Explore every episode of the podcast Why She Stayed
| Title | Pub. Date | Duration | |
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| Ep. 29: How to Help Someone Who's in an Abusive Relationship by Holding Space for Them | 29 Oct 2024 | 00:52:51 | |
On this solo episode, I give all of my best tips for bridging the gap with a loved one who may be stuck in an abusive relationship. I give advice on what could be most helpful VS. harmful and how to stay hopeful in the midst of it all. Remember to always contact law enforcement in the case of an emergency, or call a DV hotline yourself for specific advice. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| How Abusers Weaponize Mental Health and Triangulation | 22 Oct 2024 | 01:16:30 | |
On this episode, Jess shares her story about how abusers can weaponize mental health claims as an excuse to accuse you and gain control in very covert ways. We also discuss how perpetrators who are very charismatic triangulate people around them to feed into the manipulation and lies.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Kidnapped by her Abuser: Lex's Story | 20 Aug 2024 | 01:12:17 | |
On this episode, Lex will be sharing her domestic violence story and how the early warning signs of control and manipulation escalated over time and lead to a kidnapping incident by her abuser that she survived. Lex now has a passion for DV advocacy and speaks out to help people recognize the signs. Her social media pages are: Instagram: @lexruhlen TikTok: @lexlittlepickle Trigger Warning: Physical abuse, language, emotional abuse Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Lauren's Story | 13 Aug 2024 | 01:19:53 | |
On this episode I am joined by my guest Lauren who shares her story of domestic violence and how she finally broke free from a powerful, addictive, and confusing cycle. TW: emotional abuse, physical abuse, descriptions of SA My Instagram: @gracestuart26 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| How to Know if you're in an Abusive Relationship, Smear Campaigns, Coercion, and More. | 06 Aug 2024 | 00:55:44 | |
On this episode we will discuss more of your most commonly asked questions about how to know if it's abuse, how to reassure yourself that it is that bad, smear campaign tactics, coercion, and staying strong through it all. IG: @gracestuart26 TikTok: @gracestuart Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Coercive Control and being FRAMED by the Abuser in Family Court- with Dr. Christine Cocchiola & Amy Polacko | 30 Jul 2024 | 00:49:12 | |
On this episode I am joined by Dr. Christine Cocchiola & Amy Polacko to discuss what coercive control is and how it plays out in the family court system where women are often FRAMED by their abuser as being the one to blame and how education about the "abuser's playbook" can help speak real change. Their new book "FRAMED: Women in the Family Court Underworld" is available now for pre-order in the link below: https://www.amazon.com/Framed-Women-Family-Court-Underworld/dp/B0DB6MNR2W Guest Social Media Links: Dr. Cocchiola's Instagram: @dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol Amy's Instagram: @freedomwarriortribe Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Run Like Hell- with Dr. Nadine Macaluso | 23 Jul 2024 | 00:48:10 | |
As a 22-year-old, Nadine never could have understood what she was committing to when marrying Jordan Belfort, the fraudulent stockbroker infamously known as the Wolf of Wall Street. Through surviving her own trauma bond, she discovered the increasing need for therapists who are informed on domestic violence, trauma bonding, and so much more. She returned to school at the age of 39 to become a licensed Psychotherapist and now holds a PhD in Counseling and Somatic Psychology. Dr. Nadine has her own private practice and has spent the last two years writing her book "Run Like Hell" to help you find hope, healing, and education. Dr. Nae's website: https://drnae.com/about-dr-nadine-macaluso/ Instagram: @therealnadine Tiktok: @drnaelmft Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Overcoming Tragedy- with Stephanie J. Bond | 16 Jul 2024 | 01:01:56 | |
This week Stephanie will be sharing her story of how emotional and financial abuse escalated slowly over time and led to a violent attack in the home where she almost lost her life. We discuss the details of that day, what life looked like leading up to the tragedy, and how she is a survivor and an overcomer today. Stephanie's TikTok: @stephaniejbond Website: Stephaniejbond.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Surviving Abuse: Red Flags, Triangulation & Escalation. | 09 Jul 2024 | 01:08:15 | |
