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If you’ve ever wondered why opening your relationship feels exciting and like your nervous system is staging a coup… this episode is your new best friend. 

In this conversation, I sit down with somatic coach, pleasure witch, and bestselling author Irene Morning, whose book The Polyamory Paradox finally names the body-based realities of non-monogamy that most people tiptoe around.

We talk about:  • how your body reacts to big relationship transitions • why “thinking it through” only gets you so far • jealousy, conflict, and co-triggering… and what to do when it all goes sideways • the difference between what someone says and what you hear • listening to your body when you’ve spent years overriding it • micro-practices for regulation, repair, and pleasure • permission to be poly, permission to be monogamous… permission to be YOU

Irene brings humor, nuance, lived experience, and the kind of grounded wisdom that makes everything feel less overwhelming and more possible. Whether you’re polyamorous, poly-curious, monogamous, or still deciding… this episode gives you real tools for real relationships, rooted in body awareness and compassion.

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What if the same medicine that helps you face your shadows could also melt sexual shame and reconnect you to pleasure?

This week I sit down with Amory Jane—sex educator, mom, and one of Oregon’s first licensed psilocybin facilitators—to talk about the very real places where psychedelics and sexuality meet. We get into the messy, beautiful stuff: what “set and setting” actually look like in the real world, how a facilitated journey unfolds start-to-finish, and why integration (not the trip) is where so much healing lands.

Amory shares how Measure 109 opened the door in Oregon, what a skilled facilitator does (and never does), and the ways psilocybin can support folks navigating anxiety, depression, PTSD, and PMDD. We also dig into releasing sexual shame, learning to trust your body again, and building relationships with more honesty and consent. Plus, yes—her delightfully nerdy side project: handcrafted, sex-positive furniture.

If you’re curious about legal psychedelic work, trauma-aware sex education, or you just want a compassionate, grounded conversation about healing and pleasure—this one’s for you.

Find Amory Jane:

• Website: https://www.amoryjane.com/

• Psilocybin services (Fractal Soul / Triumphant Unfolding): https://www.triumphantunfolding.com/

• Sex-positive furniture: Amory.Design

Ever wonder what it would look like if teens were taught how to have truly healthy relationships before they even left childhood? In this episode, Gwyn Isaacs sits down with Julia Sheldon—aka Auntie Julia of Ask Auntie Julia—to explore her groundbreaking Connection Camp for teens.

Julia shares how the camp creates a safe, inclusive, and fun environment where teenagers learn about consent, boundaries, emotional regulation, and more—all through experiential activities, games, and workshops. From sleeping arrangements to hands-on learning, she gives a behind-the-scenes look at how this camp empowers teens to navigate friendships, romantic relationships, and life with confidence.

They also dive into Julia’s work with adults, showing how the principles of healthy relating apply across every stage of life. Whether you’re a parent, teen, or adult looking to level up your relational skills, this conversation is packed with actionable insights and inspiration.

What happens when a room full of vulva owners gather to explore their bodies, share their stories, and reconnect with their pleasure?

In this episode of What Excites Us, certified sex coach and educator Gwyn Isaacs sits down with Jennifer Rahner, a certified Bodysex® facilitator and sex educator, to talk about the magic of the Bodysex experience founded by the legendary Betty Dodson.

Jennifer shares her journey from working in IT to helping people rediscover self-acceptance and pleasure through Bodysex — an intimate group experience centered on anatomy, body awareness, and orgasmic empowerment. Together, Gwyn and Jenn dive into the healing power of sisterhood, the importance of inclusive sexual education, and the bravery it takes to show up, get naked (literally and emotionally), and learn to love your body just as it is.

If you’ve ever struggled with body image, shame, or simply want to feel more connected to your pleasure, this conversation is a beautiful reminder that pleasure is your birthright.

Find Jennifer online: 🌐 JenniferRahner.com 🌐 Bodysex.com 📱 Instagram: @geekysexlove

What Keeps Desire Alive After 13 Years?

How does sexual connection evolve over time—and can it actually get better the longer you’re together?

Join certified sex coach and educator Gwyn Isaacs on What Excites Us for a fun and revealing conversation with her friend Blue, a heterosexual Gen X man in a long-term monogamous relationship. They dive into the real stuff: sexual practices, communication, exhibitionism, porn (the kind featuring real people), and the ongoing desire to be desired.

Blue opens up about how his sexual journey and evolving self-awareness have deepened his emotional and physical intimacy with his partner of 13 years. From navigating body changes to finding new ways to connect, this episode explores what it really means to stay curious, communicative, and turned on inside a long-term relationship.

If you’ve ever wondered how couples keep the spark alive—or just want a candid peek into the mind of a thoughtful, self-aware man talking openly about sex—this one’s for you.

What if the fairy tales we grew up with weren’t just bedtime stories, but powerful forces shaping how we think about sex, gender, and relationships?

In this episode of What Excites Us, Gwyn sits down with folklorist and gender studies scholar Dr. Jeanna Jorgensen to explore the fascinating (and sometimes troubling) intersections between folklore and sex education. From moral panics and censorship to fairy tales and gender roles, Jeanna unpacks how culture and storytelling influence the way we learn—or don’t learn—about sex and sexuality.

Together, they discuss:

• How folklore transmits cultural beliefs about sex, gender, and morality

• The history of sex education, censorship, and the infamous Comstock laws

• The role of fairy tales in reinforcing (or challenging) gender roles and heteronormativity

• Why understanding folklore can help us dismantle harmful sexual narratives and build more inclusive, accurate sex education

About Jeanna Jorgensen: Jeanna is a folklorist and gender studies scholar with a Ph.D. in Folklore and Gender Studies from Indiana University. She has taught at universities across the U.S., published extensively on gender, sexuality, and folklore, and is currently researching ethical non-monogamies and the history of sex education.

📚 Pick up Jeanna’s book Sex Education 101: https://amzn.to/3ZMbtce 🌐 Learn more at: JeannaJorgensen.com | www.folklore101.com 🐦 Follow Jeanna on social media: @FoxyFolklorist

Ever wondered what your sexual fantasies are actually trying to say—and how they could ignite personal growth and epic intimacy?

In this electrifying episode, Gwyn sits down with sexual fantasy coach and writer Artemisia de Vine to explore the deeply layered world of erotic narratives through her unique DeVinery method. Discover:

• How fantasy unlocks your psyche and opens new pathways for growth and pleasure.

• Why sexual fantasies are clues—not just daydreams, revealing hidden guards like self-identity, worth, or social expectations.

• How to approach fantasies as embodied stories that dissolve ego-fronts and lead to peak experiences of oneness.

• The DeVinery method’s somatic storytelling—and how it turns your fantasies into living, transformative play.

