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| Lancaster, PA: No Gay Bars, No Gayborhood, No Problem - With Stephen Hardy | 07 Oct 2026 | 00:59:20 | |
WHERE DO GAYS RETIRE PODCAST Show Notes Lancaster, PA: No Gay Bars, No Gayborhood, No Problem Hosted by Mark Goldstein| Guest: Stephen Hardy |Lancaster, Pennsylvania Runtime: approximately 60 minutes Stephen Hardy and his husband Addison thought Phoenix was the finish line. They had raised two sons there, downsized into a gut-renovated mid-century condo in Midtown, and built a full civic life. Stephen served on the boards of Ballet Arizona and Arizona Opera and chaired the ballet's 2025 gala. Then the desert started to wear on them. Addison missed having a garden. They both missed seasons, museums, and being a short hop from a big city. France was ruled out over the language barrier and the bureaucracy. The Pacific Northwest, where they are both from, had gotten too expensive. New England was on the list, until Stephen's research turned up a name he was not expecting. Lancaster, Pennsylvania. On paper it checked every box. Liberal, walkable, excellent health care, a serious arts and food scene, an hour by train to Philadelphia and three hours to New York, and no Pennsylvania state tax on retirement income. They visited in April 2025 and knew within two hours. They bought a 1920s townhouse in Chestnut Hill and moved in this past April. Here is the part that surprises people. Lancaster has no gayborhood and no gay bar. Stephen says neither is missed. Pride flags fly year round in shop windows and on front porches. He and Addison hold hands walking home from the theater. The city is only about 60,000 people, but it packs them in densely enough that Stephen describes it as the West Village set down on its own in Pennsylvania. Four months in, they had built a full social circle with almost no effort. If you have ever worried that leaving a big city gay scene means giving up community, this conversation is for you. 🎧 In This Episode
⏱️ Chapters 00:00 Introduction. Who Stephen and Addison are, and why Lancaster 03:18 From New York to Connecticut to Phoenix. Two dads, a fashion career, and a second act as an author 05:15 The Mark connection. Neighbors in Phoenix, and two very different exits 06:41 The April 2025 visit. Why the Philly suburbs did not work and Lancaster did in two hours 08:32 A family migration. Stephen's sister, then Addison's sister, followed them 09:04 It is not Amish country. A real small city with four colleges and a multi ethnic population 11:22 Choosing Chestnut Hill. Tree lined streets, fifteen minutes from Penn Square 13:11 Four seasons again. Snow, humidity, and why neither is a dealbreaker 15:23 Rivers, gentle hills, tree ordinances, and yes, sometimes you smell the fields 17:14 LGBTQ+ life. No gayborhood, no gay bar, and no sense of loss 19:31 The Gayest Happy Hour, the Belvedere, and year round Pride flags 19:47 The Gelks. How the Elks Club became a gay bingo night 20:51 Amish Country Queer, and the LGBTQ+ youth who come into the city to be themselves 21:59 City versus county. Navigating a conservative rural surround 23:28 The kilt question 24:03 Cost of living. What a Chestnut Hill townhouse costs, and what the $200,000s still buy 25:10 Property taxes, school taxes, and why they are glad to pay them 26:12 The famous Stephen and Addison renovation, round two 27:10 No Pennsylvania tax on Social Security, pensions, or retirement withdrawals 28:15 Utilities, groceries, dining out, and the state liquor store markup 30:29 Walkability, the Keystone train line, and getting to Philadelphia, New York, and Europe 33:01 Health care. Penn Medicine, an openly gay primary care doctor, and a dentist shortage 36:16 Crime and safety. Walking home at night, and the one real hazard 40:22 Arts and culture downtown. The Fulton, First Fridays, murals, and street pianos 41:52 Southern Market, Central Market, and a downtown with almost no chains 42:29 How they built a social life in four months 45:51 Where they eat 48:31 Logistics. Cash closing, utilities, and Pennsylvania's DMV plus notary two step 50:35 Inheritance tax and why they are updating their wills 51:55 What Stephen misses about Phoenix 53:03 Would he change anything 53:31 Advice for LGBTQ+ folks afraid of leaving a visible gay community behind 56:30 Stephen's books, contact information, and final words of wisdom 📊 Lancaster by the Numbers
💬 Moments Worth the Listen On why there is no gayborhood: Stephen's answer is not that Lancaster is too small for one. It is that the whole city functions as one. You do not feel a need to self-segregate to feel safe and welcomed. Everyone is simply mixed in, including the older gay couple across the street. On the Elks Club: Stephen remembers his father's Elks lodge as conservative and white. Lancaster's chapter has a contingent of gay members who call themselves the Gelks, and Tuesday night bingo is how Stephen and Addison met half their friend group. On the first two hours in town: Trans flags, Pride flags, and Black Lives Matter signs on the walk. Lilacs and tulips in bloom. Strangers stopping to say you have got to move here. That was it. On what he would change: Nothing. Every day we pretty much get up and pinch ourselves. On the fear of leaving a gay scene behind: You can be yourself anywhere. Gay bars matter enormously in places where people feel unsafe, Stephen says, but Lancaster is not one of those places, and the LGBTQ+ people who live there are there precisely because they feel safe 🎭 Arts and Culture Mentioned
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| Uruguay for LGBTQ+ Expats: Permanent Residency, Public Healthcare, and Daily Life in Montevideo | 23 Sep 2026 | 01:30:54 | |
🎙️ Uruguay for LGBTQ+ Expats: Permanent Residency, Public Healthcare, and Daily Life in Montevideo Hosted by Mark Goldstein, Where Do Gays Retire Uruguay has some of the strongest LGBTQ+ legal protections in the world, and almost nobody talks about it. Steven Guthrie noticed. When he started looking for somewhere outside the United States to build a life, Spain and Mexico were the obvious candidates. Both were also filling up fast, with rising housing costs and growing friction between newcomers and locals. He wanted somewhere his money would go far and stay that way. A trip through Argentina and Chile, plus a detour into astrocartography, landed him in Montevideo in October 2022. He has been there ever since, now holding permanent residency and managing a growing LGBTQ+ immigrant community of roughly 160 people. In this chat, Steven walks us through what daily life in Montevideo actually costs, how he navigated residency without a lawyer, what the public healthcare system covers, and why individualism will not serve you well in Uruguay. 🌟 What We Cover
🌈 LGBTQ+ Life
💰 Costs and Housing
🏥 Healthcare
🛂 Visas and Residency
📊 Numbers Steven Shared At the time of recording, Steven described a comfortable monthly budget of roughly $1,500 to $2,000 for a lifestyle similar to what most Americans expect. He pays around $850 a month for a two-bedroom apartment in the city center, with utilities typically running $50 to $75 depending on the season. He mentioned seeing refurbished apartments in the city center listed around $150,000. Private mutualista healthcare, as he understands it, runs roughly $50 to $70 a month, while the public ASSE system he uses has been free for him, including HIV medications, specialist visits, and lab work. He estimated relocation specialists charge somewhere between $1,000 and $2,000 per person. Costs vary by neighborhood, lifestyle, and exchange rate. "I would say be prepared for it not to be a sunshines and rainbows story, because even if you have all your I's dotted and T's crossed, there is going to be an endless amount of mistakes and different mishaps that happen throughout the way, and you have to be able to be prepared to just smile through it." — Steven Guthrie🔗 Resources Mentioned
🎧 Listen Now Find this episode and the full catalog at wheredogaysretire.com, covering destinations across Europe, Latin America, Asia, Africa, and more than forty US cities. 💬 Join the Conversation Thinking about Montevideo and want to talk with people already living it? Steven's group welcomes questions from prospective immigrants at info@centrolgbtquy.org. Are you an LGBTQ+ expat living in a destination you love? We would love to hear your story. The Where Do Gays Retire podcast is always looking for guests from affirming destinations around the world. Reach out to Mark at mark@wheredogaysretire.com. The information shared in this episode reflects the personal experiences of our guest and is for general informational purposes only. Costs, healthcare details, residency requirements, and tax rules described here reflect Steven's own experience at the time of recording and are not universal figures. Immigration policies, healthcare coverage, and tax regulations change frequently. Please consult qualified legal, medical, immigration, and financial professionals, or the appropriate Uruguayan consulate, before making any decisions about living or retiring abroad. | |||
| Retiring in Toulouse, France: Gay Life in the Pink City with Cameron Bray | 09 Sep 2026 | 01:36:00 | |
Retiring in Toulouse, France: Gay Life in the Pink City with Cameron Bray In this episode, host Mark Goldstein sits down with Cameron Bray, an Australian-born, naturalized British citizen who has been living permanently in Toulouse, France for over ten years. Cameron arrived with a simple plan: stay three months, learn some French, and move on. That plan never quite worked out. He fell in love with the city, fell in love with a French partner, and never left. Now approaching 60, Cameron is a gay man who has built a full and thriving life in southwest France, founding his own international human resources consultancy and navigating French business life as a foreign entrepreneur. He hopes that by sharing his experience, he can inspire others to take that same leap. Note on currency: as of June 21, 2026, 1 Euro equals approximately $1.15 USD. All figures in this episode are from Cameron's personal experience and reflect conditions at the time of recording. What Is Toulouse Toulouse is France's fourth largest metropolitan area and its fastest growing city, located in the southwest corner of the country near the Spanish border, roughly three hours northwest of Barcelona. Often called La Ville Rose, or the Pink City, the city earned its name from the distinctive long, thin red bricks used in its buildings throughout the region. In certain light, particularly at sunset, the bricks give the entire city a warm pink glow. The Garonne River runs through it. Views of the Pyrenees mountain range are visible from the city center. Cameron describes Toulouse as a "Goldilocks city": not too big, not too small. At roughly 1.2 million people in the metro area, it has enough energy, ambience, and cultural life to feel vibrant, without the overwhelming scale of a major global city. It is also France's biggest university town outside of Paris, which gives it a youthful, buzzing street energy that Cameron says he still pinches himself about after a decade. Why Cameron Chose It Cameron did not plan to stay. He came on the recommendation of friends who had a small apartment there, with a flight to check out the Alliance Francaise language school. He had been made redundant as an HR director in Brighton, had recently come out of a long relationship, and had the financial cushion and the freedom to try something different. What was meant to be a three-month adventure became a permanent life. He describes the move as one driven by gut instinct rather than analysis, noting that over-thinking it might have sent him straight back to the airport. LGBTQ+ Life Toulouse and France more broadly have a deeply laissez-faire attitude toward sexuality. Cameron says he has never experienced discrimination, abuse, or felt unsafe walking the streets of Toulouse or anywhere else in France as a gay man, including in the countryside. France was one of the first countries to decriminalize homosexuality, and same-sex civil partnerships and marriages have been legal for over twenty years, with the same rights as heterosexual partnerships. There is no defined gayborhood in Toulouse, and Cameron says that is very much a reflection of how accepted LGBTQ+ life is there: there is simply no need for one. Gay bars and venues exist, though Cameron notes, as in many cities around the world, the traditional scene has shifted with the rise of apps. Gay men and women live throughout the city and in the surrounding countryside. Cameron has friends, a gay couple, who live in a small rural village an hour and a half away and were welcomed by the mayor at the village festival with flowers and wine, the same as every other new resident. Daily Life and Walkability Toulouse is highly walkable, and Cameron describes his immediate neighborhood as a textbook example of what some urban planners now call the 15-minute city. His bakery is in the building. His butcher, fruit and vegetable shop, wine shop, pharmacy, supermarket, and tram stop are all within a few hundred yards. A fresh market takes place nearby daily. Over the past decade, Toulouse has actively worked to remove cars from the historic city center, converting parking into bike lanes and creating shared pedestrian, cycling, and scooter spaces. The old city is a labyrinth of cobbled streets that was never really designed for cars in the first place. Cameron and his partner walk rather than drive and say they rarely take taxis anywhere within the city. Food and Cafe Culture Food culture in Toulouse is rural-based and deeply regional. The city is known for a few signature dishes: the saucisse de Toulouse, a thick, fatty sausage typically served with pureed potatoes; cassoulet, a hearty white bean stew with dark sausage and breadcrumbs that originated as farmhouse food; and anything involving duck, including confit and, yes, foie gras. Fresh markets are central to daily life, and most meals are cooked from scratch. Processed food is far less prevalent in supermarkets than in the US or Australia. Cameron describes the French relationship with food as one of appreciation rather than consumption. Meals are structured: breakfast, then nothing, then lunch, then nothing, then dinner. Portion sizes are smaller. People eat slowly, talk about what they are eating, and treat wine and food as part of the conversation rather than just fuel. The result, Cameron observes with some bemusement, is that Toulouse is full of people eating rich food in large quantities and yet very few are obese. The cafe culture in Toulouse is genuine. Coffee in the morning under plane trees, wine in the evening at a bar. The city is also France's largest university town outside of Paris, which means the streets stay lively, particularly on Thursday nights, which the locals call le petit weekend. Dinner tends to start around 7:30 to 8:00, preceded by a proper apero of charcuterie, cheese, bread, and wine that can last an hour or more on its own. Language Cameron arrived expecting Toulouse to be less English-friendly than Paris or Bordeaux. He was wrong. Because Airbus, the aviation company, is headquartered in Toulouse, and because American firms like Pratt and Whitney and Rockwell Collins have a major presence there as well, English is widely spoken throughout the city. The European Space Agency is also based there. Signs at the airport and many local businesses operate bilingually. Cameron says that when he first arrived and tried his schoolboy French, shopkeepers would often just switch straight to English. That said, Cameron strongly recommends making a genuine effort with the language. The French appreciate the attempt, even if they complete the sentence for you. He adds that younger French people today are notably more fluent in English than the older generation, and that Toulouse in particular has an internationally-minded feel that makes it more accessible for non-French speakers than many French cities. Costs and Housing Cameron owns a one-bedroom apartment in Toulouse with views of the Garonne River and the Pyrenees, a terrace, a garage, and a cellar. He paid 190,000 euros (approximately $218,500 USD) for it three years ago. His annual electricity bill runs around 400 euros (approximately $460 USD) for two people, in part because of favorable sun exposure in winter. His internet, phone, and basic television package runs approximately 40 euros a month (approximately $46 USD). His mobile phone plan costs around 15 euros a month (approximately $17 USD). Public transport within Toulouse is 2 euros per trip for the subway or bus, and free for seniors. Train travel across the region is one euro on the first Sunday of every month, a government initiative to help people with fewer means stay connected. All museums are free that same Sunday. Cameron describes France's socialist economic model as providing a genuine cushion: during the energy crisis triggered by the war in Ukraine, electricity prices in France rose only 4 percent while UK prices spiked 54 percent, because the French government owns its energy suppliers and capped price increases. French property culture is notably different from the Anglo world. Property here is bought to live in, not to flip. Prices rise slowly. Cameron says the expectation of making a fast profit on real estate simply does not exist in France the way it does in the US or Australia, and he sees that as a feature rather than a bug. Healthcare France operates a universal healthcare system. If you are sick, you will be seen and treated regardless of your ability to pay. Cameron describes five hospital visits for conjunctivitis earlier this year: he walked in, was treated, and walked out each time without a bill. Emergency and life-critical care is covered entirely by the state. Some medications require a small co-pay; others are free. Most residents supplement the public system with a mutuelle, a top-up private insurance that covers things like a private hospital room, dental, physiotherapy, and osteopathy. Cameron pays 60 euros a month (approximately $69 USD) for his mutuelle. He emphasizes this is not like American private health insurance: the mutuelle covers what the state does not, rather than replacing the state system entirely. For new arrivals, getting into the French health system takes patience. Cameron waited nine months to receive his health card. Bureaucracy is a real hurdle, and the administration does not make the process intuitive. However, once you are in the system, it is reliable. A colonoscopy consultation for Cameron's partner, who has a family history of colon cancer, was booked about four months out, which Cameron considers reasonable for a non-urgent specialist appointment. He notes... | |||
| Is Lyon, France the Most Livable City in Europe for Gay Retirees? | 26 Aug 2026 | 01:16:40 | |