On this episode I am joined by my guest Kia Lee where we will be discussing topics such as red flags, coercion, emotional abuse, escalation to physical abuse, and the mental turmoil/ cognitive dissonance involved in an abusive relationship. Kia's website is: https://kia-lee.com/ Her Instagram is @lighthousesurvivor Kia's book is "Lighthouse: Surviving Narcissistic Abuse Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Why is it so hard to leave?- My Experience & Mindset Tips | 02 Jul 2024 | 01:13:10 | |
In this episode I will be speaking about the tactics an abuser may use to get you to stay, as well as the healing and mindset tips that helped me to be successful in leaving my abusive relationship permanently. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Q&A Part 2: Your Most Asked Questions | 23 Jun 2024 | 00:57:15 | |
On this episode, I am answering your most asked questions from Instagram about the cycle of abuse in an effort to bring you clarity and reassurance. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Financial & Emotional Abuse: Tanna's Story | 14 Jun 2024 | 01:18:36 | |
Tanna shares her story of the many years of financial and emotional abuse she endured within a marriage and how she eventually broke free from the cycle and found healing on the other side. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| How to Look Through the Lens of the Cycle of Abuse- Knowing Your Truth with Quinn Padilla | 15 Oct 2024 | 01:11:41 | |
On this episode I'm joined by my guest Quinn Padilla where we talk about how to gain clarity by focusing on what the *cycle* of abuse really looks like and new perspectives to help you identify patterns and stay strong. We also discuss Quinn's personal story as a DV survivor. Quinn's Instagram: @itsquinnpadilla Quinn's Website: https://www.rellawellness.com/ Article I cited: https://voicemalemagazine.org/abusive-men-describe-the-benefits-of-violence/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Jordyn's Story | 07 Jun 2024 | 00:55:08 | |
Today I am joined by my guest Jordyn who will be sharing her domestic violence story and having an open discussion about the realities of the cycle of abuse and how she eventually found freedom. Jordyn's Instagram and Tiktok is @lemontreeliteracy Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Full Q&A Episode | 02 Jun 2024 | 01:01:58 | |
This is a Q&A style episode where I will be answering all of the questions you asked through Instagram. Any questions we did not cover, I will do in a part 2 episode at some point. All links discussed in the episode will be in my Linktree in my bio on both Tiktok and Instagram. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Navigating the Court System & Post Separation Abuse: With Divorce & Custody Coach- @momswithswords | 24 May 2024 | 01:04:08 | |
On this episode, I have an in-depth conversation with Rachel, (a divorce and custody coach) about what it looks like to navigate pre-separation planning, as well as post-separation abuse while navigating the court system. Rachel shares so much valuable information on what you can practically expect, steps that can help you towards your desired outcome, and tips to stay strong & hopeful in the process. Below is the link for the Battered Women's Justice Project which is a FREE resource that you can check out: https://bwjp.org/ Rachel's coaching website is: https://www.greaterthingstocome.com/ And her Instagram is: @momswithswords Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Healing from Abuse: Rumination, Dissociation, Building Self-Trust, & More | 17 May 2024 | 00:47:45 | |
Today I am joined by my guest Pearl Velasquez (@resilient.therapy) where we will have an open conversation about healing from abuse. We cover topics such as rumination, dissociation, hypervigilance, building self-assurance, and more. Trigger warning- this episode also contains topics of SA and non-fatal strangulation. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| "But he never hit me"- Part 2 | 10 May 2024 | 01:08:28 | |
This episode is a part 2 from my story. Some details will be repeated as a recap, but we will discuss topics of infidelity, fear, and more about the turbulence of the cycle of abuse. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Inside the Abuser's Mind- with Eleni- Abuse Educator | 25 Apr 2024 | 00:41:22 | |
On today's episode, I'm joined by my guest Eleni who is a Certified Domestic Abuse Victim Advocate and author of the book "But They're So Nice: Unmasking Covert Abuse". Her Tiktok is @nonarcsense and Instagram is @no_narcsense. In this episode, we discuss topics such as why the abuser does what they do, do they believe their own lies, tips to break the trauma bond, does therapy help or hurt, and are they able to change? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| A burger at Disney World- Jubilee's Story | 18 Apr 2024 | 01:12:49 | |