• Strategies for people who feel they don’t have fantasies—and how to begin tuning into your desire.

• A free 45-minute lesson (non-explicit and train-friendly!) to help you feel how fantasy can shift your consciousness—grab it at: ArtemisiaDeVine.com.

Whether you're curious about the hidden power of your erotic mind or ready to harness fantasy for deeper connection, this episode will blow your mind—and maybe even whisper the next chapter of your story.

Step aboard a one-of-a-kind journey into leather, playful transformation, and radical connection with Lady Vivus, the spiritually driven, trans femme Bootblack, Hucow, and Kinky Cruise Director. In this high-vibe episode, she pulls back the curtain on workshops, community rituals, and taboo play that expand pleasure and liberate self-expression.

Expect to explore:

• Hucow & Pet Play—from bovine headspace to Moo-mode mastery

• Sissyfication & Gender-Affirming Intimacy—ritual as healing and expression

• Boot-Blacking & Leather Spirituality—cleaning, honoring, and energetic protection

• Community & Accessibility—how to hold safe, affirming spaces that include everyone

• Professional Domination with Heart—providing touch, affirmation, and deprogramming shame

This episode is wild, tender, and deeply human. Whether kinkcurious or community-driven, you’ll walk away not just enlightened—but empowered.

Explore more with Lady Vivus: WhatExcitesUs.com

What happens when you mix mindset magic, erotic self-expression, and unapologetic pleasure? You get freedom—in your body, your life, and even your bank account.

In this episode, I chat with Marisa Hunter, a life, sex, and business coach for high-achieving humxns, who teaches her clients to tap into the energy of pleasure as a source of power and expansion. Together we dive into:

• How to unlock your true erotic, authentic self-expression

• Why ass play can open surprising doors to presence and joy

• The seasons of sexuality—and why they all deserve celebration

• How bragging becomes a radical act of rebellion (and a magnet for rewards)

It’s a bold, playful, and deeply affirming conversation—come listen in, then try bragging about it to a friend!

👉 Keep the conversation going: Follow Marisa on Instagram or Facebook Find more at WhatExcitesUs.com

Ever wondered what it feels like to be hypnotized in a kinky context—mind buzzing, agency intact, and every sense amplified—or even manipulated to the point where broccoli becomes… arousing? Dive into this wildly honest, cheeky, and brave conversation.

Description: Join host Gwyn Isaacs and the incomparable PandaPet (it/they), co-founder of PandaStory.love and CONsolation, as they unpack the experience of hypnokink from the bottom’s perspective. Panda, a polyamorous pet and staunch advocate for the neurodivergent, queerdos, darklings, pets, and age players in the kink community, shares what it’s like to be entranced, fractionated, and floating between headspaces with crystal clarity—even while your brain is somewhere else entirely 

In this freewheeling, deep dive conversation, they explore:

• What hypnosis physically and mentally feels like, including subspace-like bliss and fractionation, and why it quiets the overactive mind.

• The ethical boundaries and the power of "hypnotic agency"—how to consent, negotiate, and retain control even when your brain feels off in another world 

• Wildly vivid scenarios, from hypnotic orgasms and phantom impact to broccoli cumshots and tentacle play—where the only limit is imagination.

• How they gamified safety by practicing pulling out of trance on command—and what it means to own your power as a submissive.

• The journey of building trust and skill: from rapid inductions to deepening neural pathways—and how practice makes hypnokink a shared, creative language.

This episode is unfiltered, enriching dialogue—for anyone curious about the emotional and sensory depths of hypnokink, the intersection of ethics and eroticism, or just craving a bizarre, mind-bending ride through someone else’s brain. Please visit: Panda & Hypnpstory’s website: pandastory.love Directly to the Hypnosis 101: pandastory.love/101 The Discord Server CONsolation: https://discord.gg/Cnsb8UYfaA Sleeping Girl - https://sleepingirl.carrd.co/ And of course - whatexcitesus.com 

What does it really mean to consent in a trance, and how can hypnosis safely amplify pleasure and connection?

Episode Summary: In this two-part series, I sit down with HypnoStory, a seasoned hypnotist with over 25 years of experience, who shares the fascinating world of erotic and recreational hypnosis. Together, we unpack myths about hypnosis, discuss the importance of personal agency in trance, and explore how to navigate kink play safely and ethically.

HypnoStory dives into:

• The misconception that “you can’t do anything in trance you wouldn’t normally do” and why agency matters.

• Practical ways to practice agency in hypnosis scenes and kink play.

• How to negotiate and explore different qualities of play, even when you’re unsure what you want.

• Recognizing red flags and vetting potential partners safely.

• How mood, communication, and mutual understanding enhance erotic and hypno kink experiences.

• Tips for beginners, including why education, community, and experience are essential.

• Fun, safe alternatives to substances in erotic play using hypnotic suggestion.

This episode is both a guide to safely exploring hypno kink and a deep dive into the nuances of connection, control, and consent.

Resources & Links:

• Learn more about HypnoStory and Panda: pandastory.love

• Join their 18+ Discord community: CONsolation

• HypnoStory on FetLife: hypno_story

• Lube recommendations mentioned in the episode: Uberlube and Good Clean Love

This episode plunges us straight into the exhilarating world of hypnokink with the unstoppable HypnoStory (they/them) — a hypno educator with over 25 years of experience who’s as inquisitive as they are wickedly playful.

We unpack what hypnosis is (and what it absolutely isn’t), explore the nuances between erotic hypnosis, stage hypnosis, and therapeutic “change work,” and dig into how hypnokink can amplify intimacy and consent in fresh, unexpected ways. HypnoStory also shares hilarious (and often mind-melting) personal stories—like when they suggested a tentacle fantasy that just happened to match what someone secretly fantasized about—proof that play and connection are powerful.

We also journey through their communities: the Hypnokink 101 video course (accessible via sliding scale), and CONsolation, their ongoing Discord-based kink and hypno kink community that grew from a canceled conference into a thriving, inclusive space for education, connection, and spicy conversations.

If you’ve ever been curious about hypnosis, consensual power exchange, or just want a wild, thoughtful, and freakin’ fun conversation—start here. The Hypnokink 101 class is available on a sliding scale at - https://www.pandastory.love/101 The discord group is called - CONsolation - https://discord.gg/UrtkFT5d Other Mentions: Read Only Mind - https://readonlymind.com/ James Tripp - https://www.hypnosiswithouttrance.com/ Sarah Sloan - https://www.sarahsloane.net/ Devyn Stone & his property Guan Xuan - https://www.devynstone.com/ Hannah the Scribe - https://hannahthescribe.com/

What if the thoughts you were most ashamed of weren’t actually you—but symptoms of OCD?  And what if those thoughts were silently sabotaging your intimacy, relationships, and sense of self?

