Why Is Nobody Talking About This – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode we're joined by Jess Harrell of The Styled Domicile. You might know her for her bold pattern choices or signature cheetah statue. Or perhaps it's her tagline that called you in: let your freak flag fly in your home...because if you can't be yourself there, where can you? In case you didn't already notice, Jess is someone who enjoys coloring outside the lines...with bright colors. We talk about why trends like white on beige on taupe home decor have become so popular, being comfortable taking up space, and why being different might actually be the goal.

HIGHLIGHTS

• Why "good taste" is making you boring
• Confidence can be practiced and is not innate
• The role of nostalgia in personal style
• How to find what you like vs. defaulting to liking what you see constantly
• The problem with assuming maximalism is only for people who love excess
• Why it's so important that, as women, we continue to take up space

FOLLOW 

• Jess on Instagram @thestyleddomicile
• The Styled Domicile website
• Kim on Instagram @kimwensel
• Kim's website

MENTIONS

• Join The Bench waitlist!
• Supercommunicators book
• Good Taste is Making You Boring post
• 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think
• The Road to Tender Hearts
• Broken Country

Now that the word “pivot” is part of our daily lexicon, we assume we know what it takes to move from one thing to the next. And why wouldn’t we? There are plenty of talks, books, and masterclasses on the topic. But for some reason we’re still stuck.

In this episode, Kim talks through her experiences of pivoting, shedding identities that no longer serve you, and the unmarketable messy middle.

THIS EPISODE COVERS

+ How Kim unknowingly was clutching to the identify of “fixer”

+ The importance of recognizing what we gain from our identities

+ What happens when we delay setting boundaries

+ Why the fear of uncertainty will keep us safe and unhappy

+ The most important question you must be willing to ask yourself when  you’re yearning for change.

For more information about this show, Kim’s work, or The Bench, visit www.kimwensel.com.

Sure, there are courses on email marketing, growing your following, and launching something new. But the people who tend to teach these topics have built a business through a one-to-many model, focusing first and foremost on follower count. So following their advice will never translate directly if you don’t have the reach they have. I’m someone who’s run a referral-heavy business for seven years, without focusing on building an audience and honestly that’s held me back from visibility, marketing, and asking for business. If you’ve held back because you’re used to doing the work rather than than selling the work, get ready because I’m talking to you!

I’m sharing the real numbers, timeline, and results of my recent launch for The Bench community. You’ll hear about:

+ My founding membership goal and where I ended up

+ The role of a waitlist and application and how these impacted enrollment

+ The role of personal connection and scrappiness in launching

+ Getting comfortable being visible and embodying what you’re selling

+ How much money I invested in the launch

+ Future plans for The Bench

As always, you can get on my email list to get first in line for updates and announcements like my book launch, in-person programming, and when The Bench opens back up for membership enrollment in fall 2025.

Personal branding is a complex topic. One that if you get it, you get it. But if you don’t, it can seem self-indulgent, unimportant, and trendy. Today I’m challenging the common misconceptions about personal branding and how this view has gained traction. If you’ve ever wanted to step more into the spotlight but were hesitant for fear of coming across as fake or having to spend all day posting content, this solo episode is for you. A few highlights include:

+ The reason personal branding is your career insurance policy

+ Disentangling your reputation from your brand

+ Why monetizing who you are can be problematic

+ What it looks like to be authentic rather than dogmatic

+ The role of social media for people who are allergic to self promotion

+ Why the future demands transparency and connection

+ How to embrace the idea of a portfolio career

For more on this topic and to be the first to hear about launch dates for my upcoming book and The Bench, our community for women, visit KimWensel.com.

Diehard Cleveland Cavaliers fan and creative powerhouse, Abra Said is a self-professed eternal optimist. But that doesn’t mean her path has turned out as she expected. On this episode of Why is Nobody Talking About This?, Abra and Kim discuss loss, the challenges of making new friends as adults, and financial security as a creative person.

THIS CONVERSATION COVERS

+ Holding firm with boundaries when your work seems “fun”

+ The profound impact and imprint of loss

+ Celebrating platonic love as much as romantic love

+ What we get wrong about people without kids

+ How we can unknowingly lose ourselves in marriage and parenthood and why that’s such a risk

+ The awkwardness of making new friends as an adult

+ Starting something new and being okay with the uncertainty of it

+ Having enough and still wanting more—money, work, friends, and opportunities

FOLLOW

You can find Abra on her newly launched, beautiful website and on Instagram.