This week we are hearing a survivor story from Jubilee. She will discuss how a "prophecy" lead her into an abusive relationship/ marriage with a man who had "2 sides" to him, how things escalated over time, and how she eventually escaped. Her Tiktok and IG are @magicwithjubilee Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| "But he never hit me"- My Story | 12 Apr 2024 | 01:20:35 | |
This week is a solo episode where I will be sharing my domestic violence story with you. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| More Than Bruises with- Dr. Jennifer Gardella | 03 Apr 2024 | 00:41:18 | |
Today I am joined by Jennifer Gardella who is a survivor of domestic violence, DV advocate, and author of the book "Listen for the Whispers of Abuse". On this episode we will discuss her journey before she realized what was happening, until her eventual escape and her current passion for DV advocacy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Psychological Abuse, Blindness, & Resilience Through Adversity- Sherrie Lynn Lilley | 08 Oct 2024 | 01:14:13 | |
On this episode, I am joined by Sherrie Lynn Lilley who is a DV survivor and owner of HEAL Creative Coaching. We speak about emotional & psychological abuse and how she navigated the trauma as a blind woman and as a mother of 5 amazing children. Sherrie's Instagram is @sherrielynnlilley Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| "Reactive Abuse", Abusers Who Discard, Hoover, & Breaking Free- Shannon's Story | 01 Oct 2024 | 01:03:06 | |
On this episode we discuss topics of emotional & verbal abuse, abusers who initiate "breakups" as a form of manipulation, hoovering, anxiety they create, and how you can be pushed to a point of reacting to their mistreatment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Abuse, Second Guessing Yourself, Withdraw, & The Strength to Stay Gone- Claire's Story | 24 Sep 2024 | 01:10:11 | |
On this episode we are talking about Claire's story and why it's so hard to break free from an abuser and then keep up the strength to stay gone. We also discuss projection, monitoring, accusing, and how they try to pull you back in and make you second guess your decision to leave at every turn. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| The Insidious Nature of Abuse & Spiritual Abuse - with Tatenda | 18 Sep 2024 | 01:02:15 | |
On this episode, Tatenda Mandingwa and I have an open conversation about the insidious parts of abuse, questions you can ask yourself to gain clarity, and what spiritual abuse can look like. Tatenda's IG: @tatendamandingwa My IG: @gracestuart26 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| It's Not High Conflict, It's Abuse- Maureen's Story | 10 Sep 2024 | 01:09:15 | |
On this episode, I'm joined by my guest Maureen where we talk about her domestic violence story and the importance of calling abuse by name. We talk about the cognitive dissonance that happens when you are trapped in the cycle of abuse and how she eventually was able to identify what was truly happening to her. Maureen's Instagram: @themaureenmurphy TW: emotional abuse, SA, other sensitive topics. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Surviving an Abusive Marriage and Post Separation Abuse | 03 Sep 2024 | 01:02:34 | |
Savannah shares her DV story about emotional abuse, sexual abuse, substance use, and the escalation of physical abuse within a marriage. We also discuss post separation abuse, the challenges when a child is involved, and words of wisdom and hope for coming out on the other side. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Inside the Abuser's Mind- Part 2 | 27 Aug 2024 | 00:50:36 | |
Today I am joined by Abuse Educator and DV Advocate, Eleni. We discuss commonly asked questions to provide you with education, strength, and understanding. Eleni's Instagram: @no_narcsense Tiktok: @nonarcsense Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep. 32: Coercion, Reactive Abuse, and what if it's me "causing" this? | 19 Nov 2024 | 01:16:00 | |
Morgan shares her story of escaping a relationship that included extreme phases of "love" and devaluing. We discuss topics of coercion, reactive abuse, lying to escape his accusations, the addictiveness of the cycle, and overcoming self-blame. See my Instagram @gracestuart26 for more episode clips and episode information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep. 31: Am I "Supposed" to Stay in an Abusive Situation?- Karen DeArmond Gardner | 12 Nov 2024 | 01:00:48 | |