Most people think OCD is only about handwashing and perfectionism—but what happens when it shows up in your sex life, your relationships, or the thoughts you’re terrified to say out loud?

In this episode, I’m joined by licensed clinical social worker Sarah Hazleton to explore the lesser-known faces of OCD, including relationship OCD, sexual intrusive thoughts, and “Pure O.” We talk about how OCD hijacks intimacy, triggers shame, and convinces people they are their thoughts—when they’re not.

Sarah explains what OCD actually is, why intrusive thoughts are so common (and so misunderstood), and the gold-standard treatment that works: Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). We also discuss how to find the right therapist, red flags to watch for, and why traditional talk therapy can actually make OCD worse.

If you or someone you love has ever thought: ❌ “What if I secretly don’t love my partner?” ❌ “What if I’m attracted to the ‘wrong’ person?” ❌ “What if my thoughts mean something is deeply wrong with me?”

—this episode is the one you’ve been waiting for.

🧠 Article referenced: https://www.verywellmind.com/impact-of-ocd-on-sex-life-5086811 🌿 Connect with Sarah: https://www.hazeltoncounseling.com

Released in honor of Mental Health Awareness Month. Because intrusive thoughts don’t make you broken—they make you human. And help is possible.

What happens when you mix professional cuddling, surrogate partner therapy, and a playful rebellion against toxic masculinity?

📄 Episode Notes: In this episode, I’m joined by the amazing Michelle Renee — Surrogate Therapy Partner, Professional Cuddler, and all-around sex geek. We explore her trauma-informed approach to intimacy work, the inspiration behind the delightfully subversive Soft Cock Week, and how understanding responsive desire can change the way we think about sex.

Michelle also opens up about her own journey, and we wander into all kinds of delightful rabbit holes — from the Wheel of Consent to why safe, non-sexual touch is just as important as sexual pleasure.

Whether you’re curious about the world of surrogate partner therapy, want to rethink desire, or just enjoy unapologetic conversations about pleasure and connection, this episode has you covered.

📚 Resources & Mentions:

• Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent

• Brian Gibney

• Cuddlist

• Embrace Surrogate Partner Resource Group

• Movember

• Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski — Website

• Shameless Sex Podcast

• Reid Mihalko

🌐 Connect with Michelle:

• Website: meetmichellerenee.com

• Social: @meetmichellerenee

• Soft Cock Week: softcockweek.com

💌 Learn more about the show: whatexcitesus.com

"What happens when you blend radical honesty, deep kink wisdom, and laugh-out-loud real talk? You get Mollena."

In this episode of What Excites Us, I’m joined by the incomparable Mollena Lee Williams-Haas — writer, educator, International Ms. Leather 2010, host of All That and Mo’, and the fierce voice behind the Kink Doula project.

We dive into how Mollena is helping folks step into their truth through personalized kink and leather coaching, why inclusive education matters (and how it so often misses the mark), and what it really means to prepare your body — and your mind — for kinky play.

You’ll hear wisdom, side-eye-worthy truth bombs, and one of the best comebacks of all time, alongside warm and hilarious banter about travel quirks, overpacking, and more.

💥 Heads-up: There’s a bonus episode coming next week exclusively to Patreon, where I share the raw, unedited version of this conversation — even more laughter, tangents, and intimacy. You're going to want to hear it.

🎧 All That and Mo’ Podcast 📚 Playing Well with Others by Lee Harrington & Mollena Williams 📚 The Toybag Guide to Playing With Taboo 📸 The Adipositivity Project by Substantia Jones — Visit the site

How Do We Build a More Sex Positive World? A Candid Conversation with Jamie Cawelti

What if healthier, happier sex lives started with community, consent, and compassion?

In this inspiring and educational episode of What Excites Us, I sit down with Jamie Cawelti of Sex Positive World, a global volunteer-run nonprofit working to shift societal attitudes around sexuality through education, empowerment, and connection.

We explore: 🌍 How Sex Positive World supports communities across the U.S. and Europe 💬 Why open conversations about boundaries, consent, and touch are essential 💡 Tools for cultivating more confidence, freedom, and joy in your erotic life 🏳️‍🌈 How sex positivity intersects with gender, relationship styles, and justice ✨ Jamie’s personal journey into sex positivity—and how you can start your own

Whether you're curious about kink, polyamory, safer sex, or pleasure activism, this conversation offers tangible takeaways and trusted resources to support your growth.

Organizations & People

• 🌐 Sex Positive World

• 📱 Jamie Cawelti – @ExploringJamie on all socials

• 💬 MakeTimeForTheTalk.com

• 🎓 Marla Renee Stewart

• 🎤 Andrea Allan – @andreacomedy69

Books to Explore 📘 Love's Not Color Blind by Kevin A. Patterson 📘 The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy & Dossie Easton 📘 Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown 📘 Good Sex: Getting Off Without Checking Out by Jessica Graham

🎧 Listen and learn at WhatExcitesUs.com 💖 If you enjoy this episode, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review—it helps so much!

Master Arch is my guest for this episode. He is an OG findom and lifetime sex worker who identifies as an emotional sadist and slut. He’s constantly pushing the envelope in content creation and in how he shows up in his fetish work. This conversation is not for the faint at heart or timid sexual explorer. We dive into some extreme play talk and views on being a dom, living life to the fullest, and exploration of mining trauma for play. Arch describes himself as an arrogant master financial dom who knows what he wants and has clients who provide it for him. I ask that if you choose to listen you do so with an open mind. You don’t have to agree with everything he says, but to be able to understand you do need to truly hear. To learn more about Master Arch he can be found on Twitter at @AllForArch He is MasterArch on FetLife Or his website is www.AllForMasterArch.com We met online as a part of a Facebook group for sex professionals who have been to Sex Geek Summer Camp, a wonderful place to learn how to better promote your sexuality business, and network. Find out more at sexgeeksummercamp.com

Online Dating Can Be a Mess—But It Doesn’t Have to Be

This week on What Excites Us, I’m joined by the fabulous Tonya Holliday, host of the Swipe Left (or Right) podcast, where modern dating meets hilarious honesty. We talk about how her show was born from her own wild online dating experiences—and she brings the same juicy, real-talk energy to this episode.

We get into the gritty and the gorgeous parts of dating apps, including:

💥 How to create an online dating profile that actually works 💥 The truth about “first contact” and meeting in person 💥 Why coffee dates are the MVP of first dates 💥 Setting boundaries and staying safe without killing the vibe 💥 Dating fatigue, green flags, and surviving ghosting with grace (or rage)

Whether you’re swiping left, right, or just deleting the apps again, this episode is full of relatable laughs and seriously helpful tips.