Is Lyon, France the Most Livable City in Europe for Gay Retirees? With Eric Way In this episode, host Mark Goldstein sits down with Eric Way, a Tennessee-born engineer who arrived in Lyon, France, in 1989 as a university exchange student and never left. Now approaching his 38th year in the city, Eric lives downtown in a 19th-century apartment with his French architect husband and splits time between Lyon and a farmhouse they own in the French Alps. He brings a rare depth of perspective: nearly four decades as an American expat, a career in corporate diversity and inclusion, and a front-row seat to how Lyon has evolved as a livable, gay-friendly city. This episode covers what it actually looks like to build a life in Lyon: the walkability, the world-ranked healthcare, the cost of living compared to Paris, the LGBTQ+ scene, the visa path, and the honest trade-offs. What Is Lyon Lyon is France's third-largest city, located in southeastern France at the confluence of the Rhône and Saône rivers, a geographic feature that gives the city two riverfront parks and a distinctive linear layout. It sits roughly two hours south of Paris by high-speed train and serves as a hub for reaching the French Alps, the Beaujolais wine region, Burgundy, the Riviera, and even Barcelona. The historic center, known as the Presqu'île (the peninsula), is a UNESCO World Heritage site dating back to the Renaissance and the Middle Ages. Lyon is widely considered the gastronomic capital of France. Why Eric Chose Lyon Eric arrived in 1989 on a one-year university exchange program and found something he did not expect: a city whose values matched his own. Coming from a fundamentalist Christian family in Tennessee and still in the process of coming out, he discovered in Lyon a culture of live-and-let-live tolerance that felt, in his words, freer than the United States. He stayed. A few years later, he met his husband. The rest, as he says, is history. LGBTQ+ Life Lyon has a visible but modest LGBTQ+ scene concentrated around the City Hall area on the Presqu'île. At the time of recording, there are two gay bars, a gay sauna, a sex club, and a bear bar reportedly opening within months. There is a city-sponsored LGBTQ+ center and an annual Pride march, though Eric notes that Lyon Pride has become more politically divided in recent years, with some organizers now refusing corporate participation. The broader city is deeply accepting. Eric and his husband have lived part-time in a 250-person Alpine village for years and describe being fully adopted by their elderly neighbors without a moment of discomfort. Among their friend group, gay and straight friendships naturally overlap, though, like many couples without children, their closest circle has become predominantly other gay couples over time. Daily Life and Walkability Eric's doctor is three blocks away. His pharmacy, organic grocery store, bank, bakery, butcher, and eye care are all within one to two blocks. Outdoor markets run on Wednesdays and Sundays in his neighborhood. The metro system is efficient and growing, with a tram network expanding even faster. A single ticket costs approximately 2.30 euros and covers one hour of travel. Monthly passes run around 100 euros. Seniors receive rail discounts starting at age 60, often allowing first-class travel at second-class prices. Eric drives his older car into Lyon no more than 52 times per year under a city environmental permit system, which he now finds perfectly adequate since he is no longer working. Lyon's riverfront parks, pedestrian streets, and walkable neighborhoods make car ownership largely optional for daily life. Costs and Housing Lyon is typically half the price of Paris for both rent and property. Eric and his husband purchased their 800-square-foot, two-bedroom downtown apartment approximately 30 years ago for about $35,000. It is now worth roughly ten times that. Their monthly electricity bill runs approximately 70 to 80 euros every two months; gas adds about 45 euros on top of that. France applies a 20% VAT on most purchases, which is worth factoring into any cost-of-living comparison. Healthcare France's healthcare system consistently ranks first in the world for quality, accessibility, and cost. A standard doctor visit costs 30 euros; specialist visits range from 70 to over 100 euros. Foreign residents access coverage through PUMA, France's universal health coverage, which applies to legal residents regardless of employment status. Most residents also carry a Mutuelle, a supplementary top-up insurance policy that covers what the national system does not. Eric pays approximately 250 euros per month for a Mutuelle covering both himself and his husband. Visas and Residency The standard route for American retirees is a long-stay visitor visa, applied for through the French consulate in the United States before departure. Residents typically start with one-year renewals before eventually qualifying for a ten-year card. Eric notes that a recent change to French law has removed the citizenship pathway for non-working residents. Americans retiring to France on a visitor visa are unlikely to be eligible for naturalization under the current rules. France does not officially recognize a digital nomad visa. Eric cautions anyone planning to work remotely in France to take legal advice before doing so, as working without proper authorization carries real risk. Taxes The US-France tax treaty is highly favorable for American retirees. If your income is US-sourced, France will generally not tax it, and you will continue paying US rates. Eric recommends working with both a US tax preparer and a French one, particularly for the first few years. One specific flag: France does not recognize trusts. If you have a trust established in the United States, you need professional advice before moving to France, as it will be taxed very unfavorably and may fall outside the treaty's protections. France also has a wealth tax on real estate holdings above approximately 1.2 million euros, and forced heirship laws that entitle children to a portion of your estate regardless of your wishes. Both are worth understanding before making the move. Crime and Safety Eric has lived in Lyon's city center for nearly four decades and describes feeling consistently safe. In that entire time, he recalls one incident in which he and his husband were briefly followed downtown and had to walk away quickly. France has a higher rate of property crime relative to the United States, but a significantly lower rate of violent crime and essentially no gun violence outside of hunting contexts. Responsible gun ownership is legally required: pistols for target shooting require a course and registration. Arts, Culture, and Community Lyon has the second-largest fine arts museum in France outside the Louvre, a national orchestra, a Jean Nouvel-designed opera house, the Maison de la Danse (an internationally renowned contemporary dance center with a biennial festival), and rotating modern art exhibitions in repurposed industrial spaces. The Festival of Lights each December transforms the city's buildings into a four-day sound-and-light spectacle. June 21 brings the Fête de la Musique, a nationwide outdoor concert event where every square in the city fills with live music from classical to rock to jazz. What to Know Before You Go French is essential. Eric is direct about this: people who arrive expecting to get by on a few phrases or believing fluency will come by osmosis are setting themselves up for frustration and social isolation. He recommends investing in one-on-one instruction before you arrive, not after. Jumpspeak is his suggested app for building conversational fluency. The climate has four seasons: mild winters with rare snow, pleasant springs and autumns, and summers that are warming noticeably due to climate change. Eric manages without air conditioning through insulation techniques, though newer and renovated buildings increasingly have heat pumps that provide cooling as a byproduct. Lyon rewards people who want to get out and explore. The city sits at the gateway to the Alps, Burgundy, Beaujolais, Provence, the Riviera, Switzerland, and Italy. Eric and his husband once went bungee jumping in the Alps, drove to Italy for pasta for dinner, and were home in Lyon that night. For those who prefer to stay closer to home, the outdoor markets, river walks, and restaurant scene are enough to fill a very good life. Resources Mentioned Presqu'ile: Lyon's central peninsula neighborhood between the Rhone and Saone rivers Perrache: The original Lyon train station, three minutes from Eric's apartment Fourviere: The hilltop with Lyon's famous basilica and Roman ruins Beaujolais vineyards: 30 minutes from Lyon; beautiful in autumn Albertville: Near Eric's Alpine farmhouse; site of the 1992 Winter Olympics Festival of Lights (Fete des Lumieres): Annual four-day light installation festival each December Fete de la Musique: June 21, nationwide outdoor music festival Maison de la Danse: Lyon's internationally recognized contemporary dance center PUMA: France's universal health coverage for residents Mutuelle: Supplementary insurance that tops up public healthcare coverage PACS: French civil partnership; same tax treatment as marriage, with one exception: survivor pension rights do not transfer unless married Jumpspeak: Language learning app recommended by Eric for conversational French Listen to this episode wherever you get your podcasts, on YouTube, or at | |||
| Retiring as a Single Lesbian in Setúbal, Portugal: Finding Community Beyond Lisbon with Jules de Mello | 12 Aug 2026 | 01:44:53 | |
Retiring as a Single Lesbian in Setúbal, Portugal: Finding Community Beyond Lisbon Guest: Jules de Mello | Host: Mark Goldstein When Jules de Mello retired after a 27-year career as a federal criminal investigator, she went looking for a sunny, walkable place near the water where she could build a full life on her own terms. Lisbon was the plan, until the rents priced her out. Then she discovered Setúbal, a working port city on the cusp of its own renaissance, and never looked back. In this conversation, Jules opens up about what it really takes to retire as a single lesbian abroad: finding her people, and often building community from scratch, navigating a country that is warmly accepting but culturally reserved, and weighing the honest trade-offs of starting over solo in a place where you do not yet speak the language. It is a warm, practical, and refreshingly candid look at one of Portugal's most underrated cities. Meet Jules Jules spent 27 years as a federal criminal investigator across several U.S. agencies before retiring in 2022. With Azorean roots on her great-grandfather's side, Portugal had always called to her. She first scouted the country in 2018, arrived permanently in Setúbal in April 2023, and soon became a self-described "connector," co-founding the Setúbal Pride meetup to bring locals, women, trans, and non-binary folks together in a community that had mostly orbited Lisbon before. In this episode
What you'll learn Why Setúbal, and not Lisbon? A medium-sized port city of roughly 140,000 people, Setúbal sits on an estuary with the Arrábida Nature Reserve rising behind it. Jules compares the feel to standing at the water's edge in Seattle, looking back at the hills. Downtown is flat and walkable, the covered market is considered one of the best in Portugal, and you are a short drive or train ride from Lisbon without paying Lisbon prices. What acceptance actually looks like. Portugal is legally progressive, with marriage equality and legal abortion that both predate the United States, but the culture is reserved and private. As Jules puts it, you can show up exactly as you are and be accepted, without anyone needing to label it or make a fuss. Older generations who lived under the dictatorship tend to be more guarded, while younger people simply do not think twice. The reality of building community. Finding the LGBTQ+ community as a single woman took real effort. Jules and a friend started the Setúbal Pride meetup in early 2024, hosting tea dances, potlucks, film nights, and gatherings designed to be diverse and welcoming. Her honest take: lesbians and gay men often socialize differently, and the language and cultural barriers add another layer, so she had to become the initiator rather than wait for community to find her. Walkability with caveats. Downtown is flat, and you can reach the butcher, the market, the pharmacy, and your doctor on foot, supported by a strong local bus system. But the cobblestone calçadas are uneven and tough on anyone with mobility challenges, so comfortable, flat walking shoes are not optional. Healthcare, honestly explained. Once you live in Portugal, you are covered under the public system, and many residents also carry private insurance. The two systems run in parallel and do not really talk to each other. Trauma and emergencies are routed through the public hospital, while private insurance speeds up elective procedures that would otherwise mean long public waitlists. Almost every physician speaks English, though front-desk staff and nurses often do not, so a translation app becomes part of every appointment. A practical snapshot These are the figures Jules shared from her own experience around the time of recording. Treat them as a starting point, not a quote: costs shift with the market, and euro amounts convert to dollars at the current exchange rate.
Visas and residency Jules came on the D7 visa, sometimes called the retiree or passive-income visa. Her path: initial approval valid for 2 years, followed by a 3-year renewal, with the option to apply for permanent residency after 5 years of legal residence. She applied through the VFS vendor that handles Portuguese consular appointments in the U.S., interviewed in Washington, D.C., and saw approval in about 60 days, though timelines vary widely by consulate and can stretch to many months if documents expire mid-process. Important accuracy note on citizenship. Jules mentions that the path to Portuguese citizenship was extended from 5 to 10 years. We confirmed this: Portugal's Parliament approved a revised Nationality Law on April 1, 2026, and the President signed it on May 3, 2026, raising the residency requirement for naturalization to ten years for most non-EU nationals and seven years for EU and Portuguese-speaking (CPLP) nationals, with the residency clock now counting from the issuance of your first residence permit. Some details, including the exact effective date upon official publication and how the change applies to people already in the pipeline, were still being settled at the time of recording, and a constitutional challenge had been filed. This is a fast-moving and consequential area, so if citizenship is part of your plan, please confirm the current rules with a qualified Portuguese immigration attorney before making decisions. Permanent residency after five years is a separate process from citizenship. Jules on the honest trade-off The hardest thing she gave up was the ease of finding community. Back home, queer life came with built-in hiking groups, dinner clubs, and shows to attend together. In Setúbal, she had to build that herself, and she has, becoming the bridge-builder her Portuguese choir mates now thank for getting everyone out the door. Her advice for anyone considering the move: visit beyond the vacation version, stay in a real neighborhood, do your own grocery run, and feel what daily life is honestly like before you commit. And, in the spirit of a friend who lives by it, say yes to every invitation. Listen and connect Listen to the full conversation wherever you get your podcasts, and explore more LGBTQ+ retirement destinations at wheredogaysretire.com. Have a question about retiring abroad or a destination you'd like us to cover? Reach out through the website and join the conversation in our Facebook community. https://www.facebook.com/groups/GayRetirementPlaces "This was a wonderful, beautiful place to land. And I like sharing it with other people, because it's that good." — Jules de Mello | |||
| Transgender in Mexico: Living Authentically Abroad with Stephanie Byers | 29 Jul 2026 | 01:34:37 | |
🎙️ Where Do Gays Retire Podcast Transgender in Mexico: Living Authentically Abroad Guest: Stephanie Byers |Host: Mark Goldstein What does it actually feel like to walk down the street as a trans woman in a small Mexican lakeside town, and have nobody give you a second glance? That's the reality Stephanie Byers describes in this deeply moving and eye-opening episode. Stephanie, a former Kansas state legislator, GLSEN National Educator of the Year, and the first transgender Native American ever elected to a U.S. state legislature, and her wife Lori now call Ajijic, Mexico, home. And she says it's the freest she has ever felt. Whether you're trans, LGBTQ+, or simply curious about what life looks like on the shores of Lake Chapala, this episode is for you. Stephanie holds nothing back, from the paperwork to the pharmacies to the cost of a knee replacement to the neighbor who shows up with a walker before you even get home from the hospital. 🌟 About Stephanie ByersStephanie Byers is a 63-year-old trans woman, Native American, educator, activist, and trailblazer. Here are a few highlights from her remarkable life:
🌈 LGBTQ+ Life in Ajijic Stephanie describes the Ajijic expat community as overwhelmingly liberal and affirming, with a thriving LGBTQ+ presence:
🏥 Healthcare for Trans Women One of the most practical topics in this episode, and one of the most reassuring:
🛂 Visas and Residency
🚶 Daily Life and Walkability
💰 Cost of Living
🎭 Arts, Culture, and Community
🌤 What to Know Before You Go
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| Retiring in Cuenca, Ecuador: Cost of Living, LGBTQ+ Life, and Why Expats Love It | 15 Jul 2026 | 01:21:11 | |
