being of foundational importance to any relationship I wanted to take a deep dive and talk about this very important issue. What is consent? How do you give it, how to receive consent, how is consent withdrawn? What is a violation of consent? Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 54 “When Does Kink Become Unhealthy” | 09 Dec 2022 | 00:31:03 | |
In this weeks episode I talk about Kink and mental health, specifically when does kink go from being a healthy and fulfilling part of your life to becoming something that causes you distress and and real harm. A very good article about the fight to de-stigmatize Kink and BDSM can be found here https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/01/bdsm-versus-the-dsm/384138/ Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 53 “Interview with Race Bannon Pt 2” | 18 Nov 2022 | 00:31:43 | |
In this weeks episode we continue our conversation with author and activist Race Bannon, we talk about the more fluid role of domination and submission in the gay kink scene in contrast with the more rigid roles in the straight scene. You can find more info about Race here: https://linktr.ee/BannonRace Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 52“Kinky Threesomes Pt 2 and Kinky Dating Red Flags” | 12 Nov 2022 | 00:46:14 | |
This week we have the second part of my conversation with Katja about playing with multiple people in a three way plus situation, negotiating Power exchange with more than one person and I also answer a listener’s question about some Kinky Dating red flags. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 51 “Interview with Race Bannon Pt. 1” | 04 Nov 2022 | 00:33:54 | |
This week we have our season 3 premier and we are happy to bring you an interview with author and activist Race Bannon. Katja and I had a wonderful interview with Race and in this first part of the interview we talked about his origins in the Kink and Leather community, changes he’s seen in those scenes, and some differences and commonalities between the gay and straight kink communities. Links for Race Bannon here https://linktr.ee/BannonRace Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 50 “BDSM and the Law No 2” | 27 Oct 2022 | 00:59:44 | |
In this weeks episode we are joined by MeanStreakMileWide for a conversation about how the Kink world intersects with the Legal world. We talk about how consent works in a legal setting, contracts between Doms and subs, how important societal changes effect our lifestyle and more. While we are talking about the law in this episode, remember that this is for education and entertainment purposes only, it is not legal advice and does not establish an attorney client relationship. If you are in a kinky legal situation or any kind of legal situation, its important to consult with a lawyer licensed to practice in your jurisdiction. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 49 "Kinky Threesomes and Moresomes" | 20 Oct 2022 | 00:28:10 | |
In this weeks episode Katja and I talk about our experience playing with multiple people in Kink environments, both intimately and non intimate settings. We also have some great news about our upcoming season of Wicked Wednesdays Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 48 “How do I know if I’m a submissive?” | 15 Sep 2022 | 00:34:31 | |
In this weeks episode I answer a listener’s question about how to know if they are submissive as well as how I know when I’m talking to someone who is submissive or dominant. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 47 “Threesomes Pt 2” | 02 Sep 2022 | 00:29:58 | |
In this episode I answer some great questions about collars from our last episode and give more tips and advice for healthy happy three way sex. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 46 “Collars” | 25 Aug 2022 | 00:28:45 | |
In this episode I answer a listeners question about collars, what they mean in the BDSM and Kink scene above and beyond a piece of play equipment. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 45 “Threesomes Pt 1” | 11 Aug 2022 | 00:32:05 | |
In this weeks episode I talk about threesomes, how to have safe healthy sexual relationships with more than one person. In this first episode I address the importance of communication and consent when you first approach the idea of introducing another person to your relationship. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 44 “How I got Started in BDSM and Porn | 21 Jul 2022 | 00:40:59 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. In this weeks episode I answer a couple of questions and concerns from last week and talk about how I got started in Kink and Porn Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 43 Non Toxic Masculinity: How to deal with stress “Like a Man” | 13 Jul 2022 | 00:52:48 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. In this weeks episode I talk about dealing with stress in healthy ways, specifically about combating intrusive thoughts and anxiety that all of us deal with. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 42 “Poly do's and don'ts” | 29 Jun 2022 | 00:38:20 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. This week I give some advice on what to do and what not to do in Poly relationships as well as answer some questions from our last poly episode. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 41 “How to be a Dom without being an Asshole” | 15 Jun 2022 | 00:34:51 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. This week I give some advice about how to be a Dominant person without alienating everyone around you, both in and outside of BDSM and Kink relationships. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 40 "How Overturning Roe v Wade Can Effect the Kink Community” | 12 May 2022 | 01:09:03 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. This week I ask Katja to put on her constitutional scholar hat and help us understand how overturning Roe v Wade is not just undermining reproductive rights but how it might very well have dire consequences for the Kink and LGBTQ+ community. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 39 “Trust” | 04 May 2022 | 00:39:51 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. This week I want to talk about Trust, earning it, keeping it, dealing with trust issues from past bad relationships and finding the courage to trust again. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 38 "Mind the (Age) Gap" | 14 Apr 2022 | 00:35:38 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. This week I address a listeners question about whether it’s an issue or not to have a significant age gap in a BDSM relationship or in relationships in general. I talk quite a bit about my own experience in being both the younger and older person in a long term relationship. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 37 “"Kink and Family Pt 2" | 06 Apr 2022 | 00:52:07 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. This week Katja joins me for an in depth conversation about Kink and family, How and when to talk to kids about sex and Kink, why its so hard to speak candidly with family about intimate matters and how to balance a BDSM relationship with a family relationship. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 36 “"Kink and Family" | 31 Mar 2022 | 00:30:17 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. In this weeks episode I discuss about when and if to talk to your family about kink, especially in relation to kids. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 35 “"Katja Answers Your Questions" | 23 Mar 2022 | 01:04:21 | |
Welcome to Wicked Wednesdays where we talk about all things BDSM, Kink and Poly along with relationship advice and a behind the scenes look at producing amateur adult films. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 34 “"Three Levels of Submission" | 09 Mar 2022 | 00:24:24 | |
In this weeks episode I explain the three levels of submission as I see them; Fear, Reward, and Fulfillment. I also discuss the importance of clarity in Dom/sub communication. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 33 “What Makes a Good Submissive?” | 26 Feb 2022 | 00:39:41 | |
In this weeks episode I go over the qualities I think are necessary to be a happy and successful submissive. As always I welcome your thoughts and comments. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 32 “What Makes a Good Dom Pt 2” | 16 Feb 2022 | 00:40:12 | |
In this weeks episode I have a conversation with Katja about qualities she looks for in a Dom as well a wide ranging discussion on Dom vs Dommes. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 31 “What Makes a Good Dom” | 10 Feb 2022 | 00:29:47 | |
In this weeks episode I go over seven virtues that I believe it takes to be a good Dom. What are your thoughts? I always welcome feed back and I’m interested in your thoughts on these as well as other attributes you believe are important for a good Dom to possess. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 30 "Ask a Dom Anything” | 03 Feb 2022 | 00:48:47 | |
In this weeks episode I give some advice on how to interact with people who are new to the scene especially in regards to personal safety with a bonus Q&A with my subs where they get to ask me anything and I have to answer. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 29 "Why Would You Hurt Someone You Care About?" | 12 Jan 2022 | 00:28:03 | |
In this weeks episode I answer a listener's question about how consent makes it OK to "hurt" or other wise harm someone you care about in BDSM relationships. I also talk about how to help your partner get over that initial hesitation they may have when it comes to BDSM. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 28 “Long Distance D/s Relationships” | 24 Dec 2021 | 00:55:37 | |
In this weeks episode Wicked Katja joins me for an in depth discussion on how an online BDSM relationship transitions to an in person relationship, how we managed our long Distance D/s relationship over several years, how our 24/7 Dominant/submissive relationships works day to day and I also talk about some new episodes and projects I have planned for the coming year Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 27 "Sadism, Humiliation, and Degradation Play" | 01 Dec 2021 | 00:26:38 | |
In this weeks episode I talk about Sadism, humiliation, and degradation play in BDSM (you dirty little sluts) How Sadism, which would normally be a negative personality trait, can be a healthy and positive aspect of Kink and BDSM relationships. I also discus how to negotiate boundaries in humiliation and degradation play. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 26 “Thanksgiving Q&A Special” | 25 Nov 2021 | 00:36:42 | |
In this weeks episode I catch up on some of the questions I’ve received recently including: Is there a hierarchy in Polyamorous relationships? What are some relationship red flags for you? Can you have a romantic BDSM relationship and why are you so sweaty? Answers to all those questions and more in this weeks episode.Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||
| Wicked Wednesdays No 25 “Dealing with Jealousy in Polyamory” | 17 Nov 2021 | 00:30:29 | |
In this episode I talk about how to deal with jealousy in Polyamorous relationships, successful ways of harnessing and redirecting that energy into positive outcomes, and caution against allowing NRE (New Relationship Energy) to cause you to neglect your current partners. I also talk about introducing your monogamous partners to the idea of polyamory. Show notes and links can be found at: www.WickedFellow.com | |||