🎧 Subscribe to Swipe Left (or Right) wherever you get your podcasts. 🖤 And if you enjoy What Excites Us, please rate, review, and subscribe—it really helps others find the show!

More episodes, resources, and coaching at WhatExcitesUs.com

What If Healing Could Be… Sexy?

This week on What Excites Us, I’m joined by the powerful and passionate Lucia Gabriela, a trauma-informed intimacy coach, Tantra facilitator, and the creator of Tantrikink®—a method that fuses the sacred energy of Tantra with the raw power of kink and BDSM.

Lucia shares her personal journey from healing cancer as a teen to becoming a transformational guide helping others reclaim their sensuality, erotic power, and body-based wisdom. We dive into:

💥 How resentment shows up in the body—and relationships 💥 The role of intention, sensation, and energetics in conscious kink 💥 The importance of full-body awareness in every scene or intimate experience 💥 Her Tantrikink® approach to healing through erotic exploration 💥 Why your nervous system needs slowness and reverence

While the July workshops mentioned in this episode have now passed, the conversation is packed with insights and practical gems you can start using right now to deepen connection, embodiment, and pleasure in your life.

Whether you're curious about conscious kink, tantra, or integrating trauma-informed tools into your intimate world, this is one you don’t want to miss.

🔗 Learn more about Lucia’s work at SacredLoveTemple.com and FloridaKinkBDSM.com 🎧 More episodes, resources, and coaching at WhatExcitesUs.com

Are We Hurting Men Without Even Realizing It?

In this solo episode of What Excites Us, I (Gwyn Isaacs—certified sex coach, eternal ranter, and your permission-giver-in-chief) crack the mic open to talk directly to men—and everyone who cares about them. Because, friends, we need to talk about body shame, penis anxiety, self-worth, and the hidden ways patriarchy messes with men too.

Inspired by real listener questions, this episode dives into topics like:

• Why “Big Dick Energy” might be doing more harm than good

• How to actually use affirmations that work (without cringing)

• What to do when your penis isn’t doing what you want it to

• Why shaming men for their bodies has to stop—like now

We also touch on vagus nerve support, aging and erections, and how learning to love on your own body can shift everything. Whether you’re a man or someone who loves one, this one’s for you.

🔗 Coaching, lube recs, and more at WhatExcitesUs.com

Did you know that understanding your body’s natural cycles can empower you—whether or not you ever plan to get pregnant?

In this episode, I’m joined by fertility educator and inclusive family planning expert Sam Leeson to explore why fertility awareness is essential for everyone, not just those trying to conceive. We talk about body literacy, how to teach kids to feel at home in their bodies, and the hormonal journeys that affect us all—including unique insights for trans and 2SLGBTQIA+ folks.

Sam, founder of babyREADY and babyREADYlgbtq, brings over 20 years of experience helping individuals and families take charge of their reproductive journeys—with compassion, clarity, and a deep respect for diversity.

✨ Curious about how fertility awareness could change your relationship with your body?

Tune in to find out.

🔗 Learn more at babyREADY.info 🎧 More episodes at whatexcitesus.com

What do fan dances, fierce femmes, and the Riot Grrrl movement have in common? In this episode, we step behind the velvet curtain of burlesque history with Dustin M. Wax, director of the Burlesque Hall of Fame in Las Vegas.

We explore how this one-of-a-kind museum came to be, why preserving burlesque’s rich and rebellious history matters, and the role gender has played in both classic and neo-burlesque. Dustin shares stories of legendary performers like Tempest Storm and Lili St. Cyr, insights into the art form’s transformation, and advice for anyone drawn to the stage—pasties, politics, and all.

✨ If you're a fan of performance, sex-positive history, or reclaiming your body through art, this one's for you.

📍When you're in Vegas, don’t miss a visit to the Burlesque Hall of Fame in the Downtown Arts District. More info: burlesquehall.com

• Lydia Thompson and her contribution to 19th century American Theater: https://editions.covecollective.org/chronologies/lydia-thompsons-contribution-19th-century-burlesque-theater-america
• Tempest Storm comes up a few times: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tempest_Storm https://www.burlesquehall.com/tempest-storm/
• Sally Rand: https://www.kqed.org/arts/13902628/the-burlesque-pioneer-who-fought-censorship-and-multiple-arrests
• Every Rocky Horror’s Fan Favorite, Lili St. Cyr: https://www.burlesquehall.com/museumathome-burlesque-legends-lili-st-cyr/
• A little bit about the Riot Grrl Movement: https://www.nme.com/blogs/nme-blogs/brief-history-riot-grrrl-space-reclaiming-90s-punk-movement-2542166
• The Something Weird Video Channel https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingWeirdDotCom/featured
• An Interview with a couple of Burlesque Legends, including Jennifer Fox: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vTxj2Vi94sM
• A little bit about Hedy Jo Star: https://zagria.blogspot.com/2012/01/hedy-jo-star-1920-1999-showgirl.html
• The post mentioned about Marinka: https://www.burlesquehall.com/transgender-day-of-visibility-honoring-marinka/
• Aida Overton Walker’s Wiki page https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aida_Overton_Walker
• Tony Midnite’s Wiki Page https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tony_Midnite
• About Jennie Lee: http://redhotsburlesque.com/2013/legend-jennie-lee/
• About Sherry Britton: https://burlexe.com/burlesque/burlesque-icons/sherry-britton-burlesque-history/

Can lingerie be a tool for self-love and empowerment—not just seduction?

In this episode, I sit down with Luna Pearl, a sex coach-in-training at Sex Coach U, meditation coach, and the founder of Pink Pearl Lingerie and Lingerie Talk Magazine. Luna believes in getting sexy for yourself first—and she’s here to share how lingerie can unlock confidence, sensual embodiment, and joy.

We explore: 💫 Why lingerie is Luna’s superpower—and how it can be yours too 🩷 How comfort is the key to feeling sexy 🛍️ Tips for buying lingerie (in-store and online) 👯‍♀️ And a powerful take on the myth that women don't support each other

Whether you’re lingerie-curious, building body confidence, or exploring sensual tools for empowerment, this episode offers inspiration, real talk, and actionable insight.

✨ Learn more about Luna at Pink Pearl Lingerie 🎧 For more episodes, visit whatexcitesus.com 📝 Please rate and review the show—it helps so much!

🔗 Curious about becoming a certified sex coach? Check out Sex Coach U 🎀 Into vintage beads? Explore heybeads.com

Keywords: lingerie empowerment, body confidence, sensuality, sex coaching, embodiment, comfort lingerie, how to buy lingerie, women’s empowerment, sensual tools, Pink Pearl Lingerie, Sex Coach U

Aging isn’t the end of desire—it can be the gateway to your erotic evolution. 💥

In this conversation, CJ of No Shame with CJ shares how she went from quiet and compliant to boldly pursuing pleasure, non-monogamy, and kink—and why midlife is the perfect time to rewrite the rules. We get into hormone shifts, self-advocacy with doctors, queering jealousy, and building a pleasure practice that supports brain health and longevity. If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it too late for me?” this one’s your permission slip.