Living the Slow Life: Retiring in Cuenca, Ecuador with William Hutter What if the secret to a fulfilling retirement was simply slowing down? William Hutter didn't plan to fall in love with Cuenca, Ecuador. He went to visit his husband's hometown and kept crying every time he had to leave. Eventually, he stopped leaving. In this episode, William shares what life is really like in one of South America's most livable cities for LGBTQ+ expats. A therapist and educator by training, William brings both personal warmth and honest reflection to everything from the $235-a-year private health insurance to the night watchmen who bicycle through his neighborhood blowing a whistle. This is one of the most grounded, real-world conversations we've had on the show. What We Cover: * How William ended up in Cuenca and why it felt like home from the very first visit * The city's geography, elevation, and why "eternal spring" is more than just a marketing phrase * Cost of living in 2024, including what's changed as more expats have arrived * Housing options, from renting in the city center to buying a two-bedroom condo for under $180,000 * The healthcare system, including $235-a-year private insurance that covers dental and vision, no questions asked about pre-existing conditions * LGBTQ+ life, visibility, and safety, including holding hands in public and a brand new Pride parade * Visa and residency options for retirees, with a look at the investment visa, marital visa, and path to citizenship * Walkability, the 35-cent tram, and why Uber doesn't exist in Cuenca * Food culture, from fresh markets and guinea pig to the best pistachio ice cream you'll ever have * The honest trade-offs, including inconsistent sidewalks, occasional brownouts, and the need for flexibility Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to William Hutter and his unexpected path to Cuenca 02:13 - Why William cried every time he had to leave 04:02 - What most people get wrong about Cuenca 05:00 - Three words that describe Cuenca: relational, walkable, grounded 06:00 - Who thrives in Cuenca and who struggles 09:33 - Geography, elevation, and surrounding landscape 10:23 - Climate, green spaces, and year-round spring 12:19 - Humidity, weather patterns, and proximity to the coast 15:30 - Cost of living and how expat growth is changing prices 17:15 - Rental and purchase prices, city center vs. outside 19:18 - What a retired couple actually needs to live comfortably 22:05 - Utilities, internet, and no heating or air conditioning 25:16 - Housing market dynamics and neighborhood differences 26:02 - Language, Spanish proficiency, and William's honest advice 31:23 - Walkability, the tram, buses, and getting around without a car 35:33 - Terrain and sidewalk realities for seniors with mobility concerns 37:19 - Taxis, ride-share alternatives, and the cost of getting around 39:10 - LGBTQ+ community, visibility, and safety as a same-sex couple 45:21 - Pride events, gay bars, and expat community meetups 46:35 - Visa options, residency, and the path to Ecuadorian citizenship 48:44 - Taxes, private insurance, and the public healthcare system 51:46 - $235-a-year health coverage and pre-existing conditions 53:53 - Medications, same-day appointments, and what healthcare really costs 56:07 - Crime, gun laws, and neighborhood safety 59:19 - Night watchmen, safe streets, and walking home after dark 61:02 - Arts, culture, museums, and why Cuenca is Ecuador's arts capital 65:46 - Food culture, fresh markets, guinea pig, and dining costs 71:14 - Cafe culture, ice cream, and coffee without free refills 74:09 - Restaurant culture, tipping, and international cuisine 78:29 - How Cuenca compares to Mexico and Portugal 79:28 - One sentence: why retire in Cuenca? Resources mentioned in this episode: * Montanita, Ecuador, recommended by Brian Longstreth * Duolingo for Spanish practice * San Sebastian neighborhood in Cuenca, recommended for expat-friendly cafes and restaurants * Ecuador expat communities on Facebook The information shared in this episode reflects the personal experience of our guest and is not intended as legal, financial, or medical advice. Please consult qualified professionals before making any decisions about international relocation, visa applications, healthcare, or financial planning. | |||
| The Frying Pan Is Now the Fire — Where Do We Go From Here? | 01 Jul 2026 | 00:33:53 | |
WHERE DO GAYS RETIRE PODCAST Show Notes The Frying Pan Is Now the Fire — Where Do We Go From Here? Hosted by Mark Goldstein| Solo Episode |April 2026 Sequel to: "Out of the Frying Pan Into the Fire" (July 2025) When Mark recorded "Out of the Frying Pan Into the Fire" last July, he was mostly thinking about political instability in other countries. He wasn't quite expecting the frying pan itself to turn up the heat this dramatically right here at home. In this solo follow-up episode, Mark takes a calm, clear-eyed look at where things actually stand in the United States right now for LGBTQ+ retirees — and more importantly, what your real options are. This is not a political commentary. It is not about panic. It is exactly what this podcast has always been: practical, honest information to help you make informed decisions about where to spend your golden years, openly, safely, and fabulously. In This Episode
U.S. States With Strong LGBTQ+ Legal Protections — Featured in This Episode Mark highlights states where same-sex marriage rights are protected at the state constitutional level or through strong statutory protections — states where your rights would remain intact even if the federal picture changes. Constitutional protection states:
Strong statutory protection states are also mentioned:
International Destinations Mentioned in This Episode
For our full archive of international destination episodes, see the Episode Resource Guide linked in the show notes for this episode. LGBTQ+ Retirement Communities Mentioned
Referenced Episode "Out of the Frying Pan Into the Fire — Why the Political Climate Matters for LGBTQ+ Retirees" Originally aired July 2, 2025. Available in the podcast archive at wheredogaysretire.com. Resources Mentioned in This Episode U.S. Legal & Advocacy:
International Research:
Episode Resource Guide Download the companion Episode Resource Guide for this episode — a curated list of our top international destination episodes and our top U.S. protective state episodes, organized and ranked by downloads. Available at wheredogaysretire.com/fryingpan2 Connect With Mark & the Community
Support the Podcast If you enjoy the Where Do Gays Retire podcast, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs it. You can also support the show by buying Mark a coffee at wheredogaysretire.com — each $5 coffee helps keep the podcast going. "Retirement is not just about warm weather. It is about living openly, safely, and fabulously, wherever in the world that may be for you." — Mark Goldstein, Where Do Gays Retire Episode Resource Guide: Where to Retire — International & U.S. Destinations Companion resource to: "The Frying Pan Is Now the Fire — Where Do We Go From Here?" Whether you are thinking about staying in the United States or exploring a life abroad, this guide brings together the most-listened-to episodes from the Where Do Gays Retire podcast archive. U.S. episodes are curated to include only states where LGBTQ+ legal protections are strong and where same-sex marriage would remain protected even in the absence of a federal ruling. All episodes are available wherever you listen to podcasts, or at wheredogaysretire.com. PART 1: Top International Destination EpisodesThese are the international episodes your fellow listeners have returned to most. Spain leads by a wide margin, appearing seven times in the top fifteen.
Key destinations in the archive: Spain (Valencia, Malaga, Sitges, Torremolinos, Nerja, Madrid, Gran Canaria) • Mexico (Ajijic, Puerto Vallarta, Mexico City, Oaxaca, San Miguel de Allende) • France (Nice, Oloron Sainte-Marie, Paris, Dordogne) • Portugal (Lisbon, Cascais, Algarve, Braga, Tavira, Porto, Ericeira, Madeira) • Greece, Netherlands, Malta, Ireland, Germany, Argentina, Colombia, Costa Rica, Thailand, Ecuador, Uruguay PART 2: U.S. Episodes — States with Strong LGBTQ+ Legal ProtectionsThese episodes cover states where same-sex marriage rights are protected at the constitutional level or through strong statutory protections — states where your rights would remain intact even if the federal picture changes. ⭐ Note: Nevada has the strongest constitutional protection of any state — marriage equality is positively enshrined in its state constitution. A Nevada episode is not yet in the archive! ——— CONSTITUTIONAL PROTECTION STATES California — Right to marry enshrined as a fundamental right in the state constitution (2024)
New Mexico — State constitution requires marriage equality (Griego v. Oliver, 2013); codified by unanimous legislative vote (2019)
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| Gay Retirement in Querétaro, Mexico: Real Costs, Healthcare, Visas & LGBTQ+ Life | 17 Jun 2026 | 01:41:39 | |
🎙️ Where Do Gays Retire Podcast wheredogaysretire.com Gay Retirement in Querétaro, Mexico: Real Costs, Healthcare, Visas & LGBTQ+ Life Featuring Bryan Hutson & Juan Gomar •Hosted by Mark Goldstein Most people think of Puerto Vallarta or San Miguel de Allende when they imagine retiring in Mexico. Bryan Hutson and Juan Gomar — the gay couple behind boutique candle brand Casa Beige — chose something different: Querétaro, a modern, walkable, affordable city in Mexico's highlands that almost no one in the LGBTQ+ retirement conversation is talking about yet. In this episode, they share what it's really like to live there — real costs, healthcare experiences, how they got their residency, and what the gay community is actually like on the ground. 🎯 What You'll Learn
🌺 About the Guests Bryan Hutson has over 40 years of experience in horticulture, retail leadership, landscape design, and nonprofit arts. Juan Gomar is an accomplished floral and event designer originally from Guatemala, known for bold, expressive work with high-end clients in Dallas. Together, they founded Casa Beige, a boutique soy candle and lifestyle brand inspired by Mexican culture and memory, now based in the hills of Tejada outside Querétaro's city center. 💡 Key Takeaways
🎧 Listen & Watch Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and all major platforms. Visit wheredogaysretire.com to listen and explore every destination episode 💬 Stay Connected
If this episode helped you, please share it with someone thinking about retiring abroad. It really does make a difference. The information shared in this episode reflects the personal experiences of our guests and is for general informational purposes only. Visa rules, healthcare policies, and costs change frequently. Please consult qualified legal, medical, immigration, and financial professionals before making any decisions about retiring or living abroad. | |||
| Cologne, Germany: The Gay Capital of Europe That No One Talks About | 03 Jun 2026 | 01:02:17 | |
🎙️ Where Do Gays Retire Podcast Episode: Cologne, Germany — The Gay Capital of Europe That No One Talks About Guest: Bryson Kelpe Have you ever considered Cologne, Germany, as a place to retire or live abroad? Most people haven't — and after this episode, you just might add it to your list. This week I sat down with Bryson Kelpe, an American expat therapist who left Tennessee behind in 2019 and built a full, rich life in Germany's gay capital. Bryson brings a unique perspective — not just as someone who lives there, but as a therapist who works daily with expats navigating the real challenges and joys of life in Germany. 🏙️ Where Is Cologne?Cologne is a city of about one million people situated in northwest Germany on the Rhine River, close to the borders of Belgium, the Netherlands, and Luxembourg. It's famous for its stunning UNESCO World Heritage cathedral, its legendary Carnival season, and its warm, welcoming culture, which sets it apart from other German cities. Bryson describes it simply as a "gay village on the Rhine." 🌈 Why They Chose ItAfter honeymooning in Germany in 2016, Bryson and his husband kept coming back — scouting both Berlin and Cologne before his husband's work gave them the opening to make the move permanent in 2019. What kept them? The people. The community. The connectivity to the rest of Europe. And yes, the fact that Switzerland was just too expensive. 🏳️🌈 LGBTQ+ Life in CologneCologne is widely considered Germany's gay capital — and it earns that title year-round, not just during Pride. Highlights include:
🏡 Daily Life Cologne is highly walkable, and car-free living is entirely realistic. Public transportation is excellent, and car-sharing apps like Flinkster and Miles make day trips easy without owning a vehicle. Weekly outdoor markets, international cuisine, and a thriving cafe culture make everyday life comfortable and enjoyable. Sundays, however, grocery stores are closed — so plan ahead! 💶 Cost of LivingCologne is considered moderate by European standards. Some real numbers from Bryson:
🏥 Healthcare Germany has both a public and private healthcare system. Public insurance is available to those working in Germany who earn below a certain income threshold — you pay part, your employer pays part. With public insurance, you simply use your chip card at the doctor's or pharmacy. Private insurance requires paying up front and getting reimbursed. Many foreign retirees opt for private international health insurance, at least initially, until they establish residency and determine their eligibility for the public system. Emergency care is dramatically more affordable than in the US — Bryson's ER visit, including an X-ray on a weekend, came to just 128 euros. Note: Healthcare eligibility and costs vary based on your employment status, visa type, and residency situation. Consult a qualified advisor before making decisions. 📋 Visas — Pathways for American RetireesGermany does not have a formal retirement visa, but there are several pathways for American retirees:
The US and Germany also have a Social Security totalization agreement, which can benefit Americans who have worked in both countries. Note: German immigration rules can change and vary by local immigration office. Always consult a qualified German immigration attorney before making decisions. ⚖️ Honest Trade-offsWhat you gain: Walkability, connectivity to all of Europe, affordable food and healthcare, a rich LGBTQ+ community, safety, and a culture that will push you out of your comfort zone in the best way. What you give up: American-style convenience and instant gratification. Banking, bureaucracy, and apartment hunting all require patience. And learning German — while not strictly required — will meaningfully deepen your experience and friendships. 🎧 Listen NowFind this episode wherever you get your podcasts, or visit www.wheredogaysretire.com 💬 Join the ConversationWould YOU retire in Cologne? Drop a comment, send me a DM, or email me at mark@wheredogaysretire.com — I'd love to hear your thoughts. "I live in Cologne for the people and the community you'll make here." — Bryson Kelpe Warmly, Mark Goldstein 🎙️ Host, Where Do Gays Retire 🌐 www.wheredogaysretire.com ✉️ mark@wheredogaysretire.com 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/wheredogaysretire 📸 Instagram: @wheredogaysretire ☕ Enjoyed the show? Buy me a coffee! The Cologne Bermuda Triangle refers to the cluster of gay bars, clubs, and restaurants concentrated around the Schaafenstrasse neighborhood — so called because once you enter, you may never find your way out! It's the heart of Cologne's LGBTQ+ nightlife and one of the most well-known gay entertainment districts in all of Germany. This episode is intended for informational purposes only. Immigration, tax, and healthcare rules change frequently and vary by individual circumstance. Always consult qualified legal, tax, and financial professionals before making major life decisions. | |||
| Why LGBTQ+ Retirees Are Discovering Vienna, Austria as Their Perfect New Home | 20 May 2026 | 01:22:20 | |
Living in Vienna, Austria with Nikolett Kustos: An Expat’s Perspective Discover the nuances of life in Vienna through Nikolett Kustos's experiences as a Hungarian-born photographer and resident. From cultural differences to practical cost-of-living insights, this episode offers a comprehensive view of what makes Vienna a unique and appealing place to live. In this episode:
Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to Nikolett and her background 02:00 - Reasons for moving to Vienna and cultural similarities with Hungary 05:15 - Vienna’s social attitude and community feel 07:30 - Climate, geography, and travel opportunities around Austria 10:00 - Cost of housing: old vs. new buildings 13:00 - Cost of utilities and telecommunications 15:00 - Transportation costs, public transit, and walkability 19:00 - Safety and crime rates in Vienna 21:45 - Food culture: traditional and international cuisine 25:30 - Coffeehouse scene and social habits 29:00 - Expat community and language in Vienna 33:50 - LGBTQ visibility, pride, and community safety 36:45 - Residency options, visa processes, and bureaucracy 43:00 - Healthcare system and quality of medical services 50:00 - Taxes, income tax, and international tax liabilities 55:30 - Austria’s healthcare coverage and private insurance 60:00 - Crime, safety, and gun laws 65:00 - Suitability for different demographics and lifestyle preferences 75:00 - Trade-offs: what might not appeal to everyone 78:30 - Why Vienna is a great retirement destination Resources & Links:
Connect with Nikolett: Austria’s Tax Environment Austria has no wealth tax and no inheritance, estate, or gift taxes. The inheritance and gift tax was abolished back in 2008. A few nuances worth knowing:
Austria’s Healthcare System: What American Retirees Need to Know Residents are defined as individuals who have legally resided in Austria for 6 months or more and are entitled to healthcare under the state social insurance system. However, access to the public ÖGK system depends heavily on employment status:
The visa requirement wrinkle Persons from third countries (non-EU) will only get a residence permit for staying more than six months if they can first provide proof of having health insurance covering “all risks.” So you essentially need private insurance before you can even get the visa — and then you can transition to the public system once you’re established as a resident. Monthly costs
Bottom line for listeners: An American retiree moving to Austria would likely need to start with private health insurance to obtain their visa, then, after establishing legal residency, could potentially transition to the public system — but it’s worth consulting an immigration specialist given the complexity. Note:Each section offers practical insights for prospective expats and retirees considering Vienna as their new home Please always consult a professional tax and immigration attorney before making a move. A note on long-term residency for non-EU citizens: Retiring to Austria as a US citizen is possible but genuinely difficult. The primary pathway is the Settlement Permit (Gainful Employment Excepted), which requires sufficient passive income, comprehensive health insurance, proof of accommodation, and basic German language skills. The catch is that only approximately 300 of these permits are issued nationwide each year, quota places are assigned on a first-come, first-served basis at the start of each calendar year, and immigration attorneys note that securing a spot is rarely possible without legal support. If you are serious about Austria, start the process early in the year and budget for professional immigration help. | |||
| Retirement in Cape Town: The Pros, The Trade-Offs & The Truth - With William E | 06 May 2026 | 01:19:23 | |
Living in Cape Town: Insights on Retirement, Culture, and Practical Life Explore the diverse and vibrant city of Cape Town through the eyes of local William E., as he discusses its changing landscape, LGBTQ community, cost of living, safety, healthcare, and cultural scene. Whether you're considering retiring there or just curious about life in South Africa, this episode offers valuable, firsthand perspectives. Key Topics:
Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction and William’s background in Cape Town 02:53 - Changes in Cape Town for LGBT community over the years 05:03 - Common misconceptions about Cape Town’s climate 07:38 - How geography influences daily life and seasons 09:43 - Winter lows and summer highs in Celsius 12:11 - Climate change observations and environmental challenges 14:11 - Cost of living: inflation, property prices, and affordability 16:23 - Popular areas for retirees and their accessibility 17:43 - Retirement income potential and local utility costs 20:35 - Surprising expenses for newcomers, like gym memberships 21:42 - Transportation history and options in Cape Town 23:36 - Walkability and car independence in different neighborhoods 25:18 - Evolution of LGBTQ life and acceptance in Cape Town 27:03 - Safety considerations and legal protections for LGBTQ residents 31:56 - Nightlife, gay bars, and community spaces 34:26 - General safety, crime trends, and precautions 40:26 - Healthcare system, private vs public, costs, and medication access 52:55 - Visas, residency, and legal requirements for retirees 58:59 - Food scene, dining culture, and regional cuisines 69:38 - Arts, museums, theater, and cultural happenings 71:58 - Daily routines, hobbies, and what makes residents happy 74:52 - Political climate, social tensions, and current issues 80:17 - Infrastructure challenges such as load shedding and climate adaptation 82:51 - Final thoughts: the diversity and contradictions of Cape Town 84:10 - Closing remarks and William’s final advice for prospective retirees Resources & Links: Note: The episode offers a nuanced understanding of life in Cape Town, emphasizing its contradictions — from natural beauty to infrastructural challenges. Ideal for prospective retirees, expats, or anyone curious about South Africa’s most iconic city. | |||
| HIV+ And Retiring Abroad Which Countries Actually Have Your Back? With Host Mark Goldstein | 22 Apr 2026 | 00:46:18 | |
🎧 WHERE DO GAYS RETIRE PODCAST HIV+ and Retiring Abroad: Which Countries Actually Have Your Back? Solo Episode •Host: Mark Goldstein • 46 min 17 sec Episode Description If you are HIV-positive and thinking about retiring abroad, you have probably researched the cost of living, visas, and LGBTQ+ rights. But there is one question almost nobody addresses directly: what actually happens to your antiretroviral medications when you move? Will you be able to get them? Will they be covered? Or will you arrive in a country where you are suddenly paying thousands of dollars out of pocket every month for medication you cannot live without? In this solo episode, Mark Goldstein digs into the research to give you real, sourced, country-by-country answers. He opens with a surprising look at Spain — where a legal paradox means undocumented residents have more HIV treatment rights than Americans on a legal Non-Lucrative Visa — then walks through ten countries evaluated against three clear criteria: LGBTQ+ rights, retirement visa access, and genuine HIV treatment availability. The research draws on positivedestinations.info (HIV Justice Network), the 2024 InfoVIH legal guide from gTt-VIH in Barcelona, and a series of legal guides provided by the HIV Legal Clinic at the University of Alcalá in Spain — backed by rulings from the Spanish Supreme Court. This episode is for anyone living with HIV who wants honest, accurate information before making one of the most important decisions of their life. In This Episode
Countries Covered Full Feature — All Three Criteria Met 🇵🇹 Portugal — The Gold Standard
🇦🇷 Argentina — The Latin America Leader
🇺🇾 Uruguay — The Underrated Gem
🇨🇷 Costa Rica — Central America’s Progressive Gem
🇫🇷 France — The European Option Beyond Spain
🇩🇪 Germany — Europe’s Structured Approach
🇪🇨 Ecuador — The Surprise Standout
Include With Caveats 🇲🇽 Mexico — Strong Policy, Real-World Complications
🇹🇭 Thailand — The Wildcard — Verify Before You Go
Honorable Mentions 🇨🇴 Colombia — Good Access, Important Legal Concern
🇮🇹 Italy — Excellent HIV Access, Evolving LGBTQ+ Rights
Key Resources Mentioned
HIV Legal Clinic, University of Alcalá — Free, anonymous, confidential consultations on HIV rights in Spain: clinicalegal@uah.es Share Your Story Are you HIV-positive and living abroad? Mark would love to hear about your experience accessing antiretroviral treatment in any of these countries or elsewhere in the world. Your story is confidential. You do not have to appear on the podcast. Email: mark@wheredogaysretire.com Connect & Support the Show
The information in this episode is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or medical advice. Always consult qualified healthcare and legal professionals before making decisions about living abroad. | |||
| Living in Braga, Portugal: An Expat's Personal Journey Toward Peace, Community, and Tranquility | 08 Apr 2026 | 01:14:44 | |
Living in Braga, Portugal: An Expat's Personal Journey Toward Peace, Community, and Tranquility Join us as we sit down with John Pistana, a retired American expatriate who moved from New York and Fort Lauderdale, FL, to the charming city of Braga, Portugal. Discover his insights on cost of living, community integration, healthcare, and what makes Braga a peaceful haven for retirees seeking safety, walkability, and authentic culture. In this episode:
Timestamp Highlights: 00:00 - Welcome and John's story: From New York to Braga 02:22 - Why John fell in love with Braga's vibe and community 04:41 - Braga's geographical location and local environment 06:11 - Weather and climate patterns across seasons 08:40 - Cost of living essentials: rent, utilities, and groceries 12:57 - Comparing Braga's expenses with Lisbon and Porto 15:00 - Public services, transportation, and walkability 19:49 - Train travel between Braga, Porto, Lisbon, and beyond 23:17 - The local dining and wine scene 27:55 - Embracing the peaceful lifestyle and community safety 42:15 - Cultural approaches to neighborliness and outdoor living 45:16 - Portugal’s acceptance and safety for LGBTQ+ residents 54:22 - Practical tips for managing belongings and downsizing 58:17 - Tax considerations for US retirees living in Portugal 62:26 - Transportation options, owning a vehicle, and exploring the country 64:03 - Safety and crime: Braga’s secure community environment 66:55 - The political climate regarding LGBTQ+ rights 71:20 - Final advice for those considering Braga as their retirement haven Whether you're contemplating retirement abroad or just curious about life in Portugal, John's experience offers valuable insights into creating a peaceful, connected, and fulfilling life in Braga. | |||
| Exhale in Cascais: A Laidback Retirement Paradise with Alastair Cull and Wes Williams | 25 Mar 2026 | 01:34:09 | |
Today, we're diving deep into the sunny shores of Cascais, Portugal, and trust me, it’s not just a pretty postcard! Our guests, Alastair and Wes, share their journey from bustling city life to the chill vibes of this coastal gem, where they’ve found a safe haven to retire. They spill the tea on what it’s like to live in a place that’s all about art, food, and a good dose of relaxation, while also touching on the LGBTQ-friendly atmosphere. Whether you're curious about the cost of living, healthcare, or just how to hold hands without an audience, we've got you covered. So, grab your shades and let’s take this virtual trip together! Cascais, Portugal is a vibrant spot where Alastair Cull and Wes Williams have found their happy retirement after years of dreaming about life in Europe. In this episode, Mark Goldstein takes us through the pair's journey from the hustle and bustle of North America to the serene coastlines of Portugal. Alastair and Wes share how they navigated the challenges of relocating during a pandemic and embraced the new lifestyle that came with it. They fell in love with the warm climate, stunning beaches, and the friendly atmosphere that welcomed them with open arms. Listeners get a peek into their daily lives, filled with relaxing walks along the beach, engaging with the local community, and enjoying delightful meals at charming cafes. The duo emphasizes how easy it is to blend into the vibrant culture of Cascais while still feeling safe and accepted for who they are. They talk about the significance of finding a place that allows for true self-expression, where love can be celebrated freely, and life can be enjoyed at a more leisurely pace. Through witty anecdotes and heartfelt discussions, Alastair and Wes provide insights into the practical aspects of retiring in Cascais, such as healthcare, cost of living, and the overall quality of life. They reflect on the beauty of their new life, filled with joy and adventure, and encourage anyone considering retirement abroad to dive in and explore the possibilities. This episode of Where Do Gays Retire? is not just about finding the perfect location; it’s about discovering a lifestyle that resonates with one’s true self. Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| The Mediterranean Dream: Why We Chose Oliva, Spain | 11 Mar 2026 | 01:45:17 | |
Summary In this episode, Mark Goldstein interviews Brad Shreve and Maurice Chevalier, a couple who recently relocated to Oliva, Spain, after years of contemplating a move abroad. They share their journey of deciding between Ecuador and Spain, ultimately choosing Spain for its quality of life and community. The couple discusses their specific criteria for choosing a location, including a preference for smaller towns, affordability, and a welcoming atmosphere for the LGBTQ+ community. They emphasize that their move was not an escape from the U.S. but rather a pursuit of a different lifestyle and culture. Brad and Maurice recount their experiences of moving to Oliva without ever having visited, highlighting their extensive research and the importance of community connections. They discuss the cultural adjustments they’ve faced, including the pace of life, meal times, and the siesta concept. The couple also touches on the cost of living in Spain compared to their previous life in California, noting significant savings in rent and utilities, as well as the quality of food. Their story is a testament to the joys and challenges of relocating to a new country, and they offer insights into the vibrant life they are building in Oliva. In this episode, Maurice Chevalier shares his experiences of living in Oliva, Spain, particularly as part of the local gay community. He describes the vibrant and inclusive atmosphere, noting that being gay is a non-issue in the area and that a strong expat community regularly gathers for social events. Maurice discusses the ease of making acquaintances and the importance of community in their new life, emphasizing that they enjoy the local culture and the relaxed pace of life. He also touches on the practical aspects of living in Oliva, such as transportation, walkability, and the unique dining culture that differs from the U.S. lifestyle. The conversation shifts to the logistics of relocating to Spain, including the visa process and the importance of hiring relocation specialists to navigate the bureaucracy. Maurice explains the differences in daily life, including the Spanish dining schedule and the social norms surrounding coffee culture. He concludes by reflecting on the long-term prospects of living in Oliva, expressing a strong sense of belonging and contentment in their new home, while also acknowledging the importance of adaptability and openness to new experiences. Takeaways "We wanted somewhere that was openly gay friendly." "We did not want to work 60 to 70 hours a week to buy things that we then didn't have time to enjoy." "We are purposely not putting ourselves in that bubble." "We want to be able to converse, even if it's just minimal conversation." "We could change that overnight if we wanted to." "We love the concept of siesta. There's nothing about it that's negative in our mind." "We are actually trying to learn the language and practice it." "We felt instantly at home. It was just like this place has been waiting for me my whole life." "We are living in a much larger space for less money." "We are trying to build ties to the local community, not just the expat community." It's a non-issue, quite honestly. We wanted to have an active gay community. We can go be gay for the weekend. Everything's pretty much within a 15-minute walk. It's a clean town because people physically sweep the streets. Links referenced in this episode: Companies mentioned in this episode:
Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Discovering Zaragoza: A Gay Couple's Journey to Spain with Chad and Jorge Pitts | 25 Feb 2026 | 01:15:44 | |
Summary In this conversation, Mark Goldstein interviews Chad Pitts and Jorge Pitts about their experiences living in Zaragoza, Spain. They discuss their motivations for moving, the research they conducted, and their first impressions of the city. The couple shares insights into the cultural vibe, community building, cost of living, transportation, food scene, and healthcare in Zaragoza. They also touch on the challenges of navigating Spanish bureaucracy and the benefits of living in a city that is both family-friendly and LGBTQ+ safe. Overall, they emphasize the importance of embracing the local culture and the rewarding experiences of expat life in Zaragoza. Takeaways Zaragoza offers a very authentic Spanish vibe, with a strong sense of community. The cost of living in Zaragoza is significantly lower than in larger cities like Madrid and Barcelona. Transportation in Zaragoza is excellent, with walkable streets and a reliable public transport system. Cultural experiences in Zaragoza are rich, with festivals and events happening regularly. Making friends in Zaragoza can be challenging, but it is possible with effort and openness. Healthcare in Zaragoza is accessible and affordable, especially compared to the US. The climate in Zaragoza can be extreme, with hot summers and cold winters, but it is manageable. Zaragoza is a safe place for LGBTQ+ families, with a welcoming community. The food scene in Zaragoza is diverse and delicious, with many international options available. Navigating Spanish bureaucracy can be frustrating, but it is part of the expat experience. Links referenced in this episode: Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Sherry, Sun, and Safety: Living Your Best Life in El Puerto! With Daniel Cairns | 11 Feb 2026 | 00:49:33 | |
We're diving into the sunny vibes of El Puerto de Santa Maria, a gem in southern Spain, where life is all about community and connection. Our guest, Daniel Cairns, swapped the hustle of London for the laid-back lifestyle of Andalusia, and he’s here to share how he and his partner are creating a welcoming home for expats in their Casa de Vecinos project. Together, they’re redefining retirement by blending practical tips on healthcare and living costs with the joy of embracing local culture—think flamenco and sherry tastings! We’ll chat about how to navigate life in this vibrant town, from the best places to eat (hello, tapas!) to how to get involved in the community. So grab your sunglasses and let’s get into the good life in El Puerto! El Puerto de Santa Maria is where the sun shines, the sherry flows, and the LGBTQ community thrives! In this episode, we dive into the coastal charm of this Andalusian gem with our guest Daniel Cairns, who swapped the hustle of London for a more relaxed life in Spain. Daniel shares how he and his partner, John, created a cozy home and a vibrant community project that welcomes newcomers with open arms. We talk about the importance of integrating into local culture, navigating the healthcare system, and embracing the joys of outdoor living. Daniel's stories are not just about retirement; they’re about finding your place in the world, making friends, and enjoying life to the fullest. Whether you're thinking of moving or just dreaming, this episode paints a picture of what life in El Puerto can be like for LGBTQ people, sprinkled with humor and heart. Get ready to be inspired by the beauty of community and connection! Takeaways:
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| Where to Find Your Retirement Joy: 10 Questions to Ask! with Mark Goldstein & Michael AI | 28 Jan 2026 | 00:18:37 | |
Ready to level up your retirement game? We're diving into the 10 essential questions every LGBTQ person should ask before picking their retirement city. Forget about palm trees and sunshine; we're talking about finding a place that vibes with who you are today, not who you were in your 20s. From walkability to genuine LGBTQ friendliness, we've got the scoop on what really matters for your happiness and sanity. Join me and my sassy AI sidekick, Michael, as we navigate the nitty-gritty of making your golden years truly shine! Diving straight into the heart of retirement planning, this week’s episode is all about the essential questions every LGBTQ retiree needs to ask when choosing that perfect place to kick back and relax. We start by discussing the importance of picking a city that resonates with who you are today—not who you were 20 years ago. I mean, did you really think a beachside bungalow would still be your jam when you can barely handle a sand grain in your flip-flop? The conversation is rich with insights about walkability, cost of living, and how a place can either support or stifle your daily joy. We even share a few personal anecdotes about our own misadventures in city selection, which, spoiler alert, involved a gator or two in a retention pond. So grab your favorite drink, settle in, and let’s unravel what makes a retirement city the right fit for you. Next up, we tackle the burning question of LGBTQ friendliness. Spoiler: it’s not just about rainbows and parades! We dive into what actual protections look like and how to spot a community that truly embraces you year-round, not just during Pride Month. Think about it—wouldn’t it be nice to stroll down the street with your partner without feeling like you’re on display? We chat about cities that excel in creating inclusive environments, from the glittering streets of San Francisco to the surprisingly warm vibes of Asheville, North Carolina. Plus, we share how places in Spain set the bar high when it comes to feeling normal and accepted. Trust us; it’s a conversation you won’t want to miss! Finally, we wrap it all up with the big picture—what does your ideal Tuesday look like in retirement? No, really! Tuesday is the unsung hero of your week, and we explore how the day-to-day aspects of a city can make or break your experience. Accessibility to stores, health care, and even coffee shops play crucial roles in your retirement happiness. We throw in a dash of humor with tales of our own Tuesday escapades, comparing cities that excel at making life easier (hello, Spanish trams!) versus those that turn errands into Olympic events. So, hang tight as we help you navigate these essential questions, ensuring your retirement isn’t just about the sun—it's about thriving in your new home! Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Living La Vida Local: Gay Retirement in Oaxaca with David Shallenberger and Harvey Nystrom | 14 Jan 2026 | 01:05:01 | |