On this episode I'm joined by Karen DeArmond Gardner where we talk about covert, emotional, mental, and spiritual abuse. She gives new perspectives on how to handle the intrusive thoughts and lies that tell us "but am I supposed to stay?" All Links for Karen's Socials and Website: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karendearmondgardner?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== Book: https://www.amazon.com/Hope-Healing-Domestic-Abuse-Reaching/dp/0825446945 Website: https://anotheronefree.com/ Facebook: Another One Free Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep. 30: "No one will ever believe you because you look too happy"- Savannah's Story | 05 Nov 2024 | 01:16:04 | |
On this episode, Savannah shares her story about mental, verbal, and physical abuse and why it felt so hard to leave. We talk about how "smaller" physical trespasses escalate over time and how the perpetrator may pretend they are not even happening. This is an episode for anyone who is in a cycle of "good and bad" who is looking to gain new perspective. Savannah's Socials: Tiktok: @therealmessmom IG: @therealmessmom Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep. 37: When He's on a Pedestal & Puts You in Lose-Lose Situations | 24 Dec 2024 | 01:02:24 | |
On this episode, Megan shares her abuse story of how isolation & accusations were slowly introduced, how abusers will put you in lose-lose situations, how it feels like we always need more "proof" to leave them, and how she eventually left for good. Next episode will air on Tuesday, January 7th. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep. 36: Non-Fatal Strangulation: How it's Introduced and Escalates- Dr. Dana Anderson | 17 Dec 2024 | 01:09:38 | |
On this episode I am joined by forensic psychologist Dr. Dana Anderson where we discuss the dangers of non-fatal strangulation, what it is, what "counts", why it matters, and answering your most commonly asked questions. Dr. Anderson's website and social links: Instagram: dr.dana_anderson Tiktok: @killerpsychologist Website: https://psychologydr.com/doctor-of-clinical-forensic-psychology/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/being-choked-during-sex-is-rising-in-popularity-among-young-people https://www.familyjusticecenter.org/resources/survivors-perspective-the-impact-of-strangulation-during-sex-sexual-choking/ https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/domestic-violence-op-ed-column/after-four-strangulations-i-googled-domestic-abuse https://www.domesticshelters.org/articles/identifying-abuse/strangulation-is-the-highest-predictor-of-murder https://www.strangulationtraininginstitute.com/non-fatal-strangulation-is-what-domestic-violence-advocates-fear-the-most-right-now/ https://www.dangerassessment.org/DA.aspx Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep. 35: Will Trying to be Perfect Make Them Change? | 10 Dec 2024 | 01:12:43 | |
On this episode I am joined by my guest Amanda where we discuss topics of emotional abuse, coercive control, sexual coercion and more. We also discuss how abusers use things like withdrawing or demanding intimacy as a way to control you and how porn use and spiritual manipulation can play a role in the cycle of abuse. See my Instagram @gracestuart26 for more on guest information. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep. 34: Cognitive Dissonance, Euphoric Recall, and What if He's Changing? | 03 Dec 2024 | 01:15:39 | |
On today's episode, Cindy and I discuss the progression of abuse in her past relationship/ marriage and how strong cognitive dissonance can be when you are dealing with "two versions" of your partner. We also talk about their claims of change, and how intense euphoric recalls can be when you are trying walk away and what helped Cindy to overcome that. Cindy's Instagram: @cin.d.bin Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||
| Ep. 33: DV Survivor & Mass Shooting Survivor- Elle Gargano | 26 Nov 2024 | 01:08:05 | |
On this episode, I am joined by Elle Gargano speaking about enduring a 9 year abusive relationship and all of the aspects that kept her feeling stuck including surviving a mass shooting during the time when she was still with her abuser. We speak heavily about emotional and mental abuse and how the confusion kept her feeling uncertain of her experience for many years. Elle's Socials and Website: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellegargano/ TikTok: @ellegargano Website: https://www.ellegargano.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. | |||