Connect with CJ and grab her freebies: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/noshamewithcj Website: https://www.noshamewithcj.com/

In this vulnerable and empowering episode, I speak with trauma-informed coach and sex educator Valerie Schrader about transforming childhood trauma, specifically her experience being raised by a narcissistic mother, into a mission of empowerment and sacred sexuality.

We explore how somatic healing, nervous system regulation, and self-guided trauma recovery can help you reclaim your body, pleasure, and voice. Valerie shares insights from her healing program designed for those navigating generational trauma, as well as her wisdom around creating safer spaces for sexual empowerment and emotional resilience.

✨ Whether you're curious about somatic therapy, seeking ways to connect to your sensual self, or looking to better understand the impact of trauma on intimacy—this episode is for you.

🔗 Learn more at valerieschrader.com 🎧 Listen to Valerie’s podcast Sensual Power

Keywords: somatic healing, generational trauma, sexual empowerment, sacred sexuality, trauma-informed coaching, nervous system regulation, healing childhood wounds, reclaiming pleasure, body-based therapy, sensual self-connection

What does it mean to truly feel a “yes” in your body? In this nourishing conversation, I’m joined by Katherine Zitterbart—somatic practitioner, sound healer, and creator of A Felt Sense of YES: Yin Yoga for Sexual Health.

We explore the foundations of Yin Yoga, Taoist principles, the role of the dantian (energy centers in the body), and how these practices support sexual well-being, nervous system regulation, and connection to pleasure—especially for folks living with chronic pain and neurodivergence.

Katherine’s work centers LGBTQIA+ and neurodiverse individuals in a deeply inclusive, sex-positive framework—bringing embodiment and sound together for healing and reclamation.

✨ Whether you're new to somatics or looking to deepen your relationship with your body, this episode offers wisdom, warmth, and radical permission to feel good.

Learn more about Katherine Zitterbart: 🌐 kayteezee.com 📸 Instagram: @katherinezitterbart 📱 TikTok: @kayteezee 📺 YouTube: Katherine Zitterbart

In this raw and illuminating conversation, we sit down with Baggins—a genderqueer, polyamorous, asexual Bottom living with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and chronic illness. Baggins shares openly about life with a system and alters, the journey to self-identification, and how they navigate intimacy, CPTSD, and complex relationships.

We explore what it means to be ace, the reality of being polysaturated, the nuances of self-diagnosis discourse, and the layered experience of living at the intersections of queerness, disability, and trauma.

Whether you're curious about DID, polyamory, or asexuality—or just want to hear a deeply human story—this episode offers education, empathy, and truth-telling.

Terms we explore:

• Ace: Asexual; someone who rarely experiences sexual desire.

• T: Short for testosterone.

• Meta: A metamour; your partner’s partner.

• Polysaturated: Not currently open to additional romantic partners.

In this eye-opening episode, I’m joined by Sarah Hazleton, a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker specializing in OCD and anxiety-related disorders, to explore how OCD and anxiety uniquely impact intimacy, relationships, and sexuality.

Sarah breaks down how OCD manifests through intrusive thoughts, compulsions, and subtypes such as Relationship OCD and Pure O. We discuss the emotional toll of stigma and shame, particularly when sexual and intimate thoughts are involved, and the critical importance of specialized treatment like Exposure Response Prevention (ERP) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).

Whether you're personally affected or seeking to better understand a loved one, this conversation offers compassionate insight, practical guidance, and much-needed validation.

✨ In this episode: – The many faces of OCD: Relationship OCD, Pure O & more – How intrusive thoughts affect intimacy and identity – Therapy approaches that work: ERP & ACT – How to find qualified OCD and anxiety specialists – Reducing stigma around sexual, gender, and intimacy-related intrusive thoughts

📖 Read the article mentioned: Impact of OCD on Sex Life (Verywell Mind)

🔗 Learn more about Sarah at hazeltoncounseling.com

#OCD #Anxiety #MentalHealthAwareness #RelationshipOCD #PureO #ExposureResponsePrevention #SexualIntrusiveThoughts #MentalHealthPodcast #OCDTherapy #SarahHazleton #SexPositiveHealing

In this delightful and thought-provoking episode, I sit down with Alyssa Gonzalez, author of the brand new book Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity (Thornapple Press). We dive into the unique intersections of neurodivergent experience and consensual nonmonogamy, blending research, lived experience, and lots of laughter.

Alyssa shares how the book came to life, offers a few key insights from her work, and discusses some of the theory behind navigating multiple relationships while honoring neurodivergent needs. Whether you’re neurodivergent, nonmonogamous, or simply curious, this is a must-listen for anyone exploring authentic connection.

✨ In this episode: – The inspiration behind Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity – Tips and tools for navigating nonmonogamy as a neurodivergent person – How theory meets practice in real-life relationships – The importance of flexibility, communication, and self-awareness – Plenty of fun, laughter, and real talk!

📚 Grab a signed copy (while they last!) at alyssacgonzalez.com/store 🔗 Learn more at alyssacgonzalez.com, The Perfumed Void, and Thornapple Press

#Nonmonogamy #Neurodiversity #Polyamory #RelationshipAnarchy #AlyssaGonzalez #ConsensualNonmonogamy #NeurodivergentRelationships #SexPositivePodcast #EthicalNonmonogamy #ThornapplePress

In this bold and insightful episode, I talk with D20 Domme—femdom, behavioral expert, and head of a polyandrous household. With a Ph.D. in Human Behavior, she brings both academic depth and lived experience to our conversation about power dynamics, kink, and intentional relationship design.

We explore the layers of her lifestyle, the psychology behind dominance and submission, and the nuanced difference between a submissive and a slave. We also dive into her groundbreaking dissertation, discuss the eternal nature vs. nurture debate around kink, and uncover the importance of finding your “why.”

✨ In this episode: – Life as a femdom and polyandrous head of household – The real distinction between submissives and slaves – Kink psychology: born this way or shaped by experience? – How human behavior theory intersects with erotic empowerment – Coaching insights for self-discovery and authenticity

🔗 Learn more about her work at mundanemiss.com 🎧 And be sure to follow for more candid conversations about sex, power, and identity.