For more about The Bench, a community for women who love their work but want it to come at less of a cost, visit kimwensel.com/thebench.

The first guest on Why Is Nobody Talking About This? is Lane Clark, a CEO’s best friend and right-hand woman to high-performing leaders. Kim and Lane dive right into the delicate and confusing balance between ambition and contentment. As someone intimately familiar with Kim’s work and deepest professional insecurities (fun!), Lane gets honest about what happens when you have to define success as something beyond money and why it will likely always feel like swimming upstream if you’re choose your own path over climbing the traditional ladder.

THIS CONVERSATION COVERS

+ Why anyone would live in the frozen tundra of Northern Michigan

+ The dichotomy of achievement and contentment

+ Why some of us (✋🏼) keep falling back into burnout

+ The real pressure of upholding to traditional indicators of success

+ What happens when we sit in boredom, rather than pushing through

+ The reason many successful individuals feel unworthy of support

+ The bell curve relationship between money and happiness

+ Finding connection in shared experiences

FOLLOW

You can find Lane on LinkedIn, her website , and the Knot Work Studio.

For more about The Bench, a community for women who love their work but want it to come at less of a cost, visit kimwensel.com/thebench.

Welcome to Why Is Nobody Talking About This? episode one. I've spent the last seven months in a creative cocoon, working on my first book. This has been an intense and largely invisible endeavor that has challenged me in ALL the ways. On this first episode, I'm sharing:

+ Why I never considered traditional publishing

+ How the book writing process has surprised me (as someone who is never surprised)

+ The surprising impact of hiring an editor

+ What I did when I'd written 80% of my first draft only to realize I was writing the wrong book

+ Accepting that I wasn't going to meet my deadline and still trusting the process

+ My top tips for anyone who's thinking a book might be inside of them

To stay up to date on the book and The Bench, our community for women who love their work but want it to come at less of a cost, visit KimWensel.com.

On this show you’ll hear from smart women with strong opinions on things like friendship and community, quitting, and the push/pull of wanting to achieve and wanting to do nothing at all.

A little personal development, a little professional development and a lot of big thoughts. Join me and some of my favorite people for conversations that are deep but easy to listen to because they’re relatable.

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For more go to kimwensel.com.

Everyone fails. Yet few people are willing to admit it. Instead, we're inundated with the clean before/after stories told from the rearview, glossing over the messy middle. So when it's not easy to bounce back, we harbor shame and hold back from trying again.

What if we could talk about failure just like we talk about success—normalize things working out like we didn't imagine they would and realizing that's not always a bad thing? If we want to evolve, we have to accept failure as part of that journey. 

Today I'm sharing my own, very personal story of failure. One that started with the simple thought, "I could do that better than them" and ended with an existential crisis coated in the question of, "What now?" 

If every no gets us closer to a yes, how do we become better at failing?

HIGHLIGHTS

• The important distinction between failing and feeling like a failure
• How to build self trust after things turned out differently than you imagined
• Why admitting failure builds trust and connection
• Three important steps you should take after failing

FOLLOW

• Get on The Bench waitlist
• Follow Kim on Instagram

MENTIONS

• Article: Why I Am Closing Ami Colé
• Range Global Goods

As women, we're encouraged to bounce back. We do so after kids. We do so after heartbreak. We do so after a career disappointment. But how many times can we bounce back without admitting that we need to sit out? And how does that reflect on the narrative we've woven about ourselves. In this episode Kim is joined by Jami Crist, women's health advocate and author of The Losses We Keep. Jami shares her own story of hustle, pregnancy loss, and how much can change in just three years, offering a fresh perspective on "life is short." SOUND BITES

• "I always said I would never be a stay at home mom. I can do it all. I want to do it all."
• "Am I losing my sense of credibility? Am I in the know anymore?"
• "How did I get this job? I don't deserve it. And that made me want to work even harder."
• "Keeping good people close to you is literally everything through these hard moments."

LINKS

• Jami's book: The Losses We Keep
• Jami's website
• Find Kim on Instagram
• Kim's website

MENTIONS

• LERA Health
• Soul Speaks Press
• The Power Pause