Ever been curious about retiring in Oaxaca, Mexico? Well, grab your sun hat, because today we're diving into that dreamy destination! We chat with David and Harvey, a dynamic duo who’ve crafted their lives in this vibrant city after years of exploring Latin America. They'll share the scoop on community vibes, cost of living, and the oh-so-important healthcare scene. Spoiler alert: it’s all about connection and convenience, from the cobblestone streets to the local markets. So, stick around and soak in the wisdom from two guys who’ve turned their retirement into a colorful adventure! Let’s talk about walkability, community vibes, and the sweet life in Oaxaca! David and Harvey break down the nitty-gritty of life in their new home, where cobblestone streets lead to charming markets and friendly faces greet you at every corner. They’ve lived in several neighborhoods, each with its own unique flavor, and they reveal what surprised them most about settling in. Spoiler alert: the vibrant energy of the city, especially during the Day of the Dead celebrations, is a total game-changer! They emphasize the importance of community and how they've built connections with fellow LGBTQ folks, from volunteer opportunities to regular meetups. Plus, they share tips on navigating local healthcare and the importance of learning some Spanish to truly immerse yourself in the culture. This episode is packed with insights for anyone considering a retirement adventure south of the border! Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Don't Just Visit—Live! Americans Moving To Spain -With Christopher Hughey | 31 Dec 2025 | 01:22:04 | |
Today, we're diving headfirst into the world of Americans moving to Spain! We'll chat about why folks from the LGBTQ community are flocking to this sunny slice of Europe, seeking safer and more affordable retirement spots. Our guest, Christopher Hughey, is a relocation guru who's got the inside scoop on what it takes to make the big move. From climate to cost of living, he's got the lowdown on everything you need to know to ensure a smooth transition. So, whether you're dreaming of tapas in Sevilla or sunbathing in Alicante, stick around for some fabulous tips and tricks to make your Spanish adventure a reality! Who knew moving to Spain could spark a whole new identity? In this episode, we chat with Christopher about the nitty-gritty of relocating, focusing on the non-lucrative visa that many Americans are eyeing. It's not just about the paperwork; it’s about understanding what life will look like once you land in Spain. Christopher emphasizes the importance of scouting trips, not just vacations, to get the real feel of living in Spanish neighborhoods. We also dive into the social aspects, from the vibrant LGBTQ community to the challenges of adapting to a new culture and language. Let’s just say, if you’re thinking about making Spain your next home, you might want to pack more than just your bags! Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| The Day That Changed My Life. 43 Years Later, I’m Going Back to Málaga | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:24:32 | |
We’re diving into some heavy stuff today, folks! This episode is all about survival and community, wrapped in a personal story that hits hard. Mark Goldstein shares his experience surviving an aviation disaster 43 years ago, and how that day shaped his journey. We talk about the importance of choosing safe, queer-friendly places and how community can be your lifeline. Plus, we throw in some tips on what to look for when scouting your next retirement spot. So, grab a cozy drink, settle in, and let’s explore how navigating life—and where to live—is all about connection and choice! Strap in, folks! We’re taking a detour from the usual retirement chit-chat to tackle a wild and emotional ride. Mark Goldstein shares a gripping personal story about surviving a plane crash in Malaga, Spain, 43 years ago, and how that experience shaped his outlook on life and community. He reflects on the chaos of that day and the choices he made that still resonate with him. It’s all about survival, connection, and the power of returning to a place that holds so much history. This isn’t just about retirement; it’s about the life we lead and the people we surround ourselves with. Mark’s journey reminds us that choosing a retirement destination is about more than just geography; it’s about choosing a community that feels like home. Takeaways:
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| Discover the Mediterranean Gem for LGBTQ Retirees: Montpellier! - With Lloyd Meeker | 03 Dec 2025 | 01:23:27 | |
We're taking a virtual trip to the gorgeous city of Montpellier in southern France, where retirement life for the LGBTQ community is as bright as the Mediterranean sun! Joining me, Mark Goldstein, is the fabulous Lloyd Meeker, who's got the inside scoop on everything you need to know—housing, healthcare, and the local vibe. Imagine living in a place where being gay is a total non-issue and the community is all about acceptance and celebration. We’ll dive into the costs of living, the stunning culture, and how to navigate the French healthcare system without losing your marbles. So grab your sunscreen and let’s explore what makes Montpellier a Mediterranean gem for retirement! Welcome to the sunny shores of Montpellier, where the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast takes you on a lively exploration of this Mediterranean haven! Mark Goldstein is on the mic with local resident Lloyd Meeker, who spills the secrets of what makes this city so special for LGBTQ retirees. From the moment you arrive, you’ll find a place that feels like home, where the climate is as warm as the community spirit. Lloyd shares his story of moving from the U.S. to France, navigating the housing market, and getting to grips with the local customs. Want to know about healthcare? He’s got you covered with all the juicy details on how the French system works and why it’s a game changer for retirees. Plus, if you’re a foodie, you’re in for a treat! The culinary scene in Montpellier is a delightful mix of traditional Occitan dishes and fresh seafood that’ll make your taste buds dance with joy. Throughout the episode, you’ll hear about the vibrant arts scene, the ease of getting around thanks to a top-notch public transport system, and the sense of safety that comes from living in such an accepting city. Whether you’re in the planning stages or just curious about life abroad, this episode is a treasure trove of information, camaraderie, and inspiration for your next big life chapter. So tune in and let’s get ready to retire in style! Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Creating Community: Colin Brownlee's Journey to Club Heasa in Costa Rica | 19 Nov 2025 | 01:10:05 | |
Club Heasa - Building a Gay Men’s Oasis in Costa Rica with Colin Brownlee In this episode of the 'Where Do Gays Retire' podcast, host Mark Goldstein interviews Colin Brownlee, who has established Club Heasa, a men-only vacation and short-term rental community in Costa Rica. Colin shares his journey from a marketing career in Vancouver to building a successful hotel business in Costa Rica, and eventually founding Club Heasa to create a safe and comfortable space for mature gay men. They discuss the specifics of Club Heasa, including its amenities, location, pricing, and the compelling reasons for choosing to make it a gay men-only community. Colin also offers insights into the Costa Rican climate, healthcare, local attractions, and the significance of creating physical spaces for the LGBTQ+ community. The episode sheds light on the benefits of retiring in Costa Rica and offers practical advice for potential residents. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:50 Meet Colin Brownlee: From Vancouver to Costa Rica 01:56 The Birth of Club Heasa 02:25 Welcome Colin to the Podcast 02:39 Exploring Club Heasa: Concept and Vision 03:03 The Story Behind the Name 'Club Heasa' 09:40 Creating a Gay Men Only Community 09:53 Challenges and Decisions in Building Club Heasa 15:05 The Importance of Physical Community 18:05 Demographics and Age Considerations 20:12 Short-Term Vacation Rentals at Club Heasa 25:33 Climate and Location Benefits 31:32 Pricing and Amenities at Club Heasa 33:17 Common Areas and Social Spaces 37:11 Local Attractions and Excursions 39:24 Transportation and Accessibility 40:00 Car Rentals and Cost Savings 40:11 Rules and Regulations at the Hotel 42:49 Laundry and Housekeeping Services 43:31 Guest Demographics and Preferences 46:24 LGBTQ Scene and Social Life 50:33 Healthcare and Medical Facilities 53:28 Travel Insurance and Citizenship 55:10 Security and Online Shopping 57:03 Natural Risks and Earthquakes 59:35 Visa Limits and Food Scene 01:03:45 Final Thoughts and Farewell Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Finding Your Gay Retirement Paradise: Fountain Grove Lodge with Chuck Finch & Ed Cambron | 05 Nov 2025 | 01:11:42 | |
Today, we're diving into the fabulous world of Fountain Grove Lodge in Santa Rosa, California, where Chuck and Ed just settled in. They're not just talking about where to retire; they’re sharing their journey to find a vibrant, LGBTQ-friendly community that feels like home. You’ll hear about their charming transition from the river towns of Bucks County, Pennsylvania, to this sunny, welcoming spot that’s got everything from a phenomenal dining experience to a lively social life. They also spill the tea on the climate, the cost of living, and why this place is a haven for those looking to age gracefully and joyfully. So grab your favorite drink, kick back, and let’s explore what makes Fountain Grove Lodge the place to be! Join Mark Goldstein as he takes us on a lively journey through the experiences of Chuck and Ed, a dynamic couple who recently made the leap from Bucks County, Pennsylvania, to Fountain Grove Lodge in sunny Santa Rosa, California. In this episode, they share their heartfelt reasons for choosing a retirement community that embraces the LGBTQ+ lifestyle, highlighting the importance of finding a supportive environment as they approach this new stage of life. With a sprinkle of humor and genuine warmth, Chuck and Ed recount their first impressions of Fountain Grove Lodge, from the beautiful architecture to the welcoming atmosphere that instantly made them feel at home. Their infectious enthusiasm shines through as they talk about the meticulous planning that went into their move, including the decision to choose a community that would provide joy and security as they age. The conversation flows effortlessly as they discuss the wide range of activities available, from gardening and art classes to social events that foster connections among residents. Chuck and Ed emphasize the significance of community and how it enriches their lives, noting that it’s more than just a place to live; it’s a vibrant hub of support and friendship. They also touch on the practical aspects of living at Fountain Grove, like the cost of living and amenities that provide peace of mind without sacrificing quality of life. This episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone considering retirement options, especially for those within the LGBTQ+ community seeking a place that resonates with their values and lifestyle. Chuck and Ed’s story is a testament to the joys of embarking on a new adventure together, proving that retirement can be as fabulous as you make it. So grab your headphones and join us for this delightful exploration of love, laughter, and the beauty of finding your perfect retirement community! Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| “Friendship Village Tempe: Where Aging with Pride Meets Peace of Mind” with Cole Marvin – Executive Director | 22 Oct 2025 | 01:18:39 | |
Today, we’re diving deep into Friendship Village in Tempe, Arizona, the place where aging meets peace of mind. Our guest, Cole Marvin, spills the tea on what makes this community so special for LGBTQ seniors. From its inclusive culture to a variety of amenities designed for fun and connection, Cole shares how they prioritize creating a vibrant living experience. We’ll chat about the juicy details—like rooftop breweries and community gardens—that really set Friendship Village apart. So grab your favorite drink, kick back, and let’s explore what makes this retirement village a fabulous place to call home! Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| The Great Walkability Debate — Can You Retire Without a Car? | 08 Oct 2025 | 00:26:18 | |
Today, we’re diving into the spicy topic of walkability and whether you can retire without a car. Spoiler alert: you totally can! I’ve lived in places where cars were as necessary as oxygen, and others where you can strut your stuff on foot with ease. We’ll chat about why walkable neighborhoods are the bee's knees for your health, social life, and wallet, plus I’ll share some fab locations where you can kick back without the hassle of a vehicle. From the bustling streets of New York to the sun-soaked sidewalks of Provincetown, let’s figure out where you can enjoy life without revving an engine! So grab your walking shoes, and let’s hit the pavement! Retirement isn’t just about sipping cocktails on the beach; it’s about living your best life, and that includes deciding whether you really want to own a car. Mark Goldstein dives headfirst into the importance of walkability in retirement, drawing from his own experiences living in car-dependent and pedestrian-friendly cities. He paints a vivid picture of life in New York, where owning a car feels like an unnecessary burden, versus the sprawling suburbs that demand a vehicle just to grab a quart of milk. Through his lighthearted anecdotes, he emphasizes how walkability isn’t merely about sidewalks — it’s about reclaiming independence and fostering community as we age. Mark lays out three compelling reasons why walkability matters in retirement: health, social engagement, and financial savings. Walking isn’t just good for your waistline; it’s a gateway to meeting people and experiencing life on a more intimate level. As he humorously notes, when you’re behind the wheel, the only connection you’re likely to make is through a honk or a wave of frustration. But when you’re out strolling, you’re more likely to share a smile or a spontaneous chat with a neighbor. Plus, let’s get real — cars can gut your retirement savings quicker than you can say “car insurance.” With the costs of gas, maintenance, and unexpected repairs piling up, it’s clear that ditching the car might free up some cash for those dreamy vacations you’ve been planning. As the episode unfolds, Mark explores various cities known for their walkability, from the iconic streets of San Francisco to the historic charm of Boston, where you can enjoy a leisurely stroll without feeling like you’re on a treadmill. He highlights LGBTQ-friendly neighborhoods that not only offer vibrant community life but also make it easy to live without a car. With a nod to international destinations, he gives a shout-out to places where walkability is the norm, unlike the car-centric U.S. Join Mark on this delightful exploration of where to retire without the burden of a vehicle, and you might just find your next home sweet home, where the only thing you need to worry about is which café to visit next! Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Living the Dream: Inside Friendship Village's LGBTQ-Friendly Community With Joe Connelly and Terry Pochert | 24 Sep 2025 | 01:40:22 | |
We're diving into the cozy world of retirement in this episode, where we chat with Joe Connolly and Terry Pochert, a fabulous couple living it up at Friendship Village in Tempe, Arizona. They've got a sweet setup in a community that’s not just welcoming but also filled with activities and amenities that make retirement feel like a never-ending vacation. Joe and Terry recently celebrated 30 years together, and their journey includes a landmark victory for same-sex marriage back in 2014. They share their experiences transitioning to this vibrant community and how it’s been a game changer for their quality of life. From dining delights to social connections, we spill the tea on why moving in early can be a total win for LGBTQ couples looking for a safe and supportive retirement space. Let’s get cozy with Joe Connolly and Terry Pochert, a dynamic duo living at Friendship Village, where they’ve made the leap into retirement living. They share their delightful journey from a traditional home to this fabulous community, which they chose for its high-end amenities and supportive environment. They’ve nailed down what makes this place feel like home: the people! From the friendly staff to the diverse residents, Joe and Terry feel embraced in a way that really enhances their quality of life. The episode dives deep into the nitty-gritty of living in a retirement community, covering everything from the financial aspects to the social scene. Joe and Terry discuss how they evaluated the costs of moving in and how those expenses stack up against what they were spending before. It’s a refreshing take on how retirement can be both enjoyable and economically savvy! But it’s not all spreadsheets and numbers! We also explore the richness of community life at Friendship Village. Joe and Terry describe the plethora of activities available, from arts and crafts to fitness classes, ensuring that there’s never a dull moment. They also touch on the importance of inclusivity and how being a gay couple in this environment has been a positive experience, with solid support from both staff and residents. So grab your favorite beverage and settle in for this enlightening chat about love, community, and what it really means to retire in style! Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Cost, Culture, and Community: Daniel Lobato's Experience in Vigo, Spain | 10 Sep 2025 | 01:23:43 | |