#Femdom #KinkCoach #HumanBehavior #D20Domme #BDSM #Polyandry #SexPositivePodcast #DommeLife #EroticPower #SubmissionAndSlavery

In this fiery and enlightening episode, I sit down with Kaytlin Bailey—comedian, sex worker rights advocate, and the powerful voice behind The Oldest Profession Podcast. We dive into the real impact of SESTA/FOSTA and expose how these laws—disguised as protections—actually endanger and silence sex workers.

Kaytlin shares how Old Pros, the nonprofit she leads, is working to change the narrative around sex work by telling better stories, advocating for decriminalization, and reclaiming history. If you've ever questioned the mainstream story about sex work, this episode will shift your lens.

✨ What you’ll hear: – Why SESTA/FOSTA is more dangerous than it seems – How the criminalization of sex work is deeply rooted in misogyny – What real sex worker advocacy looks like – Simple, tangible ways you can support sex worker rights

🔗 Learn more at oldprosonline.org 🎧 And don’t forget to follow The Oldest Profession Podcast wherever you listen!

#SexWorkIsWork #DecriminalizeSexWork #KaytlinBailey #TheOldestProfession #FeministPodcast #SocialJustice #SESTAFOSTA #SexWorkerRights #OldPros #SexPositive

In this empowering and sex-positive episode, Katie sits down with certified sex coach Gwyn Isaacs to tackle some of the biggest intimacy challenges couples face today. They dive deep into:

• Why orgasm pressure is killing pleasure for so many women

• How clitoral stimulation plays a major role (spoiler: 75-85% of women need it!)

• Introducing sex toys without bruising male egos

• Overcoming toxic masculinity and performance anxiety in the bedroom

• How mental blocks, anxiety, and "the brakes" affect sexual desire (hello, Emily Nagoski’s Come As You Are)

• Mindful sex, breathwork, and practical ways to explore new pleasure pathways

• How couples can experiment together and make intimacy fun again

This inclusive, no-shame conversation is for anyone looking to reignite their sex life, communicate better with their partner, and create more connected, satisfying intimacy—no matter your gender, relationship status, or sexual orientation.

Resources Mentioned:

• Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski

• Gwyn Isaacs’ podcast: What Excites Us

• Coaching & Resources: earthlydesire.com

What’s the best way to start masturbating if you’re new? Can you pee inside a partner during sex — and is it safe? In this special solo episode recorded right before and after major surgery, Gwyn shares a personal life update and answers listener questions about self-pleasure, vulva-owner masturbation tips, toys, and advanced kink play like watersports. You’ll also hear behind-the-scenes thoughts about the podcast’s future, plus practical advice on exploring your own pleasure without shame or pressure.

🎧 Topics include:

• Beginner’s guide to masturbation for vulva owners

• How to create a safe, enjoyable solo exploration ritual

• Sex toy recommendations for different desires

• Is it safe to pee inside your partner? (Water play & vaginal health considerations)

• A candid personal update on surgery, recovery, and what’s next for the show

Did you know perimenopause can start in your 30s — long before most people expect it? In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with Kim Benoy, host of Midlife with Courage, to break down what peri- and menopause actually are, how they affect the bodies of people with uteruses, and why it’s about so much more than just hot flashes.

We cover:

• The wide range of physical and emotional symptoms (many people don’t realize are related)

• How hormone shifts impact daily life

• Essential oils that can provide real, immediate relief for some symptoms

• Why early awareness is key to navigating this transition with confidence

🎧 Whether you’re approaching midlife, already there, or simply want to be better informed, this episode is packed with supportive information and actionable tips.

Learn more about Kim Benoy and listen to her podcast at midlifewithcourage.com, or find Midlife with Courage on your favorite podcast app.

What if “not feeling it” isn’t a problem to fix—but a valid orientation?

This week, AASECT- and Ante Up!–certified sexuality educator Aubri Lancaster joins me to unpack the rich, nuanced worlds of asexuality and aromanticism—far beyond the usual myth-busting. Aubri shares her path from hosting adult toy parties to discovering her own asexual and gray-romantic identities, and how language finally gave shape to experiences she’d had all along.

We explore the difference between sexual, romantic, sensual, aesthetic, emotional, and intellectual attraction; why micro-labels can be liberating, not limiting; and how self-identification helps people set needs, boundaries, and find community. We also touch on insights from the Asexual Community Survey, the fluidity of orientation over a lifetime, and the social pressure to make ace experiences “palatable.”

If you’ve ever wondered where you fit on the spectrum—or how to better love the people in your life who don’t center sex or romance—this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a bigger, kinder vocabulary for being human.

What do teens actually need to build healthy relationships — with themselves, their bodies, and others? In this eye-opening episode, I’m joined by Julia Sheldon, also known as Ask Auntie Julia, a Teen Relationship Coach who helps young people feel seen, heard, and supported as they navigate the complex world of relationships and sexuality.

Together, we explore:

• How parents can start (and survive) the tough conversations

• The real impact of porn on today’s teens

• What teenagers wish adults understood

• Why Julia is hopeful for the next generation

• And so much more

🎧 Whether you're a parent, educator, or simply curious about how to support teens in today’s world, this conversation is packed with insight and actionable advice.

See Velma the Vulva and some adorable pics of Julia at: earthlydesire.com/ep23

Connect with Julia: 🌐 askauntiejulia.com 📘 Facebook 📸 Instagram 🎵 TikTok

Want to unlock deeper pleasure and playful exploration in your solo or partnered sex life? In this episode, Linda River Valente reveals how Tarot and Oracle Cards can be powerful tools to guide your sexual play, inspire creativity, and deepen connection — anytime, anywhere.

Episode Description: Linda River Valente returns to What Excites Us to explore the fascinating intersection of Tarot, Oracle Cards, and sexuality. We start by diving into the influence of Venus in Gemini (June 22 - July 17 2022) — a cosmic time ripe for curiosity, communication, and playful connection — but the insights in this episode remain valuable well beyond the transit dates.

Linda, an astrologer, tarot visionary, holistic sexuality educator, witch, and burlesque performer, shares how you can use Tarot and Oracle Cards as intuitive guides for solo self-pleasure and partnered play. Whether you’re new to card reading or a seasoned mystic, this conversation will inspire you to bring more magic, intention, and fun into your sexual experiences.

Learn about Linda’s favorite decks — including the Linestrider Tarot and Wild Unknown Archetypes Deck — and how these tools can open up new pathways of self-discovery and erotic creativity.

✨Connect with Linda River Valente: 🌐 lindarivervalente.net 📘 Facebook: bit.ly/3nfFtbK 💖 Patreon: patreon.com/LindaRiverValente 📧 Email: siolothompson.com/linestrider-tarot

What if pleasure could actually heal your body and mind? Somatic Sex Educator Melody Joyce breaks down how reconnecting with your body through science-backed techniques can transform your experience of intimacy and well-being. Ready to feel more embodied right now? This episode is for you.

Episode Description: In this powerful episode of What Excites Us, Somatic Sex Educator and Sexological Bodyworker Melody Joyce joins me to explore why pleasure is deeply healing — not just emotionally, but physically and neurologically. We break down what somatic sex education really is, how it's rooted in science (not woo), and how reconnecting with your body can transform your life.

Melody shares her personal healing journey and explains how the Vagus nerve, jaw-pelvis connection, and five embodiment tools can help you feel more grounded, present, and alive. You’ll walk away with simple, practical ways to start feeling more embodied today.

We also discuss:

• The Wheel of Consent by Betty Martin

• Sex for One by Betty Dodson

• The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

✨Connect with Melody Joyce: 🌐 bodysouljourney.com 📧 Association of Sexological Bodyworkers

In this solo episode, I share my personal framework to help you create more satisfying, connected, and enjoyable sexual experiences — and yes, it’s called REAL. We’ll explore how redefining what "sex" means to you can open up new possibilities, why evaluating your desires ahead of time can deepen your connection, how aligning with yourself and your partner(s) fosters trust, and the importance of leaving distractions and expectations behind. I also share a little about my new tattoo (because, of course!), offer you full permission to find your own version of great sex, and give shoutouts to some amazing people who’ve influenced this approach. Whether you're solo, partnered, or exploring, this is a beautiful starting point for building more mindful and satisfying intimacy.

In the episode, I talk about how cheesy I am and my new tattoo that emphasizes that. I offer permission to you, and I reference a few folks who have influenced this discussion. 

To see the tattoo, get the permission slip, or talk back to me please visit the show webpage whatexcitesus.com

Emily Nagoski and her book Come As You Are is available at:https://www.emilynagoski.com/home

Here is the list of reasons some folks have had sex https://psychcentral.com/blog/237-reasons-to-have-sex#4

I think this is the episode of the American Sex Podcast with Sunny Megatron that I reference, but really most episodes of this podcast are fantastic, and certainly the ones with Midori https://sunnymegatron.com/hotter-negotiation-midori-podcast/ https://sunnymegatron.com/category/podcast/

For more about Midori https://bit.ly/3z2YsO4

And the video of How to train to Monkey Mind https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4PkrhH-bkpk

What is PCOS really—and why aren’t we talking about it more? In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Grove Azzaro, RDN, LD — also known as The Hormone Dietitian — for a deep dive into PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome), one of the most common yet misunderstood conditions affecting vulva owners. We unpack what PCOS actually is, how it impacts fertility, hormones, and overall well-being, and why many people are still struggling to get proper diagnosis and care. Melissa shares insights into the different types of estrogen, how metabolic and hormonal imbalances play a role, and why so many health studies still overlook women and AFAB bodies entirely. Plus, we talk polyps, fibroids, treatment options, and her holistic approach to helping people navigate this complex condition. Whether you have PCOS, suspect you might, or just want to better understand hormones and sexual health, this is a must-listen.

🌿 Find Melissa at thehormonedietitian.com 🌿 Follow her on Instagram: @the.hormone.dietitian

What if better sex and deeper connection were just one practice away? In this episode, Alicia Davon of PleasureCourse.com shares the secrets behind extended orgasm — a powerful, accessible practice that can increase pleasure, intimacy, and emotional connection for couples and individuals. We explore how to reignite passion, navigate mismatched libidos, and build long-term sexual satisfaction. Whether you're looking to spice up your sex life, deepen your relationships, or simply expand your pleasure potential, this conversation is packed with actionable insights. Learn more at PleasureCourse.com or follow Alicia and Erwan on Instagram @davonmethod.

“I didn’t even realize this part of me was missing… until I found it.” In this raw and revealing episode, Gwyn sits down with Aetherius—a 35-year-old trans woman who shares her unfiltered journey into kink, gender affirmation, and polyamorous family life.

New to the scene but already deeply rooted, Aetherius opens up about the thrill and healing she’s found in a tight-knit kink group in northern Vermont. We talk about everything from discovering identity through play, to navigating life as a trans woman in tech, to parenting through authenticity and joy.

She lives with her wife. And their boyfriend. She games. She codes. She scenes. And in this episode, she tells it all.

Topics include: 🔹 How kink became a portal to self-discovery 🔹 Living openly as a trans woman in small-town Vermont 🔹 Queer polyamorous family dynamics 🔹 The courage to take up space—in and out of the dungeon

Whether you're in the kink world or just kink-curious, this is one of those episodes that lingers long after the final word.

What if seeking pleasure wasn’t frivolous… but actually vital to your health and happiness?

In this solo episode, I take you on a journey through the science and the spirit of pleasure—why we need it, how it impacts our body and brain, and how you can bring more of it into your everyday life. From cuddles to chocolate, from dancing to sex, pleasure activates powerful chemicals like oxytocin and dopamine that lower stress, improve resilience, increase connection, and help us feel more alive. And yes, I’ll get a little nerdy (but in a friendly way!) explaining what those hormones are actually doing in your body—and why it matters.

We’ll also talk about:

• The surprising benefits of smiling (even when you’re faking it!)

• Why pleasure is designed into our biology—and not an accident

• How touch, music, generosity, and art boost your mood

• The trance-like state you can enter during rhythmic sex

• What makes sex feel so good—physically, emotionally, neurologically

Whether you’re someone with a complicated relationship with pleasure, or just want to understand why your body responds the way it does, this episode will leave you informed, inspired, and maybe even turned on to the idea that enjoying yourself is actually good for you.

💌 Got questions, stories, or feedback? I’d love to hear from you! Visit whatexcitesus.com to leave a message anonymously, or email me at Gwyn@earthlydesire.com. And if you loved this episode, please leave a review—it really helps more than you know.

What happens when your relationship to touch is completely transformed by chronic pain?

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, I talk with professional sex coach Angel Rowe about his personal journey with CRPS (Complex Regional Pain Syndrome). He shares the emotional and physical challenges of living with chronic pain—and how it reshaped his understanding of pleasure, connection, and embodiment.

We explore how Angel reframed his experience through breathwork, sensate focus, and even learning to use his non-dominant hand. He opens up about the power of practice, the joy of training dogs, and how touch can be reclaimed in surprising ways.

One powerful takeaway: Even if you don’t believe “everything happens for a reason,” choosing how you respond—like Angel has—can be a profound form of healing.

Resources mentioned:

• Sensate Focus in Sex Therapy: The Illustrated Manual by Linda Weiner & Constance Avery-Clark

• The Breathwork app

• Find Angel at albertasexcoach.com or follow him on TikTok as @wolfyrain (adorable dogs included!)