This week, we're diving into the sunny vibes of Vigo, Spain, where our guest, Daniel Louis Loboto, is living it up under a digital nomad visa. He’s all about redefining community after coming out later in life, and he's got some fantastic insights on why Spain is the place to be for retirement. From the affordable cost of living to the lush, green landscapes, Daniel spills the tea on what makes Vigo so special. We’ll chat about everything from the local food scene to the LGBTQ+ community, and how easy it is to get around without a car. So grab your favorite drink, kick back, and let’s explore why Vigo might just be your next retirement hotspot! > Stepping off the plane and into the vibrant world of Vigo, Spain, our guest Daniel Louis Loboto shares the thrilling tale of his journey from Denver to this picturesque port city. At 62, Daniel's life took a bold turn when he came out later in life, transitioning from a traditional family life to one filled with adventure and self-discovery. With a rich background in Spanish heritage, he made the leap across the Atlantic, seeking a community that resonates with his identity. The conversation dives deep into the factors that drew Daniel to Vigo—its affordable cost of living, welcoming LGBTQ+ community, and the allure of a vibrant culture. We learn about the stunning climate boasting mild summers and manageable winters, making it an ideal retirement locale. Daniel is not just living in Spain; he’s thriving in a unique cultural tapestry that weaves together his roots and his newfound freedom. Join us as we uncover what it means to redefine home and community, and how life in Vigo fosters a sense of belonging and joy. > As we cozy up with Daniel, we explore the ins and outs of living in Vigo, focusing on the economics, culture, and the undeniable charm of the city. With his digital nomad visa in hand, Daniel discusses the financial advantages of retiring in Spain compared to the U.S. He shares how his retirement income stretches further here, allowing for a lifestyle filled with tapas, local wines, and the kind of leisurely afternoons that make life sweeter. Listeners will learn about the affordability of housing, utilities, and healthcare, painting a clear picture of financial freedom in this coastal gem. The conversation covers everything from the lush, green landscapes of Galicia to the vibrant street life, making it clear that Vigo isn't just a place to retire; it's a place to live life to the fullest. With a dash of humor and a lot of heart, Daniel's stories will have you daydreaming about your own retirement in this enchanting corner of Spain. > In the final segment, we get into the nitty-gritty of community—specifically, the LGBTQ+ scene in Vigo. Daniel describes a welcoming atmosphere where diversity flourishes, even if there aren't specific gay bars or organizations. The relaxed vibe of the city allows for a blend of cultures, where same-sex couples hold hands freely in the streets, and everyone feels at home. He shares his experiences of meeting other LGBTQ+ folks and emphasizes the importance of establishing a social network upon arriving. From local festivals celebrating Galician culture to the delicious culinary scene featuring Michelin-starred restaurants, it’s clear that Vigo offers a rich, fulfilling life. Daniel’s insights and experiences are not just informative; they’re an invitation to step out of your comfort zone and consider the beautiful possibilities that await in retirement. So grab your café con leche, sit back, and let’s dive into the wonders of life in Vigo! Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| From the Heart of Gran Canaria-Raquel Rojas on LGBTQ+ Life and Island Living | 27 Aug 2025 | 01:26:25 | |
Join me as we dive into the sun-soaked paradise of Gran Canaria, where the LGBTQ community is not just accepted but celebrated! This episode features the fabulous Raquel Rojas, an award-winning media exec who spills the tea on life in this vibrant island. We'll explore everything from the dreamy beaches and delicious local cuisine to the surprisingly low cost of living and the warm, friendly vibes of the locals. Plus, get the scoop on why Gran Canaria is a go-to spot for retirees looking to soak up the sun and enjoy life to the fullest. So grab your sunscreen, and let’s find out if this could be your next retirement destination! Gran Canaria, an island paradise in the Atlantic, is the focal point of today’s conversation on the Where Do Gays Retire podcast. We kick off with an exploration of the island’s charm through the eyes of Raquel Rojas, who was born and raised here. She paints a picture of Gran Canaria as a welcoming haven for the LGBTQ community, sharing her personal journey from the island to the bustling streets of Canada and back again. With a PhD in Cinematography and years of experience in media, Raquel brings a unique perspective on life in Gran Canaria, emphasizing its exceptional climate, rich culture, and vibrant community. The discussion flows into the nitty-gritty of what makes Gran Canaria so attractive for retirees, particularly those in the LGBTQ community. We chat about the island's mild temperatures year-round, making it a perfect escape from harsh winters. Raquel highlights the affordability of living here, especially when compared to other European destinations. Imagine renting a spacious apartment for just €600 a month or snagging a three-bedroom sea-view home for around €200,000! It’s a dream come true for many looking to enjoy their golden years in a beautiful, sunny locale. As we dive deeper, we get the scoop on the island’s safety and healthcare system, which are both top-notch. Gran Canaria boasts one of the best public healthcare systems in the world, and English-speaking doctors are readily available, providing peace of mind for expats. Raquel reassures us that the island is incredibly safe, allowing residents to enjoy life without the constant fear that often comes with living in larger cities. With all these perks, it’s no wonder Gran Canaria is becoming a go-to destination for LGBTQ retirees seeking a vibrant, inclusive community to call home. Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Weather, Wine, and Wonder: Retirement Life in Madeira With Paul Corning and Kevin McKay | 13 Aug 2025 | 01:40:56 | |
Today, we're diving into the sun-soaked paradise of Madeira, Portugal, where Paul and Kevin share their epic journey from Seattle to this dreamy island. They've been living it up on Madeira for over four years now, and let me tell you, they have no plans of ever leaving! We’re chatting about everything from the cost of living, which is basically a steal compared to Seattle, to the laid-back lifestyle that makes you feel like you’ve stepped into a postcard. Plus, they spill the tea on what it’s like to be part of the LGBTQ community on this little slice of heaven. So, grab your sunscreen and join us as we explore why Madeira might just be your next big retirement dream! Ever thought about trading your busy city life for the sunny, laid-back vibes of Madeira, Portugal? Well, our guests Paul and Kevin did just that, and they’re here to tell us all about their journey from Seattle to this picturesque island. With a dreamy climate that feels like endless spring and a cost of living that’s a fraction of their old life, these two lovebirds are living the retirement dream! They share how they navigated moving during the COVID pandemic, why they chose Madeira over Mexico, and all the juicy details of settling down in this subtropical paradise. Get ready to learn about the local culture, the unique flora and fauna, and why they absolutely adore their new home. Spoiler alert: it involves great wine, stunning views, and a sense of community that makes them feel right at home. Not only do Paul and Kevin give us the scoop on why Madeira is such a great place for LGBTQ retirees, but they also dive into the nitty-gritty of everyday life on the island. From the surprisingly low property taxes to the affordable healthcare system, they break down how living on this beautiful island compares to their previous lives in the U.S. And let’s not forget the food! They share some delicious local specialties and their thoughts on the dining scene, which ranges from cozy cafes to Michelin-starred restaurants. Whether you’re contemplating a move or just daydreaming about island life, this episode is packed with tips, insights, and plenty of hearty laughs. As they reflect on their journey, Paul and Kevin emphasize the importance of community and connection. They talk about how easy it is to meet people, make friends, and become part of the fabric of life on Madeira. With everything from local markets to vibrant festivals, there’s never a dull moment! They even share their experiences with healthcare, transportation, and the overall safety of the island. If you’ve ever considered retiring abroad or simply want to escape the hustle and bustle for a more serene lifestyle, this episode is a must-listen. So grab your headphones and let’s explore Madeira together! Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Nerja, Spain: A Mediterranean Hideaway with Richard Carnaby | 30 Jul 2025 | 01:17:35 | |
We’re diving into the sunny vibes of Nerja, Spain, and trust me, it’s not just a pretty beach town; it’s the kind of place where you can actually picture yourself kicking back in retirement bliss! In this episode, we chat with Richard Carnaby, who’s on a mission to build his dream home on the eastern Costa del Sol. He spills the tea on why he and his husband chose Nerja over more touristy spots like Marbella, and let me tell you, their reasons are as delightful as a churro dipped in chocolate! We also explore the cost of living, the local LGBTQ scene, and the breathtaking scenery that’ll make you want to pack your bags ASAP. So grab your sunscreen and tune in as we uncover what makes this hidden gem the ultimate retirement destination! Nerja, Spain, is like that hidden gem you stumble upon when you least expect it. Richard Carnaby, an actor living in Norfolk with his husband Steve, takes us on a journey of how they found their future retirement home on the eastern Costa del Sol. Initially drawn to the popular town of Nerja, they soon realized that nearby Salobreña was their perfect match—a blend of beautiful beaches, a quaint atmosphere, and a dash of local charm. Richard shares delightful stories about their adventures in house hunting, including a memorable long weekend that reignited his love for the area after many years. They explore climate, community, and the lifestyle that awaits them in this sun-soaked paradise, where winters are mild and the summers are warm and inviting. Richard's narrative paints a picture of tranquility, highlighting why he feels Nerja and Salobreña are not just places to live, but true havens for those seeking peace and belonging. Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Airline Miles to Medellín Smiles: Tomek’s Colombia Playbook | 16 Jul 2025 | 01:24:14 | |
In this episode of the Where Do Gays Retire podcast, Mark Goldstein speaks with Tomek Gurzynski, a 54-year-old Polish-born adventurer and longtime airline professional who lives in Medellín, Colombia. Tomek shares his journey from the United States to Colombia, discussing the climate, cost of living, healthcare, and vibrant culture of Medellín. He emphasizes the city's safety, LGBTQ inclusivity, and the affordable yet high-quality standard of living. Tomek also offers practical advice for those considering a move to Colombia, stressing the importance of preparation, learning Spanish, and understanding local customs. His personal experiences illuminate why Medellín could be an ideal retirement destination for the LGBTQ+ community. Takeaways:
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Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Out of the Frying Pan and Into the Fire - Why the Political Climate Matters for LGBTQ+ Retirees | 02 Jul 2025 | 00:17:32 | |
We're diving into a super important topic today: the political climate of your potential retirement spot. It’s not just about sun-soaked beaches and affordable rent, right? We’re here to help you figure out if that paradise you’ve been dreaming of is actually a safe haven or just a pretty facade hiding some shady politics. Trust me, understanding the local vibe and what’s brewing politically can save you from future headaches. So grab your drink of choice, and let’s chat about how to be a savvy retiree and not just chase the latest trend! Rethinking Your Retirement: Political Landscapes Matter In this episode of the Where Do Gays Retire podcast, host Mark Goldstein emphasizes the importance of considering the political climate of potential retirement destinations. While aspects such as cost of living, healthcare, and weather are often scrutinized, Mark argues that understanding the local political landscape is crucial for ensuring long-term safety and well-being. Using examples from Spain, Italy, Mexico, and other global locations, he illustrates how political shifts can impact the LGBTQ+ community. The episode encourages listeners to proactively research and engage with local news and communities to make informed decisions about their retirement plans. Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of Where Do Gays Retire?, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire. | |||
| Inside Living Out: The LGBTQ Community That Feels Like Family-With Loren Ostrow | 18 Jun 2025 | 01:09:53 | |
We're diving into the fabulous world of Living Out, a unique 55+ LGBTQ community that’s all about creating a vibrant and accepting space for our fabulous queer elders. In this episode, we chat with Loren Ostrow, the mastermind behind this fantastic project, and trust me, you won't want to miss his insights on how Living Out stands out in a sea of retirement options. From its warm, inclusive vibe to its stunning amenities, Lauren shares how they’re flipping the script on aging in the LGBTQ community. We’ll also explore the importance of having a safe space where folks can genuinely be themselves without fear of judgment or prejudice. So grab your favorite drink and settle in—we're about to get cozy and learn about a retirement community that feels just like home! Takeaways:
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| Why Living in Florence, Italy is a Dream Come True with Tom Leonard | 04 Jun 2025 | 01:13:14 | |
We’re diving into the fabulous world of Florence, Italy, where our guest Tom Leonard is living his best life in a city that’s as enchanting as it is historical. Tom spills the tea on everything from the cost of living to the vibrant Italian culture, plus a sprinkle about his own journey from California to the charming hills of Florence. He’s not just soaking up the sun and pasta; he’s also juggling his digital marketing gig while brushing up on his Italian skills and indulging in local cuisine. Whether you’re curious about healthcare, safety, or the dining scene, Tom's got you covered with all the juicy details. So, grab your virtual passport and let’s explore why Florence might just be the perfect retirement destination for everyone in the LGBTQ community! If you've ever thought about retiring in a beautiful, culturally rich country, Tom Leonard’s story will inspire you! This episode of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast takes us through Tom’s exciting experience of moving from California to Florence, Italy. He shares the good, the bad, and the absolutely delicious of living in this stunning city. From adjusting to the climate to understanding the cost of living, Tom gives us a real sense of what it’s like to call Florence home. He talks about the fantastic healthcare system, how to get by with the language barrier, and the incredible public transport that makes getting around a breeze. Plus, we dive into the culinary delights that await in local markets, and how to enjoy the Italian way of life while keeping fit with all that walking! Whether you’re considering a move yourself or just dreaming of an Italian getaway, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and laughter. Takeaways:
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| Exploring Flagstaff, Arizona: A Retirement Haven with Nancy Sullivan | 21 May 2025 | 00:59:24 | |
Ready to explore Flagstaff, Arizona? Today, we’re diving into why this mountain town is a fab spot for LGBTQ retirees. Our special guest, Nancy Sullivan, spills the tea on everything from the breathtaking nature to the welcoming vibe for our community. We chat about the outdoorsy lifestyle, the rising cost of living, and how the climate’s changing—spoiler alert: it’s getting warmer! Plus, we’ll dish on the arts, culture, and those delicious local eats that make Flagstaff a hidden gem. So grab your hiking boots, and let’s get ready to fall in love with Flagstaff! Flagstaff, Arizona, is a hidden gem for LGBTQ retirees looking for a vibrant and welcoming community. With stunning natural beauty, outdoor adventures, and a climate that keeps things cool in the summer, it’s no wonder that people are flocking to this high-desert paradise. Nancy Sullivan, a music professor at Northern Arizona University, shares her journey of moving from Seattle to Flagstaff for a job opportunity, and she hasn’t looked back since. She describes the friendly atmosphere and liberal values that make Flagstaff feel like home, especially for those in the LGBTQ community. Retirees can enjoy a myriad of outdoor activities like hiking, biking, and even horseback riding right from their doorsteps, thanks to the abundance of trails and parks. Nancy's enthusiasm for her small ranch outside of town, where she lives with her wife and their animals, paints a picture of a life filled with adventure and tranquility. The climate in Flagstaff is another standout feature, especially for retirees who prefer a cooler environment compared to the scorching heat of Phoenix. Nancy discusses the high-desert climate, the changes due to climate change, and how the elevation impacts the weather patterns. She stresses that while the winters can be snowy and cold, they also offer opportunities for winter sports, making it a year-round playground for outdoor enthusiasts. For those considering Flagstaff as a retirement destination, Nancy emphasizes the need to acclimatize to the elevation but reassures that the lifestyle is worth the adjustment. The community spirit and the beautiful landscapes are definite pros, making Flagstaff an attractive option for anyone looking to retire in a friendly and engaging environment. Takeaways:
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| From Hot Chicken to Honky Tonks: Living Your Best Life in Nashville | 07 May 2025 | 01:30:20 | |