What does it mean to grow into your queerness while navigating small-town life, identity shifts, and deep self-exploration?

In this raw and deeply honest episode, I talk with my dear friend Shahn about his sexual journey—from growing up as a queer kid in Vermont to where he finds himself now in terms of identity, desire, and expression. This conversation is candid, vulnerable, and not for delicate ears.

We also discuss resources like Outright Vermont, an incredible organization supporting LGBTQIA+ youth through programs, camps, and education for kids and parents alike.

Plus, Shahn stumbled across an insightful article while we were thinking about a title for this episode—“What is Stone?” by Xan West—and we thought it was too good not to share. Music notes: Opening Theme - The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628 Coaching Ad - Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962 Patreon Ad - Let me talk, Carol (instrumental) by Josh Woodward - Found on FMA The Free Music Archive End music - Shahn aka 1nterupt on Sound Cloud - https://soundcloud.com/1nterrupt

What if rope and aroma could quiet the noise of modern life and plug you back into real, felt connection—body, heart, and spirit?

Gwyn sits down with Francis Bollwage—rope artist, facilitator, and self-described “label-resistant” human—whose near-death experience rewired his path from addiction and numbness to a mission of deep human connection. Francis shares how discovering the BDSM community (and especially Shibari/Japanese rope bondage) helped him work through touch aversion, build trust, and create spacious, non-sexual intimacy. He breaks down the therapeutic and spiritual sides of rope, why he pairs it with aromatherapy/essential oils (hello, scent–memory pathways), and how guided imagery and “rope space” can feel like a shamanic journey. You’ll also hear how his Embrace Love workshops use simple, clothing-on ties, breath, and scent to help partners (or new friends) communicate, co-regulate, and remember what presence actually feels like.

You’ll hear about:

• From near-death to mission: choosing connection over disconnection

• Rope as meditation: safety, consent, and creating “rope space”

• Aroma & memory: why certain oils can shift state and anchor experiences

• Connection beyond sex: spirituality, sensuality, and community care

• Entry-level practices you can learn without prior kink experience

If you’re craving less doom-scrolling and more embodied “I’m right here with you,” this episode offers grounded ways back.

What happens when science, genetics, and the internet bring two strangers together—and they discover they're connected by blood?

In this extraordinary conversation, I speak with Marion and Zoe, two women whose lives became forever intertwined through an egg donation made years ago. Marion was a grad student when she chose to become an egg donor. Zoe is the result of one of those gifts—a vibrant young adult now building a relationship with the person who helped give her life.

Together, they share their deeply personal and powerful journey: what it was like to connect, how their bond has evolved, and what this experience has taught them about identity, family, and the unexpected magic of modern science.

Music notes: Opening Theme - The Vendetta by Stefan Kartenberg (c) copyright 2018 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/JeffSpeed68/58628

Coaching Ad - Harmony by PolyPlus (c) copyright 2021 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/polyplus/63962

Patreon Ad - Let me talk, Carol (instrumental) by Josh Woodward - Found on FMA The Free Music Archive

End Music - Mo’ Baby by ETRNLproducer from Pixabay

What happens when a professional Dominatrix turns a luxury B&B into a kinky playground?

In this episode, I chat with Kathleen Ashford, owner of InnThrall, a one-of-a-kind, kink-friendly bed & breakfast tucked away in Pennsylvania. Kathleen is a retired pro Domme who ran the original InnThrall in Seattle and has since reimagined it as a private, luxurious, and incredibly welcoming space for lifestyle players, the kink-curious, or anyone craving a discreet getaway with an indoor pool under the stars.

We talk about her journey from the dungeon to the hospitality world, building a business that blends sensuality with comfort, and what it's like to run a kinky B&B—especially during a pandemic.

Whether you're looking to explore your kinky side or just want a peaceful and private retreat, Kathleen has created something truly special.

🌐 Visit InnThrall.com to book your stay.

Can psychology and spirituality work together to deepen your relationships and uncover your true needs?

In this episode, I share a beautifully edited conversation with Erik House (he/they), a life and relationship coach, spiritual guide, and healer. We explore the world of transpersonal psychology—what it is, how Erik uses it in his coaching, and how it can support everything from individual healing to navigating complex polyamorous dynamics.

We also dive into the realities of spiritual bypassing, ethics in healing work, energy practices, and how Erik helps folks—whether solo or in polycules and moresomes—identify their unmet needs so they can build the lives and relationships they truly desire.

✨ You’ll hear about: • Transpersonal psychology and how it supports emotional growth • Spiritual bypassing—what it is and how to avoid it • Coaching polyamorous and non-monogamous folks with nuance • Tarot, energy work, and intuitive tools for healing • Erik’s blend of psychology, mysticism, and practical support

Erik holds an MA in Transpersonal Psychology from Sofia University and brings a wealth of training in energy work, including Usui Reiki, Integrated Energy Therapy, and Magical Awakening.

This conversation is deep, tender, and expansive—perfect for anyone curious about healing beyond the surface. Erik’s contact info: Polyamory and CNM Word Search erik@lovemultipliescoaching.com Lovemultipliescoaching.com The two Wikipedia articles I mentioned at the beginning of the episode: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychosynthesis https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transpersonal We also Mentioned: Sword of Truth Comic - https://swordscomic.com/comic/LXXV/ John Welwood - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Welwood Lara Bates who wrote The Men Who Hate Women Bell Hooks - An amazing feminist writer

What if your senses held the key to unlocking deeper pleasure and self-understanding?

In this rich and insightful episode, I talk with Angela Locashio—also known as Mama Pistachio—about her unique, intersectional coaching approach that empowers people to reach their goals in life, business, and especially in the bedroom. Angela introduces us to the concept of eight senses (yes, eight!), and shares how understanding sensory processing can help folks—particularly those who are neurodivergent—navigate the world and their sexuality with more ease and self-compassion.

We explore what BDSM is really about, why people are drawn to it, and how to approach it safely and intentionally—especially if you experience the world differently.

✨ In this episode: • How sensory processing shapes intimacy • What BDSM can teach us about consent, trust, and regulation • Tips for navigating sexual wellness as a neurodivergent person • The 8 senses and how they impact your erotic life • Reframing sexuality as part of your full, empowered self Ways to find Angela and other websites discussed: ~Mamapistachio.com ~Discord.mamapistachio.com ~The 8 Senses: https://www.mamapistachio.com/blog/the-8-senses ~Autism and sexuality: https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s11195-020-09624-5 ~Sexuality & Work: https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/impact-lgbt-supportive-workplaces/ ~Mobility wall link with a 10% off code: mobilitywall.com/mamapistachio Emily Nagoski’s book Come as you Are is a wonderful resource and a new version is coming out soon, you can learn more about her at https://www.emilynagoski.com/