Discover why Nashville, Tennessee, is becoming a sought-after destination for LGBTQ+ retirees in this engaging discussion. Mark Goldstein interviews real estate expert Evan Thomas, who shares insights on the city’s vibrant LGBTQ+ community, affordable living options, and rich cultural scene. With a mix of Southern charm and modern amenities, Nashville offers a unique blend of safety and social opportunities, making it an ideal place for those looking to retire. The city has something to offer everyone, from its renowned music heritage to a growing array of dining and arts experiences. Tune in to learn about Nashville's climate, healthcare, and the importance of community connections for newcomers. Nashville, Tennessee, is not just a hub for music and culture; it is also emerging as a welcoming oasis for LGBTQ+ retirees seeking a supportive and vibrant community. Mark Goldstein and Evan Thomas embark on an insightful journey through the city, highlighting the unique attributes that make it an attractive destination for those in the LGBTQ+ community. Nashville’s reputation as the ‘Music City’ serves as a backdrop for a lively discussion about the city’s diverse neighborhoods, including East Nashville and the Gulch, celebrated for their inclusivity and artistic flair. Evan shares his experiences living and working in Nashville, offering listeners a glimpse into the city’s evolving atmosphere that embraces creativity, connection, and community. The conversation delves deeper into the practical aspects of life in Nashville, discussing the cost of living, healthcare access, and the importance of community organizations that advocate for LGBTQ+ rights. Evan outlines the median home prices, showcasing how Nashville remains an affordable option compared to other metropolitan areas despite its growing popularity. He emphasizes the city’s robust healthcare system, mainly its focus on LGBTQ+ health initiatives, which cater to the community's specific needs, ensuring that retirees have access to essential medical services. The episode celebrates the contributions of organizations like SAGE Nashville, which provide vital resources and social opportunities for LGBTQ+ seniors, fostering a sense of belonging and support as they navigate the complexities of aging. As the episode progresses, the hosts explore Nashville’s vibrant Pride celebrations, which exemplify the city’s commitment to inclusivity and acceptance. Evan recounts the growth of the Pride festival, emphasizing its role in unifying the community and promoting visibility for LGBTQ+ individuals. This lively celebration showcases the community's resilience and highlights Nashville’s status as a progressive beacon in a predominantly conservative region. With an invitation for listeners to visit and experience the city firsthand, the episode leaves a lasting impression of Nashville as a city rich in culture, community, and opportunity, making it a perfect destination for LGBTQ+ retirees looking to embrace a fulfilling and dynamic lifestyle. The vibrant city of Nashville, Tennessee, is explored as an exceptional choice for LGBTQ+ retirees seeking a blend of culture, community, and care in their golden years. Mark Goldstein and Evan Thomas engage in a dynamic conversation that reveals the unique qualities of Nashville, where music, art, and culinary experiences abound, creating an ideal backdrop for retirement. Evan, a local real estate expert, underscores the housing affordability in Nashville, providing listeners with insights into the median prices of homes and the variety of neighborhoods that cater to diverse lifestyles. Areas such as East Nashville and the Gulch are highlighted for their lively atmospheres, which not only welcome LGBTQ+ individuals but also foster a sense of belonging and community. The discussion shifts to the practical aspects of living in Nashville, including the healthcare landscape, which is particularly favorable for retirees. Evan elaborates on the city’s commitment to LGBTQ+ health initiatives, showcasing organizations like Music City Prep that provide essential services in a supportive environment. This focus on health and well-being is crucial for retirees who seek peace of mind as they transition into this new phase of life. Additionally, the podcast addresses the importance of community engagement and social opportunities, with Evan sharing his experiences of connecting with others through local LGBTQ+ organizations that enrich the lives of seniors. As the episode progresses, the hosts celebrate Nashville’s vibrant Pride events, which serve as a testament to the city’s progressive values and commitment to inclusivity. Evan recounts the growth of Pride celebrations, emphasizing their ability to unite the community and bring awareness to LGBTQ+ issues. The conversation concludes with a heartfelt invitation for listeners to consider Nashville not just as a potential retirement destination but as a place where they can thrive, build lasting relationships, and enjoy the artistry and warmth of Southern life. With its unique blend of culture, community, and care, Nashville is an inspiring choice for LGBTQ+ retirees eager to embrace their next chapter. Takeaways:
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| Retire in Style: Why Nice, France is the Ultimate LGBTQ Destination With Jameson Farn | 23 Apr 2025 | 01:25:34 | |
Welcome to the Where Do Gays Retire podcast, where we explore the vibrant and welcoming community of Nice, France, a top choice for LGBTQ retirees. Jameson Farn, a long-time resident of the French Riviera, shares his insights on what makes Nice an ideal place to live, from its stunning climate and walkability to its rich cultural scene. Listeners will learn about the affordability of living in Nice compared to cities like Vancouver and the importance of understanding local customs and lifestyle before making a move. Jameson also discusses the supportive LGBTQ community, the variety of dining options, and the ease of accessing healthcare in the region. Join us as we dive into the unique experiences and opportunities that await those considering a retirement in this beautiful part of the world. In an insightful episode of Where Do Gays Retire, hosts Mark Goldstein and Jameson Farn delve into the enchanting world of Nice, France, and what it has to offer those in the LGBTQ community considering retirement. Farn, a seasoned resident and expert on the French Riviera, shares his journey and the reasons behind his long-standing love affair with this picturesque city. The discussion revolves around the unique blend of culture, safety, and community that Nice provides, making it a top choice for those seeking a welcoming environment in which to spend their golden years. Listeners are treated to a vivid description of the region’s stunning landscapes, vibrant nightlife, and the rich cultural experiences easily accessible in and around Nice. The conversation takes a practical turn as Goldstein and Farn discuss the essentials of relocating to Nice, including housing options, the local healthcare system, and the cost of living. Farn’s insights into the housing market are particularly valuable, as he encourages potential retirees to rent before committing to a purchase, allowing them to better understand the local lifestyle and amenities. The episode also sheds light on Nice’s excellent healthcare services, which are renowned for their quality and accessibility, making it an attractive option for retirees. Farn emphasizes that the city is not just about beautiful beaches and sunny weather; it’s about creating a fulfilling life in a community that values diversity and inclusivity. The episode concludes with a reflection on the vibrant LGBTQ culture in Nice and the various events and activities that bring the community together. Farn shares anecdotes of pride celebrations, art exhibitions, and social gatherings that highlight the city's acceptance and embrace of the LGBTQ lifestyle. This conversation serves not only as a guide for those considering a move to Nice but also as an invitation to embrace the adventure of retirement in a city that offers so much more than just a place to live—it promises a rich and rewarding lifestyle filled with connection, culture, and joy. Takeaways:
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| Viña del Mar: Coastal Bliss and LGBTQ+ Life with Suber Corley | 09 Apr 2025 | 01:28:21 | |
Welcome to the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast! Today, we explore the vibrant coastal city of Viña del Mar, Chile, through the eyes of our guest, Suber Corley, who shares his inspiring journey of relocating and thriving in this beautiful locale. Suber discusses the unique Mediterranean climate, the affordable cost of living, and the welcoming atmosphere for the LGBTQ community. He reflects on the ease of life in Viña del Mar compared to his previous experiences in the U.S., emphasizing the city's safety and the quality of healthcare available. Join us as we dive into the rich culture, dining options, and practical tips for anyone considering a similar move to this picturesque destination. Exploring the enchanting coastal city of Viña del Mar, Chile, this podcast episode captures the essence of retirement through the journey of Suber Corley, who has found a home and a purpose in his new life. Mark Goldstein facilitates an enlightening discussion that traverses Subar's expansive life, from his educational endeavors to corporate leadership, culminating in his and his husband Nelson’s decision to retire in this beautiful locale. The episode highlights the unique geographical features of Viña del Mar, including its Mediterranean climate, which Suber fondly compares to Southern California, and the appealing aspects of living in a city that boasts stunning ocean views and a vibrant community atmosphere. Suber’s narrative weaves through essential themes such as the affordability of living in Chile, the accessibility of healthcare, and the culinary delights that define his daily life. He shares firsthand experiences about the healthcare system, emphasizing its quality and affordability, especially compared to the United States. The discussion also delves into the local dining scene, where fresh seafood and Peruvian influences take center stage. Suber paints a vivid picture of a lifestyle enriched by fresh, locally sourced food and the benefits of a community that values inclusivity and diversity, particularly for LGBTQ individuals. As the conversation unfolds, Suber reflects on the evolving societal attitudes towards LGBTQ rights in Chile, sharing his comfort in being openly gay and married in a community that welcomes diverse identities. The episode serves as an enlightening guide for listeners contemplating retirement options abroad, illustrating how Viña del Mar offers a beautiful setting and a supportive, vibrant environment for those looking to embrace a new chapter in life. Takeaways:
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| Ajijic, Mexico: A Vibrant LGBTQ+ Haven Revisited with Steve Cross and Harold Watts | 26 Mar 2025 | 01:35:45 | |
🌟 **Episode Summary**: Welcome to another exciting episode of the *Where Do Gays Retire* Podcast! Host Mark Goldstein catches up with Steve Cross and Harold Watts to revisit Ajijic, Mexico—a picturesque lakeside town nestled by Lake Chapala. This episode is packed with updates on Ajijic’s climate, cost of living, LGBTQ+ community, social scene, healthcare, and more. Whether you’re considering retirement in Mexico or just curious about this charming destination, Steve and Harold share firsthand insights and experiences you won’t want to miss! **Episode Highlights**: - **Why Ajijic Stands Out**: Updates on Ajijic's unique appeal as an LGBTQ+ haven and how the social scene has evolved since our last visit. Climate & Living Conditions: Discover Ajijic's "Goldilocks" climate and how climate change is subtly impacting it. - **Cost of Living**: Insights into housing prices, grocery costs, and utility expenses, including affordable solar options and property taxes that will amaze you. - **Social Life & Community**: Learn about the vibrant cocktail and dinner parties, growing LGBTQ+ gatherings, and the incredible inclusivity of the Ajijic community. - **Healthcare Access**: How Ajijic provides excellent and affordable healthcare options, including stories of speedy services and highly respected local practitioners. - **Dining Scene**: Explore Ajijic’s dining delights, from casual bites to upscale culinary experiences, plus some must-try spots in nearby Guadalajara. - **Arts & Culture**: Get the scoop on local theaters, art exhibitions, and the thriving cultural scene that enriches life in Ajijic. - **Safety & Security**: Updates on crime rates, community safety, and why Ajijic remains a safe and welcoming place for residents and visitors alike. - **Transportation Tips**: Everything from navigating traffic to hiring drivers, and whether you truly need a car in this walkable lakeside town. 💬 **Notable Quotes**: - *“Ajijic is all about community—everyone knows everyone, and there’s always something going on.”* - *“For less than $20 a month, my electricity bill covers my pool, garden, and entire house thanks to solar!”* - *“Ajijic has the heart of a small town but the inclusivity and vibrance of a big city LGBTQ+ community.”* **About Our Guests**: - **Steve Cross is a long-time resident of Ajijic, a real estate expert, and founder of the Gay Alliance Ajijic. Steve shares his knowledge of local life, housing options, and his role in fostering a supportive LGBTQ+ community. - **Harold Watts is a passionate local who is involved in the vacation rental business and community charities. Harold provides invaluable insights into healthcare, social life, and the dining scene in Ajijic. 📍 **Why Listen?** This episode is perfect for anyone considering Ajijic, Mexico, as a retirement destination or curious about what makes this vibrant LGBTQ+ haven special. From practical advice to heartwarming stories, Mark, Steve, and Harold bring Ajijic to life in this engaging and informative discussion. 🎧 **Listen Now**: Available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and wherever you stream your favorite podcasts. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and leave a review! 🔗 **Connect With Us**: - Website: https://www.wheredogaysretire.com - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/GayRetirementPlaces - Instagram: @WhereDoGaysRetirePodcast -Threads: @Wheredogaysretirepodcast If you enjoy this podcast, please support us so we may be able to bring you more content. Buy me A Coffee! Each coffee costs $5 and goes towards bringing you more episodes like this! https://buymeacoffee.com/wheregaysretire. | |||
| From Blight to Bright: Detroit's Transformation for LGBTQ Retirees with Jac Blanco | 12 Mar 2025 | 01:04:50 | |
Jac Blanco provides a compelling narrative about his life and experiences since relocating to Detroit from Chattanooga, Tennessee. The conversation between Mark Goldstein and Jac explores several aspects of life in Detroit, particularly for members of the LGBTQ+ community considering retirement. They begin by examining the city's climate, where Jack describes the four seasons and offers insights into the weather patterns that have changed over the years. He shares how winters can be surprisingly mild compared to his previous experiences in the Northeast, making Detroit a more manageable retirement place. The talk shifts to the cost of living, emphasizing that despite the city's past economic struggles, the real estate market remains affordable, with average home prices around $100,000, making it an attractive option for retirees looking to settle down without breaking the bank. Jac shares his passion for home restoration, particularly his and his partner Shane's efforts in restoring a historic greenhouse conservatory in their neighborhood of Palmer Woods. This personal touch adds a relatable element to the discussion, showcasing the beauty of Detroit's architecture and the sense of community that comes with living in such an area. The conversation also highlights Detroit's cultural scene, with Mark and Jac praising the city's art galleries, theaters, and diverse culinary offerings. They touch on the Detroit Institute of Arts, which has been recognized as one of the best in the country, and Jack's enthusiasm for the various dining experiences available, from fine dining to local favorites. Throughout the episode, listeners are encouraged to view Detroit through a new lens that celebrates the city's revival and the opportunities it presents to those in the LGBTQ+ community. The dialogue takes a reflective turn as Mark and Jac discuss the safety of the city, addressing the lingering stereotypes about crime in Detroit. They emphasize that while crime can occur in any city, Detroit has significantly declined criminal activity. Jack reassures potential movers that his neighborhood feels safe, even for late-night walks, and that the community is becoming more vibrant and inclusive. With a focus on the importance of community and connection, the episode wraps up with a positive message about the future of Detroit, encouraging those from the LGBTQ+ community to consider this city as a welcoming and enriching place to retire. The conversation ultimately paints a picture of Detroit as a city that is recovering from its past and thriving in its present, ready to embrace new residents with open arms and a vibrant lifestyle. Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: Jac Blanco Jac Blanco was born in Miami, Florida; however, soon after he was born, his family relocated to New Jersey and was raised in the NYC metro area of Bergen County, New Jersey. Jac lived in NJ until 2010, when he relocated to Chattanooga, Tennessee, for a new job opportunity. Jac met his current partner, Shane, in 2014 while living in Chattanooga. In March of 2016, Jac and Shane relocated for another job opportunity to Detroit, Michigan. They now live in Palmer Woods, a historic neighborhood in Detroit, and are restoring their 103-year-old greenhouse/conservatory. Jac enjoys working out, gardening, home restorations and decorating, traveling, theater, opera, and dining out. In 2021, Jac was appointed to the Michigan Hispanic Chamber of Commerce board of directors. In 2022, he was elected to the board as Corporate Vice Chair. Jac earned a Bachelor of Arts Degree from New Jersey City State University. Jac is still working and plans to retire in a few years. | |||
| Choosing Your Desert Oasis: Albuquerque, New Mexico vs. Tucson, Arizona for LGBTQ+ Retirees with Pamm Meyers and Jeff Schuchart | 26 Feb 2025 | 01:32:30 | |
Mark Goldstein hosts a vibrant discussion on retirement options within the LGBTQ community, focusing on the contrasting cities of Albuquerque, New Mexico, and Tucson, Arizona. The episode features insights from prominent guests Pam Myers and Jeff Schucart, who share their personal relocation experiences to these cities. The conversation starts with comparing each city's climate, cost of living, and safety, providing a comprehensive analysis for those contemplating retirement in a welcoming environment. Both guests highlight the unique charm of their chosen cities, emphasizing the importance of community, cultural activities, and a supportive atmosphere for LGBTQ individuals. Pam discusses Albuquerque's artistic and cultural offerings, mentioning its recognition as a top food destination and the city's vibrant pride events. Meanwhile, Jeff outlines Tucson's diverse culinary scene and rich outdoor activities, suggesting that both cities offer a plethora of opportunities for engagement and socialization. Listeners are left with valuable advice on making informed decisions about their retirement locations and a sense of optimism about the welcoming nature of these cities for the LGBTQ community. Takeaways:
pamm meyers Pamm Meyers is a storyteller, dynamic leader, and advocate dedicated to fostering prosperity within the LGBTQIA community through business innovation and social advocacy. With a multifaceted background, Pamm has become a trailblazer in various fields, leaving an indelible mark on New Mexico’s LGBTQIA and business communities. As CEO of Go Social, Pamm Meyers is at the forefront of digital marketing and podcasting solutions for business owners and organizations. Her visionary approach has empowered countless ventures to harness social media's potential, unlocking new avenues for growth and engagement. Pamm is a driving force behind her clients’ success, leveraging the power of connectivity to elevate their brands through digital marketing and podcasting. Pamm is also the managing partner of Two Flower Productions, a podcasting company that produces “Lip Service: The Podcast of Our Coming Out Stories” https://lipservice.media, which boasts over 4,800 subscribers in 39 countries, and “3Q: New Mexico’s Business Podcast” https://3qnm.com, which has over 4,439 subscribers in New Mexico. Previously, Pamm served as the Executive Director of the New Mexico Out Business Alliance. She is currently a Board Advisor for the Way Out West Film Fest https://wayoutwestfilmfest.com/ and the Albuquerque Community Foundation Pride Circle https://abqcf.org/pride-circle/, supporting the LGBTQIA community through philanthropy. Jeff Schuchart From Personal Interest to Profession – Jeff relocated to Tucson, Arizona, with his husband during the summer of 2014. Yes, you read that right — they moved during the summer! Despite the timing, he never looked back. Jeff and his husband grew up in southeast Pennsylvania and set a timeline for their move, even though they didn’t know anyone in Tucson. Jeff had always been interested in real estate. After retiring in 2016, he obtained his real estate license and joined Long Realty, the largest brokerage in southern Arizona and part of the Berkshire Hathaway network. Background – Jeff spent 30 years with VF Corporation, working entirely in human resources. He holds an undergraduate degree in fine arts and an MBA from state and private universities in Pennsylvania. Jeff and his husband, Bob, have come to appreciate Tucson as a vibrant city filled with wonderful people, diversity, a university atmosphere, gastronomy, culture, hiking, cycling, golfing, mountains at every turn, and a large gay community. Jeff has volunteered for most of his adult life and has found numerous organizations to support within their local community. Jeff never tires of talking about Tucson and all it offers. If you have any questions about their experiences, please visit his website at https://jeffs.longrealty.com or email him at jeffs@longrealty.com. | |||
| Is Marriage Equality in Peril? Evan Wolfson Explains | 12 Feb 2025 | 00:37:22 | |
Today, we’re diving into a big question: Is marriage equality in peril? Spoiler alert: it’s a bit of a rollercoaster, but we’ve got Evan Wolfson on the mic, and he’s here to break it all down. Evan’s not just any guest; he’s a legend in the fight for marriage equality, and he’s got the inside scoop on what’s at stake for the LGBTQ community right now. We chat about the progress we’ve made, the challenges that lie ahead, and how important it is to stay engaged and hopeful. So, grab your favorite drink, kick back, and let’s get into this important convo that’s all about love, rights, and a brighter future! In the latest episode of Where Do Gays Retire?, we take a compelling look at the intersection of LGBTQ rights and the pressing question of marriage equality. Our host Mark Goldstein sits down with none other than Evan Wolfson, a pioneer in the marriage equality movement. As they navigate through the current political landscape, it becomes clear that while we’ve made significant strides, there are still shadows lurking. Wolfson reflects on his early days as an activist and the fierce battles fought to secure the rights we have today. He doesn’t shy away from discussing the challenges that lie ahead, especially in light of recent threats to these hard-won liberties. Listeners will find themselves armed with knowledge about the historical context of marriage rights, the significance of the Obergefell decision, and the urgent need for continued activism. This episode serves as a rallying cry for the community, encouraging everyone to stay engaged and hopeful as we continue to fight for equality and safety in our retirement years. Mark and Evan remind us that the power of love and commitment is resilient, and together, we can create a future where everyone can retire with dignity and joy. Takeaways:
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| Why Pittsburgh is the Perfect Place for LGBTQ Seniors to Settle Down - With Michael Madden | 29 Jan 2025 | 01:01:45 | |
Pittsburgh emerges as a vibrant and welcoming city for the LGBTQ community, particularly for retirees seeking a safe and affordable place to live. Mark Goldstein interviews Mike Madden, a long-time resident who shares insights about the city's unique blend of East Coast and Midwest charm and rich cultural offerings. The discussion highlights Pittsburgh's appealing amenities, including its low cost of living, diverse dining scene, and robust healthcare access, making it an attractive option for those looking to settle down. Mike also emphasizes the city's transformation from its industrial roots to a modern, tech-driven environment while noting the importance of community support and safety. With its engaging neighborhoods and strong LGBTQ presence, Pittsburgh offers a fulfilling lifestyle for retirees seeking culture and connection. This podcast episode invites listeners to discover why Pittsburgh is a desirable retirement city for the LGBTQ community. Mark Goldstein interviews Mike Madden, who discusses his transformative journey and the city's remarkable evolution. The conversation addresses Pittsburgh's growing reputation as a retirement destination, covering aspects such as climate, safety, healthcare, and cultural vibrancy. Madden's insights reveal a city that balances affordability with rich amenities, making it a practical and attractive option for LGBTQ retirees seeking a welcoming environment to call home. Throughout the episode, Madden recounts personal anecdotes and shares the various social and recreational opportunities available to residents. The discussion touches on the significance of community engagement and the sense of belonging that Pittsburgh offers to LGBTQ individuals. Listeners will learn about the city's rich history, diverse neighborhoods, and increasing inclusivity, all contributing to a supportive environment for retirees. The episode highlights not only the practical advantages of living in Pittsburgh, such as lower housing costs and free public transportation for seniors but also the emotional fulfillment of being part of a vibrant and connected community, ultimately presenting Pittsburgh as a city where LGBTQ individuals can thrive. Takeaways:
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| Tim McCormick's Guide to Living Your Best Life in Providence, Rhode Island | 15 Jan 2025 | 01:09:11 | |
Wondering about retirement in Providence, Rhode Island? This podcast explores the vibrant LGBTQ community in the city, featuring insights from Tim McCormick, a seasoned resident who has returned after years of living in various cities across the U.S. Tim discusses the improvements in Providence over the years, including its welcoming atmosphere and diverse neighborhoods, while also shedding light on the challenges newcomers may face, such as housing and the need for accessible living options. The conversation dives into the cost of living, healthcare accessibility, and the rich cultural scene, highlighting the city's arts, dining, and outdoor activities. Focusing on the local community and practical advice for retirees, this episode offers a comprehensive look at what makes Providence a unique place for the LGBTQ population to thrive. Tim McCormick’s insights into Providence, Rhode Island, serve as a captivating exploration of a city rich in history and evolving social dynamics, particularly for the LGBTQ community. The podcast unpacks Tim's journey back to Providence, where he reflects on the significant changes the city has undergone over the years. With a historical lens, he recounts a time when homosexuality was not only stigmatized but also criminalized, transitioning to a contemporary environment where LGBTQ rights are celebrated and protected. This transformation is rooted deeply in the city's cultural fabric, making it a welcoming destination for retirees seeking a sense of belonging and community. The conversation navigates through essential aspects of retirement living in Providence, from the cost of living to healthcare facilities. Tim provides a detailed overview of the current real estate market, which has seen an uptick in prices but still offers diverse housing options for those looking to settle down. His focus on accessibility highlights the challenges seniors may face in navigating the city’s historic neighborhoods, underscoring the importance of selecting residences that accommodate their needs as they age. Moreover, the podcast delves into healthcare, emphasizing the presence of reputable hospitals and LGBTQ-focused clinics, ensuring that retirees have access to necessary medical care tailored to their unique circumstances. Beyond the practical considerations, the podcast shines a light on the vibrant social fabric of Providence. With many LGBTQ-friendly events, community groups, and recreational activities, the city fosters a sense of camaraderie and engagement among its residents. Tim encourages listeners to immerse themselves in the local culture, highlighting events such as Pride parades and artistic exhibitions celebrating diversity. Through his narrative, the podcast paints a vivid picture of a city that embraces its historical roots and thrives on its progressive values, making it an ideal locale for LGBTQ retirees looking to build a fulfilling life in a supportive and dynamic environment. Takeaways:
Links referenced in this episode: Retiring in Providence, Rhode Island, offers a unique blend of community, culture, and accessibility, as articulated by Tim McCormick in this enlightening podcast episode. McCormick's narrative captures the essence of a city that has evolved significantly over the years, particularly for the LGBTQ+ community. He shares his personal journey, having left Rhode Island in search of greater acceptance and eventually returning to a city transformed into a vibrant hub for gay individuals and allies. Throughout the episode, listeners gain insight into the historical context of LGBTQ+ rights in Rhode Island, illustrating how past struggles have paved the way for a more inclusive present. McCormick discusses the practical aspects of life in Providence, detailing the cost of living, housing options, and healthcare facilities. He emphasizes that despite recent increases in home prices, the city still offers affordable living compared to many other urban areas. The conversation also highlights the city's diverse neighborhoods, each with its own character and charm, and the importance of choosing a location that fits one's lifestyle needs, especially for retirees who may require accessible living arrangements. McCormick's insights into the local arts scene, including queer-friendly events and cultural activities, reveal a city full of life and opportunities for social engagement. Moreover, the episode explores the accessibility of Providence, with its rich array of parks and outdoor activities that encourage an active lifestyle among retirees. McCormick's recommendations to potential movers include visiting the city to experience its ambiance and community firsthand, as he believes that personal connections are integral to finding a sense of belonging. This episode serves as a comprehensive guide for LGBTQ+ retirees contemplating their next chapter, showcasing Providence as a place where history, acceptance, and community come together to create an inviting retirement destination. | |||
| Discover Why Vancouver, WA is a Top Retirement Spot for LGBTQ+ Community - With Gary Beagle | 01 Jan 2025 | 01:04:46 | |
Discover the unique advantages of retiring in Vancouver, Washington, as Gary Beagle shares his insights on the area's vibrant LGBTQ community, affordable living, and stunning natural surroundings. With no state income tax and reasonable housing costs, Vancouver presents an attractive option for those looking to settle down in a welcoming environment. Gary discusses the moderate climate, excellent healthcare facilities, and the array of outdoor activities available, making it an ideal place for retirees. He also highlights the city's cultural scene, including local events and diverse dining options that cater to various tastes. Join us as we explore what makes Vancouver a hidden gem for those in the LGBTQ community seeking a safe and fulfilling retirement. Vancouver, Washington, emerges as a beacon for retirees in the LGBTQ+ community in a lively dialogue between Mark Goldstein and Gary Beagle. Gary, a well-established figure in the local community, shares his personal story and professional insights that weave together the allure of this Pacific Northwest city. The conversation touches on Vancouver's inviting atmosphere, which is complemented by its absence of a state income tax, making it financially appealing for those looking to stretch their retirement dollars. Gary emphasizes the city’s favorable climate, which allows for year-round outdoor activities, from hiking in nearby mountains to enjoying the stunning Oregon coast just a short drive away. The discussion also paints a vivid picture of what life is like in Vancouver, with a focus on its natural beauty, vibrant parks, and the moderate temperatures that characterize the region. The episode further explores the cultural and social dimensions of life in Vancouver, highlighting the active LGBTQ+ scene that thrives alongside a welcoming community. Gary discusses the various events and local establishments that cater to diverse interests, along with the safety and acceptance experienced by residents. This is particularly significant for LGBTQ+ retirees who seek a community where they can live openly and comfortably. Mark and Gary also touch on the healthcare landscape, noting the availability of LGBTQ-friendly medical services and the accessibility of healthcare providers, which is crucial for retirees. With a blend of personal anecdotes, practical information, and engaging narratives, this episode serves as a valuable resource for anyone considering a move to Vancouver, Washington, showcasing why it is an ideal retirement destination. Takeaways:
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| Discover Lewes, Delaware: A Small Town with Big LGBTQ+ Charm - City Snapshot Series with Mark Goldstein | 25 Dec 2024 | 00:19:08 | |
Exploring Lewes, Delaware - A Charming Retirement Destination for the LGBTQ+ Community In this episode of the 'Where Do Gays Retire' podcast, host Mark Goldstein highlights the quaint town of Lewes, Delaware, as a compelling retirement destination for the LGBTQ+ community. The discussion covers key aspects such as the town's climate, cost of living, crime rates, and access to healthcare. Mark elaborates on the town's proximity to the LGBTQ+ friendly Rehoboth Beach, the tax perks specific to Delaware, and the vibrant food and arts scene Lewes offers. He also underscores the community support through organizations like Delaware Pride and Camp Rehoboth. Considering safety, affordability, and accessible healthcare, Mark makes a strong case for why Lewes could be the perfect place to enjoy one's golden years. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:48 Spotlight on Lewes, Delaware 01:39 Community and Support for LGBTQ+ 02:32 Weather and Outdoor Activities 03:24 Walkability and Transportation 04:30 Cost of Living in Lewes 07:52 Tax Benefits in Delaware 09:15 Safety and Crime Rates 10:50 Healthcare Facilities 12:55 Culinary Delights 15:00 Arts, Culture, and Outdoor Attractions 17:11 Conclusion and Farewell | |||
| Discovering Lewes, Delaware: A Hidden Gem for LGBTQ Retirees With Terry Mansberger | 18 Dec 2024 | 00:47:56 | |
Summary/Intro The podcast episode explores the appeal of Lewes, Delaware, as a prime retirement destination for the LGBTQ community, highlighting its welcoming environment, affordable cost of living, and proximity to beautiful beaches. Host Mark Goldstein interviews Terry Manzberger, who shares insights into life in Lewes, emphasizing its friendly atmosphere and rich cultural heritage. Terry discusses the town's climate, healthcare facilities, and the impact of climate change, noting that while flooding and rising sea levels are concerns, local initiatives are addressing these issues. The episode also delves into the vibrant social scene in Lewes and nearby Rehoboth Beach, where numerous events and organizations cater to the LGBTQ community. Additionally, the podcast touches on the benefits of Delaware's tax structure, which makes it an attractive location for retirees. Show Notes Mark Goldstein engages in an insightful conversation with Terry Manzberger, who shares why he and his partner chose to retire in Lewes, Delaware. The episode offers a comprehensive look at Lewes as an ideal spot for LGBTQ retirees, emphasizing its welcoming environment, affordability, and quality of life. Terry describes the town's appeal, from its scenic beauty and historical charm to its vibrant community life. Terry discusses the practical aspects of living in Lewes, detailing the local climate and its effects on daily life. He addresses climate change concerns, particularly coastal flooding, and the initiatives to combat these issues. The discussion of the cost of living is thorough, with Terry comparing it to other areas and highlighting the lack of sales tax and reasonable property taxes as key advantages. He also discusses the housing market, explaining the options available for buying and renting in the area. The episode delves into community life in Lewes, focusing on the strong LGBTQ presence and the numerous social and cultural opportunities available. Terry talks about his involvement in local historical activities, clubs, and organizations that make Lewes a lively and inclusive place. The conversation wraps up with a look at healthcare services in the area, noting the improvements and availability of specialists. Overall, the episode paints a vivid picture of Lewes as an attractive retirement location for the LGBTQ community, combining affordability, community spirit, and quality of life. Takeaways:
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| Retire in Style: Discover the Charm of Olvera and Elvas for LGBTQ Seniors - City Snapshot Series | 11 Dec 2024 | 00:15:20 | |
Discover the hidden gems of retirement in Europe as we explore Olvera, Spain, and Elvas, Portugal, two charming towns that offer safety, affordability, and a vibrant LGBTQ community. With their stunning landscapes, rich history, and welcoming atmospheres, both locations provide an appealing alternative for those looking to retire abroad. Join Mark Goldstein as he delves into the local climate, cost of living, and LGBTQ resources, ensuring you have all the information needed to make an informed decision. From the sun-soaked streets of Olvera to the historic allure of Elvas, you'll learn why these destinations are perfect for retirees seeking a picturesque lifestyle. Tune in for insights on visas, walkability, and the local culinary scene that will make these towns feel like home. Takeaways:
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